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My least favorite take is that the story of Jamie’s dad is about substance abuse. It’s not. Addiction is a disease. At least in the US it’s classified as substance use disorder. And it’s a treatable condition that should be viewed as a public health matter and not a moral matter.
But that’s not the issue with James Tartt, Sr. The issue with James is that he’s abusive — physically, emotionally, and sexually — towards Jamie. Now, maybe that is exacerbated by substance use, particularly alcohol. But that doesn’t fully explain or excuse behavior.
And again, I believe that people can change. No matter how old they are or what horrible things they’ve done. And I believe that *societally* those people deserve second chances. But believing both of those things doesn’t require that the the *individual* they harmed extend forgiveness. Those are complex and individual choices.
The show implies that James Tartt Sr. is in rehab. And I think that’s great. People should absolutely get the medical treatment they need (AA isn’t evidence based, btw, but that’s a discussion for another day). But getting treatment for substance use disorder doesn’t automatically fix the behaviors he engaged in, even while under the influence. And me saying that doesn’t mean I’m demonizing people with substance use disorder.
#jamie tartt#james tartt sr#healing is complicated#and requires more than rehab#and alcholism isn’t what made James abuse Jamie#though perhaps he was self medicating for issues that did make him do that#anyway this is a James tartt sr hate account#and I’m fine with that
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such.
recently, i've known such happiness and longing — sometimes both at once.
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The dog days are over.
[First] Prev <–-> Next
#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#wei wuxian#jiang cheng#The childhood flashback is one of my favourite scenes in MDZS and yes I am disapointing myself in how little I am covering it.#If it is any consolation...I'll be bringing JYL's piggyback scene into another comic later on.#There truly is something so specific and yet resonant in the way our bonds as children feel so deep.#But the world doesn't stay as small as it does when you are a kid. The problems you argue about get bigger and more serious.#You still hold so much love for this person despite how much you want to throw hands with them.#To have such a complicated history with someone and then fall apart...You always think you have time to heal the wound.#Why wouldn't you! You've never had anything but time with this person. A brother not in blood but in true and genuine bond.#And then the fucker dies! It's horrible and sudden and the last words you exchanged were cold and awful!#What do you do with those dead end feelings? What do you do but grieve bitterly and angrily?#There is no resolution for all the love you wanted back. There will never be an opportunity to bridge the gap between you.#Someone you loved died thinking you hated them. Because you thought you had more time.#If anyone dares say Jiang Cheng didn't love WWX I'll be the first to fire up the powerpoint presentation on why he absolutely does.
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DP x DC: The Most Dangerous Card Game
Ok so Danny has essentially claimed earth as his. And he is fully aware that there are constant threats to the planet. Now he can’t stop a threat that originates on earth (that’s something he’ll leave to the Justice league) but he can do something about outside threats. Doing some research on ancient spells, rituals, and artifacts, he cast a world wide barrier on the planet to protect it from hostile threats so they cannot enter. This will prevent another Pariah Dark incident. However, barriers like this come at a price. You see, there are two ways to make a barrier. Either make one powered up by your own energy and power (which would be constantly draining) or set up a barrier with rules. The way magic works is that nothing can be absolutely indestructible. It must have a weakness. The most powerful barriers weren’t the ones reinforced with layer after layer of protective charms and buffed up with power. Those could eventually be destroyed either by being overpowered, wearing them down, or by cutting off the original power source. No, the most powerful barriers were the ones with a deliberate weakness. A barrier indestructible except for one spot. A cage that can only be opened from the outside. Or that can only be passed with a key or by solving a riddle. So Danny chooses this type of barrier and does the necessary ritual and pours in enough power to make it. And he adds his condition for anyone to enter.
Now the Justice league? Find out about the barrier when Trigon attempts to attack, they were preparing after he threatened what he would do once he got to earth. How he would destroy them. The Justice league tried to take the fight to him first but were utterly destroyed, so they retreated home to tend to their injuries, and fortify earth for one. Last. Stand. Only when Trigon makes his big entrance…he’s stopped.
The Justice league watch in awe as this thin see-through barrier with beautiful green swirls and speckled white lights like stars apears blocking Trigon and his army’s advance. The barrier looks so thin and fragile yet no matter how hard the warlord hits, none of his attacks can get through and neither can he damage said barrier. That’s when Constantine and Zatanna recognizes what this barrier is. Something only a powerful entity could create. For a moment, the league is filled with hope that Trigon can’t get through yet Constantine also explains that it’s not impenetrable. And clearly Trigon knows this too for he calls out a challenge.
And that’s when, in a flash of light, a tiny glowing teenager appears. He looked absolutly minuscule compared to Trigon and yet practically glowed with power (this isn’t a King Danny AU though).
And that is when the conditions for passing the barrier are revealed. And the Justice realize that the only thing stopping Trigon and his army from decimating earth. The only way he can get through….is by beating this glowing teenager in a card game.
Not just any card game though. The most convoluted game Sam, Danny, and Tucker invented themselves. It’s like the infinite realms version of magic the gathering, combined with Pokémon, and chess. And Danny is the master. So sit down Trigon and let’s play.
(The most intense card game of the Justice league’s life).
After Danny wins, this happens a few more times with outer word beings and possibly even demons attempting to invade earth, yet none have been able to beat the mysterious teenager in a card game. Constantine might even take a crack at it and try to figure out how to play. He’s really bad though. Every time this happens, the Justice league worry that this might be the time the teenager looses. Yet every time, he wins (even if only barely).
Meanwhile, Danny, Sam, and Tucker have gotten addicted to the game and play it almost daily. Some teachers might seem them playing the game are are like ‘awww how cute’ not realizing this game is literally saving the world. Jazz is just happy they aren’t spending as much time on their screens playing Doomed.
#DPxDC#Kizzer55555 ideas#Danny makes a card game to save the world.#Technically he worded the ritual so that they had to ‘beat’ him as those are the most powerful barriers and most reliable.#keys can just get lost or stolen (like the one to Pariah’s Coffin)#A riddle would be useless once someone figured out the answer. Like how no one takes the sphynx seriously anymore.#(Sorry Tuck. But it’s true).#And there is NO WAY Danny is just leaving a hole open for anyone to pass through. No thank you!#So…beating him. But it’s not like Danny wanted to fight so…he edited the ritual a TINY bit. Card games are good. Much less painful too.#Danny Tucker and Sam made the most complicated card game they could imagine.#It’s based on their strategies for fighting ghosts. Capturing them in thermoses. And MUCH based on a on field battle strategy.#It often requires spontaneous thinking on the spot. So Danny? In his ELEMNT. It doubles as practice for his actual ghost battles too.#They had SO much fun making this.#Sam added an entire series of plant cards that act as traps and healing ointments and duds that just take up the field.#Tucker added legitimate hyroglyphics combined with Latin as well as English and ghost speak.#Yes. You actually have to speak that language to play. With proper pronunciation. (Amity Parker’s think the three are talking gibberish.)#I headcanon Sam and Tucker are fluent in Ghost.#Constantine WILL figure this game out SO HELP HIM!#Some of the cards also have combinations related to constellations either in name or placement on the board.#By the way the board is based on a Hexagonal summoning circle with Rhunes along the edges#And the placement of the cards on the board and on what rhune MATTERS.#Also the cards move disintegrate and have certain abilities. Think of Harry Potter Wizard Chess.#But they are normal when Danny plays at school. This is just for ✨effect✨ Against invaders.#Danny faces multiple opponents. He also halts alien invasions.#While Danny COULD stop crime on earth he’s not sure how to fight a normal human and hold back so he sticks to ghosts.#The Justice league are going crazy trying to figure out who this entity is and after deep research are convinced this is some sort of#Ancient being who has protected earth for millenia. They have paintings on ruins and everything.#Danny is not aware they think this.#Raven starts praying to Danny as if he is a god and wrangles the other Teen Titans into doing so as well. Danny is still unaware of this.#Danny is not a King or an ancient. Just a very VERY strong ghost.
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Dev this is serious stop beatboxing.
#fop nature au#fop#fairly oddparents#fop a new wish#fairly oddparents a new wish#dev dimmadome#fop dev#dale dimmadome#emetophobia#art#digital art#fanart#comic#Sorry for taking so long on this I was procrastinating bcs its just kinda a context page that needs to exist for other stuff to happen#I love it when they interact like disgruntled roommates#like on one had he SHOT HIM on the other hand whats Dev supposed to do? Go no contact?? Hes ten#This takes place like 2 days after the deer attack#Dale got whisked away to fairy world to get speed healed and had his memory wiped of the whole thing#Devs relationship with his dad is so messy cause like yes his dad hurt him but also thats his dad and he loves him.#even if his dad doesnt love him back#He wants to Want To Hurt his dad. thats the right way to feel about after what he did. and he does feel that way sometimes.#but on some level its was kind of a relief to hear that he couldnt wish harm on people#because even if he could he isnt sure he could go through with it#and there would be nothing worse than having the power to do something and yet. not#sorry if that sounds insane#complicated relationships with your abuser my beloved#also just the quiet acceptance Dev has for (what he thinks is) Peri straight up lying to his face#Dev likes Peri a lot but he is also deeply aware that Peri hides a lot of things from him#I think he appreciates that Peri tries to shield his feelings. His dad doesnt do that#ofc Peri isnt actually lying here I just think the layers of such a small interaction are hilarious
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So...... Loop and Odile huh?
v THE OTHER RESPONSE I DOODLED v
yeagh
#isat#in stars and time#loopdile#isat spoilers#spoilers#myart#fanart#siffrin#loop#Look#Loop considers Siffrin to be worthy of redemption#but they may not hold themselves to the same level of forgiveness#where softness and comfort are what Siffrin needs from his party#Loop would struggle#because if they're with the party they're in a different role than they were before the loops#they cant have what they used to have and that would chafe at them with every little comfort and hug#this leads up to Odile not being as emotionally robust as Isa and Mira but she IS logical and doesnt take any shit#Loop and Odile getting together is a NEW dynamic to Loop#they wouldn't feel like an interloper#plus they canonically find Odile someone to emulate so they heavily respect her as a baseline#idk i just think Loop would get more catharsis from someone who would give them what they wanted in terms of self flagellation#but also someone who wouldn't let them escape afterwards and would force them to acknowledge the source of their pain#changing is destruction n I think Loop needs to get broken a few times before healing#like if Siffin and Loop were broken bones#the party caught Siffrin and were able to set him straight before he healed wrong#Loop healed in a super fucked up way and its causing pain for everyone#sFNFnGFGN IDK ITS LIKE#NOT A ROMANTIC SHIP#ITS SOMETHING COMPLICATED#but i also want Loop to whimper yknow
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i keep thinking im gonna like actually finish these but that ain't happening so have some gay people
#cookie run#shadow milk cookie#pure vanilla cookie#espresso cookie#madeleine cookie#shadowvanilla#vanilla milkshake#espresseleine#creme university au#shoutout to the little rp snippet being one of the first things i actually drew for this au#i just never thought to post it oops#happened right after espresso learned madeleine liked him and they started... dating?#they aren't dating cause espresso is complicated and i'm gonna throw him down a flight of stairs about it#espresso you idiot you are head over heals for this stupid blonde jock just tell him you love him already aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa#and then there is shadowvanilla who confessed and got married in the same interaction its what they deserve#these doodles of them are from before that#when pv still thought sm wasn't in love with him despite all the evidence against that#pv you wanted to kiss sm so bad it made you look stupid#sm just looked cringe cause he was NOT SUBTLE about it#also shoutout to shadowvanilla not being the main ship of the au AND YET HERE I AM DRAWING THEM THE MOST#shadow milk is just way too much fun to draw tbh#once i draw the others more its game over for my silly ass
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Bnha rei with the lesbian flag colors
Shoto introduced his friends to his mom, but she can’t seem to stop thinkin about their moms 😘🧡🤍🩷
#BABE YOU GOTTA DO YOU#inko can heal and inspire anyone fr#Mitsuki will hype you up and keep it real hahahha#tbh mixed feelings about rei— obvs complicated character but idk if I like the way she’s written#TAKE HOLD OF YOUR LIFE MAAM#rei todoroki#todoroki#todoroki shoto#inko midoriya#mitsuki bakugou#Mitsuki Bakugo#bakugo#izuku midoriya#mha#bnha#mha art#bnha art#my hero academia#my hero academia headcanons#my hero art#pjseveryday#illustration#anime art#art#fanart#sketchbook#digital illustration
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Doctor Who "Rogue" memes
I've made memes. enjoy.
(contains slight spoilers)
firstly, ones that are more encompassing:
regarding the episode itself:
and finally, Captain Jack Harkness stages of grief:
#doctor who#memes#the “salute the sky” one is my favorite#he really did just put his ship in orbit and went oh well the bitch is gone#poor fifteen may be apparently more healed but he has no idea how to deal with emotions other than cry and then ignore them#but we love him he's trying#also I thought those psychic earrings were soooo stupid but at the same time I loved them#like that was a classic “a bit silly but it works” doctor who thing#also this is the second time I've seen male presenting gays ballroom dancing and I am thriving#the other of course being aziracrow#I wanted to make a meme for that too but wasn't sure which to use#my memes#original post#rogue#doctor who rogue#rogue doctor who#the doctor#ruby sunday#the doctor x rogue#p.s. to clarify ik they're not actually erasing Jack Harkness it's just they're very clearly ignoring him completely and Rogue seems#somewhat like a replacement although he does have differences and I love him very dearly#also I put gay in quotes because the doctor is genderfluid/nonbinary and is simply at the moment male presenting and it didn't feel right#to somewhat diminish their identity by simplifying it - like how aziracrow are called gay and that's great but they're more complicated#than just that label#yasmin khan#yaz khan#fifteenth doctor#thirteenth doctor#fourteenth doctor
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Fuck me up, Doc.
#don’t worry. she’s a healer#woe! more tactical wizards yuri be upon ye#the inherent eroticism of shooting a witch to heal her#I love them#Jen Keller#Dessa Banks#tactical wizards yuri#tactical breach wizards#I have decided to put Jen in my fave outfit for her#the default one is very complicated#I didn’t feel like drawing it#still figuring out how I wanna draw them#tbw fanart#my art
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ALSO how a guy in a rap battle gonna ask his opponent why he hasn’t dragged his girlfriend in to defend him?? aubrey, you’re in the beef of the century rn and he’s winning, he doesn’t need to make it her problem
#and frankly even if kendrick is an abuser why the hell would she want to talk about it publicly under these circumstances#like i’m still bracing myself in case some of it’s true obviously i hope it’s not#but idk it feels like based on kendrick’s art about how much healing he’s done it feels possible that in the past he’s done smth#like again i hope not but he’s a complicated guy idk#everything drake said abt feels like it could be something in his past that is now resolved#everything ken said feels like it’s implied to be Very Ongoing#anyway i’m crazy this is all i’m thinking about#i have two projects due tomorrow lol#ignore me#kendrick#drake#kendrick lamar
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Okay so like I’m kinda developing what I’m calling my “Post-Rescue AU” for Mouthwashing and it’s gonna have some complicated Curlanya in it and I have a few fics planned/partially written (I don’t know when they’ll be out, school is kicking my ass rn) and its all from Anya’s POV because her perspective and choices are what I really want to focus on in this happier ending but that also means Curly’s thoughts aren’t usually shown so I just want you all to know that at a certain point the vibes are just kinda this:
And yes Anya has shorter hair, eye circles and a face scar just like please bear with me on this
[Image ID. a digital drawing of an alternate universe Anya and Curly from Mouthwashing. They’re cuddling in bed and Anya’s head is on Curly’s chest and her arms are around his torso. Anya’s eyes are closed and she has a slight blush on her face. She’s thinking “he’s soft and warm…this is actually pretty nice…”
Curly has had reconstructive surgery done so he has skin and some hair and one eyelid sewn shut. He’s staring up at the ceiling with a wide pupil and a full facial blush. He’s thinking “OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD OH MY GOD I DON’T DESERVE THIS!”
A small caption in the middle says “both happy but it’s Complicated™” with arrows pointing to them both.
End ID.]
#and they were roommates :)#I think they like kinda liked each other before shit went down#but j*mmy made things fucked up and complicated#like yeah I think curly fucked up and would feel bad about it#they’re healing I promise :)#who up curling they Anya?#kinda inspired by one of the one shots I’m working on#heyyy where are my messy complicated ship enjoyers at?#curlanya#curly x anya#anya x curly#mouthwashing#curly mouthwashing#anya mouthwashing#post rescue au#art#my art#digital art#Ifwebefriends art#bubbles art#cuddling#guilt
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WASP moms be like “Your decision to get another tattoo has left me scarred and deformed”
#my stuff#whyyyyy does she caaaaare#like she’s not mad but clearly upset abt it and it’s myyyyyyy flesh!! my body!!#she’s like oh if tattoos are gender affirming then why haven’t you done anything abt hair transplants??#BC ITS WAY HARDER AND MORE COMPLICATED TO SET UP AND DECIDE ON AND HEAL FROM AND PAY FORRR#It’s like 10K for hair transplants!!! i don’t have that!! i do have 50 bucks every couple months for a tattoo#also straight up tattoos fuck hard!! no other reason needed!!!#AGHHHHHH
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Is that canon!?! Was Machete just really naive/didn't really understand the implications of his relationship to Vasco? Did his mentor ever find out about them or discuss such things with him? I assume bc he didn't have parents, he kinda didn't get educated on sex or anything. Was it a big shock to realize he was "sinning"?
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#eh I was just exaggerating it for comedy because the page was so unintentionally funny and fitting#he might've been a little bit naive but was painfully aware he was in a relationship with a man and that it was forbidden#his mentor was all about asceticism and mortification and extreme self-denial#and had drilled it into his head that practically all romantic feelings let alone sex were foolish and sinful and should be shunned#so his feelings about the whole thing were complicated but in the end Vasco was more important#not to sound corny#but there was a hole in his heart that he had desperately tried to fill with god that never seemed to care about him#and once he got some of that love he had been aching for#from another living person#he had to do what it takes to make room for that in his belief system#how could such a tender fulfilling and healing thing be wrong#answered#anonymous#his mentor did eventually find out about them and wasn't very happy about it#to put it mildly#but by that point Machete had managed to mostly inch his way out from under his heel#he was graduating and getting ordained and wouldn't be going back to Naples#if it were up to him he'd never want to see him again
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Shoutout to people with trauma that is uncommon.
Shoutout to people with trauma that little people have experienced.
Shoutout to people who have had trauma from multiple sources, making their experience unique.
Shoutout to people with trauma who struggle to find anyone who went through what they went through.
#just something I’ve experienced#I’ve had a combination of sources making it very hard and unique#one of these sources very rarely represented and about a year ago I found a subreddit with 500 people that went through the obscure part and#the relief I went through when I saw similar experiences#just because what happened to be ties into other aspects of life blah blah blah#I let out this breath I had no clue I was holding#the subreddit only has 1500 people but it’s super active and I feel seen every time I go and I never realized how important representation#of what I went through was until I finally found people who I related to#it’s complicated DM me if you want the full scoop lmao#mental health#positivity#self care#mental illness#self help#recovery#ed recovery#actuallytraumatized#trauma#childhood trauma#actuallytraumagenic#actually traumatized#trauma edit#trauma art#trauma survivor#traumacore#generational trauma#trauma healing#trauma recovery#bpd#ptsd
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just saw people on twt getting mad that gale said a literal god wasn't good enough for him . i need people to understand that he didn't mean it like "I deserved more than a literal goddess" he meant that his actions were foolish and made it LOOK like he thought himself above one. that he should've been content with what he had, but felt he had to prove himself to her.
if you romance him he literally realizes that he didn't need to find validation in a god but within someone who understands humanity more than a god ever could.
please learn reading comprehension before making yourselves look stupid I'm so tired of this
#ALSO people saying that 'oh he had a literal god and wasn't satisfied' yeah lmao because she is incapable of compassion and genuine love#he literally admits that in act three. his own words#the gale slander is founded on stupid people not being able to understand how complicated this is#also yes gale DOES fall back into his power thirst in act three. because healing is not linear.#talking him down from killing himself doesn't mean he's suddenly better and over what mystra did#abuse survivors will often seek a way to gain power back. gale literally begins to resent the concept of gods and wants to destroy it#and honestly he's right. but dont tell him that#anyway gale deserves redemption#bg3 spoilers#baldur's gate 3 spoilers#bg3#baldur's gate 3#gale dekarios#six speaks
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