#hook up culture

[snuffalufagus]

anti hook up culture

[vampiremiffy]

its so fucking weird how upset people get when women (and men to but i dont talk about men's issues, so that's it) decide to be celibate??

especially because most of them are doing it because their hook ups (men, because ive seen it mostly with straight women) don't care about them and they're only being a booty call/sneaky link and its making it worst for their mental health

and its surprisingly women judging them for "judging HU culture" "being a prude" or saying "i could never" jesus Christ dude, people are really addicted to sex out here

[vixxenlove98]

I love women too much to not tell them the truth. Stop rewarding horrible men with sex. Stop engaging in hook up culture. Money is nice but stop letting men get away with atrocities because they are rich.

These men do not care about you. Love yourself first then focus on love. I beg of you.

[ghostofdiamonds]

a play in two acts

[slobozan-shitposting]

Is something wrong with me bc I want long romantic relationship before any sexual interaction or is it just rotten hook up culture and pornography that don't value loyalty and affection

[luvm3always]

I 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑢𝑎𝑙𝑙𝑦 𝚑𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑔𝑢𝑦𝑠 𝑠𝑜 𝑚𝑢𝑐𝚑 𝑙𝑜𝑙. 𝖂𝑖𝑠𝚑 I 𝑤𝑎𝑠 𝑠𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑚𝑜𝑟𝑒 𝑡𝚑𝑎𝑛 𝑗𝑢𝑠𝑡 𝑎𝑛 𝑜𝑏𝑗𝑒𝑐𝑡 ♡

𝑎𝑛𝑦𝑤𝑎𝑦𝑠, 𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒>>

[smithjoy0]

[dannyvondutch]

HOW IT FEELS TO OPEN GRINDR IN A NEW CITE

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[bougieblkbimbo]

i keep seeing all these memes about having a hot girl summer and being in the streets this summer but i have no desire to do that. i know what i want now and my self esteem is high enough to the point where i don’t want to tolerate meaningless flings and situationships and people that can’t even court me. i want all males to leave me alone until i can get what i want

[qaytesquorner]

As someone who used to hookup, dudes will literally go out of their way to make a consensual encounter a rape or dubiously consensual.

[cupcakegalaxia]

Hook Up Culture is not only dehumanizing but it destroys the ability for people to create lasting and deep romantic relationships with one another.

[onadulting]

The Hook-Up Culture at its Finest

Living as a person in their 20s in the 21st century is as hard as it is but the additional pressure of having to go through with the current hook-up culture is a mess. There is this notion that this trend is empowering and something that everyone should try out because it’s a no-strings-attached form of self-pleasure. However, what no one tells you is just how damaging is it for those that do not wish to participate, for they are deemed as lame and prudes, so to speak. I guess to some, this culture is somewhat freeing but most just do it because of the lack of other options, they get swallowed up without the intention of it.

In my “humble” opinion, this sort of trend is a form of devaluing oneself for the sole purpose of sex. Which is very shallow. I am all for sexual liberty if it is done in a respectful, safe, and law-abiding way. But any new trend and social construction comes with consequences. Those consequences, specifically in regards to the hook-up culture, being the insincerity and superficial forms of relationships that come as a result. 

Anyone who shies away from this trend and instead wants for something more substantial is left with little to no options. Instead, this generation relies on rizz and games in order to get in someone’s pants. It has come to the point of not knowing who is being genuine and who has an ulterior motive. It has become so normalised that no one sees an issue with this. It’s a sure destruction of what real romance and love should be- for the bare minimum gets celebrated. Again, one’s value is determined by sex rather than anything else that makes a good human being. But who am I kidding? Personal qualities seem to have no value in this day and age.

Maybe I’m the lame one and the prude. Maybe all I want to do is find a good, loving partner and start a family with them. But I don’t know how that’s meant to happen if this is the reality. There really is no shame in wanting to be a part of the hook-up culture if that’s something that you really want, but please don’t shame others for having different views and forcing them into this trend. 

OA <3

[midwestaesthetics]

Hyacinths

Sunday morning goddess

I’m waking to your lantern

Shaped shoulder tattoo, flickering

In the first wisps of dawn

That peek through your Venetian blinds

Sunday morning empress

Your lipstick traces and hickey

Graces are worn like rubies and

Amethyst round my neck, now I’m counting

These precious stones in the mirror for posterity

Your sweet sighs breaking the waves

Of an ever-shallower slumber

Your ribcage’s slow-motion symmetry

In concert with every exhalation

February’s cold is giving goosebumps

To the exposed skin on my back

Your one loose bedsheet

I fasten into a makeshift robe

Until I locate, the clothes I came in

Calico voyeur sashaying through the half

Opened door, figure eights round my frigid toes

Appreciating the touch of warming hands

My newfound friend, she leads me knowingly

To the oak paneled pantry, for its breakfast time

I’m losing myself in the geometric infinity

Etched in the white-blue vinyl of your kitchen floor

Your sweet sighs still permeate my ear’s periphery

Against the dull white noise of your fridge

Draped in thin white linen

And seated at your round table

I’m drawn to purple hyacinths

In the see through gown of a glass vase

A centerpiece on oak stained wood

Suddenly I recall a recent headline, the rodent

Meteorologist is calling for an early spring

Last night felt like the heating of worlds

Stripping away my glacial feeling, now here I am

Nearly naked, basking in a spring thaw

Your ceiling light turned off and your autumn

Colored candles remain unlit and still

Your sweet sighs of slumber in the other room

Play like an Irish air of old, stirring my indifference  

Sunday morning is playing with my psyche

I’m only sure about my uncertainty

A few hours from now who can say

If I’ll be reading your poker face

Or if I may never see it again, excluding memories

Sunday morning is arousing my curiosity

For the first time in a long while

Though I’m not prone to your tarot and astrology

But the splendor of your hyacinth

Bouquet nourished by the sun’s incoming tides…

Is playing tricks on me, unsettling me

Maybe you’re annihilating me, maybe you’re liberating me

Before you rise and before I must decide, 

As you’re exiting hibernation am I exiting the door?

Or am I staying for awhile at your graceful invitation?

Before we start and before it’s all said and done

Let me at least find my socks… 

[cristalthekat]

Dating sucks. I just don't understand how someone can just want to use someone for sex. Is it strange that I want the cute little dates, the sweet nothings, all that lovey dovey stuff? I'm not meant for this style of dating. Is it wrong for me to want that? Why does everyone I meet solidify why I'm better off keeping to myself? I know I'm clingy and need constant reassurance..maybe it's a trauma response maybe it isn't but..it would be nice to one day find that person who can know how to handle my bipolar

[souvlakicocaine]

I don’t care that u hate hookup culture. I rlly don’t give a shit. it’s not the new and subversive take u think it is plus u prolly hate it 4 the wrong reasons so 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️