#hate to call it feminist

[lena-in-a-red-dress]

Its always a little daunting to voice a "female characters are more than their sexual relationships" criticism to a male author, but this morning our guy took it on the chin. Dunno if he'll implement anything about it, but at least he didn't try to explain himself, or worse, justify it.

Just take the note-- that's all we ask.

[iphigeniastrangeworth]

average misogynist: all women should be barefoot and pregnant housewives who never speak and are killed as soon as they turn 30

average misandrist: i really wish i had basic human rights and didn't have to live in constant fear of being raped and murdered

some of you people for some reason: these are the same thing and actually the second one is worse

[bumblingbabooshka]

Thinking about marriage/women's rights on Vulcan Some may think that T'Pring not being allowed to divorce Spock was because he was going through the pon farr but if she were allowed to divorce him at all she probably would have done that a long time ago, confirmed by T'Pol when she's speaking with Koss, who isn't suffering from the pon farr. She says that he can choose another mate (without invoking a fight it seems: note the difference between a 'mate' and a 'challenger') and after he makes it clear that nothing she says will change his mind about marrying her, she finally threatens to declare a kal-if-fee. It's clear that Vulcan women cannot divorce/refuse to marry a man they've been betrothed to under any circumstances if A) He himself doesn't consent to ending their marriage or B) She doesn't have someone else waiting in the wings to be given to in his stead. Though, if the challenger she selects fails to win the fight, she'll have to marry her betrothed anyway unless (again) he decides he doesn't want her after the challenge. That seems like an incredibly unfair system, heavily biased towards men. SNW is an alternate universe in many obvious respects but most egregiously in that T'Pring has a lot of non-canonical agency over her relationship with Spock. It's interesting to me that Vulcan society has women in many positions of power and treats women as equal to men from what I've seen despite these laws. We don't really see Vulcans exhibiting a misogynistic attitude towards women in general but in TOS (perhaps because of its general writing style but it's still interesting to note) both Sarek and Spock take on patriarchal attitudes specifically regarding wives. Amanda says that 'of course' Sarek commands her because "he is a Vulcan and I am his wife." It's worthwhile in my eyes to note that she specifies 'wife' instead of attributing this attitude to women as a whole. Again, with TOS' writing style it wouldn't be out of place for her to say "he is a man and I am a woman." Spock, while in a pon farr induced irritation, states that it's "undignified for a woman to play servant to a man that isn't hers" - again implying that there's something specific about being a Wife in Vulcan society which is different from being a woman in general and demands subservience to a husband. This could perhaps stem from the extreme sense of ownership that Vulcan law has permitted men to have over women. A woman legally cannot point blank refuse marriage. There is no option which guarantees she won't have to marry her betrothed other than death. When T'Pau speaks of T'Pring she refers to her as being 'property' and Stonn, before being interrupted, states he's made 'the ancient claim' - we don't know what this is because he gets cut off but it's obvious they're both using the language of Vulcan law. Men are permitted true freedom to choose. If a woman wants to choose someone else to be with there is no option available to her other than the kal-if-fee which might result in the death of the one she wants to be with. And, if her lover fails, her husband can still just decide he wants to marry her and she'll be forced to. T'Pring gives two scenarios: One where Spock 'frees' her and one where he doesn't - it's still ultimately his decision which is clear when he ends the conversation with "Stonn, she is yours." This again isn't just because of the pon farr as T'Pol also goes through this. Koss can choose another mate and when the option is talked about there's no implication that this would result in any sort of fight (both by the casualness of its mention and by the fact that there's no formal word for it unlike the kal-if-fee.) Also, the fact that Koss does eventually grant T'Pol a divorce and it's all fine means that T'Pol isn't lawfully required to have another man waiting if her HUSBAND doesn't want her. It's ONLY required if SHE doesn't want her husband. Tradition must take precedence over individual desire UNLESS!!! You're a man. Then it's fine. Like, your parents might not be happy but legally you're golden.

[halfdeadwallfly]

[zer0point5ive]

do you think the stray cats ever wondered what happened to adam :(

[coyote-teeth-poetry]

people will say religion oppresses women because they cannot comprehend a woman being liberated without being sexualized. They don’t understand the idea of a woman finding freedom outside of men’s desire for her, instead of leaning into it.

A woman veiling or wearing a hijab or mitpahat, or any kind of modesty, isn’t men oppressing her, it’s her finding value and freedom in God, not men. God sees the inherent value of her outside of what she can give to men.

Stop telling women they are oppressed by their religion.

[bonehead-cat]

the same website calling for the murder/assault of jkr and admonishing enjoyment of her creative work is now calling for understanding and nuance and "separating the art from the artist" for a male elite who is a pedophile rapist. who has done nothing for women but torture them.

[maxdibert]

Lily Evans and the Tragedy of Poor Character Writing: How She Could Have Been Interesting but Was Reduced to the Moral Compass for the Men in Her Life

The way Lily is used as a moral instrument for the male characters prevents her from standing on her own as a character with individual depth, aspirations, and personal struggles. While we see hints that she has agency and a personality beyond her relationships, these moments are fleeting and sacrificed in favor of reinforcing the men’s journeys. This lack of consistent development reduces her to what feminist criticism calls the “moral arbiter” or the “redeeming woman” trope, where a female character exists mainly to define or “purify” a male character’s storyline. This phenomenon is particularly evident with Lily, whose interactions serve to validate or critique the men in her orbit but rarely to explore her own motivations, desires, or struggles.

Lily’s relationships with Severus, James, and Sirius reveal moral contradictions that could have added complexity if they were properly addressed. For example, her friendship with Severus is cut off for reasons that appear, on the surface, morally justified—but she doesn’t seem to apply this same standard to James or Sirius, despite their bullying and violence toward others. Her reaction to Mulciber’s behavior is harsh and unforgiving, yet her forgiveness of Sirius’ behavior (he comites attending to murder) as they get older suggests a double standard that’s never examined. These decisions could have made her a compelling, morally gray character; instead, they’re brushed aside to uphold her as a “good person,” an infallible figure who’s somehow always in the right. This sanitizing approach dismisses her potential for growth, change, and inner conflict, flattening her character to fit the role of a flawless moral validator.

Her relationship with James, too, suffers from this one-dimensional portrayal. The narrative pushes the idea that James becomes a better person because of Lily’s acceptance, implying that he is redeemed not through personal introspection or growth but by “winning” her approval. This reinforcement of the idea that men can be “fixed” or redeemed by a woman’s acceptance or love is problematic because it perpetuates the notion that women exist to reform men, placing responsibility on women to serve as emotional caretakers or moral rehabilitators. This is a trope rooted in misogyny, as it frames female characters as moral tools rather than individuals with their own agency.

Feminist theory critiques this kind of portrayal, arguing that it reduces women’s roles to secondary functions in the narrative. Lily becomes a kind of “reward” for James’s perceived growth, not a fully realized partner with her own arc. This approach reflects Rowling’s broader struggle with female characterization, where women often lack agency beyond their relationships with men and are rarely allowed the depth, autonomy, or moral ambiguity afforded to male characters. By framing Lily as a moral gauge for Severus, James, and even Harry, Rowling removes her complexity and potential flaws, opting instead to present her as an idealized figure who serves primarily to validate the men around her.

The inconsistencies in Lily’s portrayal have led to her being a divisive character for many fans. She’s often disliked not necessarily for her actions but for the incoherent, contradictory ways she’s written, and this is ultimately a failure of Rowling’s character development. Instead of being an empowered, nuanced figure with her own voice and flaws, Lily is molded to fit the needs of the male characters’ narratives, leaving her motivations unclear and her personality inconsistent. This reflects Rowling’s problematic handling of female characters throughout the series, where women are often defined by their relationships and reduced to supporting roles. Lily, as one of the most significant female figures in the story, suffers from this treatment, and it’s a major reason why her character often comes across as both underdeveloped and unrelatable. The narrative’s inconsistent treatment of her is not a flaw of the character but a symptom of Rowling’s broader issues with writing female characters, who frequently lack the autonomy, depth, and agency that would make them compelling and relatable in their own right.

And yes, I’ll admit it—Lily Evans really annoys me, but it’s precisely because of everything I’ve discussed here. She’s been reduced to this saintly figure, this ultimate epitome of “good” motherhood and femininity in the narrative, and it’s frustrating because her complexities and contradictions are glossed over or ignored. Lily isn’t allowed to be fully human; instead, she’s turned into a symbol, an idealized version of what a woman should be, stripped of the depth and nuances that would make her an interesting character.

Instead of exploring her flaws, her contradictions, or the ways she fails to live up to the moral standards she seemingly sets for others, Rowling chose to simplify her into a narrative tool. Lily’s personal contradictions—her selective morality, her double standards, her often unquestioned choices—are brushed aside because they don’t serve the image of “perfect womanhood” the story wants to project. Rather than treating her as a fully realized person with her own journey, she’s treated like an object, a measure of how “good” or “redeemed” the men around her are.

It’s this reduction that bothers me the most. In focusing on Lily’s role as the moral benchmark for others, especially the men she interacts with, Rowling denies her the chance to be anything more than a tool for measuring their worth. She doesn’t get to make mistakes and grow; instead, she’s held up as an unattainable ideal, and that’s not just boring—it’s damaging. It perpetuates the idea that women are there to serve as moral compasses for men, to help shape their actions and destinies, while never being given the chance to explore their own complexities or motivations.

This lack of depth doesn’t just harm Lily as a character; it harms the story as a whole. The other characters’ arcs are all defined by how they relate to her, which only highlights how little she’s allowed to define herself outside of them. Lily could have been so much more than just the woman who inspires James to be better or the woman whose approval validates their actions. She could have been a flawed, messy, deeply human character. But instead, she’s been turned into a one-dimensional ideal, and that’s why I find her so frustrating—not because of who she is, but because of how the narrative chose to treat her.

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

these people cant imagine defending a woman against her abuser no matter her personal views and opinions. lol, lmao even

[womendeservehumanity]

Saw this on tumblr but op had their reblogs off. I had to put my two cents in I’m sorryyy. The cognitive dissonance, buzz words, and pure cope so many leftist “feminists” inject in their veins daily in hopes that they’ll find their unicorn man who’s a leftist feminist king who reads theory to her as if most of these leftist men aren’t former alt right edgelords who realized that capitalism harms them because they’re lower class. Completely leaving feminism out of their politics because they still hate women like their 13 year old selves.

Also her saying that speaking on fgm “too much” is a dog whistle for transphobia and and an “alt right pipeline” because it borders too much on the idea that women and girls face sex based oppression. All while using women in the global south as a taking point later on in the video. But no actually you can’t speak on something that disproportionately affects them because it might hurt people with penises feelings because you’re not making it about them all the fucking time.

Also just wanted to show some of the “comrades” that are unsurprisingly endorsing this:

All I can say is LOL

And just a personal gripe… why are so many (white) leftists so egotistical 😭 “revolutionary leftist” who do you think you are my lordddd. Really, truly they’re politically homeless in most facets and just grasp on to general ideas and concepts within leftism to feel intelligent and interesting. Like they don’t actually care about what any of this means and its purpose. it’s just sort of a fun quirk. “Hey I know about these things. I’m on a higher level of consciousness than libs. I am so smart” but don’t actually care all that much about applying it beyond owning people on tiktok.

[jennfercheck]

sometimes i think about how crazy it is that people on the internet (sw*fties) bullied olivia rodrigo (a 17/18 yr old at the time) into giving song credits to taylor and paramore for writing music that was inspired by them as if that’s not what art is at its core… all art is inspired by other art!!! you cannot find “originality” in art because it is almost always an amalgamation of other styles that the artist was so moved by that they had to create their own. but god forbid a young girl emulate a sound she grew up listening to

[magnesia]

They should invent non-religious nuns I would become one 100%%%

No sex, no men, women only commune and special uniform. But no religion bullshit

So basically a feminist separatist group? Yeah

[illyrianwingss]

People only are feminists in this fandom when it suits their favorite character.

[angeryyaz]

I wonder if european people are mad at jk rowling for butchering their folklore as well. Usually we discuss her shitty world building in terms of her writing itself or disrespect of non western cultures, but i just went into a "wait, what are veela actually" rabbit hole, and fuck, if i was slavic i would be livid that she took this creature and reduced it to "uuuh they're pretty and white unless they get angry, then they're ugly"

I only took a cursory look at the folklore of the vila, but they seen to have such cool lore that could have been incorporated into fleur to hash out her character and expand on how non-human beings are seen/operate in the harry potter universe

But nah, instead lets vastly reduce or not mention the aspects that make them so interesting, and just turn them into another illustration of jkr's apparent fear/resentment of femininity and her tendency to take centuries old mythology and make them uninsteresting one line notes to forget about in the next page (or chapter if you're lucky)

[robinspinknest]

pt. 2 of "Too disgusting to be called pigs"

sa statistics

how common is sa?

1 in 5 women in the U.S. have experienced legally defined rap3 in their lifetime.

1 in 33 men in the U.S. have experienced legally defined rap3 in their life time.

more than 1 in 3 women have experienced rap3, physical v1olence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

it is estimated that every 98 seconds someone in the U.S. is s*xually assaulted.

91% of victims of rap3 and sa are female; 9% are male

s*xual assault is, and has been, an epidemic.

how many of these s*x offend3rs are put behind bars?

"According to FBI statistics, 33.4% of rap3s reported to the police department in 2018 resulted in arrest. RAINN (rap3, abvse & inc3st national network) estimates that for every 1,000 rap3s, 384 are reported to police, 57 result in arrest, 11 are referred for prosecution, 7 result in a felony conviction, and 6 result in incarceration."

wow, 7 incarcerated for every 1,000 rap3s. if you do some quick math, you'll find only *roughly* 38.4% are even reported, and when you see the number drop from 384, to 57, to 11, to 7, and finally down to 6, its not hard to see why.

- other important statistics regarding csa -

1 in 5 girls and 1 in 20 boys are victims of csa

children are most vulnerable to csa between the ages of 7 - 13

3 out of 4 adolescents who have been s*xually assaulted were victimized by someone they knew well

82% of all victims under 18 are female

1 in 5 children are solicited s*xually while on the internet before the age of 18

an estimated 60% of teen first pregnancies are preceded by experiences of molestation, rape, or attempted rape, the average age of their offender is 27 years

pt. 3 i will be starting to talk about p0rn culture (tag is featured in search on my profile, but it will likely be out tomorrow)

[butch-bakugo]

Oh my God a fucking " anti-transandrophobia truther" perisex fuck wrote word for word, in a massive fucking post " I wonder if intersex people know being Intersex affects your gender" (NO SHIT???)

And!

" I'm pretty sure all the afab/cafab (coercive meaning ya know ... GENITAL MUTILATION OF INTERSEX BABIES FORCING THEM INTO THE AFAB IDENTITY. The whole camab/cafab thing was stolen from the intersex community.) intersex people who claim the transfem title don't actually have transfem experiences"(regardless of the kind of the type of intersexuality they are?? You are just outting yourself as someone totally fucking blind to actual intersex experiences.)and! " They need their own term because they don't 'fit'". They tried to dress up the offensive bigoted nonsense they just spewed by trying to make it sound like they had our best interests at heart and "shouldn't be forced into using perisex language".... You are litterally trying to push intersex people you don't like out of our terminology to other them .... This literally reeks of literal terf rhetoric " most intersex lean one way and therefore shove them under that label" like...

Ur both intersexist freaks and bigots just in different ways. Imagine trying to claim you care about intersex people then try to determine our labels for us and push us in the way you think we should go regardless of our actual fucking lived experiences because you don't like sharing the transfem community with people who've experienced both transmysogny and transmascphobia. Not to even mention the fact the last time people tried to make a term to talk about their experiences, you've not shut up about it in years and called it a mens rights movement to try and silence an entire fucking portion of the trans community so you don't have to care about them. You literally fucking said " trans men experience both transphobia and mysogny but not at the same time (we do????) but trans women do" ok and ur blind to Transmasc issues because you think that nonsense and we are the same as cis men. Ur blind to our issues in the way you accuse us of being blind to your issues but only expect us to shut up and listen.

Anyway, denying that trans men can't face their own issues while also ignoring any trans man who disagrees with you and then attempting to delegitimize all intersex people who look you dead in the face in the transfem and Transmasc playing fields and tell you ur wrong...

Bro just say you hate Transmascs and anyone who might be slightly aligned with them and go home you intersexist piece of shit.

Also the whole " stop calling anti-transandrophobia truthers baddels! That's something specific"

My brother in CHRIST, THEY ARE LITTERALLY UNIRONICALLY IN THE USERNAMES OF THE PEOPLE YOU REBLOG FROM. BULLSHIT.

Anyway the fact y'all are all fucking white trans women and CONSTANTLY bring up black and indigenous people's experiences with gender while also being unironic baddels aka a horrifically abusive to trans men (including rape) and racist ASF movement within your community tells me everything i need to know as a native american two spirit intersex person with no "lean" whose experienced transmysogny and transandrophobia.

This is why they don't trust you motherfuckers, you got no class, just entitlement and weak ass attempts at silencing people you already hate and a weird trauma fetish for black and indigenous people. There is over lap between the transfem experiences and bipoc experiences but there is also an overlap between Transmasc and bipoc experiences, nonbinary and bipoc, like almost everyone can relate to our shit, ur not special 😭 leave us alone and don't use our oppression to try and legitimize your fundamentally transphobic views.