I get sad when people beg for attention and connection and I just stand there like… you mean what I’ve been offering you this whole time? I’m not even sure I feel anything other than sad because it’s never going to be enough for that person until something in their life changes.
On a happy note, because I’m not going to just be sad tonight. I did something wild today and it was super cool. Also, I’m at this 3 day seminar called Get-A-Life Getaway. There’s too much to list off the top of my head. But it’s a lot of good stuff. Some of it’s hard to stay focussed during because I’ve learned it and my counselor had reinforced some of it for the past three and a half years. Like things we believe, how all criticism is usually self imposed and inside our head, a lot more things. There’s so much. Anyways. I’m grateful to be here because they’re teaching us how to see what we actually want from life-mainly it comes back to connection with people(also something I had reinforced for the last three years is that I crave connection. Quality time is my love language). Oh, I’m a decade or five away from most of the people in this seminar, so it’s weird when the coaches are teasing everybody that the teenagers are showing them up by talking more and sharing more. Which is awkward for me because im being used as a tool to somewhat shame others-but I recognize that my parents have already been to this seminar and were able to give me some tricks to get the most out of it.
Also I’m meeting really interesting people. And they have a lot to say and a lot of experience. OH MY GAWD. I forgot to mention until now that I learned I have a generational fear from my FATHER???? I’ve only known of the ones inherited from my mother. So. That’s interesting and also like. Hmm. Well now a lot of things make sense around that topic.
And then to help me let go of that lie, the coaches called me upfront to eat fire. It tasted a bit funny but I kinda liked that.
Most of the specifics happened today so I’m pretty exhausted.
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Believing that trans people afab benefit from transmisogyny as a system is absolutely wild. Having privileges from not being the main target of it is one thing. But you really think that if the systems making up transmisogyny (transphobia, sexism, racism, and white cisheteropatriarchy in general) went away, things would be worse for me as a transmasc instead of better? We're in this fight together. Trans people can weaponize transphobia against each other, but we are not each other's oppressors. We did not build this system and it is not good for us. Direct your rightful anger at perisex cis people; otherwise, you're not punching up, you're just punching.
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tim drake would rather die than kill innocent people and tim drake killed hundreds of supervillain henchpeople with long-range detonation explosives that one time are two separate headcanons that, contrary to what the fandom discourse would have you believe, can actually coexist at the same time.
there’s even a psychologist term for it.
it’s called compartmentalization!
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“why do i see proship stuff on social media ALL THE TIME 😡😡” idk probably because you keep interacting with proship accounts + their posts and algorithms feed you the stuff you interact with?? and you refuse to block people for some reason? just a thought
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straight trans guys & aro trans guys solidarity. weird that my whole life I've been expected to be into dudes and now that I'm a guy the lgbts also want me to be into dudes or else they don't really think of me as one of them
and while I'm not attracted to anybody and straight trans dudes are attracted to women, i feel like we're in the same boat here. too queer for the straights and too straight for the queers
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one thing I really really appreciate abt riz gukgak as a character is that he is un-self-aware to the max. he inhabits his body so completely. the arc that would usually be run as "I'm different and unable to connect with my friends in this way that everyone seems to be able to do and so something's wrong with me and I don't like myself" when it comes to riz is actually like no! I have literally no problems or praises for myself personally. I don't stand outside of my own self and judge it. it's phrased as "other people will eventually find someone more important to them than you" rather than centering it on his self-perception. he doesn't know why he doesn't have the best social life on earth even though he's not afraid at all to talk to other people. every time he sees himself in someone else's actions or behaviour he gets startled by it. his latest epilogue is realizing seemingly for the first time that he's not just an agent of causes but an actual character. he's my hero and I want to be him when I grow up
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sometimes someone will tell you an incredibly judgmental opinion on you or on your life and it will be completely invalidating and it will be based only on their ignorance on whatever they are talking about and as hurtful as that invalidation is you should not assume that everyone will think the same way, even if they are sure they are telling an absolute truth. that is a weird thing to do in the first place and you don’t have to prove yourself to someone who believes they have constant moral or intellectual superiority. they’re an exception, not the rule. no one is judging you so hard and it’s okay if you don’t want to hang around someone who constantly puts you down or makes you feel like you don’t belong. just don’t assume everyone else agrees with them without ever giving other people a chance.
most often people are just dealing with their own problems and they are not scrutinizing every little thing you do, and you don’t have to act like someone else’s opinion of you is the whole truth just because they want that you to, especially when it’s based of no knowledge or experience and it carries so much prejudice. if you can walk away from those types of discussions, please do. don’t justify everything you do to someone who is committed to judging you based on their misconceptions and it’s not willing to see things from another perspective. I just promise you not everyone will be like them
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