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Perhaps it's just because I'm a short woman who happens to enjoy both frilly dresses and sex, but I get so mad when people say Ariana grande or Sabrina carpenter are encouraging pedos by uh .... being short, enjoying cute things, and enjoying sex. I'm sorry some adult women are very cute and hot and like sex. And it literally has nothing to do with children. The people accusing them of being creeps are the ones inserting children into the discussion at all. (hyumjim voice) And I'm NOT supposed to be creeped out by that???

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one of the qualities i treasure most about my mom is her ability to admit when she's wrong, tbh. she tries to stay up to date politically but doesn't always get her information from sources themself, so sometimes she comes to me upset about a thing that happened and im able to look it up and go "ok that actually makes what happened sound way worse than it actually is; here is what actually happened, here is the probable bias of the sources you looked at" and she takes it into account and corrects her friends when they bring it up again

you might say "jude this is such a basic thing" but you gotta understand im viewing her in contrast with her husband, who is the dumbest fucking brick on planet earth and if you show him a source that contradicts one of the right wing guntubers he watches he'll say its fake news and fox news is actually the only one talking about and that's why mainstream news has absolutely zero articles anywhere about it

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people will say whatever fucked up shit they want as long as they believe they’re in the right huh. stop being fucking weird about mjf.

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this is your captain speaking. do you guys remember 9/11 [escalating clamor of passengers freaking out] woah woah hey hey i was just curious. christ. am i not allowed to make conversation

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Hey @staff why is it that reporting a blog for revealing people’s real names is not a reportable offence? Why are you allowing users to have their privacy violated by someone attempting to find and post their real names? Why have you allowed trans blogs to be deactivated for their own safety because your reporting system is fucking useless?

Unfortunately, your name isn't considered private information, and posting it isn't a violation of either the law or of our User Guidelines. If you're uncomfortable with the post, try to communicate with the person who posted it and make your feelings on it known.

It should be considered private information if the blog in question does not have permission to post someone’s name that they have not publically revealed.

It should not be up your users to communicate with someone maliciously trying to target them. If someone reports that their name is being posted, then you should treat that as a violation of privacy.

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maybe i'm just not american enough but i'm getting really fed up by people - even ostensibly progressive people - holding sexual art to the kind of standards that no other art is held to. like i saw someone on bsky say that there should be conversations about what kind of art should be allowed to exist, "especially sexual", and i'm just like ???? what the fuck do you mean, "especially sexual"? why? why not violent art? why is it okay for people to create violent art just because, without needing to defend or justify it, but the moment art is sexual you need some deep reason for it that justifies its existence?

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i feel like something that's missing from some people's understanding of kink fiction and fantasy is, like... in fiction and fantasy, everything is in-scene.

when real people do kink in real life, you gotta do all that good out-of-scene stuff like discuss boundaries, set limits and expectations, check in with each other, do aftercare, et cetera et cetera et cetera... but in fiction, everything can be in-scene!

the people in that fanfic don't exist any more than, like, the make-believe sexy football star and make-believe sexy cheerleader in a couple's roleplay exist. that couple doesn't need to get into character and then pretend to be a sexy football star having an important consent conversation with a sexy cheerleader, because that's a conversation that's already happened out-of-scene and out-of-character. (i mean, if you're into in-character negotiations, chase your bliss.) when they're in that scene, they can just pretend to be a sexy football star having sex with a sexy cheerleader. that's okay.

so like. when fiction does kink in a way that would be unsafe or harmful irl... just keep in mind that you're not watching actual people neglecting check-ins or ignoring their set contract or genuinely harming each other. you're watching a scene without the behind-the-scenes bits, and that's okay.

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worst part about the Internet is knowing that there are finally people who both match and complement your freak. the nearest one is 2,318.4 miles away and your time zones are awkward

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Hi! I just found your blog from the leather and judaism post and...say, do you perhaps have more to read about this? This really struck a nerve with me (in the good way!!!) because I really like leather and am coming to terms with it atm + I would like to convert one day, so reading about judaism is always great.

first of all, my dms and asks are always open! second, i haven't found a lot about judaism and leather specifically, but people have been talking quite a bit about judaism and kink. i'll link some sources that might be helpful and list them by category! i added tbr to the ones i haven't had time to read/explore in depth yet. also i just started weinberg and am in the middle of townsend. also i've heard talks that actually the leather dykes were discussing leather spirituality before the gay men were, but i haven't had the time to search for that atp

judaism and kink

fridman, leora. bound up: on kink, power, and belonging. wayne state university press, september 2024. x (tbr)

frishberg, hannah. "inside the world of brooklyn dominatrixes and their orthodox jewish clients." buzzfeed, july 27, 2018. x

hoffman-wade, deborah. "tradition: on being a religious jewish kinkster." leatherati online, medium, may 22, 2017. x

jewrotica.org (link is to the last capture on the wayback machine) x (tbr)

kayelle, eliana. "i'm a queer rabbinical student. here's how i connect judaism and kink." hey alma, june 15, 2021. x

kinkyjews.com (link is to a capture on the wayback machine) x (a kinky seder!) (tbr)

nathan-kazis, josh. "ties that bind." new voices, january 17, 2005. x

shteir, rachel. "what's so kinky about judaism?" dame magazine, december 11, 2015. x

kink and spirituality

a grateful slave and guy baldwin. slavecraft: roadmaps for erotic servitude: principles, skills and tools. daedalus publishing country, 2002.

baldwin, guy. ties that bind: the sm/leather/fetish erotic style: issues, commentaries and advice. edited by joseph bean. daedalus publishing company, 1993.

master jackson. sir! more sir!: the joy of s&m. bookazine co., 1992. (tbr)

prezwalski, jim. the kiss of the whip: explorations in sm. leyland publications, 1994. (tbr)

rinella, jack. philosophy in the dungeon: the magic of sex & spirit. rinella editorial services, 2006. (tbr)

weinberg, thomas s., editor. s&m: studies in dominance and submission. prometheus books, 1995.

also important to this discussion (at least for me)

contributors. "chills down my spinal degeneration: why we need black queer disabled kink." the black youth project, 2019. x

lthr edge. full cow: edge talks leather and kink. podcast. started 2022. x

moss, alan, roe, and riley. "queercrip tznius: on modesty, camp, and radical obscurity." mixmoss, neocities, june 16, 2022. x

townsend, larry. the leatherman's handbook ii. carlyle communications, 1989. x

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"you changing your body in a way that is unappealing to me is sooooo sad :(" is an unattractive sentiment no matter what gender or sexuality is sharing it

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welcome to the Murdersex zine, a zine celebrating all things sex and murder. but um. we don't want to romanticize it or anything so don't make your submissions too murdersexy. we will do extensive background checks on all applicants and if we decide a past work of yours has too much sexy murder we'll have to remove you, sorry. we have limits, you know, we want a tasteful gory spread you could put on your coffee table, and having the Wrong people in it would kill the vibe (and we condemn all killing! wholeheartedly!)

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aew loves snuff

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It is actually embarrassing if you are a single issue voter and don’t vote for the party that’s better on your single issue

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