#not demiro ace culture

[demiro-ace-culture-is]

hello, it is i! the admin of this blog!

while i am not as active as i once was, i still id as both demiromantic and asexual! shoot some questions my way and i might answer em

that's all for now!

[aro-culture-is]

demiromantic and gray-ace culture is knowing that if you ever actually explain your sexuality in depth to someone instead of just saying aroace people would have a hard time accepting it because people can sort of accept it if you don't experience either attraction at all, they can kind of accept it if you experience one but not the other, but if you somewhat experience both but never for the same person? for some reason that's too far outside the "rules" of sex and romance

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[aspec-culture]

Aspec culture is being delusional ace but being confused about not being aro. Until you find out about demiromantic and realising, THAT explains a lot. It's such a relief to find out that I'm not weird, and that there's enough of us out there to even have a name for it. This is why I love the aspec community.

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[artsyaech]

a masterlist of [thing] culture is... blogs!

[PT: a masterlist of [thing] culture is... blogs!]

part 1: orientations and general queerness

queer - general

@queercutlureis

@gay-culture-is

aspec

@ace-culture-is

@aro-culture-is

@autospec-culture-is

@aspec-culture

@questioning-aspec-culture-is

@quoicultureis

@qpr-culture-is

@aroace-culture-blog

@aro-ace-culture-is

@angled-aroace-culture (run by meee)

@tertiary-attraction-culture-is

@omniaspec-culture-is

@aego-culture-is

@aegoromantic-culture-is

@demisexual-culture-is

@demiromantic-culture-is

@aroace-autie-culture-is

@plato-repulsed-culture-is

@atertiary-culture-is

@cupio-culture-is

@demiro-ace-culture-is

@demiro-allosexual-culture-is

@polyam-aro-culture-is

@greyromantic-culture-is

@aplatonic-culture-is

@apl-culture-is

@aspec-sapphic-culture-is

@gray-culture-is

@arospike-culture-is

@abrosexual-culture-is

mlm

@achilleancultureis

@mlm-culture-is

wlw

@lesbian-culture-is

@sapphic-cultureis

mspec

@mspec-gay-culture-is

@bisexual-culture-is

@bi-culture-is

@pan-culture-is

@mspec-culture-is

@gaybian-culture-is

@omnisexualcultureis

@neptunic-culture-is

@uranic-culture-is

[vampire-fanboy]

actually on the topic of erasing characters identities and such what the hell is peoples issues with aroace characters?

like holy shit we all agree its bad and horrible to change a characters orientation....... until theyre aroace

why? hm? why is that? why is that suddenly okay?

(just now added a "read more" bc this became longer then anticipated lol oopsie)

and you fuckers always try and beat around it too like "oh i think think theyre xyzromantic but still asexual!!!" "i think theyre actually demiro not just aro!" and SO ON when said aroace character has not shown any interest in anyone anything ever attraction wise

and before anyone says anything. YES. I FUCKING KNOW BEING AROACE IS A SPECTRUM. I KNOW SOME ACES FEEL ROMANTIC ATTRACTION AND SOME AROS FEEL SEXUAL ATTRACTION. I KNOW!!!

Why do i know? BC IM FUCKING AROACE SPEC idiots

im grey-ace demiro, so dont even fucking try and argue with me people are just using aroace microlables "just for the sake of hc's" NO!! you are ERASING characters identities!!

asexual and ace-spec are not 100% the same aromantic and aro-spec are not 100% the same its a spectrum for a reason, theres microlables for a reason, and some people literally just feel fucking zero attraction point blank period! and you have to fucking respect that!

ugh i swear

and another fucking thing people always go "oh there isnt a shipping problem in fandom culture there isnt anything wrong with shipping culture you just hate fun!!" and i BEG TO FUCKING DIFFER

people ONLY EVER CARE ABOUT SHIPPING IN FANDOM!!! EVER!!!

It is so fucking hard to find normal ic things about characters without someone pulling some bullshit ship out of their ass just... BECAUSE!!! BECAUSE THEY CANT FUCKING CONSUME AND INDULGE IN THE MEDIA LIKE A NORMAL PERSON UNLESS ROMANCE IS INVOLVED!!!

ugh whateverrrr this turned into a rant and i dont wanna do that, im super tired i dont care enough to write an essay

[dykepuffs]

Two people I saw IRL today - That I trust and respect their opinions - said that choosing to describe myself as stone rather than using a word coined by someone (knowingly) on the ace spectrum is acephobic.

So, is it? I feel very attached to stoneness- both culturally and on a purely practical level - but if I'm accidentally communicating something that I don't mean to communicate, then obviously that's a problem. And I know that words move fast and have regionally-bound meanings, so not to get attached- Certainly, never to be more attached to words than to the community they represent.

(I've rambled before about how I don't really get where I fit on the ace-demi-allo spectrum or the aro-demiro-alloro spectrum because nothing seems to describe how I feel either but, is that in itself acephobia too?)

[magic-is-something-we-create]

i have the list in the thumbnail document but if anyone's wondering here are the members of all three camps:

AroAllo:

Lakia (Demiro Lesbian)

Iggy (Aro Gay)

Orev (Aro Bi) (side character in whispers who has captured my heart. im love them)

Gab (Greyro Bi)

Veratrum (Aro Bi)

Ano (Aro Lesbian (insofar as aliens with weird genders and sexes can be labelled thusly)) (from the Lost if that wasnt clear from the alien note)

Izak (Aro Pan)

Xiv (Aro Bi (with a leaning towards women)) (side character in goddess-touched. she/her)

Fen (Aro and whatever the equivalent of gay is for. wasp genders) (xe's from the second arc of TMS (and xir pronouns may not stay xe/xir im still undecided in how i want to approach xir culture/its interaction with the rest of the ehlverse))

AlloAce:

Dusk (Ace Gay)

Ember (Demisexual Bi)

Oak (Ace Lesbian)

He Who Loves The Air Too Much (Ace Het (being ace is why he matures into a woman eventually, as is the case for all Deepfolk women)) (dont question why a deepfolk is on here <3)

Sig (Ace Bi) (side character in goddess-touched. he/him)

Viola (Ace Lesbian) (she's from deity complex thats why u dont know her)

Beta (Ace Bi)

AroAce:

Annie

Katya (lorelei's sister that she lives with)

Autumn

Slate (Grey on both counts) (one of gab, annie, and andy's younger brothers)

Actaea (doesn't realize it)

Aralian (they could technically do parthenogenesis but im not doing that on screen cause it feels like a hate crime even if i myself am ace) (the Champion from the Lost)

Hunter (also from deity complex. yes this means the entire cast so far is ace. they/them)

Penn (Demi on both counts) (side character in TMS. they/them)

the Collector (side character in whispers. just a little old man with an interesting hobby :) don't worry about it :))

Ash (Grey on both counts, gay on the few occasions he feels attraction)

so i got a great idea for a series of aro week illustrations over the weekend ft all of my alloaro, alloace, and aroace characters (aka 3 illustrations) and i REALLY like the idea

but

crucially

all three together adds up to 27 characters

even just the alloaro one is 9.

i cannot possibly finish even just that one before the end of the week

[elithearoace]

Just made a demiromantic bracelet tell me what bracelets I should make next!!

[demiro-ace-culture-is]

Demiro-ace culture is getting most of the way through a video game before figuring out what romantic interest you want to pursue and having to start a whole new playthrough if you want to do it.

this is why i play monster prom over and over again

[aro-culture-is]

demiro ace culture is sometimes wondering if you're actually wondering demiro or if it's just that romantic attraction is going to work a little different for you b/c you don't have sexual attraction. then realizing that is a perfectly valid reason to consider yourself demiro. everyone's gonna have different experiences, for some ppl romantic & sexual attractions are separate. for me my asexuality does affect my romantic attraction, demiro is what feels best. and maybe i'm only demiro b/c i'm ace. but that's fine.

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[demiro-ace-culture-is]

!!! im so happy for you!!!!!

every time someone steps out and says who they are, the world gets a little brighter.

I've been thinking back on my aroace journey lately... it was exactly a year ago (November 16) that I first heard of asexuality & aromanticism through Alice Oseman's book, Loveless. And while reading it I related too much to the main character, Georgia (an aromantic asexual girl), who goes through her own questioning journey. It was after reading this book that I decided to do my own research about these terms and after going through a lot of grief, doubt, pride and acceptance, I can finally say this is who I am!

It's been almost a year since I embraced the labels "aromantic asexual" and I couldn't be more grateful to have finally found the vocabulary and language to describe my experiences and identity.

If you don't know me yet, I'm June and I'm in the aromantic and asexual spectrums. I am aroace. I'm whole, valuable and beautiful just the way I am. I couldn't be more grateful to have found these wonderful communities 🥺.

[trans-aroace-culture-is]

Transmasc possibly aro\demiromantic ace culture is spending weeks obsessing over video game characters only to realize that most of your headcannons are you projecting on to characters

I’ve headcannoned so many characters as trans or otherwise lgbtq+ at this point that it’s actually hard to find a character that I like and haven’t headcannoned as lgbtq+ lol

[demiguy-culture-is]

What is a grayaroace??

I guess this came up since it's on my personal info post - I'll gladly give a simple overview

Just to fully break this down for everyone in case someone hasn't ever heard this term/parts of this term..

This is going to be a rather simple info post, so I'll attach a few resources here and there if you want to further explore the various labels.

Aromanticism

Aro, or aromantic, is an umbrella term and as defined by the LGBTA Wiki is "a romantic orientation defined by a lack of romantic attraction"

This does NOT mean that aromantic people or people who exist on the aromantic spectrum are love- or emotionless. They can still feel and experience love in various forms.

People under the aro umbrella, can still be sexually attracted to others.

People who do not exist under the aromantic umbrella are alloromantics

Resources:

@aromantic-official

@aro-culture-is

Asexuality

Ace, or a asexual, as defined by the LGBTA Wiki is "a sexual orientation defined by a lack of sexual attraction"

People under the ace umbrella, can still be romantically attracted to others.

People who do not exist under the asexual umbrella, are called allosexuals

Resources:

@asexual-society

@ace-culture-is

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Being aromantic and/or asexual is does not need to be a binary thing, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. Being either/or can be an experience that exists on a spectrum. There are many sub-labels

E.g. (THIS IS A NON-EXHAUSTIVE LIST)

- Aroace, when you identify with both the aro AND ace labels

- Grayaro, a general term for being on the aromantic spectrum

- Grayace, a general term for being on the asexual spectrum

- Grayaroace, general term for being on the aro AND ace spectrum

- Demiaro, "a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum defined as someone who does not experience romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone"

- Demiace, "a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum defined as someone who does not experience sexual attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone "

- Demiaroace, BOTH demiro and demiace

ETC.

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I hope I've covered the basic info about the labels.

I personally ID as grayaroace (I also use demiaroace, but I like to keep it more vague just because of how much it really fluctuates)

[archerofchaos]

None Attraction, Left *very specific people*

The life of a demiromantic asexual

[demi-orientations-culture-is]

Demisexual culture is thinking you’re solely ace for three years and then experiencing attraction to one (1) close friend and going “hold on this wasn’t what I signed up for what is this”

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[questioning-culture-is]

Questioning culture is thinking youre alloace for the longest time and having a huge crush(?) on a friend and that you really want to be closer with them, slowly realizing that you might be grey/demiromantic, learning about queerplatonic relationships and immediately knowing that felt right, but not knowing if that was what you were looking for the whole time, or if you do feel romantic attraction on occasion

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