#kitchen table talk

[teentoospoiled]

débutante diaries

“If I were a mother I would be damned if my child took advice from you,”

That stung me when I initially read that.

Throughout my rocky healing journey, I’ve learned that I have to target my teenage self in order to begin healing what was broken. My teenage self was physically and emotionally abandoned. This manifested itself into self abandonment, toxic traits and irresponsible choices.

TTS (teenTOOspoiled) is not only meant for teens. It is a safe space for adults to discuss what we wish we knew as a teen. Kitchen table talk; the adults are talking. And we are inviting nearby teenagers to listen and ask questions.

As a teenager, I wish I knew how to address my problems and emotions instead of distracting myself with work, boys or burying my feelings and responsibilities. I wish I began learning certain skills sooner such as languages or techniques to protect myself from a mental health crisis.

I WISH I KNEW…

Self reliance

Personal and business finance

The dangers of casual xes

Avoidance is a trauma response (dodging the bill collector, for example).

Can I be honest? I HATE TALKING ABOUT MY SH !!!

I was raised in a black household that taught me to keep people out my business. In addition, my family dismissed mental illness overall therefore so did I. I feel very uncomfortable talking about something so personal, to strangers.

But. I remember coming across an article that made my heart drop:

Black Girls Are Experiencing Record Rates of Self Injury & Death by Scide

Don’t skip it. Read it, it’s short.

I owe my audience transparency. Especially those who are 13-20, my teenagers.

My ask and messages are open, therefore I feel as if my audience should know exactly who they’re asking advice from.

I do not (always) give advice because I’m doing/have done better. Most times I give advice because I’ve struggled through it and learned the harsh lessons already.

Especially when it comes to dating. Another thing that I want my teenage audience to know: I was xes trafficked at the age of 14 and stayed in the SW industry until I was 21. My advice comes from picking the brains of my peers (other SWers), clients, miscellaneous staff (assistants, for example) and diligent observation.

They ask me what I do and who I do it for. I do this all for my teenage self. I survived by the grace of my spirit team and my smarts. Both street and books smarts. Another form of “code switching”.

I am signing off with inviting my teenager viewers to tell an adult about following TTS. Follow us on IG @teentoospoiled if you don’t want to expose your Tumblr account lol. It takes a village and adults shouldn’t be talking to children (teens) without the approval or supervision of an adult.

Tell your parents, your big sister or older friend. Tell them about my SH. Tell them about @bootobeneficiary . Question them about their thoughts on celibacy. Ask them if they’re comfortable with you following me. Always check in with them before following any advice of mine, unless it’s advice on how to protect yourself from them.

Practice transparency, as I am practicing with you.

[bestjeanistmonster]

about ur dc au, who is alfred? or is there an alfred

Alfred is Vanilla! She’s been serving the Wayne family since she was 15, taking over her mother’s position

She wasn’t particularly close with the family at first on an emotional level, her job to mostly being to take care if matters and essentially be a part of the furniture but she did manage to bond a bit with lil knuckles.

She was actually planning on quitting to find a less tiring job but then his parents died in crime alley when he was 6.

She had to pick the little guy up from the station and she hugged him as he cried in her arms

For the next 2 years she took care of him, cheered him up, took him to school, fed him, and tried her best to give him a childhood he would enjoy, to be that comforting presence in his life to help him heal from his loss and incredible trauma (his late father hadn’t rlly approved of letting his son goof off and had him focus on his studies and physical training). They both grew terribly close to each other in that time.

But then when Knuckles turned 8, Vanilla informed that Knuckles was to be moved someplace else as the request of his father in his will.

Knuckles didn’t want to leave and Vanilla didn’t want to let him go but she knew she didn’t have a say, so she assured him that she’ll still be here, attending to the manor until he returned. She was not allowed to know where he would be taken so she had to hope that he’d be alright, any letters she sent had to sent through a third party for Knuckles to receive them.

During those 7 years Vanilla ended up having a daughter but due to a city wide accident they were separated and the police couldn’t find her, Vanilla was devastated

When Knuckles returned at age 15 after receiving a letter from his dad’s lawyers that he can now return and receive his inheritance, Vanilla was 24 years old. She could hardly believe the young master had grown so much but she was very horrified to learn that his father had asked for his son to be dropped in the middle of the woods a few cities away so he can have ‘experience in the real world and put what he’d learnt to good use’

Vanilla thinks Knuckles’s father is a piece of shit. (This lady is the best and i love her sm)

[hanzajesthanza]

the fact that the hanza spent yule eve & yule together always haunts me. especially around christmas time heh. they could have done anything else with their time and hung out with anybody else but instead they were like hey guys let’s sit around the kitchen table like we do every single morning and eat some food like we do everything single morning

[lewkwoodnco]

LOCKWOOD & CO. Ep 6 - You Never Asked

[userautumn]

just remembered ryan came out and said multiple times last season that eddie is heterosexual after years of not commenting on his sexuality at all. much 2 think about

[so-long-soldier-writes]

kai parker + lip ring

have you guys taken a close look at his face and even thought about how hot he'd look with a lip ring? because i have, and i have some thoughts

tw: some nsfw

word count: ~400

as a big follower of the 90s era grunge / rock genre, kai had always wanted a lip piercing

his dad would never allow it, so he gave himself one in the prison world

at first, it was mostly a novelty, but with time, it became more of a stim, so he never took it out

he liked running his tongue over his bottom lip, feeling how the cool metal contrasted his otherwise warm skin

he liked licking it, biting it, and teasing it as a past time

sometimes, he'd pull it too far and hurt himself, but he quickly learns he liked that, too

when he got to the modern world, he was shocked at the decrease in the grunge style, which was a major disappointment, but he didn't let that affect him

he had lived in the 90s for twenty years, and wasn't going to change for the modern day

and lucky for him, you liked that about him

soon, he learned, he liked you, too; an initial curiosity turned into a crush

plus, you were one of the only people that would actually listen to him instead of villainize him

and when you admitted how hot you think he looked with his lip ring, he knew, even more, it was never coming out

the first time you kissed him, blurring the line between friends and something else, you were both nervous

he had never kissed anyone before, and you had never kissed a boy with a lip ring - despite that being a secret thing you've always had

so, needless to say, it was an experience for you both

his lips were softer than you'd imagined; the ring was cool to the touch, sending a jolt down your spine

after realizing how much you enjoyed kissing each other, you started a steady relationship

your relationship is equally loving as it is sexual

and boy, especially with that little magic ring, is it sexual

all kai needs to do is look at you and run his tongue over his bottom lip, and you're kissing him the next second

you like to play with the ring almost as much as he does

and often leave his lower lip red and sore from your sucking and teasing

whenever this happens, he's completely unable to control his moans

they tumble out of his mouth hurriedly. his eyelids flutter in pleasure, and his hands dig in your hair for something to grab onto

you also love the feeling of his mouth on your tits; warm everywhere except that one cooler spot

your breasts are wet with the spit of your sex-drunk lover

his fingers are on your clit, driving you crazy in the best way

or, it's his mouth on your clit instead

he kisses down your stomach, then sticks his tongue out to tease between your folds

his hands grip your hips tightly, holding you in place, and contradicting the warmth of his mouth and the heat scorching your body, the cold metal rests on your skin, providing an unusual, yet heavenly sensation

he bites on your neck, your lips, your thighs, resulting in hickies, most of the time, but sometimes, small indents from his teeth

the longer his mouth works against your body, the more his ring adapts to the friction

it isn't cool to the touch anymore, but you can still feel the shape and outline of where it is, and that turns you on just as much as the difference in temperature

in summary, it drives you crazy; he drives you crazy

you are always teasing each other, always touching each other in some way

your friends don't understand it - not only how you're able to tolerate him, let alone love him

but in a quick couple of weeks, you realize you absolutely, completely love him

and it all started because you couldn't stop staring at his pretty pink lips, and that ring that adorns them

[mumblelard]

else or i had a dream within a dream dream last night and i wish i could throw my hands up, exasperated by the bogmonster's relentlessly cryptic babbling, but i have a good idea what they are on about, and we are nearing swallowed by a great fish time if i don't do something about it

the punks came over last night and we drank homemade four lokos and some assorted dollar bucket nonsense. we ate one unexpectedly good pizza and one unexpectedly bad pizza and talked about emo nights, diurnally promiscuous beavers, chipmunk kittens, trail's ends, trials, tribulations, and planned trips, dirt days, lost keys, pain thresholds, and the language of bureaucracy. it was a good night

[gellavonhamster]

Hello! Do you happen to have a picture of the Harkers pressing their foreheads in the Becky Cloonan illustrated book? (I like that it seems she drew Jonathan's hair changing color)

Hi! Yeah, here it is:

[lemonynuggets]

everytime I tell myself I’m gonna draw something weird happens. Wdym you can’t doodle today because a bunch of glass just exploded on your kitchen

[selfspinninglies]

obligatory intro post that I haven't made before despite being on this website for over a year -

-nsfw, homo/trans/xenophobic, ableist, racist dni.

-system

-our preferred names change a lot but for now just call us vince[nt], ivan, viscera, aorta, rot, or sinew

it/he/name pronouns [they/them occasionally] + any neopronouns [masc/neutral terms]

-I mostly draw oc stuff at the moment

-doodle/sketch requests are open !! (I will likely procrastinate to all hell on it though . apologies . Also i might not do them period)

-I write sometimes

-drawing box [the link is broken but i don't feel like removing it]

-spotify (don't make music it's just playlists jsknb, 79 to be exact)

-current hyperfixation(s): our ocs [<- a lot of them], body horror, vicious/vengeful, haikyuu

-messages are always open or talk to us on discord [our account is visionsuntangible just let us know who you are]

[taglist under the cut]

#noodle talks- just me saying things [self explanatory]

#defnotdoodles- doodles and sketches

#art- self explanatory, only finished things here

#not art- any post i make that doesn't have art [self explanatory]

#drabbles- writing tag

#fave- favorites

#mecore- self explanatory

#helpful- self explanatory

#for later- self explanatory

#sysposting- posts about system things

#moot- anything with my mutuals (ily <3 /p)

[au descriptions are simplified for brevity]

#kitchen sink- dead plate time loop au

#table for two- dead plate au that takes place after ending one

#ashtray- post abbatoir ending haunted vince au, extra salt in the wound he only kills Rody after they have their whole conversation

#cyborg theater- [might change the name later i just needed something] bad end theater x vtsom au

#Spotify- spotify links

#fanart- art by other people for my stuff <3

#plushieposting- posts about my plushies

#oc stuff- general oc tag + stuff that reminds me of them

oc story tags- #abyssal , #I'll love you when you fall apart [#ilywyfa] , #divine intervention, the anatomy of being wrong [#taobw], #experimental [check posts on those tags for what they're about]

[vaguely-concerned]

I think rye really likes chocolate, but like... mostly very very dark chocolate. boring bitter barely sweetened adult person chocolate, to the point where most of the others find it borderline inedible. it's a regular occurrence for someone to raid the lighthouse kitchen for snacks and light up like 'ooooh wait we've got chocolate???' and someone else has to go 'yeah but it's only rook chocolate tho sorry :/'. 'oh okay :')'

[mrcowboydeanwinchester]

i had such a rich s12 jomary scene idea this time last year and now i cannot remember any of the details apart from the vibes and it's driving me around the bend. i think it is s12 mary just back from being dead and she's freshly 29. jo harvelle has survived everything they've so far thrown at her and so is 31 years old. jo is older than mary, this woman she's heard dean and sam idolise her whole life, and now gets to meet her and she's younger than jo is. and she's not some untouchable doll of a housewife she is just a young woman so much like jo. they're sharing beers in the bunker kitchen at 1am discovering everything about each other and it's the most surreal experience either of them have ever had but things are starting to fall into place and hey maybe the details are coming back to me now

[cobra-creampuff]

people who see someone frantically shoving food into their mouth and think they're rude or gluttonous or whatever are... well "unspeakably naive" is the nicest possible way to phrase it.

[klanced]

I love you for single handedly keeping the VLD fandom alive for us 💜💜💜. Keep doing what you’re doing

honestly i'm just certifiably insane like this isn't even voltron anymore. we are so far past canon voltron it's not even funny. we are now fully enveloped in the KCU (klanced cinematic universe) and you all are my captive audience

[sga-owns-my-soul]

imagine if vine was a thing in the early 2000s

imagine if they had vine on atlantis

[hajihiko]

I'm sure one or perhaps even two people have wondered where my horror thinking comes from, and well, you see, I'm really fucking good at scaring the shit out of myself with only my thoughts