#gender weirdness
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Guh. Putting my agenderness into words (that other people will understand) is so difficult. I've been having a discussion about the transgender umbrella and it strayed into why I personally often feel disconnected from the greater trans community. A person was trying to narrow down commonalities for the trans umbrella and was like "one thing we all have in common is a misalignment between our body and mind". And yeah, the general definition of agender is a lack of gender identity. And a body by nature has some gendered bits to it. So I understand the thought.
I don't feel like it fits for me though. To me it's more that I don't care about this thing called gender. Other than occasionally because *aesthetics* lol. I'm just a person inhabiting a body. And neither my gender or the characteristics of my body matter. My assigned gender is neither right or wrong. I don't think of myself as a woman, but neither do I think of myself as anything else. I'm just me and my body is also me, and there is no mismatch.
At this point I'm feeling like agender might not even be the best label for the way I feel about gender... but I don't have anything that fits better at this point. I'm not cis, I know that much. Though I did think for the longest time that 'lack of discomfort with my assigned gender = cis'. Cis people tend to feel gender dysphoria and euphoria too though... and I experience neither.
Tl,dr: gender is weird, vague and unknowable.
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I always get so fucking confused when I don’t get dysphoric over getting gendered by accident
*Currently trying to figure shit out because I don’t particularly want to dress or look more feminine rn but that she/her use felt way less wrong than it usually does*
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It's Pride month in Aotearoa New Zealand at the moment, so in honour of that I'd like to present the essay that made me realise I was nonbinary!
I wrote it as an assignment for a university class, and the process of putting my experiences into words gave me a bit of a "hang on a minute..." moment. I didn't go so far as to put my new discoveries into the essay itself, because a university paper isn't really the way I wanted to come out for the first time, buuut you can probably see where things were heading.
Does anyone else have similar experiences with finding out about their queerness in a school assignment?
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For some reason, when they give you the pamphlet on the changes to expect from and potential side effects of taking testosterone, they don't think to mention the weird shit it does to your nails.
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me and the gf were watching yu yu hakusho and got all the way thru the dark tournament arc. then we were like PHEW that was intense. we need a break.
so we started watching revolutionary girl utena?????????????
#both of them carry similar themes actually. now that i think about it#gay angst#the will to keep fighting in the pits of despair#A DEEP RESPECT FOR THE ART OF BATTLE#gender weirdness#and. more gay angst#when we get thru both of these i need a lighthearted anime to watch LOL send recs
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Interesting things I've noticed about (my own, obvs) gender fluidity:
Girl Mode is bi as hell. Guy Mode is always exclusively gay. I just think that's interesting. And doesn't contribute to my bi imposter syndrome at all.
Being Sleepy (not tired - the vibe of "sleepy" specifically) instantly triggers Girl Mode. Not ever once have I been a Sleepy Man, only a Sleepy Girl.
"Woman" feels weird but "Girl" feels fine, while "Man" feels fine but "Boy" feels weird??? Aunt good Uncle bad, thoughts kf Wife/Mother good Husband/Dad bad, but Brother good Sister bad??? Nephew good Niece bad??? My Boyfriend good My Girlfriend bad??? Son and Daughter both neutral??? Why???
Being Horny triggers Guy Mode. Feeling Slutty triggers Girl Mode. It's a very fine distinction, but it is there. It is strange when both hit at the same time it feels like cross the ghostbuster streams.
I'm androgynous enough that I can shift to a decent, base level of either femme or masc kind easy, but it's also frustrating because i can never be AS femme/masc as I want to be. I would almost rather be All The Way one way and have to work harder the other direction, instead of having to work hard in both.
I don't like the term non-binary for me. I am VERY binary. 93% of the time it is explicitly one or the other. The remaining 7% is the rare times both hit at once, except there's no blurring it's not like mixing blue and red into purple its more like that dress that looks both blue and white at the same time.
However using trans feels weird because sometimes I'm not. Trans feels like you have changed from one to the other but sometimes it's a change back to my agab so it's not really a change at all? That one post like "trans means anyone who doesn't 100% align with their agab" helped me get a little more comfortable with it and I'm comfy displaying like my little trans flag bead lizard but something about the WORD just doesn't sit right
This is why I love Queer. Queer queerey queer queer queer. It's the only word I've got that gets the point across but doesn't leave me feeling like i need to Explain Myself like "well okay so sometimes I'm bi but sometimes I'm gay but not in a cis way except when it is so no matter what i feel like a faker"
I got distract these arent fun facts at all their mostly anxiety spiral sad facts let me get back on the point
Long Hair actually makes me feel more masc, while Short Hair makes me feel more femme. Unless a mustache has become involved.
Absolutely fascinating that i can look at my body, my exact same naked body, and as a man feel confident and sexy but as a woman feel bloated and unattractive. Like. Can we get a femme equivalent of the Dadbod please? Or maybe relax our standards a little bit? I'm dying here
It's so much easier to talk about this shit with absolute strangers in the void than people i know, even when i know some of those people are also here in the same void reading these. It's just still easier than saying the words. Weird.
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Chapters: 10/? Fandom: Stranger Things (TV 2016) Rating: Explicit Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Relationships: Billy Hargrove/Eddie Munson, Billy Hargrove/Steve Harrington, Chrissy Cunningham/Eddie Munson Summary:
After high school, Eddie works at the Hideout. And then moves into the ratty apartment above the bar. And then Billy moves in with him. And then they start hooking up. And then they scheme to set each other up with the person they think the other really wants.
#oh my god this fucker is officially longer than sideways#how why what#finally another steve chapter#missed that squirrelly dude#which means more of the following#gender weirdness#tho steve has no clue that's what going on#pain play#steve's very much aware of that one#robin being snarky and correct#and some surprise blade runner in there bc why not#harringrove#billy hargrove#steve harrington#feels weird that chrissy and ed are entirely absent but steve's POV is kinda limited#poor sweet summer child has no fucking idea what he's in for
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whenever i watch drag race it always amuses me how boyish i feel cos like. its drag race. there’s just about nothing masculine about the concept at all, that’s the point. but i feel like such a guy watching it. what does that even mean
whats even stranger is that i’m a boydyke and yet i feel damn near twinkish but at the same time very much wanting to kiss girls. do you see what i mean.
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I feel like it's harder to do instantly recognizable gender things when you're afab. Cause like, anything masculine just reads as practical. Anything "unisex" reads as "lazy"
And God help if you're fat.
Well, I guess that's what they invented punk and goth for.
#playing with gender#gender nonconforming#gender weirdness#genderqueer#whines#i dont do goth#i barely do punk#i wanna do flamboyant gay man#with just like fingernail polish#i want these people to see that the closet door is open
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any other autistics out there dealing with the gender feelings of 'i wish i was a girl' while being a cis girl
idk if it's bc i don't 'perform' femininity right but it's something i still deal with at my big age of 27
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Into the pit Jeff and Mike finally sleep together in FNAF..
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#fnaf#five nights at freddy's#fnaf fanart#fnaf movie#mike schmidt#fnaf jeff#fnaf oswald#abby schmidt#into the pit#they are the same guy your honour#two sleepy dudes doing their absolute best#please let them have one good nights sleep#Mike finally has competition of being the most tired#it’s actually really funny how similar they are#just in details of being both scruffy and weirds everyone out etc#they’d get along I know it in my heart#Oswald and Abby would be able to clock it too#it’s funny in my last comic with Jeff people were already saying he looks like Mike#so of course I’d have to draw them meeting#shout out to sleepy guys gotta be one of my favourite genders
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"all men are evil" is radfem/terf rhetoric, but clarifying "all cis men" because you want to signal that you're not transphobic doesn't work because it's still deeply rooted in radfem beliefs. It's saying you believe there's something inherently evil in being born/assigned "male", and you carry it over in how you treat ppl who transition in or out of that gender. "All cis men are evil", is gender essentialist and you can't get around that.
Fucking tired of ppl who think their terf soundbites with a fresh coat of paint are sooo progressive
#grumble grumble#refollowed someone who always gets lauded as such a great activist hoping hed moved past his bullshit#but nope hes still insufferable in his weird pocket gender essentialist way#unfortunately like so many ppl are
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#lgbtqia#lgbtq community#transmasc#trans woman#transfem#transgender#nonbinary#lesbian#sapphic#nonbinary lesbian#trans women#trans nsft#transformers#transblr#gender identity#gender ideology#gender identification#gender is a social construct#gay girls#gender is weird#gender issues#lgbtq#queer#lgbt pride
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stupid idea i was thinking about
#fanart#dungeon meshi#marcille donato#falin touden#falin thorden#farcille#dungeon meshi spoilers#it would be incredibly gender. u know#a weird cat drew this
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Penetration is a gender-neutral act. Topping is gender-neutral. Bottoming is gender-neutral. You are not more or less of a man or a woman depending on how you fuck. You are not “fake trans” for having sex a certain way. You are not any less masculine for bottoming or any less feminine for topping.
#my posts#yea i’m aware that topping/bottoming can be gender affirming#but that is within a certain frame#it is gender-affirming because in that moment between those people it is gender affirming#topping and bottoming are not inherently gendered#and ascribing traditionally feminine values to bottoms is weird#as is ascribing traditionally masculine values to all tops
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don't let their seemingly straight-passing tension fool you, they are still very gay and dysfunctional
#they trans their genders good for them good for them!#my friends always give me weird looks when im like “oh they're all the same two people”#doctor who#dr who#dw#the doctor#the master#thoschei#spydoc#twissy#the doctor x the master#doctor x master#master x doctor#the master x the doctor#gomez!master#missy#12th doctor#dhawan!master#twelfth doctor#13th doctor#thirteenth doctor
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