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I've been feeling really down about where we're at wrt rally obedience, to the point where I'm starting to consider giving up on trialing.
Kaija continues to disengage as soon as we enter the trial ring. Our instructor thinks that I need to be more firm, and that I have to keep asking Kaija to reengage and focus, so she learns that she can't get out of work by 'demonstratively' disengaging from me.
This doesn't sit right with me at all. Even if this approach did work/yield better results in the competition ring... is that really how I want to get there? With a dog that believes she has no choice but to work, regardless of her emotional state or her confidence level?
#i want so badly so follow Sharon Carroll and Laura Waudby's protocols#but it pretty much requires me to go directly against our instructor#who for the record is the most 'positive' - or whatever you want to call it - obedience instructor that i'm aware of in this country#seems like there is no overlap between choice-based training and dog sports here (in terms of classes and instructors)#only one or the other#i can't do this on my own#and i can't constantly fight the opinion of the person i am paying to help me#the best solution i am seeing right now is to say that kaija might never step foot into the rally ring ever again#that we'll continue to train at her pace (because she does enjoy the training and so do i) but if that's where it ends then that's okay#i just don't know what else to do here so
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"youve already written that trope" yesss. i like it a lots. i will be writing it again. 1000 stories of the same trope over and over again for ten million years
#'enemies to lovers' BANGER#'one is bridal carrying the other while theyre injured' BANGER#'sacrifice of something important' BANGER#'drunken chapter that results in at least one fist fight' BANGER#theres more but only me and readers who have read all of my fics througout fandoms will help me find the patterns#sara shush
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#ok no but for real this is genuinely my friend group.#the only one that's a little iffy is the anime catgirl bc 98% of us are dudes. with the exception of me and one other#we even have a union guy 😭#side note chilchuck's name would 100% be Chris if he was a real guy. he's such a Chris. (I mean it COULD be chuck but. Chris is better)#dungeon meshi#delicious in dungeon#senshi of izganda#izutsumi#marcille donato#laios touden#chilchuck tims#chilchuck#falin touden#astronomically random
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one thing about orpheus and eurydice is you guys are all like “i’m different i wouldnt turn to look at her” because you are all familiar with the story of orpheus and eurydice. but orpheus wasnt familiar with the story because he was in it lol.
#anyway. its only really good bc its a tragedy. doomed by the narrative etc. he has to turn around theres no other end.#greek mythology#sorry. this ones in post jail now.
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the weirdest fucking thing to me is how men will be like "it's so hard being a man. no one cares that i'm sad. the loneliness we experience could NEVER be understood by a woman" and then also be like "btw i never talk to my friends and i don't know their names and i love hanging out with men because they don't talk about their stupid emotions all the time. women could never understand a bond like this." like ???
#this thread was so rancid lmfao#my favorite was 'we don't care if someone wants to relax on the couch!!! STOP NAGGING US!!!' like ????#go take care of your kids you deadbeat????#also SO many guys complaining that no one compliments them#ok so compliment another man.....#oh no you only want a woman to compliment you? ok.#women compliment each other that's why we get compliments lol#we do not want men to 'compliment' us hope this helps
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swordtember day 8: sun
#reminding everyone how the book says that post-canon wn taught lsz the wen clan sword forms#which is adorable#genuinely one of my favorite things#the only other time wn is mentioned to use a sword is when he frees the juniors during the second siege#not his usual style but just as hot#what#did someone say something#anyway#swordtember#swordtember 2024#mdzs#mo dao zu shi#grandmaster of demonic cultivation#mdzs fanart#lan sizhui#wen ning#post canon
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seriously have been thinking about this all night long. call me autistic but the fact that 90% of workplaces the point is not to get your work done and then be done doing it but to instead perform an elaborate social dance in which you find something to do even when you're done doing everything you need to do in order to show your fellow workers that you, too, are Working . because you are at Work . disgusting why cant we all agree that if there is no work immediately to be done. we just dont do anything
#i personally like to not be doing things constantly at all times. it stresses me out#i know there are ppl who thrive on cosntant activity#but me i like to chill out.#and the problem then becomes that i only ACTIVELY remember to do work and Find More Work To Do when im stressed#at the thought that others might want to see me working#if im ever relaxed i just dont look for stuff to do#catch 22 of modern work culture which permeates even ostensibly noncapitalist structures like public libraries#for instance: will it really kill anybody if the books get shelved by me now after a very busy day?#or shelved tomorrow morning by. well probably me since i'll be the one at the desk#not in the slightest#but it was work that wasnt being immediately done by me. therefore it was incorrect behavior#that i failed to identify because my instinct is to relax when not immediately presented with a Situation#this got me labeled as 'having no initiative' by my dad from a very early age#and even as an adult i still feel like im a child with no initiative
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self-indulgent sukuna sheet
#my art#jujutsu kaisen#jjk#jjk fanart#jujutsu kaisen fanart#ryomen sukuna#sukuna#jjk sukuna#jjk spoilers#suku!megu is old news but ill tag it spoilers to be safe ghdfgk#anyway dont look at me >:/ stop it >:/#this started out so innocently in my defense . i saw some1 wearing that cash 4 souls hoodie in public MONTHS ago#and i immediately wanted sukuna in it#but then i got 2 thinking abt how i havent drawn a sukuna sketchsheet like ever and then i got to thinking how ive only drawn 1 suku!megu..#which is tragic by the way i cant believe ive only drawn him one other time smh im so behind on my quota :(((#drawing him sneering is SO fun gsdkgjsdfh i love how expressive sukuna makes megumi#anyway stop looking at me STOP IT i know what i did i know what ive done you're welcome#dedicated to the fakers in the gc who keep telling me theyre 'not sukuna fans' over their raucous barking :/// ok guys
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“ain’t no one born into this world to be alone!”
happy birthday, robin!!! 🌸
#one piece#nico robin#not tagging the others bc… thats still technically her#wahhhhhh my fave one piece character#robin my bias only increased#also fun fact i cried both times i saw this robin fight bc im an emotional sap
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they can be best friends. they can be lovers. whatever they are, i am rooting for them
#genuinely one of my favorite ships ever. i love these guys so dearly. they're like my 2nd parents (thank you Smallville)#“chose each other's outfits” aka lois wanted an excuse to put clark in short shorts and she “nudged” clark towards certain options#the boots were the only thing that was 100% his choice#clois#lois lane#clark kent#superman#superman fanart#fanart#art#dc fanart
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supporting communities & people impacted by the Southport attack and the far-right riots in the UK
here is a list of community fundraisers I found, starting with those aiming to support the Southport community after the appalling attack at a children dance party, to the fundraisers helping those affected by the subsequent racist and Islamophobic far-right/nazi riots
Edited on 5 August to include Middlesbrough fundraisers. Edited on 6 August to correct the link on the Books for Spellow Lane fundraiser, to adjust the name change for the Belfast fundraiser, and to adjust the wording in the second last paragraph.
Southport:
Southport Strong Together Appeal - organised by the community foundation for Merseyside, for those affected by the Southport knife attack
United for Southport families - the funds will be distributed among the nine families of the children who were at the party
Swifties for Southport - a fundraiser for the Alder Hey Children's charity, which supports the victims and the affected families, as well as first responders and clinicians. Extra funds will also support the wider Southport community
Fundraiser for the Southport Mosque - a fundraiser to aid rebuilding or possibly re-locating the Southport Mosque after the damages it suffered during the riots
Rebuilding Windsor Mini Mart - fundraiser to rebuild the locally-owned grocery store that was targeted during the attacks, broken into, and looted
Liverpool:
Fundraiser for the Spellow Hub - the Spellow Hub was broken into, looted and set on fire at night during the riots. The Spellow Hub is a newly created one-of-a-kind (in the UK) institution, which consists of a library as well as a community centre with a mission to help people get education and pathways to work
Books for Spellow Lane - another fundraiser for the library in the Spellow Hub, to replace the books and rebuild the library there edit: included the correct link
Hartlepool:
Fundraiser for the Nasir Mosque - the Nasir Mosque was attacked following Southport riots; this fundraiser is organised by Hartlepool citizens to help the mosque deal with the damages as well as to show appreciation for the role of the mosque in the community. edit: the funds will be also distributed to the local community!
Rebuilding the Farm Shop - the shop was targeted during the riots, and when the owner and his son tried to protect it, they were also violently attacked. The fundraiser is to help fix the damages to the store.
Sunderland:
help rebuild Citizens Advice Sunderland offices after arson - two of the Citizens Advice Sunderland offices were set on fire during the riots, and one of them is completely destroyed.
Hull:
Hull Help for Refugees - a local fundraiser to support the Hull Help for Refugees charity, the donated money will be re-distributed to community members affected by the riots
Fundraiser for Hull Help for Refugees and Welcome House in Hull - collected money will be donated to the two charities
Belfast:
help fix racially motivated damages - originally the fundraiser for the Sahara Shisha Cafe which was targeted by the far right in Belfast during the riots, now a fundraiser for all affected businesses in the area. edited to reflect the change of the name of the fundraiser to avoid any confusion
Middlesbrough:
Supporting residents after the riots - Middlesbrough has suffered so much during the riots, lots of businesses as well as just regular family homes were vandalised, had their windows smashed or even were broken into. This fundraiser wants to distribute the funds between affected people to help them fix the damages, and to generally support the local community. the newest fundraiser, imo potentially the most urgent one
Fundraiser for a Care worker's car which was set on fire - a car belonging to an employee of a care agency was set on fire during the riots while he was on shift at a care home.
If you want to donate locally but there is no fundraiser to support where you live, consider donating to your local charities oriented towards Muslim or PoC communities, or towards anti-racist and refugee organizations! And go support your local Muslim/Arab/Black/Asian/Refugee owned businesses!
If you have any information about other local fundraisers, feel free to add to the post or don't hesitate to let me know and I will add them here! We have seen so much hate in the past few days, we have to stay strong and keep supporting each other!
Stay safe everyone 💛
#uk riots community fundraising#there is a lot more fundraisers for Southport but these are the major ones#it's difficult to find more local riot damages fundraisers however because those tend to be shared locally only and it hasn't been long#since the riots so i assume more will be created in the next few days#so if you know about any and want to add them here please feel free to drop me a link! It'd be good to have them in one place#tumblr has a decently sized uk community so if this post finds at least one person who learns about a local fundraiser i'd be happy#not that you have to donate locally of course. i encourage eveyrone to donate. you dont even have to be british!#southport#uk#uk riots#england#uk far right#far right extremism#uk news#uk politics#ukpol#racism#islamophobia#nationalism#fundraisers#octarine talks#there are other ways you can support your community through all this and i highly encourage that. i thought about writing about that here#but ultimately this is a fundraiser post and you know your community best - just go talk to people and give your support#or help clean up#or attend the antifacist marches and demos and vigils
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when will we talk about the willful helplessness epidemic on here. So many people on this god forsaken website demand to have any and all things that exist outside their personal experiences directly, personally pre-chewed and spoonfed to them. And when you do, they'll then ask for you to swallow for them, too, because, you see, in THEIR experience..,
#this is about people who show up in the replies asking shit that has already been answered in the replies#this is about people who show up in reblogs asking people to explain very obvious things to them that'd take one second of listening to#others' experiences to be aware of#For the love of god if you're presented with information or turns of ohrase that conflict with your personal experience don't just sit down#Consider that perhaps things unlike you exist and that things that are one way for you may be different for others#This isn't difficult you just need to stop centering yourself as the only point of reference you have#you're not. There is so much more than you out there. And you can hold it and know it#you just need to get the FUCK OVER YOURSELF#fucking christ#mumblr#problemnyatic thoughts
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man I wish people understood how much it sucks ass to be neurodivergent and trying to find the middle ground where people like/tolerate you. like, I'm either "boring" (trying to wait my turn in conversations, holding space for other people, taking a back seat to let others get some spotlight) or "too much" (too loud/talking too much, getting excited to share, trying to participate in group conversations/activities). No one really talks about how much of being neurodivergent is just sort of trying to make yourself palatable.
I feel like so much of my life has been spent trying to find this effortless sort of middle ground everyone else seems to automatically already know, and I'm always swinging too far one way or the other. I'm lucky to have neurodivergent friends who grok me, but goddamn I wish that I could just like, exist without the constant background script in my brain that's like "you're being too loud. You're not talking enough. you're being self-centered. you're being boring. you're wrong, you're wrong, you're wrong." I feel like I'm back in high school trying to make friends but stuck as the eternal "weird kid"
it's just... lonely and sucks bad.
#I'm fine#just had a sort of blegh night with some people I'm playing dnd with#not a big deal but man the way I interact with neurodivergent people vs neurotypical people is like speaking two languages#except I'm only fluent in one of them and keep accidentally insulting people in the other#I'm just trying to make friends irl#flux's bullshuit#neurodivergent#autism#adhd#audhd#audhd things#audhd problems
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wade's undiagnosed ADHD (giggling everytime Logan stabs him) is only ever matched by Logan's undiagnosed autism (stabbing Wade with his claws when he's overstimulated)
#its physical stimuli with these two#Wade could be in the depths of despair. the absolute throes of tragedy. and always he'll feel better when logan distracts him.#logan will only ever ground himself subconsciously and/or consciously by stabbing wade up to his knuckles#deadpool and wolverine#deadpool#wolverine#deadpool 3#logan howlett#wade wilson#poolverine#deadclaws#deadpool 2024#poolverine is neurodivergent#QUEER and neurodivergent#normal things in the ketchup and mustard household include but are not limited to:#wade offering the other side of his body after logan stabbed one side#logan clawing at wade's arm when he's noticed wade beginning to spiral#wade reeling for a second as he is grounded back to reality. then he laughs. and shoots logan in the ear.#i need every other superhero witnessing this to be so confused and so horrified#they're traumatized and horrendous in their own right but they're basic baby shit compared to deadclaws#I NEED IT
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It's hilarious that Wade was 100% ok with Logan being shirtless while they were alone but when they walked out and other people were staring too he was like "cover yourself up". Bro was jealous 😭😭😭😭
#this is sending me cuz he was staring at him like it's the finest snack ever but when others were staring he was like nah u are embarrassing#i can't#this movie was something i didn't know i needed#he's the only one allowed to look it's his snack#deadpool and wolverine#deadpool & wolverine#wade wilson#logan howlett#Deadpool#Wolverine#wade x logan#poolverine
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I think that I've only drawn Ford like. 3 times in my entire life. so here's some Fordsy (and some Fiddsy. and a Bill I guess)
[image description: a page of drawings of ford, mcgucket, and bill cipher from gravity falls. near the top are two portraits of ford, one in the gravity falls style and the other in a more realistic style. next to that is a simple doodle of ford and mcgucket smiling and embracing with the caption "old man yaoi!" beneath them. in the bottom left is a simple drawing of a younger ford, and next to that is a drawing of bill with a speech bubble saying "i'm here too! also i'm hatless for spacing reasons". next to that is bill's hat, as well as mcgucket in an orange and brown 70s-style outfit and a braided beard, and he is sitting on the ground, lost in thought. end id]
#i like when people draw recovering fiddlefords. he deserves the world#i think im gettin the hang of fords face#the stans have a very strange head shape to adapt into how i draw but i think i did it well enough#bill is only here bc i couldnt think of anything else to put there and im very tired#doc is tired after finishing a drawing. in other news grass is green#doc talks#my art#gravity falls#ford pines#stanford pines#fiddleford mcgucket#fiddauthor#fordford#why do these two have like 5 dif ship names.#fiddauthor is the best one imo but fordford is pretty funny#ford squared is also one i think. pretty incredible stuff#bill cipher
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