#loveless romo

[carlyraejepsans]

"speak for yourself" make your own post❤️

[gay-otlc]

"Some aros are in deeply committed and loving relationships that are not romantic" and "some aros do not want or need a committed and loving relationship of any sort, romantic or otherwise" are ideas that can and should coexist btw

[saffigon]

aros in relationships (romantic and non-romantic) are so important

aros who don't want any relationships are so important

romo aros and lovequeer aros are so important

heartless and loveless aros are so important

those that blur the line between any of these "opposites" are so important

[justagaymoth]

I wish I was more friending. I wish I could be friendless and only have one partners or be in a polycule. I hate the phrase "you need friends outside of your partner" because no friends make me overwhelmed and exhausted. I am autistic and aplatonic I can't do friends very well. I just want partners. I wish I could want friends but that doesn't come naturally to me anymore. I don't know what changed it could be trauma I have no idea and honestly I don't care. I hate how people treat aplatonics especially some aromantics and asexuals. I don't want to be kicked out of the aspec community for not loving most people. I don't love my friends and that doesn't make me a monster.

[ishipgenfics]

I do not know the words for the things I feel.

I love in that I care about you. In that I cannot remember your birthday, but I will set up reminders on my calender.

I love in that I feel no romance, but I will cuddle you on my couch. I will play with your hair and whisper my poetry into your ear.

I love in that I love the world, in that the wind and the waves and the sprawling grasslands fill me with an awe I cannot put into words.

I love in that I love softness. I love sinking into pillows at night, and snuggling with stuffed animals until I feel safe again.

I love in that I hate the way love is used as a way to hurt the people in my community-- the loveless and the heartless and the nonpartnering and the aplatonics. You are all beautiful, and incredible, and I admire you in whatever way you are comfortable with.

My love is a strange sort of thing, made out of songs and fanfiction and people. My palms do not get sweaty, my pulse does not race, but I can smile at you, and hope that you understand me.

I do not have enough words for my love.

[aro-culture-is]

sy

system aroace culture is having a host thats aroace and isnt a fan of romance but a headmate who loves love

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[redysetdare]

I kinda hate the need to specify something as non-romantic. Like idk i feel like it should be the other way around or something. why is it automatically assumed romantic? why must we specify non-romantic intent? shouldn't we be assuming things as non-romantic first and then having to specify romantic intent?

[schadenfreudich]

You know what I think is ridiculous? That the fucking god of love in our system can accept me being loveless better than regular ass people. His entire being is based on being love, but he never said "love doesn't have to be romantic" when I said I'm loveless.

But regular people seem to have a real problem with that. Don't fucking call yourself an ally to aros if you can't let loveless aros exist without having to tell them that love doesn't have to romantic. I know, I don't experience those kinds of love either.

[aroworlds]

[image description: eight rectangular banners with chevron-shaped edges in an assortment of flags with five, six, seven or nine stripes. From top to bottom: aconiromantic (dark indigo/indigo/light lavender/white/light green/green), aegoromantic (black/green/white/green/black), aro-spec asexual (teal/green/lemon/fuchsia/dark fuchsia), loveless ay (dark to light grey gradient/blue/light blue/blue/light to dark grey gradient), pomoromantic pomosexual (pink/light pink/white/dark blue/white/light pink/pink), romo aro (green to light green gradient/white/pink/white/light to dark purple gradient), sporadic aro (grey/yellow/dark green/black/dark green/yellow/grey), sporadic aro-ace (grey/yellow/dark green/black/maroon/coral/grey).]

Banner Bases - Aromantic Spectrum

Flags: Aconiromantic, Aegoromantic, Aro-Spec Asexual, Loveless Ay, Pomoromantic Pomosexual, Romo Aro, Sporadic Aro, Sporadic Aro-Ace.

Original files available for download from my Aro Arrows website or Patreon (links in description). Free for personal or commercial use; credit to one of my accounts is appreciated but not required.

For flag creator posts, please see @aroflagarchive​​​​.

[manyminded]

hello loveless aros. im a lovequeer aro. we are both parts of the aro community not given much representation. lets make out about it (only if you want to ofc)

this post also goes to aplatonic people. hi guys !!

[entropy-sea-system]

Used to completely not experience love at all but.. lately it really does feel like I sexually love my partners (or at least the one whos ok w love directed at them??) and f/o??????

(btw this is not to imply that all ppl will eventually love I just. its my personal experience and sort. of. overwhelmed by emotions related to love /pos and it may only be bc theyre my exception ppl - I have aspd and other neurodivergences so. I do definitely feel more loveless apl. still loveless aro in the rejection of love way but I experience some amount of love in a solely sexual way)

[saffigon]

heartless romo aros are so important

loveless romo aros are so important

"contradictory" aro labels are so cool actually

[unproduciblesmackdown]

lavender marriage / beard for the soulmate or timeloop au

[luxflora]

committing violence against amatonormativity in my mind rn. can you people just have fucking friends

[it-is-only-a-novel]

Aspec symbols

So I've been trying to gather a list of aspec symbols! Old and new, widely accepted, but also more obscure. Here's my list so far, including links and explanations (in italics) where possible. I've tried also to add in the specific labels that the symbols "belong to" where relevant/possible.

Arospec:

the color green (and anything green)

white aro ring which is worn on the middle finger of the left hand link

aro flag

archery (bow & arrow)

arrows of any type

frogs they are green (this is a more general queer symbol as well) link & link

yellow roses (& yellow flowers in general, seems to be more for alloplatonic aros, since yellow represents platonic love) link

sunflowers (aroallos) aroallo flag colors link

aardvarks link

anglerfish link

manticores link

rats link

nandays and caiques link

griffins link

phoenixs link

anatomical hearts distancing ourselves from the regular outlook on love, and/or love in general may be more for loveless and/or heartless aros

<2 link

succulents green

cacti green & many do not want romantic partners and can be seen as prickly, or want to be prickly

plants in general green!!

"no romo"

hummingbirds (aroallos) link

pineapples (aroallos) link

pizza & ice cream link

kiwis link

the emojis:🫀, 🏹, ↖️, ↗️, 🌻, 💚,🍍, 🍏, 💘 explanations: link

paper crowns references jughead jones from the archie comics link

Acespec:

dragons link

cake cake is better than sex link

garlic bread

the color purple

black ace ring which is worn on the middle finger of the right hand link

ace flag

space

pirates "Ace pirates aren’t interested in your booty" link

wolves

ghosts (demisexuals) link

axolotls

denim vests

cryptids

AVEN triangle

ace cards suits: spades-aroaces, Hearts-Alloromantics, Diamonds-deamisexuals, Clubs-grey-asexuls link

the emojis: 💜, ♠️

some of these are based off this post, and this master post

Aplspec:

the colors blue & yellow in the apl flag

apples (green apples can be geared toward apls that are also aros)

blue heart 💙

bees

iridescence

apl flag

blue roses link

Blue apl ring on the thumb link

based off of this post, explanations are there.

Aspec:

aliens & robots reclaiming stereotypes about dehumanization link

Artemis goddess in Greek mythology focused on her passion for hunting. Represents finding fulfilment in other aspects of life not only sex, romance, friendship, love, and so on. Also used a bow & arrow link and also my own interpretation from reading about her

Many thanks to @merely-a-caricature, @the-big-gayheart, @heartless-aro, @arosunflower, @saffigon, @crab-in-progress, @aroace-thoughts, @apl-aro-narc, @entropy-sea-system, @dateademisexualpersonwho, @legally-x, @askanaroace, @aroace-people-are-lgtbq, @the-amber-droid-dreams, @foolishfynnesse and @itsnotasecret20 I used their posts/reblogs/comments to compile many of these symbols (and I've linked the posts). If I've missed someone, I apologize, it isn't intentional!

Last edit: 23/2/2024

I also want to add, that this post doesn't include all aspec identities, such as agender, afamilial, asensual, and more. They are important parts of the community, but I'm only informed on some, so couldn't include them.

[aroapl]

Shoutout to ALL aromantics! To aroaces, aroallos, neu aros, nonsam aros. To loveless aros and heartless aros. To lovequeer aros, lovelustic aros, arolovic aros. To aplatonic aros, afamilial aros, analterous aros. To nonaesthetic aros, asensual aros, anattractional aros. To aroqueers, unit aros, primaros. To romo aros, partnering aros, polyamorous aros. To nonpartnering aros and nonamorous aros. To polyplatonic and polyerosis aros. To romance favorable, romance indifference, romance averse, romance repulsed, and romance ambivalent aros. To arospecs of all kinds and questioning aros. To aros who love being aro and aros who still have a hard time with it. To aros that are out, loud, and proud, and aros that are closeted. To gay aros, straight aros, bi aros, and aros of every identity under the sun! To aros all over the world! Shoutout to aros!! You're all so wonderful!