#if anyone has any other advice

[its-actually-minicika]

I know you finished your finals recently do you have any advice for someone who is starting uni? I’m really overwhelmed with having to move out of home and starting university with no friends

HI HELLO GUESS WHO'S BACK 🫶🏻

I'm honestly so sorry for taking so long to get to your ask. Life was hectic these past few weeks, but I'm here to answer your question!!!

I also moved away from home when uni started - albeit I still see my parents pretty often. My best piece of advice is to honestly raw dog it without any expectations: on neither yourself, or the types of people you'll meet in university.

I DON'T MEAN TO SOUND LIKE A DEBBY DOWNER BUT PLS KEEP READING

To me, university was (and still is) like a bigger scale highschool simulation. People don't really mature past where you left them in their final year of highschool, but there's a sense of acceptance coming from both your fellow students and teachers (in everyone doing their own thing without much judgement, I mean).

I can't speak for everyone when I say this, but it's much less daunting than what one might expect. The scenarios you make up right now are waaay more dramatic than what the final result will be like, trust me!

I encourage you to really make time in your schedule to socialize. Create something akin to a "friend group", and, if you're single and looking for someone to start a relationship with, just know that the most "husband material" guys are taken by the end of their 1st/2d year of uni LMAO

STAY FAR FAR AWAY FROM FRAT PARTIES. They're insanely overrated and you'll never find your life partner there.

When it comes to studying, never believe what the others will tell you. I heard all too often the phrases "I didn’t start studying yet!", "X/Y/Z is too difficult! I'll just skip the chapter and hope for the best", "I think today's lecture was too difficult. I'll totally drop out of this class."

None of your course mates will reveal how much effort they put into each class. All of them will tell you they haven't started studying, or that they'll start studying 2 weeks before your final exams etc.

DON'T BELIEVE THEM. They're all studying and putting in effort. Competition in university is cut-throat.

Or, at least, that's how it is in med school.

The academic workload that you'll have to go through is INSANE compared to highschool. But make a list going into each week, detailing the things you want to achieve/cross off it, and you'll be fine.

Individual work is key in university. No professors will baby any of you, and some might even drop materials for your finals a day before your exams take place.

Attitude wise, they're far less strict than their highschool counterparts.

Plan in advance, stay calm and, if you get overwhelmed, it's okay to take a break.

That's pretty much everything that I can think of from the top of my head. If I remember anything else, I'll write it down in the comments!!

Good luck starting university! You're going to nail living alone and making new friends. Remember that everyone is just as confused and eager to prove themselves as you ❤️ Don't put too much pressure on yourself and have fun!

[goopy-nightmares]

Hey other folks with weird food cravings and shit bc of your alterhumanity

How the hell do you deal with it????

Cause I’m REALLY wanting oil and metal rn but human bodies can’t exactly injest that and I have no idea what an alternative would be to satisfy it cause normal human food is not cutting it-

Chocolate’s the closest thing I’ve found to how I remember drone oil tasting but even then it’s still not right and I am not doing well rn I’m so hungry hrrrnnnnnnn-

-☠��Uzi/Z (She/Glitch)

[cheerioskid]

Your art is such a huge inspiration for me, the way your art is so fluid and fun to look at I was wondering if you had any tips on anatomy? I struggle a lot with stiffness and disproportion.

i tried to sum up my thoughts as coherently as possible so i hope this is easy to understand!! also tysm for the kind words <33

a lot of the tips i keep in mind when drawing is just stuff i've picked up from other artists, especially ones that show their entire process so you can see how they got from point a to point b (usually like those timelapse videos on instagram of figure studies (helpful stuff like that i keep saved so i can look at it when im struggling))

also when looking at references i find it helps to not just copy what you see but to exaggerate it a bit when drawing so that you don't risk losing any of that energy (like when i was in band i was told "if you're trying to hit a high note, aim higher than that note and usually you'll hit it") cus if you concentrate so much on getting it pixel perfect that's how it comes out looking stiff!!

this is just the most general advice i can give but obviously not everything stated here applies to every situation!!

[vagueconfusion]

girl help the behavioral health called while I was asleep and I somehow answered without realizing so when I went to answer it I accidentally hung up on them and they fucking. Didn't call back and the number I tried calling is all automated and I don't know what option to press r u fucking kidding me

[cold--carnage]

These cats will not stop fighting. Despite all of our efforts we are woken up every night to break up the fights. And as we've now seen, the sleep deprivation can easily trigger our psychosis.

[shootingstarrae]

Hi! I’ve been to many cons over the years (both big and small) and will be attending GalaxyCon this coming weekend. I ended up with many pieces of advice that I thought would be helpful for anyone else attending their first con.

1. If available, look at the schedule at least a few days before attending.

If the con has a schedule app, download it and start adding what events are must-see. Don’t expect to be able to walk into a con and just go to every event without a plan, especially for a big con. Trust me, I got overwhelmed at my first con (Tekko, over 10 years ago) and barely did anything for the day.

2. If planning on buying anything, bring some cash.

This is super important if you plan on buying merch, autographs or even food. Most vendors will accept credit card/PayPal/Venmo, but not all. Especially for the smaller vendors and artists who are doing this as a side gig. Plus, convention hall WiFi can be spotty, which means card reading devices can be slowed down. So having cash can speed up the process. And, personally speaking, it helps me budget how much I am willing to spend at each con.

3. If you are going with a group of friends or family, stick together and have a plan if you separate.

This one is pretty obvious, but it’s something that, as we rely more on our phones, it can be easy to forget. If you are going with a group, try to do some things together and have a meet-up spot if you want to do other things on your own or get separated accidentally. As I said early, WiFi and cell reception can be super spotty within various convention halls and hotels, so it can be hard to get in contact with someone using your phone. This is also super important if you are going to a con with large crowds.

4. Wear comfortable clothes.

Again, this might be obvious, but super important, especially for anyone cosplaying. Consider what shoes you feel comfortable walking in and, if you are cosplaying, if you should consider bringing a change of clothes. If you are staying at a hotel that’s close to where the con is being held, this can be an easy addition to your schedule to allow a costume change. Trust me, I cosplayed as Lio from Promare for a con that took place on a hot weekend in May…it was awful.

5. Drink lots of water and eat!

Again, obvious. But as you go to a lot of panels, meet guests and other people, you’re expelling a lot of energy. Make sure to take the time to drink water and eat decent food when you’re hungry. Some times, I will bring protein bars if I plan on staying at the con for the whole day. It really helps to avoid the usually expensive and always greasy convention center food that never fully satisfies.

6. Take your meds and pack any emergency supplies you’ll need.

Again, another obvious one. But, as someone who has asthma, I cannot count how many times that having my rescue inhaler on me has helped me. Take your meds and bring your emergency supply!!

7. Wash your hands, bring hand sanitizer, wear a mask if possible.

Again, it’s obvious, but super important. There’s a thing called “the con crud” that seems to rear its ugly head after a weekend of nerdy fun. Essentially, a weekend of little sleep, eating poorly, lots of walking and being in the thick of humanity makes it easy for you to get sick with anything (common cold, COVID, flu, etc.). So if you plan on going to a con, but especially a fall/winter con where most activity will be indoors, take your proper precautions. Wash your hands, don’t touch your face, wear a mask if you are able to.

8. Take lots of photos, but ask for permission!

Always ask for someone’s permission to take a photo, especially for cosplayers. But make sure to take lots of photos if you like to look back at pictures from events. For me personally, I always regret not taking enough pictures of the cons we go to.

9. If you are staying at a hotel, check for bed bugs and bring whatever you need to be comfortable.

Again, another obvious one, but also very important. If you are staying at a hotel, any hotel, always check for bed bugs. Pull up the fitted sheet and look at each corner of the mattress. You can also check the sides of any picture frames, but they will only be visible there if the infestation is really bad. If the room looks clean, but you are unsure, put all of your bags in the bathroom and leave all lights on when you sleep. Bed bugs only come out at night/in the dark and avoid tiled surfaces, so this might prevent you from experiencing bed bugs. Key word here is might, but it’s better than nothing. For the second part, this can mean whatever you need to sleep comfortably, wake up comfortably or any beauty products you need. For me, I have super sensitive skin and have to bring my own shampoo, conditioner and lotion to prevent any eczema/rash outbreaks. I also bring some loose leaf tea and a strainer to use via the room’s Keurig since I don’t drink coffee. This helps me fully wake up and get ready for the day.

Sorry for the long list. I just thought of all the things I wish I knew when first going to cons and here we are.

Advice on going to my first con?

[of-stars-and-moon]

If you do, what helps you not feel like that?

[butch-himbo-king]

catie rescued a kitten yesterday and brought it home, kept it in the bathroom for the hour it was here before the person she found to adopt it came and picked it up. but just that one hour locked in the bathroom was enough for lady to fully flip and she is still in fight or flight mode stalking around the house growling at literally everything even the wall. we have steve closed off in the bedroom but idk what to do she is NOT calming down

[tchotchkez]

also I fuckin give up on bomb rush cyberfunk rush for now bc I've tried to beat the second crew battle like 10 times already and just CANNOT get a high enough score

dunno wtf I'm not doing right but honestly the difficulty level of the score challenges was not meant for casual players like me and that makes me Sad

jsr and jsrf were NEVER this hard and I am simply just not having fun playing now and that's very disappointing

[countess-of-edessa]

the thing about taking advice from anyone on tiktok or instagram including catholic and christian type influencers, parenting advice, relationship advice, etc, or internalizing any stories of horrible relationships and betrayal people tell on those platforms, or reading about all the ways interpersonal relationships can end horribly and be cycled through extremely quickly on those platforms is that you are necessarily then consuming the thoughts and experiences of someone who is willing to put their face and name on a public social media platform to talk at you. and like 1% of those people have a good reason for doing so and the other 99% are completely unhinged. so everything you’re consuming has first gone through the filter of "is this person weird and insane enough to make Instagram reels of themselves crying?" and if the answer is yes maybe their advice doesn’t apply to your life because you’re a normal person who would not do that.

[system-of-a-feather]

Y'all remember when we were discussing the differences between our hyper-planning and how people with issues with time / planning for the future experience and navigate things?

I'm really fucking feeling the dysfunction of one of the largest driving features of that which is honestly - in my words - the lack of ability to really get much dopamine at all from things in the present. I don't know of neurochemically that is at all whats going on here, but its just what it feels like.

I have a lot of things going on, I have a lot of things I am doing, and a lot of those things I do think are really nice and all, but most of the time I'm doing them, its hard for me to really place a carrot on a stick because SO much of my long term plans are in a state of determinism (ie waiting for outside factors to close certain doors and open new ones to decide the more specific nuances of my next few years) and so there really isn't any concrete "this is part of the plan for this and will play into it this way and yada yada"

And like, I can play Bladurs Gate, I can work on the DnD stuff, I can write, I can play video games, I can do things that are "enriching" but since none of them really genuinely play a role in any of my plans, I really, for a lack of better words, care. It's not that they don't make me happy or I don't enjoy themdo - I do, it's just such a dull and empty joy that it almost feels worse.

Now that I'm thinking about it and the way my own mind internally verbalizes it "its just a waste of time and a distraction from the actual goal which won't come any faster" and I think thats just a different way of saying "its just a filler between now and the second shoe dropping."

I dunno man, I have a lot of time and ability to do a lot of the hobbies and projects I was wanting to do, but its just so... boring and empty and I honestly kinda hate it.

[gynii]

I'm in the trenches (trying to build my first commander deck)

[spock-smokes-weed]

I honestly have no idea what’s going on on tiktok or the greater internet at large, but I overheard one of my classmates talking about the Maui wildfires, and she said something along the lines of “yea it was all pretty awful, I’m starting to believe some of that space laser stuff. If you look at the burn pattern it was only houses and cars”

Stop that. Stop that right now. Whoever you are spreading shit about the Maui fires being some kind of targeted conspiracy, I need to you stop. There are no such thing as space lasers, all you’re doing is obscuring the real institutional failure that caused this.

I despise shit like this. Real people are suffering right now it’s not the time for stupid conspiracies. A power company had no regards for the safety of the island’s inhabitants, and the resulting fire was then picked up by the winds of a hurricane. Colonialism and climate change caused this, not a fucking laser.

I need well-meaning young leftists to not fucking fall for conspiracies like this. It helps no one and obscures accountability. What happened on Maui was awful, but claiming it was some secret targeted attack is not activism. Use your brains and please think when you hear a claim like that.

[which-qsmp-egg-would]

What is the "tong incident" that your bio refers to? I've looked it up, but Tumblr's search is awful haha

Sorry it took me a bit to get to this! (although if you've ever sent me a poll ask, you're probably used to it)

I don't have a link, but the "Tong Incident" refers to a poll that got a LOT of notes for a very specific reason a few months ago, entirely centered around this

Yup. A pair of tongs. The problem is, they had EVERY name for this, EXCEPT tongs! And people LOST IT over that! I think it has somewhere between 150k and 200k notes by now?

Now I'm not sure if everyone else refers to things like this, but to me "Tong Incident" type polls means when people make polls that intentionally make people feel negative emotions just to get notes!

I have a personal rule, when it comes to having an online presence (I may not be a big blog, but it makes a difference!). I want to make something that people can be happy browsing, no matter what. Everything I post, I do everything I can to avoid making things more unfriendly. Not every opinion has to be put on the internet! Not every take must be talked about! Not every upsetting thing is a 'problem'!

I'm ranting.

The point is, the Tong poll made me realise that a lot of polls are made to upset people into giving them more notes. I love to get notes; reblogs feel amazing. But I refuse to get those at the expense of upsetting people! I would rather get my following the right way, rather than exploiting the system of tumblr.

[callixton]

the thing w working out regularly again is that my cardiac health is worst it’s been in three years. and that is bc of the health flare up i had in march bc i can literally see when it divebombed in my health app & i don’t really think exercising is going to help that like. at all. bc it’s due to my dysautonomia. idk maybe assuming that’s it’s impossible to improve my cardiac health through exercising is not a good assumption to make but it is my lived experience & it’s not why i’m working out anyway

[throwing-roses-into-the-abyss]

I was really worried about using bright yellow yarn in my fair isle scarf but I think it actually brightens the whole thing up? love that for me.