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an unfortunate announcement

I'm sorry, but I cannot be running this blog anymore for a number of reasons.

1) It's not been that great for my mental health. There's only been a couple of stressful things about it, all of which have passed. But between everything else in my life and the couple experiences I had, I haven't had an amazing experience with this blog since. Not bad, but not good.

2) I'll be going on a religious mission in less than a year and will be unable to be on tumblr during that time.

3) It's a lot harder to do this while living with five people that I'm not out to and having a considerable less amount of privacy I had compared to before (sharing a room with a roommate, people being home often in the living room, etc).

So because of those reasons, I don't think I'll really be on here any longer. That said, I don't want to delete this blog. A lot of cool stuff is up here. I'd be more interested in adding someone to here to run things.

I might start things up later when I'm done with my mission and have a better living situation, but that'll be in a while, but I still refrain from deleting because of that as well.

DM me if you're interested in being the mod here.

Sorry and thanks for understanding.

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demi-attracted culture is constantly getting told by queerphobes that "everyone is like that! I've been like that my whole life" bc they want to invalidate you. And then having to explain to those people that they're probably demi-attracted too lmao

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This week we are talking about why attraction does not equal behavior and some of the nuances behind what may seem like contradictions on the surface! Note, we are talking about positive things that aces and aros choose to do here, and not things they may be manipulated or coerced into doing. 

[ID: The first graphic has a light purple background and images of the demisexual, asexual, and gray-asexual flag. The text reads “Aces and Sex. Aces might choose to engage in sexual behavior or relationships because…They have a libido (aka, they’re horny). They enjoy sexual activity. They want to please their partner. They might not view the specific activity as sexual but as romantic, sensual, etc, and it fulfills other desires or attractions. They are demi and/or gray, and are feeling sexual attraction. They are curious. They want to have kids. It doesn’t matter why, and their identities and actions should not be policed, as they are harming nobody.”

The second graphic has a light green background and images of the demiromantic, aromantic, and gray-aromantic flag. The text reads “Aros and Romance. Aros might choose to engage in romantic behavior or relationships because…They enjoy romance or have a romantic drive. They enjoy romantic actions. They want to please their partner. They might not view the specific activity as romantic but as platonic, sensual, etc, and it fulfills other desires or attractions. They are demi and/or gray, and are feeling romantic attraction. They are curious. It doesn’t matter why, and their identities and actions should not be policed, as they are harming nobody.” End description.]

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demiromantic culture is thinking you're aromantic for about 6 months because you never get crushes and you're not interested in romance at all. But suddenly that "oh SHIT" moment arrives when you're alone with your best friend of 5 years having fun and laughing together, and when she smiles super bright you realize you've been in love for a while now. & you may be a bit interested in romance now... ngl.

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Demiro culture is making yourself laugh at least once a week by telling yourself the joke "Imagine if a demiromantic asked an alloromantic out... I know, crazy, right? It would never happe- oH wAIt" (If it's not clear, I AM the demi and this is exactly how I got a partner)

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demiro culture is always falling for your best friend

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Romoaro / Arospec Survey !

I’ve put together a survey to gather information about attraction and relationships in the romoaro community, as well as terms. You can answer it HERE !

I don’t yet have a closing date, but it’ll likely be in around two weeks [from today, 9/19/21]. The tag for this survey is #romoaro survey 2021! 

I’d appreciate it if you stopped by and sent a response! I’ll publish the results on my blog after the closing date.

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Demiro culture is your mum being confused when you explain what it means because "that's just normal" and then over time you help her realise she's aspec too!

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Multi-demi-label culture is wondering how many of your attractions are truly demi, how many are actually apres and depend on the existence of a demi attraction, how many are both, and whether it's all just a moot point because the end result is still just that you only develop ____ feelings towards people you have an emotional connection with…

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Traumatized demiro culture is having an intense fear when you develop romantic attraction to someone. And feeling like you’re living a horror movie because you know it ends in rejection from someone you really actually care about.

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Demiro culture is people telling you that your friend has a crush on you, and saying "and I know you like him back" but you just sit there like "do I? I know platonically anyway... But romantically? Hmmm..."

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Not demi culture but was wondering if other demiromantics have ever experienced developing a sort of... confusing weak crush because you have bonded with someone a lot, but you’re not quite on the same page and you can tell the other person isn’t reciprocating the the bond with the same... intensity? It’s hard to explain still very confused about it

Everyone feel free to add stuff.

But I have felt something sort of like this before. I've had a couple crushes that lasted a long time. One I no longer have feelings for and the other I'm losing feelings for now. But the other three crushes I've had have been short, not as powerful, and in some ways forgettable. So at least one demiromantic has felt it.

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reblogging from myself

I'm moved in -ish, but still have my first week of college ahead, so I'll be on when I can but who knows how much that'll be.

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so sorry, i'm moving this week so i'm hardly going to be on here and won't be answering anything for a bit

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MCU & LGBTQ+

I made a survey about the MCU and LGBTQ+ topics! I would deeply appreciate it if you took the time to answer my questions.

I was curious about some attitudes/thoughts/opinions in the MCU fandom in relation to the LGBTQ+ community, and thus this was born! Feel free to share this around. This will be completely anonymous!

This survey will have sections focused on:

More personal stuff, such as your orientation(s), gender(s), and pronouns.

Ways you headcanon characters as LGBTQ+.

Thoughts on canon queer characters.

Thoughts on canon ships.

Thoughts on queerbaiting.

Thoughts on queercoding.

Thoughts on shipping in relation to yourself.

Thoughts on shipping in relation to the fandom.

The only questions you are required to answer is the final two. I plan on writing something up about the results on Tumblr in a while (late August/early September). I can see each of your individual answers to each question. You will be required to let me know if I have permission to use your specific answers in quotations, paraphrase, etc. You will also be required to give me permission to use your answers in my data at all (56% ship Lokius or whatever). The only answer there is yes, so you have to give me permission in order to submit. I would very much appreciate if you gave me permission, but if you do not want to give me permission, please do not.

Also, if you would like to add more detail, you are welcome to use the "Other" option where you can write your thoughts.

If there is anything that needs to be fixed with this survey, let me know and I'll fix it.

Please only take this once! If you take this multiple times, it will skew my data!

If you have questions, send an anonymous ask to tumblr user lokigodofaces.

Should take 30-45 minutes.

This is open until September 5, 2021!

Please spread this around! Even off of tumblr! I'm gonna go ahead and tag a couple of people here. Some showed interest in this, others I just know and am tagging to spread the word.

@ladyflautist @thoughts-of-alaina @astronomicallymessy @liliya02 @worstloki @iamanartichoke @iamnmbr3 @herondale-snow-carstairs @high-functioning-lokipath @pepperonyscience @lazy-cat-corner @loki-spills-the-tea @milkshake-sprinkels @emys-123

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Welcome!

Hello there!!! I started this blog for fun!!! Similar to @homoflexible-culture-is, @demisexual-culture-is, @nonbinary-culture-is, @transmasc-culture-is, @queercutlureis, @greyromantic-culture-is, @trans-culture-is, @gray-culture-is, etc!!

Here we can share experiences of being both demiromantic and asexual. I know it's pretty specific, but that's all the better to have a space for us <3

Please submit asks, posts, aesthetics, or questions (so long as they're respectful!)

DNI: terfs, nsfw accounts, and anyone who won't respect this blog!

My pronouns are he/it/they, and I go by Crow and Salmon!!! Have fun, and all of you are so valid <33

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Demi culture is getting together with your best friend and calling each other your partner but still using terms like “bro, bestie, homie”

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