#interdependence is not codependence

[palmettoshenanigans]

*grabs your face by the cheeks* Listen- listen to me. Andreil? Was never about codependence. No, don't run- listen. It was never about codependence. Stop biting me- Andreil was always about learning to be independent and fiercely choosing interdependence through the process

[conceptionsofconciousness]

The Zodiac Signs and Psychology of Reliance

Independent Zodiac Signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer (Nakshatras of Ashwini, Bharani, Krittika, Rohini, Mrigashira, Ardra, Punarvasu, Pushya, Ashlesha) Free from outside control. Things are about themselves first and foremost. Needing to get what they want. Putting their own foot forward. Distrust, relationship issues, and burnout from over-depending on self are problems dealt with.

Co-Dependent Zodiac Signs Leo, Virgo, Libra, Scorpio (Nakshatras of Magha, Purva Phalaguni, Uttara Phalguni, Hasta, Chitra, Swati, Vishakha, Anuradha, Jyestha) Prioritizes Others. Attached to other people. Need the "approval" of a mirror (Other person) to feel secure about themselves and what they do. Boundary and control issues, trouble making decisions, and feeling the need to be perfect plague them.

Interdependent Zodiac Signs Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces (Nakshatras of Mula, Purva Ashadha, Uttara Ashadha, Shravana, Dhanishta, Shatabhisha, Purva Bhadrapada, Uttara Bhadrapada, Revati)

Believes everything is connected and there is mutual dependence between things. Everyone needs everyone to make life work. Delegating responsibility to lighten the load. Issues can include being too political and giving up autonomy in decision-making, lack of self-awareness, and uneven value systems/losing resources toward others.

[edwin-paynes-bowtie]

Just saw someone call Payneland toxic codependency and oh my fucking God they need to make a pool noodle that can smack someone through a screen

[brainspiraling]

Once, I thought I had to prioritize you to truly love you, but the truth was that we needed to prioritize us, both together and independently—interdependently.

That's the love we needed and need—equal overall, though one of us may take priority at different times depending on the circumstances, our abilities and such.

I needed to feel prioritized, seen emotionally, too.

[iwritenarrativesandstuff]

I so badly want to make a post about psychological or clinical terms that get misused over and over in fandom spaces (like I did previously with codependency) but also. I don't really want that kind of attention haha

[nururu]

Tbh strawhats are a good example of healthy codependency

[zot3-flopped]

“I just don't understand the long-term strategy here and it does make me sad to see some of the Twitter fans just absolutely parroting the you need me as much as I need you BS. No - they should not need Louis as much as Louis needs them. And to take advantage of an already vulnerable group - which he KNOWS, as he has basically called them out for being conspiracy theorists and unable to distinguish reality from fiction - seems very wrong to me.”

Agree with this previous anon so much. He knows that he has a lot of unstable fans who live for this codependency nonsense. It’s all over social media these last few days. They are eating up this crap. He may be qualifying the future success of the album with his comments, but he’s also manipulating fans with clear mental issues. He loves to play the victim, then the fans become the savior. In a more normal fanbase maybe that works, but with Larries it’s really disgusting how he uses them. I have no love lost for Larries and their craziness and truly harmful actions, but Louis is in the position of power here and he plays them like a fiddle.

👏👏👏👏👏

[joitotheworldstuff]

Different Relationship Styles: Understanding Various Dynamics 💑

Relationships come in many forms, each with unique dynamics that influence how couples interact and grow together. From independent partnerships to deeply intertwined connections, understanding different relationship styles can help you navigate love in a way that aligns with your values and needs. Let’s explore some common relationship styles and how they impact personal and mutual growth!…

[waterblogged292]

love in a fucked up world day #1

this shoulda come yesterday with the new moon but ce ‘st la vie. the main desire i have and have always had is to be in loving relationships, and that’s my aim for the moon cycle.

OMG i’m just gonna blog about my relating for the month, looovoovovovvveeee ittttt yes!!

came into contact with this person who is experiencing homelessness and my codependency went nutzo. we were vibing at work and then they explained their situation and i was like *computer startup noise* cause i was like HOW CAN I HELP HOW DO I NOT CREATE A POWER DYNAMIC HOW DO WE DO THIS. so i offered to by her a meal and she was like yes but then i was late for something so i couldn’t stay so i just bought her this meal and left her there which felt so DUMB of me. and so many people helped me out in california when i was without a place to stay for like two weeks like i slept on couches and only spent one night outside but it makes you feel so shitty. and i’ve asked for financial help from friends and it’s so hard. and then i felt like i didn’t do enough for this person and tried texting them resources but the texts didn’t go through. my hope is that they are alright and thdy can get hooked up with some housing and food and stuff and that we can be friends even though mutual aiding is kind of TOUGH and they’re going through it!!!

phew - then i worked with this other person and that was nice. i felt some controlly stuff come up but mostly i asked them questions and we both made jokes and got through the day together.

then at my ACA meeting, someone i know from organizing came in!! to my (and apparently their) anonymous emotional support meeting!! i think that freaked both of us out.

my mom and i shared some funny easeful moments which felt quite healing and flowy and fun.

my sister annoyed me, and i feel bad she annoyed me.

yeah. with giving / receiving i’m always like GOTTA CRACK THE CODE ON THIS, but something tells me there’s no code to crack and you just do it and talk about it.

this is mumble jumble - i’m hoping i can find a way to blog so that i might connect with people on here!! ANYONE RELATE TO ANY OF THIS?!? (lol)

[divineawakeningoracle]

North Node in the Composite Chart✨

House placement of the North Node in the composite is the purpose of the relationship and why the universe brought the two of you together.💕 The composite chart is the "relationship" and is activated within 6 months of the connection, a consistent connection meaning both partners must be invested mentally, physically and emotionally. The composite outcomes are not guaranteed as we all have free will and ultimately our individual actions and decisions decide the fate and outcome of the connection. The composite like synastry is a guide to the energy that is present whether it is utilized or not. 🕊️✨

1st House- (Autonomy, Self Reliance, Freedom, Independence)- This connection is here to teach both partners the importance of interdependence, one or both partners may struggle with codependency or insecurities and must learn the importance of autonomy within a partnership.

2nd House- (Financial Gain, Financial Stability, Financial Empowerment) One or both individuals may be financial focused, there may be indications in synastry and composite of starting a business together or the goal maybe generational wealth or financial stability.

3rd House- (Communication and Learning) One or both partners may struggle with communication or mental processing. This connection will give them the confidence to fulfill their dreams or tap into their learning abilities or the abilities to teach others, or learn important lessons through this connection.

4th House- (Family)- The purpose of the connection is overcoming and healing childhood trauma and wounding. The couple wants to live together and or desire to build and start a family they never had with one another or they may feel like home to one another. There is a lot of triggering and healing along the way.

5th House- (Children)- One or both partners may see each other as the ideal parent or may desire to have children with one another. If not, creative projects can be birthed as a result of this connection. This connection may also be a situationship, friends with benefits, sneaky link, here for a good time not a long time connection, or baby momma, baby daddy situation.

6th House- (Health and Wellbeing, Nurturing One another, Stability) This house is about the day to day routines, and wellness this couple maybe into fitness or wellness in some kind of way. This is not the most exciting placement. But the purpose is nurturing one another and adding value where it counts in the connection.

7th House- Fated Relationship (Divine Connection)- This placement is ideal for soul mates and couples who are both ready for love and ready to do "the work" necessary to keep a connection going. This aspect is guaranteed to last a lifetime, as the odds are in both of your favors and the universe is conspiring to keep you two together to see it through.

8th House- (Transformation, Karmic Lesson) This connection is sure to be transformative for both individuals, no one will be the same as a result of this connection. This connection may be short-lived and is not sustainable for long term. The connection may end once one or both people have evolved or learned their lesson(s).

9th House- (Spiritual Awakening, Spiritual Connection, Spiritual Lessons)- This connection is about self actualization, and exploration. You feel like you are with someone who just gets you. One or both people may be travelers or may not like to stay in one place for two long. They can both be into spiritual pursuits or may have similar beliefs. Both individuals may be from other countries or states.

10th House- (Business Partnership) This couple may have met at work or one or both individuals are career minded and career focused. The connection can somehow be in the spot light or on a stage for all to see. There may be no privacy in this connection. As business is mixed with pleasure with this couple.

11th House- (Friendship) This couple may have been friends turned lovers, or known each other awhile or ran in the same social circles before getting together. This placement has a strong foundation rooted in respect and admiration. Friendship will always be at the core of the dynamic, no matter the outcome.

12th House- (Past Life Karma Clearing, Shadow Work, Catalyst) This connection may feel spiritual or ethereal to one or both partners, the couple may not fully understand their connection to one other and this connection may trigger subconscious fears or soul healing. There may be a lot of delusions or projections from outsiders onto this connection, there maybe secrets or hidden agendas in this connection.

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[starlessmeadow]

Two strangers, A and B, wake up in a bath full of blood in an unfamiliar place. They quickly notice weird symbols carved into their backs and escape to figure out what the hell is going on. Meanwhile a gang of cannibal party hosts are keen to keep their VIPs entertained.

The center of it all will be two characters and their relationship, against a backdrop of crying, screaming, throwing up levels of misfortune in a unfamiliar world

[edwin-paynes-bowtie]

I feel like codependency in media is almost always unhealthy, but a thing that makes Dead Boy Detectives stand out is how good both Edwin and Charles are to each other. Like, do they 100% lean on each other for support 24/7? Yes. Are they so devoted the lines blur not just between friendship and romance but also between where they each start and end? 1000%. Is there no room between them for anyone else to fit? Hundo p.

Charles and Edwin are not codependent; they are interdependent.

Both of them are unique individuals with individual identities. They build each other's identities up but haven't each lost themselves in their friendship. They can't imagine being without the other, but it's not because they won't know what to do with themselves; it's because they would spend eternity mourning the loss of the other, because they rely on each other so much for so long and love each other more deeply than most people could imagine.

They both treat each other so well. They love and accept each other fully. There's no discomfort between them; there's never a divide. They're a set, but they're a set of unique individuals. And I love that for them.

[thecyden]

Maggie & Negan: A F*cked-Up Dynamic That Makes Too Much Sense

Once upon a time, my dad—a hardcore TWD universe fan—suggested I watch Dead City. Apparently, in our relationship, I’m the grumpy traditionalist who clings to the original series and side-eyes anything new. But I gave it a shot.  

Let’s be real: the plot? Not great. And I wouldn’t have made it through if not for Maggie and Negan. Jesus Christ, those two grabbed me by the throat and refused to let go. Let's address the walker in the room: Yes, I'm emotionally invested in the dynamic between a widow and her husband's killer. No, I don't need therapy (probably). Listen. I’m not saying it’s healthy. I’m saying it’s fascinating. And it’s not just because Negan aka Jeffrey is a stud who’d make a killer power couple with Maggie (though, yes!). It’s because their chemistry is electric, layered, and earned. Years of buildup, trauma, and twisted interdependence make their dynamic fascinating. Their relationship isn’t about romance—it’s about obsession, survival, and the f*cked-up ways grief binds people together. I’m obsessed, so here’s my take on #Neggie for anyone who cares.  

Why It Couldn’t Have Happened Sooner  

Some fans try to force them together right after Glenn’s death, or during All Out War. That’s not just unrealistic—it’s impossible. 

That first year? Maggie wasn't just grieving—she was haunted. Every glance at Negan was Glenn's last moments replaying on loop. Even years later, she still couldn’t look at him without seeing Glenn’s bashed-in skull. But by Dead City, something shifts. She’s had years to sit with her rage, and instead of fading, it’s mutated. It's no longer white-hot rage—it's a cold, calculating obsession that's kept her alive longer than any weapon ever could.

Negan was hyperfixated on Rick—their war, their rivalry. Maggie was barely on his radar. Post-war Negan was still a narcissist—his redemption was performative. He helped people, sure, but mostly to prove he could. And Maggie? He sees her as a living monument to his sins.

This Isn’t a Love Story (And It Never Will Be)  

Maggie and Negan’s bond isn’t about romance. It’s about being the only two people who truly see each other.  

Think about it: every person Maggie has ever loved is gone. Glenn. Beth, parents, the farm. Hershel (physically present but emotionally galaxies away). Even Rick's group are just memories now.

Negan is the only living archive of her pain. The man she’s spent years obsessing over. Her vengeance is her anchor. If she killed him, she’d be hollow. If she killed him, she'd erase the last witness to her grief. Worse—she loses the purpose that's fueled her survival.

Negan never had real connections—not in the Sanctuary, where he was feared, not worshipped. Not until Carl, Judith, and later Annie. But Maggie? She’s always been in his head, a ghost of guilt and unfinished business.  

He's spent years trying to outrun his past, but Maggie is his past. Notice how he never truly fights back against Maggie's manipulation. He wants her to punish him because he thinks he deserves it. That's why he follows her into hell without protest.

They’re stuck in this twisted codependency, and I’m fascinated by it.  

TL;DR: They’re toxic, tragic, and the most compelling duo in TWD right now. Fight me.   Anyone else weirdly invested in these two?   

[eatmangoesnekkid]

Interdependent relationships are not the same as codependent relationships. Do not be afraid of interdependence. Our world desperately needs more Venusian energy—more love, reciprocity, and mutual care, especially in these times of uncertainty. —India Ame’ye

[dreamypisces888]

Indicators in Synastry chart that show Karmic bound or Soulmate or Twin flame!

Karmic/Past Life Indicators:

Saturn aspects between charts, suggesting lessons and responsibilities carried over from past lifetimes

Moon contacts, reflecting deep emotional ties and empathy bonded through previous incarnations

North Node conjunct Mars - this implies courageous missions undertaken together, with passions energizing your joint work to answer soul contracts.

North Node squares Venus - suggesting vulnerability has been a theme, but through cherishing each other unconditionally, developmental wounds may finally release their grip.

North Node also squares Neptune - shared illusions are being dismantled now so your true purposes can shine through to lift others' dreams as well.

Jupiter's trine indicates generous lessons learned through past committed partnerships that instilled outlook expansion.

Saturn's squares denote relationship stability challenges overcome in past to build trust where before vulnerability caused reactivity.

Uranus' dissonance represents awakening of individual needs that transformed codependency to interdependence through understanding each soul's electricity.

Chiron's opposition attests to healing wounds of abandonment through this bond by giving/receiving unconditional acceptance of one another as beloved healers.

The Part of Fortune contact connotes duties fulfilled through supporting one another's growth despite hardships faced side by side.

Soulmate Indicators:

Strong synastry involving personal planets like Venus, Mars and moon, showing intimacy on emotional, physical and intellectual levels

Aspects to Jupiter, bringing out the higher, expansive qualities of the relationship

Grand trine formation, allowing the connection to flow smoothly

Venus-Mars aspects: Trines, sextiles signify attraction, passion, compassion fueling the relationship.

Moon connections: Trines, sextiles seen to mutual Moon signs portray deep empathy, nurturing energies between partners.

Sun-Moon: Classic soulmate aspect with the Sun of one lighting up the inner being of the other.

Mercury patterns: Flowing aspects allow profound communication and intellectual understanding.

Grand water trines: Subtle, supportive emotional exchanges indicating souls long acquainted.

Grand fire trines: These energize and inspire through shared adventures, philosophies.

Grand cross with a focus: Formations symbolizing karmic purpose found together through challenges.

Multiple planets conjoining a point: Depicts strongly mirrored or complementary soul qualities.

Jupiter moon/venus touches: Foster abundance, trust and joy through good and difficult times.

Twin Flame Indicators:

Opposing charts with emphasis on polarity and balance

Planetary mirrors like Venus/Venus reflecting a profound recognition

Intense aspects between outer planets Uranus, Neptune, Pluto triggering spiritual awakening

Mirroring of Lilith placements pointing to a mission to heal ancestral wounds

North/South Node conjunction uniting your twin soul purposes

Strong Pluto aspects like conjunctions, squares: Indicates intense soul transformations experienced together.

Moon-Moon connections: Mirroring of each other's inner emotional landscapes.

Grand mutable T-squares: Formations that activate personal evolution through the relationship.

Sun-Uranus aspects: Bond awakens revolutionary qualities in each other's core identities.

Saturn-Saturn ties: Connections hinting at developing a mature spiritual partnership through difficulties.

Jupiter-Neptune: Expanding compassion and ability to creatively actualize shared spiritual visions.

Venus-Chiron: Healing each other's heart wounds through unconditional love expressed physically/creatively.

Mars-Mars: Dynamic actions challenging complacency drive evolution of passions together.

Moon-Node aspects: Deep ties to emotional life purpose resonating with soul's shared past/future.

Moon-Pluto: Intense emotional triggers that purge illusions through soul-baring intimacy.

[vintagerobin]

In terms of Bruce and Dick I would personally say that they are codependent sometimes, but they both are. This is not the more one sided kind of codependency, they take turns when one of them is too burnt out to keep suppressing their needs and the other will switch to obsessive self sacrificial uncommunicative caregiving, and the cycle repeats. (Unless they're both having mental breakdowns, but that's a different issue.) They have similar trauma, so it makes sense that they have similar unhealthy coping.

But also! Sometimes, they're interdependent instead. Which just means that they're each capable of simultaneously taking care of themselves and supporting each other. It's a similar level of attachment as codependence. It's just more consistent, mutual, and generally healthier. And I would say that this is the case for them quite a bit of the time. It's just less noticeable because it's a very quiet, sort of background thing. There's no emotional explosions to draw your attention to it.