#idemromantic

[our-arospec-experience]

Some Arospec Identities:

This is a list of some Arospec identities! It may be incomplete, and I am not an expert, so please let me know if there are any mistakes/identities you want added. :D

Aromantic: experiencing little or no romantic attraction to anyone; not having romantic feelings.

Aro flux: someone who fluctuates between experiencing romantic attraction and not experiencing it, and/or experiencing romantic attraction to different strengths.

Abroromantic: a fluid attraction, that can mean a fluctuating attraction between genders and/or on or out and/or throughout the aromantic spectrum, to some it's just one or the other, and to others it's both. (explained here by an abro person)

Akoiromantic/lithromantic: an individual who experiences romantic attraction but has no desire or need to have their feelings reciprocated. Sometimes an akoiromantic person’s attraction may fade if a romantic relationship is established.

Alloromantic/zedromantic: someone who does experience romantic attraction. An alloromantic person may be allosexual as well, but not necessarily. This identity is not on the aromantic spectrum.

Cupioromantic: someone who does not experience romantic attraction but has a desire to be in a romantic relationship.

Demi(a)romantic: someone who only experiences romantic attraction after establishing a strong emotional connection to someone.

Frayromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction, but this attraction fades after getting to know the object of attraction.

Grey-(a)romantic: someone who sometimes, occasionally, or rarely experiences romantic attraction. The attraction they experience may be weak, or it might be infrequent. Also used as an umbrella term for all romantic orientations that fall between alloromantic and aromantic.

Quoiromantic/WTF-romantic: someone who finds romantic attraction confusing, or cannot differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction, or is unsure of whether they experience romantic attraction. It can also mean someone who feels like the concept of romantic attraction doesn't apply to them.

Nebularomantic: is a neurosexuality specific to neurodiverse individuals, and it falls on the aromantic spectrum. It's a label for individuals who have difficulty telling the difference between romantic and platonic attraction specifically due to their neurodivergence (or can't tell the difference at all).

Caedromantic: having been able to experience romantic attraction in the past, and not experiencing romantic attraction any more, with the feeling that the romantic attraction was taken away/destroyed or left because of a traumatic experience.

Aegoromantic: Someone who is aegoromantic enjoys the concept of romance but does not want to participate in actual romantic activities. An example of this would be an aegoromantic individual enjoying watching a romantic show or reading a romance novel. However acting out these romantic stories in real life would not be appealing to an aegoromantic person. An aegoromantic individual would typically not desire a romantic relationship.

Apothiromantic: individuals on the aromantic spectrum who consider themselves to be romance-repulsed, are called apothiromantic. A romance-repulsed aromantic is repulsed by the idea of romance all together. Like with any romantic identity, apothiromantic individuals can have any sexual orientation. Their aromantic identity is not directly connected to their sexual identity.

Arospike: is an aromantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. This identity is for those who usually do not feel a romantic attraction. Sometimes however, an arospike can experience a (rare) sudden spike of aromantic attraction that will last for a short amount of time. After this they will return just as quickly, to aromantic.

Autoromantic: is a term for individuals who experience a romantic attraction (exclusive or not) towards themselves. It can occur in different forms, such as: fantasizing about a romantic relationship with yourself. Or, as described above: feeling little to no romantic attraction to others but being able to feel romantic attraction to yourself.

Bellusromantic: defined as someone who has interest in (certain aspects of) traditional romantic behaviour such as holding hands and cuddling. However, a bellusromantic would not experience romantic attraction and does not want an actual romantic relationship. So they keyword here is ‘interest’. The interest is there, but a bellusromantic can’t and wouldn’t want to put it into practice.

Fictoromantic: falls under the aromantic spectrum as they do not experience romantic attraction to (real life) people. Fictoromantic is a term used for individuals who experience romantic attraction exclusively towards fictional characters. Fictoromantic is also known as fictonromantic.

Myrromantic: Someone who identifies as myrromantic is on the aromantic spectrum but might feel confused as to where exactly, as they can experience multiple aromantic identities at once. They can also rapidly fluctuate. As an example: a person who considers themself to be both demiromantic as well as grayromantic. This might be confusing to some, which is why myrromantic can be a more comfortable label to identify with.

Recipromantic: (also known as reciproromantic) someone who does not experience romantic attraction until they know that the other individual is romantically attracted to them first.

Requisromantic: someone who experiences a very limited, or no romantic attraction and interest due to some form of emotional exhaustion. The reason of emotional exhaust may have many reasons such as (bad) past experiences dealing with romance or other emotionally draining reasons.

Amicusromantic: means you don’t have romantic attraction to someone unless you form a platonic bond/ friendship with them.(explained here by an amicusromantic person)

Uniromantic: also known as oneromantic or unianthroromantic, refers to someone who feels romantic attraction toward one person and one person only for advanced periods of time, or perhaps one’s whole lifetime.

Desinoromantic: when one does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but a romantic attraction akin to "liking" someone rather than "loving" them

Idemromantic: when one experiences no notable internal differences between platonic and romantic feelings, often categorizing relationships (and feelings) as platonic or romantic based on external factors.

Alicoromantic or Agnoromantic: someone who knows they are somewhere on the aromantic spectrum, but their romantic orientation does not fit in any aromantic spectrum label.

Iamvanoromantic: the desire to not show romantic affection to someone but you may have the desire to receive some (via @/aroace-safe-space-for-all)

Placioromantic: you don’t have the desire to receive romantic affections but you do have the desire to show some (via @/aroace-safe-space-for-all)

Arohaze: alabel for an arospec individual who’s other orientation(s) are in between or both allo and ace/void. source

Apathromantic: Someone whose orientation form of "romance indifferent" which can also be used as a title. It does not distinguish if the person does or does not have romantic attraction, but just that they are indifferent in receiving it or acting it out. Source

Loveless Aromantic: describes someone who is on the aromantic spectrum that is in some way disconnected from the concept of love, does not feel love, may doubt that they feel love, or rejects the idea of experiencing love. source

Lovequeer: someone who fully rejects the concept of “love” as society applies it for romance, and to redefine the word around oneself and the types of love neglected by amatonormativity. source

Subtiliaromantic: someone who experiences zero romantic attraction.

Non-SAM aro: an aromantic individual who doesn’t use the Split Attraction Model, aka the SAM.

Again, tell me if there's any I can add/ have got wrong :)

[nyxx01]

Attention!! Anyone who identifies with acespec and/or arospec I need your advice once again.

I know “love is love” as quote to represent the queer community can be a bit icky for you(completely understandable)but what quote would you like to hear or see that would make you feel safe and validated.

I’m asking because I want to put said quote in my bio and just say/type in support.

Aphobes/terfs/bigots will get their kneecaps snatched.

I didn’t have enough space left in the tags but happy pride!!

Free Palestine 🇵🇸

Liberation for all.

Have the day you deserve.

[aroworlds]

I thought I might also show off some of my cross-stitch patches during @aggressivelyarospec's Aggressively Arospectacular, especially my collection of quoi, nebula and vague patches (as an aro who floats about said trifecta of identities because comprehending attraction and my relationship to it is difficult).

I do have more: these are just the patches I have yet to attach to my backpack and jacket. It's just so much less fun to sew my patches onto things than it is to sew the patches, so I have a huge backlog!

[nodistinction-noproblem]

It's okay if you can't differentiate between the platonic and the romantic.

It might feel like you're being judged for not understanding something that lots of people seem to intrinsically get. It might feel like you're emotionally behind, or "not a real adult." But your experiences with love and attraction don't mean you're immature or missing out.

You're not here to meet arbitrary social milestones or benchmarks. Your life is your own within which to find meaning and happiness, and I hope your place on the aromantic spectrum can be a source of happiness for you!

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[ren-054]

*baps and smacks around my gender and orientation labels like a little cat with their toy in great, fully engrossed enjoyment and enrichment*

[arospec-positivity-memes]

Hai :3

I'm James :D

I'm nonbinary (they/them) and aromantic, and ive made this blog with the goal of spreading memes and positivity, ill be posting a combination of memes i find online, memes sent in by you all through the submissions button, and positivity posts/reblogs of positivity posts :3

If anyone has any questions, just send an ask and ill be glad to answer :D

[evelyns-art-emporium]

I made some more Aromantic Pride Flags with my malachite art style! There are more on the way, and please feel free to suggest any flags you'd like me to add :)

These Aromantic flags (and more!) are available here:

Stickers & Magnets || More coming soon!

[thescaryhyperfem]

Hi!

Can you make a idemromantic and cupioromantic combo flag?

Idemvotumromantic (Idem + Votum + Romantic)

A combo of idemromantic + cupioromantic :3

Sexual version if anybody wants (idemvotumsexual):

[lifea16]

Sexuality Update!:-

Alright, so, been thinking abt my identity alot, I've come to the conclusion that I'm

Bisexual! Yay! As well as a Quoriomantic Idemromantic and ofc Fraysexual and Cupiosexual

Probably a Demiplatonic Caedplatonic (Thanks Bullying! /s Now I only can form platonic bonds after getting attatched!)

Ya, I'll probably explain how I'm Idemromantic in a later post

Also happy late Bi Visiblity Day!

[our-arospec-experience]

Idemromantic

Idemromantic is a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. It is a subcategory of quoiromantic and is closely related to platoniromantic. It is described as experiencing no notable internal differences between platonic and romantic feelings, often categorizing relationships and feelings as platonic or romantic based on external factors. An idemromantic individual may categorize certain relationships as romantic instead of platonic based on age, emotional closeness, presence of sexual attraction, or other factors. But their feelings toward their romantic interests would not be distinguishable from platonic feelings and may be similar to how they feel for a best friend.

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[losergendered]

ID: a set of 16 images in 8 pairs. each has one image of the listed amazing digital circus character, with a white outline in front of their corresponding flags, and a second image which is a blank flag splice. END ID

Pomni from The Amazing Digital Circus is a transluneutral greygender and caedosexual lesbian oriented aroace!

Ragatha is a transneu adfeminine deluplushic dollgender femby and a turigirlspike quoiromantic abro lesbian!

Jax is singularian isoneutral panagender etolic mxn and a loveless aro pan gay omnisexual!

Zooble is an absgender xenic egogender privere idemromantic ace!

Gangle is genderminor, nonbinary and cassexual!

Kinger is isomasculine, anxiegender, caedromantic and caedsexual!

Caine is xenreve!

Gummigoo is transtidal candygender cangoric and romeric!

For anon!

[acespec-ed]

This week’s obscure aspec label is...

Idemromantic

Idemromantic is someone who has no internal differences between romantic and platonic feelings. Instead, they base them off of external factors like gender, closeness, age, etc. Aside from that, the two are indistinguishable to them. It’s considered a subset of quoiromantic.

[nodistinction-noproblem]

I adore all the platoniromantics, quoiromantics, idemromantics, WTFromantics, and nebularomantics in my phone, and all others on here who cannot discern, or struggle to discern, the difference between platonic and romantic. <3 <2

You have a place in this world. Your attraction, or lack of attraction, or the way attraction doesn't even apply to you, is real and good, actually. Your experience is one of the many ways people uniquely interface with others in this world. You have a rare perspective on relationships, life milestones, feelings, and affection that deserves to be heard.

You aren't immature or indecisive or broken for this. You're just you, and that's awesome!!!

💚💚🤍🩶🖤

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[beanb-urrito]

Guys i have seen this for the asexy people but not for the aros, so let's take a look at romantic attraction ONLY

[baron-fromthebaronies]

Being platoniromantic and idemromantic is so odd and very frustrating at times. Mostly because not only can I not tell a difference between platonic and romantic feelings and gestures but I also can't tell the difference between queerplatonic, sensual, or aesthetic attraction. The only one I can most of the time tell is different is sexual attraction and I don't experience that anymore so I have to go off prior knowledge that I really don't like delving into.

Moral of the story,..I don't actually know. Sometimes I want to carve out my heart and ask it how it feels I guess.

[katriellesque]

this rose I colored in to be the idemromantic pride flag colors