#honestly just need to declutter

[linogram]

and all the advice assumes that i have clothes strewn abt my room and trash all over the place and that if i pick up just those things, my room will be like 90% cleaner, when i have those things under control and the next advice is just "everything needs a place" which is good in theory, but doesnt help me when to me "on top of the clutter of my desk" = "a place"

every time i get the motivation to clean my room im immediately reminded of how i just dont have enough storage space for all my stuff and then i lose the motivation

[autumnhobbit]

my parents house genuinely just makes me so sad

[fingertipsmp3]

I haaate when apple pay doesn’t work and I have to type my credit card number in because now I have to actually comprehend the ways in which I am damaging myself financially

[maenimalist]

thoughts

[copperbadge]

In terms of accessories, some people are into collecting shoes, or graphic tee-shirts, or watches, or hats; my thing, mainly, is bags. Specifically messenger bags and backpacks. I own more than I need by about an order of magnitude and I've made several myself, and the only justification I have for keeping them is that I do keep them hung on a wall on display. And because I see them, I often swap out one bag for another. So they do get used.

I've been doing a lot of decluttering -- weeding my clothes, winter gear, kitchen goods, et cetera -- and I've begun to joke that I have so much stuff to donate I should just open my own pop-up thrift shop. But it is going to become a little bit of an issue when I'm done packing it all up and I actually do have to donate it somewhere. I have access to a couple of methods of donating clothing, and I suspect I'll be asking someone to drive me to the local thrift dropoff for the rest, but it's going to be a process regardless.

I've decided, though, that once everything actually is donated, not just weeded and packed up but out of the place, I'm going to treat myself to a reward -- I've wanted a Fjallraven bag forever, and I've never been able to justify buying one because it's a lot of money to pay for something that I realistically could get from Target, just not quite as stylish. And honestly I prefer messenger bags to backpacks.

But I like the idea of trading out this literal carload of stuff for a single, elegant Fjallraven bag, and it'll motivate me to actually get it done, at least I hope. I'm not sure what I'm getting yet but I've narrowed it to three options -- either the traditional Fjallraven Kanken in a fun color scheme, one of the very few shoulder/messenger bags they carry, or one of their hybrid duffle-backpacks for travel. I love my Open Story travel backpack, but they're not terribly durable (plastic fixtures and cheap zips) and as they say, I feel like a Fjallraven travel pack could fix me. :D

[missjashin]

Steve spending the night at Eddie’s because his parents are home and they’ve been arguing so he doesn’t really wanna be at home. Didn’t go to Robin because her parents might not let him stay the night and also Robin has work tomorrow and Steve doesn’t. The odd case of them not having shift together.

So he ends up with Eddie and in the morning he is having breakfast with Eddie and Wayne and they discuss their plans for the day. Eddie and Wayne have some plans for the day. You know, to spend some quality family time maybe? Or maybe they have just some errands to run, stuff to figure out because of all the shit that went down during spring break.. Whatever, they have plans for the day and Steve.. doesn’t want to intrude any more than he already is so he is not going with them. Even when they say he can come too.

And it’s summer time so the kids are busy with whatever the teens are busy with. And Steve loves them dearly and loves spending time with them but he tries to give them space and not smother them with his worrying so yeah he can’t spend the day with them either. They’ll come to him if they need him.. He could always go bother Robin at work but going to your work place on your free day because you have nothing better to do sounds a little sad.. So maybe he’ll just have to suck it up and go back home then.

But then Eddie offers that he could stay. You know he doesn’t have to leave just because Wayne and Eddie do. Like he could stay, it’s fine. They’ll be back by 6 or so and they could have dinner together then? And since Steve really really really doesn’t want to go home right now he accepts (after asking about thousand times if it’s really okay tho).

So soon he is left alone with a “Feel free to educate yourself with my music collection while we’re gone” and see you laters. Steve didn’t really have any plans for today and he kinda left in a hurry too so he didn’t bring much stuff with him but oh well he’ll figure something out.

He starts collecting the breakfast dishes and well he could wash them. He has the time and it would be just nice little gesture since the Munsons let him stay and all. And then it just makes sense to wipe the counters and the table after that. Like who would wash the dishes and then just leave crumbs all over the place? Oh. And I guess he just got some of those crumbs to the floor now. Well it’s just a quick little sweep. Could vacuum the whole place now too since he started. But first he needs to declutter a bit because goddamn Eddie why are your clothes and books just everywhere. Might as well do some laundry while he’s at it.

When Eddie and Wayne come back home around 6pm the place they’re in for a quite a shock. Not only is the place spotless but they’re greeted with the smell of food as well. “Oh you’re back! I’m making dinner, it’s just about done” Steve welcomes them enthusiastically but start to doubt himself a little after seeing the surprised faces. “I.. hope that’s okay”

Only then Steve realizes he may have got little carried away with his cleaning spree. Like maybe cleaning the windows was a tad bit too much.. Ugh he so hopes they’re not too weirded out.. Honestly he didn’t even realize he basically spent all day doing household chores that and it’s not even his own house. He glad the Munsons don’t comment on it too much tho, other than “you didn’t have to” and slightly awkward thank yous.

They start eating and now they drown Steve in compliments. (“Wow this is so good, what brand is this?” “Uhm.. it’s not a-.. I made it” “…Like from scratch?!” “Yeah..” “Holy shit dude this is seriously so fucking delicious” “Language. But he is right son, this is fucking delicious”)

At some point during dinner Wayne makes a comment about it starting to rain and Steve lets out a shocked gasp “my laundry!” and rushes out to collect it from outside where he hung it to dry. Wayne asks amusedly if Steve is a housewife or something, just ready to crack little jokes there but then spots the dopey smile on his nephew’s face, gaze still lingering in the doorway where Steve run off to. He smiles knowingly at Eddie when he finally looks back at him, now starting to blush and trying to stammer some sort of reply.

Steve comes back in and they finish dinner and hang out a bit together until Steve and Eddie go to Eddie’s room. Steve again apologizes because he got so carried away and hope he didn’t cross any lines. Eddie little amusedly asks if Steve really thinks they’d be mad at him for tidying up the place? Just helping them out a little so they can relax? Like in all seriousness, after all that shit show that happened during spring, Wayne could use a little break and just relax.

(“And you couldn’t?” “Well sure I could, but in this case he needs it more. If you haven’t noticed I’m not much of help in the cleaning department” “Oh yeah, I’ve noticed” “Hey!” “What? You asked!”)

Eddie then asks if Steve “educated himself” with the music. Steve tells to educate him himself. Eddie takes that as a challenge.

Steve spends the other night.

[velvetvexations]

I'm going to try answering multiple asks in one posts to cut down on hitting my limit and declutter lol

I believe they were hyping themselves up for being a transfem ally who got to clapback to transmisogyny in a way that was totally epic and cool and they want us to fuck them so bad

What annoys me even more about this is that they still call baeddel a slur even though it was brought back for the first time since literally the Middle Ages by a group most agree were completely fucked up, and it's like, hey, shouldn't other people be able to use baeddel in that retaliatory way then? Why can't they have their justice slur?

We understand. One of us identifies as as cis woman and another as a cis man, although funnily enough, while the trans woman and two non-binary members also have physical dysphoria, the cis man is is probably the one who feels it the hardest including wanting giant knockers. We're a strange bunch. It's okay for systems to have a complicated relationship with their body.

We love you, all of you, and we hope she feels the solidarity. <3

Honestly I'm really tempted to next time I shave just because of how good I've been feeling about my butchness lately because of Velvet Nation, and also wanting to triple dog dare transradfems to say I don't look feminine enough to be a trans woman.

tpwrtrmnky 🤝 JK Rowling

creating a series beloved by queer people only to unfortunately have your brain poisoned into obsessively perpetuating transphobia

huge W for trans women though because she speedran that shit

I still don't think we need to be questioning her claims about being ostracized and I'd seriously prefer we stop doing that. It is, however, extremely weird she's still ranting about this like a week or two later, it's pretty clear she bare minimum has a problem with melodrama and should probably limit her engagement with the internet until she can get herself together to not collapse like this when people gently point out something she said not vibing.

Sometimes it feels like transradfems who act like egg jokes are vitally necessary to liberation have the exact same mindset as cis lesbians obsessed with "losing" AFAB people to being trans.

yeah, well, maybe so, but looking like a woman is a privilege and you're a gender traitor

I literally quit Reddit and came back to Tumblr because it drove me fucking insane that the D20 fandom kept calling a high schooler a nepo baby because her dad was a real estate agent.

High fashion, honestly.

Yes.

the thing you have to understand is that being a masculine man is bad but so is being a feminine man, being a man is just bad, that's why trans women are transitioning out of it

I'm so cool and sexy

Thank you anon!

Radical feminism, trans or trans exclusive, is in fact a cult, including frequently attempting to isolate minors away from outside support networks. TERFs and transradfems are the most miserable and sickening mirrors of each other.

[bangbang-adri]

Plz help, 2024 sucks and I love you all

Hey guys, I'm so so so tired.

I haven't actually been so active lately due to so much crap going on at home.

I've put up a goal and am begging for some help.

My apartment complex had their bi yearly inspections and we ended up failing due to over clutter. I have a family of 7 that we've squeezed to fit into a small three bedroom unit so of course, it's going to look cluttered ToT

We ended up having to rent a whole storage unit to be able to fully declutter or face being evicted. On top of that, they've also raised our rent here by $200.(We paid $960, now it's $1160) On top of THAT, our vehicle was totalled so now we are currently borrowing my father in law and having to figure out a new car situation too.

We're barely managing to scrap by, but with all of that going on, I'm not honestly not sure how we're going to manage for this Christmas season. (I know it shouldn't seem like a big deal, but I have 5 gremlins between 5-14 so for them, it's a big deal) The goal isn't all going for Xmas, there's also general needs and such for home in there too.

I will be so eternally grateful to any and all help received in this time of need. I know it comes off as whining and for that I'm sorry. I genuinely just needed to rant about it all too. Thank for taking your time to listen to this old momma beg(and scream and cry)

(Also, if no one's told you today, I'm so proud of you and the journey you've faced. Keep fighting, I'm rooting for you!<3)

[gemmahale]

Y’all will never guess what I just found as I worked through tidying and decluttering the back room.

….if you guessed “more yarn; mostly mini skeins” you’d be correct. I’ll give you points for any iteration of that.

This plan might be on hold. (It should be, honestly.)

Hopefully in 2025 I can bring myself to stash down and share the fiber joy with other folks. (I’ll spend Q4 finalizing my collection and organization and such.)

And stop being inspired by new colors and patterns. That one needs to happen.

[drdemonprince]

How do you feel about “weaponized incompetence”

I see a lot of people talking about it, and I know it can definitely be a thing that people do purposefully, but so many things that fall under the umbrella seem like things that some neurodivergent people tend to struggle with.

I don't think a person needs to be consciously or intentionally weaponizing incompetence in order to leverage it for their benefit. Due to forces like systemic sexism, sometimes a weaponized incompetence dynamic plays out without anybody meaning it to.

Now of course, weaponized incompetence is absolutely a dynamic that some people deliberately create (famously, a husband or boyfriend knowingly washing the dishes poorly so his partner never asks him to do it again), but more often than not, it's the byproduct of capitalist overwork and alienation meeting sexist norms that play out on an intuitive level rather than some malicious, evil plan.

My ex-partner absolutely benefitted from weaponized incompetence; he was also almost certainly an undiagnosed ADHDer who was struggling, and not a bad guy. From my perspective, it didn't matter. I still ended up having to pay the bills, sign us up for all the utilities, figure out a new place to live three different times when our rent went up, hire the movers, remind him to get a new ID when his old one was expired and we had a flight coming up, find him a dentist when his tooth was aching, help him write emails for his work when he first got a job, ask him to clean things rather than being able to trust he would contribute, make all the decisions regarding decluttering the house, take care of our pet, etc etc etc.

He deserved more help than he ever got, as a (very likely) disabled person living under capitalism. But I also covered him and shouldered his life burdens in a way that made me miserable and offloaded a lot of his responsibilities onto me. It drove me nuts and made me dysphoric to admit it, but a large part of how we wound up in that dynamic was systemic sexism, because he was a cishet man and I wasn't.

All that said, and my considerable real-life biases having been put on the table, I do think it's the case that many disabled people are unfairly accused of 'weaponizing incompetence' when all that they've done is express a limitation as clearly as they possibly could, which ought to be a good thing. There is nothing wrong or manipulative with asking for help, or for articulating what you are and are not capable of as honestly as you can. (And this honest communication piece was absent in the relationship I am describing; he wouldn't even acknowledge that he wasn't and could not contribute to maintaining a life together in any practical way. When I tried to name that dynamic, he would shut down, walk away, say things were going to change without any plan for how that might happen, etc).

In much the same way that an excited Autistic person who is infodumping or communicating super clearly in order to be helpful can be unfairly branded a "mansplainer", lots of disabled people are seen unfairly as manipulative, lying about their limitations, taking advantage of other people, lazy, and weaponizing incompetence.

The trope of the fake disabled person who is just gaming the system cuts deep. It's pervasive and it's responsible for a lot of social problems that disabled people face, from impossibly difficult benefits applications programs, to cruel teachers who refuse to provide the accommodations to which their students are entitled, to abusive and neglectful partners who fail to meet their disabled loved one's needs. Arguably I even was one of those partners, even if I did have genuine reasons for grievance and very real disabilities of my own.

The reality is that the lines between all these things can be blurred, as a person's intent and their impact can be wildly different. people who are doing their best can still leverage sexism and leave a partner feeling taken advantage of. And a partner who feels taken advantage of can have real reasons for feeling that way and can also still be ableist, or even cruel and unfair to their disabled loved one. it's tough.

Thanks for the great question, it is one I think about a lot for obvious reasons.

[sweaterkittensahoy]

What 2025 looks like vaguely

I gotta get this hip shit figured out. My bad hip is still aching daily, and I am definitely spending more time doing the PT exercises that move the joint back into place than I used to. Had to do it first thing this morning, in fact, because I woke up and a spot in my foot ached that only aches when there's referred pain from my hip. The good news, the exercises did the job. The bad news, that's the third or fourth time this week I've needed to do those exercises. So, I have to get that shit unfucked.

I also have to call the radiology clinic to schedule for the follow-up to the special mammogram/ultrasound because my boob meat shifted after surgery, and now there's a spot that looks iffy via the regular mammogram. I did the first round of the special testing and basically disassociated the whole time (I have PTSD around any sort of cancer shit), and this is just the follow-up. But I just got the final part of the billing from last time figured out right before the holidays, and then the holidays, so now I have to call them to set the appointment. Then I have to call my GP to schedule the annual that got cancelled on me several weeks ago that they were supposed to call to reschedule but haven't, and I also need them to reset my portal password so I can actually get the referral information for the ADHD testing that I tried to set up last year, but then forgot about for months at a time because to get the info, I'd have to call the clinic for the password reset, and I had the boob scare and now the hip pain increasing so it's been hard to focus on the whole 'need to set up testing for a whole new fucking thing'.

No joking about how ADHD vibing that story is. Sean has it covered (he has ADHD, so he fucking knows).

Anyway, that's the health shit that isn't 'need to find a therapist again' because look, I can only do this shit one or two bits at a time, and I'll knock out three things at once (boob check, hip referral, testing) by making the first phone call, then making the second phone call, so let's just put a pin in a therapist until I've had my delayed annual.

House-wise, we have decided to stay where we are. We did like the townhouse we saw a whole lot and we could absolutely swing the rent increase no problem. But if we stay where we are, we get to stay in the neighborhood we like very much and the rent increase even going to a month-to-month lease is still noticeably less than what the new place would be. Sean's going to dedicate some time to researching how the fuck one buys a house or condo or just a dwelling, let's say. And we're going to focus on decluttering and also upgrading some of our furniture. We don't have an issue with keeping things we don't want, but we do have an issue with keeping things neat and like, dusted. So, that's the focus. Cleaning and dusting and being realistic about what stays in the house. I've actually gotten pretty good at going through my stuff every few months and removing things I realize I really don't want anymore, but with our limited storage options in the apartment, it's kind of an ongoing battle. Getting rid of all my heels last year helped a lot. The shoe storage hanger in the office is no longer needed, so that space feels slightly larger, which is nice. But there's yarn and books and jewelry that all need sorting, and we want to replace the coffee table and my side table with options made of real wood.

There's a vintage furniture place we love that also does custom builds with a mid-century vibe. We replaced my previous desk with a custom-sized desk from them, and they also do coffee tables that you can just grab up off their show floor if they're the right size. The side table will have to be a custom order because I want basically what I have but longer, so I need it to be a very particular height. Honestly, I may just deal with a pile of notebooks and crochet hooks for a few weeks and just take them the current side table to build against. It's not as cheap as hitting Ikea (and we love Ikea), but it's also built of solid wood and metal legs, so it'll last forever, and the designs are clean, which I love.

We also have con in March, as always. Very much excited for that. Currently no other travel plans, and after the intentional trip down south for a visit last year, then us traveling together in July and then Sean having to go alone at the top of December for the grandparent funerals, I'm happy to stay close to home as long as possible.

Bean's got to get a teeth cleaning, which we're planning for in April, most likely. Our wedding anniversary is in May, and I think I wanna either plan a proper Staycation or maybe spend a weekend up the mountain or out at the Gorge. That's all still loose and does not require effort at the moment. Honestly, until after con, I don't need to put any hard thought into any plans. Con is fucking awesome and also a LOT. I can't wait but also it's about a two-week recovery time after just from the casual social aspect of being surrounded by people the whole time.

Anyway, that's 2025 to start. There's crochet plans, but let's be real: that's a whole different post.

[444princesa]

things i have done this month to prep for january

i decided to act on my new years goals in december instead of january to get a kick start so come january, my goals are already becoming habits.

now lets go to what i have done:

started working out or moving my body everyday for at least 45 minutes. i aim for 2 hrs of walking which equals to 10k steps and stretching for 10-25 minutes. i find that this has boosted my energy levels and i really feel good but i also do other workouts like taebo if walking isnt doing it for me.

eating cleaner and making my own meals. im not a super unhealthy person but i did indulge alot which i knew wasnt good and i regretted it right after. eating unhealthy foods made me feel so groggy, heavy, bloated and just BAD. i started to cook my meals and eating more whole foods. i still indulge but in moderation. drinking a ton of water throughout the day and eating veggies or fruits before and after a meal really changed my body for the better.

doing my skincare. i was lazy about my skincare like i didnt put on sunscreen everyday and i didt take good care of it. now my skin isnt bad and i never struggled with it but i knew skincare would benefit me in the long run, plus its a nice way to incorporate self care daily. i started to do my AM and PM skincare everyday and it has been such a luxury to do.

decluttering and organizing. i have been decluttering like a MANIAC this month. it has been so freeing to get rid of anything that i do not need. i have decluttered my whole space so i am ready for the new year.

living more slowly. now this wont last but i am currently on break so i honestly have alot more time. i don't wake up super early as i did and i dont make my day so jam packed that i never have time to do simple things for myself. i sleep in (which is waking up at 8am lol, im more of a morning person) and it feels nice not having structure to my day at the moment. its odd honestly because i am a person that plans her month, week, and day no matter what but this semester really drained me so i needed to give myself time to be lazy. BUT i do want to go back on a schedule come january because i cannot live this freely for a long time, that is just not me haha.

not much preparation but it has helped me to start fresh come the new year. i mainly have been enjoying life, workout, cook, clean and organize. i know when january comes my life will get busy because of school and life. i wanted to get a few things into habits like skincare, workout, eating better, taking time to relax, which i feel i have gotten that down. these were things i struggled with on a daily and practicing that everyday for nearly a month has made me feel better but also it has been part of my routine now. i do have more goals i know i can do daily which i will share later on.

[ms-moonlight-inn]

(⁠ ⁠/⁠^⁠ω⁠^⁠)⁠/⁠♪⁠♪ tag o’clock (⁠ ⁠/⁠^⁠ω⁠^⁠)⁠/⁠♪⁠♪

Tagged by @spookygingerr @francesrose3 @burninface @sleepyheadgallavich @energievie @jrooc @deathclassic to clock in for tag o'clock. 🫡

favourite nickname someone gave you: I'm particularly partial to people calling me Moonlight. I believe @notherenewjersey started it.

favourite thing in your room/house: we have two extra closets in our spare room, one that I claimed for myself. It's the messiest, most chaotic place in our house & I love it. When the mood takes, I organize & declutter it; normally, it exists as a portal to Narnia. 🙃

your favourite thing about a friend/partner/family member: I'm lucky to be surrounded by the best people for me. They're not always perfect, but they're usually what I need to get me through the day, usually. Sometimes, it's me doing the rescuing. Reciprocity, ya know.

what is something you’re grateful for today?: my kid is out with friends for the first time in a while. It's been a rough summer.

what’s your favourite thing about this fandom?: honestly, I've had my ups & downs in this fandom, but I don't think I'd trade the experience for anything in the world. I've met so many amazing people here, so many kind, empathetic souls. The occasional bump in the road would never be enough to dissuade me.

if one song could describe your day today, what would it be?:

Oof, this isn't describing my day; it's stuck in my head & sent me down a whole spiral of bad music.

Finally let’s spread some love:

pick one of your pocket pals and tell them something you admire about them: Just one? Ok, @dancermk, I admire your tenacity & perseverance. Every time you've had a chance to quit, you've kept yourself moving forward, and you've done it without losing your compassion or kind heart. 🫶

Tagging with no pressure to play, @transmurderbug @lingy910y @sleepyfacetoughguy @sluttygallavich @palepinkgoat @darlingian @gallavichgeek @notherenewjersey @mybrainismelted & anyone else who wants to play.

[lauratheghost]

I have the next four days off from work 😊

I, once again, have an ambitious list of things I want to accomplish... Hopefully this time I won't just play Hollow Knight the entire time 😂 (but, honestly, it's been a great time 🤷🏼‍♀️)

I saw this TikTok about doing a "digital declutter" and I really wanna do that before the new year. It was basically this list:

- go through your camera roll and delete stuff / back up photos

- go through your notes app and organize

- delete emails and unsubscribe from promotional stuff

- delete texts you no longer need

- unfollow people on social media you no longer align with

- clean your headphones and curate your music playlists

- set a new phone wallpaper

I really liked this list :)

And I think I'm going to make a post about all the books I've read in 2024 and what I thought of them. (It's a short list, but they were almost all 5 stars)

I might also make a 2024 yearly recap video for TikTok 😊

And I'll be writing a bit 😁

Other than that, I just have some boring errands I have to do.

I'll report back on Sunday if I was successful with this 😂😭

[nikethestatue]

Outside of ACOTAR and SJM, what are your other interests? What would you do if you had 24 hours of free time and you could spend it as you pleased?

Everyone always asks you about ACOTAR, I thought I'd change it up a bit and give you a breather

Well, I am a DINK (or actually a SINK at this point)--Dual Income No Kids, but because I quit my job to write full time, I guess we just have a chill kind of life.

Honestly, I am pretty devoted to my man and I love just being with him. We've been together for 7 years and we still have a ton of fun, and it's a relationship that really sustains my soul. We like to do things together--travelling, food, exploring, hiking, whatever. We like nature and go on our 'Nessian hikes' almost every Sunday. But we are also both very hoity toity so we like the nicer things in life.

My perfect day would be in London.

Dusty Knuckle for bakes in the morning

A pub starting at 3pm (don't judge me)

The Ledbury for dinner

There are a couple of cafes where I like to write.

Obviously football--I'd go to an Arsenal game.

I also like to cook, so maybe I'd cook dinner and listen to Zach Bryan's 'I Remember Everything', which is like the most beautiful song ever.

We live in Canary Wharf, which I don't particularly like, so I escape into the bowels of the city and let it entertain me.

But basically, I am like Elain--I just need some peace and quiet. The older I become the more I understand the value of that. And how important it is to live the life you imagine living. Declutter and only invest your energies in those you love and the things that bring you joy.

A well-crafted life is a life well lived.

[smashwolfen]

hello i am so in awe that you have collected all the pokémon games (i finished my collection of 3ds ones a bit ago but i considered a lot of the other ones out of reach) and i was wondering how long it took? i know especially the older remakes are insane to get so i’m super curious

(This got incredibly long i'm so sorry for the wall of text my guy)

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Hello there! :D

Believe me, I still can't believe it myself that I managed to pull it off considering who I had to get ahold of! Been happy dancing to myself ever since I got the last game~

God it feels like it was longer ago honestly, but I only really began trying to finish the Pokemon collection just a year ago! Had to check back in my DMs with my buddy, but the day I began to seriously search for the rest of the authentic generations was May 5th 2023, the day I discovered my copy of Platinum was a repoduction, ya watch ONE video regarding reals vs. fakes and it all went down from there when I looked over the ones I owned already, luckily Platinum was the only one who was fake ;w;

I had passively over the years been picking up games as I went, but from that day last year til recently I looked where I could for the games I was missing, to be fair I had about half the collection to begin with just from growing up and finding ones out and about, I only needed to find the pair of whatever I owned already, besides gen 5.... since I somehow never played gen 5 growing up. Funny enough I didn't have to look too far, every single game I found had all been local! Facebook marketplace saved me big time I just had to wait and compare prices til I was happy with what I was willing to pay for! I scrutinized every single copy I got my hands on and triple checked everything before I was satisfied XD

The 3DS titles were very easy to get thankfully, and the same goes for you too good on ya for getting your 3DS ones! Hardest for sure were gens 3-5, specifically ALL of gen 5 they are the WORST to get since no one wants to sell them and they're required to be able to move anyone forward to the 3DS and then to the Switch! I think It'd be easier to list who I owned and who I hunted for in the year of the search.

So I owned:

Red, Blue, Yellow, Gold, Silver, Crystal, Leafgreen, Emerald, Diamond, Pearl, X, Alpha Sapphire, Moon, UltraSun, Sword, Violet and Arceus (some I had gotten as gifts growing up and others I had gotten through yardsaling and thrifting by chance as I grew up, Emerald was 70 at a yardsale!)

The ones I got from the year of the hunt:

Ruby, Sapphire, FireRed, Platinum, Heartgold, SoulSilver, Black, White, Black 2, White 2, Y, Omega Ruby, Sun, UltraMoon, Shield, Lets Go Pikachu, Lets Go Eevee (I DID own Eevee before but traded it in before the hunt) Scarlet, Brilliant Diamond, and Shining Pearl.

Now knowing who I had to get, we all know it costs a pretty penny, so I essentially sold things myself to fund the hunt, like my amiibos I didn't really need or want, a handful of random collectable things I picked up and kept over the years (notably a masterchief helmet from the legendary collection I got for free like 10 years ago lol) and some odds and ends I didn't need anymore and to declutter the home! I think out of my own pocket I only paid maybe 40 bucks total so I paid for everyone that way! It was all mostly luck finding everyone and keeping an eye on marketplace, and some of them I had gotten from folks I knew! Black and Black 2 actually came from one of my managers at work who sold them to me for insanely cheap, and Sapphire I got for free as I mentioned in the games post XD

If you do try to go for the complete collection, I say have a gameplan for how to pay and build that piggybank of funds, go for what you can afford! So if you see a game without a case thats usually better, you dont NEED a case or have a game CIB really, a bunch of mine dont have a case or box and I'm alright with that! Look locally at second hand stores, vintage ones, marketplace or any other local yardsale or fleamarket type thing you may have in your area, and I say this with caution, but if you HAVE to, you can consider ebay, but I strongly suggest not to when it comes to the games. I had originally tried to get a Brilliant Diamond copy from there and well, dude never sent it at all and got my money (ebay fully refunded me but that still bites). And finally get well versed in learning how to authenticate to the best of your abilities, 3DS and switch I don't think can be faked but everything else can be! I used this as my guide to figure out who was real and fake in my search and it worked very very well! Twas my bible of knowledge

End of the day it didn't take as long as one would think, but luck played a HUGE roll in this endeavor, I was smart with my money, and I was very very VERY stubborn and wanted them all XD

If you go for the complete collection like I did then I wish you the best of luck my friend! And thank you very much for the ask! It kinda got away from me while typing but yeah thats the story and process of how I got all the main series titles!