#like it seems to be just as automatic as he or she is for cis men & women

[v4mpyyr-exe]

DONT LIKE, REBLOG

so people who do this may see it.

The growing problem of "they" for trans people

Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"

Why is this a problem?

Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"

Example situation

Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.

Do you see the problem now?

The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.

"Okay, what should I do?"

Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.

That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.

Edit:

I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!

Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way

Clarification on the term 'misgendering'

While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.

Other things you should avoid

* These DO NOT apply to every situation! These are just general rules UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON, then do what they ask

Calling all gender non-conforming people 'it' (again..not. universal.)

Deadnaming, obviously

Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person

Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity

Automatically introducing someone as trans

Assuming someone is out to other family or friends

Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group

Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments

[strawberryraviegutz]

Why are yall being so weird about Pavlova Cookie being a boy??? Oh boohoo the new character isn’t a girl meaning that yall are gonna push the narrative that this automatically means this update isn’t for the girls/lesbians/sapphics(which isn’t true)…It rlly is not that serious. You’ll live.

Yall are weird af for ganging up on a little boy for Turing out to be “a man” cuz men bad am I right?/sar(I think he’s a kid tho feel free to correct me. He seems like a kid skin to milkyway cookie. Or maybe he’s like silver bell cookie where he’s just an adult with a high voice.)

Plus he’s quite literally based off of Cupid/Eros of course he’s gonna be a male and yes I know female characters can be based off of him too but still.

How can yall claim to be progressive/pro lgbtqa+ while in the same breath start shitting ur pants along with being transphobic when there are effeminate male characters make it make sense???💀💀

“He/Him lesbian” men can’t be lesbians wtf are yall on???(I mean actual men btw I’m not talking about non men who just have he/him pronouns)

Yall are also hella fake being eternal sugar fans but hating and misgendering one of her minions that she clearly cares for a lot just for being a boy like lmao she would NOT FUCK WITH YOU AT ALL😂😂😂😂😂

(Edit: it has been brought to my attention that some ppl could interpret some of what I’m saying as possibly transphobic despite my clarification in the post so here’s an even more detailed one. When I was saying that men can’t be lesbians I was specifically talking about cis men and or ppl who identify as a man only. I was NOT talking about enbies, genderfluid ppl, bigender ppl, agender ppl, or non men in general. I hope that does clear things up a bit. I apologize for my poor choice of words and or coming off as insensitive)

Edit 2: Looks like I was wrong about eternal sugar caring for Pavlova Cookie due to his wish in the tree of wishes about wanting to be free and some other lines too. Either way yall are still hella weird and fake af for being eternal sugar fans and still hating and or being transphobic towards Pavlova cookie just because he’s a boy

[vicetrevni]

Angel from Clinical Trial isn’t a girl. They’re nonbinary. The creator of the game posted a comic taking place after the True End and it refers to Angel as “spouse”

Not to be rude or dismissive here.

But has the creator actually come out and said it's true one way or the other?

I haven't really seen Angel be referred to with gender neutral pronouns (I'll have to rewatch the game for this just to see), but I don't like seeing other people say such things are 'canon' without solid proof especially when the creator hasn't clearly verified it either way. So for now, please refrain from saying such things unless you can provide solid proof of your claims.

Obviously, context clues are important - for example, it's a smart idea for the creator to show Lee is Ex-Mormon by saying what SubReddits he'd frequent and one is the r/exmormons subreddit (I always thought he was Ex-Christian tbh so it's cool to know as a side little tidbit into his past without having to over-explain that in the story). And it's done in a way that gives more insight to him as a character without going into heavy detail or take away from the story, yes it is important but not so much to go into heavy detail.

But that is different from using gendered specific language.

Angel might just like being called 'spouse' without any other context, so to assume she is automatically non-binary for it is honestly very ignorant. And, in my own experiences, even if Angel is non-binary she seems fine with being referred to with female pronouns regardless (which is fine bc IRL I don't care about that much either so I can see it being the case here). So, again, unless the creator comes out and says 'yeah Angel is *insert gender pronouns here*' I'm holding off on believing this is 100% true.

I hope this makes sense, because I am honestly tired of people saying these things are 'canon' without any hard proof from the creator saying it either way (just fyi I don't have twitter and never will so I'm not always privy to what the creator has revealed about Angel or Lee over there). Headcanons are fine obviously, but if a character is not the typical 'cis straight' type you have to be very clear or it causes issues that lead to these sorts of unnecessary debates.

So next time, please just give a screenshot or link along with what you're saying. It'll really help me fact check whatever you're debating about (again I do not nor will ever have Twitter so if you are telling the truth just give me proof to find or I'm going to wait and see if the creator confirms/denies any of this).

[maryawrites]

Sfumato - Chapter 8

Oh, my God, I haven't posted in... a reasonable amount of time? A failure on my part. Oh, (Name).... My sweet punching bag.... Also, supplemental: I think I write all of the scenes with Logan way too intentionally for (Name)'s POV. I think that it makes too many small details stupid, or frames them the wrong way, making (Name) an unreliable narrator. So, for clarification: I utilize Logan's crazy ass senses to their full extent in this.

Worst!Logan Howlett/Wolverine x Cis! Female Reader, Post DPAW

CW: my horrible attempt at writing while uninspired, religious themes and religious trauma, ugly burning yearning, references to substance abuse, manipulation, this is NOT how grandmothers are supposed to treat their grandchildren, unhealthy familial relationships, unhealthy friendships, references to violence, HORSESHOE CRABS, the story is partially autobiographical, the (Name) in this is a little horrible but that's what character development is for

Divider by @/saradika

…So, now I have the stand. Which I am quickly beginning to regret, given that I am realizing I have no clue what to say.

  “Uh…” I’ve forgotten what questions I’m supposed to answer. Have any questions been proposed that I can answer? All of this attention is making me nervous. “What do you want to eat? I mean, what do you want to order?”

  “Ah-ah-ah, we aren’t moving on from everything that just happened. First of all, let me reiterate from earlier- what in the fuck knuckles happened to your face?” Wade quickly returns to the subject, raising his hand for a second, equally rude time to point directly at my face. And it’s slapped down for a second, equally careless time by Logan. 

  My face gets hot from shame. I take an offended step back, shoving my hands into the pockets of my apron with a huff. “That’s not how you ask about those sorts of things. Try again.”

  “Don’t bother. Apparently, she ‘can’t remember’.” Logan mutters as he brings a cup of coffee up to his mouth, glancing off to the side. 

  “Oh, that’s bullshit. So, who’d you fight? Ooh, was it pothead Jessica Rabbit? There are better ways to come out, you know. It’s legal now.”

  “I- Wait, what? Fighting isn’t legal. What are you talking about?”

  “Do the curtains match the carpeting?”

  “Let me-”

  “Wade, shut the fuck up and ask a real question. I can’t hear myself think.” Logan breaks into the conversation, setting his mug down heavily to look between the two of us in irritation. I wonder what it is about my presence that sets him off so much. Sure, I’ve never talked to him alone, but it just seems like my presence automatically taints everything. I guess it’s only the presence of other people that keeps him from tearing me limb from limb.

  Wade looks at him sharply, his expression withering.”...Ew. Don’t be ‘thinking’ in public. It is disgusting- Nay, deplorable that you’d ‘think’ while she’s right here. I suppose that the legends of the Freakverine are true.”

  I make the educated decision to take a few more small steps back, putting a tiny bit more room between myself and… whatever is going on. I really don’t know what’s happening. It’s like when you start watching a series by watching the second to last episode. I am so out of the know right now that I think I’d rather just relive whatever gave me this bruise than stand here and listen to this. 

  “I thought you had a plan- this is nothing like a plan.” Logan accuses, taking his turn to point sharply at Wade from over the top of the table. 

  “Ah, no. We’re doing romantic improv here. Flying by the seat of your pants. Remember- God’s Perfect Idiot here. Just shut up and-” 

  “You’re a… horseshoe crab?” I question abruptly, catching everyone around the table off guard. Including myself. 

  What did I just say? No, scratch that, what did I mean by what I just said?

  Wade only stares at me for a few stretching, eternal moments before speaking, his voice laced with confusion. Logan stays silent, matching his stare and expression. “...What did you just say?”

  “Like… you know.” I mutter self-consciously, glancing around the diner, picking at the inner stitching of my apron’s pockets. What was I thinking? I should’ve gotten away when I had the chance. 

  “Uhm…. Yeah, no, I really don’t think anyone ‘knows’. Seriously, I- I need to know what you meant, now. The inner-workings of your mind have astounded us.” 

  “‘Us’?” I query, my upper lip curling upwards at how simply uncomfortable things have become in the last three seconds. I said something weird and unexplainable, maybe, but I don’t get why I have to get my brain probed now. I haven’t really ever been investigated like this before in such a casual manner. 

  “Yes, us. Actually, Logan here just telepathically communicated to me that he would love to have you explain your thought process, because he deeply appreciates your thoughts and ideas. So… go.” Wade says, smiling widely while gesturing between the two of us enthusiastically. He settles down quickly, crossing his arms on the table and continuing to stare at me. This has to be harassment. This has to be some form of adult-bullying. 

  Logan is looking everywhere but me, frowning like I just personally spit into his coffee.

  I’m going to go back home with Lily after work and get shit-faced drunk. I think I actually commit the least amount of sins when I’m inebriated, so….

  “Just forget I said anything. Drop it.” I mutter bitterly, my cheeks still hot. It’s like I can’t catch a break for the last half week. This has to be some kind of divine punishment. This is seriously some kind of Godly trial. 

  “No, wait, don’t tell me.” Wade starts, before pausing to continue staring at my face, analyzing me with squinted eyes. After a few seconds, he smacks the tabletop, startling everyone around the table- except himself, of course, because I don’t think there’s anything that can surprise him. Except horseshoe crabs. “You’re high. Right? You gotta be high. Please don’t tell me that you’ve been on a bender.”

  In the very corner of my eye, I catch Logan sniffing the air in what’s probably judgement, though he does it so subtly, almost secretly, that it really just confirms my paranoia. Oh, I need something right now. What I need is to just make it until the end of my shift. “No, I don’t do drugs at work. I’m not… like that. I just kind of thought it, and said it, and I didn’t mean to. That’s it.” 

  “Your mind truly is a labyrinth.”

  “Are you implying that horseshoe crabs are perfect?” Logan interjects, once again surprising everyone around the table. Now, this is an accomplishment- catching the Wade Wilson off guard twice within five minutes. 

  But he says it with a surprising seriousness. It’s kind of unnerving, because I can’t tell if he’s actually mocking me, and if I’m walking into a word-trap. But I decide to nudge the bait.

  I clear my throat roughly before responding. “I guess so. That makes sense. I mean, horseshoe crabs have been around since the Triassic, and they’re unchanged and doing fine. So… they kind of are God’s Perfect Idiots.”

  The table is silent all around for a painfully stretched out second, giving me plenty of time to damn myself for speaking, and prepare myself for being mocked. 

  “I’m not giving up my title.” Wade says finally, almost seemingly satisfied, adding nothing.

  Logan grunts in response, giving me the time to abandon my post and return to the kitchen, my hands slipping from my apron. I wrap my arms around myself as I breach the door, exhaling heavily. I release my hold on myself to shake out my hands, and shake out the tremble in them with it. That was mortifying. Which it shouldn’t have been, but my sensitive heart and pride persists. My selectively sensitive pride.

  It had been so odd to have someone listen to my words and really dissect them. Sure, I’ve been criticized before to every extent, but being analyzed is odd. I’m used to being hushed or ridiculed when I speak meaninglessly. I was raised with the understanding that speaking to another person had to be a very intentional, purposeful communication. So, I’ll ask myself for the millionth time today, what just happened?

  Lily’s brow furrows as she watches me, taking one, last tentative bite out of her sandwich. When did she acquire that? This couldn’t have been more than a few minutes. 

  “So, no sex was had, right? All of the tension stayed in the air?” She asks dryly.

  I laugh breathlessly, turning to face her nervously. “My stomach is in knots. I don’t understand why they’ve been coming in here, I’m sorry.”

  She sniffs disdainfully, tossing out the rest of her sandwich, to my disappointment. It hadn’t even been all that eaten up. “Yeah, thanks. Y’know how I hate it when the daytime regulars are chatty. Especially so insistently, like them. I prefer the clients at an arm’s length, all around. ”

  I hadn’t really meant my apology, it’d just been a pleasantry. But she took it frankly, and apparently appreciated it, which only tightens the knots in my stomach. 

  “I’m sorry.” I repeat, quieter, more genuinely.

  Lily scoffs, brushing past me. She only sounds like she’s half-joking when she says “You better be, bud.” 

  I just hope that she’ll still let me follow her home after work.

-

  I wish I could say I was a good neighbor for the rest of the time. I really wish I could. But Lily’s words curled in my skull and whispered over my mind, coaxing me to withdraw. 

  I kept serving Wade and Logan, of course, it’s just that I didn’t particularly want to, even after everything. A big, silent part of me wanted to send Lily out instead, but now I’m kind of afraid of the concept. I’m a little afraid of her, even though my mind tells me that I have no reason to be. People can be harsh, and particular, and I don’t have any reason to be afraid of them for it. Being afraid of someone is disrespectful, right? Right?

  I keep myself at an arm’s length, responding with a hum or nothing at all when spoken to. I won’t let myself be provoked into interacting with them anymore. So far, all I’ve found is humiliation. I’m not a very big fan of being humiliated. 

  When they do finally leave, I get that same feeling I got when they left just three days before. Empty. Like something got taken with them, torn right out of my chest, and I just have to stand there and let them walk away. I don’t know why just letting them walk away is so hard, because I know it would be too scary to go after them

  But they walk away, going on. And I’m left in the same container. 

-

  It’s about two hours past the lunch rush when I finally think to check my phone, discovering that Lily hadn’t bothered to charge it at all during our stay. My battery is almost dead, but I take the time to check my calls and messages.

  I discover two missed calls from my grandmother, timed just an hour earlier.

  To say that my heart leaped into my throat would probably be an understatement. I nearly panic for a second time today. 

  I call her back with shaking hands, shouldering open the back door to step into the alley, ignoring how humid it is today. I see two forms on the other end of the alley, just to turn my back to them as I press my phone to my ear.

  Please ring yourself to death. Please ring yourself to death. Please ring yourself to death.

  I feel more cracks thread through my faith in God when my call is answered blankly, my grandmother’s voice unimpressed and waiting. “(Name). You haven’t called me in a few days. I was beginning to get worried.”

  My thoughts start to lean towards spite at her words, internally reacting with Well, I am the one in the situation who has a job, and it’s not like you’ve been trying to reach out until now, either, since you apparently have been missing me so badly. But I know better. I swallow those words.

  “I know. I’m sorry. Things have just been so busy, and complicated, and-” I stop myself sharply, wincing at my choice of words. ‘Complicated’ is such an incriminating word. Despite how complicated and complex my grandmother is, she always insists that nothing in life should be complicated. Indecisiveness will lead you right into the Devil’s waiting arms.

  “(Name), complicated? What on God’s earth could be so complicated that you’d avoid me? I’m here to help you; by all means, you should’ve been reaching out to me more than usual. You can not just avoid me after our last conversation. Do you know what thoughts it gave me? I was worried you’d lost yourself.” Her voice grates my eardrums, running through my mind torturously. And I feel horrible for suffering. It’s my grandmother, I should absolutely know better than to feel bad around her. That’s just wrong, not to mention dramatic.

  “You tell me right now, (Name), and don’t you dare lie- what did you do? What was so complicated, and what’s been going on with that man you mentioned since our last talk?” She demands, her voice possibly getting more angry as we talk, even though I’ve said practically nothing. 

  I let some time pass before speaking, just to make sure she’s done. My voice sounds so much rougher than I thought it would. “It’s just my job. Things having to do with work. A… coworker of mine is having trouble. And nothing’s happened with the man. He’s been….” My voice trails off as my mind finally decides to fill in the holes in my memory, providing what the cause of my current bruise took from me. I had cursed the gaps in my memory until now, I had felt nothing but shame over them. But what did I know? Now, I’d do anything to forget again. 

  “He’s been quite busy with other endeavours.” 

  “And these endeavours are…?” I have a feeling she already knows. I have a firm feeling that she already fucking knows, and it’s driving me insane. 

  What space Wade and Logan had made with their departure is filled with stones, leaving me in the exact same condition as my last workday. I feel like the majority of the stones are in my throat, choking me out. “He was with another woman recently. A close friend of his told me.” It was horribly melodramatic of me to run to Lily’s yesterday, but now I understand it. And I know that if I was put through that situation again, I would do the same thing.

  My grandmother makes me feel very bad when I’m around her.

  “It was an act of God, (Name). It was. See? The Lord is providing you with clarity- don’t chase after him, don’t do anything of the sort. Clearly, he’s not someone you’re meant to be around at all. That escapade proves it. Oh, come now, come home. We talked about this last time. You should be coming home, you’ll run yourself ragged struggling with these temptations. You don’t really enjoy your job, do you? You have such good prospects. I know some people you would love to meet, I promise-” 

  “I’m fine where I am.” My voice shocks me. Why have I been speaking without thinking so often? I can’t keep doing this. I can’t. I could excuse it every time before, but interrupting my grandmother? I might as well be a decade and a half younger, small and soaked to the bone, dying of hypothermia. Fear grips me, even though there's clearly nothing to be threatened about in the moment, other than her disapproval. 

  But fear grips me regardless.

  Her voice comes out slowly, methodically. Like she’s assessing me.  “...I was speaking, (Name). That’s actually quite rude.” 

  “I’m sorry. I’m sorry.”

  “Do you think your proximity with him will continue, (Name)?” Her voice is too light now. It’s too simple. It’s a trap. It’s always a trap, and I don’t know what to do, because the only way forward is walking into the trap. I always walk into the trap.

  I pull my arms a bit closer as I answer tenderly. “Yes. I don’t think I could escape it.”

  “I hope that when you go to kiss him, he tears your tongue out of your throat. Then maybe you’ll learn to measure your words, and-” Her voice is suddenly louder, darker. She must’ve pulled the phone closer to her mouth to better enunciate her words. But as quickly as her voice is there, it goes, too. I’m left in silence. It takes a moment before I look at my screen, finding it black and unresponsive. My phone is dead. 

  She must think I hung up.

  I’m dead, too, then. 

[inkyarcturus]

For my contribution for pride month I’d like to share my personal head canons for Harry Potter characters!!!

Harry Potter: I’m gonna be honest I project on this man far too unhealthily to NOT be biased (I’ve been going by the name Harry in IRLfor 3 and a half years now I think? Bc of this man /srs) but that man’s bi with a capital B 💕💜💙 personally I enjoy seeing trans man Harry as well but unfortunately I don’t see as many fanfics of him as such :,) shoutout to all the fanfic creators I see making Harry a trans woman tho!!! I’d also love to see a genderfluid/nonbinary Harry or two!!!

Hermione Granger: trans woman!!! 🏳️‍⚧️ *crowd cheers* as for sexuality wise? I’ve seen her depicted as straight, bisexual and lesbian- and honestly I think I can see her fitting all of these!!!

Ronald Weasley: I always struggle to pinpoint what I headcanon Ron to be. I have seen a couple of people headcannoning him as a trans man 🏳️‍⚧️- referencing Molly continuing to have children until she had a girl creates perfect levels of angst for this- but I wouldn’t say it’s a permanent aspect of him inside my head. Now that I think about him a little more- I think I might headcanon him as unlabeled more than anything sexuality wise. I think he’s into women but he wouldn’t be opposed or too surprised if he developed a crush on a guy.

Luna Lovegood: She’s a lesbian 🏳️‍🌈💕 (I will occasionally accept fanfics where she is pan and is with Neville but her being a lesbian is the main headcanon) also a little gender queer in whichever way you choose 🏳️‍⚧️ sometimes I see her as genderfluid, bigender and just generally nonbinary

Ginny Weasley: bi- so so bi 💕💜💙

Draco Malfoy: Gayest motherfucker in town I’m sorry- Mr. Tells his father literally everything about Harry 💚🤍💙

Remus Lupin: bi 💕💜💙 there’s no question about that in my mind, I think he has a small preference for men but that’s it!!!

Sirius Black: He switches between using the labels queer and gay but you know that man kisses other men!!! 💚🤍💙 I know a lot of people tend to headcanon him as genderfluid which I enjoy seeing but it’s never been a main stay headcanon for me :,)

Tonks: (She/they) Lesbian and Intersex 🏳️‍🌈💕💛🟣. I’m sorry but the age gap between Remus and her in the original books make me uncomfortable- as for being intersex, I think most ppl believe being a metamorphmagus means she is automatically genderfluid, while I like seeing genderfluid representation, I think ppl often fail to acknowledge the difference between sex and gender. As a metamorphmagus, she transforms her body, her gender doesn’t seem to change w it in the books. While I like the headcanons of them being genderfluid I wish more people explored that specific idea.

Severus Snape: queer? Queer. In every sense of the word. I think most people view him as bi 💕🟣💙 which I agree with (Lily and Mulciber, also absolutely headcanon him having a crush on both Lucius AND Narcissa) but also I think he’s a little bit gender funky- I mean just look at him- no one who stands like that isn’t just cis /ref. Sev absolutely painted his nails and did eyeliner, he absolutely wore a floor length black skirt and absolutely had days where mister hit wrong in all the right places and everyone in her group helped by doing tiny things like braiding her hair and putting bat clips in it for fun 🏳️‍⚧️

Anyways speed run round 🏃

💕🟣💙: Cedric Diggory, Cho Chang (has the fandom chosen a new name for her yet?) Bill Weasley

🧡💛🤍🩵💙: Charlie Weasley, Neville? (Didn’t think of this until just now but it’s growing on me?-)

🏳️‍🌈💚🤍💙: Dean thomas, Seamus Finnegan, Dumbledore (I may not like him that much but he is gay)

🏳️‍🌈💕: Minerva Mcgonagall, Poppy Pomfrey

If I missed anyone I’m sorry :,)

Anyways!!! Join if you’d like with your own headcanons!!!

@pottistic @marriso1 (If you guys don’t wanna join w ur own headcanons that’s okay! I thought this would just be fun :P)

[beauregard-less]

[…] ❀ you’re not from around here , are you? i figured because you totally just missed { BEAUREGARD “BEAU” SHINAWATRA } walking by. don’t tell me you don’t know who { HE } is ? they kind of look like { JEFF SATUR } and i could be wrong but i think that they might be { 26 (CUSP OF 27) } years old right now. they’ve been living in palmview for the last { 26 YEARS (SAVE FOR THE FEW YEARS HE WAS SENT TO BOARDING SCHOOL) }. and i don’t know if anyone has ever told them this before but they kind of remind me of { OWEN ARMSTRONG } from { SARAH DESSEN’S “JUST LISTEN” }. if you stick around the town long enough you might catch them in action working at { OCEAN VIEW PIZZERIA } as a { DELIVERY DRIVER/CLERK AS NEEDED }. you see this town isn’t really that big of a place, some folks like to call them the { FACADE } of palmview! they took a liking to the name too after a while, go figure. oh crap, they must have heard me yapping. they’re coming this way. i got to warn you though, rumor has it they can pretty { COLD } at times. i wouldn’t take it too seriously though, from the times i’ve spoken to them they seemed pretty { KIND– NOT NICE, BUT KIND } to me. we see each other all the time since they live in that { LOFT } apartment beside me over in { MANGO BAY APARTMENTS; LOFT 5A WITH SLATER BUNKOET }. i better leave you to it. it was nice meeting you!  { BLUE. 28. THEY/HE. PST. }

full name :  Beaumont Shinawatra nickname(s) / alias(es) :  Beau age / dob :  26 / february 19th hometown :  palmview, florida gender / pronouns :  cis man, he/him orientation :  bisexual , biromantic (unexplored, mostly closeted) faceclaim :  jeff satur

accent :  coastal surfer, some Californian drawl from his boarding school days hair : ash blonde, spills down his shoulders and often held up by a banana clip height :  5’10 tattoos : shark bite over his left hip, palm tree stamp behind his right ear, crescent moon and half a sun on the backs of his knees, cartoon heart on fire over his chest, snail tattoo on his inner wrist piercings : snake bites on lip, right eyebrow, industrial and lobe on left ear distinguishing characteristics : fight, surf and childhood scars, stitch scar on his lower back, always wears his puka shell necklace and his dad’s dog tags scent : citrus and mango from his conditioner and tattoo cream, though often gets masked by the scent of saltwater and heat so the fruitiness comes in hints pet(s) : winter and snowflake, the sea snails aesthetic : cigarette butts in cereal bowls, wet sand crunching beneath your feet, cold night sea wind on raw cheeks

Biography (cw: marines, parental neglect, parent passing)

What happens when you take a golden ray of Palmview’s sunshine and decided to turn out the light? You’d get something that avoids eye contact like the plague, smelling faintly of saltwater and beer. Beau was the sun in his youth, blossoming in the surf that he cherish while gritting his knees onto wet sand. His father, a retired Marine, believed in discipline the way other dads would believe in fishing or throwing a ball around. His mother, well, she believed in regret, and it wasn’t a secret in their shaky walls how loudly she worshipped that belief. Beau, though? Beau found his religion in carving waves and bombing hills on his skateboard to avoid his bedroom floor, getting scraped up in an attempt to feel alive somewhere that wasn’t home.

So, what happens when you add to this equation? Enter Slater, the new kid, a whole year older from a completely different state, which automatically made him the coolest person Beau’s ever met in his life. It was thunder to lighting, a friendship built on sneaking out to swim under the midnight glow and the kind of trust that comes from knowing you’ll always have someone jumping in after you. Of course, this solution was too simple for a problem as complex as Beau, and it would soon be time to learn just what happens when you don’t look behind you.

At fifteen, Beau’s father had had enough of his wild tumble of a son, rearing his deep belief’s ugly head by hammering smooth ever rough edge that built Beau up. Saint Helena’s School for Boys was out in the hills of California, tucked into a corner where the sun couldn’t reach its rays to warm your bones. The brochure didn’t need to be very charming, as Beau’s father would never wonder what amenities were offered so long as they promised not a color left on Beau’s palette by the time he was let out again. In fact, it was the happenstance of the brochure being left on the dining room table that clued Beau in on the fact that he was being sent away at all, and it was his belief in living his life without puppet strings that led him to think that happenstance was, in fact, a miracle. He was so close to cutting those strings– his hand was on the knob, backpack in hand, as the clock struck one in the morning. He would catch a bus somewhere in the state, get a job flipping burgers, make work his own choice so that he could live in the pleasure of freedom all he wanted… But something stopped him. Fear? Couldn’t be, he was fearless. He had to be fearless. Slater? No, he could just show up at his place whenever, couldn’t he? Send him a letter, call him on the phone? No, there had to be a reason why he didn’t turn that door handle, letting himself get caught in the second it took to breathe in. The light flickered on, and Beau was caught.

And hell, it was. The kind of hell that snuffs the light out of a person, leaving something dulled and listless in its place. The kind of hell that robs you of the will to fight back, of finding the reason why you’d want to fight back in the first place. The kind that didn’t let you write a letter home.

A person’s eighteenth birthday should be a day of all sorts of emotions. Fear, excitement, anxiety and anger. There should be something to anticipate on the other side, a place you want to go to, people you want to see. But for Beau’s eighteenth, the academy’s doors simply shut behind him with nothing but a bus ticket and a diploma to carry back wherever he needed to go. The ticket would take him back to Florida if he wanted it, or maybe he could’ve hocked it to find a place nearby, but… without an ounce of will left in your soul, you’ll always wander back to where you felt alive the most. But not to his mother, no, not her who decided to start life over after Beau’s father had passed. Beau was sure that empty shell of a house still held wine stains from her wedding night, the day before Beau’s seventeenth birthday, and was a holding cell for cobwebs and a childhood he would stuff to the back of his mind for safekeeping. No, Beau showed up at Slater’s door at 2 AM, silent when that door was creaked open. Slater didn’t ask questions. He just let him in.

Some part of Beau wishes they could’ve picked up where they left off. But the wild energy that once crackled between them had softened, or dulled, into something a little quieter, a little more… empty. Beau, once a sun-drenched storm of a boy, moves through life like he’s wading through the water he once commanded, as slow as syrup weighing down his bones. He’s coasting, riding the waves as they come.

And for now, that’s enough. Probably. Maybe.

Personality & Desires

Beau is something of a paradox these days– laid-back in a way that only someone who’s given up could be, but with the constant movement of unfettered anxiety, his hands always occupied, his mind always racing. He plays with his lip piercing when he thinks, and he’s thinking too much all the time. He plays with his hair when he’s nervous, and his head looks like a tumbleweed of curls and flyaways.  He chews on his knuckles when he distracted, and God, are his knuckles bruised and bitten. It’s not that he’s shy, per se, but just… tired of the conversations before they’ve even begun. Slater calls him a ghost with a pulse. He thinks that’s fair. More than anything, though, Beau still wants out. Maybe once, he wasn’t sure, and maybe it’s taken these ten years to put that together again, but Beau has had enough of this bitter sunshine. Palmview is a place that clings, that traps him in sun-bleached memories and routines that are endless, again and again and again. He wants snow. He wants cold wind biting at his cheeks and a dog named Grizzly at his feet. He wants a place where the past doesn’t haunt every street corner.

For now, though, he stays.

For now, though, he coasts.

[invinciblerodent]

I'm sure this has been said already, but while I quite enjoy that every* companion's story in Veilguard seems to end in a binary choice (in which neither outcome is necessarily better or worse than the other), it feels a bit... weird, how Taash is not an exception to that.

Throughout the game, the Rivaini/Qunari conflict in their identity seems to walk in lockstep with the narrative's exploration of their gender. And, though the crucial part of that can be resolved for them fairly early in the game (and honestly I like how that also happens off-screen, it feels good that Rook is not a part of that conversation beyond the "hey maybe you should talk to someone" advice)(unless it's different for a nonbinary Rook, I personally played a cis woman so I don't know if that affects things), it continues to be referenced in banter and dialogue throughout the game via the characters commenting and adjusting, and the resolution of the conflict with their mother ties into the final quest itself- so it feels a little bit out of place in the end there, to have the former still come down to choosing one over the other.

Sure, one can argue that this "binary" choice is less like, say, Neve's choice (which, to my understanding right now, sort of results in largely the same actions, just with a different approach) or Bellara's (if she chooses to keep the Nadas Dirthalen, it can still always be destroyed later, if it proves dangerous), and it's more similar to Davrin's (in that it feels to me more like it's about a choice between honoring tradition vs. welcoming change) or Emmrich's (in that it's choosing between two equally important, sort of mutually exclusive parts of a character's identity that still nevertheless exist within them, and come into conflict).

I get how maybe they didn't want them to stand out from the lineup even more (7 is kind of an odd number of companions to have, and they're the only qunari, AND only nonbinary person in addition to 3 women and 3 men), I feel like having a third option, one that's maybe more of a commitment to their faction and puts being a Lord of Fortune ahead of both the Qunari and the Rivaini identities (and thus blends the two), would have been ideal, and more in-line with the tone of the entire character arc.

You know, you don't have to choose between being a man or a woman, Rivaini or Qunari, you can just be... yourself. Something different, the precise meaning of which you choose for yourself.

It would have really driven the message home, I think. I feel a little bit like it dropped me off just one block early like this.

*(I don't yet know if Lucanis' is gonna end like that too, I'm procrastinating on that bit right now lol, but 6/7 do, so I hazard a guess that either it was the choice he made automatically because he's hardened, or it'll come down to one in the main quest.)

[shaftking]

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DH8b2A4uy3n/?igsh=ZG53OWsxOGtsOXkz

Imo this reel and the comments on it contain an annoying sense of privilege and smugness tbh. Being asked for pronouns can be awkward, so I don’t see the point in making fun of cis people for trying to answer when there’s even trans people who aren’t comfortable with that question either. Lots of these povs seem to be from nbs so it seems like they just want everyone to conform to their standards of socializing, which isn’t realistic or helpful imo.

Asking for pronouns is weird and ranges from unhelpful to dangerous to trans people. Nonbinary people (and where credit is due, many progressive trans and cis people as well) like to push it bc they know that your average person is not seeing someone and automatically thinking to refer to them as they/them or any assorted variety of neopronouns. They’re going to opt towards he/him or she/her and have accepted that occasionally they are wrong and will likely be corrected. For most people, the concept of misgendering just isn’t a big deal bc it happens to cis people all the time, even maliciously. At worst, it’s considered rude to continue after being corrected or to do so knowingly with intent to insult.

[teruthecreator]

norm for the askgame ^^

PAPA NEEDS HIS SILLY PIIIIIIIIILLS

Sexuality Headcanon:

bisexual but he’s too busy being like 39 and the sheriff of dialtown so absolutely no time to unpack dat goku

Gender Headcanon:

cis guy. tho any and all butch norms i accept with open and loving arms. sometimes a man can be so butch do you understand

A ship I have with said character:

(looks pointedly at my mingus ask) uhhhhhhhh ANYWAYS other than normingus i also rlly rlly like normgingi!!!!! probably my second favorite gingi ship (first being oliver and gingi) and definitely one i think about often. the like immediate blood bond they forge over the course of ch3 is insane like norm goes from wanting to kill gingi dead to DOING IT ALL FOR THEM WAHHHHHHHHH WAHHHHHHHHHHHH. also dare i say he’s a little yandere for gingi??? i don’t mean that seriously me and my friends just like to call him yandere. he has a yandere face and everything it’s great. anyways idk if i’d call normgingi wholly romantic but it’s certainly something. norm already had a wife but maybe he now has a second one??? in the form of a trash goblin??? idk i dont think they have a label for what they are and it confuses norm but he’s decided just to roll with it for now

A BROTP I have with said character:

norm with the rest of the dateables cast is so fucking important to me. literal besties squad. like the dialtown tool friends epilogue series made me just become OBSESSED with all of them interacting casually. and like every aspect of it is funny and good. i have a hc that norm builds a house just behind the funfair (like in a semi secluded spot) and that house is the hangout center for the entire polycule. karen is over there painting the scenery, olivers hosting movie nights, randy just Comes Over whenever shes too scared to stay at the ticket booth, fucking BIGFOOT drops by sometimes to hang. it’s just kind of beautiful the life norm leads post ch3 like going from being a hermit and wanting to stay secluded to having this rich tapestry of friends?????? genuinely brings a tear to my eye i LOVE NORM AND HIS FRIENDS WAHHHH

A NOTP I have with said character:

i dont really like norm/callum To Be Quite Honest. just isn’t my thang. also don’t care about norm/mr. dickens seems like we are filling a Yaoi Quota with that one but also you could probably convince me of it if u were compelling enough

A random headcanon:

(stares openly at tryt) so i have some opinions about norm’s family… HJGNFHFJFBFJ in seriousness tho i have this whole backstory devised about norm’s wife and the child they have right before he gets shipped off to space and the life that his widowed wife and child lead after he’s gone. his wife’s name is betsy and his child’s name is sylvia-grace but she goes by sylvie and they lead a relatively normal life in arizona until sylvie’s old enough to move out and then she goes to california. betsy dies long before norm makes the jump to the present, but sylvie is still kicking! she has a wife and two adult children of her own by then. i don’t think norm would ever get to really Meet them but that’s for very specific reasons that i map out in my fic The Road Yet Traveled, so if this idea intrigues you feel free to read that or just send me an ask! i could talk about this little family forever

General Opinion over said character:

norm has very quickly climbed the ranks in terms of the dateables. like i adore karen and oliver and randy, but norm is just….ohhhhhhhh he’s norm allen!!!!! he has such an interesting outlook on life and again i think he kinda brushes up with mingus in terms of like . characters i think deeply about. i mean i literally wrote a 30k fic that is Mainly about norm’s reconciliation with the past in forging his future. he’s just a guy i think about often!!!! also i do a voice for him and i will randomly pull it out in vcs just to make everyone laugh, which automatically means he’s one of my favs :-)

i turned his face into a penis one time. dont remember why i did that

[atdawnweryd]

idk if anyone's given you a response abt your question about Tao being straight so I thought I'd pop in with my perspective!!

I think what it comes down to is that by automatically assuming Tao isn't straight bc his girlfriend is trans implies a direct disconnect between trans womanhood and cis womanhood -- you mentioned that it feels like for him to be straight doesn't acknowledge how their relationship is different from straight relationships between 2 cis folks, which I understand comes from a place of compassion for how Elle's experience differs from that of a cis woman --- but for him to be anything else /because/ he's dating Elle directly implies that she's /not a woman yk?

like the sentence "yes she's a woman but she's not a cis woman" creates a distinct otherness and the sense that trans women arent REALLY women

which is why many of us find headcannoning Tao to be anything other than straight (against canon) comes with the direct implication that for him to date Elle he CAN'T be straight -- it gives the sense of 'well for him to be straight he can only be attracted to women' and in turn saying that Elle /isn't/ a woman, which is pretty plain transphobia, even when unintentional

Tao is a man attracted to women as far as is established in Canon (Which ik ofc that you're not denying!!) - which should automatically includes his girlfriend, a woman

i think it would be different if Tao had outright said he was queer in someway that is self referencial, but because that's not the case the queer hcs tend to all feel like they're /because/ Elle is trans, immediately divorcing her from womanhood yk?

I hope this was informative and didn't come off condescending or accusatory or anything! I just saw your post and wanted to give some background behind what op was saying (or at least my understanding of it as someone who was feeling similarly) since it seemed like you just wanted to know!

Thank you so much for this amazing, well-articulated (and kind!) reply!!

Hope any others who sometimes still struggle to wrap their heads around this stuff will see and absorb ❤️

[idontexistherebuticould]

I feel bad using the term nonbinary even though I use fluid pronouns because I am perceived as a female first and foremost.

I know that’s not how it works. If I’m nonbinary then I’m nonbinary.

And I know I shouldn’t feel this way but I feel it’s not my space even though I want to try trans tape because my boobs make me dysphoric when I wear certain articles of clothing that I love wearing. But something in me tells me it’s not for me bc when even with a flat chest I’ll still look like a females, just a female without boobs. But I feel like trans tape is for anyone who it could help so I should just get it right?

And then on the pronoun thing I use my cis presenting appearance to my advantage and let people I think would treat me different just use she/her even though I really like people using ALL pronouns. But when I tell people all pronouns (or I used to just say they/she) so many will only use she. So I started telling people it was solely they/them but that’s not correct and didn’t feel right either but when I try to explain it it seems like people just get more confused than they were before.

I like they more than she and I even like he thrown in there occasionally and by occasionally I just mean I don’t need you to use it every day but I do occasionally feel more masculine but I dress how I feel so you can base my pronouns off what I’m wearing and just use they 75% and use the other pronouns the other 25% based on what you think and what I’m wearing. I don’t even mind you using it really as long as your not using it as a sneer or to make fun of me.

I get that it doesn’t necessarily make sense especially because I’m okay with my significant other calling me her girlfriend but when I talk about her I automatically call her my significant other even though she’s my girlfriend but I don’t mind being called her girlfriend. I wouldn’t mind being called her boyfriend people would just be really confused when they met or saw me.

I just feel like I don’t fit anywhere. Not nonbinary because I will never not be perceived as a woman but not a woman and not a man.

[breithenua]

*Trigger warning: SA, misogyny, denial of allegations*

I know that defenders of Vic Mignogna are hardly the biggest worry anyone has right now, what with Cheeto Hitler becoming President again. But something about these people just really drives me up the fucking wall.

Maybe it's the incredibly misogynistic air their conspiracy theories about Rial and Marchi supposedly framing him always have, while completely ignoring that he was also accused by numerous fans at conventions, some of whom were minors. Maybe it's the fact that none of them ever have any explanation of what they'd have to gain by making that shit up. And they don't have an explanation, because they don't want to subject their argument to reason.

Maybe it's the fact that they would rather deny the allegations despite his numerous *failed* attempts to sue for damages that have been dismissed again and again, than just say "Well fuck, he sucks. But his shittiness doesn't have anything to do with the characters he played". Like this isn't R. Kelly, he's not singing about groping underage fans in the booth, you don't need to feel guilty about still liking the stuff he was in. All that's expected of you is to acknowledge what he did.

Maybe it's that the few well-intentioned defenders he has left, apparently can't realize that someone who *seems* good on the surface isn't always actually good. Or that some cling to his professed Christianity and nice guy act as proof that he couldn't do those things. They don't want to admit that they were fooled by his act, and while that's a very human thing, what they're doing by continuing to stay in denial is hurt other victims of sexual harassment and sexual assault.

Legitimately all I can think of when I see anyone that still defends him, whether they actually have good intentions or not, is "I wonder what the SA victims in your own lives feel when they see you defending him despite all the evidence against him". Because I guarantee that they know someone who was SA'd, even if they don't know it yet. Even if all their friends are cis-het males (and judging from the defenders of him I see most often, that is a distinct possibility), it's a very high likelihood at least one of them is a victim of SA.

I don't talk about it much but I'm a victim myself, and I'm amab and still masc-presenting. My first serious gf shoved my hand between her legs on the day we met, multiple times until I did what she wanted me to. I know a lot of you are wrapped up in your misogynistic little bubbles, so you automatically discount the words of any woman that accuses someone of SA. So maybe you'll listen instead to someone that's at least adjacent to cis-male about how this affects SA victims. It isn't a good feeling to watch people you know disregard the words of an SA victim, and wonder if they'd believe you if you told them about your own experiences. Especially when the evidence is this high, and you still won't acknowledge it.

I legitimately hope some of you realize the damage you're causing, before you permanently alienate loved ones in your own life. I can tell you that from experience as well, that isn't a good feeling either. Or maybe you don't care and you'll laugh this off, but when you find yourself feeling alone because no one left in your friend circle actually gives a damn about your mental state, you'll only have yourself to blame.

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

kinda fucked up for you to see a gender non conforming woman (samsus) and automatically make them trans. you get what i mean about how thats just reinforcing gender stereotypes (that cis women are feminine and would never commit genocide even a little while transwomen would do masculine evil things like shoot gun (because they’ve kept their man vibes) or whatever

yeah

I can’t tell if this is like a shitpost or a really poorly worded commentary because I have no idea who you are. Frankly I would normally assume the worst block you, buuuuut since I like talking about it I’d love to explain why Samus Aran is extremely transgender.

Tbh I am still tempted to block you but the terrible grammar, spelling error, and nonsensical nature of the ask almost make it seem like a shitpost

First of all Samus being trans-coded was very core to her character from the very beginning. Regardless of the reasons they did it, the original Metroid was intentionally made and marketed to have people assume she was a man. This isn’t even just because people would see a person in a power suit and assume they were a man, the games manual explicitly refers to Samus with he/him pronouns. The immediate assumption that she’s a man because she’s tall, broad shouldered, badass, and wears a power suit that obscures her feminine features until the big reveal is inherently a trans theme. Taking that away makes her a less compelling character. It’s also continued in that Metroid media has continually joked that a lot of the Galaxy assumes that Samus Aran, the greatest bounty hunter in the Galaxy, is a man.

Secondly there was that one Metroid dev who said in an interview that Samus was transgender. The terminology used was outdated and it was explicitly a transphobic joke, but it’s too late she’s ours now.

Thirdly she is (was) built like one of us. That is, prior to the later zero suit designs trying way too hard to be sexy. Like seriously when I first found this image a few years ago I was the same height and weight as her. I miss the big buff broad shouldered Samus design so much and her later redesigns are honestly kinda pathetic by comparison

Fourth, Samus was raised by the Chozo and trained to become a powerful warrior. Part of what they did to make her strong was body modification via Chozo DNA splicing to make her stronger and more agile than a normal human. This is a sci-fi setting where she was raised by an extremely advanced alien race who could change her very DNA, acting like she couldn’t look like she does and be a trans woman is simply not even an argument.

Now, of course, you could refute all this by saying “but Cordelia, we know what Samus looked like as a kid from Metroid Zero Mission and the manga and she was clearly a little girl not a boy.” Now even without addressing the fact that it’s very possible for people to realize they are transgender as children and that children don’t even really have secondary sex characteristics to make it easy to tell what their gender is, this what Samus actually looked as a child:

The combination of all of this gives us trans women a lot of good reasons to believe she is transgender. But also, literally none of this is necessary for me to headcanon a character as trans. Trans women come in all shapes and sizes with all different stories and not a single thing in Metroid canon even remotely suggests that Samus Aran has to be cisgender. And if you try to say “but Samus has no bulge in canonical zero suit Samus depictions!” you’d have to be intentionally dense. Samus Aran is a chimera with a cocktail of human, Chozo, and Metroid DNA and, again, was raised by a race of super advanced aliens. Not only could they have easily given her bottom surgery, but they could’ve even changed her fucking sex chromosomes if she wanted them to. There is literally nothing in Metroid canon that even remotely gives me a reason not to insist that she’s transgender. To be honest, there is more evidence for her being trans than against.

To anyway anyone who actually read this far, I hope you understand the truth. Nintendo’s redesigns are too afraid to show us, but you and I both know that her cock is huge

[lord-of-the-ducks]

I wanna make a post talking about Jim because oh my fucking god I would actually die for them.

I’m gonna be honest, I was actually skeptical about OFMD at first because I assumed that Jim was just the stereotypical “woman crossdressing as a man” stereotype that seems to appear in every piece of pirate-related media I watch. Like “ah yes, this is a 100% cis woman disguised as a man purely for practical purposes, this says absolutely nothing about her gender identity” and that isn’t bad or anything, I’m not saying that anyone who cross dresses is automatically trans, just that I’ve seen this trope only through the most cis/heteronormative lens possible and it’s really exhausting after the hundredth time you’ve seen it, especially when there’s the weird “I’m a girlboss who’s just as good as the men” kind of messaging.

Seriously, I was so put off by the idea that I actually had to turn off my television when I saw Lucius see Jim swimming because I was ready for him to say things that were just going to upset me. I eventually did continue watching, but I really had to convince myself to give the show a chance. Lucius immediately being on board with keeping their secret and making the “not all beards are actual beards” comment gave me a bit of hope that I was going to be watching a show that had at least SOME canonically queer characters, but then the show implied that Oluwande was attracted to Jim and my immediate assumption was that once again, I was going to be dealing with some sort of weird Shakespearean “she’s disguised as a man but he’s attracted to her because she’s still female” thing. But thank fuck I kept watching.

The first indication that maybe I was watching a show that was going to actually address how this is an inherently queer trope was after Jim kissed Lucius and Lucius expressed attraction towards them. Because it’s already been established that Lucius doesn’t like women, since he said something about his mom thinking that he likes girls in episode 2, but he’s attracted to Jim, meaning that Jim isn’t necessarily a girl, or at least that Lucius doesn’t see them as one. And then I got to episode 4 and OH MY GOD THEY WENT ALL IN.

It’s a shame that Jim had to be outed, but I’m so happy with how the crew’s questions were written because it truly embodied the classic things that cis people ask any person they find out is trans. They aren’t word for word, but it’s the general attitude of “well meaning but incredibly strange/invasive/outright wrong” questions and comments that made me laugh so hard I had to gasp for air. They even had the “well, it’s basic science/biology that women have crystals in their bodies that attract demons”. Then Jim finally gets fed up and just tells them to continue calling them Jim and that they’re still the same person. Definitely not written with the trans experience in mind, nope.

Anyway, this is just so refreshing to me because not only is Jim actually played by a nonbinary actor (which I immediately looked up after episode 4) but they also aren’t exclusively defined by their gender identity or the suffering it’s caused. Like, they have a whole arc about killing one of Jackie’s husbands who killed their family and being wanted for that murder. They also might have a romantic plot with Oluwande, and both Jackie and Lucius expressed attraction towards them, showing that they can be someone desirable (granted, Jackie was probably just doing it to mess with them, but still). And when they do address the ramifications of being nonbinary in a time period where that isn’t understood, it isn’t in a way that makes me, a nonbinary person living in an unsafe situation, feel miserable and upset about how people like me are treated, I just get a chance to laugh at it. I’ll probably never have people asking if I’m a mermaid, but I do recognize the ignorance that those sort of questions come from, and the show makes fun of that ignorance, not Jim (Edit: I forgot to mention that Jim is actually allowed to get angry about the repetitive, ridiculous questions instead of just grinning and bearing it, and they aren’t framed as in the wrong for doing so) And then once all of that is out of the way, Jim just gets to… exist. As their authentic self. Talking about cutting people up for their fuckery. It’s lovely, I love them.

Anyway, sorry about the long post, I’m just so glad that a character that I previously assumed was going to be a looming reminder of how trans people are erased from a lot of narratives, including ones that can show a lot of diversity, ended up being some of the best representation I’ve ever seen. I pretty much immediately started following Vico Ortiz on social media and they’re also a delight, so check them out if you have the chance.

[duckmine]

Any headcanons for the belcher family? or any other characters u like

-i firmly feel as though jimmy junior is actually anti-social or has social anxiety. seeing him interact with anyone outside the main group is always the most awkward thing ever lol and i just feel like the reason he lacks as much confidence is because of his father and maybe the lack of a mother figure as well. that’s why he gravitates so much towards zeke and tina because they praise him so much and feed his ego but also genuinely care about him. and also why jimmy jr. isn’t really actual friends with anyone except for zeke, i honestly don’t think he likes tammy and jocelyn that much. maybe tolerate jocelyn since he knew her for longer than tammy but after tammy jocelyn just became her follower and jimmy jr. just didn’t care for it.

-this is a little more specific but i lowkey headcanon tammy as bi with a slight repressed crush on tina. i know it’s cliche to say every bully secretly likes their target but unfortunately that was a very common concept i grew up watching and enjoying and i am a absolutely a sucker for that trope. but i also just favor tina and i want everyone to like her DHSJSB.

-i do headcanon that tammy and tina take a better path in friendship around high school. they’ll probably be in different friend groups but because they went to the same middle school and are more familiar with each other they develop a deeper kinship in that regard. maybe they even rebel for another night in dedication to their first meeting.

-i do headcanon tina to be completely straight tho. i also understand the idea behind her being trans but at the same time i liked that the show was unique for having both female and male voice actors for female characters regardless of sex so because of that tina is actually cis in my eyes but i like seeing everyone else’s headcanons that may differ to mine.

-i think jocelyn might be trans tho. i know that just curved from what i said but jocelyn to me seems like she’d come from an actually pretty accepting and even loving family considering her lighthearted and breezy nature and her honesty cute relationship with her mom so it wouldn’t surprised me if she potentially suggested as a kid that she preferred more feminine clothing and other associations of sorts.

-louise definitely screams “on the nonbinary + demi-ace/aro spectrum” to me with like a preference in girls and an exception to rudy. there’s so many things queer about this girl to me fhskhdks.

-louise also definitely looks up to tina but will not say SHIT about it, you can catch her dead 50 ft below the ground admitting it. i know she technically said tina was her hero in the two parter episode of season 12 but that was because tina was gonna smash something but no, louise like GENUINELY looks up to tina. tina has an exceeding level of strength compared to her (but also tbf louise you’re like, nine), tina can be just as snarky as louise when given the chance and also tina has helped louise in her most confusing times because in all the girly, sappy stuff that louise just can’t handle, tina can and she’d help her get through it in a heartbeat because tina is her older sister. also, i’m sure louise enjoys tina’s stories.. minus the raunchy parts. she definitely considers tina an exceptional writer (for age 13 i guess) and the diverse genres that tina will incorporate into her writing is probably very entertaining for louise. because tina is not afraid to get rough and gorey, or action-packed and silly (i’d imagine).

-tina gives gene and louise hugs and kisses because i fucking said so she is an affectionate and HAPPY sister and no matter how much they squirm they definitely appreciate it!

-i semi-headcanon bob and linda as T4T. not fully because i don’t automatically see them as such but i can definitely see why others do and enjoy the headcanon myself. otherwise i firmly believe bob is bi and linda if not trans is at least an ally or somewhat heteroflexible because honestly. it’s linda.

-jimmy pesto sr. still calls jimmy jr. pepper i don’t care he just has to.

-jimmy jr. won’t say it but he really does cherish his younger brothers. even tho they don’t always understand each other or bond as well together jimmy jr would defend them in a heartbeat if he could. in high school he eventually tries ti get closer to them and they become almost as inseparable as the belcher kids.

-andy and ollie start to become more easily differentiated through personality as they get older. ollie remains bubbly and naive while andy is a bit more tentative and skeptical. ollie is also probably one of those “hidden genius” types where he’s typically known to be airheaded until he starts spouting the most profound shit and everyone is shocked. andy on the other hand is more of the look out and tries to protect ollie as if he was the oldest brother. he also gains a sarcastic form of humor and definitely gets it from louise which bugs her for sure lol.

-i headcanon millie frock as a lesbian. not strictly because of louise but she just gives off femme lesbian vibes idk.

anyways those are some of the other headcanons i have that i can remember off the top of my head 😅.

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Just some trans related reminders

• You never know a trans persons sexuality so don’t assume who they’re attracted to, there’s a lot of people that asume, for example (something that’s happened to me as a trans masc) that I am attracted to woman because I’m a ‘confused lesbian who thinks she’s a man’, or people asume I’m attracted to men because “I’m technically a girl”, just stop making assumptions about people

• on that topic, if you asume that a trans guy is a bottom in a mlm relationship just because they’re trans (“but you don’t have a ___ you have a ___ so how would you top-“ stfu) or cause they ‘seem/look more feminine’. don’t talk to me, stop doing that, cause wether they bottom or not is non or your fucking business (like who cares just let people do their thing), even if you were “just joking”

There are trans who joke or talk about being a bottom with each other and that’s okay as long as they first ask the other trans person if they’re comfortable with that sort of thing (if they say they’re not, respect their boundaries). But if you’re cis, just don’t. Don’t talk about that, like if some trans mascs are joking around about it and you (a cis person) start joining in- you’re ruining the moment, it makes a lot of us uncomfortable. (It’s like when queer people joke around and refer to themselves with the f slur, they can do it with each other (if you’re straight, obv don’t say things like this-it does fall into the slur category for a reason) the respect that, same thing applies to the t word. If you’re trans and can say it, you can refer yourself as that, but don’t use it to refer to another trans person, if you don’t know if they’ll be comfortable with it, so just like quickly ask.

• Also, remember to call people out when they say these things and tell them that they shouldn’t be saying these things. Even if you’re part of the lgbtq community, being part of it doesn’t give you a pass to do/say transphobic things, just because someone says they’re part of the community or that they’re an ally doesn’t automatically mean they’re not transphobic.

•Also stop the whole ‘lesbians don’t like dick’ ‘gay men are only into __ not, idk, breasts’. ‘Straight woman aren’t into __’ Someone’s sexuality isn’t being attracted to certain parts, it’s toward a certain gender/person, for example, if a cis woman is into a trans masc even if he’s pre op, she’s still straight. Saying she’s not and that she’s, for example, a lesbian, because of they guys parts, is transphobic.

• The two things I mentioned at first are commonly used by transphobes, but also people who say they’re supportive, so I’m here to tell y’all that if you consider yourself and ally and you do this, and ever after reading it you think “well I don’t see how doing this is wrong, I’ll keep doing it” and you keep making assumptions and jokes you shouldn’t be saying because you are cis even though trans people say they’re uncomfortable (especially about the second one), stop calling yourself and ally and reconsider where you actually stand on this.