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[jesusinstilettos]

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

[weirdlookindog]

“The things our terror dreams are built on”

Fred Humiston (1902-1976) - Heading for William F. Temple's 'Triangle of Terror'

(Weird Tales Vol.42 #4, May, 1950)

[postcard-from-the-past]

Vietnamese highlanders heading to fish

French vintage postcard

[seniouesbabes]

Lily Maymac 🌸💋🍒🌸

[journalinganddoodling]

Still looking for the better heading? No problem, here you can find some nice suggestions.

[xxglamouresque]

Giambattista Valli F/W 2023

[yakult-tests]

here is the heading (biggest)

here is the body

[piratesandstuff]

Finally figured out what a heading was, thanks Tumblr! Finally getting the hang of things here!

[theorangepdf]

the epidemic of grown adults playing tiktoks at full volume in public is rampant why are you acting like a 7 year old with their first ipad you have a mortgage

[weirdlookindog]

“He had painted a monstrous being on that awful canvas.”

Hugh Rankin (1878-1956) - Heading for H. P. Lovecraft's 'Pickman's Model'

(Weird Tales Vol. 10 #4, October 1927)

[postcard-from-the-past]

"Venice, heading to the Lido", painting by P.M. Dupuy

French vintage postcard

[seniouesbabes]

Lily Maymac 🌸💋🍒🌸 Sydney to London

WITH @GUCCIBEAUTY @GUCCI

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

For those who needed to hear it today

[bitchfitch]

writing advice for characters with a missing eye: dear God does losing an eyes function fuck up your neck. Ever since mine crapped out I've been slowly and unconsciously shifting towards holding my head at an angle to put the good eye closer to the center. and human necks. are not meant to accommodate that sorta thing.