#mspec tag

[queerplatonic-sculder]

i think i'm gonna just identify as asexual and unlabeled for my main labels. i hate trying to pick labels for my gender and alloromantic orientation bc both seem to change a lot so i'm just saying my gender & alloromantic orientation are unlabeled. and my asexuality is something i love having a label for and is the most important aspect of myself bc of how much i've struggled with accepting it and bc of how it's still so stigmatized, both outside and inside the lgbt+ community, so i love to show pride in it so all of that is why i'm keeping that label

[andromedasea]

happy pride to people with ‘contradicting’ identities i love you and you’re doing it right

[gay-otlc]

Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.

[clownshrooms]

happy pride to everyone who uses "contradictory" labels. mspec lesbians, mspec gays, lesbigays, gaybians, velaurians, lesboys, turigirls, boygirls and girlboys, oriented aro/aces, cistrans ppl, and everyone else i didn't mention <3

[gray-ace-space]

recently encountered a post where someone said "gender is fluid but sexuality isn't". (they were talking about bi lesbians.)

my first thought was: does that person, like. hear what they're saying? how can you explicitly hold two beliefs that are so logically inconsistent and not see it? how can you simultaneously think gender is this fluid and complex thing, but sexuality, much of which is defined around gender, is simple and stationary and its boundaries need policing?

but like, fuck, why even argue against it, right? there is no internal logic because there is no logical thought behind it. these are not genuine beliefs. this person is repeating what is currently acceptable in their (small) specific social circle. this is the same person who, a few years back, would be excluding nonbinary lesbians, but nonbinary lesbians are cool and normal on queer tumblr now, so they'll exclude bi lesbians instead, and not even pause to reflect on the difference.

oh, and if you read this and thought "these people don't even actually accept nb lesbians either", ding ding ding! because it's not a real, deep belief, that acceptance is extremely shallow and conditional. so as soon as someone is an nb lesbian in a way these people find odd (like being both a man and a lesbian) they will exclude them too and find a way to justify it.

why do we have to endlessly go through this cycle with queer identities. can we not? can we just not. i'm tired.

[clowtisms]

I made this

[mewos-laptop]

"But what if a cis man starts identifying as a lesbian ??? 🥺🥺"

Then good for him for finding out a label for his complex attraction. Idk what you thought I was gonna say in response to that.

Lesboys are boys who are lesbians. Straight up that's just the definition. That includes cis men.

[sirenium]

how about instead of siding with queerphobes with this 'invalid' shit we as a community actually start behaving like a community. Ya know, like uplifting your fellow queer individuals and standing up for them instead of crucifying them for their identity you don't understand. Stop siding with a cishet queerphobe when the target is a 14 year old with nounself pronouns, or an adult lesboy with xenogenders, or, or, or. Stop acting like your identity is the only one worthy of respect.

[loveletterliom]

KITTY MSPEC LESBIANS mspec lesbians, bi lesbians, pan lesbians, omni lesbians, ply lesbians, and abro lesbians — who feel connected to cats or kittens in some way, are otherkin therians nd stuf, etc... if u like cat aesthetics too

[thehealingsystem]

idk how I feel about certain identities (ie. mspec lesbian) now being sincerely called "contradictory" labels. like you do realize that they're not actually contradictory right? they don't go against each other, people have a reason for using them, that aligns with how they have been used in the past. what makes lesboy a contradictory label but not he/him lesbian? other than that we decided that one doesn't make sense together and is therefore "contradictory." well I don't think my labels are opposing each other, or some sort of oxymoron. they perfectly fit together for me

and don't get me wrong, experiencing contradictions is perfectly normal and is a part of human nature. and if someone legitimately feels that their identity is contradicting and takes pride in that then by all means. even I've been like "hell yeah! be contradictory! confuse the normies!" but idk seeing it applied broadly to any label that is now being deemed too opposing and weird to be put together (a rule that changes), rather than something a person identifies with seems a bit insulting to me. no, me being both a boy and a lesbian is not contradictory, I am literally bigender. I am a nonbinary lesbian. why am I considered an oxymoron compared to other nonbinary lesbians. because you decided me to be?

[queerplatonic-sculder]

ok. i'm changing labels and pronouns again (shocking, ik /s). my pronouns are now they/it. my gender is now agender/librafeminine. i'm still asexual but my romantic orientation is now bi lesbian. also still calling myself queer as well.

(i'm also using the labels genderqueer, nonbinary, sapphic, and multioriented as well but the labels above are my main ones)

[tinywafflerat]

Can we all just laugh at this person. Bro is okay with transmasc lesbians but not lesbian trans men ???. I’m technically a demiboy and transmasc, where the hell does that put me 😭

[gay-otlc]

Shoutout to queer men who are sexually attracted to women whether you be straight transmascs, mspec men, straight aroallo men, straight acespec men who experience some sexual attraction, or any other identity I forgot to mention. Your attraction to women isn't creepy or predatory or objectifying or misogynistic, it's just attraction and it's morally neutral and you don't deserve to be shamed for it. That's all, have a nice day.

[our-lesboy-experience]

happy mspec lesbian visibility week to all my mspec lesboys ❤💛💜 take care of yourselves

[phosphorus-noodles]

made an oli version of this so they can match <3

[hazelnut-hearts]

Okay what the actual fuck?

First off how tf are you still on Tumblr [clearly not succeeded in the activity front which is good]

Secondly why would you make a WHOLE ASS BLOG ABOUT IT????

Bro, WHAT? I don't understand how you could be so much of a hater make a WHOLE ASS BLOG for it

Thirdly lies, they are lying, liars