#gender non conforming woman

[redditreceipts]

moids can't cope with the fact that women don't have to get tons of plastic surgery, put on makeup, wear expensive clothes etc. just to be seen as a woman from 10 meters distance with squinting eyes

[genderqueerdykes]

i feel like it's really important to point out some really transphobic and dangerous rhetoric that we've just accepted as the norm in online queer spaces.

if you believe that in order for a trans man to talk about their experiences with trans manhood, they must also talk about how bad trans women have it or else they're being transmisogynistic, you're being transphobic. these are two separate conversations and not all trans men can accurately tell you what trans women go through. not all trans women can accurately tell you what trans men go through, either. you can't expect someone to have every conversation about transness at once when they are just trying to give anecdotes about their personal lived experiences. trans men are allowed to talk about trans manhood as much as they need to... that's their lived experience.

expecting one side to talk about how the other has it worse in every conversation they have about themselves is hostile behavior. it's not holding trans women down for a trans man to talk about their experience with trans manhood and don't mention how bad other queer people have it. those are separate conversations. don't expect trans women to have to bring up the struggles trans men have in order to talk about their own experiences, and don't do this to any other group of queer person, either. don't do it to anyone. it's okay to have one conversation at a time. not every conversation can represent every single group of queer person at once, nor should they have to.

there's a time and a place for all of these conversations. there is just as much time to be had having conversations about trans womanhood as there is trans manhood. it's okay to have these conversations separately at the same time. it's alright for someone to only comment on what they know. it's not great to force people to comment on experiences they don't understand because it leads to misrepresentation. let trans men talk about their experiences with trans manhood without expecting them to talk about a bunch of other queer identities, too. you don't have to drown out the voices of trans men in order to lift someone else up. we can have these conversations, separately, at once.

[aliyahali]

[vvitchscvm-deactivated0666]

femininity does not invite protection from men btw.

opposite energy.

it invokes their contempt.

[something-wicked-within-me]

Silly little WL au of mine,,,,

Against all odds, PICS stay together. Or, at least, the GGGs do - Impulse is the one to team with Gem and Joel. He leaves around Session 2.

It's episode 9. The final confrontation. They're all on red - most of the other teams have already fallen, aside from a few stragglers, and it's the GGGS vs Gem, Joel and Impulse ("GIJ", they've affectionately dubbed themselves, so their catchphrase could be "the gij's up!").

"Pearl," Gem pleads. "Please. Come with me! We can be Soup Group again! Well — plus Joel, but... Soup Group! Come on. Don't you remember Murder Camel? We can destroy those guys! Please. You don't need them. Let me save you." "Oh, Gem..." Pearl's eyes soften, as she strides forward, lowering her sword to cup Gem's cheek in her hand. The deer-hybrid leans into the wolf's touch. A deer trying to save a wolf. How pathetic. Gem gasps as she feels Pearl slot a sword between her ribs. The fawn looks up, horrified, her face almost betraying betrayal... though, that would be the wrong term, because betrayal required them being allies in the first place! They'd never been allies. Let alone friends. "You want to save me? Please. I don't need saving. I'm right where I want to be." Pearl was sick of people telling her who she should be with - what she should want, do, think, be. She knew exactly what she wanted. She wanted Cleo. She wanted Scott. And she wanted this deer to rot. She allowed Gem's corpse to fall to the ground with a cold smirk. Nothing but roadkill. Then, she stepped back to her real team, her real friends, her darling partners. Gem was an absolute idiot if she thought she'd betray them. Pearl gave Cleo a peck on her forehead above her forebrow's stitch, and kisses Scott's star-littered nose. Affectionately, Scott wiped the blood off her cheeks with his thumb, like she'd gotten a bit messy eating an ice cream cone and hadn't just killed a rogue roe. She giggled. "Guess the gig's up for the gijs," Pearl couldn't help but mock the dead doe, and Cleo rolled her eyes teasingly at her pun as the two mollycoddled. "The gijs are almost up. Now, come on," Cleo pulled Pearl's sword out of Gem's forgotten corpse while Scott and Pearl were peppering each other with nose-kisses like it was a competition — was it rude of them to be bill and cooing in front of Gem's dead body? Probably!— and offered the weapon to Pearl in the same way a queen might offer a knight back their blade. Once, Cleo might have hesitated to hand her a weapon, but not anymore. Running a blade through each other's backs now would be like running a blade through their own. "We've got an Impulse to catch."

[seventeendeer]

just watched the barbie movie everyone was discoursing about last year and I can't help but feel like a lot of the problems in its execution could have been avoided if the kid character's arc had been about learning to embrace girly stuff as an act of rebellion against the adultification of teen girls while barbie went full butch transmasc

[shrimpalbuspotter]

The rage I feel when someone posts an astronomically horrible take about Snape exceeds the laws of biology. Like I'll genuinely find myself shaking and wanting to be sick everytime I come across anti snape it's not normal

[thermodynamic-comedian]

im both the girl you have a beer and a smoke with on the front porch while talking about life, as well as the boy you take to a hyperpop concert and impulsively shave and dye your hair with at 3 am. the full package. a two-in-one deal

[redditreceipts]

gender believers: "nooo, trans identity is not about stereotypes, in fact, stereotypes and trans identity have nothing to do with each other, nobody thinks they're trans because they're gender non-conforming, where do you get that from??"

gender believers in the next moment:

funnily enough, by that metric I'm also transmasc, because today i wore men's deodorant (outrageous, I know) and just this weekend I got a ton of men's shirts, hoodies and jackets

[genderqueerdykes]

when i tell people i only use it/its pronouns and that they feel euphoric and like i'm being referred to correctly, most people's immediate gut reaction is "i don't like that, i would be so uncomfortable being referred to as it/its."

i have great news for you! you won't be addressed by it/its pronouns! i will be! lucky for you, these are my pronouns, not yours, and at no point will you ever be referred to by it unless you explicitly ask me to!

whenever i explain that i feel great discomfort and dysphoria being referred to by they, he, or she, these same people suddenly fall silent and have nothing to say. imagine if every time someone told me they use they, he, or she pronouns, my immediate response was "i would be so uncomfortable being called they/he/she, i don't like that."

this reaction is one sided and is only used to target it/its users. no one else. when someone tells you their pronouns are it/its, keep your discomfort to yourself. that is your burden to bear. we have to accept that all pronoun sets, no matter how "normalized" they are, are going to make certain people feel like shit.

when a trans man asks you to use he/him pronouns because she/her pronouns makes him uncomfortable, your gut response isn't to say "he/him pronouns make me uncomfortable, i won't refer to you that way." when a trans woman asks you to use she/her pronouns because he/him pronouns makes her uncomfortable, your first reaction isn't to say "she/her pronouns make me uncomfortable, i'm not going to use them for you."

people can have bad experiences and even trauma with any set of pronouns, this is not exclusive to it/its. there are trans men across the world who feel like absolute shit when people use she/her pronouns for them, there are trans women across the globe who feel like absolute shit when people use he/him pronouns for them. nobody seems to consider this. any pronouns can cause discomfort.

don't single in on it/its users. don't make the first comment out of your mouth be about yourself. don't make someone else's pronouns about you. keep your personal discomfort with those pronouns to yourself. that is not the it/its cross to bear: that is yours. you don't get to decide what pronouns a stranger can and can't use, that's not your choice, you don't get to make it for them.

important addition from the tags:

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[toriko-manga-and-memes]

I guess feminine man essence would be the billion bird egg?

You are my muse.

Have a quick sketch I made of whatever type of solidarity this is

[faggylittleleatherboy]

Marceline from adventure time is canonically genderfluid if you even care (uses she and they in the show and refers to themselves as a boy)

[celebrate-lesbianism]

When I dressed feminine, I got teased for my height, but it was never mean spirited. Since finding myself and embracing the masculine style I've always wanted, I get made fun of for being short. People say things to me or people like me with the intention of putting us down and making us feel bad about ourselves.

Stop acting like butch and masc women under 5'10 are weird and ugly! The average height for women is literally 5'4, and it's perfectly normal to be shorter than that. We look good af.

[coolhumanoidbeing]

a bit unlike what I usually post about, but remember that you can be gender non-conforming even if you're trans.

Cis guys can wear whatever they want and still be a guy. Trans guys can wear whatever they want and still be a guy. Trans women can have short hair or whatever, just like cis women.

You don't have to hyper perform masculinity or femininity to be """actually""" trans.

[captainjackscoat]

WHAT THE FUCK

WHAT THE FUCK WHAT THE FUCK WHAT THE FUCKKKKK

MY MUM DOES NOT KNOW I AM TRANS. MY MOTHER IS A TRANSPHOBE. MY MOTHER DOES NOT KNOW WHAT GENDERFLUID IS.

ONE OF HER FRIENDS ASKED WHAT TO WEAR TO OUR CHRISTMAS PARTY AND MY MUM SAID:

"Well, [deadname] will just decide on the morning. Some days she feels like dressing like a princess, some days she feels like dressing like a boy, some days she feels like dressing like a pirate. She just dresses how she likes and looks fabulous regardless. So just wear whatever you feel like because that's how she'll dress. It's entirely likely she'll come to the party in some obscure costume."

what

did my mother just. indirectly tell me my genderfluidity is fabulous

because like 90% of my expression as a genderfluid person comes from how I dress. So. When I tell her "I'll see how I feel on the day" what I really mean is "I'll see what my gender is on the day"

AND APPARENTLY THAT'S "FABULOUS"

WHAT THE FUCKKKKKKKKKK