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𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐬

trigger warning: mention of abuse, bullying

hello everyone, i’m livia wildrose. welcome back to my blog! today, i want to share four foundational steps that can help anyone find direction and purpose. these are the steps i’m taking to start my glow-up journey, and i believe they can be a powerful beginning for anyone on a similar path. having a sense of direction keeps us grounded and focused, even when life gets chaotic. so if you’re ready to start building a path that feels true to you, these four steps are here to help you begin with intention.

i truly believe that if each of us embraces these steps, we can gain a clearer sense of where we’re headed. having that clarity allows us to be more mindful and intentional with everything that comes our way. i hope these steps resonate with you as much as they have with me. thank you for being here, and let’s begin this journey together

𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗲𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁

1. develop a growth mindset

you have control over your life ,you can be whoever you want to be. every broken heart, every broken part of you can heal. your circumstances, environment, trauma, toxic people, bullies they only have power as long as you allow them to. the moment you take that power back, you’re in control. build an internal locus of control you can shape your life, your mind, your body, your grades, your career, and the way you respond to challenges. it’s about developing control over yourself and your life.

stop blaming others and choosing to be the victim. yes, life can be incredibly hard, and some people make it worse, but if you want to grow beyond the hurt, you need to be your own savior. no one is going to come and rescue you from your problems you have to be the one who does it. take full accountability for your life. if things aren’t going well, it’s up to you to change them. at the end of the day, if “mean” people keep putting you down, part of the change comes from deciding to speak up for yourself, even if it’s hard. if you’re procrastinating or feeling stuck, it’s your responsibility to tackle it and get things done.

stop letting negativity win. listen, if i can get bullied by classmates, beaten down by family, called “lazy,” “ungrateful,” and “undeserving” by relatives, excluded from friend groups, and ridiculed for liking someone (he was single, by the way) all of which hurt my mental health and impacted my exams. yet, still find a way to stay positive and remind myself that none of this can define my future, believe me, you can do it, too. if you need more of my story, check out my get to know me blog post to understand where i’m coming from.

instead of staying stuck in self-pity, look for solutions. trust yourself, the solution is inside you. focus on the positive aspects and start making changes in your life.

many people don’t realize this, but really take a look at your body and your life. do you genuinely believe you can’t change? you can. you want to grow taller? listen to subliminals. you want to become wealthy? it’s possible. nothing is out of reach. this is your life. you are magic, and everything you need to succeed is already inside you. manifestation is real, and it all starts with the right mindset. remember: your thoughts create your reality.

2. fix your mindset

before anything, understand this: nothing is out of reach. you can be whoever you want to be. a simple but powerful exercise for this is writing down your limiting beliefs, then challenging them. for instance, if you think, “i can never be an actor because i don’t have connections,” flip that around, remind yourself of countless people who started from zero, with no connections, and went on to become major successes in the industry. keep writing down reasons why these beliefs aren’t true 10, 15, however many it takes. trick your brain into seeing possibilities instead of limits.

stop feeling jealous of other people. so many women put each other down out of jealousy, but we’re stronger when we lift each other up. someone else’s success doesn’t mean you’re failing, or that you’re worth any less. if another person can achieve something, so can you. don’t get insecure seeing someone your age “having it all together.” instead, let that inspire you. they worked hard, and so can you.

next, watch how you talk about yourself. even if it’s in a joke, stop saying things like, “i’m such a loser” or “i’ll probably fail this test.” i used to do this all the time, but now i’ve promised myself i’ll never say anything negative about myself, even as a joke. our words shape our reality, and so do our thoughts. instead, use affirmations. look in the mirror and tell yourself, “i am beautiful, i am smart, i am capable.” if no one else is saying these things to you, then say them to yourself—there’s nothing wrong with that.

practice gratitude. yes, my family has flaws, and sometimes they’re abusive. but i know there are people with far less. i have a family, food, a place to sleep and parents who support my education. that’s privilege, and i’m grateful for it.

be mindful about what you let into your life. what kind of music are you listening to? if it’s depressive, maybe switch it up. what are you watching? if it’s negative or disturbing, consider the impact it’s having on you. i used to watch a lot of horror and true crime, but i stopped when i realized how it was affecting my mental health. pay attention to the people around you, too. family might be non-negotiable, but you have choices with friends and partners. remember, you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

for me, even though my family hasn’t been the most emotionally supportive, i know that one day i’ll create a family of my own that’s filled with love and understanding. and that means being mindful of the people i let into my life, building my future with intention and purpose.

3. be delusional

i don’t care if people think it’s bad to be delusional. in fact, i think we all need to be a little delusional when it comes to our dreams. believe that something miraculous will happen and that things can change in amazing ways. believe in magic. it might sound far-fetched, but trust me, have faith in god, the universe, or whatever higher power you connect with. believe that something incredible will come your way, that you’ll land your dream job or meet the right person. let that belief fill you with hope, a hope that isn’t weighed down by pressure or doubt, but by a quiet confidence that things will work out.

when you believe in that magic, you start to dream more freely. yes, maybe i can date jude bellingham. yes, i’m manifesting that. and yes, i think i can be everything i want to be, without anyone’s permission. do you have a problem with that? because i don’t.

𝗱𝗲𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗮𝗹𝘀

ask yourself: what do you truly want in life? what do you want to be? take a moment to write all of this down, whether in a journal or your notes app. reviewing your goals every single day can be a game changer. make it a habit to read through your written goals first thing in the morning. this simple act is incredibly powerful because it sets the tone for your day, aligning your mindset with your aspirations right from the start.

if you want to take it a step further, you can create a mind movie. so, what’s a mind movie? gather images that represent your goals and dreams. for instance, if you envision your dream body, find a photo that embodies that. if your goal is to be a singer, include pictures of artists who inspire you. compile these images into a video, displaying each one for about 2 to 4 seconds before transitioning to the next. layer your voice over this video, affirming statements like, “i have my dream body, and i’m so grateful for it.” “i am a world known singer” “i’m a grammy nominated artist”

watch this video every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to bed. this practice is incredibly potent. i plan to write a detailed blog about this process soon, so stay tuned!

the clearer you are about where you’re heading and what you want to achieve, the more likely you are to realize those dreams. many people lack this clarity, which can make it challenging to stay motivated. but when you know exactly what you want, it empowers you to take the next steps toward achieving those goals. once you have that clarity, the path will unfold before you; you just have to take it.

𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝘀, 𝗿𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲

1. rituals

create a ritual for yourself because you are a goddess, and every goddess deserves a sacred practice. rituals can be subtle or extravagant—it’s entirely up to you. the key is that they resonate with your goals and your life.

you can create a specific self-care ritual or do something that honors the life you aspire to have. for example, i want to be a singer so i start my day with a glass of warm water and honey to soothe my throat and hydrate my vocal cords. follow this with a cup of herbal tea known for its benefits to singers, like ginger or chamomile. this simple act is not just about drinking; it’s a way of saying, “i am nurturing my voice and preparing for the incredible career i’m destined for.”

perhaps you dream of being a model. in that case, you could include a detox drink in your morning routine, one that energizes and revitalizes you—something like a green smoothie or lemon water with apple cider vinegar. every time you sip it, remind yourself that you are embodying the health and vitality of a model.

you might also want to incorporate affirmations into your rituals. as you go about your morning routine, speak affirmations that align with your goals: “i am confident and radiant,” or “i attract opportunities that lead me to my dreams.” this will help you cultivate a mindset that’s aligned with your aspirations.

don’t forget to celebrate your rituals! you could set a specific day each week to reflect on your progress and how your rituals have helped you. light a candle or play your favorite music as you honor the work you’ve put into yourself and your journey. this celebration reinforces your commitment to your dreams and enhances your connection to your ritual.

the beauty of rituals is that they are entirely yours. whether you choose small, daily practices or grand, elaborate ceremonies, make them meaningful. by integrating these rituals into your life, you not only honor who you are but also actively participate in creating the reality you desire.

2. routine and schedule

create a routine that helps you get closer to your goals. having a structured schedule is essential, as it sets the foundation for your day and keeps you aligned with your aspirations.

for example, if you want to be a model, establish a morning routine that includes waking up early, dedicating time to your skincare regimen, and engaging in a workout that enhances your physique. consistency is key sticking to this routine will not only help you stay in shape but also instill discipline and determination.

your morning routine can be a sacred time for self-care and preparation. perhaps you wake up, drink a glass of water to hydrate, followed by a quick meditation or visualization of your goals. then, go on with your day, having a good schedule and goals planned already. you can use a bullet journal in order to plan your entire day and your goals for that day. i used to bullet journal in 2021 and i kid you not. It is the best thing you can do to keep yourself moving towards your goal. i’m planning to start bullet journaling again next year so expect a post regarding bullet journal too.

don’t forget about your night routine. this is equally important for winding down and reflecting on your day. consider incorporating activities that help you relax and recharge, such as journaling about your accomplishments or reviewing your goals for the next day. a calming skincare routine before bed is also a great way to pamper yourself and signal to your body that it’s time to rest.

developing a routine for your daily tasks can also keep you organized and focused. allocate specific times for studying, practicing your craft, or engaging in creative projects related to your dreams. having this structure allows you to prioritize what truly matters and helps you eliminate distractions.

establishing a routine not only gives you clarity but also enhances your mindset. when you stick to your plan, you cultivate a sense of achievement and purpose, which can greatly influence your overall outlook on life. you’ll find that having a routine helps you stay more focused, reduces decision fatigue, and empowers you to take actionable steps toward your goals. i’ll share all my routine too (skincare, haircare, morning, night, workout, daily) and also tell y’all how you can do it.

remember, your routine is a reflection of who you are and who you aspire to be. customize it to fit your lifestyle and needs, and don’t be afraid to adjust it as you grow. with a solid routine in place, you’ll be well on your way to transforming your dreams into reality

3. non negotiables

boundaries are like the protective walls you build to guard your energy, self-respect, and peace. they’re essential, even if it means certain people may not agree or may choose to distance themselves. setting non-negotiables helps you uphold your standards for how you want to be treated not only by others but also by yourself. it’s a form of self-care and a way to ensure you stay aligned with your goals.

first, let’s talk about boundaries with others. there are certain things that no one should get away with, like disrespect or attempts to undermine your goals. start by listing all the things that are non-negotiable for you things you absolutely won’t tolerate in your friendships, relationships, or even with family. these can be simple yet significant rules, like refusing to let anyone talk down to you, or being firm about not letting others intrude on your personal time.

when it comes to family, boundaries can be tricky. like i said, in certain environments, we sometimes have to navigate things carefully to preserve our boundaries. for example, i try to keep things balanced at home by focusing on my achievements and being mindful of how i react. when i accomplish something, i notice my family is more likely to treat me with respect and actually listen to my words. it’s a compromise i make for now staying obedient to avoid unnecessary conflicts because it helps preserve a boundary of mine: no one gets to shout at or berate me. you can say i made a promise to myself to start achieving more and becoming better every single day because people respect people who respect themselves. if i am achieving more and becoming better, that shows that i respect myself and my goals and simultaneously people will start respecting me too.

next, let’s dive into boundaries with yourself. setting standards for how you treat yourself is equally important. promise yourself that no one’s words will be allowed to crumble your confidence. this boundary with yourself is about self-discipline: it’s deciding you’ll never give up your truth or your voice. you are here to live your life on your terms. a personal boundary like “i will always speak up for what i believe in” is a powerful rule that can shape your character and self-esteem. another boundary could be to avoid people-pleasing at the cost of your own peace.

then there are the little rituals and standards you set for yourself. they might seem minor, but they help ground you and bring consistency. it could be as simple as “i won’t start my day until i’ve brushed my teeth” or “i’ll spend 10 minutes meditating every night.” these routines may seem small, but they’re symbolic each one represents respect for yourself and your own time.

and then, there are your true non-negotiables things that you will not compromise on for anyone. for example, i won’t text or talk to a guy late at night, especially if it’s a casual situation. my late-night hours are for me or for those who are deeply close to me, and that’s not something i change based on who wants my time. another non-negotiable might be unfriending people who stay close with someone who has bullied or hurt you. i’m not here to tell anyone who to be friends with, but if you’re friends with someone who tore me down, we’re probably not compatible as friends.

having non-negotiables is like setting up a shield around your life; it’s saying “this is my space, and only the people who respect my values get to be here.” these are your standards, your way of ensuring that the energy around you is as uplifting and supportive as you deserve. boundaries and non-negotiables are not selfish they’re essential for building a life that aligns with your true self.

𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝗴𝗼

let’s talk about alter egos. you might be wondering, “what exactly is an alter ego?” an alter ego is like the boldest, most fearless, unapologetically powerful version of yourself. think of this person as everything you aspire to be. they have unshakeable confidence, strong boundaries, and a fierce mindset. they embody the qualities you admire and inspire you to step out of your comfort zone.

for me, it’s livia wildrose. and, i get it, you might’ve thought that was my real name, but it’s actually a name i crafted to embody the energy and vision i hold for my future self. livia wildrose is the woman who’s already achieved her dreams. she’s not afraid to stand tall, voice her opinions, and own her worth. she’s the energy i channel when i need a reminder of what i’m capable of.

name them – the name you choose for your alter ego is important. it should feel powerful, unique, and representative of the qualities you want to embody. make sure it’s a name that sparks something in you a name that makes you feel inspired, unstoppable, and totally you.

give them qualities – now, think about the traits your alter ego possesses. are they fearless? disciplined? resilient? write down all the qualities that align with the best version of yourself. maybe your alter ego is kind but firm, strong-willed yet compassionate, confident yet humble. paint a vivid picture of who they are.

define their habits – your alter ego has certain routines, habits, and even preferences. they might have a morning ritual, a daily workout, or even a specific way they respond to negativity. think about what kind of routines your alter ego would follow to keep themselves grounded and motivated.

dress the part – if you feel like your alter ego is more stylish, edgy, or polished than you are now, start integrating little pieces of that style into your wardrobe. it doesn’t have to be extreme, just subtle touches that remind you of who you’re stepping into.

speak and act as them – whenever you feel anxious or unsure, tap into your alter ego’s confidence. ask yourself, what would they say? how would they handle this situation? eventually, this confidence will blend into your true self, helping you handle challenges with strength and grace.

channel them daily – every time you face self-doubt or feel unmotivated, call on your alter ego. think of them as your personal mentor, the voice in your head that says, “you’ve got this.” with time, this alter ego becomes a natural part of you, merging seamlessly with who you are becoming. ask yourself “what would [alter ego name] do?

by creating an alter ego, you’re giving yourself permission to dream bigger, stand taller, and walk confidently in the direction of your goals. it’s like summoning the courage and drive you need from within, a powerful reminder of your limitless potential. so if you haven’t already, consider creating your own alter ego. name them, define them, and let them guide you. remember, they’re already within you, waiting for you to let them shine. I have channelled my alter ego so such that now i think she’s me i’m her, lol.

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