#ny self quarantine

[survivoreddie]

☆ Season 2 ⌁ ET Online - Introduction to the show ⌁ TV Insider - Eddie Díaz in the first half of the season ⌁ TV Line - Introducing Shannon to the show ⌁ Anthem Magazine - Very interesting Q&A ⌁ Outsider - Being a father irl ⌁ ET Online - Season 2 finale ☆ Season 3 ⌁ US Magazine - Ronda's introduction ⌁ ET Online - End of season 3 + start of covid ⌁ ET Online - Life in quarantine ⌁ Hollywood life - Abby coming back ⌁ Outsider - Talking about stunts ☆ Eddie Begins ⌁ Hollywood live ⌁ NY Post ⌁ TheWrap ⌁ TV Inside ⌁ TV Line ⌁ US Magazine ☆ Season 7 ⌁ TV Guide - Season 7 preview, Buddie & Chris ⌁ TV Fanatic - Ryan's hope for season 7 ⌁ TV Insider - What's in for Eddie? ⌁ People - On parenting and his relationship with Gavin ⌁ Collider - There's a lot in store for buddie fans ⌁ EW Entertainment - Buck and Eddie's season 7 dynamic ⌁ TVLine - Buck & Eddie will lean in each other in season 7 ⌁ US Weekly - Eddie & Chris’ arcs for season 7B ⌁ Parade - Eddie's sexuality and Buddie ⌁ EW Entertainment - Buck coming out to Eddie ⌁ US Weekly - Buck and Eddie's relationship ⌁ TV Insider - Buck and Eddie taking baby steps ⌁ TV Fanatic - Eddie's evolution & Buddie ⌁ TheWrap - Eddie's reaction to Buck's coming out ⌁ Collider - Eddie and Buck's coming out ⌁ People - Possibilities of Eddie and Buck going canon ⌁ TVLine - Episode 7x07 recap "Eddie's betrayal" ⌁ TV Insider - Eddie will feel isolated after the finale ⌁ TheWrap - Ryan loves the chaos of the cheating arc ⌁ EW Entertainment - Vertigo storyline & finale preview ⌁ TVLine - What's in for Eddie in the finale? ⌁ TV Insider - Cheating storyline and lying to Buck ⌁ Collider - Consequences of season 7 finale ⌁ Screenrant - Chris' absence in season 8 ⌁ US Weekly - Eddie's season 7 main moments ⌁ Decider - Breaking down season 7 finale ⌁ The Hollywood Reporter - Ryan breaks down the finale ⌁ Yahoo!news - Ryan reflects on emotional finale ⌁ TV Fanatic - Eddie relying on Buck and season 7's journey ⌁ Decider - 9-1-1 has been a blessing for Ryan ⌁ Decider - Ryan shares his dream crossover ☆ Season 8 ⌁ Remezcla - Eddie Díaz’s Latino Identity, Catholic Guilt & That Mustache ⌁ US Magazine - What's to come for season 8 ⌁ TV Fanatic - Ryan Guzmán talks about Eddie's confession, self-love and Risky Business moment ⌁ Screenrant - Ryan Guzmán says Eddie is asking the right questions ⌁ TV Guide - Ryan Guzmán on how Eddie on dancing on his underwear ⌁ TV Insider - Ryan Guzmán talks 'Risky Business' dance ⌁ EW Entertainment - Ryan Guzmán on 'Risky Business' dance and mustache shave ⌁ US Magazine - Ryan Guzmán on how Eddie looks for joy shaving and dancing on his underwear ⌁ Screenrant - Ryan Guzmán breaks down Buck's and Eddie's final scene on episode 8x06 ⌁ EW Entertainment - Ryan Guzmán & Oliver Stark on 'Risky Business' dance and touching Buddie moment ⌁ Collider - Eddie will 'Reach out of his comfort zone'

[ericchaseanderson]

Q Days Project - Map of Manhattan

A highly detailed handmade map -- the “map for a friend” mentioned below -- of the island I called home for 13 years. My friend, who runs a tea business, will be selling prints when life returns to some semblance of normal, so at the moment I feel obliged to limit its exposure here to a single, low-resolution image. (The actual piece is over 2 feet tall.)

A mini-atlas of maps printed in 1964 inspired me to experiment with painting each neighborhood its own color. Like a collection of farms or tiny villages. The map is hand-lettered, right down to the street names, bridges, and tunnels.

(And, except for Battery Park City, it’s a reasonably accurate map.)

I will update a link to this post -- or create a new post with higher-res imagery and some close-up details -- when the prints become available. In the meantime, please enjoy this colorful view of the heart of a town which has, this year, been knocked down but remains far from out.

[yellowcrush48]

Least in Quarantine i get to see my cats more 💛

Also, Really miss the gym but atleast i can workout at home in someway lmao.

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Kik: haley123joe

[all-love-all-4me]

[yourstrulykx]

No face no case

[workingclasshistory]

On this day, 30 March 2020, workers at the JFK8 Amazon distribution centre on Staten Island, NY, walked out on strike demanding better safety measures amidst the Covid-19 pandemic. Organisers stated that 60 workers took part in the walkout, while Amazon claimed that only 15 participated. The workers were demanding the facility be shut down for cleaning, after other employees had tested positive for the disease. Amazon then fired Chris Smalls, one of the organisers of the protest. The company claimed he was dismissed for breaching quarantine procedures, stating he did not self-quarantine for 14 days after coming into contact with an infected colleague. However Smalls pointed out that not only was this false as more than 14 days had passed, but, he told the Guardian's Kenya Evelyn, no other employees who had worked with the infected person were quarantined. * For this and hundreds of other stories, check out our book, Working Class History: Everyday Acts of Resistance & Rebellion, available here: https://shop.workingclasshistory.com/products/working-class-history-everyday-acts-resistance-rebellion-book https://www.facebook.com/workingclasshistory/photos/a.296224173896073/1953779874807153/?type=3

[highsummonermercar]

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[ifuckinglovestvincent]

NY TIMES: St. Vincent Is Trying to Understand People

As she releases her sixth album, “Daddy’s Home,” the musician expounds on the lengthy documentaries, Janet Jackson bust and Joni Mitchell album that feed her creativity.

By Olivia Horn

May 4, 2021, 10:00 a.m. ET

Despite the hardships of the past year, Annie Clark’s sixth studio album came together with remarkable ease. “Maybe I earned a fun one,” Clark, who records under the name St. Vincent, mused. “Usually there’s some kind of ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ moment. And there just wasn’t.”

Clark, 38, spent much of 2020 shuttling between her home in Los Angeles and her family’s in Texas. But the record (“Daddy’s Home,” due May 14) was born at Electric Lady Studios in Manhattan, where she and her repeat collaborator Jack Antonoff landed on 1970s New York as their lodestar. The resulting songs ease away from the angular art-pop of “Masseduction” from 2017, opting for gentler, slouchier rock. The relative softness corresponds to Clark’s effort to treat the troubled, complicated characters that populate her record with care. Among them are the broke and lovelorn protagonist of the lead single “Pay Your Way in Pain,” Nina Simone, Marilyn Monroe and her own father, whose release from prison in 2019 inspired the title track.

Clark confessed that she did not meet her quarantine goals of learning conversational Italian or writing a tour bus cookbook, but she did read some books about the gulag. Calling from her “utilitarian” Los Angeles studio, she detailed 10 of her favorite things to watch, read and hear — many of her picks reflecting a fascination with history and an eagerness to unpack social and aesthetic violence. These are edited excerpts from the conversation.

1. William Scott Sculptures

I discovered William Scott’s work through David Byrne, at his place in New York. And when we were on tour with “Love This Giant,” we went to Creative Growth in Oakland [a nonprofit that supports artists with disabilities]. I had my eye on this bust of Janet Jackson. And then when I was back, I went and bought a bust of CeCe Winans. So I have these busts in my library.

A lot of the artists whose work I collect are people who are marginalized from society in one way or another. What I like about it is that the expression feels very pure. These are people who might not have all of the tools at their disposal or the education, or any of that, but they are compelled to make work. That kind of irrepressible urge in people — that I just find so inspiring and heartening and cool. And it’s completely divorced from any of the status of the quote, unquote, “art world.”

2. Adam Curtis’s Documentary Series “Century of the Self”

The way his work has been described is as emotional history or impressionistic history. The lines that he draws between events and trends are not exactly “A plus B equals C,” but the general thesis is like, “the collective consciousness is saying this.” As a writer, I’m always trying to understand systems and understand people.

3. Ric Burns’s “New York: A Documentary Film”

I used to live in a rent-controlled place in the East Village. But it was shady how I lived there, so I was never able to get utilities in my name. I lived there for 10 years and I didn’t have the internet, so I had DVDs. I used to go to Kim’s Video all the time and buy DVDs so when I would wake up hung over and be like, “Oh, just can’t quite make it out of bed today,” I would have something to put on. If I wanted to watch something it wasn’t like “Netflix and chill.” I associate that Ric Burns documentary with being either hung over or tired or both, and watching it in my bed.

4. Joni Mitchell’s “Hejira”

This is one of those Joni Mitchell records that I didn’t hear until I was in my early 20s. Everybody knows “Blue” and “Ladies of the Canyon,” but this is when I became a Joni Mitchell fan, with a capital F. This record’s just so deep. Her lyrics are … Cubist. I’m thinking of the one where she’s like, “In the mirrors of a modern bank/From the window of a hotel room.” And it’s all wiggles, you know? It’s like water, that record. And I don’t mean to make it about me, but I feel like I can understand some of the things that Joni talks about, like the refuge of the road, or watching the world from an airplane or being in a hotel room.

5. Maggie Nelson’s “The Art of Cruelty”

This is one of those books that I picked up six times and would get through a few pages and be like, “This is really brilliant,” but it felt impenetrable at first. Then I had this one weekend where the clouds parted, and I just could see it and plowed through it. It talks about the ethics of being an artist in a way that is so brilliant, and so not orthodox or finger wagging. I think it’s one of those books you can revisit at various points of your life.

6. Her Own STV Signature Series Guitar

Part of it was inspired by Klaus Nomi’s tuxedo. And I wanted it to hit my sternum in a particular way. I am cis female, so the way that it hits the sternum and then has a little bit of a cutaway, it makes room for my breast. But just one of them. There’s only room for one! I love it. It’s the only electric that I play, with very rare exception.

I saw people’s pictures of it from the Met [in the exhibition “Play It Loud: Instruments of Rock & Roll”], because I never got a chance to go and see it in real life. Most of the time, I just kind of like quietly put my head down and work — and then every once in a while, I look up and see something that I’ve made, and it’s mysterious that it’s in the world.

7. Wim Wenders’s “Pina”

I love Pina Bausch’s work. I was really inspired by “The Rite of Spring,” where the virgin dances herself to death. There’s this one particular movement that was like, drawing your hand above your head, and then when you pull it down, your elbow goes into your stomach — sort of like you’re open and then you’re impaling yourself. It just moved me to tears. So when I worked with my friend Annie-B Parson to choreograph the Digital Witness Tour, I was like, “Can we please incorporate this?” Another big thing: I was obsessed with falling. That was another big part of the Bausch work. How do you fall and make it look violent but not hurt yourself? I’d get a rehearsal room with Annie-B and just practice falling.

8. Vintage RCA 77-D Microphone

It’s an old ribbon mic, and it just sounds so good and warm. I know these are words that might not mean that much — when people describe sound as warm, it’s reductive. But it makes things sound and feel true. I don’t mean that it has perfect fidelity. What I mean is that when you sing into this microphone, what comes back at you feels honest. My friend Cian Riordan, who mixed “Daddy’s Home,” hipped me to this mic.

9. “Hidden Brain” Podcast

There was one recently about the idea of honor culture. You know, if someone is insulting someone’s masculinity and masculinity is tied up with honor, you have to avenge that insult. A lot of these “honor societies” end up with more violence because you have to save face and there’s less ways to assimilate conflict. The premise of so much of “Hidden Brain” is that we live by the stories we tell ourselves. And as a storyteller, that idea is very liberating to me, because if we live by the stories we tell ourselves, it means that when we get new information, we can assimilate that information and tell ourselves new stories.

10. Piazza della Signoria in Florence

The first time I was there was with my mom and sisters. I remember just walking through this piazza and having a wonderful time and wonderful conversation, and really being awe-struck by the architecture and the history, and just that life was beautiful. Another time, a number of years later, I was on tour with David Byrne and we had our last show in Florence, and I remember walking through with band members and then having the best dinner of my life after. It’s one of those places where, at very pivotal points of my life, I’ve been there and only beautiful things have happened to me.

[villca]

* RICARDO HOYOS, CIS MAN + HE/HIM | you know CHASER ‘CHASE’ VILLCA, right? they’re TWENTY-THREE, and they’ve lived in irving for, like, ONE YEAR? well, their spotify wrapped says they listened to TRUTH by ALEX EBERT like, a million times this year, which makes sense, ‘cause they’ve got that whole COWER OF A DOG AROUND FIREWORKS, FULL BODY FLINCH OF A HELD HAND & CAKED MUD IN THE KNOTS OF THEIR HOODIE’S DRAWSTRINGS thing going on. i just checked and their birthday is NOVEMBER 10TH, so they’re a SCORPIO, which is unsurprising, all things considered. ( tasha, 22, est, she/her)

hullo!! my name is tasha and i Hope Everyone is Doing Well During these Unprecedented and Uncertain Times n also having a happy ny x my second lockdown quarantine fixation of choice was degrassi n it shows FJGHK anyways b4 i go back to binging more (it’s all on youtube?? iconic??) here r the deets on my boi! i look forward to plotting w all of u :~) my discord is tasha#3566 pls feel free 2 add me!! tw for cults and brief mentions of violence/neglect/abuse. 

backstory !

was raised in a traveling commune, which bounced between state parks and forests. all intense survivalists but also...not, like obvs can’t have sustained agriculture traveling from park to park, so the group’s leaders would often detour alone to pick up supplies every now and then. 

but a horrible place to grow up, not that he knew that ‘cos it’s the only life he’s ever known. was just a pretty violent / toxic atmosphere with a hyper survival of the fittest mentality, a lot of sparring that would go too far, not nearly enough resources for the weather conditions, or anyone with actual medical training for when anyone got sick or injured - all under the guise of self sufficiency.  

also very poorly homeschooled, chase barely knows how to read, and stories/info was often read to them or recited by memory. 

at eighteen he’s given more responsibility, gets to go on supply runs. goes to like, cvs, for the first time. hates it FJHG, really just has no desire to explore more of the world even though he knows for sure it’s out there now. his ‘family’ are thrilled about this - knowing they basically have him for life.

trains and mentors the younger members, unwittingly encourages violence, sort of pushing them to their limits because for the group it’s less about winning and more about being able to survive - endurance and being able to endure is so wrapped up in reverence which he mistakes for love. 

when he’s twenty the whole commune gets busted, apparently they had been secretly under investigation for a while. his parents were in the commune too but never make that distinction known so the cops tell him and he’s like ok and ? just like, doesn’t know that that’s meant to mean anything.

goes to jail directly to jail does not pass go ... takes a bit to go to trial, but he ends up serving two years. and that’s what you missed on glee ! currently living with his grandparents at lilac ridge, which is weird. they feel very much like strangers. also on parole still, f in the chat.

personality !

hates it here, feels like shit just wants to go vibe in the woods again. is a lot more quiet than he used to be, truly flopping like a fish out of water.

always saying the wrong thing then getting frustrated at himself bc humiliating ! and if no one respects him, ‘cos he knows nothing about anything anymore then how can anyone ever love him ! this thought depresses him - finds it super hard to make friends ! doesn’t understand any pop culture references.

can be a bit rude, a wee bit hostile, physically aggressive, immature. just doesn’t think before he speaks smh. won’t admit when he’s wrong either will just be like, ya that’s what i meant. 

competitive as heck ! catch him trying to out chin-up the person next to him at the outdoor gym down at the beach. loves games too, but not like board games, think he’s only ever played cards anyways ... but like, duck duck goose. 

for all the survivalist training, not even that street smart (and not book smart at all). like ya he can identify types of mushrooms and wipe his ass with a leaf in a pinch but i mean he doesn’t need to do that now rip. 

easily influenced but pretends he isn’t, his grandparents were like chaser ? that’s no name. we’ll call you chase. and he was all like whatevs ... but now he introduces himself to people as chase.

fun facts !

other song choice for app was cop car by mitski, but chase doesn’t listen to music. or particularly like it, but he’s had to get used to his grandparent’s excessive radio use.

has dimples, very cute when he smiles. this is a fact and i personally find it very fun.

will eat anything. tho his fave food is honey on toast the cottagecore girlies are quaking !

favourite story is jack and the beanstalk which he still thinks was made up by the commune. doesn’t know it’s an actual book/tale bc they’d always recount it by memory.

everyone called him chaser because he was good at chasing people FGHJ, king of tag !

begrudgingly saving up for a phone, doesn’t see the point of it but apparently it’s imperative for his “ future life prospects ” ???

wanted connections !

really feels out of the loop with everything like he’ll never be caught up but, someone give him a pop culture 101 lesson ! 

someone to get him into music, film, art etc ... 

makeover montage ? rly do imagine him with the worst style !

someone who gets him out of his shell a lil, makes him has fun, takes him to a party or the arcade, endless possibilities truly. 

a future roommate, he simply does not have the funds to move out yet... but imagine...if they let him stay with them for free KFGH or let him crash whenever. honestly probably the worst housemate, just pacing at all hours, leaving the fridge door open. 

alternatively people who either know his grandparents ( who i imagine as a muriel and eustace FGJKH ) or live in lilac ridge ! 

people he gets in fights with...grew up where violence was a first resort unforch so the moment things get heated he’s throwing hands. or like, him asking who do you need me to beat up to someone sad over an ex or smth and actually meaning it...

co-workers ( where he works tba ).

and all the usual jazz, friends, enemies, hook-ups, unrequited crushes.

also stuff specific to the locations could be rly cool !

[badfauxmance]

The Saga of Alejandra/Sebastian - Part 1: Fake News

Hi readers,

Please pardon the dramatic title. It’s completely meant to be sarcastic. By sarcastic, I totally meant the idea that this relationship is a saga. As this writer once mentioned in a previous post, this blog will be discussing this “romance” for as long as the charade continues because of the fact it’s PR stunt that’s lasted way too long with very minimal results as far as we (or other skeptics of this relationship) can determine. To adhere to the philosophy we set out to achieve with this blog, this relationship (fauxmance if you will) is going to discussed and examined very closely, which was also done regarding the whole situation with Chris and Aly a couple weeks ago.

You might be thinking, “But Badfauxmance people, why are you guys writing a freaking SERIES about this?” Well readers, there’s just so much about it to unpack that we simply can’t limit it to one post. If we did, it would be a doctoral thesis length essay, which I imagine you guys have no interest whatsoever in reading. Which is why we’ll be breaking it down in digestible chunks for your (and frankly our) convenience. We frankly don’t have any particular idea how long this series of posts will be, but it’s going to be at least three. Anything beyond post number 3 will be just updates to the newest “events” this “romance” has produced.

To start this off, we’re calling this “Fake News.” Why? To paraphase our soon to be former President, the whole thing is a fraud. So let’s get to WHY we think it’s fake. To break this down further this post will address the following reasons:

Sebastian sounds like an insincere, hypocritical, Covidiot clown.

The timing of this “relationship” is very suspect.

The pap walk pics are way too good and clearly orchestrated.

Just who the hell is Alejandra and how the hell did Sebastian meet her anyway?

Alejandra puts WAY more effort in selling this relationship than Sebastian does.

1) Sebastian sounds like an insincere, hypocritcal, Covidiot clown.

Sadly readers, this relationship with Alejandra literally has made him sound like a hypocritical Covidiot clown. If you guys will recall in the timeline post, Sebastian once complained about the crowds of people going to beaches despite warnings that it was a TERRIBLE idea. This was particularly notable given how around that time was Spring Break and lots of college students were on their usual Spring Break vacations emphasizing how they weren’t scared of the virus because they’re young and it’s mostly elderly people getting sick.

However Sebastian over the course of his relationship with Alejandra has traveled to Spain In July for reasons that had very little to do with work. While his charity work is ALWAYS admirable (and also fitting with his past behavior), the fact he was visiting a children’s hospital during a pandemic didn’t seem to be appropriate. Granted the cases in Spain were low by that point (and so was NY state), it was frankly bad optics. It looked completely tone deaf and inappropriate to the situation we were all in. To compound the bad optics, he was on a yacht with Alejandra, where his romance was revealed. That’s most definitely not related to work, and I’ll be addressing this further in point #3. Sebastian was apparently spotted going to a Spanish nightclub, which had plenty of people also there, with no social distancing, etc.

He later shows up back in NYC with his new “girlfriend.” There’s literally no reason for her to be flying to New York as she doesn’t have any work reasons to be in the US. He however had to be back home to do self-quarantine so he would be ready to finish filming Falcon and The Winter Soldier. This would involve flying to Atlanta and then location filming in Prague, which was where he was in March before flying back home due to the pandemic.

The most recent event in this “romance” is the infamous Talum pap beach walk. I won’t re-hash this whole incident as I had already written about it so go read it here. It’s all contradictory to what he said back in March. He’s not an ignorant newbie to the business. He’s smart enough to recognize image and realize how this all looks bad on him. Perhaps I’m being overly optimistic or forgiving, but I’d like to believe that he’s aware of how bad this makes him look and he’s probably more bothered by it than you’d think. It wouldn’t be a surprise if this whole “relationship” and other issues with his Brain Trust is the reason why he’s looking kind of off recently.

2) The timing of this “relationship” is very suspect.

Again referring to the timeline post, It was announced in industry publications that Sebastian signed with CAA back in May. The interesting thing to note is that CAA has a history of having their talent participate in publicity stunts like pap walks. Granted CAA isn’t the only that does stuff like this, but they apparently have a reputation for having their stars doing PR relationships. It’s convenient timing that Sebastian has been home alone in New York since March and then suddenly in the beginning of July he’s spotted with a Spanish actress people have never heard of. (I’ll address this further in Point #4.)

In case people are questioning the idea of CAA orchestrating any of this, Ana de Armas and Ben Affleck had a TikTok video exposing the fact they participate in staged pap walks. Ana is represented by CAA and Ben is represented by Endeavor (the parent company of WME, which was was apparently Sebastian’s agency when he was cast first cast as Bucky). So it wouldn’t be much of a surprise if CAA is trying to get their clients discussed more by using their clients’ new “relationships.”

3) The pap walk pics are way too good and clearly orchestrated.

Just in case you weren’t aware, yesterday we just shared a link to a 2016 interview with a paparazzo who explains how staged pap walks work. I won’t explain further about it. I also just pointed out in the previous point the Affleck/de Armas TikTok video literally showing them do a staged pap walk. The photographers were a few yards away with clear shots of the two of them walking together with dogs. It’s impossible for Ana or Ben to miss seeing the four people taking pictures of them.

Sebastian’s and Alejandra’s pap pics are very clear shots. The yacht pics are particularly interesting because the photographer would have to be located on a boat to take them. Unlike a super crowded street, it’s hard NOT to notice a photographer on a boat just a few yards away from your own using a zoom lens to take pictures of you. Speaking of crowded streets strangely convenient how a photographer happens to be located right there to take clear shots of Sebastian and Alejandra in a location that doesn’t have a lot of people. Sorry, but you’d have to be completely unaware of your surroundings to not notice a person with a camera taking pictures of you. The Talum pictures both the “official” pap pictures and the “random fan’ taken pictures even have a few shots where Sebastian and Alejandra were looking directly towards whoever was taking the picture.

Are you getting what I’m saying here, reader?

4) Just who the hell is Alejandra and how the hell did Sebastian meet her anyway?

As I briefly touched upon in points number 1 and 2, Sebastian was in NYC when the quarantine began. He wasn’t spotted with Alejandra until early July. Based on her IG feed, she was in Costa Rica and then Mexico in March. Then flew back to Spain presumably because of various countries ordering their citizens to fly back to their home countries before international travel would be blocked. So as far as we can tell, she’s been in Spain that entire period of time that Sebastian was in NY. How in the world could Sebastian have possibly met her before being seen with her in July?

Some would try to argue they met through Jon Kortajarena. Sebastian and Jon were seen at a Hugo Boss event a couple years back. You can easily search for the pictures they took together. They are also IG friends. Alejandra has a few pictures of her with Jon on her feed and they were in fact co-stars in her now cancelled series, High Seas, which is available on Netflix if you’re interested in watching her acting. Incidentally the Hugo Boss event I mentioned was in February 2018. The first season of High Seas was apparently filmed Winter 2018 and was released in May 2019. Unless Jon and Alejandra were friends years before filming together, it’s really unlikely Jon would have mentioned her or introduced her to Sebastian before this year. Also looking on Jon’s IG feed, some of his pictures in March/April indicate he was in LA, so he wasn’t anywhere near either Sebastian or Alejandra. (If anyone knows differently, please let us know!)

Sure some could argue, “well what if Sebastian and Alejandra did online dating before they met in July?” Sure that’s a possibility. There’s plenty of people doing  online dating right now. But again, their only apparent connection is through Jon. That would be assuming Jon introduced them to each other, but why would he need to do so? Also why the heck does Sebastian need to be introduced to a Spanish actress who was still in Spain the same time he was in NYC if he wanted to get a new girlfriend? Are you people seriously trying to argue that Mr. Sebastian “I am in Marvel movies” Stan couldn’t find an American woman to be his new girlfriend? Seriously?

5) Alejandra puts WAY more effort in selling this relationship than Sebastian does. 

Sebastian hasn’t posted a single picture of Alejandra on his IG feed or make any references to her in his IG stories. You can try to argue that’s he’s not a very regular social media poster to explain all of this. However he has posted pictures of his past girlfriend Margarita on his feed. There’s at least one picture of her still on his IG.

Alejandra has possibly one picture of her and Sebastian on her IG account (it’s a long distance blurry shot which makes it suspect if it’s actually him at all), it’s really noticeable there’s not one definite picture of him with her other than the pap pictures. Also on her IG stories, she keeps baiting people with videos that imply she’s with him or at least the same location as him. It’s like look we know you’re his “girlfriend” why are you trying to so hard to tell us this? Actually in the next part of this series, I’ll be diving into this further.

The other notable thing is the fact Alejandra follows him on IG, but interestingly Sebastian doesn’t follow her. He followed and still follows his ex-girlfriends Jennifer Morrison and Margarita Levieva, (especially while he and Margarita were still dating) and yet he can’t be bothered to follow his “current girlfriend.” Incidentally the argument “he’s trying to protect her/her privacy” is a nonsense argument considering their pap pictures clearly identify who she is and even mentions the fact she’s a Spanish actress. So exactly what is even the point of pretending like she’s not his girlfriend when he clearly was okay with having at least one pic of his then girlfriend on his account. You can still see that picture on his feed even though they’ve been separated for about 4 years now.

Nothing is adding up, which only leaves people like us at Badfauxmance to conclude this is all made up for a reason we have yet to figure out, but we have suspicions. Which we will address in Part 5.

[mr-entj]

Mental Health Wellness Tips for Quarantine

Sharing a piece a clinical psychologist in my network published.

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After having thirty-one sessions this week with patients where the singular focus was COVID-19 and how to cope, I decided to consolidate my advice and make a list that I hope is helpful to all. I can't control a lot of what is going on right now, but I can contribute this.

Edit: I am surprised and heartened that this has been shared so widely! People have asked me to credential myself, so to that end, I am a doctoral level Psychologist in NYS with a Psy.D. in the specialities of School and Clinical Psychology.

1. Stick to a routine. Go to sleep and wake up at a reasonable time, write a schedule that is varied and includes time for work as well as self-care.

2. Dress for the social life you want, not the social life you have. Get showered and dressed in comfortable clothes, wash your face, brush your teeth. Take the time to do a bath or a facial. Put on some bright colors. It is amazing how our dress can impact our mood.

3. Get out at least once a day, for at least thirty minutes. If you are concerned of contact, try first thing in the morning, or later in the evening, and try less traveled streets and avenues. If you are high risk or living with those who are high risk, open the windows and blast the fan. It is amazing how much fresh air can do for spirits.

4. Find some time to move each day, again daily for at least thirty minutes. If you don’t feel comfortable going outside, there are many YouTube videos that offer free movement classes, and if all else fails, turn on the music and have a dance party!

5. Reach out to others, you guessed it, at least once daily for thirty minutes. Try to do FaceTime, Skype, phone calls, texting—connect with other people to seek and provide support. Don’t forget to do this for your children as well. Set up virtual playdates with friends daily via FaceTime, Facebook Messenger Kids, Zoom, etc—your kids miss their friends, too!

6. Stay hydrated and eat well. This one may seem obvious, but stress and eating often don’t mix well, and we find ourselves over-indulging, forgetting to eat, and avoiding food. Drink plenty of water, eat some good and nutritious foods, and challenge yourself to learn how to cook something new!

7. Develop a self-care toolkit. This can look different for everyone. A lot of successful self-care strategies involve a sensory component (seven senses: touch, taste, sight, hearing, smell, vestibular (movement) and proprioceptive (comforting pressure). An idea for each: a soft blanket or stuffed animal, a hot chocolate, photos of vacations, comforting music, lavender or eucalyptus oil, a small swing or rocking chair, a weighted blanket. A journal, an inspirational book, or a mandala coloring book is wonderful, bubbles to blow or blowing watercolor on paper through a straw are visually appealing as well as work on controlled breath. Mint gum, Listerine strips, ginger ale, frozen Starburst, ice packs, and cold are also good for anxiety regulation. For children, it is great to help them create a self-regulation comfort box (often a shoe-box or bin they can decorate) that they can use on the ready for first-aid when overwhelmed.

8. Spend extra time playing with children. Children will rarely communicate how they are feeling, but will often make a bid for attention and communication through play. Don’t be surprised to see therapeutic themes of illness, doctor visits, and isolation play through. Understand that play is cathartic and helpful for children—it is how they process their world and problem solve, and there’s a lot they are seeing and experiencing in the now.

9. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and a wide berth. A lot of cooped up time can bring out the worst in everyone. Each person will have moments when they will not be at their best. It is important to move with grace through blowups, to not show up to every argument you are invited to, and to not hold grudges and continue disagreements. Everyone is doing the best they can to make it through this.

10. Everyone find their own retreat space. Space is at a premium, particularly with city living. It is important that people think through their own separate space for work and for relaxation. For children, help them identify a place where they can go to retreat when stressed. You can make this place cozy by using blankets, pillows, cushions, scarves, beanbags, tents, and “forts”. It is good to know that even when we are on top of each other, we have our own special place to go to be alone.

11. Expect behavioral issues in children, and respond gently. We are all struggling with disruption in routine, none more than children, who rely on routines constructed by others to make them feel safe and to know what comes next. Expect increased anxiety, worries and fears, nightmares, difficulty separating or sleeping, testing limits, and meltdowns. Do not introduce major behavioral plans or consequences at this time—hold stable and focus on emotional connection.

12. Focus on safety and attachment. We are going to be living for a bit with the unprecedented demand of meeting all work deadlines, homeschooling children, running a sterile household, and making a whole lot of entertainment in confinement. We can get wrapped up in meeting expectations in all domains, but we must remember that these are scary and unpredictable times for children. Focus on strengthening the connection through time spent following their lead, through physical touch, through play, through therapeutic books, and via verbal reassurances that you will be there for them in this time.

13. Lower expectations and practice radical self-acceptance. This idea is connected with #12. We are doing too many things in this moment, under fear and stress. This does not make a formula for excellence. Instead, give yourself what psychologists call “radical self acceptance”: accepting everything about yourself, your current situation, and your life without question, blame, or pushback. You cannot fail at this—there is no roadmap, no precedent for this, and we are all truly doing the best we can in an impossible situation.

14. Limit social media and COVID conversation, especially around children. One can find tons of information on COVID-19 to consume, and it changes minute to minute. The information is often sensationalized, negatively skewed, and alarmist. Find a few trusted sources that you can check in with consistently, limit it to a few times a day, and set a time limit for yourself on how much you consume (again 30 minutes tops, 2-3 times daily). Keep news and alarming conversations out of earshot from children—they see and hear everything, and can become very frightened by what they hear.

15. Notice the good in the world, the helpers. There is a lot of scary, negative, and overwhelming information to take in regarding this pandemic. There are also a ton of stories of people sacrificing, donating, and supporting one another in miraculous ways. It is important to counter-balance the heavy information with the hopeful information.

16. Help others. Find ways, big and small, to give back to others. Support restaurants, offer to grocery shop, check in with elderly neighbors, write psychological wellness tips for others—helping others gives us a sense of agency when things seem out of control.

17. Find something you can control, and control the heck out of it. In moments of big uncertainty and overwhelm, control your little corner of the world. Organize your bookshelf, purge your closet, put together that furniture, group your toys. It helps to anchor and ground us when the bigger things are chaotic.

18. Find a long-term project to dive into. Now is the time to learn how to play the keyboard, put together a huge jigsaw puzzle, start a 15 hour game of Risk, paint a picture, read the Harry Potter series, binge watch an 8-season show, crochet a blanket, solve a Rubix cube, or develop a new town in Animal Crossing. Find something that will keep you busy, distracted, and engaged to take breaks from what is going on in the outside world.

19. Engage in repetitive movements and left-right movements. Research has shown that repetitive movement (knitting, coloring, painting, clay sculpting, jump roping etc) especially left-right movement (running, drumming, skating, hopping) can be effective at self-soothing and maintaining self-regulation in moments of distress.

20. Find an expressive art and go for it. Our emotional brain is very receptive to the creative arts, and it is a direct portal for release of feeling. Find something that is creative (sculpting, drawing, dancing, music, singing, playing) and give it your all. See how relieved you can feel. It is a very effective way of helping kids to emote and communicate as well!

21. Find lightness and humor in each day. There is a lot to be worried about, and with good reason. Counterbalance this heaviness with something funny each day: cat videos on YouTube, a stand-up show on Netflix, a funny movie—we all need a little comedic relief in our day, every day.

22. Reach out for help—your team is there for you. If you have a therapist or psychiatrist, they are available to you, even at a distance. Keep up your medications and your therapy sessions the best you can. If you are having difficulty coping, seek out help for the first time. There are mental health people on the ready to help you through this crisis. Your children’s teachers and related service providers will do anything within their power to help, especially for those parents tasked with the difficult task of being a whole treatment team to their child with special challenges. Seek support groups of fellow home-schoolers, parents, and neighbors to feel connected. There is help and support out there, any time of the day—although we are physically distant, we can always connect virtually.

23. “Chunk” your quarantine, take it moment by moment. We have no road map for this. We don’t know what this will look like in 1 day, 1 week, or 1 month from now. Often, when I work with patients who have anxiety around overwhelming issues, I suggest that they engage in a strategy called “chunking”—focusing on whatever bite-sized piece of a challenge that feels manageable. Whether that be 5 minutes, a day, or a week at a time—find what feels doable for you, and set a time stamp for how far ahead in the future you will let yourself worry. Take each chunk one at a time, and move through stress in pieces.

24. Remind yourself daily that this is temporary. It seems in the midst of this quarantine that it will never end. It is terrifying to think of the road stretching ahead of us. Please take time to remind yourself that although this is very scary and difficult, and will go on for an undetermined amount of time, it is a season of life and it will pass. We will return to feeing free, safe, busy, and connected in the days ahead.

25. Find the lesson. This whole crisis can seem sad, senseless, and at times, avoidable. When psychologists work with trauma, a key feature to helping someone work through said trauma is to help them find their agency, the potential positive outcomes they can effect, the meaning and construction that can come out of destruction. What can each of us learn here, in big and small ways, from this crisis? What needs to change in ourselves, our homes, our communities, our nation, and our world?

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[ericchaseanderson]

Q Days Project - NYC Celebration Tin

Today I received permission to share this. It’s the lid section of a chocolate tin to be produced by Louis Sherry chocolates, who have been famous for their distinctive tins for a hundred years.

My assignment was New York City. I wanted to avoid the most well-known sights, and instead focus on texture and how I felt about my adopted hometown.

(As an aside, I will mention that a wonderful author named Kate Simon expressed a similar motivation when writing my favorite guide to New York, Places and Pleasures, in 1959.)

The classic Sherry logo, it seemed to me, would look nice if the letters resembled yarn. A ball of blue Wool and the Gang was obtained from my go-to source, and a practical “yarnwriting” mock-up in cursive served as model.

What emerged at the end felt like the most cheerful image I’ve ever made.

(I will save the lid interior for a subsequent post.)

... As I typed those words, the street outside erupted in applause, and I realized that it was 7 o’clock. I’ll quietly add my own. Thank you, New York health workers and first responders.

EDIT: This tin is now available at the Louis Sherry site. Click the drop-down menu of “Designer 12-Piece Tins” until you get to the very last entry. Eric Anderson Central Park is its name.

[meganmeagher-pho101mondays]

Self-Portrait Diptych

Dana Scruggs's photograph really captivated me as soon as I laid eyes on it. I know that this New York Times Article focused on what African Americans thought of America during the last two long, and very difficult years. Scruggs's captures her struggles in this picture by adding dim lighting, and the only things that were brighter than the rest of the picture were the objects in the room. When I saw her laying alone on the couch while being surrounded by a very decorated apartment, I recognized someone who seemed lonely and hopeless, focusing her energy on other things besides herself. Quarantine made me feel like this as well. I was unmotivated and angry at the world. Scruggs said that the only thing that she felt like she could control was the appearance of her home, the only thing that I felt like I could control during quarantine was my ability to play soccer. The soccer ball and the game made me feel at peace and safe in a world full of uncertainty. In my picture, I am staring at the ball as I felt like I had control of my emotions towards it and it somehow took over my mind when I faced it directly. Still, to this day, soccer is the one thing that I can rely on to ease my worries.

Reference Photo: Dana Scruggs, Brooklyn NY

Willis, Deborah. “Self-Portraits from Black Photographers Reflecting on America.” The New York Times, The New York Times, 19 June 2020, www.nytimes.com/interactive/2020/06/19/arts/black-photographers-self-portraits.html.

[bomberqueen17]

big boy

So today was a chicken slaughter day and it was fine. This is 7/12 for the year so we’ve officially passed the halfway mark.

The two young male interns have both left to go back to school. They’ve been replaced by a young woman who has deferred her freshman year of college due to concerns about the handling of the pandemic. The two boys were rather rowdy, and she’s quiet, so far, but we’re glad not to be too short-handed, so.

We had a farm alumna come back for processing-- the first Assistant Livestock Manager, who left two years ago or so-- moved to Boston-- she’s working now as an inspector for an organic certification agency, and she had a farm on her schedule nearbyish, so she scheduled the inspection for a Monday afternoon before slaughter day so she could come camp out in a tent and help us while being isolated.

Farmkid is delighted to see her; she worked here for two years when Farmkid was like, hmm, two to fourish? culminating in Farmkid getting to be the flower girl in her wedding? so it was pretty epic as early friendships go in Farmkid’s mind, and she’s always so excited to see this woman, who I guess can just be Farm Alumna for this post’s purposes. She was super good about her mask, too. We’re currently in three different isolation circles-- FA, who has been isolated in a tiny circle of just herself and her husband in Boston, so she’s certainly not exposed, then the general circle of the farm, which is a large and irregular circle including me and my Dude, who is visiting presently, and then the third circle is the new farm apprentice and the last of the previous group of farm apprentices who just went on vacation; they’ve decided to co-isolate together, as the old apprentice was just on a plane and so ought to be quarantining, and the new apprentice who came from out of state and so ought to be quarantining and it’s just easier if they consider themselves a self-contained unit.

Anyway it’s a lot of mask-wearing and logistics but as long as we can eat lunch outside it’s not horribly difficult.

But the punchline of this post, okay, I promise it’s funny. It’s not that funny. Whatever it’s funny.

Mm last bit of background-- we had three apprentices this year but along with them they hired a new Assistant Livestock Manager. He is an adorable young man of like, 23 or 24, very cute, slight of stature, a bit, hmm, I intend this to be a sort of neutral descriptor, but swishy-- he’s a Texan who came to a small liberal arts college in central NY state to major in poetry? He’s rather interested in fashion? He likes to speak with exuberant gestures? Also he’s gay like in real life, but-- he’s like, cartoony-gay on purpose in his mannerisms, he’s also quite experienced at farm living and very practical and also he writes poetry. So like, he contains multitudes. Anyway he’s a fantastic character and I could not possibly create a character in fiction as entertaining as he is in real life. (After we were done with chicken processing he went home and showered and changed and then came back for pizza night, as is customary, and he showed up in these fantastic white denim overall shorts with rolled cuffs, and actually pulled off the look flawlessly.)

Anyway.

So, Farm Alumna (and former Assistant Livestock Manager herself, as it happens) has been all toured around the farm and seen all the various improvements we’ve made since she left-- she’d been by in November so generally she’s up on all the new stuff, but there’s been some additional new things.

The last thing she hadn’t seen that was new was that we got a really big long sturdy stainless-steel table to use out in the kill room, replacing two smaller tables of similar design. She worked in the evisceration room so she hadn’t seen the new table until we were cleaning up and it got moved into the hallway. She turned and saw it there, just as the new Assistant Livestock Manager was walking past it.

“Oh my,” she said admiringly, “look at this big boy!”

The new ALM paused, a little taken aback, then said “why thank you,” flexed, and kept walking.

[generallybarzy]

I had this idea a couple of days ago, when that pic of Mat wearing a black and red jacket was posted. You've been quarantined apart for the past 3 months, he was at his parents house and u were in NY; u decide to surprise him bc it's been way too long and u just can't help yourself anymore so u just take a plane and go see him (u only tell his parents and sister bc you know you're not just walking into their house like that). he has told you he wasn't doing anything tonight so it's fine (1/2)

and then, when you get to his place his mom is like "oh, no, he went out with his friends to this bar, i'm sure he'll love if you show up to surprise him!" but you're just SO MAD bc he didn't tell you anything and we're supposed to be quarantined. So you go over to the bar, there's a situation, you guys fight and you go back to his parent's place. He gets there, there's more fighting but y'all can't stay mad at each other for too long so you end up having a wild and silent night (2/2)

Holy shit i was thinking a similar thing, are we the same person? When these pics came out I was literally imagining getting in an argument and yelling at him for going out. Sorry, this hc got really long (and a lil too soft for a smutty ask), might as well have written a whole fic (maybe I will).

after three months without him, you were so tired of not being able to hold him and kiss him and see him in person, so you just decided to go

you made sure to call his parents and make sure it was okay

You went through all the manditory self isolation for 2 weeks before being allowed to fly in

and then, the morning you were set to leave, you called mat. you wanted it to be a surprise but also wanted to make sure he’d be there

“you have any plans for tonight, maty?”

“no, why?”

“i’m probably gonna be needy and facetime with you after work.” you smile on your end of the phone because really you’re gonna be face to face with him tonight. “You free?”

“oh, any time. my girl always comes first.”

and you really thought he meant it

you were giddy and excited all the way up to when you knocked on their door and his mom answered, and then your excitement deflated a little. You were hoping for Mat to answer.

No, no he’s probably inside. you thought

“where’s mat?” 

“Oh, he went out to a bar with his friends. I thought he would be back before you got here” 

now you’re completely deflated.

He went out with friends. He went out. Without telling you. When he told you he was gonna be there for you. 

“I’m sure he’d love for you to show up and surprise him there!” 

and you’re not the biggest fan of the idea of going out, but you also don’t want to wait and see how long it is until he gets home 

and his mom quickly invites you in and gets you settled and then you leave for the bar

The whole drive there you’re thinking “I’m not crazy girlfriend, am I? This is something I can be upset about, right? I’m not being irrational?” and by the time you got there you were 100% sure you were in the right

and when you see him, your heart aches

he looks so good, and you want to jump into his arms and smile, but you can’t with how angry you are at him.

mat’s heart almost stops when he sees you from across the bar 

“(y/n).”

“free any time, huh? I always come first?”

he pulls you over to an empty area of the bar so the two of you can talk privately, he can tell you’re upset and wants to calm you down and doesn’t want to fight in front of his friends

“what are you doing here?”

“I-” you get more angry at that, that mat is more confused as to why you’re crashing his boys night than excited to see his girlfriend for the first time in months. “I flew out to surprise you. You said you’d be free tonight, but obviously that was a lie.”

“Well, sorry I can’t see the future. things came up.”

“Things came up? Like going out to a bar with your friends when we’re supposed to be staying quarantined?”

“It’s not that big a deal here.” 

“’It’s not that big a deal’, jesus christ, mat!” you turn and leave the bar, and he follows you out

there’s still more yelling out here, mostly mat asking you to calm down, but that just infuriates you more

it’s midnight when you get home

you try to be quieter now, seeing as his family is asleep, but you still can’t help but whisper yell at him

“i can’t believe you, mat!”

“Masks aren't even required, why are you pissed about me not wearing one?” 

he rolls his eyes and it pisses you off

“they're not required, but I'd feel a lot better if you wore one just to be safe” but you know mat is stubborn and likes to pretend nothing can hurt him. "This is something to take seriously! You like to pretend youre fucking invincible, but youre not, mat! And if you're not careful, you won't get to go back to playing, and we'll be apart longer, and-"

and before you know it he’s backing you against the wall and is shoving his lips against yours

it’s hot and needy, and maybe it’s just what you need to get this frustration out of you

he fucks you roughly into the bed, the blankets shoved between the headboard and wall so it doesn’t make any noise, with his hand over your mouth to block out any loud moans or anything that could let his family know what’s happening 

there aren’t any words exchanged between the two of you, you’re both just letting your frustration out on each other

he’s slamming into you and you’re yanking on his hair and scratching up his back

once you both come and everything’s mellowing down and you’re finally wrapped up in each others arms, he quiets down and get’s incredibly soft

“i’m sorry, baby.” his voice is soft and mumbled against your skin. “I get it now. I get why you’re angry.”

“I love you, mat, and I don’t want you to get sick. I really don’t know what i’d do if you-”

“I’m know. I didn’t mean to worry you.”

you smile. you hadn’t argued this seriously before, and knowing that it was mostly resolved so quick was comforting

“we still need to talk though, mat.” 

“I know. In the morning? I just... wanna hold you.” 

“Okay.”

he spends the rest of the night apologizing and getting happier as it sinks in that you’re finally here with him. “I’m sorry for ruining your surprise. You can’t imagine how happy I am that you’re finally here. I love you so much.”

“I love you too.”

UPDATED because a kind anon informed me on rules and stuff for flying into bc right now

[workingclasshistory]

On this day, 30 March 2020, workers at the JFK8 Amazon distribution centre on Staten Island, NY, walked out on strike demanding better safety measures amidst the Covid-19 pandemic. Organisers stated that 60 workers took part in the walkout, while Amazon claimed that only 15 participated. The workers were demanding the facility be shut down for cleaning, after other employees had tested positive for the disease. Amazon then fired Chris Smalls, one of the organisers of the protest. The company claimed he was dismissed for breaching quarantine procedures, stating he did not self-quarantine for 14 days after coming into contact with an infected colleague. However Smalls pointed out that not only was this false as more than 14 days had passed, but, he told the Guardian's Kenya Evelyn, no other employees who had worked with the infected person were quarantined. * We only post highlights on here, for all our anniversaries follow us on Twitter or on our mastodon: https://mastodon.social/@workingclasshistory https://www.facebook.com/workingclasshistory/photos/a.296224173896073/1683608435157633/?type=3