#parent your Inner Child

[catalisst]

[furiousgoldfish]

me to my younger self: you have never done anything wrong in your entire life, and I love you

my younger self: but-

me: YOU DID NOTHING WRONG YOU HEAR ME, YOU WERE A CHILD THEY LIED TO YOU

[thinkpink212]

Teach yourself the things your parents failed to teach you.

[vaguely-concerned]

walking through lucanis' mind prison. the tam lin of it all

[greenapplebling]

I'm slowly getting into Descendants and you know what? I can see Audrey getting along with Jamil and Vil

Idk if friends but they have a mutual mean girl understanding (they also have mutual sympathy over being always second best no matter what they do)

Also she probably can tell Silver is supposed to be Aurora (her mom) and tries to befriend him but it's hard bc they have absolutely nothing in common and it frustrates her

[midnights4ge]

When having boundaries is interpreted as having audacity, run.

[thebirdandhersong]

Lol

[swan2swan]

Annual reminder that Aang wasn't a terrible dad, that one episode was badly written and had poor perspective. Aang was a busy, working dad who had a lot of stuff to do, and then suddenly his third kid was a full-on Airbender and he was literally the only one qualified to teach this baby, so then he finally had an excuse to put his family before his duties ("My family IS my duty now, suckers!!!"), and so Kya and Bumi were all "What the heck, Dad???" because they were now teens (iirc) and they missed out on all that stuff.

It was basically Aang going from "my family has 20% of my time" to "my family has 40% of my time". Still not enough, probably, but Aang could finally go and explore his own culture without feeling guilty about leaving the rest of the world to fend for itself.

[freyatarotreadings8]

In order to embrace parents, allow them to evolve on their own terms and at their own pace. People only change when they choose to change. The more you tell someone to do this and that, the less they want to do it. Instead, allow your parents to choose their own path and accept the fact that they may never change. You may be the only person who wants them to change, but they won't, even though you think it would be good for them. Give up the fantasy that one day your parents will change. When we can't accept another person, it's usually not about that person. It's about us. We try to control the actions and behavior of others because we don't want to deal with our own grief. Recognizing our parents' right to be who they are means we have to face reality and leave the fantasies behind. It means we have to come to terms with the fact that they weren't as caring or as supportive as we imagined or wanted them to be. It also means we have to accept that it is not in our power to get "perfect love" from our parents or, for that matter, from anyone else. Our fantasy of our own parents only hides the pain we felt as children. Realizing that it is only a fantasy can bring back our childhood pain. However, we can only be free when we work through our emotions - anger, resentment, shame, fear and grief - and when we accept our parents for who they are. Only by accepting our parents will we be able to take on the responsibility of loving and caring for ourselves without expecting or depending on them for anything. The only way to improve our relationship with our parents is to change the way we treat them. And to do that, we must change ourselves.

[1101200905]

reparenting Can't be the solution to parentalization. like. i had to parent myself so the only solution is??? i have to parent myself again????????

no offense but I'm actually fucking tired of doing that?

(i also get pissed at the idea that the correct response to loneliness is learning to be alone. that's in direct opposition to how Human Beings Work).

[theinnermeyoullneverknow]

presented today for no particular reason*

[witchunderthewillow]

Sometimes the Mom You Have Isn’t the Mom You Need

And you’re allowed to grieve the relationship you wish you had while also choosing to protect your peace. Sometimes, protecting your peace means setting firm boundaries, and in some cases, it may mean going no contact.

It’s not about hate or revenge—it’s about survival. It’s about acknowledging when a relationship is causing more harm than healing and choosing to prioritize your well-being. It’s okay to feel guilty or conflicted; those feelings don’t mean you’ve made the wrong choice. They just mean you’re human.

Grieving a parent who’s still alive is one of the most painful experiences, but it’s also one of the most powerful acts of self-love. You’re not obligated to maintain a connection with someone just because of a title or blood. Your peace, your safety, and your happiness matter, and it’s okay to choose them.

[111lustforlife]

it's so hard to grow up and realise your parents aren't the heroes you thought they were in your childhood

[crownofgildedlilies]

me n the homies HATE charter schools!!! charter school r wack !!!

if u read the tags i’m actually in love with you

[stefandstuff]

the older I get, the more and more I realize that we really are just a result of our childhoods/traumas.

“healing your inner child” really is a thing.

I’m 30 years old

but some days, I’m still the girl who cries because her mom doesn’t say “I love you” or because she commented on my weight or said I was useless.

sometimes, I’m still the little girl who wishes her dad would swoop in and defend me.

sometimes, I still remember crying and sleeping on the cold, hard bathroom floor after having begged a boy to love me.

sometimes, I still feel like a girl waiting and wishing to become a beautiful woman, while picking myself apart in front of the mirror.