#exclus cw

[eclaire-went-bam]

i'm THIS close to just making my pronouns he/it, or just it/its, bcs istg ppl see "prefers it/it but also ok with he/they" & think it's a good excuse to not call me by my "weird" pronouns

people hardly ever use "he" either, bcs i don't pass

like. it/it's my preferred pronouns. he/they is tolerable but over time i'm just going to get annoyed. wait till they hear abt my super secret neopronouns

[scp3199]

Me when I have no friends who like Midnight Horror School cuz all of them left me and rather be friends with a exclusionist than me (the exclus said bullshit about how apparently, “Trans men can’t be lesbians”) (You also just discovered that your a Trans Man, making it doubly painful):

[redtail-lol]

Zoinks scoob! Looks like someone forgot both parties can and usually do enjoy sex! Here's the easy step by step process to justify having sex with someone you are not attracted to

The person wants to have sex with you, they may or may not be sexually attracted to you

You want to have sex with them. That may be because you just want to have sex at all, you are in a relationship with them, or you trust them sexually. Regardless of the why, you also want to fuck.

You communicate that you aren't attracted to them because you are ace but you still want to fuck and then ask if that's okay. They say yes. They don't mind. They're just horny for you

You both enjoy the sex

There, justifying "using someone that I clearly have no interest in soley for sex, my own pleasure" in 4 easy steps

[estrogenism]

is it just me or do a lot of the mspec lesbian positivity posts seem weirdly.. spiteful? it's like some people only make them to spite exclus and not because they actually want to spread positivity.

[spiralingguitarist]

can i still follow (i wanna follow you back) and interact if i don't like being called "queer"? also I don't like being called "enby" either soooo... sorry but I'm just... yk sorry I'm just dumb and don't like using reclaimed words/slurs that i CAN reclaim (im not against reclaiming slurs but i personally don't want to do it)

sorry in advance 😓😓😓😓😓😓

EDIT: i saw your di list and kinky aces are there, can i still follow even though I'm a sex-neutral leading to averse ace 😓

DNI & BYF & DI!

DNI (Do Not Interact) if:

Heavy Christians

Homophobic, transphobic, sexist, racist, etc

Pro-Capitalism/Anti-Anarchy

Proship/Anti-Anti/Comship/Darkship

Anti-Kink

Anti-Abortion/Pro-Birth

Pro-Gun

Theriscum/Othermeds

Sysmeds

Queer exclu groups (Battleaxe Bis, Longsword Lesbians, etc)

Supports heavily controversial people (mostly politicians)

Anti-Furry/Avian/Scalie

Think queer is a slur

Use Slurs you can’t reclaim (ex: white person using n-word)

Queer exclus (anti-mspec lesbians and gays, etc)

Anti-Sex Work

Radfem, TERF, FART, TER, TEHM

Flag discourse on stupid stuff (ex: saying vincian flag is lesbophobic cuz it uses a similar line style like what-)

Police pronouns and labels

Pro-Trans X (go fuck yourselves, “transabled” dipshits)

Pro-Contact Para (maps, zoos, necros, and other seriously harmful shit)

Anti-Inclus/Anti-Critinclus (we aren’t exclus for being against pedophiles- we’re decent beings omfg)

RadQueers (basically pro-para, pro-ed, medpunk, and pro-trans x dipshits)

Medpunk (excluding BIID, basically shit like transabled, but excluding BIID)

“Safequeers” you aren’t inclusionists, your an exclusionist in sheep’s clothing

Partake in cringe culture and/or on cringe subs

Xenosatanists

Police others trauma

Anti-Cishets

KAM (Kill All Men)

Misogynistic and Misandry

Against AMAB transmascs and AFAB transfems

Support AI “art”

Anti-Intersex or discriminate against intersex people

Xenomeds/Xenoscum (Peeps who believe you need dysphoria to be Xenogender like what)

Supporters of the creator Fuboo/InvertedMindInc

Supporters of Electricpuke (fictives/kins of their creations are fine to int! Just don’t mention EP around us at all)

Fans of Dream AT ALL. (Including Irls and fictives. Sorry but we can’t associate at all.)

BYF (Before You Follow)

We/We’re

Pro-Kink

Pro-Abortion

Pro-Furry/Scalie/Avian

Pro-mspec lesbians/gays

Pro-GNC lesbians/gays

Pro-PNC lesbians/gays

Support ALL good faith identities

Pro-NSFW artists

Pro-Xenos and Neopronouns

We are a RADICAL INCLUSIONIST

We support ALL systems! (Yes that includes Endos and Willogenics!!)

We don’t censor queer

We use reclaimed slurs (rtard,fggot,dke)

We are a Critical Inclus (transx isn’t trans, paras don’t belong in queer community)

We understand the difference between harmful paraphilia and kink, please know the difference!! Don’t rope us kinksters in with fucking pro-contact pedos/zoos/etc!!

Proud anti-shipper! (Proshippers can fuck off! Get your abusive pedo shit off of my blog)

We support non-contact paraphiliacs (just not those who are making genders and sexualities and transx of their paras)

We have a few paraphiliac disorders (sadly necrophilia but we are strictly anti-contact and getting therapy for it)

We support paraphilias that are not harmful and the harmful ones that are strictly no-contact

Pro-BLM, StopAsianHate, #MeToo, & Land Back Movement

We call ourselves a femboy. We understand it’s history, but we are not using it in malicious intent. We’re a femboy. We’re a twink. Deal with it.

We support transspecies used in their original way, as for alterhumans/therians/otherkins!

We are a Sunset Paraphile and a Fluffy Paraphile. (We can’t find the links to them tho but DO KNOW ITS STRICTLY ANTI-CONTACT AND PRO RECOVERY)

DI (Do Interact)

If you/you’re:

Part of FNAF, TOH, Cuphead, DELTARUNE/UNDERTALE, DDLC, Analog Horror Fandom!

Metal fan (both music and machinery)

Foxkin/Vulpiskin

Use fox xenogenders

Part of any marching band

Satanists

Followers of Lucifer and Lilith

Like Bo Burnham

Kinky asexuals

Brandon Rogers fan

Rad/Crit Inclus

Etc Info on us:

We are a traumaendo system with some willogenic headmates! We have USDD & we are the Cavrin System.

We are both otherkin & therian. We just say we are Alterhuman and we’re polykin.

We just identify as Queer for an umbrella term but for very standard we are Abrosexual Oriented AroAce Gaybian & Multigender Xenic Nonbinary

We got lotsa pronouns but just use he/they for most of us.

We have a few paraphilias and for the non-consensual one (necrophilia sadly) we HIGHLY ARE ANTI-CONTACT. We are also a fictophile and an objectophile with some others that are minor and we just don’t care. Again. We are ANTI-CONTACT FOR THE HARMFUL AND NONCON ONES

We sometimes struggle with tone indicators and putting tags on posts, please be patient with us!

We are 18 (going on 19 soon) so please be wary of adult topics stated on this blog.

Other Blogs of Ours:

@mansionofblood - Blog related to a Slasher fanfic me and my friend are doing

@yourdecayeddeer - Blog for our fictive Lawrence

@drillandhammerslut - Blog for our fictive Strade

@soap-and-bubbles - Blog for our fictive Jo

[xenogemini]

Exclus: has mspec exclus in there dni

Also exclus: mspec lesbians dni

Do U realise your literally being a mspec exclus?

Y do exclus exist?

[deadboystims]

˗ˏˋ꒰ 🌱 ꒱ ) he / him ┊ billy , 17 ┊ autihd , gay , bpd ⚣

˗ˏˋ꒰ 🦀 ꒱ ) inbox : 3/5 - requests : CLOSED - divider

˗ˏˋ꒰ 🐛 ꒱ ) read rules & blacklist before requesting

˗ˏˋ꒰ 🍁 ꒱ ) feel free to claim an anon sign off!

*rules & blacklist under cut ( keep reading ) divider : @kiyaedits

# @deadboybilly @deadboyrbs @ccozies

# do not interact : terfs , kink/nsfw , ddlg & variants , proship & anti-antis , proana/anti-recovery , loli/shotacon , dsmp fans , zoophiles , exclus , radqueer , maps/pedos , procontact harmful para .

also : scott cawthon supporters/defenders , msi fans/listeners/defenders , endo sys , “narc abuse” believer

# claimed anons :

🎁 anon

✨🐀 anon

🧟 anon

📼 anon

�� anon

🌈 anon

🔥 anon

💗🎤 anon

🐺 anon

🐇 sys

🌌🌼 anon

🐲🌟🏹 anon

🐜🔎 anon

💎 anon

🐝 anon

# request rules :

i’ll only take ship requests from fandoms i know/i’m in (check list below)

feel free to send in multiple requests but do it separately, do not do multiple requests in one ask, this makes it easier for me

be specific ! tell me what stims, colors you want, as well as anything u dont want ! i’m more likely to deny a request if u aren’t specific !

i have trouble reading typing quirks, if possible avoid using them / include a translation at least

search my page and see if i’ve done a board similar to what u want already! i’ll do requests if it has different/other specific stims for things i’ve already done tho!

my blacklist isn’t a moral judgement on all of these , some i just don’t wanna do

# long stimboard rules :

same as the above rules but,

i won’t do fandom requests

i’ll only take two at a time for my convenience

# blacklist :

dsmp - any & all members , qsmp

t0mmyinnit , jschl@tt , r@nboo , etc ( censored to avoid coming up in search )

south park , helluva boss , hazbin hotel , harry potter , the amazing digital circus

danganronpa , boyfriend to death , omori , fnf , the coffin of andy and leyley , ranfren

boyfriends ( webcomic ) , killing stalking , homestuck

hetalia , country humans

factkin , nsfw , proship , kpop

anything in my dni

# whitelist :

i’m very willing to do ( unproblematic ) niche media !!! don’t worry abt being too niche

anything in and out of my interest list, as long it isn’t in the blacklist

animals

boards based off of names

otherkin, fictkin + therian boards

objectum related boards (sfw only. obviously)

pride boards, like sexualities, genders + xenogenders, etc

plushies

character lgbtq headcanons, as long it doesn’t go against their canon (lgbtq) identity

oc boards

music/album stimboards (with specific stims to include)

aesthetics and -cores

i’m willing to do (sfw) agere boards but only for fandoms i know/non-fandom requests

# tags :

#stimboard - my stimboards

#request - requested stimboards

#not a stimboard - txt posts

#posted - replies to requests

#denied - request rejects or boards i need more info on

#my gifs - gifs i’ve made

#<3 - boards for my friends or boyfriend

#pride - lgbtqia+ related boards

#kin - kin related boards

#ship - ship related boards

#my favs <3 - favorite boards i’ve made

#sfw agere - agere boards

# trigger tags :

will not be censored (i.e. “bl00d” or “kn1fe”)

please filter out tags/content that trigger you

tags will be formatted as #cw (trigger) , but i will also provide a base tag as well

things i trigger tag : (fake) blood , bugs , knife , gun , snake , blade , scopophobia , flashing , fast moving gifs , horror , eyestrain , fake gore , weed , implied drug use

i do my best to tag everything with food with #food , sometimes i forget , sorry in advance

i am not responsible for your triggers if you refuse to use the filter features

while i do post agere content occasionally, this blog isn’t entirely safe for those who are regressed - be careful, filter out triggers

list of my interests !! (not in most fandoms, just things i like)

bolded & blue = current hyperfixations/fav to make

# special interests :

fnaf ,

marine biology ( sharks esp ) ,

scream ( movie franchise )

i have spin jealousy unfort so while i won’t block u pls don’t claim to like these more than me etc etc,,

# shows :

craig of the creek , adventure time , good omens , bee and puppycat , supernatural , gotham , moon knight , total drama , spongebob , gravity falls , bluey , amazing world of gumball , clarence , steven universe , smiling friends , live action one piece , mlp (fim) , fionna and cake , star vs the forces of evil , impractical jokers , ed edd n eddy , teen titans go

# games :

DDLC , roblox , minecraft , kirby , thats not my neighbor , papa louie games

# general :

horror media , bugbo , monster high , sonic , cats , clowns , lps , pusheen , laceygames , rob zombie , horror movies , plushies , nerdy prudes must die

# color(s + combos) i enjoy..

blue , red , green , pink , yellow + purple , blue + brown , blue + green , blue + orange , blue + white , orange + green , green + yellow , pink + green

# inbox :

x

x

x

x

x

# long stimboard requests :

x

x

[osc-mogai-archive]

INTRO POST

[PT: Intro Post. End PT]

Hii! I'm @kitsflagz/@me0wk1t, but I'd rather be called Host for this blog, they/he/[ERROR] as pronouns. Here I'll reblog (lio)mogai labels/flags related to object shows!

Tag me in any object show related (lio)mogai post!

DNI: NSFT/ED/SH blogs, radqueers & adjacents, exclus/radexclus, anti-goodfaith labels (lesboys, mspec mono, etc), pro-contact non-consensual paras, MAPs, zoos, & necros.

Proship/comship are on THIN ICE, but i'll accept it for this blog.

This blog is endo-safe! [Host is endo-neutral]

The tagging system will be: "media: [general, BFDI, II, etc.]", "type: [gender, orientation, etc.]", "theme: [character, concept, etc.]" & "character: [x]" when the label relates to a character. I'll also include "no id" & tw/cw for labels that need it!

Reblogs appreciated! + IDs in alt text

[our-mspec-experience]

I am so angry and I worry about talking about it on my blog where people I know irl will see it and be able to guess who I'm talking about. It's not my place to air out someone else's fears to them, but I gotta tell someone.

Sorry, I'll start at the beginning, cw for biphobia and exclusionism:

A younger bisexual told me she had been worried about coming to a queer event I help organize bc she was scared she'd be interrogated on her queerness and found lacking for "only" being bi. I did my best to reassure her and point out that there's no hierarchy and of course bisexuality is "queer enough" to be queer, but inside I was seething. This is what all that exclusionist bullshit leads to: a young bisexual scared to seek out her own damn community bc exclus have decided there's such a thing as "not queer enough".

Is this your idea of "protecting the community", exclus? Did you successfully sniff out the "fakers"? Are you fucking proud of yourselves for how well you're keeping out those pesky cishets who are totally trying to invade our community at every turn??

I'm aro and pansexual. According to exclus, I am less queer than her. And yet I am the one who gets to be secure in the knowledge that the event is for me, too, while she was scared to come.

Exclus are a fucking blight upon this community.

Well you absolutely did the right thing by reassuring her, and I hope you’re event went well! i agree completely, anyone who excludes people from the queer community are terrible, and no one is “more queer” than anyone else!

[genderstarbucks]

Coming Out Post Ig?

I don't really know where to start with this so I'm just gonna get into it

Cw for a bit of a long rant, no triggering topics but just read with some slight caution

I think I'm bigay? I've been questioning my sexuality for about 4 years and I could never find a label that stuck. I started with bisexual, then pansexual, then throughout the years my sexuality has changed but it's been mostly been between bi and gay. I've used homoflexible a few times, and it felt right, but something felt off. I felt it didn't completely cover what my attraction felt like. It's been hard for me to differentiate between romantic and sexual attraction, so I've just been using non-sam labels, and just saying I'm bisexual with a lean. Recently I've used abrosexual and that felt right too, but not completely. I've tried abrogay and abroachillean because I am mostly gay but it just didn't feel completely right, I didn't feel complete. I used to be an exclusionist (ew) and against mspec lesbians/gays/straights but luckily I've had friends and this wonderful community to educate me. I think the only reason I was an exclus was because I had internalized bigayphobia, as soon as someone taught me what it was, it really wasn't that hard to understand. Some people are on the sam and some people are fluid between 2 labels. I also think it was because I was with a toxic friend group (who I've since dropped ((thank god)) who was VERY against mspec lesbians/gays/straights. I mean, I also used to be anti-mogai because my ex gf was pounding it into my head how "bad" it was (she was literally cis too lmao) I'm glad I've met and am in such a wonderful community that is accepting of all good-faith identities. Anyway, earlier today I started researching bigay more and kept re-reading the description as to why someone might use the term bigay and then I realized. That's me. I am bigay. The term that actually resonates with me is the thing I've been avoiding the most. I was literally TERRIFIED about adding bigay to my prns page (ik I don't have to but I just want to) even though I know the only people who are gonna see it are my friends (who are accepting of it) and anybody who clicks on the link in my pinned post (which is most likely gonna be an inclus) I've been thinking about if I'm bigay (or just mspec gay) for a while now, but I refused to even accept myself of the possibility of being an mspec gay. I genuinely don't understand exclusionists, I used to be one and all I did was do a little research as to why someone might identify that way, and I changed my views. If you can accept things like nonbinary boy or agender girl, then you can accept mspec lesbians/gays/straights too. I'm glad I've cut off those exclus friends, now I can finally be myself. I think my sexual journey is over, I think this is the label I've been looking for, for so long. Ykw I'm proud to say I'm bigay, I'm proud to use contradictory labels. I'm a nonbinary boy AND a biromantic gay, and I'm god damn proud of it. If you're questioning whether you're mspec and a lesbian/gay/straight then it's okay. Those labels aren't "bad" or "invalid", if it describes you, then use it. You can use "contradictory" labels if you'd like, don't give a fuck what anyone thinks. All that matters is that you accept yourself, all that matters is using the labels you want that make you feel comfortable.

My identity has come a long way over the years, but I think I'm finally happy to say I'm comfortable where I am. I'm an agender boy, enboy and a demienboy, also bigay, and exclusionists can fuck off!

I didn't mean to make this that long but oh well 💀

TLDR; Sexuality confusing, omg I'm a bigay. Fuck exclusionists.

Edit: I think I'm just like every label besides wlw/lesbian, I'm gay, bi, pan, EVERYTHING

Edit 2: Okay nvm guys 💀 Charlie, one of my alters is a transbian and I'm transgay so collectively we're a lesboy, turigirl, gaybian and literally every other orientation

Edit 3: Okay I figured it out, I'm omnibi gay (as in general bi gay) and an omnibi gay man

Edit 4: I'm just every sexuality besides wlw/lesbian labels and I'm also multivelfluid

Edit 5: nvm I lied I'm just bigay

Edit 6: I'm such a fucking liar I'm actual bigay, abrogay and pomogay

[rottmtfrida]

*:･"Welcome to the pondscape"˚˖𓍢ִ໋🌷͙֒

This ROTTMNT OC ask blog is run by @sweet-discordia, please read my carrd

🍄🐸INFO🍓🍄

Name: Frida Medika-Tarni

Age: 14(2018)-16(2020)-20(2024) Main blog/story takes place between the series and movie

Birthday: 13/02/04

Gender: Intersex-Genderfluid

Species: Red eyed tree frog Yokai/Spirit borne

Height: 5'1"

Orientation: Sapphic-Aroace (Taken?)

Job: Errand boy / Student (reference sheet in progress - See toyhouse)

🍄🐸TAGS🌷🍄

Backstory/lore : #OCfridalore Asks: #OCfridaasks OOC/memes: #OOCfrida OC interactions: #OCfridafriends

🌷🍄BOUNDARIES🍓🌷

CW for sensitive topics below divide - No NSFW asks, or suggestive tmnt accounts, you will be blocked - No tc/st accounts OR rottmnt aprilxtmnt shippers - No violent/hateful asks - If you have a question for admin, ask on admins main - Frida is not and will never be shipped with alters within systems (this may be subject to change/additions)

- Pr0shitters/Pr0fic, z00philes, p3dos, gr00mers, other harmful paraphiles - Abuse apologists, gtfo - Racists, Xenophobia, Royalists, people who believe Australian First Nations don’t exist can fuck right off - Homophobia, Transphobia, Nb-phobia, A/Arophobia, fight about “inclus vs exclus”, think lesbians can like men, any sort of LGBTQI+ phobia -Isreal supporters, No Voters, Right wingers, Conservatives, Evangelists etc etc - Use unreclaimable slurs, example: the R slur

[aisakalegacy]

⚠️ CW : Propos misogynes d'un homme blanc de 1918 ⚠️

Printemps 1918, Al Simhara, Égypte (5/20)

À ce propos - et je vous promets qu’il s’agit de la dernière de mes digressions, les femmes blanches nées au Canada de plus de vingt-et-un ans ont désormais le droit de vote aux élections fédérales. Il faut qu’elles soient également propriétaires, ce qui exclue de facto ma fille aînée. Je ne suis pas très familier de la politique française, les femmes ont-elles le droit de vote chez vous, et si oui, quelles en sont les conditions ? Je n’ai pas le sentiment que cette loi ait provoqué beaucoup d'émotion autour de moi. Je dirais que chez les femmes de l’île, les sentiments étaient partagés. Un tiers était enthousiaste, un tiers y était opposé, un tiers était indifférent. Les hommes y sont, je pense, majoritairement opposés, mais je fais moi-même partie des indifférents - mais je suis indifférent à mon propre vote.

Je lis toutes sortes d’opinions dans le journal à ce sujet. Les partisans disent que de la propriété et de la taxation vient le droit légitime d’être représenté, et puisque les femmes sont propriétaires et taxées en raison de leur propriété, il n’est que naturel qu’elles puissent voter. Les opposants argumentent que le vote est l’expression d’une décision, et que cette décision doit ensuite être imposée et appliquée. Il faut donc être en mesure de pouvoir la défendre si l’opinion majoritaire ne devait pas être entendu, et que donc, en cet état, il n’est pas censé qu’une femme ait le droit de vote car elle se reposerait ensuite sur les hommes de son entourage pour s’assurer que sa décision soit mise en œuvre. Je vois du vrai dans cela également. Cependant cela m’amène à une réflexion. Je n’ai jamais voté de ma vie et je ne compte pas commencer à le faire, mais si je le souhaitais, j’en aurais le droit. Avec ma jambe en moins, je serais cependant bien incapable de reprendre les armes pour défendre la mise en application de mon choix - c’est d’ailleurs parce que l’armée me reconnaît comme incapable de continuer à défendre la nation que j’ai été réformé. Je me demande alors si les opposants argumenteraient qu’il faudrait, à moi aussi, me retirer le droit de vote.

[Transcription] Earnest Simmon : Désolé, je suis terriblement en retard, j’ai dû faire un détour avant de venir. Louise Le Bris : Je commençais à me demander si vous viendriez bien aujourd’hui. Earnest Simmon : Vous savez bien que je ne manquerais nos entretiens pour rien au monde. Louise Le Bris : Le feu est presque éteint. Asseyez-vous, je vais aller chercher Maria pour qu’elle le rallume. Earnest Simmon : Ne vous dérangez pas, il fait bien assez chaud ici. Louise Le Bris : Seriez-vous malade ? Vous n’avez pas l’air bien. Earnest Simmon : Je suis simplement nerveux, c’est tout. Puis-je vous poser une question, Miss Le Bris ? Louise Le Bris : Je vous en prie. Earnest Simmon : C’est une question plutôt personnelle, et je comprendrais que vous souhaitiez décliner. Louise Le Bris : Dites-moi ! Earnest Simmon : Ces dernières semaines, j’ai développé une certaine… affection pour vous. J’ai bien conscience de la nature de notre accord, mais… je ne serais pas opposé à l’idée d’en dépasser le cadre. Earnest Simmon : Nous nous entendons bien au-delà du simple prétexte de notre fausse fréquentation. Vos parents comme les miens nous approuvent, ni vous ni moi n’avons de véritable perspective de mariage pour l’instant. Earnest Simmon : Je suis en train de tomber amoureux de vous. Louise, peut-être… que nous devrions nous marier pour de vrai ? Louise Le Bris : Mr. Simmon… Earnest Simmon : Earnest. Louise Le Bris : Earnest… Je partage vos sentiments. Nos rendez-vous sont le point culminant de ma semaine. Avec vous, j’ai enfin l’impression d’être vraiment vue. J’accepte de vous épouser, pour de vrai.

[saturn-shifting]

☽ Intro Post ☾

･ﾟ⋆:･ﾟ⋆ ☽ about me ☾ ⋆･ﾟ:⋆･ﾟ

☽ I go by ghost or saturn

☽ my pronouns are he/him and it/its

☽ I'm an adult

☽ I'm always down to talk about my DRs, just ask!

☽ I started my shifting journey October 2021 and shifted for the first time in November 2023!

☽ I learned pretty much everything I know from r/shiftingrealities, so I would say if you're new, start there!

☽ I'm a permashifter

･ﾟ⋆:･ﾟ⋆ ☽ DNI and BYF ☾ ⋆･ﾟ:⋆･ﾟ

☽ DNI: sw/terfs, exclus, transmed, radfems, tradfems, discourse blogs, anti-shifters

☽ This is a side blog, I interact from @meet-me-on-saturn

☽ Feel free to ask me about my DRs or shifting in general, I'm pretty knowledgeable!

･ﾟ⋆:･ﾟ⋆ ☽ my DRs ☾ ⋆･ﾟ:⋆･ﾟ

☽ Improved CR; main DR and where I'm permashifting to

☽ Streamer DR; the first DR I made

☽ Twilight DR; the series that got me into shifting

☽ The Quarry DR; probably the first DR I'll go to after I permashift

☽ Waiting Room; basically my shifting HQ

☽ Roswell NM DR; the cw show

☽ Apex Legends DR

☽ Arcane DR

☽ TVDU DR

☽ Band DR

☽ Wild West DR

☽ Dog Sledding DR

☽ Spiderverse DR

☽ Cyberpunk DR; the aesthetic, not the game

[build-a-stim]

Hello! Welcome to our blog! 🧸🌈

about, rules, and dni

About:

We are the snowdrift system! We run a variety of stimblogs, many of which are for specific special interests we have, such as @stimmy--cryptid, @hermitcraft--stims, @snowdin-stims, @cure-sensory, and @voca-stims!

You can call us snowdrift, and we collectively use he/they/it/bun pronouns!

This blog will be run by a variety of people in our system. Not gonna list out our mods here since its a long list lol, but if you're curious about anyone's pronouns, a lot of us are listed on our main, or feel free to ask!

Rules:

This blog in particular is a build a bear centered stimblog! Any and all build a bears are free to request, as well as other build a bear merch if you want a stimboard for a specific outfit/sound/scent etc.

Please don't request non build a bears! For those, go to @ stimmy--cryptid.

Please don't request anything with water slime, chalk, or medical needles/medical supplies!

Please only send one request in a time and one per ask </3

DNI:

Standard criteria: racist, sexist, ableist, (no)map, antisemetic (including supporting antisemetic crestors like jk rowling or p-wdiepie), proship

Transphobic: terf/swerf/radfem/gender critical, trumed, anti neopronouns, anti nonbinary, anti mogai, "nonbinary skeptic"

Anti-lgbtq: exclus, anti mspec, lesbophobic/aphobic/panphobic/homophobic/biphobic

18+: nsfw/kink, gore, ddlg/variants (blogs who are 18+ so minors dni but dont fit into any nsfw category can interact, we are an adult)

Anti recovery: proana/thinspo, include a cw (current weight)/gw (goal weight) anywhere on your blog, pro sh, post sh, use sh/ed's/drug use as an aesthetic

Other: tiktok stim accounts, repost gifs without credit, looking to upload our content off of tumblr and/or without crediting (mainly applies to photos/videos we took of us/our things), vent blogs

[illusion-master-gus]

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about + dni

about:

my name is gus! im a fictive of gus porter from the owl house in the snowdrift system. im a syskid (middle) also :>

sourcemates feel free to interact! im always down to talk about memories and such. hunter and willow please interact :> (/p)

our collective blog is @snowdrift-s! wr are bodily 19

DNI:

nsfw/gore/kink/18+/ddlg

terf/swerf/radfem/transmed/anti mogai/anti nonbinary/gender critical/anti neopronouns/exclus

proana/thinspo/include a cw or gw anywhere on your blog/pro sh/post sh (even if its "just for you")

proship/comship and/or ship gus x any of the hexsquad

believe in "narcissistic abuse" or "bpd abuse"/use the terms "psychotic" "psychopath" or "sociopath" to refer to evil people

[crescairis]

hi, i genuinely don't understand how a lesbian person can be attracted to men? like i really don't get "pan lesbian"/"bi lesbian"/etc... im an AFAB, transmasc NB lesbian myself but i am, for all intents and purposes, exclusively attracted to women.

i thought the term "lesbian" meant "any non-man exclusively attracted to women/fem-aligned people"

please explain? this is not hate or anything, this is a genuine question!

hi there! thanks for your good faith questions! :] this is gonna be a long one, so buckle up

the simple answer is that queer identity is never as simple as A + B = C. people can be multigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, Literally Just Butch, etc... it puts a wrench in very simple descriptions like that. there's gotta be some wiggle room for labels to work—and even then, it's entirely against the idea of queer liberation to let anyone but yourself define your connection to a label. as the saying goes, "not gay as in happy, but queer as in fuck you". (not directed at you, ofc :) /lh)

plus, the "non-men" definition kinda...inherently misgenders people who aren't men but aren't lesbians either. i know people who aren't men and would frankly bite anyone who tried to call them a lesbian for the sole sake of them liking women. a label based on exclusion is always going to run into road bumps like that.

but, if you want a more historical answer...

basically, the definition of lesbian has changed a lot over time. for a while in the 20th century, lesbian basically just meant "woman attracted to women", or even just "women who sleeps with women", regardless of how they felt about men.

the idea of lesbianism inherently not including men only really came around with the advent of lesbian separatism in the 1970s:

"In essence, lesbian feminists tried to untie lesbianism from sex so heterosexual feminists were more comfortable. ... Lesbian feminists responded by distancing themselves from stereotypes of “masculine roles,” maleness, and patriarchy. One way they were able to do so was by disentangling lesbian sexuality from heterosexuality and re-conceptualizing heterosexual sex as consorting with “the enemy”. ... They were then able to draw a distinction between lesbian sex and heterosexual sex, claiming that lesbian sex was “pure as snow” since it did not involve men." ���Yamissette Westerband, "Lesbians in the Twentieth Century, 1900-1999"

this was coupled together with political lesbianism, and putting this all together, you got a doctrine that followed as such:

lesbianism was a conscious, feminist, and correct choice. (political lesbianism)

any relations with men were considered traitorship towards women and compliance with the patriarchy. (lesbian separatism)

this meant that bisexual women were considered traitors to their sisters. (biphobia babey!!)

this, at its core, was the belief of radical feminists—and it certainly wasn't something that was met with full agreement. while there were many lesbians who scorned any physicality with men, there were just as many lesbians who refused the idea that to be a lesbian, one must completely remove men from their lives.

there are accounts of bisexual women who saw their lesbian identity as a political stance alongside their bisexuality, or even the other way around. [there's a few here!] the phrase "lesbian-identified bisexual" comes up a lot in the literature spanning from the 1970s-1990s.

here's a couple select quotes from the page i linked:

"[Betty Aubut]: ... I never used to identify as lesbian out of respect for women who made the lifelong choice never to sleep with men, but then I realized that was a lot of bullshit. Calling yourself lesbian does not necessarily mean you have made that lifelong decision. Now I mostly identify as a lesbian–so I call myself a bisexual lesbian." —Robyn Ochs, “Bi of the Month: Betty Aubut,” Bi Women Vol. 5, No. 2, April-May, 1987]

"10 years ago when I left my husband and full-time role of motherhood, it didn’t make me less conscious of what being a mother means. In fact, it gave me a deeper understanding. I am still a mother. That experience cannot be taken away from me. In much the same way, my lesbian awareness isn’t lost now that I claim my bisexuality. When I realized my woman-loving-woman feelings, and came out as a lesbian, I had no heterosexual privilege; yet there were important males in my life, including a son. I am bisexual because it’s real for me, not in order to acquire or flaunt the privilege that is inherent in being with men. My political consciousness is lesbian but my lifestyle is bisexual. If I keep myself quiet for another’s sense of pride and liberation, it is at the cost of my own which isn’t healthy–emotionally, politically or medically. Not only is it unhealthy, it’s ineffective." —Lani Kaahumanu, “Bisexuality & Discrimination,” BBWN Vol. 3, No. 6, Dec 1985-Jan 1986; Reprinted from the 1985 Gay Pride March magazine, San Francisco

regardless of what anyone thought, this was still an opinion that stretched forward into the modern day, though it feels that a lot of exclusionists have all but forgotten it was the belief of radical feminists—or even accepted it, becoming modern radfems all on their own.

there's actually a huge radfem population on tumblr, and has been since tumblr's inception—and that's a big part of why this belief system was able to push its way into the wider queer community. with such a lack of queer elders coming out of the AIDs crisis, queer teens on the web didn't really have very many ways to learn about queer history—especially with bigoted parents around, leaning over their shoulders.

thus, radfems were given a perfect opportunity to deliver their verdict, and these queer teens just...didn't know better. i'd go so far as to say that i've seen radfems and exclusionists alike scorn their queer predecessors, claiming that, in nicer words, "being older doesn't mean you're right". it sucks a lot.

in general, a lot of the hatred comes down to the views of radical feminists. that men and masculinity are inherently evil, that to have relationships with men is a betrayal to one's sisters...when really, there's a lot of men who don't benefit from the patriarchy at all. if the patriarchy were some magical force that protected all men, we wouldn't get cishet men being called f or t slurs for showing emotion. men wouldn't be constantly doubted every time they admitted that they'd faced abuse from women.

instead, the patriarchy only rewards complete compliance and gender essentialism. to be viewed as a good man under the patriarchy, there can't be a whiff of femininity on you. likewise, to be a good woman, you can't be masculine in the slightest. (this is a big part of why things such as stay at home husbands and working wives are seen as such a "horrific" phenomenon. it's also the basis of—you guessed it—homophobia!)

it doesn't just tie into gender; in fact, it's very much tied to white supremacy as well. to quote gerald torres, in his book "Understanding Patriarchy As an Expression of Whiteness: Insights from the Chicana Movement" (which i highly suggest you read, as i can only say so much on the subject, being white myself):

"Whiteness has a gender. The history of American racial thought held that to be white was to possess certain superior characteristics that on closer inspection turned out to be as gendered as they were racial. Though the content of the construction of race and gender changed over time, the gendered nature of whiteness, and of race in general, remained constant. Whether attempting to claim white privilege for themselves or positioning themselves in opposition to that privilege, America’s racial and ethnic minorities have historically defined and redefined themselves in relation to the core characteristics of whiteness. To be white was to be civilized, rational, moral and in command of one’s emotions. Of course, these are also gendered characteristics. The absence of these characteristics was stereotyped as definitive of lesser races, and was sometimes even characterized as such by the occupants of those classes."

to double back to radical feminism, this actually also ties into a lot of queer issues that people feel much less vicious about; transmascs are seen as traitors by radfems as well, abandoning their womanhood to join "the side of the oppressors", or even that, by being men, they automatically have all of the same privileges that cishet men do, completely ignoring the fact that a LOT of transmascs don't ever get to access the male privilege that radfems believe they have by nature of being men. (gnc transmascs, those who don't or can't pass, etc)

the same goes for the trend of mlm positivity posts being hijacked by women who feel the need to complain about how "ugly" and "gross" men are, or that people with male partners should "dump them and get a girlfriend instead".

this lateral attack on queer people all comes down to the idea that "it's okay because men are the ultimate oppressors", yet another idea that both benefits radfems by implying that, because they're women, they're the ultimate oppressed party, while also ignoring the fact that, by nature of many of them being white, or cis, or dyadic, or allo, they still have power over those who are people of color, or trans, or intersex, or aspec.

all in all, this isn't to say that you have to like men as a lesbian. you don't! you yourself can define your lesbianism as completely absent of men, and no one can stop you from doing that. in fact, i would defend your right to do that just as much as i defend bi lesbians.

the problem is when people try to define everyone's lesbianism by their own personal definition, and/or they decide that to like men as a lesbian (or at all) is some irrevocable sin. it's ahistorical, it enforces gold star lesbianism, which is already a lesbophobic concept, and it completely contradicts the idea of queer liberation and autonomy.

and to any radfems and exclus who decide they're gonna send me some mean messages after reading this: hi <3 anon is off. show me your pretty urls so i can block you.