#modern day dating

[battleangel]

Chew. Harden. Lengthen. Satisfy.

The tagline for Hims literal Hard Mints Chewables in an online ad that auto-played as I scrolled through a wiki article literally nauseated me & makes me fucking sick:

Chew. Harden. Lengthen. Satisfy. With confidence.

Hims now makes and sells chewable hard mints for ED (erectile dysfunction) that come in “discreet” tins.

The ad for the Hims Hard Mints is absolutely sickening & dehumanizing.

I just saw an in-website ad for the Hims Hard Mints that auto played as I was scrolling.

I was actually rereading the script for the demiurge episode from Aeon Flux.

The dystopian society that Aeon Flux presented that I watched for the first time on MTV in 8th grade in 1995 has now become a distressing Orwellian reality.

Aeon Flux was deeply dark, mindfucky & deconstructive and included heavily sexual subplots where the main character, Aeon, clad in a skin-tight leather BDSM get up with an impossibly tiny & concave waist & ginormous boobs actually has sex with someone through a hole in her back.

Pretty dehumanizing & reductive portrayal of sex, right?

Just like the Hims Hard Mint ad.

So, the active ingredient in Cialis & Levitra has now been put into a hard mint chewable in a “discreet” tin.

Just like everything else, absolutely no thoughts to what might be behind the ED — anxiety, stress, mind body disconnect, unprocessed emotions and/or trauma, listlessness, lethargy, numbness, emptiness inside, loneliness, aimlessness, mindlessness, constant distraction, being overworked by design in our capitalist corporatist economic system, toxins chemicals & additives in foods & beverages, depressive feelings, malaise, existentialist despair, feelings of self-doubt, abandonment, isolation, inadequacy, constant comparisons, constant competition, keeping up with the joneses, overemphasis on the mechanics of sex, reductionism where sex is reduced solely to harden fuck ejaculate, lack of esotericism, total disconnect of mind body soul heart constantly caused by capitalism which is endlessly rewarded by disordered inhabitants that are slaves to the corporatist machine, lack of philosophical inquiries, never having a thought, watching pornhub on cell phone since 10 creating toxic harmful unrealistic expectations for sex. . .

Treating men like dehumanized sex robots and machines.

Chew. Harden. Lengthen. Perform. Satisfy. With Confidence.

Disgustingly sickeningly exploitative & reductive.

Reducing sex to nothing but moving body parts.

Why chewable? Why mint flavored?

Why in a tin?

Because then it seems like its not prescription medication - which it is, it has the same active ingredient as Cialis & Levitra - its just, pop an Altoid then go fuck her.

Just as mindless as everything else in our current 3 second attention span society.

Why not try to get to the root of what is causing the ED as 90%+ of physical & mental DIS-eases is literally your body mind being at dis ease and is caused by a mind body imbalance of some sort.

Why not look within instead of looking in a tin?

Why is the answer presented as a chewable Altoid?

Fun. Easy. Minty. Fresh. Discreet.

Why not reflection?

Why not meditation?

Why not examining ones own thought, minds, feelings & emotions?

Why not journalling?

Why not experimenting sexually and seeing if the ED is being caused by lack of interest in current sexual activities?

Why not explore your sexuality and sexual identity and see if boredom or malaise or lack of physical/sexual attraction may be at the root of the ED?

Why must everything be unthinking?

Simple?

Automatic?

Just pop a minty chewable chew.

In a discreet tin. Nobody has to know.

The entire ad focuses on the man satisfying the woman by chewing, hardening, lengthening, satisfying, performing with confidence.

Imagine that that is an ad actually describing a thinking feeling human being.

Its fucking terrifying.

Its nauseatingly reductive.

Its dehumanizing as fuck.

Its reducing men to literally nothing more than their anatomical reproductive organs and functions.

What of love?

What of ecstasy?

What of spark?

What of connection?

What of chemistry?

What of instantaneous chemical reactions?

What of soul connections?

What of soulmates?

What of twinflames?

What of beauty?

What of eroticism?

What of sexual soulmates?

What of sweat-filled intensity?

What of anticipation & build up?

What of longing & desire?

What of fantasy?

What of daydreams?

What of seductive allure?

What of devouring moments?

What of soul orgasms?

What of tantric sex?

What of hands free orgasms?

What of mental g-spots?

What of sexual exploration?

What of kinks & fetishes?

What of sexual preferences?

What of sexual identity & sexual expression?

What of wet dreams?

What of sexual attraction to the self?

What of turn-ons?

What of turn-offs?

What of sexual likes & dislikes?

What of trying different things sexually?

What of mixing things up?

What of roleplaying?

What of sexual imaginings?

What of erotic fiction?

What of homemade porn?

What of boudoir photography?

What of making yourself a sexual object?

What of self-fetishization?

What of lingerie?

What of voyeurism & exhibitionism?

What of sex shows?

What of public sex?

What of sexual personas?

What of sexual muses?

What of sexual adventures & misadventures?

What of orgies and one night stands and random hookups?

What of taking a break from sex?

What of temporary celibacy?

What of too much of a good thing applying to sex?

What of determining preferred frequency of sex?

What of getting to know yourself sexually?

What of societal sexual scripts that demand certain things from men & women?

What of not fitting the societally ascribed sexual scripts for the gender you were assigned at birth?

What of the intersection between your extremely individual & personal gender as everyones gender identity & expression is different & how that intertwines with societal dictates for how men & women are supposed to interact sexually?

What of sexual dogma that demands that the outcome of sex be an orgasm for all genders?

What of non-penetrative sex like oral, manual & intercrural?

What of sex being treated like a hypercapitalist machinistic end game?

What of love & loneliness?

No?

Just, Shut up. Chew. Harden. Lengthen. Perform. Satisfy. With confidence.

[cristalthekat]

I need to replace you but literally no one understands my humor the way you do. Why did I have to be so mean and split on you? And why do I want you back knowing you're going to give me the same non existent effort? What am I really missing here? If I'm being completely honest, I carried most of our conversations. I just liked the physical attention you gave me and let's be real, I can find that anywhere else. I guess I'm just hurt at the fact that you too said you wouldn't leave and scoffed when I told you I'm always the problem. I told you. I warned you. You told me you wouldn't leave. You lied.

[gntlmn1]

[supremeromanticizer]

Me when I catch myself wanting to be someone’s Friday night and not their Sunday morning

[puppyeared]

renaissance dogys

characters belong to @canisalbus

[missafricanbutter]

basically.

[countess-of-edessa]

the world is so fucked up and i can't help but think the damage is irreparable when i see people talking about how unusual and prudish it is to wait six to ten dates before having sex with someone. ten dates??? roughly like twenty five hours of interaction????? ten old timer burgers and mango iced teas from chilis equals sex?????? the possibility of pregnancy, STDs, emotional devastation, lifelong consequences, not to mention just straight up the possibility of getting murdered, with a STRANGER you have hung out with for maybe like two months???? and that's a LONG TIME???? and if you feel weird about that and don't want to do that that makes you NOT HETEROSEXUAL????? THATS AN ORIENTATION???? BECAUSE ITS SO OUTSIDE OF THE NORM OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR ????? i hate all of you i hate you i hate you i hate you every day i hate and I hate and I hate you

[benevolenterrancy]

Art prompt of Shen Qingqiu holding the aro flag (fits his color scheme)

the real reason this man doesn't realise he's tripping every romance flag in the story

[bon-sides-sw]

Grogu's favorite teacher, he really wishes to see him more often!

[halosketches]

a date :)

[cristalthekat]

Dating sucks. I just don't understand how someone can just want to use someone for sex. Is it strange that I want the cute little dates, the sweet nothings, all that lovey dovey stuff? I'm not meant for this style of dating. Is it wrong for me to want that? Why does everyone I meet solidify why I'm better off keeping to myself? I know I'm clingy and need constant reassurance..maybe it's a trauma response maybe it isn't but..it would be nice to one day find that person who can know how to handle my bipolar

[gntlmn1]

[loopyarts]

Day 7 Free day IchiLaw modern day au

Just the two dorky losers Law and Ichiji having a relaxing and chill hang out date together at Law’s place. :3c

[lotuslate]

@wlwangxianweek

Day 5: Domestic Bliss / est. relationship; they went on an amusement park date 🥰

[yu-ziyuan]

chengxian getting back together au where yanli makes them attend the incredibly specific event that im at rn bc the tickets were expensive and they bought them pre-breakup and one of them (probs wei wuxian) goes up onstage and gives this whole speech and asks jiang cheng to take him back and its cutesy & fun & sillay

[kneelingshadowsalome]

what's a cabin konig? Just stumbled across your amazing drabbles about cabin!konig but i have no clue what that actually means (im sorry 😭) and like, i can't really visualize it?

ALSO I LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LIVE YOUR MINOTAUR!KONIG WORK OMG ITS SO GOOD LIKE *chefs kiss* IT CHANGED THE TRAJECTORY IF MY LIFE FR

Ohhh cabin!König is just this broody nasty man who has hauled you to the Alps for breeding. He comes close to off the grid!König who's a much more benevolent fellow, whereas cabin König is driven by a single purpose and that purpose is to coax you inside this cute little mountain cabin and get you pregnant :/

He's very territorial and doesn't want anyone to disturb his mating season (which lasts approx. 4-6 months) so while you spend your days trying to choose whether to bake him Apfelstrudel or cinnamon buns, König is walking around the cabin's perimeter with a hunting rifle in his hands, checking "animal traps"/de facto killing any poor travellers who had the odd chance of wandering too deep into the wilderness...

Basically just a guy who decided that you're the perfect mother for his kids! You met him on some dating app and things got pretty serious pretty fast, König made his intentions clear right away... So now you're spending a romantic holiday up in the mountains because he said it's a stress-free environment. He also makes sure you stay nice and cozy and warm, eat properly and of course take his seed, every day just in case <3