#instead of being mature and understanding

[kittenboom]

Wow, that question really bought back a lot of memories #triggered 🤣🤣 but I have been on the other side of that question where those words were spoken but what they REALLY wanted to ask was "why don't you have a driver licence? What is wrong with you?"

Probably will always hit a nerve for me, because I have been on both sides.

I probably will regret oversharing, but what else is new, it anyone reads this & is dealing with increasing anxiety around getting their license (or getting it 'at the right age')... maybe it will bring you some comfort?

I got my 'learners permit' in high school, as part of my school's curriculum, I would have been 16 turning 17.

That piece of paper is the starting point, but it does require follow up to actually DO the learning to drive part.

Personal context: my dad is not great with patience and even being a passenger would give me anxiety, so he was not an option to train me. My mum agreed to teach me but had zero interest in us driving. I won't get into it, but basically she was always happy to drive us around and here is the most important part -

MY MOTIVATION levels were basically non-existent.

At that age, I had plenty of friends with cars who were happy to drive me around & I had been taking public transport to school/work for years at that point.

People would say "you don't understand how much freedom you get when you get your license" and it would be sooooo easy to dismiss because in my mind - I WAS already an independent teen/young adult.

I made plans with friends who would pick me up & I would feel very mature & free. I could leave home & catch a bus to the train line from which I could go anywhere. I worked part time. I HAD freedom, what was the rush?

Age 17, I fell in mutual love for the first time, they were two years older than me (as most of my friends/partners are).

By the time I was 19, me not having my license was no longer cute. It started internalizing the guilt I had for not getting onto it sooner/having it already. At this point, almost everyone my life (except my sister), had their license. I was comfortable & complacent relying on partner to drive.

Public transport is available but the flip side is the time it takes 20 min drive vs 45-60 mins via public transport. There were taxis too of course, with uber & ridesharing right on the horizon. The reality was even though these "independent options" existed for me, I rarely used them, instead I basically abused the goodwill of my loved ones.

At age 20, I decided to bite the bullet & buy myself lessons with a real driving instructor. I was proud of myself. I had only had my best friend take me out once and my mum a couple of times at that point.

This would be my second time driving a manual car. I really wanted my manual license. The cars I wanted to buy were cheaper in manual, but basically - people don't give you shit about it like they do with an auto license (in Australia anyways).

The down side - this driving instructor I picked was the fucking worst. We only had three lessons, the third license she made me turn out into peak hour traffic and my anxiety went into overdrive. I will never forget her making me pull over to whip out her phone to show me very graphic images of what happens to people who crash with their hands in the wrong position on the steering wheel. Aka she traumatized me something wicked.

I remember this vividly as I had my first international trip ever to Indonesia and whilst over there, I lost my phone. When I got back to Aus, I had to buy a new one, eventually got my number changed over and then started getting all these messages through from the driving instructor - asking about when our next scheduled lesson is that escalated to her threatening to charge me for being non responsive. It was insane as actually, I had to respond "really sorry I just got back from a trip where I lost my phone" & she apologised but I was like "yeah I don't plan to do anymore"

This set me back from driving for another few years. I decided to go for my automatic license, so I could at least drive something, I could always go for my manual drivers licence after the fact. I was sick of waiting.

So I found a driving instructor who specialised in teaching people with special needs. She was amazing. Where I am from you need to complete 50 hrs of supervised driving and I completely my log book hours with just driving lessons. It cost me a lot of money, it took A LOT OF TIME.

My first practical driving exam, I failed within a few minutes because I took a turn too early, having to rebook that was so humiliating (& of course they make you pay the full fee again). However I knew it was a stupid error and something that in Non-test conditions, would not have been an issue.

My second practical driving exam, I passed with flying colours. I had only 1 mark deducted because during my reverse parking, we could feel the back tyres bump the back car park block ever so slightly. I still considered it a massive win.

Unfortunately, by the time I actually got my P plates at age 24, and could drive unsupervised, the person I owed the MOST drives to, my first love, was no longer with us.

The statement: "you get so much freedom when you can drive yourself around" is unfortunately true. It's not just control of your destination that you get, but also better control of your time.

I will tell the story about how I lost my license for a year another time. It's not a fun story either BUT I have a lot to say about having taken so long to get my license, only for it to be taken away during a time when I really needed it.

Also the juxtaposition of my OLDER sister, still not having her license (but making weird meandering progress nonetheless).

The moral of this story is: yes, if you live somewhere that isn't a walkable paradise, I highly recommend you take a step towards getting your licence!

Just say "fuck it" to all the pressure /norms that tell you you have to do things a certain way. The only way is safely. The most important quality you can have with driving is confidence and that takes time!

So I guess this is telling you to give yourself permission to take your time, as much time as you need, to learn to feel comfortable with it. You just have to keep going.

since this is the "no drivers license" website i wanna see everybodys reasons

[angeldeviloshi]

Oughhhh!!!! Quick note, in JP she says "I was with Denji-kun, Asa-chan and Yoru-chan... Because their troubled looks were fun. But even as I'm with you guys, it's not... all that fun..."

It's vindicating to see Kiga state that she lives to savour human experiences, food (my thoughts on food in p2 as humanity's outlet for creation, existence, potential)

BUT especially noteworthy here is her saying Denji's, Asa's and Yoru's faces looked FUN. Despite her acknowledgment that horsemen are uninterested in faces.

And I don't think it's pure sadism that she says this, but genuine intrigue. Denji's, Asa's and Yoru's puzzlement, suffering, struggle as marks of their experience.

Her being bored of Public Safety by saying they're no fun, preferring the school festival's hopeful, cheerful resistance instead. And she sounds disappointed about that. She's with these humans but they're no fun. Public Safety is so dry, calculated, cold.

And it's really interesting that Fumiko is the one who lashes out at her while being loyal to the cause as she lectures Kiga on priorities given her positioning as the "junior" as she sits between Kiga and Yoshida.

Almost as if she's acting as the mouthpiece for Yoshida's frustration that he can't express due to the maturity and professionalism he has ingrained in himself in the role of an agent as the prophecy approaches.

Kiga's choosing to participate in the apocalypse as a child, a student while Yoshida spends his childhood bleak and controlled. Yoshida's reflection of this too, he's no fun.

Calling back to 191 when Yoru flings the cake at him, takes Denji away to teach him how to play "like a devil" because humans like him are too controlling, predictable.

This followed by Yoru having fun showing off her shooting to Denji almost as if they're having a festival themselves at a shooting booth as Yoru relishes in her childish side.

And here's the kicker, it also looks like Kiga's co-opting of Nayuta's excuse when Nayuta told her she can't help her because she has school. She's a child. Nayuta's understanding of the apocalypse in the context of fun.

This aimed at Fumiko and Yoshida in their role as state agents while criticising them almost as if it's a dissonance between Nayuta and Makima.

Also smth smth Kiga's absorption of Nayuta's role and Yoru's absorption of Makima's role.

The polarising aspects of Control in human pleasure, Control in enjoyment as resistance, satiation vs Control in enjoyment as tool, reward.

The karaoke box being brought up here to highlight this contrast too, the place Fumiko used to enact her violence in her seniority on Denji used by Kiga to experience student life and activities.

That Kiga the elder sibling takes the role of a child while having the most influence as of yet and Yoru the weakened younger sibling takes the role of a mother.

[thisisntkt]

hey guys andor really is the best star wars story out there because it finally treats star wars like a serious, mature story—one that isn’t just about good vs. evil, but about people, choices, and the crushing weight of oppression. it strips away the mythic grandeur of the jedi and the sith and replaces it with something more real: a rebellion built on fear, desperation, and sacrifice. every moment feels intentional, every conversation matters, and for once, the empire isn’t just a faceless evil—it’s a system that grinds people down until they have no choice but to fight back.

one of the reasons it’s so immersive is its incredible worldbuilding. like this isn’t just another desert planet or a jungle with star wars dressing. every location, from ferrix to coruscant to narkina 5, feels like a fully realized place, with its own culture, politics, and economy. ferrix, for example, isn’t just a background—it’s a community where people rely on each other, where work and tradition matter. the way they mourn their dead, the way the bells signal the rhythm of their day—it all makes it feel real.

then there’s coruscant, which we’ve seen before, but never like this. instead of just being the shiny capital of the galaxy, andor shows us the bureaucracy, the paranoia, the quiet horror of a system designed to crush dissent before it even begins. mon mothma’s storyline is a masterclass in showing just how difficult and terrifying it is to resist the empire from within.

and then there’s narkina 5! the prison arc is one of the most terrifyingly effective depictions of systemic control in star wars. it’s not just that the prisoners are trapped—it’s that they are tricked into thinking they might have some control. the sterile white floors, the quiet threat of electric punishment, the gamified system of labor—it’s chilling. and it makes their eventual uprising feel even more powerful.

most star wars stories tell us about hope, but andor shows us what it costs. it doesn’t rely on nostalgia, it doesn’t lean on familiar characters to carry it—it builds everything from the ground up. there’s no jedi to swoop in and save the day, no grand space battles with triumphant victories. just people trying to survive, trying to resist, trying to make impossible choices.

the dialogue is sharper, the themes are richer, and the stakes feel personal. it’s not about prophecy or destiny—it’s about rebellion as a necessary act of survival. it’s about the slow, grueling process of organizing, of convincing people to fight, of realizing that the enemy isn’t just stormtroopers with blasters—it’s the very structure of control that keeps them in line.

that’s what makes andor so powerful. it’s the first star wars story that feels like it truly understands what rebellion means—not just as a spectacle, but as something painful, terrifying, and absolutely necessary!

[taintassassin]

this honestly feels like societally normalized grooming of minors.

first, the parent sticks a device in front of their kid’s face to keep them quiet and out of the way, almost as if the parent didn’t let themselves process whether or not they actually like children before they decided to reproduce. and of course they add no or very minimal effort into restricting the types of content and communities their child stumbles upon, so the kid is left defenseless to the internet’s endless array of content, possibly by the ages of 3-7.

then as the child grows older (9-12), either the minor has to grow up fast enough to parent themself on the internet using filters, block features, and active work to keep themself safe, or the minor has to give into peer pressure and sexualize themself before they fully understand what they’re doing. and what minor is gonna do the former, especially when children always assume that they know everything just because they survived their last exposure to something mature and beyond their comprehension? plus, they see the behavior of their friends (which in the age of digital friendship, their friends could easily be closer to their parents’ age), and they feel like they’re missing out on hanging with the more mature group. they want autonomy, and they see older people’s behavior and think that it’s automatically more autonomous because older people have more autonomy in general.

either way, the child grows up too fast. leaving them fully vulnerable to grooming, exploitation, abuse, bullying, exposure to inappropriate material, and other interactions that can literally count towards your ACE (adverse childhood experiences) score. even if they do filter all their socials or just draw and play games instead, both the art and gaming communities are full of exploitation (kids being used as labor to make roblox games or animations for no pay, kids in both communities being funneled into discord servers where fully grown adults have unrestricted access to them, being scammed out of money or bullied/pressured into inappropriate actions like self harm or sharing inappropriate photos, etc).

these kids turn into emotionally stunted adults who are more likely to have mental health disorders, self esteem issues, ptsd-like symptoms, stunted attention spans, struggles with emotional intimacy, desensitization to extreme content, disconnection from reality, insomnia, weakened emotional regulation skills, decision fatigue, and an increased sense of personal failure, among other issues that make it really difficult to function as an adult, as well as making it very easy for them to be manipulated, pressured, abused, and exploited in the future, even making it feel normal to them.

kids matter because they’re people. they have emotions just like you and i. and they don’t even understand all of them, even as teenagers. expecting them to make decisions like this for themselves is entirely unfair and selfish. but that’s just the culture we live in, isn’t it?

“Sorry, 14 year old! Don’t you know it’s your responsibility to filter untagged porn out of your algorithm and feed? We adults have no responsibility to keep the internet safe whatsoever.”

[elainsgirl]

Elriels accusing gwynriels that we harassed a company to change their article with 0 proof meanwhile they’re out here harassing an author of an opinion piece so bad her friend had to come in and defend her

Gwynriels are known for doxxing people. None of us are stupid enough to give evidence which can make an actual person face real life consequences. WE know the truth and thats all.

As others mentioned: The opinion piece itself wasn’t an issue besides it being contradictory and badly written. Its the fact the womb arguement was brought up and used as a reason to disprove/make others doubt elriel when the argument itself has been disproven and if the author bothered to do research they would have understood immediately how harmful the argument is and how negatively it’s taken. Something like that deserves to be called out bcs it reflects real life issues. Her “friend” is doing a poor job at defending the journalist. Any feminist would have clocked immediately how harmful that argument is.

But ofc instead of being mature and agreeing w elriels that this should have been called out and talking/bringing awareness as to why this womb arguement is harmful - you’re choosing to use it as a “gotcha” moment for elriels and potray us as toxic. Thats just shameful but again, I don’t think you guys are able to understand why its so. You’re not able to understand much outside of “glow!” And “sparkles!”

[artisiumstudios]

"So even if it was cruel, being kicked out might've finally made Stanley face the consequences of his won actions, and maybe even mature and succeed." - Please, tell me that Sherman called out Ford about this in Time Jump AU. What Filbrick did by kicking Stan out is abuse. You don't kick your underage son out of the house by any reason. The only consequence that Stan should have faced for accidentally breaking Ford's project and don't telling him about it was Ford being mad at him and don't want to speak with him.

Shermie called EVERYONE out.

He cussed Filbrick out for not only kicking him out and acting like nothing ever happened, but for being the cause why Stanley is dead gone, calls him a deadbeat and tells him to never speak to him again because he no longer has a father.

He berated his mother for not standing up for him and letting him walk out instead of calling the police or their neighbors or even Shermie himself. She cries when he brings up the fact that she constantly refused to leave Filbrick knowing how abusive he was (but is understanding that his mother in not financially stable to do so and doesn't want to burden him)

And finally what you've been waiting for: Ford.

At first he thinks that Ford did try to do something or was at least helping Stan out after being kicked out and doesn't give him as much shit. I mean, Ford is still a kid-- he lost the opportunity to go to his dream school AND his twin brother all within the span of a month.

But after he finds out that Ford actually supported their father and never once tried to look for Stan, he tells Ford to not contact him unless its an emergency. He doesn't lash out in the moment, but months later when Ford calls him saying he needs Shermies help only to go on this tangent about how Stanley isn't truly gone and how he's been doing research on time anomalies (seriously time travel?) He loses it.

HOW could he joke at a time like this?

Why didn't he tell Shermie about what happened to Stan and how could he stand by and not only accept it but even approve of his twin being kicked out?

Ford tries to defend himself, says that he thought Stan was of age already and that he should've been fine-- He IS fine because he's not dead just gone for a while!

Shermie snaps his voice raising higher than he thought possible, Ford needs to grow up and ACCEPT that his actions have consequences. Stanley is dead and Ford just stood by and watched it happen- how could he abandon his brother- his BEST FRIEND OVER A SCHOOL-

Ford's crying.

(This part is from another post i made regarding this)

Ford is blubbering mess, he messed up, everyone told him Stan would be okay, he knew Stan would be okay and yet…

He’s not lying about the anomalies and says he’s pinpointed a town where anomalies gather at most. They both take a trip there and by then, Shermie helps Ford on his research to get their brother back.

After yelling and fords crying he hugs his younger brother, fords just a kid too who was under filbricks impression. its not his fault stan is gone, they only have their father to blame. And while shermie is still skeptical even after their trip to gravity falls, he keeps holding onto the hope of their youngest brothers return.

[mala--draws]

ok third time rewriting this stupid stupid post I'm going insane (it was my fault each time)

hear me out, reverse age curtises au. i don't know if anyone else has done it (if so please please share i am so sane about this!!!)

pony's become the eldest (20), soda's still middle baby (16, maybe fresh 17, just a bit younger than canon) and darry's the youngest (14). johnny is about 20/21 and i think two-bit stays roughly 18 and dally's still 17

side characters... i don't know :( i'll elaborate more later !!

darry is a chronic worrywart in every universe + soda and he feel mega guilty about pony having to drop out to provide for them bc out of the family, he's still the brainy academic who seemed destined for college

OG!pony definitely felt guilt bc darry definitely could've gone to college with a football/sport scholarship but i think darry's just forever more mature than he should be for his age. he's a guilt rag, and he oozes like a sponge. pony doesn't give a fuck (unless he's alone / w/ just johnny but hushhh) and has to constantly remind darry he had free will (and wouldn't choose any other way)

pony's got the chronic oldest curtis curse. except instead of tense shoulders/arms (bc darry's a footballer, tossing), he's got sore legs and that area joints. (personal experience, sucks!!!)

darry massages them but he's a bit confused and is usually too gentle. he just wants to make pony's life easier. soda's better and usually does it whenever he thinks pony's greying (internally)

he wouldn't ever admit it but his favourite masseur is so johnny. always johnny, because he manages that balance between firm yet gentle and locates those knots like he has a personal vendetta against them (he does, they give pony pain >: )

SPEAKING OF JOHNNY!!! QPR johnny & pony for real!! they don't really have the language for it (curse u 1960s oklahoma/j) but they're undeniably close to the point they definitely got the gay accusations in high school let's be so real. as adults, they don't really care and the gang sorta understand they got a thing and not to try label it too hard. they're a lot closer than in canon (before windrixville they weren't particularly close)

johnny's moved out and has his own apartment in town. he lives half there and half at the curtises and chips in financially (bc pony doesn't have enough money to support four, even if he's peeved johnny slips money in his wallet, jeans, mattress, pillow (under the milk jug once??))

okay gonna cut off there but i have so much more (dally & johnny, how the conflict happens (i don't think canon would've happened), the difference btwn how pony and darry copes with being the oldest, multiverse crossover?? eldest daughters lookout each other and start bawling bc that's their baby brother!! god he looks so old)

[amillionideas]

Ron

Look, Ron is my king. I love Romione. This post is 100% about my idea for them after the war, so they probably will be out of character (not that I don't think they couldn't get to this point, because I do). Just bear with me, see my vision and feel free to criticise!

Ron Weasley: Post-War Growth and Emotional Depth

Ron had a lot of growing up to do during the series, and after everything he endured, it makes perfect sense that the war would push him to mature in a significant way. Being forced to confront his fears and insecurities would give him a clearer understanding of who he is, what he values, and what he wants out of life.

From Insecurity to Emotional Maturity

Throughout the series, Ron struggled with self-doubt, especially in comparison to Harry and Hermione, and often felt overshadowed by them. However, after the war, I imagine he would no longer be that immature boy. The gravity of his experiences would shape him into someone more self-aware, thoughtful, and emotionally intelligent.

Instead of letting his temper take over or resorting to childish arguments, Ron would likely approach conflict with more patience and maturity. He’d understand the weight of his choices and relationships, especially with Hermione. The trauma of the war would deepen his perspective, pushing him to become a more reliable and considerate partner.

I love the idea of stories that explore this growth. It’s compelling to imagine Ron making amends, owning up to his mistakes, and demonstrating just how much he’s evolved. This emotional maturity would not only strengthen his relationship with Hermione but also make him a better partner, one who understands the importance of communication and emotional support.

Ron as the Weasley Family’s Emotional Anchor

After Fred’s death, I can easily see Ron stepping into a stabilizing role within the Weasley family. Often portrayed as the grounded and loyal sibling, it makes sense that he would become an emotional anchor for his parents, his siblings, Harry, and even Hermione.

His strength would manifest in quiet but powerful ways, offering a steady presence when words might fail. Despite his flaws, Ron is fiercely protective of those he loves, and the aftermath of Fred’s death would only heighten his commitment to holding his family together.

It’s easy to imagine him supporting George through his grief, helping his parents stay afloat, and being a source of comfort when everything feels fractured. His loyalty, which has always been one of his defining traits, would shine through as he steps up to provide the stability his family desperately needs.

Impact on His Relationship with Hermione

This emotional growth and new sense of responsibility would likely deepen his relationship with Hermione. Seeing Ron take on these burdens, becoming someone who is not only emotionally present but also reliable, would make him even more appealing to her.

Their post-war dynamic could reflect a shared understanding of grief and trauma. They would learn how to support each other, communicate more openly, and navigate the complexities of healing together. I can imagine Ron being the one to ground Hermione when she feels overwhelmed while Hermione helps Ron recognize that he doesn’t have to carry the weight alone.

I love the thought of Hermione quietly noticing how much Ron is holding on his shoulders and reminding him that he doesn’t have to do it all by himself. She’s always been practical and strong, but she would also know how to offer him the kind of emotional support that allows him to be vulnerable.

Learning to Share the Burden

One of the most touching aspects of their post-war relationship could be the way they learn to share their burdens. Ron, in his desire to protect and hold his family together, might feel like he has to hide his own pain. But Hermione, always perceptive when it comes to the people she loves, would notice.

I imagine intimate, quiet moments where Hermione offers Ron the space to let his guard down. Whether it’s holding him while he finally allows himself to grieve or simply giving him a place where he doesn’t need to be "strong," these moments would speak volumes about how far they’ve come.

This shift would also allow Ron to realize that vulnerability isn’t a weakness, especially in a relationship where love means sharing the hard things, not just the easy ones. And for Hermione, it would be a chance to show Ron that she sees him, not just as a dependable friend, but as a person who needs care and support too.

A Relationship Built on Growth and Mutual Support

Their healing journeys would be beautifully intertwined: Helping each other see that he doesn’t have to carry everything alone, showing that allowing herself to be vulnerable is a strength, not a flaw.

This kind of emotional richness adds so much depth to their relationship. There’s something incredibly comforting about imagining these two, who have been through so much, learning to balance being strong for others while allowing themselves to be cared for in return.

It’s this version of Ron (mature, emotionally intelligent, and deeply loyal) that makes him the perfect partner for Hermione. Their love story, post-war, has the potential to be not only heartwarming but also a testament to how much they’ve grown, both individually and together.

Wouldn't it be beautiful to see them finding that balance, where both of them can be strong, but also lean on each other when the weight of the world feels too heavy?

[sleepy-edits]

[trans-yllz]

person supposed to be moving in this week has not signed the lease or told me when they plan to get here. old housemate keeps loudly moving stuff out at like 10pm on week nights. new housemate has various slightly inconsiderate habits that are kind of driving me insane. other housemate acts like he's the only person on earth who might have stuff going on while he continues to not pay rent. I'm going to light this house on fire

[arabian-batboy]

Some Nightwing’s stans can be so weird.

Instead of getting all heated and writing think-pieces about how “Dick is NOT Damian’s dad and will never be >:(” shouldn’t you direct all of that energy toward more pressing matters that actually has a negative impact on Dick’s character that desperately need debunking? Like how the masses still view Dick as nothing but a happy-go-lucky himbo whose only defining trait is having a fat ass?

[theheadlessgroom]

@beatingheart-bride

At that rumination, Susannah paused, beginning to wonder the same thing: What if she and Philippe had crossed paths all those years ago, and just didn't know it? Had she looked out into the sea of partygoers, and seen a young blonde-haired man among the faces in the crowd, blissfully unaware that he was the love of her life? Had they walked past each other, unknowingly meeting years before he set foot in Mickey's Haberdashery?

"I...I wish we'd met earlier..."

As soon as she said it, Susannah flinched, cheeks reddening at the embarrassment flooding through her-but it was the truth, wasn't it? She did wish they'd found each other sooner...she wished she hadn't had to live the last several years of her life feeling so empty, particularly in the absence of her father. She wished she could've had him to turn to-to look forward to seeing after work every night, to sit and talk to on an early morning over breakfast, to lay against his chest as they swayed to the music playing from the nearby restaurants...

And Philippe! Her beloved could've found happiness too, had they met just a little sooner-he could've had an escape from the pressures of his family, them constantly breathing down his neck, so fixed on their ideal life for him that they overlooked who he really was at heart. She wished she could've been there for him earlier-to give him an escape from the iron-clad expectations of the upper class, to be able to listen to him (to really, really listen to him), to give him some measure of comfort through her presence...

She just wished neither of them hadn't had to be alone for so long.

Cheeks still warm, she held up the tome she'd grabbed, trying to brush past her bittersweet comment as she said, "Th-This looks like the one Belle read from, I-I think it has all the same stories!"

[whirlinglikeaballet]

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[odvunir]

my pronouns are he/him

[mistyycowoa]

I remember seeing a lot of people saying things like "oh people assume you're cishet before you come out because it's most common/seen as the default..." But I disagree. Cishet isn't the default in any way, even if common. My take of the day:

Aroace agender is the human default.

Everyone starts off as a baby. And babies are inherently aaa because. Obviously. Babies do not see bodies as anything (other than mother's milk which is food), it's not sexual. Babies do not want romance, only platonic love is enough. Babies don't understand gender stereotypes, and therefore everything is agender. It's just "thing", not "masculine thing" or "feminine thing".

As they grow up, kids of certain ages start understanding and putting weight on gender, giving them a gender identity/ideal. Their bodies look the same as their peers (purely body shape, ignoring hair and clothing etc), so they are the same, therefore there is no "two(or more) genders", and it's just "child".

Most children don't start feeling any kind of romantic attraction until a certain age (if ever). Sexual attraction comes much later too, when teens "discover themselves"(aka coming out as not ace) (if they're not ace).

All this to say, cishet is not default. Kis shouldn't have to "come out" as not cishet, because they shouldn't be assumed to be cishet in the first place. Adults shouldn't push their views onto kids who have yet to even understand these concepts, much less worry about it yet.

[mayasdeluca]

When you're nothing but kind to someone, always interact with them and have conversation with them, reassure them when they need to only to then be the one that gets completely shut out with no explanation, unfollowed and unable to message them about it because they clearly know what they did was messed up and don't want to be confronted about it. Mature...very mature.