#if anyone has any other advice

[its-actually-minicika]

I know you finished your finals recently do you have any advice for someone who is starting uni? I’m really overwhelmed with having to move out of home and starting university with no friends

HI HELLO GUESS WHO'S BACK 🫶🏻

I'm honestly so sorry for taking so long to get to your ask. Life was hectic these past few weeks, but I'm here to answer your question!!!

I also moved away from home when uni started - albeit I still see my parents pretty often. My best piece of advice is to honestly raw dog it without any expectations: on neither yourself, or the types of people you'll meet in university.

I DON'T MEAN TO SOUND LIKE A DEBBY DOWNER BUT PLS KEEP READING

To me, university was (and still is) like a bigger scale highschool simulation. People don't really mature past where you left them in their final year of highschool, but there's a sense of acceptance coming from both your fellow students and teachers (in everyone doing their own thing without much judgement, I mean).

I can't speak for everyone when I say this, but it's much less daunting than what one might expect. The scenarios you make up right now are waaay more dramatic than what the final result will be like, trust me!

I encourage you to really make time in your schedule to socialize. Create something akin to a "friend group", and, if you're single and looking for someone to start a relationship with, just know that the most "husband material" guys are taken by the end of their 1st/2d year of uni LMAO

STAY FAR FAR AWAY FROM FRAT PARTIES. They're insanely overrated and you'll never find your life partner there.

When it comes to studying, never believe what the others will tell you. I heard all too often the phrases "I didn’t start studying yet!", "X/Y/Z is too difficult! I'll just skip the chapter and hope for the best", "I think today's lecture was too difficult. I'll totally drop out of this class."

None of your course mates will reveal how much effort they put into each class. All of them will tell you they haven't started studying, or that they'll start studying 2 weeks before your final exams etc.

DON'T BELIEVE THEM. They're all studying and putting in effort. Competition in university is cut-throat.

Or, at least, that's how it is in med school.

The academic workload that you'll have to go through is INSANE compared to highschool. But make a list going into each week, detailing the things you want to achieve/cross off it, and you'll be fine.

Individual work is key in university. No professors will baby any of you, and some might even drop materials for your finals a day before your exams take place.

Attitude wise, they're far less strict than their highschool counterparts.

Plan in advance, stay calm and, if you get overwhelmed, it's okay to take a break.

That's pretty much everything that I can think of from the top of my head. If I remember anything else, I'll write it down in the comments!!

Good luck starting university! You're going to nail living alone and making new friends. Remember that everyone is just as confused and eager to prove themselves as you ❤️ Don't put too much pressure on yourself and have fun!

[goopy-nightmares]

Hey other folks with weird food cravings and shit bc of your alterhumanity

How the hell do you deal with it????

Cause I’m REALLY wanting oil and metal rn but human bodies can’t exactly injest that and I have no idea what an alternative would be to satisfy it cause normal human food is not cutting it-

Chocolate’s the closest thing I’ve found to how I remember drone oil tasting but even then it’s still not right and I am not doing well rn I’m so hungry hrrrnnnnnnn-

-☠️Uzi/Z (She/Glitch)

[cheerioskid]

Your art is such a huge inspiration for me, the way your art is so fluid and fun to look at I was wondering if you had any tips on anatomy? I struggle a lot with stiffness and disproportion.

i tried to sum up my thoughts as coherently as possible so i hope this is easy to understand!! also tysm for the kind words <33

a lot of the tips i keep in mind when drawing is just stuff i've picked up from other artists, especially ones that show their entire process so you can see how they got from point a to point b (usually like those timelapse videos on instagram of figure studies (helpful stuff like that i keep saved so i can look at it when im struggling))

also when looking at references i find it helps to not just copy what you see but to exaggerate it a bit when drawing so that you don't risk losing any of that energy (like when i was in band i was told "if you're trying to hit a high note, aim higher than that note and usually you'll hit it") cus if you concentrate so much on getting it pixel perfect that's how it comes out looking stiff!!

this is just the most general advice i can give but obviously not everything stated here applies to every situation!!

[vagueconfusion]

girl help the behavioral health called while I was asleep and I somehow answered without realizing so when I went to answer it I accidentally hung up on them and they fucking. Didn't call back and the number I tried calling is all automated and I don't know what option to press r u fucking kidding me

[popcorn-plots]

long rant incoming, I'm just fed up with a certain person right now

OH MY GOODNESS is it too much to ask for just a LITTLE respect?? I drive this girl to and from school, every day. I'm going to call her Laura. Laura is an only child and the only reason I'm taking her to school is because she refuses to bike to mile and a half from her place to the school in the cold. Which is fine. The arrangement was that I drive her and she pays gas money. The problem is, she's been super annoying about it. Every morning for about a month, she would text me "are you picking me up today". every single morning. Until I snapped one day and told her that I have been picking her up every morning for the past month, of course I'm picking her up. not my proudest moment, but it works. Now, however, I have to text her every time I'm at her house and she still takes maybe 4 minutes to get out the door. Which, okay, I can understand the texting thing, but I would like her to be ready. and then every afternoon, she tells me that she can't find my car, so I have to tell her where I parked it in the morning. or she won't text anything and I'm sitting in my car for five or ten minutes after I text her for a response that's lik "oh I was with friends" or "I thought you were still in the school, I'm coming out now" which. okay. I understand, I like talking to my friends, but we all leave pretty quickly because no senior wants to stay at school longer than they have to. But there have been more than a few times where I'm sitting in my car for OVER HALF AN HOUR waiting for her to text back with "oh btw I forgot to tell you, I have a club meeting" or "i went home with a friend" or some bs. So every day I have to text her "do you need a ride home" because I'm waiting, in my car, for 15 minutes after school, waiting for this girl. And today, I'm sitting there for 25 minutes. and I'm like, okay I can wait, because I have some fics to catch up on. But then I'm finished with my fics

and I text her because she's still not there and it takes another five minutes for her to respond, word for word, "oh, sorry, I thought you would text me when you got to your car" after I've REPEATEDLY said that I typically leave school as soon as I can. I'm willing to wait for her, but I'm usually gone within five minutes of the bell. I waited half an hour for her to tell me that she was waiting for me to text her, informing her of my location, after I've told her that I'm always at my car. I even text her when I have something going on! Club meeting? I pick her up and before we get to school "I can't drive you home because I have a club meeting." If I have somewhere to be, or if I have to stay after school, I tell her before school or during lunch. Every single time, without fail.

not to mention the fact that the original arrangement was that she would pay me 10 dollars every 2 weeks for gas. I've only gotten 20 dollars in the past three and a half months. she keeps asking if I have venmo, and then never bringing up payment when I say that I don't. and she always complains about being too broke to afford anything, then goes and buys pizza and donughts during lunch. she's been flaky for everything else, too and it's so annoying. I've been trying to be a nice friend, because I didn't have friends, let alone kind friends growing up, and I've becoming known as the rich friend who's always willing to help in my friend group. I try to set boundaries, but then people stop talking to me the moment I do. and this has gone on throughout my entire life. Laura's behavior is even what happened in all of my previous relationships, I'd be giving 100 percent and they're giving 50, at best, until I wear myself out just trying to spend time with them and make it work, including talks where I set my boundaries and tell them, literally say "I would like it if you could just do this". If you could just get work off for a single evening or just look away from the computer for half an hour during lunch so we can have an actually conversation, then they never even try and don't understand when I'm all out of juice and can't keep going, then are confused when I stop giving my all

it's infuriating and I hate it. I really want to set boundaries, but guess what. I was raised to walk on eggshells around my mom and let people walk all over me because that's the only way that I would ever get attention from my PARENTS. because I was told to shut up and do what I'm told so that my siblings could get the help that they needed.

[cold--carnage]

These cats will not stop fighting. Despite all of our efforts we are woken up every night to break up the fights. And as we've now seen, the sleep deprivation can easily trigger our psychosis.

[of-stars-and-moon]

If you do, what helps you not feel like that?

[butch-himbo-king]

catie rescued a kitten yesterday and brought it home, kept it in the bathroom for the hour it was here before the person she found to adopt it came and picked it up. but just that one hour locked in the bathroom was enough for lady to fully flip and she is still in fight or flight mode stalking around the house growling at literally everything even the wall. we have steve closed off in the bedroom but idk what to do she is NOT calming down

[tchotchkez]

also I fuckin give up on bomb rush cyberfunk rush for now bc I've tried to beat the second crew battle like 10 times already and just CANNOT get a high enough score

dunno wtf I'm not doing right but honestly the difficulty level of the score challenges was not meant for casual players like me and that makes me Sad

jsr and jsrf were NEVER this hard and I am simply just not having fun playing now and that's very disappointing

[countess-of-edessa]

the thing about taking advice from anyone on tiktok or instagram including catholic and christian type influencers, parenting advice, relationship advice, etc, or internalizing any stories of horrible relationships and betrayal people tell on those platforms, or reading about all the ways interpersonal relationships can end horribly and be cycled through extremely quickly on those platforms is that you are necessarily then consuming the thoughts and experiences of someone who is willing to put their face and name on a public social media platform to talk at you. and like 1% of those people have a good reason for doing so and the other 99% are completely unhinged. so everything you’re consuming has first gone through the filter of "is this person weird and insane enough to make Instagram reels of themselves crying?" and if the answer is yes maybe their advice doesn’t apply to your life because you’re a normal person who would not do that.

[system-of-a-feather]

Y'all remember when we were discussing the differences between our hyper-planning and how people with issues with time / planning for the future experience and navigate things?

I'm really fucking feeling the dysfunction of one of the largest driving features of that which is honestly - in my words - the lack of ability to really get much dopamine at all from things in the present. I don't know of neurochemically that is at all whats going on here, but its just what it feels like.

I have a lot of things going on, I have a lot of things I am doing, and a lot of those things I do think are really nice and all, but most of the time I'm doing them, its hard for me to really place a carrot on a stick because SO much of my long term plans are in a state of determinism (ie waiting for outside factors to close certain doors and open new ones to decide the more specific nuances of my next few years) and so there really isn't any concrete "this is part of the plan for this and will play into it this way and yada yada"

And like, I can play Bladurs Gate, I can work on the DnD stuff, I can write, I can play video games, I can do things that are "enriching" but since none of them really genuinely play a role in any of my plans, I really, for a lack of better words, care. It's not that they don't make me happy or I don't enjoy themdo - I do, it's just such a dull and empty joy that it almost feels worse.

Now that I'm thinking about it and the way my own mind internally verbalizes it "its just a waste of time and a distraction from the actual goal which won't come any faster" and I think thats just a different way of saying "its just a filler between now and the second shoe dropping."

I dunno man, I have a lot of time and ability to do a lot of the hobbies and projects I was wanting to do, but its just so... boring and empty and I honestly kinda hate it.

[gynii]

I'm in the trenches (trying to build my first commander deck)

[spock-smokes-weed]

I honestly have no idea what’s going on on tiktok or the greater internet at large, but I overheard one of my classmates talking about the Maui wildfires, and she said something along the lines of “yea it was all pretty awful, I’m starting to believe some of that space laser stuff. If you look at the burn pattern it was only houses and cars”

Stop that. Stop that right now. Whoever you are spreading shit about the Maui fires being some kind of targeted conspiracy, I need to you stop. There are no such thing as space lasers, all you’re doing is obscuring the real institutional failure that caused this.

I despise shit like this. Real people are suffering right now it’s not the time for stupid conspiracies. A power company had no regards for the safety of the island’s inhabitants, and the resulting fire was then picked up by the winds of a hurricane. Colonialism and climate change caused this, not a fucking laser.

I need well-meaning young leftists to not fucking fall for conspiracies like this. It helps no one and obscures accountability. What happened on Maui was awful, but claiming it was some secret targeted attack is not activism. Use your brains and please think when you hear a claim like that.

[which-qsmp-egg-would]

What is the "tong incident" that your bio refers to? I've looked it up, but Tumblr's search is awful haha

Sorry it took me a bit to get to this! (although if you've ever sent me a poll ask, you're probably used to it)

I don't have a link, but the "Tong Incident" refers to a poll that got a LOT of notes for a very specific reason a few months ago, entirely centered around this

Yup. A pair of tongs. The problem is, they had EVERY name for this, EXCEPT tongs! And people LOST IT over that! I think it has somewhere between 150k and 200k notes by now?

Now I'm not sure if everyone else refers to things like this, but to me "Tong Incident" type polls means when people make polls that intentionally make people feel negative emotions just to get notes!

I have a personal rule, when it comes to having an online presence (I may not be a big blog, but it makes a difference!). I want to make something that people can be happy browsing, no matter what. Everything I post, I do everything I can to avoid making things more unfriendly. Not every opinion has to be put on the internet! Not every take must be talked about! Not every upsetting thing is a 'problem'!

I'm ranting.

The point is, the Tong poll made me realise that a lot of polls are made to upset people into giving them more notes. I love to get notes; reblogs feel amazing. But I refuse to get those at the expense of upsetting people! I would rather get my following the right way, rather than exploiting the system of tumblr.

[callixton]

the thing w working out regularly again is that my cardiac health is worst it’s been in three years. and that is bc of the health flare up i had in march bc i can literally see when it divebombed in my health app & i don’t really think exercising is going to help that like. at all. bc it’s due to my dysautonomia. idk maybe assuming that’s it’s impossible to improve my cardiac health through exercising is not a good assumption to make but it is my lived experience & it’s not why i’m working out anyway

[throwing-roses-into-the-abyss]

I was really worried about using bright yellow yarn in my fair isle scarf but I think it actually brightens the whole thing up? love that for me.