#placiosexual

[nyxx01]

Attention!! Anyone who identifies with acespec and/or arospec I need your advice once again.

I know “love is love” as quote to represent the queer community can be a bit icky for you(completely understandable)but what quote would you like to hear or see that would make you feel safe and validated.

I’m asking because I want to put said quote in my bio and just say/type in support.

Aphobes/terfs/bigots will get their kneecaps snatched.

I didn’t have enough space left in the tags but happy pride!!

Free Palestine 🇵🇸

Liberation for all.

Have the day you deserve.

[lilliaace]

What zero sexual attraction means in the real world (my own experience)

Hi, I'm an asexual lesbian. I've banged vaginas and penises. As an asexual, despite loving my lover in my specific case, I am face deep in genitalia and feel nothing. I smell the pheromones and feel nothing. It's distracting and I like it's making my partner happy, but zip for me.

Orgasms feel good for the biochemical cocktail going off on my head between the rush of dopamine (and other feel good chemicals), but beyond that, sex and similar is just another activity to me. How someone might feel about walking down the street. Just another thing to do.

This is why asexuality and its umbrella terms (demi, gray, fray, etc.) are unique. Because it's not "spicy straight." We feel literally nothing and I wish this wasn't so god damn hard for non aces to understand.

[itneedsmoregays]

A very Happy Valentine's Day to any ace, aro, aroace, gray, demi, cupio, abro, quio, placio, akoi, fray and everyone else on the asexual/aromantic spectrum reading this!

Maybe we don't love in the "normal" way, but we're not lonely or broken or cold unfeeling robots. We still love in our own way and are worthy of love!

[joestarkisser]

Acespec selfshippers are stunning!

Asexual selfshippers?

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Aceflux selfshippers?

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Apothisexual selfshippers?

Cupiosexual selfshippers?

Placiosexual selfshippers?

All ace-identifying selfshippers are beloved by their F/Os regardless of how long or how "unnecessary" their identity is!

[aceandarothingies]

Happy Ace Awareness Week!

[prismuffin]

A/n: Sorry this is a bit specific- I wanted to write smth for myself that I personally relate to and am dealing with. Made the reader gn so anyone at all can read this if they also relate!

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Steven Grant x asexual(spectrum)!gn!reader

( summary: Steven and you had been together for a few months and he always wondered why you often pulled away from him whenever he tried to get explicitly touchy with you during intimate moments so he decides to ask ) warnings?: angst, pre-established relationship, talks of sex (no actual sex), reader is specifically portrayed to be both placiosexual (meaning they have no problem sexually pleasuring their partner but don't want their partner pleasing them) and cupiosexual ( meaning that the person often wants to experience a sexual relationship but can't for whatever reason) , reader being confronted about their sexual orientation, reader not being completely ok with their sexual orientation! !-!more under the cut!-!

You and Steven had been together for a few months now and everything had been perfect. You knew about Marc, accepted his flaws and quirks, were kind and loving, you were everything he'd needed.

Not too long ago he'd decided to ask you to get a little more intimate, it was clear that you were previously waiting on him to be ready which he appreciated. When the night finally came where you two were intimate it was a bit more one-sided than Steven had thought. It's not like he wasn't satisfied or anything, quite the opposite actually. You'd focused all your attention on him, making him feel good and completely disregarding your own satisfaction. He at first thought it was because it was your first time but now after being intimate with you for a while he realizes how uncomfortable you get with him when he tries to reciprocate any sort of intimate action towards you. Sure things like little love-bites are accepted by you but anything past that you shut down for the most part. It's gotten to a point where he wonders if its just him that you don't want to be intimate with, but the way you treat him, please him contradicts that entirely. So as you sat on the couch in your newly shared apartment he couldn't help but wanna ask.

"Y/n...?"

You hummed as you turned away from the random cooking show that played on the TV to focus on Steven. "Yeah?" You watched Stevens eyes fill with hesitancy as he looked at you. "Uhh, I just- I have a bit of a question.." He stated, speaking a bit quieter as he eyed you cautiously. You nodded, grabbing the remote and turning down the TV. This was obviously important if he's acting this nervous so you decided to give him your full attention. "What's up? Is something wrong?" You turned a bit so that you'd be facing him fully. "Not really, I've just been wondering about something for a while," He fidgeted with his hands before continuing. "I mean, we've been intimate for some time and I love it, I really do, but how come you never really let me..." He trailed off, gesturing between you and him a bit. "Let you...?" You questioned, you had a hunch where this was going but thought it'd be better if he clarified before you jumped to conclusions. "Let me touch you..." Your heart dropped a bit at the question, yup it was what you thought. You suppose that this was gonna come up sooner or later.

You usually only performed oral or manual sex on Steven, never really fully going all the way for your own comfort but you guess it can seem a bit weird after a while to perform only those things. "I...uh..." You hesitated, unsure of just how to go about answering this. You knew you were on the ace spectrum, placiosexual to be specific, but still there was something inside you yearning for a sexual relationship and though you technically have one you want to really feel it. But the thought of letting that happen sickens you. It's been an ongoing battle in your mind for years, you hope you'll eventually "grow out of it" but you haven't had many opportunities to try, anytime you do something in your mind just shuts the whole thing down. "I-I'm sorry, that was insensitive of me- it's ok you don't have to answer-" Steven stuttered out but you were quick to dismiss his worries. "It's fine, it just caught me a bit off guard ya know?" You chuckled dryly, nervously as you swallowed thickly and sighed. "It's uhhh, I'm sorry I'm just a bit...asexual..." Stevens eyes widened at the confession as he inhaled sharply. "Oh bloody hell- I didn't like make you do those things right?"

"No- Steven it's fine I was fine with all of that I swear." You smiled though your eyes held a bit of sadness to them.

"Are you sure? Don't asexuals not like to perform sexual acts like that?" He asked and you nodded. "Some don't sure, but asexuality is a spectrum Steven, I'm not completely uncomfortable with the idea of sex its just uhh it's a bit hard for me to receive any sexual favors." He nodded slowly as he took in your words, not entirely sure on how to respond. "So, how much are you comfortable with?" You hummed at the question, for some reason it made you want to cry though you bit back the thought before anything could show. "Well I'm Placiosexual, which means I'm completely fine with doing sexual acts on my partner, you." He smiled, grabbing your hand as you continued. "But when it comes to receiving those same acts from others I get a bit uncomfortable.." You looked down and he nodded, moving his head lower to catch your eye again. "What's wrong?" "It's nothing I-" "I accept you ya know? This isn't gonna change anything between us I swear." You were silent for a few seconds after that, you'd expect nothing less from Steven but that wasn't entirely the problem. "I know that." "Then what is it?" He rubbed the back of your hand with his thumb and you sighed, not being able to hold yourself back from tearing up a bit. "I just- Sometimes I really envy you." "Envy me?" "Yeah, you can just be ok with stuff that makes me extremely uncomfortable at times." You paused, trying to decide how you wanted to word this to get your point across. "I don't want to be this way all the time, I want to feel comfortable in those moments, to connect with someone like that but I just can't and I've always hated myself for it." You couldn't help the tear that escaped your eye, deciding to just let it fall. "I just wish I was...normal,"

"You are normal." Steven was quick to shut down your negative thoughts.

Looking at him directly you were shocked to see him tearing up a bit. "Steven..." "You're completely normal Y/n, nothings wrong with you, you just have a harder time getting comfortable with those things and that's ok, everyone's different love," "But I don't want to be different!" You choked out, more tears streaming down your face at the confession and he paused. Moving closer to you, he grabbed your face in his hands using his thumbs to wipe your tears as you shut your eyes. Leaning in he softly placed a kiss to your nose before sighing. "Who you are is completely okay love, and if you really want to we can try and take things slow for you alright? But you can't be mad at yourself for feeling the way you feel about something as futile as this." You sniffled, slowly opening your eyes though not looking at him directly. "What you do for me is enough already, I don't need to have sex with you to love you." That seemed to really hit you as you started crying again, moving to hug Steven. He stroked your back as you cried, whispering comforting words to calm your ragged breathing as you held back sobs. "I just don't wanna feel this way forever." You mumbled and Steven hummed, pulling back from the hug to look at you. You tried to wipe your tears but Steven had beat you to it. The small amount of affection making you smile briefly before you sighed. "Like I said before if you really want to try and change it we can take it slow," "I-I don't really know, I mean I want to try but I don't because I know I'll just feel disappointed." Steven offered you a smile as he continued to caress your face, ready to wipe away any stray tears that still fell. "Then we won't. Not unless you're 100% sure you want to try. And even if that day never comes it'll be alright." You were quiet as you took in his words.

Part of you hoped that one day randomly you'd just start to feel ok with it all but you know that's most likely never going to happen. But with Stevens words on your mind you feel a little less bad for feeling this way. Maybe you're not some weirdo after all, maybe you are just a normal person. Even if you never change the way you feel, Steven will still love you and at the end of the day isn't that all you really need?

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( This was once again quite personal to me so I'm sorry that it's like so specific but I needed some comfort so I decided to make my own comfort fic LMFAO )

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If you have requests for other flags let me know and I can make it (its easiest with flags that are only stripes but I can try to make something work if it has other stuff)

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[whatudowhennooneseesyou]

ACE COMMUNITY I NEED YOUR HELP!

I had an thought about in my kinktober series about making my jongho smut focused on him being on the gray placiosexual spectrum where he enjoys giving pleasure but not receiving- is that included in the ace community and would ppl read it?

If you're someone who's on the ace spectrum- would this be something you're interested in reading?

I have a feeling considering the people who identify as ace who read my works are sex-neutral.

BUT JUST WANTED TO CHECK!

[the-flower32]

I noticed a lot of tbh creature flags but not a lot of btw creature flags. So I’ve decided to make my own.

Starting with all the Asexual flags I could get my hands on

Top to bottom, left to right:

Greysexual, Asexual, Asexual spectrum, Aegosexual, Myrsexual, Cupiosexual, Demisexual, Lithosexual, Fictosexual, Fraysexual, Reciprosexual, Belussexual, Cadesexual, Iamvanosexual, Placiosexual, Requissexual, Adexsexual, Nebulasexual, and Orchidsexual

Oh also:

Aroace (purple & green ver)

[colorpicked-pride-flags]

hi again! dr fizz from inanimate insanity?

The PLACIOSEXUAL flag color-picked from DR FIZZ [Inanimate Insanity]

[gray-ace-space]

Hi! Does something like placiosequencesexuality exists? By that, I mean “might feel favorable to receive sexual acts if feeling romantic attraction, otherwise feels neutral to it”. Thanks !

it does now. i made u a flag

placiosequencesexual - enjoys performing sexual acts for others but does not want them reciprocated, unless they experience romantic attraction to that person first.

if anyone else wants to try their hand at making a flag for this term, knock yourself out

also, say "placiosequencesexuality" ten times fast lol

[geeky92]

Questions for the Ace Community

It’s been nearly a month since I came out as aroace (specifically bi-oriented aroace), and as a fellow a-spec, I feel it’s important that I learn more about the lesser known micro labels in the community. So, my questions are…

What’s the difference between Fraysexuality and Lithsexuality?: I ask this because their definitions just sound way too similar to me. Fraysexual means having sexual attraction to someone you just met, but then have that attraction fade/disappear after getting to know them, while Lithsexual means having sexual attraction to someone while not wanting those feelings reciprocated. So, what’s the exact difference there?

Reciprosexuality means that you don’t experience sexual attraction to someone unless they find you sexually attractive first, right?: Isn’t that just a small aspect of Demisexuality, or am I missing something there?

How is Abrosexuality considered an Ace label?: Not trying to be exclusive, just curious, because Abrosexuality is supposed to be a sexuality that is fluid and often changes, but…isn’t that technically the same thing as Aceflux? If not, then what’s the difference?

How is Cupiosexual considered an Ace label?: Again, not trying to be exclusive, just curious. Anyway, it says that a Cupiosexual is someone who’s never experienced sexual attraction before, but wants to. Isn’t that technically the same thing as Allosexuality?

Where does consent come into play for Placiosexuality?: Because being Placiosexual means you have no desire to receive sexual acts, but want to perform sexual acts onto others? Is that even a consensual thing, or am I missing something there as well?

Remember, these questions don’t come from a place of malice or exclusion. I just want to get to know my community a little better.

[redacted-coiner]

Placiosexual

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[dragonpride17]

Hey uh I saw you were doing pride blinkies and I was wondering if you could do one for Placiosexual

[ID: a blinkie of the placiosexual pride flag, with "placiosexual" written in pixel lettering. /end ID]

here you are!

[aspecpridecalendar]

Happy Pride to all placiosexuals!

Placiosexual - One who enjoys performing sexual acts on others but does not want those acts performed on themself. They may be sex-neutral or sex-repulsed when it comes to having sex acts performed on them, or it may cause them to lose desire or attraction. Being placiosexual is not the same thing as being selfless, dominant, or having a preference.

[ijustwannamakeemojis]

[ID: Six pixel hearts of various flags in order being Futuraesexual, Graduasexual, Placiosexual, Iwisexual, Mortiaseual, and Densexual. End ID]