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nuh uh.
i dont appreciate your condescending word-twisting tone. i never attacked people identifying as femboys. but let's break it down
One could argue the semantics of what makes a slur, but in the end, does it even really matter?
i didnt say that only semantically it is a slur. i said it is effectively used as a slur, meaning it fills exactly the same niche that trap has filled before. we're all on the same page that trap is a dehumanizing slur, right? it is a specifically transmisogynistic stereotype imposed on transfems to third-gender/degender us. but, it's also an identity many people (re)claim for themselves. i just noted it's also semantically similarly constructed like other transmisogynistic slurs like shemale (and ladyboy too and theres more that elude me rn, btw)
One could even argue that calling someone an egg is transphobic.
no :) good job sprinkling this nonsense in completely unprompted. (suggesting/joking someone might be trans is not inherently transphobic. if you get offended at the notion you might be trans, thats transphobia or internalized transphobia. the "egg prime directive" is inherently transphobic, by asserting calling someone "trans" is bad. just because some people have no tact or are parasocial with it towards strangers online, doesn't mean that egg-jokes are inherently bad or even "transphobic")
"Transmisogynist" and "trans person in denial" are not the only two options here
no i don't think so, and in a reblog addition i went a bit more into this. notice how i said "there's overlap"? that was of course a simplification. i think there is nuance to this. imo transmisogyny-affectedness absolutely can act on a scale: for example i think self-identifying femboys who were camab are actually tma! But! they don't get as much brunt of transmisogyny as say a transfem who loudly demands being seen as a woman. another important point is that tma people themselves can be transmisogynistic too, even really vile in some cases. I'm not saying everyone identifying as a femboy is necessarily acting transmisogynistic, but many are. I'm not saying everyone identifying as a femboy is necessarily tma, but many are.
(and if you're a tme person who was cafab and identify with the femboy label, you're not better than someone who's tme who was cafab who identifies as a trap or shemale, etc. you're misappropriating and reclaiming slurs that are just straight up not yours to claim. or to approximate the aesthetics of transfeminized people. you're definitely not using it in a good-faith way, you're using it in the fetishizing third-gendering way in that case, to be clear)
GNC people and crossdressers exist
yeah, and i have absolutely no problem if you call yourself GNC or a crossdresser. it's even preferred. it's just simply not the same as self-identifying with a transmisogynistic slur, right? we can agree on that?
their existence isn't inherently wrong or detrimental to trans people
i agree. no, their existence is not inherently wrong. but that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying the language used to construct the term, the way it is culturally used, and the behaviour of people using it is transmisogynistic. nowhere did i claim people are inherently wrong for being GNC, that's a whole new sentence.
So what you call "third gendering terms" are always going to exist. Nonbinary, in of itself, is treated as a third gender by even non-binary people.
not what im referring here to at all. i mean third-gendering as in involuntarily third-gendering (and so in turn degendering/misgendering) transfems, denying their femininity, and forcefully placing them as an "other" third gender or sex (like trap, shemale, femboy etc) in society
also, nonbinary is not just a "third" gender: hi i'm a nonbinary transfem who is NOT identifying with that at all. for many it's definitely more complex, and many nonbinary identities dont lie inside of the gender binary or this constructed trinary, at all
And there are always going to be people who use terms for GNC people to describe trans people lmao.
literally if you use femboy for others who dont explicitly identify that way (or for fictional characters; or you hinge your sexuality as bisexual/pansexual/whatever because youre into "femboys"), you're 100% using it in a transfem-fetishizing, third-gendering, degrading way. you are being transmisogynistic, by asserting this identity upon transfems.
it's all about actions, and these are specifically transmisogynistic. i don't actually think the question "are femboys transmisogynstic?" is constructive. you gotta look at the actions of people, the question should be "is femboy a transmisogynistic term?". and yes, it definitely is in my honest opinion. but it also of course depends on how you use it.
i thinkt the core issue is that femboy is effectively a transmisogynistic slur, it absolved trap as a more socially acdepted alternative, and it is similarly constructed to other transmisogynistic slurs like shemale. it's a degrading third-gendering term
that means most people using it, will use it as such. most people claiming to be attracted to "femboys" or calling people femboys, who don't self-identify as such, are fetishizing transfeminized bodies.
and the people using it as a self-identifier, can use it in a fetishizing way, or in a reclaiming it as a tma person way. and there's a lot of the first that are just transmisogynists, and a lot that are just eggs, and of course some overlap
#jeady rambles#transmisogyny#femboy#femboy discourse#transfeminism#this is just my 2 cents btw. my personal opinion.#read actual transfeminist theorists like Jules Gill-Peterson or thalia bhatt
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Hey genderfluid people, how do you deal with your gender switching or being less easy to define?
And not "deal with" as in it's like wrong but more the internalized shame of it. Or how it can feel like experiencing one side of the binary over another can detract from your identity.
and also does your interactions with sex or porn or sexuality change how you feel about your own gender? How do you feel about those things? Do you like it or not?
#gender is complex and i genuinely want to know how others feel about theirs#this is more for genderfluid of flux people and less for non-binary people#or people who dont really identify with gender#i need me the “i feel all genders” people right now#genderfluid#genderflux#bigender#transgender#please interact with this post#avenin talks
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i hope season 8 has rick hooking up with more otherworldly entities it’s really euphoric for me
#aliens anthros undead demons devils angels eldritch monstrosities werewolves vampires I DONT CARE!!!!#GIVE ME ALL OF IT!!!!!#MAKE HIM KISS DUDES MAKE HIM KISS WOMEN MAKE HIM KISS PEOPLE WHO IDENTIFY AS NEITHER MAKE HIM KISS PEOPLE WHO HAVE 3493858 GENDERS!!!!#QUEER THAT SHIT UP MAKE HIM SO OBNOXIOUSLY PANSEXUAL LIKE ME I NEED HIM TO BE AN ABSOLUTE FREAK TOO#sorry i’m really passionate about his sexuality because i really relate to him about it and it’s something that’s my FAVORITE#i get so much euphoria out of it especially since i’m writing in the body of a man so the gender euphoria on top of it#STRAIGHT SEROTONIN TO MY BRAIN#ooc;#tbd;
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also like i partially found out i might be intersex because i was looking at trans stuff and there was like "(however many) months on t and finally seeing some bottom growth" and like pictures of t-dicks and i was like.... um.... that's kind of just what my clit looks like anyways. so i was like "hey google give me a quick rundown on this" and learned what clitoromegaly was and then i was like. hm. intersex resources. and it's like a sign? symptom? side-effect? of certain intersex conditions
#i mean like pcos runs in the mums side of my family but i dont have all the symptoms of that#i do also have like. more hair?? than the average afab person#like dark hair on my stomach and chest and back#and my face. whats disappointing about the face hair is that it isnt enough to be able to grow a beard#so i cant even fuck with gender that way#tagging as nsft just because of like genital mention#genital mention#nsft#shoutout to transmascs on t who show their t-dicks on the internet it was really helpful#also i dont know how to describe it but like. my natural face shape is kind of masculine??#like it would be plausible for a cis amab perisex man to have my face without looking feminine#if you get what im saying??#if it sounds like im reinforcing sex or gender essentialism please say i am struggling to find words#unshoutout to the boys in primary school who made fun of me for having hair under my arms and starting a whole decade of insecurity-#-about having hair on my body lmao#for the record i dont think certain face shapes are indicative of gender and all im just going by like. patterns?? in afab vs. amab faces#also not that i think afab vs. amab is the entire categorisation of human sex characteristics but um. working with what vocab i have here#i think what also really kicked it off. was relating to a fair few experiences intersex people have socially#particularly intersex ppl who were afab and faced a lot of pressure to make their bodies conform to feminine beauty standards#and it was like.... oh lol.... my mum did that to me!!#it comes from her own internalised shit bc she has pcos (idk if she identifies as intersex even tho she could if she wanted) but still.#dont project that onto a 10 yr old lmao. she keeps buying me hair removal products#ALSO floored by an experience i have. in which apparently half my friends dont feel pressure to shave their legs#because the hair on their legs is like. light and thin and barely visible and i was like?? huh??#what do you MEAN your legs don't look like your brothers/fathers if you dont shave??#im starting to think they dont shave their arms. their arms might just naturally not have a load of hair#i dont shave my arms though. cannot be bothered with that and also like. why would i do that#also you know that like. happy trail i think its called?? on “men's” stomachs??#yeah i have that naturally yeah thats right im naturally sexy#if you cant tell i am putting “girls” “mens” “boys” “womens” etc. in quotes to indicate that is just the normal society way of saying it
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I think doing shipping through and aroace lens makes things complicated but also interesting. I think one reason I don't enjoy straight ships as much is because it's very rare for people write/talk about them with a queerplatonic dynamic. straight romance is so "normalized" in society, it's hard to get any other dynamic out of those ships from other people in conversation or writing. it's mostly always romantic. (especially when "guys and girls can't be *just* friends" is extremely common and has ruined mamy of my own friendships) but I enjoy a handful of a straight ship with that dynamic. it's just way more rare to see talked about than gay ones from my observation. anyway point is, more queerplatonic type ships and stuff please! those aren't explored enough!
#its really hard for me to describe what queer platonic means to me and how i see it and how that applies to ships i enjoy or even irl#i guess one way to explain it is being life partners without the need for romantic/sexual stuff and they dont date other people#dedicated to each other for life and act like partners but arent romantic/sexual about it.#example are cynonari. they adopter collei togther and are dedicated to each other. but theyre very fun as queer platonic relationship#and for straight version theres himeko and welt. a strong pair. work well togther. our train parents. platonic but life partners#partners in this crazy space train adventure that take care of us gremlin kids#and then theres also the queer straight platonic dynamic that's fun as well. 2 queers who form a straight platonic ship#think kafblade. how i like to imagine it is a lesbian and agender-aroace-gay-in-previous-life come together as platonic life partners#playing with this stuff and going outside the normal gender/sexuality box is fun#lee text#lee rambles#ive seen hi3 fans get very loudly upset about hsr fans shipping himeko and welt. but i never see them discussed as queerplatonic!#it could make everyone happy haha. life partners but not the romance. theyre our train parents but they arent a married couple!#disclaimer: ship your own ships. this is only about my ships and how i feel#before identifying as nonbinary i was subjected to the whole “guys and girls cant be just friends” bulshit and lost friends over it#im not even allowed to be friends with people as an aroace if im seem as a binary gender!!!!! it makes me so angry#i think straight shipping as an aroace that enjoys queerplatonic dynamics is a very weird trigger for bad feelings from those experiences😅#but its not why i prefer thos dynamic. the why is just being aroace in general and wanting that kind of relationship if i had a partner#but having a side of straight obsessed people ruining our friendships over their straight obsession feels bad#by straight obsession i mean we cant be friends anymore because they decided they saw me as a binary gender opposite theirs 🙄#and accused me of liking them and said im the one that ruined the relationship#where was i going with this i think im just rambling and info dumping about my brain stuff too much 😅
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sorry to be mean on main but autogynephilia is so stupid because it fully um. tries to make it a gendered problem that someone who shouldn't undergo gender transition is seeking to because of other health concerns. like brother it's not an illness by itself stop trying to make it happen.
#there's MANY people who used to identify with being trans who aren't really trans and that is almost always due to underlaying mh concerns#like#people who lack gender dysphoria but desire gender transition need other help#and by inventing stupid terms you aren't helping anyone#like sorry as a lesbian who is autistic no chris chan isnt a trans woman but that's because autism care is failing him#but that might not be the case for other people. there's many lesbians who used to identify with being trans men#and what these people dont need is to be yelled at and called fetishists
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I am still so confused on whether I'm asexual or not.
#i mean... sometimes the thought of stuff like that makes me wanna gag a bit#ive never had my first kiss and im indifferent to the idea#but im not really... repulsed? i know its a spectrum btw#but ive never liked any labels for myself aside from bisexual#so maybe i identify with the label a bit but probably won't be using it???#ill figure it out at some point#my posts#not talking about asexuality here but on the topic of labels#the only one i feel a strong connection to is bi#like. i have a weird gender that changes. but i dont like using any specific labels#even though I know im technically genderfluid#but ill never refer to myself as that. im literally just some guy#people who use lots of labels are great and cool btw but most of them just arent for me#i am all of me or whatever the hell that hedgehog said
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gonna be honest I see anyone talking about this "my gender is more complicated than yours" shit as someone who genuinely cannot comprehend that other people that don't share certain traits with them can still in fact have rich interior lives. as an agender trans woman who uses she/her I've never had anyone say it to me who wasn't (usually unknowingly) transmisogynistic
see but im not talking about "rich interior lives" and the assumption that i am is exactly what im talking about. i am talking about the actual physical way that reality treats and percieves me in comparison to the way it treats and percieves you. saying my gender is "more complex" means to me that i am physically incapable of existing in a strictly binary world and that there is no thing i can pass as bc "binary man" and "binary woman" are both incorrect for me. and the Cisiety in question does not allow androgyny to exist - it is exclusively the timeframe people have to decide whether they think you are a cisman or a ciswoman, or a failure and a freak. i dont subscribe to that "binary privilege" shit, thats not how privilege works. but there are differences in the ways both you and i can navigate this strictly binary Cisiety!!! and those differences deserve to be named, imo
like. again. i dont have to comfort you about your own internal sense of gender before youll listen to me about my experiences in the real world as genderqueer. as a different sort of transsexual than you.
(and bc i Know what binary ppl love to say: i know not everyone is 'capable of passing'. what i am talking about specifically is the difference between being unable to pass as a cis woman or a cis man vs being unable to pass bc what i am does not exist AT ALL in a binary society, and both of those things are incorrect ans unattainable.)
(anyways if that language is too imperfect for you thats like fine but. its just confusing to me, i dont get why its hard to understand what we are talking about here. our experiences w our nonbinary genders are completely different! why do i have to discuss them like theyre the same?)
#do you consider yourself transfem first or agender first on an internal level?#do you feel like you are predominantly treated as a trans woman in your day to day? does that hurt the part of you that is agender?#< not trying to grill u or anything im genuinely curious#ive had similar convos w my transmasc and transfem nonbinary friends as well as like. my gnc binary trans friends#i am just curious bc. like i said 'binary' isnt a bad thing to be and frankly since u identify urself as agender ur not really the target a#dience here anyways?#the idea that theres no such thing as a binary trans person just#fundamentally misunderstands the extremely broad swathe of nonbinary experiences and treatments#my passing transmasc enby friends dont particularly feel touched by transphobia unless theyre clocked or unless our areas laws changed#but some DO feel like they r effected by exorsexism on a day to day by being assumed to be binary men and having the other parts of their i#entities erased#while others are completely comfortable being percieved as strictly men and moving through life strictly as men#which is sounds like. i would guess youd have a similar position since u exclusively use she/her?#like.. it sounds to me like your 'rich interior life' doesnt really have an outward effect on the way people percieve and treat you and the#way you react to it which is very different from my experience#binary doesnt mean your gender is 'simple' it just means that you are comfortable within a binary system even of you dont personally identi#y with it. and maybe this is a case of 'political identity vs personal identity'??#and all of this is FINE its just. literally every time i talk about my own unique positioning my transandrogyny or whatever gives me#people crawl out of the woodwork to tell me my experiences are not actually unique#do u see what my issue is? my own trans experiences are erased bc other people 'disagree' with . what. my perspective as an 'unaligned' enb#? when its like. literally none of us are gonna have the same needs or experiences as trans people#and if 'binary' works to show that you are fine and comfortable being percieved exclusively as a woman#and 'nonbinary' works to show i am not#i dont really see what the issue w using the word 'binary' is#like i said. its not a slur. its not a bad thing to be.#and tbh i think this insistence that 'unaligned' nonbinary ppls perspectives arent actually unique to binary or 'aligned' nonbinary ppls is#directly contributing to like. lateral bigotry coming from said 'unaligned' enbies. like if u put urself in my shoes for a second and u gre#up being constantly told you were either a cis invader who didnt actually have any trans experiences and that only people who want to 'full#transition' were REAL transsexuals then. youd be kinda jaded too right? and im sure you ARE kinda jaded lol.#anyways. sorry for rambling at you i dont have any more tags left lol
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okay enough of the rants im logging off last thing ill say is that identity politics is largely a disease 👍 its point with the extremism its been taken to in part due to cia postmodernism being to wreck class conciousness though the wokeificstion of fragmentory policies and identity👍 bipartisan politics also serve to divide the country (all countries) incresingly so that people cant come together👍 having the worlds most stupid useless fragmentory identity politics discussions doesnt help it keeps us from coming together and focusing on real shit 👍wars pit the resources and labour of the working class against each other for the benefit of the rich 👍"im iranian youre american, you and i have more in common with each other than our governments with us, and our governments are more similar etc etc."👍 if racism stopped and if sexism stopped and if classism between the working classes (which, everyone has forgotten what the term "working class" means, its not abt economic bracket, low, middle, and higher class can all b working class yes including the doctor whose making a lot of money bc it is the exhange of labour for wages) stopped the working class could stand united not divided aginst the system 👍differences in race, class, and sex have Always been used to pit the working classes against each other, and to give people a sense of "well at least were better than Those people" (opressed middle class disdain for lower class, opressed mens disdain for women (at least they have power over someone!), opressed peoples disdain for other opressed peoples)
i may bitch and complain about kinds of people on here bc its a way for me to get my frustrations out, but ultimately i do think it is vitally important to have hope and to try to bring unity between people. ultimately i think it is unity which is the only way this planet, species, and every other species on this planet may see a better futute. ultimately, more than anything, i think despite everything we, for everyones sake, have to understand the deep interconnected nature of everything, have to truly understand that one cannot be free without all, and have to try to build bridges.... it is very easy both as both members of the opressive and opressed class (and yes most ppl occupy both in some way) to fall into disdain, fear, and wants of separatism. ive done it plenty myself and at times i still do. trying to "be better" is absolutely exhausting. but. i do truly believe that we have to try. i do not believe hatred is forever. not classism not racism not sexism not abelism not anything. it is not a curse people are doomed to from birth. people can change, we all can. we at least have to try
#this is part of the reason tho why ppl#tell me i shouldnt become a speaker or activist or someone who engages w ppl to change their minds and im like.........#i dont know if i have the temper for it#i stand by it. but im better at writing when i have time and space to calm my nervee#bc i really dO have a temper and im fed up with bullshit and i can be agressive#and ultimately i dont think thats the best way to change ppls minds#.......... lol one of tbe reasons why i look up to malcolm x so much#he wasnt perfevt by any means (ehm the sexism?) but. BuT still. a very complex very smart very real man who Saw very well#and something ive always respected is his amazing ability to keep his cool in dicussions and debates with people saying god awful shit#his cool his vibe his ability to educate and keep his tone strong and down#*ppl tell me i should#also. this is obviously not to say that there arent differences in class ethnicity religion gender etc etc etc and in how one experiences#the world bc. there Obviously are#also. global location imperial core imperial semi-periphery and periphery countries etc etc as well as each countries more localized power !#and position#just that ultimately trying to find unity and reach for similarities and understandings and sympathy where there isnt that is more productiv#e#than endless identifying politics fragmentation and opression olympics and also. everyone hating each other 🤷♀️
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i hate being asked my pronouns in public areas so much lol. leave me alone. yeah in that case id rather people just guessed.
#i know it does make it easier for trans people who are out to self identify themselves but tbh thats a status thats not for the faint of#heart anyway#like if you wanna be out you do kinda have to impose and emphasize your gender#does that make sense...#im just thinking about like teachers asking for students pronouns and stuff#i see trans people putting their pronouns in their name but i dont think you really need to do that with every single student if they are#obviously serving cis#but i GUESS it forces them to confront their gender and stuff#and im being whiny cos im caught in the middle and just want to exist in 'who give a shit' world
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I was late to a 9 am lecture on funny enough homosexuality in the context of ancient Greece and if we can even call it but that this this that and the 3rd because i spent the night before agonising over weather i was bi lesbian or just have ab inability to love before remembering the promise i made to my self at 15 that i was not supposed to care actually.
idk if im actually bi or nit but i have an 8 am class tomorrow cant worry about that
#rambling#i like that this is happening to more than just me#it used to paralyse me just the thought of identifying and how i didnt fit into any of them#before like connecting with other autistic people and realising that they dont really either#all my friends have or have had gender struggles who have issues fitting into the queer identities#and when I realised that all my people were struggling i took the view the black and white view of it just doesn’t matter#but every once in a while it will get me again
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my take on tme and tma as labels are that saying im tme doesnt tell people my genitals any more than saying. im trans. right
#like LOL ik its different depending on how you present yourself but if you say youre trans and a gender people are gonna guess your#genital situation. and considering how like.. numbers work. if youre perisex and you don’t have bottom surgery. theyre probably right not#to be mean or make people think about it. and not to discredit the people who want people not to know thats fine too imo. but dont be#shocked when you join a conversation about people with certain experiences and they go ‘do u have any idea what youre talking about’ like#idk. and bc this goes hand in hand idk how anyone can look at the murder statistics and go ‘they hate us all’ like sure they hate us but#they want trans women dead#idk! idk guys maybe im talking about my ass. ‘what about intersex people’ idk idk i havent seen much from them. probably my fault#im of the understanding that intersex people are different people and you cant make blanket statements but like whatever#and for the record im also of the understanding that intersex people are going to have different relationships with gender than perisex#people bc like. obviously! and an intersex afab trans woman is a little different than me in 7th grade wanting to identify as a trans women#bc i knew i wasnt a woman and didnt have the words for it like idk guys maybe the motivations are different#not that its really an issue. people dont usually qualify their gender with their assigned gender so i dont think it matters unless youre#asking for fuckin. validation ive never heard of it playing out outside of online spaces#simons spouting
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Ok I feel bad I rbed some genders & they're cool but ops seem weirdly interested in policing plurality & listen the gender has nothing to do with plurality so.......I'm just rbing it anyways...sorry that's evil but idrc. For the record plurality is weird, identify however, I am just here
#5.11.24#this is probably weird but if u see a dni on something that ..doesnt necessarily mean my “dni” aligns as well#except for somw things like i fuckig hate r*dqueer (sorry i haaate censoring but i dont want it to be in the tags)#but other than that like idk#when i did my mogai blog i didnt even have a dni cuz like#i cant. tell you to not identify with the terms i create cuz the whole point is that i made them public for people to relate to & id with i#they want to id with them???#like its one thing if youre like NEUROTYPICALS DNI on a term thats for autistic people#but i heavily disagree with barring people off from your terms when it is totally unrelated#like i did slimerancher genders#i cant tell r*dqueer people to not fuckti.g. have their gender be a slime from slimerancher#i dont even look at the people who int with me on there#the only time i really look is maybe on this blog cuz its personal??#unless its like theyrw reblogging one of my fansom posts#like the one limbussyyyyy post i made that got 200+ notes like im not checking#who are you people.whatever. enjoy#im for catering your online space ofc but like you cant stop people from looking at your shit#& if youre making content its probably gonna be looked at by people you dont like#its kind of healthy to let control of that somwtimes or its gonna eat you alive#source!!! i know#gloomy#idk??#technically?? maybe.#my text
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#wanna know where im at gender wise#im#oh god#yknow i wanted to say im cis#but thats not true#i do not identify as a woman#because i have none of the societal experiences of one#societal not bodily#like. none#good#bad#NONE#i never went with girls to the bathroom at school#nobody ever hollered at me on the street#i never had a crush#though i think im attracted to women based on the fact that i struggle to see men as like. people (WORKING ON IT)#its like. im not even agender i am somehow ungendered at all#theres one thought ive had#and its not something i can really post#so yknow dont screenshot this i know delusional cis girl moment#but i feel more like a trans woman than a cis woman#i met this girl - i like her but idk if romantically yet#and we have so much in common#like from out childhoods the way we grew up how others treated up how we thought#its like for the first time im talking to someone who has had a remotely similar experience in life#what do i think about that? who am i?#i am obviously not a trans woman bu definiton of the word AND its compound words#and you know whats the funniest part? THAT is not the problem#i long ago came to terms with the fact that my gender is me#but why?
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i do fundamentally agree with the idea that stuff like 'man' and 'women' dont have to be mutually exclusive, people can identify as whatever they want, and gender is there to be played around with as much as anyone likes. but i do feel like we're seeing a trend amongst some subsets of people where they can't hold those beliefs and Also accept the fact that as it stands 'woman' is still a very real and important political class of people. like it really would be great if we were in a place culturally where gender categorizations werent very politically relevant. but they clearly are. and i feel like a lot of people in an attempt to find an understanding of gender that makes them more comfortable have subconsciously kind of abandoned a framework that calls for a structured women's lib movement.
and it's like, on one side you have large swathes of the population who still aren't fully sold on the whole 'women are people' thing. and then on the other side you have a group who correctly understand that the whole gender thing is pretty bullshit. but then, instead of using feminism as a platform to try and build towards a world that reflects those ideals politically they have just kind of retreated fully into idpol and abandoned the scraps of the feminist framework to the radfems to re-appropriate into. fucking. nouveau phrenology.
it just sucks man it feels like we're sort of at an all time low in regards to public interest in meaningful feminism that i've witnessed in my lifetime.
#the closest thing we have to a mainstream feminist movement is libs who think the barbie movie was revolutionary for women#the women's movement is a prerequisite for true freedom from the constraints of gender!! not a distraction from it!!!
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you're assuming a lot about binary trans people, and if anything it makes me think that our understandings of our genders aren't actually that different? Not every binary trans person wants to pass as a cis person. I don't want to pass as a cis woman, I want people to understand me for what I am, a collection of internal beliefs and thoughts that I've constructed an identity with. It sounds like we both have created identities for ourselves! If you think that non binary people are the only people capable of creating their own identities and striving to be seen as them, that's on you
im gonna try one more time. i cant really tell if youre being sarcastic or not so im gonna assume youre being genuine when you say you think we have similar understandings of gender. but to me it sounds like you are deliberately ignoring the Actual Words i am saying.
we need words to describe our experiences, both different and common ones. those words may be in themselves faulty or somewhat inaccurate, but they are what we have to discuss important concepts, and they function well enough if they have a generally agreed-upon meaning. right?
so. the dominant culture of the imperial core is one of strictly binary sex. anything that breaks this, is deviant of the "rules of nature", to this dominant culture. right?
so then we call people who are NOT of this binary system multiple different things depending on cultural context and personal identity and personal circumstance. right?
'nonbinary' is only one of those words. to each individual it may mean any one of hundreds upon thousands of different things. everyone has their own personal identity, and while we may use the same word to describe said identity, no two people will have the same definition.
this is true of 'manhood' and 'womanhood' as well. every individual, cis trans both neither intersex perisex and so on and so forth, every single one of them has different PERSONAL interpretations of these words and the concepts they are meant to describe.
but 'woman' has to mean something in order to function as a real concept. it has to have some semblance of shared meaning, shared experience, shared conceptual feeling and vibe, for it to work within the imperial core as a means of systemic control and oppression, for it to work as a communicable identity, and for it to function as a word in a language.
in the same vein of thought, 'binary' is a word we are using to describe someone whose gender, in some way, shape, or form, fits into the schema of 'man and woman'. your internal definition of your own gender does not actually matter very much to other people who do not know it exists.
for me, it matters that i am percieved as a binary gender no matter what i do. it matters, and hurts, a lot. and for some people, it matters and hurts less. for some people, it matters and hurts not at all.
whether you consider yourself binary or not is entirely up to you and how you interpret your own navigation of the world. its very strange to act as if im saying anything otherwise. YOU defined YOURSELF as binary in your responding to me. you said you were also agender, so, like i said in my prev tags, i dont think youre the target audience. but the way youre reacting, it seems you think you are. i am also going to reiterate that 'binary' is not a bad thing to be - binary trans people and for that matter, binary cis people, are not my enemies. but i deserve to have the language to talk about my experiences as they compare to binary people. that's all it is.
#if we cant reach a resolution here i think itd be best if we block and go our separate ways also lol#i also think its strange to assert that theres no such thing as a binary trans person bc that sort of fundamentally spits in the face of ge#derqueer and nonbinary trans identities imo?#there are certainly people who identify as binary to whatever degree that they do#nonbinary identities arent 'complex inner gender feelings' they are quite literally genders that DO NOT FIT WITHIN THE MAN/WOMAN SCHEMA THA#S IMPOSED ON US#which again this is sorta what i was talking abt in the original post#i cant talk about things that are unique to or uniquely affected by my gender as a not-binary gender without binary (or again 'binary-adjac#nt') people being insulted that i would dare try to talk about exorsexism as it affects nonbinary people#which is exactly why i need to use the word binary#its genuinely really frustrating how every time ive tried ive met the same resistance#the first person i met who didnt was in fact a binary trans man lmfao#and we talked abt the differences and similarities between being a gnc man and having 'pansy' be your desired presentation and what my desi#es were presentation wise. that i couldnt be an effeminate man or a masc woman bc either of those are still recognized as men and women#and i really dont understand why more binary trans people dont make that same effort to meet me and talk w me abt these different ways we a#e treated by the patriarchy#and instead essentially say that nonbinary identity doesnt actually really exist bc Everyone is nonbinary/No One is binary#like thats kinda shitty
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