#this user is a mascgirl

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Mod: Four more confessions on the Discord pronoun topic:

oh my god the transphobia confession? im sorry but what has this world come to if you’re really that pressed over someone using gender neutral pronouns and editing with the correct ones afterwards. also, not all people (including trans people) think femboy is transphobic. it was just a dumb assumption some tiktokker made. sure it can be used in transphobic settings but just expressing a want for a femboy doll, ie a feminine male doll, is not transphobic. god y’all are so annoying. there’s actually transphobia you guys should worry about.

~Anonymous

i feel like i know what the person accusing the discord of transphobia is talking about, and it was definitely not the norm (and was called out at the time). someone just they/them-ed someone else with a he/him pronoun tag. if there's something much worse and more rampant happening i would love to know, and absolutely not discounting the pain of microaggressions and purposeful misgendering, but that very much was handled and called out at the time. i have seen nothing else to suggest transphobia from the regular users. if you see something serious, go to mir, not confession blogs.

~Anonymous

Someone accidentally not noticing someone's pronouns, but changing them when notified of it, without a fuss. Is not transphobia. Even if it's in the name, 90% of people don't really look at the names most of the time. At least "they/them" was used, which is gender neutral, instead of the person assuming a gendered pronoun, Seriously, don't blame malice, on which can be explained by ignorance. Transphobia would be on purpose misgendering, and then refusing to change it when notified.

~Anonymous

Transphobia doesn’t fly, fullstop. But that said, femboy, or mascgirl, are literally terms describing a presentation in men or women, it’s basically the same as tomgirl, and tomboy. It’s short for feminine boys, or masculine girls, or more specifically, for men who enjoy, or even naturally are drawn towards presenting in a way associated with women, and vice versa for women who enjoy, or are naturally drawn to presenting in a way associated with men. In addition, it is not a cis thing, a transman can also choose to present more feminine, or a transwoman can choose to present masculine. While still being 100% a woman, or a man in their gender identity. It also feels a bit iffy to imply that someone who’s a femboy/mascgirl aka tomgirl/tomboy, should be presented as enby. Since the way someone presents themselves on the outside, does not determine their actual gender. It’s really dangerous to say, or even imply that. Trans people are either transwomen, or transmen. Or: Women. fullstop. Or: Men. fullstop. And nonbinary, are nonbinary, or enby. Fullstop. There’s a huge difference between people just presenting outwardly in a certain style, which is socially associated with a certain gender, and a persons actual gender-identity. It’s just how transwomen can do drag, and do it for fun, and enjoy it, while still being 100% women, even though people associate it with men. Cis women also do drag. An example of a transwoman, 100% woman, is Juno Birch, in case anyone wanted to check her out. Please don’t mix up terms, or at least be aware that there is actually a good deal of people who just like to present in a certain way, and that these terms are very specific to these people, and that it doesn’t directly influence their gender identity. It is kinda mirroring the transphobic talking point of people, who say if a transwoman doesn’t present 100% feminine the entire time, or a transman not presenting 100% masculine the entire time, are “lesser” or not actually women/men. And using these terms, and thinking they have to be about gender, instead of just outward presentation, is really damaging.

~Anonymous