#happy healing

[theunspokenthoughtsunleashed]

DO YOU THINK CHILDHOOD OR ADULTHOOD IS HARDER? WHY?

I would love to hear some thoughts on this one. In my opinion though I would honestly say childhood is always going to be harder. Some of you might disagree but this is why I have brought the Discussion to the table! I would have to say I think childhood is harder to the fact children are held to higher standards then adults. They are not allowed to feel how they want to. Say what they mean. React in the way someone wants them to. For the most part children are not allowed to think, speak, or feel without an adult telling them or demanding them to do such. Do any of yall remember being told 'Children are to be seen and not heard', or 'Do as I say, Not as I do'. HA here is my favorite one 'What you crying for, you aint got no reason to be crying. Now stop before I give you a reason'. There is no way in hell a childhood is easier. The amount of effort it takes to make friends, the trends etc. Kids here the worst things from adults and are suppose to take it. All in all Childhood is by far in my opinion worse and that is why you see so many children forgotten and dead in the system. Anyways what a hell of a way to make a first post on here. Have a good night!!!

[her-thoughts-zone]

[heartwarminghealing]

Ever since childhood, we are taught to love others, serve others, so everything to make the other in the relationship happy. (This just shows us how narcissistic and problematic the other person is in the relationship)

So mostly all our life, we’ve been conditioned to hate, ignore and neglect ourselves. But that’s not a good thing, because you are important too, you are valued, just like everyone else.

Everyday, you wake up, look at yourself in the mirror, what are your thoughts? Do you appreciate yourself or look at yourself and think about thousands of things you would like to change within yourself?

I’ve struggled through it, and it’s a battle inside my head everyday with the person who made me feel like this.

You are perfect, realize that. God didn’t discriminate us when he created us, yeah, thank him that he’s not human.

You are beautiful/handsome. (I’m not using any gender specifically, i don’t want to judge or discriminate), and so is your body.

I’ve seen so many people hate their body, or act awkward when they are complimented. Doesn’t this show you something about yourself that needs to change?

Everyday, wake up in the morning, look at yourself in the mirror and smile, place your hand over your heart and say “I love you, ______” (your name).

“I accept you, I love you,” make yourself feel the acceptance you’ve always wanted to feel from others. It’s never going to come from others. So, you have to start by yourself. Tell yourself the words, give yourself gifts, if that is your love language, give yourself as much love as you can, and try to soak all that energy inside like a sponge.

Initially, it’ll scare you, because the feeling of love pulls everything closer, it includes everything, it doesn’t exclude, never.

And your trauma of hate, negative thoughts, feelings will surface, but don’t pay attention to them, focus on the feeling of love, that you’ve been deprived of.

Push through the pain, i know it’s not easy, but try, each time you feel like giving up, try harder, because in the end, you are worth it.

[beif0ngs]

I had a different name back then, you know. Powder. You kind of remind me of her.

[illusioncanthurtme--art]

Physically? I am sitting in my bedroom. Mentally? Spiritually? I AM DEAD ON THE FLOOR!!!!! THESE TWO HAVE KILLED ME!!!!

(Another drawing! This was originally attempt #1 at drawing stan, and then fiddleford just showed up. Kinda feels like them five minutes after the above acting like nothing happened though, so it works sdjkgkjfshj)

[felineandhustle]

[keenflowercupcake]

One Line Is All I GOT ~5/9~

You’ll never be happy or satisfied as long as you continue to play the victim! At some point in our lives, we all HAVE to learn how to heal from trauma. Until we do so, we must refrain from being toxic to others. Toxicity can manifest in various ways, such as facial expressions, body language, and attitudes towards others. Playing the victim is exhausting! “I’m not telling you what I heard;…

[coloredlion]

epilogue.

[sunlitsoil]

there is always tomorrow

[hinata-boke]

happy bokuaka day!

[mewdoodles]

Monster candy ^w^

Day 2 - Sweets

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Conceal, don't feel, don't let it show.

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[heartwarminghealing]

The past can also be what is tying us down in the present, even if things improve, it doesn’ t matter, and we find ourselves trapped in the tragic past that does not really exist.

So, what can we do? Ground ourselves in the present moment, again & again. Feel the present moment, the good moments where you smiled, laughed, were so happy that you toppled down from wherever you were sitting, or laying down on. Remember that this is your life now, remind your brain that the patterns that you had in the past don’t matter anymore, because those people who made you feel like that don’t exist anymore, so you don’t have to slip back to the person you were with them.

Everytime you catch yourself reviving those memories, write them down, all of it, and if those memories are bringing up extreme emotions in you, release them, cry if you want to, be angry if you want to, throw things if you want to, because if you keep holding back your emotions, one day it’ll all be just another burden for you. And, you don’t want to insult yourself like that.

What is good in the present? What are you grateful for? What is different from the past in the present moment? Find answers to all these questions, and remind yourself everytime you start feeling like you went back to the past.

Remember that you’ve left the past BEHIND you, so there’s no need to go back. It is time to move forward in life, do the things you always wanted to do, and be happy.

The contrast will always be there, it’s not everytime that you’ll feel happy but that doesn’t mean that you have to stop being happy, you’ve already suffered enough, so don’t increase your suffering again & again, know that you are precious, just like everyone else on this planet and the universe needs you, so strive to be happy even if those are just short fleeting moments of happiness. The more you try, the more you can change the previous patterns.

Look at the present people in your life, how do they respond to you? Do they love you? Accept you? Or are they just selfish and undeserving of you?

You need to change the patterns inside yourself that were formed in the childhood, because living like this will only cause you greater harm. You can’t stay stuck in the past of a 10 year old brain and function through an 20 year old body. It’s only going to bring harm to you.

You can do this much for yourself, I know loving yourself will seem too much of a task, but you can start by slowly slowly bringing yourself out of the gutter you find yourself in, always.

God isn’t coming to save you, you have to save yourself, that’s the rule, that’s bitter but the truth. So, choose to save yourself, so that somebody else can do the same for you too, because this is a mirrored reality.

Thankyou for reading. I hope this made you feel a bit better than how you were feeling before that.

© 2024 HEARTWARMINGHEALING. Please do not copy, translate or repost my words, don’t be such an asshole/bitch.

[lotuslate]

“Don’t be so hard on yourself, Wangji”

[mjjeely]

Glimpses of the past can bring up traumatic experiences. I pray we all are moving on and doing our part to heal. I’m growing and forgiving. I refuse to reside anywhere else if it doesn’t improve my mental health.

[felineandhustle]