#is it laziness or do i need help

[rugmunchiez]

As someone who has ADHD and is Bipolar depressive, there have been many times in my life I would have been labeled as a "lazy system abuser," due to my sleeping 12 to 15 hours a day and inability to hold a full time job, among other things. If I'd have had a system that wanted to support me, maybe my depressive episodes would have been shortened, or I may have had enough time to find a job more applicable to my talents. I am now comfortably able to work a full-time 9 to 5 without major difficulties. Now that i am a part of the greater system, I would be happy to have my money go to the pocket of people who are going through struggles like i did. I want to pay for the depressed person to get their meds and some ice cream. I want to pay for the amputees' new prosthetic and for them to take 6 months off work to get used to it. I want to pay for the young family's daycare so the parents can focus on furthering their education and becoming doctors. What is wrong with that? I don't want to pay for missiles that are going to be dropped on civilian homes. I don't want to pay for a puppet government in another country. I don't want to pay for a company to get out of debt that it put itself in through overproduction and poor business choices. Think about where your taxes actually go and who you actually want to help.

[inkskinned]

they want to talk about mental illness and acceptance and how everyone is a little ocd it's cute and quirky and their "intrusive thoughts" are about cutting their hair off and you say yours are about taking a razorblade to your eye and they say ew can you not and everyone is a little adhd sometimes! except if you're late it's a personality flaw and it's because you are careless and cruel (and someone else with adhd mentions they can be on time, so why can't you?) and it's not an eating disorder if it's girl dinner! it's not mania if it's girl math! what do you mean you blew all of your savings on nonrefundable plane tickets for a plane you didn't even end up taking. what do you mean that you are afraid of eating. get over it. they roll their little lips up into a sneer. can you not, like, trauma dump?

they love it on them they like to wear pieces of your suffering like jewels so that it hangs off their tongue in rapiers. they are allowed to arm-chair diagnose and cherrypick their poisons but you can't ever miss too many showers because that's, like, "fuckken gross?" so anyone mean is a narcissist. so anyone with visual tics is clearly faking it and is so cringe. but they get to scream and hit customer service employees because well, i got overwhelmed.

you keep seeing these posts about how people pleasers are "inherently manipulative" and how it's totally unfair behavior. but you are a people pleaser, you have an ingrained fawn response. in the comments, you have typed and deleted the words just because it is technically true does not make it an empathetic or kind reading of the reaction about one million times. it is technically accurate, after all. you think of catholic guilt, how sometimes you feel bad when doing a good deed because the sense of pride you get from acting kind - that pride is a sin. the word "manipulation" is not without bias or stigma attached to it. many people with the fawn response are direct victims of someone who was malignantly manipulative. calling the victims manipulative too is an unfair and unkind reading of the situation. it would be better and more empathetic to say it is safety-seeking or connection-seeking behavior. yes, it can be toxic. no, in general it is not intended to be toxic. there is no reason to make mentally ill people feel worse for what we undergo.

you type why is everyone so quick to turn on someone showing clear signs of trauma but you already know the fucking answer, so what's the point of bothering. you kind of hate those this is what anxiety looks like! infographics because at this point you're so good at white-knuckling through a severe panic attack that people just think you're stoic. even people who know the situation sometimes comment you just don't seem depressed. and you're not a 9 year old white kid so there's no way you're on the spectrum, you're not obsessed with trains and you were never a good mathematician. okay then.

mental illness is trending. in 2012 tumblr said don't romanticize our symptoms but to be fair tiktok didn't exist yet. there's these series of videos where someone pretends to be "the most boring person on earth" and is just being a normal fucking person, which makes your skin crawl, because that probably means you are boring. your friend reads aloud a profile from tinder - no depressed bitches i fucking hate that mental illness crap. your father says that medication never actually works.

you still haven't told your grandmother that you're in therapy. despite everything (and the fact it's helping): you just don't want her to see you differently.

[runningatypufullspeed]

Worlds most tragic victim to male pattern baldness

[adhdandcomics]

perhaps the most important question i’ve ever asked:

does anyone have tips for people trying to stop being chronically late to everything in the world that aren’t weirdly judgmental and aggressive or flat out lies

[blackkatdraws2]

There are more things in the Parable than Stanley knows about. [Blank Scripts AU]

[sysig]

Blind side (Patreon)

[umblrspectrum]

ive been struggling big time coming up with anything funny to draw that hasnt been done yet so have my rw au art dump

[andro-dino]

Mr. and Mr. Alabaster

(this is me being cringe but free THIS IS ME BEING CRINGE BUT FREE)

true to my word, I am currently rewatching root rpg just bc I miss celgene alabaster. I was thinking a little bit too hard about him though and ended up making him a husband, so here's Sonny! he has existed for like two days and already he means the world to me.

they r,,,,, important to me. idk man i just like the idea of this big ol grumpy, shady badger guy having an adorable rabbit husband who he calls cute affectionate nicknames and they both adore each other. THEY MEAN A LOT TO ME. i have like so many thoughts about their dynamic but i can't articulate them into words so im just like hrnrnrnrnrnrnnrnrnr!!!!!!! im thinking about them so hard guys you dont understand they r taking over my brain i love them so much

i have more doodles i'd like to make of them but i guess only time will tell how many of those i'll actually be able to get down.

[mrmeepsmadmind]

aaaand BUMBLEBEE 😊 !!!!

[dartalias]

If this post make into 1 note i will do the entirety of the Kyoshi's novels into a comic

Im being deadass

[mothjinxed]

show me i'm not afraid of you now

[bananonbinary]

being very sincere here: i have never seen evidence that laziness is a real thing that exists. "you can do it but you aren't." do you want to (either because the Thing is enjoyable, or because you know the Thing needs to be done)? if yes, then it kinda sounds like you can't do it actually. if no, then who cares?

we don't need a word for "someone not doing something that they don't care about and doesn't negatively impact them," that's just how everyone works. and to use "laziness" to describe anything else is, pretty clearly in my eyes, willfully misrepresenting the situation because you don't believe other people might possibly experience difficulties you don't.

[gabbertrapmix]

happy lesbian week of visibility

(original)

[skunkes]

i may be stupid

[bunnakit]

the only QLs i've watch this year are 4 Minutes and My Stand-In

besides Spare Me Your Mercy and Petrichor which are already on my list, what other QL dramas should i watch? (doesn't have to be from this year) bonus points if you match my tastes (my past favs are in my pinned)

[gammaraydeath]

no way am i burning out one month into the semester