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aprilliouz · 9 months ago
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Kadang,
Lebih baik untuk melepaskan
Berbesar hati mengizinkan mereka untuk tumbuh dan memancarkan warnanya sendiri
Tanpa warna dan apapun dari kita
Dan kita pun demikian
Bertumbuh
Melepaskan yang membebani
Dan memancarkan warna baru
Biarkan apa yang pernah terjadi
Diukir jadi cerita indah untuk dihormati
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d0omedtodestruction · 25 days ago
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My life is a pair of black Louboutins with red outsoles, and they go on my feet, not yours.
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rosellacwrites · 2 years ago
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One of my all time favorites — I reblog whenever it crosses my dash
I’d like to introduce everyone to my new theme song
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ageingpopulation · 10 months ago
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i would rather try new things and struggle than be perpetually bored, and thats what im reminding myself as i head to the skate park for some public suffering
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poempoetryandmore · 4 months ago
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i think i‘ll always love you
even if its just a little bit
ten years from now a piece of my heart will still beat for you
maybe its the curiosity of ,what if‘
or maybe its the emptiness speaking
but nomatter why,
i‘ll always love you
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hellenhighwater · 4 months ago
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Hellen, how do you know how to do so many things? I know how to do a few things but I look at your stuff and every time I'm like "damn. I wish I could do that"
oh, I just do them.
It's after 1:30 am, so you get the existential answer. The fun thing about personhood is you get to just be whatever. You can't necessarily do whatever--money and laws are things, unfortunately, and you only get so much control over the opportunities available to you. But you can sort of just throw yourself down on the anvil of life and hammer yourself into whatever shape you want. Ideally the process of it drives out some flaws as you go, but sometimes also you take an impurity and make yourself stronger with it.
I am, still, a person who is terrified of failure; of incorrectness; of being wrong. And there is nothing to do with fear except shatter it with blunt force, and so I line myself up against failure again and again and again. I will try. I must; or the fear of failure wins, and I must keep trying after I fail or I have failed utterly. I fear failure, and therefore I take it as a challenge. I must do what I think I cannot. And you know what? More often than not, I can.
I have a weird and wandering skillset because I make myself try things, knowing full well that I will remember for decades every time someone saw me be less than instantly successful, because the only way I know to get better is to batter down the dross of my own fear. That's the deal. I'm not doing anything that nobody has done before. I know it's all possible. I just have to be the sort of person that does it. And it gets easier every time. If the question is can it be done and the answer is yes, then the next question is can I be the one to do it, and the answer is I want to be.
Every time I fail my way over and over to eventual success, trying again the next time is less scary; every time I have a broader base of skills to carry to the next challenge. I'm not unusually talented, just stubborn as hell, and I've lived long enough on I have to do what scares me that honestly, not that much scares me anymore.
If you keep failing long enough, it turns out that you just get really good at problem solving, and figuring out unconventional ways to reach your goals. It's not about a special secret concoction of skills, it's about persistence, and hammering away until you've taken a mess and made it into something you think is worth keeping. It's not easy, but it is simple.
Also I have incredibly strong unmedicated ADHD. But I sort of assume that's glaringly obvious.
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i-forget-nothing · 2 years ago
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On the other hand, though, if you care about someone and still carry on doing things you know irritate (or even hurt) them or even do it specifically to irritate them, I don't think that's a sign of maturity. That’s just someone being committed to the idea that their amusement matters more than other people’s comfort.
My fundamental philosophy is a “first do no harm” kind of thing: Make someone’s day better if you can, but if you can’t manage that, at the very least try not to make someone’s day worse.
It’s not so much people pleasing (although I’m plenty guilty of that) as it is commitment to limiting harm to others.
this is going to sound like such a little sibling ass take but i genuinely believe that being a little bit annoying is actually a greater sign of maturity and self awareness than being universally likeable and on good terms with everyone
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juan-francisco-palencia · 8 months ago
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𝙌𝙪𝙤𝙩𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙌𝙪𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙨.
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❝seem at times, we have to accept that some people can only be in our hearts, not in our lives.❞
—  Juan Francisco Palencia.
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nillia · 6 months ago
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Trust
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soracities · 7 months ago
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John Ashbery, from "My Philosophy of Life" [ID'd]
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beccawise7 · 3 months ago
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"The beauty of human connection defies logic, tradition, and our inherent beliefs. It drives our need for passion, touch, and understanding from those who see us as we are, not as we pretend to be."
~beccawise7💜🖤('23)
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aprilliouz · 8 months ago
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Tentang di mana kamu berada saat ini
Belajar untuk gak melihat titik seseorang berdiri dengan tatapan iri. Mungkin adanya perbandingan menjadi godaan untuk terus memaksakan diri supaya sesuai dengan standar orang lain. Seolah-olah kalo tidak sama artinya salah. Kalo berbeda, artinya kalah.
Padahal mungkin di titikmu dan di titiknya, kalian berdua sama-sama dihadapkan dengan tantangan. Masalahmu tak jadi lebih sepele hanya karena kamu belum ada di titiknya.
Mungkin belum sampainya di titik yang sedang orang lain pijak bukan karena kamu buruk. Tapi kamu memang belum layak.
Belum layak karena kamu masih disiapkan banyak bekal. Diberikan hal-hal lain yang bermakna di posisimu sekarang.
Jangan sampai, kamu kehilangan value. Kehilangan kesempatan menemukan hal-hal bermakna di tempatmu sekarang hanya karena pandanganmu terlalu fokus ke seberang.
Mari merayakan pencapaian mereka, Sambil belajar memahami betapa hebatnya mereka dengan segala apa yang dilaluinya untuk sampai di sana.
Sama sepertimu, Yang hebat untuk sampai di titikmu saat ini 🫰🏻❤️
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theeminentlyimpractical · 17 days ago
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“To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness. What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something.
If we remember those times and places–and there are so many–where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction. And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.” - Howard Zinn, The Optimism of Uncertainty, Sept 2004
this is what I will remember of today: a man at my polling place happily announcing that it was his first time voting since becoming a citizen.
I will remember this: when he cast his ballot, the applause and cheers of all the poll workers and his fellow citizens.
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kbsd · 4 months ago
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john and gale in stalag luft iii // "violet hill" for @swifty-fox
if you love me, won't you let me know?
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franeridart · 9 months ago
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The Housecat Philosophy - Ep 45
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essektheylyss · 6 months ago
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One thing that I feel is really interesting and often forgotten about Essek is that fundamentally, his characterization has been from the start based upon his desperation for external perspectives and connection, which, along with much of his narrative and mechanical positioning, means that he actually has an extraordinary and almost (but not actually, as I'll show) counterintuitive capacity for both growth and trust.
(Buckle in. This is a long one.)
In particular, I would argue, knowing now that many places where the plot touches Ludinus have long been marked for connecting back into the current plot, that he was quite possibly built as a prime candidate for radicalization by the Ruby Vanguard. He felt isolated from his culture, he was desperate for other connection, and he was certainly of the type to believe he was too smart to be drawn into such a thing, given his initial belief that he could control the situation and the fallout. If things had gone any other way, he easily could've been on the other side by now.
As such, he has been hallmarked by being fairly open to suggestion, perhaps for this reason, but the thing about that kind of trait is that it is both how people are radicalized and deradicalized. This is certainly true of Essek, who experienced genuine kindness and quite frankly strangeness from the Nein and was able to move from the isolation the Assembly had engendered to meaningful and genuine connection, largely propelled by his own internal reflection. By the time Nein are aware of his crimes, he's already begun to express regret to an extent and, furthermore, doubt in the Assembly, including explicitly drawing a line against Ludinus, even in a position where he was on his own and probably quite vulnerable.
Similarly, when the Nein reach the Vurmas Outpost some weeks later, he has moved from regret for the position he's ended up carrying a heavy remorse. This makes sense! He's fairly introspective, seems used to spending a lot of time in his own head, and was left with plenty to mull over. It's not some kind of retcon for him to have progressed well past where the Nein left him; it just means he's an active participant in the world who has done his own work in the meantime.
This is another interesting aspect to him. I've talked about this a bit before but I cannot find the post so I'll recap here: antagonists in D&D have significantly more agency than allied NPCs. Antagonists are active forces, against which the party is meant to struggle; allies are meant to support the PCs, which means they tend to be more passive in both their actions and their character growth. Essek was both built as an antagonist, in a position that gives him significant agency, and also was then given significant opportunity to grow specifically to act as a narrative mirror for Caleb's arc. Even when he becomes a more traditional D&D ally, he still retains much of that, though he occupies a supporting role.
I believe that this is especially true because of the nature of Caleb's arc, which I've already written on; the tl;dr of this post is that Caleb is both convinced that he is permanently ruined and also desperate to prove that change is possible. Essek is that proof, because he is simply the character in a position to do so. But this also means that his propensity for introspection and openness is accentuated! He has to do the legwork on his own, for the most part, because that's where he is in the meantime.
But he still ends the campaign necessarily constricted; he is under significant scrutiny, he's at risk from the Assembly, and he goes on the run fairly soon after the story ends. He spends most of the final arc anxious and paranoid, which is valid given the crushing reality of his situation. It would be very easy to extrapolate that seven years into this reality, he would be insular, closed off, and suspicious of strangers, even in spite of the lessons he's learned from the Nein and their long term exposure.
So seeing his openness and lightness now is surprising, but at the same time, given this combination of factors in his position in the narrative over time and his defining traits, it's not by any means unreasonable.
But one thing that I found so delightful is how much trust he exhibits, which is obviously a wild thing to say about Essek in particular, given much of what he learns is both earning and offering trust, which was something he says explicitly in 2x124 that he's never really experienced: "I've never really been trusted and so I did not trust." It makes up much of the progression of his relationship with Caleb, and the trust that he is offered by the Nein in walking off the ship is the impetus he needs to grow.
But I think it's easy to talk about trust when it comes to people who have proven themselves to you or to whom you've ingratiated yourself, and that's really the most we can say about Essek by the time he leaves the Blooming Grove. There is this sense in a lot of discussion of trust (not solely in this fandom) that it is only related to either naivete or love, but there's far more to it. Trust at its best is deliberate—cultivating an openness to the world at large is a great way to combat cynicism and beget connection instead. It allows a person to maintain curiosity and be open to experience, but it can be incredibly difficult to hold onto.
It is clear that the Essek we meet now is a very pointedly and intentionally trusting individual. He trusts Caleb and by extension Caleb's trust in Keyleth, as he shows up and picks up a group of strangers from a foreign military encampment and walks in without issue. He trusts the Hells to follow his lead moving through Zadash and to exhibit enough discretion so as to avoid bringing suspicion upon all of them. He trusts that Astrid will respond well to his entrance, but he also trusts himself and the Hells enough to execute a back-up plan in the case that she doesn't. In the end, he even trusts them enough to give them his name and identity.
He doesn't scan as someone who has spent half a dozen years living like a prey animal, afraid of any shadow he runs across in an alley, withdrawn into himself and an insular family, which would've been an easy route for him to take. He scans as someone who has learned the kind of trust borne of learned confidence and a trained eye for good will and kindness, which are crucial weapons one would need for staving off cynicism in his circumstances—as if he has survived thanks more to connection and kindness than paranoia and isolation. (If we want to be saccharine about it, he scans quite poignantly as a member of the Mighty Nein.)
So it is easy to imagine this trust and openness as a natural progression of his initial search for perspectives external to his own cultural knowledge. Though he makes those first connections with the Assembly to try to vindicate his personal hypotheses, he finds in them exposure to the deepest corruption among Exandrian mortals, which could've—and did, for a time—turned him further down that same dark path.
But it's also this same openness to exposure from the wider world that allows the Nein to influence him for the better, and in spite of the challenges he's certainly faced simply surviving over the past seven years, he seems to have held onto this openness enough to move through the world with self-assurance and a willingness to extend the kinds of trust and good will that he has been shown.
(I would be remiss not to mention that I was reminded about my thoughts on this by this lovely post from sky-scribbles and their use in the tags of 'light' to describe Essek's demeanor this episode, which is really such an apt word for it.)
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