#loveless romo

[carlyraejepsans]

"speak for yourself" make your own post❤️

[gay-otlc]

"Some aros are in deeply committed and loving relationships that are not romantic" and "some aros do not want or need a committed and loving relationship of any sort, romantic or otherwise" are ideas that can and should coexist btw

[auggator]

aros in relationships (romantic and non-romantic) are so important

aros who don't want any relationships are so important

romo aros and lovequeer aros are so important

heartless and loveless aros are so important

those that blur the line between any of these "opposites" are so important

[justagaymoth]

I wish I was more friending. I wish I could be friendless and only have one partners or be in a polycule. I hate the phrase "you need friends outside of your partner" because no friends make me overwhelmed and exhausted. I am autistic and aplatonic I can't do friends very well. I just want partners. I wish I could want friends but that doesn't come naturally to me anymore. I don't know what changed it could be trauma I have no idea and honestly I don't care. I hate how people treat aplatonics especially some aromantics and asexuals. I don't want to be kicked out of the aspec community for not loving most people. I don't love my friends and that doesn't make me a monster.

[ishipgenfics]

I do not know the words for the things I feel.

I love in that I care about you. In that I cannot remember your birthday, but I will set up reminders on my calender.

I love in that I feel no romance, but I will cuddle you on my couch. I will play with your hair and whisper my poetry into your ear.

I love in that I love the world, in that the wind and the waves and the sprawling grasslands fill me with an awe I cannot put into words.

I love in that I love softness. I love sinking into pillows at night, and snuggling with stuffed animals until I feel safe again.

I love in that I hate the way love is used as a way to hurt the people in my community-- the loveless and the heartless and the nonpartnering and the aplatonics. You are all beautiful, and incredible, and I admire you in whatever way you are comfortable with.

My love is a strange sort of thing, made out of songs and fanfiction and people. My palms do not get sweaty, my pulse does not race, but I can smile at you, and hope that you understand me.

I do not have enough words for my love.

[aro-culture-is]

sy

system aroace culture is having a host thats aroace and isnt a fan of romance but a headmate who loves love

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[cosmicredcadet]

I kinda hate the need to specify something as non-romantic. Like idk i feel like it should be the other way around or something. why is it automatically assumed romantic? why must we specify non-romantic intent? shouldn't we be assuming things as non-romantic first and then having to specify romantic intent?

[schadenfreudich]

You know what I think is ridiculous? That the fucking god of love in our system can accept me being loveless better than regular ass people. His entire being is based on being love, but he never said "love doesn't have to be romantic" when I said I'm loveless.

But regular people seem to have a real problem with that. Don't fucking call yourself an ally to aros if you can't let loveless aros exist without having to tell them that love doesn't have to romantic. I know, I don't experience those kinds of love either.

[aroworlds]

[image description: eight rectangular banners with chevron-shaped edges in an assortment of flags with five, six, seven or nine stripes. From top to bottom: aconiromantic (dark indigo/indigo/light lavender/white/light green/green), aegoromantic (black/green/white/green/black), aro-spec asexual (teal/green/lemon/fuchsia/dark fuchsia), loveless ay (dark to light grey gradient/blue/light blue/blue/light to dark grey gradient), pomoromantic pomosexual (pink/light pink/white/dark blue/white/light pink/pink), romo aro (green to light green gradient/white/pink/white/light to dark purple gradient), sporadic aro (grey/yellow/dark green/black/dark green/yellow/grey), sporadic aro-ace (grey/yellow/dark green/black/maroon/coral/grey).]

Banner Bases - Aromantic Spectrum

Flags: Aconiromantic, Aegoromantic, Aro-Spec Asexual, Loveless Ay, Pomoromantic Pomosexual, Romo Aro, Sporadic Aro, Sporadic Aro-Ace.

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[unproduciblesmackdown]

lavender marriage / beard for the soulmate or timeloop au

[aroapl]

Shoutout to ALL aromantics! To aroaces, aroallos, neu aros, nonsam aros. To loveless aros and heartless aros. To lovequeer aros, lovelustic aros, arolovic aros. To aplatonic aros, afamilial aros, analterous aros. To nonaesthetic aros, asensual aros, anattractional aros. To aroqueers, unit aros, primaros. To romo aros, partnering aros, polyamorous aros. To nonpartnering aros and nonamorous aros. To polyplatonic and polyerosis aros. To romance favorable, romance indifference, romance averse, romance repulsed, and romance ambivalent aros. To arospecs of all kinds and questioning aros. To aros who love being aro and aros who still have a hard time with it. To aros that are out, loud, and proud, and aros that are closeted. To gay aros, straight aros, bi aros, and aros of every identity under the sun! To aros all over the world! Shoutout to aros!! You're all so wonderful!

[polyamorousmood]

Okay so I'm super aro but also shaking hands with polyam people like YES technically in a way they're opposites (lack of romo love vs multiple romo loves) but like! We're all vibing in a denying ananormanitvity in our own ways! I adore y'all!!

Also shakes this blog around like a rag doll /affectionate positive etc

- Loveless aro who stares at your blog from time to time but has to stop because I smile to the point of my face being sore + WAYYY too emotional and cries sometimes aahzgzhs- In a good way to be clear!!

Also very less important thing but holds polyam ships very gently they're all so neat aough shakes them around /affectionate

YESSSSSS!

We are siblings-in-arms 🤝, we are friends🫂, we are partners in crime🦹, we are locking eyes and giving each other a single firm nod of understanding and comradery, we are allies fighting literally the same fight⚔️.

My rights to choose the family I want is the same as your right to choose the family you want. The more we say "any relationship can be as important as --or more important than!-- romance" the sillier it becomes to champion a single romantic connection as one's life purpose.

Our fates and our fingers are twined, my aro friend. We will lift the other up when one stumbles, and we trek to the brighter world together. 🫴 Take my hand

[bromantically]

loveless aros and romo aros and aros who love love and aros who hate love and aros who are neutral on love. we can take over valentines day together . we can turn it into something new. something sexier . we can destroy amatonormativity as we know it with the power of aromanticism

[justagaymoth]

Answering a question from 119 out of this world (sorry Tumblr won't let me tag you)

They asked "what does being aplatonic and loveless mean and what is your experience"

I think I have made several post about being loveless and aplatonic but those are old posts and I post a lot

Anyways

Aplatonic means little to no platonic attraction or platonic feelings

It doesn't always mean you don't have or want friends but it can

Aplatonic is a spectrum just like all other aspec labels

My experience is not everyone's experience

Now for basic definition of loveless

Loveless is a term anyone can use even if you are not aspec or even queer

Loveless means you feel disconnected from love as a concept for any reason

You can be repulsed by the word love

But you can also be loveless and sometimes say Iove you to people

I personally am a mix of these two statements

I pretty much only love a few people

And that doesn't make those people special or the one

In one of those people is my younger sister so that would be incest

Anyways I don't feel love often

But that doesn't mean I don't care about people and I'm a very social and kind person

I just don't feel anything in my heart for my most people

The main attractions I feel are sexual and sometimes romantic

And familial attraction for my younger sister

I feel care for people as a whole and some people in my life

For me care and love are not the same thing

Love is a feeling

Care is a set of behaviors

I don't feel love very often but I do care a lot about the people I like in my life

I don't usually like it when people besides my parents and siblings say the words I love you

It makes me grossed out and anxious because I probably can't love them and I definitely don't love them as much they do

Sometimes I love the person I'm dating but usually I don't for a long time

But I still feel attraction to my partners usually mostly sexual with alterous or romantic mixed in

But sexual attraction is the first attraction I feel for partners

I am mostly allosexual

I experience sexual love for my online friend (Emma)

Sexual love is like being in love but instead of romantically it's sexually

Like I love them because I want to fuck them

Sexual love and family love are the main two types of I feel

I feel the most sexual love

If I think you are sexy and someone flirts with me and keeps talking to me

And I say I'm in love it's sexual not romantic

If you can't tell I'm aromantic allosexual and aplatonic

Now on to the aplatonic side of things

I don't want to have the number of friends I have it is way too many

And it's overwhelming

I feel grossed out when people I don't know call me friend because I'm aplatonic and don't usually seek out friends they mostly come to me

I'm a people magnet lol

I would be happier if I had a small polycule instead of a friend group because I don't like having a friend group because I'm aplatonic and don't usually feel Platonic attraction

Having more than one close friend is hard for me because I'm aplatonic and autistic

I feel like I'm supposed to love my friends but to be honest I don't

I would not mind if I drifted apart from most of them and only had her (the girl I make posts about)

I just don't feel attachments to most of them because I'm loveless and aplatonic

This is just me every loveless and aplatonic person is different

[haarvira]

Hey! I mean no disrespect by this at all I'm just genuinely curious, in your bio it says you're an emotionless / loveless aplaroace, but you're taken? How does that work?

Oh hey, you're fine. So, I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume you know that aromantics can still date, and aces can still participate in intercourse or other. You don't need attraction to do these things, though I'm sure it certainly helps! There identities that are on the aromantic/asexual spectrums where they can experience attraction as well or want to participate in these sorts of relationships(ex: romo or sexual positive aro/aces). Now apply this to the broader aspec/anattractional spectrums.

I will say that emotions can be similar. You don't need to have emotions to be in different kinds of relationships.

Emotionless/loveless are terms I go by to describe my overall experience and/or identity. It does not specify how much emotion or love I can experience, it's just easier to go by the terms instead of describing it all, as like with my aplaroace label which does not specify which identities I go by under that.

I also find it matters little to certain people and they treat me like others who experience even less than I do.

Now with all of that out of the way, I am on the aroace spectrums so I do experience attraction to an extent, and I experience it only with my two partners. All three of us have varying and different types of attraction. I also experience some other non-rose attractions to my partners and even for people outside of them, such as communal or community based attraction, impersonal attraction, solaic, et cetera.

You can really have any type of relationship, as long as it's consensual and in good faith, it's really limitless. Maybe you don't care about that and that's totally fine. Labels, identities, relationship styles/dynamics are for us to use or enjoy but it doesn't mean we have to. But I do and it makes me happy. My partners know I support them and wouldn't want either to be in a relationship with me where they are unhappy or discontent.

[aromanticmina]

master-list of arospec labels and microlabels

I like collecting knowledge of a lot of queer labels,arospec ones being no exception,so I'm doing a big post with all the ones I know, for fun and because it could be helpful for questioning folks out there!

all under the cut!

Aromantic: someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction, experiences it very rarely/vaguely, or otherwise has a significantly different/complicated experience with romantic attraction than most (alloromantic) people. It is a spectrum and anyone on it can simply call themselves aro if they want.

Greyromantic: someone who experiences (or has experienced) romantic attraction, but vaguely and/or rarely.

Demiromantic: someone who experiences romantic attraction only in the specific circumstance that they're really close with that person (or people), they do not experience "love at first sight."

Frayromantic: the opposite of demiromantic, someone who only experiences romantic attraction towards someone they're not close with, and if they ever get to know that person (or people) better,the attraction eventually fades.

Lithromantic: someone who can experience romantic attraction,but if that attraction is ever reciprocated, then the feeling abruptly (or slowly) stops.

Aroflux: someone whose romantic attraction can fluctuate, and is never really static, meaning their (romantic) feelings for someone may change every now and then, fading and intensifying over time.

Cupioromantic: someone who doesn't experience romantic relationship, but wants or has a romantic relationship.

Aegoromantic: someone who doesn't experience romantic attraction,but likes things that are "romantic" (movies,books,aesthetics,etc)

Non-sam aro: An aromantic person who doesn't use the split attraction model, they are "just aro"

AlloAro: an aromantic person who experiences sexual attraction.

Aroace/Arose: an aromantic person who is also asexual/in the ace spectrum.

Apothiromantic: someone who doesn't experience romantic attraction and is repulsed by romantic things and/or acts.

Quoiromantic: someone who doesn't understand what romantic attraction is,doesn't think the term "romantic attraction" is applicable to their experiences at all,or someone who doesn't think defining whether or not they experience romantic attraction is useful or important for them.

Bellusromantic: someone who doesn't experience romantic attraction but enjoys things that are typically seen as romantic acts (kissing,cuddling,etc)

Arospike: someone who usually doesn't experience romantic attraction, but occasionally experiences a sudden rise of attraction, before it eventually fades again.

Nebularomantic: someone who is aromantic because of their neurodivergency or their neurodivergency plays a big role in how they experience their aromanticism.

Reciproromantic: someone who doesn't experience romantic attraction unless the person falls in love with them first.

Alicoromantic: someone who knows they're on the aromantic spectrum but doesn't think any other label fits their experience.

Orchidromantic: the opposite of cupioromantic, someone who experiences romantic attraction but doesn't want a romantic relationship.

Myrromantic: someone who identifies with multiple aromantic spectrum labels at the same time.

Uniromantic: someone who only experiences romantic attraction to one (1) person for a long period of time, and this attraction is never felt for anyone else.

Platoniromantic: someone who can't distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction, therefore can't really say if what they're feeling for someone is romantic or platonic.

Caedromantic: someone who is aromantic because of their trauma.

Idemromantic: someone who doesn't experience romantic and platonic attraction differently, but can distinguish between their "platonic" and "romantic" relationships based on external factors.

Romo aro: an aromantic person whose attraction,experiences,or feeling may be considered romantic in some sort of way.

Loveless aro: an aromantic person who doesn't label any of their feelings as "love", sometimes because the word "love" is usually used to indicate romance and they want to avoid that, because the word doesn't have any meaning to them,as an act of rebellion against amatonormativity,etc.

Lovequeer aro: an aromantic person who chooses to center other types of love who are often seen as "less" than romantic love and/or their unique personal experience with these other types of love.