#labels serve a purpose

[kalm1aa]

can we NOT misuse labels for punching down. or even punching up sometimes. please. i'm beginning to feel like whatever community building uniting goals we were (hopefully) trying to achieve are getting shot in the leg by people who use (optionally — hyperspecific) labels to further isolate some social groups and ¿degrade? them? cause they just don't like them personally? bro that's the same discrimination we were trying to deconstruct by coming up with them. you're just doing the same stuff THEY were doing while justifying it by seeing yourself as an exception cause you're a minority. some news for you: you're still not immune to causing harm or being ableist or sexist or racist or whatever-ist and -phobic by weaponizing the tools you were given to protect yourself and feel accepted and safe and normal

[angel-archivist]

It's so interesting and so exceedingly frustrating how agab is being utilized now within the queer community as a way to isolate and sort nonbinary and genderqueer folks into binary boxes that determine their moral purity levels, and their authority to do and write and exist.

The way nonbinary writers are being put under accusation of fetishizing gay men while their AGAB is continually brought up in a way that feels like queer-space-approved misgendering.

The way feminist circles that are supposedly trans-inclusive will use the word AFAB in a way that implicitly but intentionally isolates nonbinary people who aren't AFAB from joining. It's for women*.

The way the language is already flawed and leaves out intersex folks from the conversations while focusing on a binary of sex that isn't truthful.

The constant obsessing over whether someone is AFAB or AMAB and whether or not that gives them the privilege to join, do, write, or be present in certain spaces really really concerns me. How are we supposed to dismantle a binary system of gender if we can't even move past forcibly assigning and focusing on people's genders assigned at birth?

[pricechecktranslations]

Same anon from the OSS post. Not sure if it's a foil or more of a stretch, but Eve and Meta feels like one. With Meta learning to love her children and her days causing chaos while in Apocalypse behind her, while Eve slowly went from loving those same children to wanting to cause chaos instead. Both also ended up massacring a town (Nemu and Toragay respectively), with the aid of their Inheritor abilities used on others.

I don't think they're foils to each other in the series overall but I do think mothy was setting them up that way in the OSS novel proper. Having them interact during Eve's chapter, with Eve decidedly beginning the story as a hero and Meta as a villain, only for their respective positions to sort of swap by the end. The way their personalities clash with each other, and the opposite nature of their romantic relationships (Eve's single-minded devotion to Adam that is ultimately toxic versus Meta's open relationship with Pale that winds up being genuinely loving). And so on.

I don't think them massacring towns really counts towards it, though. The methods they use are vastly different (Eve doesn't use her inheritor ability to kill anyone, she poisons them), Toragay actually has a sizable number of survivors, and frankly it's quite common in the series for villains to engage in mass massacre. Irina is stated to do it regularly, for example. Conchita and her father collectively pretty much wiped out the territory they governed. Riliane killed far more than just a single town. Etc.

The thing about foils is that they aren't just a thing you label characters as if enough of their traits are similar/inversions of each other, it's usually something that the author is doing deliberately (like Irina and Elluka in almost all of their appearances together). I think it's more likely a character is being written as a foil to another if the majority of the "foil-like" traits are in the same shared story rather than in another novel that was released several years later/earlier.

[soygii]

What's the difference between slut and a wife? The first is a public property; the second, a private property.

[cowboycharmac]

okie i felt bad i havent finished a project in a while so heres a edit i hope u like it :) ummm song is peach by kevin abstract and this video along with all my other edits is also on my youtube channel. obviously minors do not interact but i tagged it using the mature label so they wont even see it so umm whatever i guess ^_^

[askdannysroleswapau]

How would Gumball react to this image? :)

(assuming that you mean this in a /lh way)

i think Voidball would be flattered, considering most of their characterization is inspired by Megamind (and Nimona, to some extent) who would consider something like this a compliment

in fact, this sorta reminds me of that scene in Roxanne's apartment with all the hanging scraps of paper where she finally solves the big mystery... god i love Megamind its so good you should go watch it. why has this blog just become me telling you guys to go watch movies recently. what is wrong with me (its The Mucus)

[none-tadashi-left-hiro]

Is my toxic trait psychoanalyzing other people and thinking I’m the exception because I’m actually soooo observant and aware of the signs

[glitchclub]

"gen z vs milennials!!!!!" all of you are fucking clowns

[uncertainty5]

if the bi lesbian, trans men can be lesbians, non men loving non men discourse has taught me anything its that we all need to throw away labels. At this point they do nothing. If you tell me ur gay this tells me nothing. Doesnt tell me ur gender identity, doesnt tell me what kind of attraction u feel, doesn’t tell me who ur attracted to and who u make exceptions for. I could identify as bi but some people have a thousand different interpretations of wtf that means. So im not gonna use bi anyone. I use labels to let people know if an easy way what my identity is but u cant do that anymore. So fuck it get rid of the labels and tell people straight up what ur attraction is. Hello Im a person attracted to mostly men but sometimes women. People talk about the “gender fuckery” of the 80s and then u learn there were even less labels. Like we invent labels to describe our identities but then like…suddenly they dont matter? Everyone is valid or whatever but all ur left with are these empty hollow words that act more as decoration than like actual identities. And u cant tell people how to identify so like fuck it why even have them?

[a-frog-in-a-bog]

Literally what is a ',bi lesbian' tho like that's not even a real thing, people are so stupid I stg

the majority of women/fem-leaning nb people who use it call themselves that to clarify that they prefer women but are still attracted to men (even though it actually doesn't clarify anything at all), which is literally bisexuality but for some reason or another they think it's not?? it's harmful to both lesbians and bisexuals, as it perpetuates the lesbophobic idea that lesbians can be attracted to men, they just choose not to be/lesbians can be "turned" (literally the reasoning behind corrective rape); and that bisexuality is a rigid box with one correct way to be bisexual and doesn't allow for fluidity/bisexuality is based on gender and gender preference (it's not). other people use it to mean that they're still attracted to nb people and trans women ~even though~ they're lesbians, which holy shit, is so so harmful to insinuate that lesbian attraction excludes nb and trans people unless stated otherwise/only select sexualities can be attracted to nb and trans people. here is a real world example of the harm the bi lesbian label spreads, since people like to pretend it's harmless:

[adhderall]

tired of seeing people be stupid abt mental illness and symptoms btw "omg but everyone does that!!" yeah dipshit the point is that it reaches a pathological level and impedes functioning to a noticeable degree. everyone gets nervous but anxiety disorders exist for a reason, being sad sometimes is normal but depression is another level, etc. etc. I could go on with every other mental condition

[melonisopod]

I think a big underlying factor of the backlash against her is the idea of having to confront your possessions and grapple with whether you actually want them. Do you just have stuff because buying/owning things is a pasttime or does the thing you own actually add joy to your life?

And some people mock the whole “sparks joy” thing regarding necessary stuff like a kitchen appliance or a hairbrush, but even if those things don’t trigger a dopamine effect they still make your life happier because they serve a specific purpose. And again, you’re confronted with what the things you own actually do for you - do they make your life happier? That sort of thing bothers consumerist culture where things like fast fashion and shopping are considered pasttimes in themselves without regard for the actual things you have.

[jesusinstilettos]

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

[birlwrites]

okay that post that went around recently about starting with 100-word chapters to write the entire novel at once was ONTO SOMETHING. i tried a similar thing (at least i think it was similar - i didn't aim for 100-word chapters but rather for very brief overviews of every scene in each chapter, going more in-depth where the vibes called for it, but being sure to hit Every Scene) and not only did i get something down for every single chapter in my novel in one afternoon, i added THOUSANDS of words to my overall word count without even really noticing i was doing it

plus, it means that i've already done all the pacing work, so now i can go through and just focus on prose without worrying about how each scene is going to fit into the overall story, AND because i've put in something for every chapter, i'm pretty much never confronted with the terror of a blank page

this might actually change how i write, since i'm very much a plantser and have been wondering how i can trick myself into doing more detailed outlines without feeling like i'm taking all the joy of discovery out of writing the story. the sheer mood boost ALONE from having completed what i'm calling my 'pacing draft' and having the first draft out of the way is making me so much more optimistic about the act of writing itself

[bronzepatriarchy]

Chapter 3's ending has been fixed :D

I'll probably work on the start of chapter 4 tomorrow but I forgot where I plotted the damn thing >-<