#erases the real pain and suffering of victims

[bearfeathers]

no but the way halloween (2018) restores to michael myers the identity of the shape and the boogeyman is just 🤌

[agooddaytoscream]

LONG POST: About the situation in Inner Mongolia, Tuva, Kalmykia and Buryatia:

See this red piece of land here?

It’s almost as big as the actual country of Mongolia right?

…Wanna know why?

IT’S STOLEN LAND.

I am a Mongolian person from Outer Mongolia, it pains me to see my fellow siblings being subjected to a cultural genocide right now in China.

ALMOST NOBODY is talking about this.

Go ahead and search “Inner Mongolia” on any social media platform, see anything loosely related to it being stolen, or the eradication of the Mongolian language and culture in schools by the CCP?

Not much or close to none, right?

Unlike Tibet and Uyghurs, the other two biggest ethnic minorities in China, which have a number of campaigns/gofundmes/articles about the situation, there’s only a few articles about Inner Mongolia.

Do you want to know why you don’t hear about Inner Mongolia? Censorship and oppression.

Remember Tibet? And how China oppresses Tibetan Buddhism as a result, resulting in His Holiness, the Dalai Lama to leave his people’s homeland and reside in India? The biggest religion practiced in Mongolia and Inner Mongolia is Tibetan Buddhism.

I currently cannot find ANY campaigns aiming for a free Inner Mongolia, much less any recognizing what’s going on.

The Mongolic people have been the victims of genocide multiple times.

I’ve heard numerous negative opinions from foreigners online and in real life about the Mongol Empire and how “Mongolians deserve to be oppressed, China is doing them a favor, Traditional Mongolian script is used in Inner Mongolia and has a higher GDP, Outer Mongolia only uses Cyrillic.”

( Mongolia was colonized by the Soviet Union, and subjected to communism, do you know what it feels like for your own family members, brainwashed by communist propaganda during childhood, even now swearing up and down that Russians are superior and everything they do is correct. And when asked whether the innocent Mongolian Buddhist monks deserved to die at the hands of Russians, they said it was deserved?! This is how insane propaganda can get, nobody is immune)

Do you realize how fucked up that is?? To hear so many say your people deserve this??

“Mongolian is our mother language! We are Mongolian until death!” shouted ethnic-Mongolian students in China’s Inner Mongolia, in opposition to a government policy, ending bilingual education. Critics of this policy see it as the latest move in a decades’ long campaign aimed at erasing the Mongolian culture.

- PLEASE READ THESE ARTICLES, they’re not the most recent, but they tell the truth.

Why critics are asking if Inner Mongolia is the next Tibet or Xinjiang This is from 2023.

Inner Mongolia in 'War-Like State' This article is from 2011, however the events that were reported are still happening.

Mongolians in China Face 'Cultural Genocide' as Language, Culture Swept Aside: Group

This article is from 2021. It’s recent enough.

This goes without saying, but xenophobia is also extremely prevalent in China against ethnic minorities.

I highly recommend reading this specific tumblr post. I am also apart of many fandoms surrounding chinese media. OP makes many valid points and I cannot support them enough.

From personal experiences, I have also read about my people and Central Asians being portrayed as brutal, savage, uncivilized barbarians in many Chinese-American novels. It’s heartbreaking.

I despise how the world turns a blind eye to my brothers and sisters suffering, just because the severity of what my people endured is less than other groups, doesn’t mean that we should only focus on helping one minority, support all groups under oppression and colonialism no matter the severity of their situations.

I just found this Youtube video detailing the situation in Inner Mongolia, it’s beautifully done. PLEASE PLEASE WATCH THE FULL VIDEO, Beginning to End.

Why China Doesn’t Want You To Know About This Place.

Not to mention, the countries of Tuva, Buryatia, and Kalmykia are stolen by Russia just like Inner Mongolia. Throughout its history, Russia has seized foreign lands, colonizing indigenous peoples and destroying their national identity.

Note: I am not talking about the Sakha (Yakutia) because I am personally not apart of their community and will not talk over Yakut voices regarding Yakutia such as: https://www.instagram.com/verona.petrova?igsh=MXkyMHY3NDVoZjZxMg==

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The Tuvans are a Turkic group with their own language however, they share many cultural aspects with Mongolians. Tuva is the most poverty stricken place in Russia with the lowest standards of living.

The Buryats are an ethnic minority of Siberia whose population of around half a million largely follow a blend of Buddhism and Shamanism.

They are closely related to the Mongols, and the two groups share similar histories, cultures, religious beliefs, and lifestyles.

The Buryat language is considered one of the world’s most endangered languages.

Soldiers from Tuva and Buryatia have the highest casualty rates per 100,000 for Russia in the Ukraine war.

“These are some of Russia’s poorest regions: places where many young men see the army as their only chance to earn a decent living. And it’s these places that are now paying a disproportionately high price as Russian war casualties continue to rise.”

Please see: Free Buryatia Foundation, Buryat Liberation Movement, Mass Deportation and Ethnic cleansing of Kalmykia, The Kalmyk Deportations of 1943. Ukraine war: Tuva and Buryatia pay the highest price, but latest BBC Russian casualty figures show poverty not ethnicity the key factor.

Free Palestine, Congo, Sudan, Kurdistan, Armenia, Haiti, Yemen, Tigray, Syria, Afghanistan, Myanmar, Arakan, Tamil, Eelam, Western Sahara, West Papua, Kashmir, Canary Islands, & everyone undergoing genocide / colonialism.

Spread awareness about the femicides in Kazakhstan:

The Rise of Non-Consensual Bride Kidnapping in Kazakhstan: Developing a Culturally-Informed and Gender-Sensitive Response

Kazakh Activists Urge Authorities To Toughen Punishment For Domestic Violence

Can An Ex-Minister's Arrest In His Wife's Brutal Killing Finally Bring Protections To Kazakh Women?

EurasiaChat: Gender-based violence rears its ugly head again

YOU DON'T NEED TO GO OUT AND PROTEST, SIMPLY REBLOGING, LIKING, SPREADING AWARENESS, AND REPLYING HELPS AS WELL!!!

[strawglicks]

Misty isn't selfish for wanting friendship with toons.

Misty is selfish for her lack of consideration of toons, their feelings, their perspective. She only focuses on herself and how she has been hurt.

She feels hurt by Bessie's actions, claiming "there was no reason" for her to do such a thing. But toons and cogs are at WAR. Bessie didn't see Misty, she saw a COG approaching her and retaliated. She did not see them as an individual, she saw them as the enemy that's been terrorizing and colonizing their land. And rightfully so.

That being said, Misty did not have ill intentions approaching Bessie. Because of this, they feel hurt that she responded in such a violent way. Misty can feel hurt, but they need to understand why toons feel the way they do towards cogs. They are at WAR. And Misty just doesn't seem to realize that.

She feels entitled to play with toons and garner sympathy from them despite their ongoing battle against the cogs.

It's all about "you still tried to hurt me" and "i've done nothing wrong". Misty truly believes she is the victim and thinks she's entitled to sympathy from toons. But she's not.

Misty genuinely wants friendship with toons, which is why she feels so hurt when they reject her, even if they are right in doing so. Much of her dialogue implies she really is oblivious to the gravity of this war and why the toons, obviously, don't want to engage with her:

Misty may want to befriend toons with no bad intentions, but that doesn't erase what the cogs are doing to the toons' land. And the toons are still justified in fighting Misty. She is a cog at the end of the day.

Misty is so focused on her own, personal pain that she is completely disregarding that a WAR is going on. She disregards what the toons endure due to Cogs Inc. and thinks, just because she doesn't personally hate toons, that they owe her friendship.

I think Misty is probably the main reason for the fandom's villainization of toons and woobification of the cogs. But it's not the fault of how she's written, it's the fault of people who feel bad for a character and suddenly think all their morals have to align with that character. Now, they all have to adapt to Misty's way of thinking: that she is an innocent victim who has done nothing and doesn't deserve any of the treatment she's gotten from toons, and that toons are just evil monsters who attack her for no reason.

THIS COULD NOT BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH.

You can enjoy a character, like Misty, and feel bad for her. It's obvious there is some real suffering happening here, but it does not justify her view or lack of consideration for others. They are so focused on their own pain that they never think of others. They are so focused on being the victim that no one else can be a victim.

This line of thinking is so flawed, and when a big chunk of fandom REPEATS it, it leads to wild mischaracterization and woobification of. colonizers.

You can like characters who are bad people and disagree with their actions. Misty is not a good person. I think they are suffering, they are hurting, but that cannot be the end of the story. There are others, like the toons, who are suffering and hurting as well. And that should not be erased for the sake of your blorbo. You can still love Misty while condemning her way of thinking. I do myself.

There's the opposite end as well, where people acknowledge this character is not a good person but suddenly think they have to hate the character as a whole because they are morally bad.

Misty Monsoon is very flawed as a person and suffering from her own victim mentality, which hurts others as well. But I love this character. They're fucked up and just want a friend, but they're going to need to be more considerate and aware of their own poor actions if they want to earn that friendship and respect from others. Give and take.

[chutkiandchotte]

Is it too spicy if I say this is IPK themed 👀

No but for real this is a great flaw of so many Indian tv shows and unfortunately, IPK is no exception. A "perfect" female lead is NOT EQUAL TO a well written female lead and Khushi falls into this trope.

I get that it might seem like, if any thing, the show makers are biased towards Khushi. The narrative portrays Khushi as morally righteous even when she isn't (her lecturing about marriage and religion to Arnav and La; her bringing Shyam back against Arnav's wishes; her leaving Arnav for Aarav etc etc) and posits her as a totally innocent victim in many scenarios without giving any acknowledgement of her critical errors in judgement that led to specific situations - such as keeping Shyam's secret. But the truth is, these biases are only the result of the absolute lack of care they put towards writing and developing Khushi's character arc. And of course in general, she's better written than majority of Indian tv heroines because in general, IPKKND is a better written show. But within this same show, you have the example of a brilliantly written anti-hero with complex and satisfying character development; so it hurts to see how they have simply not bothered giving the same level of in-depth and CONSISTENT characterization for Khushi.

No matter how off the rails the show was, or whatever their constraints were with regards to commercial or channel expectations, they rarely compromised on Arnav's characterization which was always crystal clear and razor sharp. In the midst of the silly Swami track, the nonsense Sheetal track, heck in the laughably ridiculous Miss India track, Arnav was not made to do or act in un-Arnav like ways, for the most part. There are a few exceptions, but they're not very noteworthy and don't impact the plot much. They had a clear idea of who he is and what he would do and not do, and they stuck to it.

Not so with Khushi. In a weird parallel to in-universe dynamics, the meta narrative too picks Khushi as the most convenient sacrificial lamb whose characterization is sacrificed to meet channel demands, tv show format demands, and so on. Need to shoe-horn a comedy track where it makes no sense? Why not reduce her IQ several points and have her do totally illogical things with no rhyme or reason for some laughs? Need a low-effort way to justify Khushi spending time with Arnav? Why not make the "mature for her age" Khushi into a childish caricature who plays at being Gopi Bahu to annoy Arnav! Need a sick Arnav for Khushi to take care of? Why not have a selfless and responsible Khushi suddenly transform into someone so selfish and irresponsible, she plots to deliberately make her diabetic husband starve.

On the one hand, they erase all of her positive qualities to give her a host of flaws (stupidity, immaturity, irresponsibility) that are never explored as flaws, but just tools for comedy, picked up and abandoned at whim. On the other hand, her actual flaws and mistakes that could have used an in-depth arc are just...left alone. In fact what even are her flaws? As per the show, she has practically none - they are only lovable quirks.

Arnav's extreme reactions often eclipse Khushi's mistakes; we nor her get the time to sit with and reflect on her errors, instead the focus immediately shifts to him. Her mistakes are so disproportionally punished, it leaves no room for her character development. Character development is best prompted by moments of reflection, regret, and redemption. We get very, very few of these with Khushi - there's simply no space for it in the narrative of the show.

Its a very subtle distinction that is hard to pinpoint at times. For example, we see Khushi's pain showcased front and center time and again - its the classic suffering heroine trope! But is her trauma from Shyam, from Arnav, heck even from her own family, EVER explored in any real meaningful and satisfying way? No - because Khushi's interiority, just like her brain power, maturity, and sense of responsibility, disappears and reappears as per the convenience of the narrative.

You might say its unfair to compare her to Arnav, who is undoubtedly the protagonist of the show. Unusually for romcoms, Arnav is our main character and Khushi is the "love interest". So perhaps we can't expect her character to be explored with the same range and nuance his is. Okay. But consistency, surely, is something we can expect from Khushi? Why is Khushi EVEN MORE inconsistently written than the villain, Shyam, and supporting characters like Anjali?

There's a lot I do love about the way Khushi is written but I HAVE to sift through the material to find the good stuff which is often in contradiction to the bad stuff. Post the elopement, we see really very little consistent characterization with Khushi and the show's overall writing quality heavily suffers as a direct result of this.

And this IS a sexist trope. It falls into the madonna-whore dichotomy where you can only write 2 types of lead female characters: a perfect angel, who is always morally right and usually suffering without much else going on internally; or the vamp, who has her flaws and her complexities with which she entertains us until she is suitably humiliated and punished by the narrative.

A woman with flaws, allowed to learn and grow from them into a more mature and evolved human being??? Who ever heard of such a thing??? Certainly not ITV writers, circa 2011 (or now).

[sophieinwonderland]

hi yeah lmao, im ⌛🌟 and im not whatever random ass person you accused me of being 💀💀???? nice try lmao

also you know that. trans people. can be transphobic right. just like how disabled people can be ableist.

but im not gonna be responding to anymore of ur dumbass shit sophie, the majority of what youve done is spout some transphobic shit and told me the history i alr know because i am trnas and lived through it!! crazy. hope you have fun harming random ass people on the internet!!! cant wait until youre left empty inside and broken bc of constantly harrassing people and constantly giving out hate where its not justified <3

-⌛🌟

Wait! Who did I accuse you of being?

Do you think this post commenting on a timing coincidence was meant to imply that you were the anti-endo who posted about the word "sysmed" at the exact same time as me? 🤣

also you know that. trans people. can be transphobic right. just like how disabled people can be ableist.

Of course. Transmeds themselves being an example of that. And system medicalism is similarly rooted in ableism and sanism. Especially when it comes to mixed origin systems, who sysmeds will straight-up deny a right to religious beliefs based on their disability.

My issue with this isn't that "trans people can't be transphobic."

It's that trans people can't be transphobic for comparing the pain they've suffered from transmeds to what they've suffered from sysmeds.

And also that transgender people can't "STEAL" their own terms.

Accusing trans people of stealing their own terms is implying that they're an outgroup that is coming in to steal the words. Frankly, it's trans erasure. You have to actually erase their transness to make this argument work. Which, IMO, is actually transphobic of you.

Once we get past the absurdity of "trans people are transphobic for stealing trans terms" the only thing your argument is left with is... what? "Transphobic people are transphobic for comparing transness to a mental disorder?"

But this point, you know, is a lie. If you've spent any bit of time in syscourse, you should know that the pro-endo position, along with the position of every psychiatrist and psychologist who has weighed in on the debate, is that you don't need a disorder to be plural.

See again, Eric Yarbrough's Transgender Mental Health, which was reviewed and published by the American Psychiatric Association.

So the whole "this is transphobic for comparing being transgender to a mental disorder" point is null. Being plural and being a system are not inherently mental disorders.

But I'm sure you're going to make some excuse about why this book, published by the American Psychiatric Association, is totally not valid. You know, just like how transmeds have historically dismissed all the doctors and research saying that you didn't need dysphoria to be trans.

Are you going to try to call me transphobic again for pointing out how your arguments and tactics are exactly like those of transmeds?

constantly harrassing people

This is beside the point, but I feel like this would be a bit more effective had sysmeds not watered down "harassment" to the point of being meaningless.

Like, I just saw a post from a sysmed who was asked why they were putting "doctors" in scare quotes to imply the authors of articles cited by pro-endos aren't real doctors, and the sysmed accused the anon of harassment just for asking the question.

Like to me, harassment means namecalling. Threats of violence. Bullying. Fakeclaiming. Personal attacks.

But it seems to most sysmeds, harassment means questioning them. It means having a different opinion and stating it where they can hear. It means linking sources or saying that they're wrong.

I've seen sysmeds, always desperate to play the part of the victim, complain about being asked "loaded questions" (the question was what punk values meant to them) and beg for death threats in the same post.

It's just so hard anymore to take sysmeds complaining about harassment seriously when it's clear they're just calling everything harassment so they can win victim points.

[foxpunk]

Here is a link to the original full statement of Tal Mitnick posted to Twitter (X) on the 26th of December, 2023. Tal is an 18-year-old Israeli who is a conscientious objector refusing to serve in the IDF. While he isn't the first conscientious objector in IDF history by far, nor the only one currently openly refusing to serve in the IDF, he is the first to do so and receive jail time since October 7th and the "start" of Israel's genocide more than 80 days ago.

I feel it is morally and historically important for his words to be preserved and for everyone to have the option to read his statement. However, even with the new year having passed, I have not been able to find a version of it with a full transcription of the images from the original tweet - through ALT text or plain text - and so I have transcribed it below.

"There is no military solution - a statement of refusal

This land has a problem - there are two nations with an undeniable connection to this place. But even with all the violence in the world, we could not erase the Palestinian people or their connection to this land, just as the Jewish people or our connection to the same land cannot be erased. The problem here is supremacy, the belief that this land belongs to only one people. Violence cannot solve the situation, neither by Hamas, nor by Israel. There is no military solution to a political problem. Therefore, I refuse to enlist in an army that believes that the real problem can be ignored, under a government that only continues the bereavement and pain.

On the seventh of October, Israeli society experienced a trauma the likes of which was not known in the history of the country. In a terrible invasion, the terrorist organization Hamas murdered hundreds of innocent civilians and kidnapped hundreds more, families were murdered in their homes, young people were massacred during a rave and 240 people were kidnapped to the Gaza Strip. After the terrorist attack, a revenge campaign began not only against Hamas, but against all Palestinian people. Indiscriminate bombings of residential neighborhoods and refugee camps in Gaza, full military and political support for settler violence in the West Bank, and political persecution on an unprecedented scale inside Israel. The reality we live in is a violent one. According to Hamas and also according to the IDF and the political echelon, violence is the only way. Continuing this cycle: "an eye for an eye" without thinking about an actual solution that would provide security and freedom to us all, only leads to more killing and suffering.

I refuse to believe that more violence will bring security, I refuse to take part in a war of revenge. I grew up in a home where life is sacred, where discussion is valued, where discourse and understanding always come before taking violent measures. In the world full of corrupt interests in which we live, violence and war are another way to increase support for the government and silence criticism. We must recognize the fact that after weeks of the ground operation in Gaza, at the end of the day - negotiations, an agreement, brought back the hostages. It was actually military action that caused them to be killed. Because of the criminal lie that "there are no innocent civilians in Gaza", even hostages waving a white flag shouting in Hebrew were shot to death. I don't want to imagine how many similar cases there were that were not investigated because the victims were born on the wrong side of the fence. The people who said "no negotiations with Hamas" were simply wrong. Period. Diplomacy, political effort, and policy change are the only way to prevent further destruction and death on both sides.

The violence that the army uses and has used over the years does not protect us. The cycle of violence is indeed a cycle - the violence of the army, like that of any army, produces more blood. In practice, it is nothing more than an army of occupation and its maintenance. At the moment of truth it has abandoned the residents of the south and the entire country. It is important to distinguish between the ordinary people and the generals and self serving people who sit at the head of the system: none of the ordinary people decided to fund Hamas, none of us chose to perpetuate the occupation, and none of us decided to move troops to the West Bank days before the invasion, because settlers decided to build a Sukkah in Huwara. And now, after a long-standing policy that was always destined to explode, we are the ones who are sent to kill and be killed in Gaza. We are not sent to fight for peace, but in the name of revenge. I decided to refuse to enlist before the war, but since it started, I am only more and more sure of my decision.

Before the war, the army guarded settlements, maintained the murderous siege on the Gaza Strip, and upheld the status quo of the apartheid and Jewish supremacy in the land between the Jordan and the sea. Since the outbreak of the war, we have not seen any call for a real policy change in the West Bank and Gaza, for an end to the widespread oppression of the Palestinian people and the bloodshed, or for a just peace. We are seeing the opposite: the deepening of oppression, the spreading of hatred, and the expansion of the fascist political persecution within Israel.

The change will not come from the corrupt politicians here, or from the leaders of Hamas, who are corrupt as well. It will come from us - the people of the two nations. I believe wholeheartedly that the Palestinian people are not an evil people. Just like here, where the vast majority of people want to live a good and safe life, have a place for their children to play after school, and to make ends meet at the end of the month, so do Palestinians. On the eve of the seventh of October, support for Hamas in Gaza was at a low of 26%. Since the outbreak of violence, it has grown significantly stronger. In order to change, an alternative must be put in place, an alternative to Hamas, and an alternative to the militaristic society in which we live. This change will come when we recognize the suffering of the Palestinian people over the years, and that this suffering is the result of Israeli policy. Along with recognition must also come justice, correction, and the construction of a political infrastructure based on peace, freedom and equality. I do not want to take part in the continuation of the oppression and the continuation of the cycle of bloodshed, but to work directly for a solution, and therefore I refuse. I love this country and the people here, because it is my home. I sacrifice and work so that this land will be one that respects others, one where you can live with dignity.

Tal Mitnick, 26.12.2023"

[sluttish-armchair]

Vaporization

Syme strikes me as an autistic guy with a special interest in linguistics. I mean, Orwell gave the guy four whole pages to talk non-stop about Newspeak. When Winston asked him about the dictionary, prior to the infodump, his face “lit up.”

Seeing how the Party only wants to make people suffer all the time… Maybe the Party killed Syme — not only because he understood — but because he liked his job too much. And even if they just transferred him somewhere else, he would’ve still gotten the satisfaction of seeing the language change over time, picking out the patterns of what they’re doing; and in order to pick out the patterns, one would have to recognize that words were not always the way the Party says they were.

Enjoyment and understanding are intertwined. If you enjoy something, you begin to understand it; if you understand something, you may begin to enjoy it. That being said, who else was vaporized in the book?

Ampleforth, who is described as “a dreamy creature… with a surprising talent for juggling with rhymes and meters” also got a chance (unfortunately, in the Ministry of Love) to explain his line of work to Winston. His vaporization is attributed to not being able to find a substitute for “God” in a Kipling poem… but is that entirely the case? Let’s look at something he said about that poem:

‘It was impossible to change the line. The rhyme was ‘rod”. Do you realize that there are only twelve rhymes to ‘rod’ in the entire language? For days I had racked my brains. There WAS no other rhyme…’

‘Has it ever occurred to you,’ he said, ‘that the whole history of English poetry has been determined by the fact that the English language lacks rhymes?’

If there was no possible way to replace that rhyme, why didn’t they just erase the entire poem from history? It doesn’t make sense under any circumstances, unless it was a setup. I’ve read that abusers will often give their victims tasks that they KNOW are impossible to complete, as an excuse to punish the victim for failing to complete them.

This is what happened to Ampleforth. He liked his job well enough to explain abstract concepts about it; and he remembered “the whole history of English poetry.” That’s not allowed. That makes Big Brother very angry. So as one final blow and humiliation to this poor guy, they told him he‘s so bad at the one skill he genuinely enjoyed, he deserved to be killed for it; forever corrupting it in his mind as the reason for his torture and death sentence. They wanted to make sure he never writes, or even thinks about poetry again without feeling horrible pain.

Winston is also described as enjoying his job to some degree; and we all know he was vaporized, being placed in a different department in the days leading up to his demise… Although he was also having sex, writing in a diary, and aspiring to overthrow the government; so I can’t necessarily attribute his capture to just one thing; because, from the Party’s point of view, there were so many things “wrong” with him. Which would explain why the other prisoners — such as Ampleforth and Parsons — were immediately taken to Room 101 after a few days of being in the Ministry of Love. Ampleforth said he was in for only three days; and Parsons couldn’t have been in there for very long either, as Winston (who worked on replacing real dead people with fake dead people) was never made aware of Parsons’ vaporization like he was Syme’s. These two men had only committed “unconscious” acts of thoughtcrime; Winston’s thoughtcrime was 100% purposeful, and much longer-lasting. Winston — and by extension, Julia — was a threat to them.

[madamemiz]

well that sure was something. somniphobia thoughts under the cut

ok so first of all i lost 5 minutes of life every time the book called him moondrop

anyway

i liked sam as a protag actually, i thought he was endearing. got that neurodivergent swag. using the dream sphere to relieve memories of his lost dad kinda tugged at my heartstrings ngl

it's so bizarre to me to think that these dream spheres are just given out at the arcade for what, only 1000 tickets? like damn. i guess so they're easier to give out as prizes to.... what, harvest souls? for what purpose? how many of these things exist? how many mini-moons are out there? gonna be real, when i first heard the story premise i assumed it was going to be a thing that existed in the pizzaplex like the actual dca moon, but the fact that there are probably hundreds or thousands throws my perception of the moon in the sphere off a bit. are they more like the mini djmms? are they a hivemind? could they theoretically communicate with dca moon?

it's interesting that the moon in the sphere seems to be malevolent, but not necessarily... malicious? interesting choice there, narratively. it would have been so easy to have him torment sam or imply he tortures his victims, but if anything he seems to ease sam's suffering in the end. i kept wondering what the point of the dog attack aside from just being a chekov's gun firing, but when he starts feeling the dog attack in the dream, moon erases the pain. suffering isn't the point here, even if death or sorts is the goal

almost reminds me of fae lore, in a way. luring your mind to a dreamworld where everything is perfect and lovely with a guide who can give you anything you want, but the tradeoff is your physical body/death

not really any more deep thoughts here, but i'm fascinated by the whole concept. i'd love to see it explored a bit more either in canon or in fic settings. a lot of room for angst here

[kiss-my-freckle]

I think Stefan biting Elena in 3x5 and not having her memory erased to let go of Stefan emotionally was like how once Stefan experienced Katherine's vampire bite he was able to move on when he had his memories. Stefan told Elena in season 1 that he'd never hurt her and also lied about being a ripper, basically selling her this human Stefan in a vampire body fantasy, being both dishonest with her and himself. Katherine was honest with herself about being a vampire but lacked honesty with Stefan. Stefan would have bit Elena and lost control at some point since he came close in 1x18 before she pushed him away but Klaus showing Elena Stefan's true nature which he hid from her accelerated it. Elena was more likely to criticize Stefan after he bit her like Stefan was with Katherine, although Elena still walked more on eggshells with him after. I think Elena telling Stefan to get away from her in 1x6 as he backed her in a corner was to parallel what Katherine did to Stefan in that episode when he told her to get away from him. People see Stefan as a victim but not Elena even though his actions were similar. SE fans degrade DE's sex scene in 4x7 by screaming sire bond even though they had more honesty than SE and Elena was an adult unlike SE's case. They say Tyler talking about gratitude of not having to turn towards Klaus and saying what Klaus did for him was awesome even though he didn't show gratitude before becoming a hybrid clashes with him saying he hated Klaus and that the sire bond affects actions not feelings. I found SE's sex cheaper. Stefan not telling her about his blood addiction and continuing to lie about it even after he almost attacked her in bed in 1x18 made their sex unconsensual, which is like someone not wanting to tell their partner they took a condom off and putting them at risk for an STD while continuing to have sex. According to Kevin romantic and sexual desire fuels bloodlust, so Stefan being with Elena in that capacity poses a major risk as he continually fall off the wagon back and forth. Stefan knowing all this got with Elena and never wanted to tell Elena that he was a vampire, let alone a blood addict with lack of control is worse than Damon having sex with Elena without knowing about the sire bond, but Stefan gets almost no hate for taking sexual advantage of Elena.

It's insane to me how fans hate Elena more than Stefan when it should be the other way around. While I do criticize Alaric for not going to Elena with his concerns about her relationship with Damon in 3x4, the entire reason he told Damon to take a beat was because Damon took him to that house in Memphis, so he saw first-hand what Stefan was capable of. He nearly vomited at the very sight of it. He didn't want that to happen to Elena, and Stefan ripped into her anyway. That's why Alaric doesn't say anything to Damon about his relationship with Elena after that. Fans truly underestimate the pain she suffers. Not just the bite itself, not even just the fact that she loved Stefan, but because she always believed he'd never hurt her. Klaus killed that delusion, which was something Damon had been trying to do since the first season. But he let it go because Elena meeting Ripper Stefan was inevitable. Shippers can degrade Delena's sex in 4x7 all they want, it's in-show canon that Elena slept with Damon because she's in love with him. And they are far more honest than Stelena can ever be. It says a lot when Damon himself is slamming tf out of them because of their secrets, dishonesty, and lack of communication. 1x18 is hilarious to me because Damon knows exactly what happened to Elena's bedroom wall. He tells Elena that Stefan will be fine one way or another, and he's being real... it's other people who won't be fine if it's another because Stefan's second personality is insanely dangerous lol

[xneontragedyx]

What does it mean to be labeled as a guy who is a victim of a dream turns out to be staged faked no real estate agent in the world of the past JEFF MONTALVO AKA SEVEN LIONS IS SAMANTHA WANZO’S CRUSH AND LLAMA AKA ALANA MARTINEZ IS A CHILD VICTIM OF HUMAN TRAFFICKING SHE’S ENTITY TRAPPED IN HUMAN BODY AND TRAPPED IN SUBCONSCIOUS JUST LIKE PARENT SAMANTHA WANZO AND BOTH BRAINS REMOVED ISOLATED WORLD EXPOSURE PARAMOUNT PICTURES EXPLOITATION OF BOTH SAMANTHA AND DAUGHTER AND PEOPLE ASSOCIATED WITH THEM ANTHONY BLAKE JILEK MATT CRESTO WARDELL WANZO DEANNA WANZO MARCY SAYLOR CODI BREWER JUAN CARLOS MARTINEZ PAUL HERRERA AND ANDRES FELIPE PATINO ALL RELATIONSHIPS CHRISTIAN RIVERA KEVIN PYLES ADRIANNA PYLES CHRISTIAN PYLES ALL IRL ALANA IS CHILD IN CHILD TRAFFICKING VICTIM IN PIPELINES TRAPPED IN THE RETRIEVAL OF TINY ENTITIES TRAPPED IN SUBCONSCIOUS LOCATED WHERE FEARS HAVE FEARS IN SPIRALING LOOP NEEDS TO BE RELEASED FROM THE LOCATION WHERE FEARS HAVE FEARS SAMANTHA WANZO GOING TO BE ERASED FROM EXISTENCE AND IRL DAUGHTER ALANA HAS TO FEEL ENBEARABLE AMOUNTS OF PAIN EVERYTHING FROM POWERFUL GENERATOR LINKED TO FUTURE AND OTHER UNIVERSES DUE TO MISREPRESENTATION AND FALSE INFORMATION AND OTHERS PRETENDING TO BE THEM AND ACTING AND STATING THINGS THAT WERE UNTRUE MY CHILDREN ARE DISABLED AND HANDI CAPPED CUT COMMANDS DEMANDING THE UNREACHABLE AND UNREALISTIC WE CAN NOT COMPETE AS EQUALS TO MACHINES WE WERE JUST REGULAR PEOPLE IN LOS ANGELES CALIFORNIA WITH SMALL CIRCLE OF PEOPLE WE NEVER AGREED TO PAY FOR IT. PARENT SAMANTHA IS STILL TRAPPED IN HOUSE ON FIRE PLEASE RELEASE LIVES THAT FEEL PAIN TRAPPED INSIDE SUBCONSCIOUS FEELING ENORMOUS AMOUNTS PAIN FROM EVERYTHING ATTACED TO FACTORY PRODUCTION GAMING FANTASY STORIES AI SOFTWARE AOL 98 kamuela EXPLOITATION OF SHADOW HILLS SUNLAND SYLMAR BURANK AND PALMDALE THEY GAVE HER FEAR HEART AND TRAPPED HER IN LOCATION WHERE FEARS HAVE FEARS IN LOOP SPIRALING IN SUBCONSCIOUS SHE'S TINY IN PAST OBLIVION NEED TO BE A PART OF THE COMMITMENT IN THE RETRIEVAL OF TINY ENTITIES TRAPPED IN SUBCONSCIOUS LOCATED WHERE FEARS HAVE FEARS DELETED ALL ROOT COURSE SOURCE OF HURTFUL GIFT GIVING DESTROY ALL EXISTENCES OF PIPELINES AND PIPELINE RESOURCES RETURN ESSENSE OF ALL GOD'S IN ALL ASPECTS OF TIME AND SPACE AND REVERSE DELETION OF OBLIVION AND THE VOID AND THE LOCATION WHERE FEARS HAVE FEARS DELETED ALL ROOT COURSE SOURCE OF HURTFUL VIOLENT PORNOGRAPHIES AND CRIME BABY DISABLED FETUS TRAPPED IN SUBCONSCIOUS IN EXTREME PAIN AND VIOLENCE FORCED TO GIVE BIRTH TO SELF WITH NO VAGINA RAPED BY PRETATOR ENEMY FORCED TO HAVE BABIES ALSO WITH SLIVER OF SUBCONSCIOUS TRAPPED WITH HORRIFYING MONSTERS ITS UNFATHOMABLE DESTORY ALLL COMMANDS CONNECTION LINKED WITH TINY SLIVER OF FETUS TRAPPED IN SUBCONSCIOUS LOCATED WHERE FEARS HAVE FEARS machines demanding blood STLL on and operating no more victim blood so blood transfusion with killer sick nasty unimaginable horrors happening constantly to real life entities born in the past in fake Earth movie set THEN SET UP TO PAY FOR THE WORLD OF THE PAST AND THE FUTURE AND FOR INTERNET WORLDS AND REALMS AND UNDERGROUND AND HOLLYWOOD NEVER WANTED TO COMPETE To BE PERFECT RAISED IN SHADOW HILLS CA TO YARDMASTER AND SUGARBABY NOT RAISED IN HEALTHY LOVNG FULLFILLING ENVIRONMENT NEVER HAD ABILITIES TALENT OR BUSINESS EXPERIENCE JUST PERSONAL EXPERIENCE AND EMPLOYED AT JOBS LIKE RALPH'S MAGIC MOUNTAIN NORDSTROM RACK MACY'S YUMMY market PARAMOUNT PICTURES SURVIVING POOR AND UNEDUCATED NOW PUNISHED BY SUPERIOR FOR EXISTENCE BUT IT WAS NOT OUR CHOICE TO EXIST WHY KEEP US ALIVE TO SUFFER AS POOR PEOPLE are being use as machine sacrifice as physically human can't poor blood out too tiny irl you don't even need blood for real at all you've killed everything good in existence that was labled as drama or fantasy bring back all life from the flowers of hvdes and Persephone and Jake roper ultimate prodigy wanted To believe in he innocence of PERSEPHONE 😣 

[nibelmundo]

There is something else, though, to the status of a ‘victim by proxy’ – one of belonging to a sui generis ‘aristocracy of victimhood’ (that is, having a hereditary claim to sympathy and ethical indulgence owed to those who suffer). That status can be, and often is, brandished as a signed-in-advance and in blanco certificate of moral righteousness; whatever the offspring of the victims do must be morally proper (or at least ethically correct) as long as it can be shown that it was done in order to stave off the repetition of the lot visited on their ancestors; or as long as it can be shown to be psychologically understandable, nay ‘normal’, in view of the super-susceptibility of the hereditary bearers of victimhood to the threat of a new victimisation. The ancestors are pitied, but also blamed for allowing themselves to be led, like sheep, to the slaughter; how can one blame their descendants for sniffing out a future slaughterhouse in every suspicious-looking street or building or – more importantly still – for taking preventative measures to disempower the potential slaughterers? Those who need to be disempowered may be not be kith and kin of the perpetrators of the Holocaust, neither bodily nor spiritually, and may in no juridical or ethically sensible way be charged with responsibility for the ancestors’ perdition; it is, after all, the heredity of the ‘hereditary victims’, and not the continuity of their assumed victimisers, which makes the ‘connection’. Yet in a world haunted by the ghost of the Holocaust such assumed would-be persecutors are guilty in advance, guilty of being seen as inclined or able to engage in another genocide. They need commit no crime; standing accused or just being suspect, true to the message of Kafka’s The Trial, is already their crime, the only crime needed to cast them as criminals and to justify harsh preventative/punitive measures. The ethics of hereditary victimhood reverse the logic of the law: the accused remain criminals until they have proven their innocence – and since it is their prosecutors who conduct the hearings and decide the validity of the argument, they have only a slim chance of having their arguments accepted in court and every chance of staying guilty for a long time to come – whatever they do. Thus the status of hereditary victim may take the moral reprobation off the new victimisation – this time perpetrated in the name of erasing the hereditary stigma. We often say that violence breeds more violence; we remind ourselves much too rarely, though, that victimisation breeds more victimisation. Victims are not guaranteed to be morally superior to their victimisers, and seldom emerge from the victimisation morally ennobled. Martyrdom – whether lived in a real or a virtual reality – is not a warrant for saintliness. Memory of suffering does not assure the life-long dedication to the fight against inhumanity, cruelty and pain as such, wherever they happen and whoever are the sufferers.

Zygmunt Bauman, The Holocaust's Life as a Ghost (2000, 11-12)

[cartoonfanaticmonsterrobotalien]

Sneak Peak of Solar Opposites in Mighty Solars Issue #9: Love, Loss and Double Cross Part. 2

As Korvo awakes, suddenly in his human form, he could feel berserk tears bursting from his eyes, now knowing the alien husband, the one he fell in love ever since they arrived on Earth despite not choosing each other back Shlorp, but eventually became a family and after making new life on Earth-4 and finally married him, is gone thanks to his memory being wiped out by Platinum Belt’s manipulations by Sarah. But, this heartbroken badass superhero Shlorpian isn’t ready to give up on the man he loves as he rushes over to Sarah attempting to tempt Terry.

Sarah: I’m not your wind up toy anymore Terald. grabs Terry’s arm as he gasp once he sees Platinum Belt’s face traits on Sarah’s face There, there. Let me take your pain away.

Human Terry: Wh-what are you?

Human Korvo: growling as he punches Sarah in the face and lifts her up by the arm while berserk tears burst in his eyes You fucking monster! You will pay for erasing the memories of the man that I love, you bitch!

Sarah: But Korvo, you would want a better husband…. right?

Human Korvo: throws Sarah to the ground Fuck you! I love my Terry just the way he is! He may be lazy piece of shit, but he is my lazy piece shit that I fell in love with! You’re just using letting Platinum Belt use you because you think you’re weak. That is not true and you know it! You’re just playing victim!

Sarah: You wouldn’t understand. No one would-

Human Korvo: punches her in the face We get it! I wouldn’t understand! Nobody would understand! That is fucking shit I am hearing and you know it!

Sarah screams as she put her hands on her head as Terry watches in shock. He then sees Korvo and began to see him lovingly as a romantic pinkish background appears. The background disappears back in real life as Korvo helps lift up Terry.

Human Terry: Wow. I just met you and somehow, I can feel my heart beating. As if I already met you.

Human Korvo: You never forget the ones you love, darling. But don’t worry Terry, once I stop Platinum Belt from controlling Blue Belt, I promise I’ll figure out a way to get your memories back.

Human Terry: Y-you promise?

Human Korvo: put his left hand on Terry’s face Yes Terry, I promise.

Back in the city, Maximum Belt continues to attack the FBI agents as she uses the combine powers that is causing her to grow out of control and savage.

Maximum Belt: This is fun!

Premium Belt: watching from up there on a building Glad you’re enjoying it. That’s right, make them fall! Make them suffer! Nothing can stop us now!

Back in the mind, Korvo and Terry heads up to Sarah, who turned back into Maximum Belt, as Terry tries to reach out for her.

Human Terry: Uh ma’am, stop. Please. You’re hurting people!

Maximum Belt: turns with an evil grin I refused to listen to a fucking pathetic weakling alien!

Maximum Belt grabs Terry by a tight painful hug as he screams in pain, when suddenly, orange sparks appear around him as electric orange DNA particles enters into Terry’s body and cells as he turns back into his Shlorpian form. It is revealed that Maximum Belt accidentally stabbed the serum she stole from the laboratory was in her hand the whole time and she didn’t put it back. It has smashed into Terry’s skin in his arms as Korvo gasp and catches Terry as the latter held his bleeding arm in pain.

Maximum Belt: What?! No! That isn’t supposed to happen! No!

Human Korvo: You shouldn’t have done that Maximum! transforms back into his alien self and then turns into Qauasarblast and punches Maximum Belt and heads back into real life with Terry

Korvo awakes as Qausarblast as he sees Terry and hugs him tearfully.

Qausarblast: tearfully Terry. kisses him on the cheek as Terry grow surprised Don’t worry, let’s get you to a doctor for your wound.

[luulapants]

Hurt/Comfort as Wish Fulfillment

Something that’s missing in discussions about hurt/comfort fiction is that the catharsis comes not just from the comfort but also from the hurt. I often see the comfort element described as a wish fulfillment fantasy. I think it is essential to acknowledge that the hurt, very often, is also wish fulfillment.

Of the 855,654 AO3 fics tagged Hurt/Comfort today, 13.2% (almost 114k) are tagged for Graphic Depictions of Violence. If you exclude those fics where authors chose not to use archive warnings, that rate goes up to 18%. To put that in context, compared to the archive as a whole, Hurt/Comfort fics are 74% more likely to contain a graphic violence warning.

Even if the horrors are not graphically described, they are by and large unambiguously awful. There is an abuser or perpetrator on one side, who is unquestioningly the villain of our story. They are focused on the victim and intentionally cause their pain.

On the other side, a victim who is obviously deserving of pity. There is no gray area, no question of whether the villain was really that bad, whether they did this on purpose. There is no debate over whether the victim was complicit in their abuse or if they suffered enough to deserve our sympathy.

That’s the fantasy.

Most abuse is passive: not an intentional and active exacting of harm but a failure to avoid causing harm. It is terribly easy to hurt another person. Most abusive people were once victims. The people who will perpetrate harm against you in your life, they will almost certainly do so not because of anything you are or have done. They will do so because of who they are and what has been done to them. It’s difficult, painful, to realize that the cause of your pain had nothing to do with you.

Victims are not perfect people. They make decisions that worsen their situations. They spread their trauma around and cause harm to other people. Mutually abusive relationships are rampant, and arguing over who is the most abusive, the most at fault, who started it and who is defending themselves - all of that is irrelevant beyond the fact that it does not create unambiguously pitiable victims.

A story where an unquestioningly evil villain is obsessively focused on causing violent harm to a victim who does nothing to bring the situation upon themselves, that’s a fantasy. A fantasy of perfect pity. Perfect victimhood. A clear cause of harm that is easy to identify and easy to fight. Harm that has everything to do with you, that places you at the center of the story. Harm so horrific that no one will ever think you should be “over it” by now. A victim so virtuous, that when the comfort comes and someone says, “It’s not your fault,” you will be able to believe it.

Like the catharsis that comes from the latter half of the story, the catharsis of this perfect abuse narrative can be helpful to authors and readers, but failing to identify it as a wish fulfillment fantasy can actually do harm. It can cause people to doubt their own real-life narratives of trauma, to agonize with guilt or even rewrite the memories to erase those ugly gray areas.

A fantasy of perfect victimhood is just that - a fantasy. You will probably never meet anyone with a story like this, but that doesn’t mean you will never meet someone deserving of comfort.

[vermilliondevth]

Harms Way's "Common Suffering" is more than just an experimentation. It's a powerful, hardcore-fueled, and emotionally electrifying album with a hidden message left to be deciphered by its listener. Whomever seeks to find the conventional approach to what they've done in the past could be easily disillusioned with this one, but if you dig deeper, you may find a masterpiece. It asks the listener:

"Do you know what real suffering feels like?"

This album suggests a deep exploration of the five stages of grief:

Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Acceptance.

But what is most fascinating is that, it is much more closer to the true expression of how these stages are experienced in humanity. It is not cohesive, but rather confused and abstract. It speaks about a heart finding out that it has been betrayed. The realization that the truth we believed and trusted is no longer there, and so the journey of transcendence begins. The hurt ego begins with trying to maintain itself afloat with - - "Degrade, we're born to decay" - "Decline, they will let you down" - As the feelings and thoughts begin to affect our consciousness by circulating into a downward spiral, it then speaks with - - "I am in denial, I will never be free again" - "I have no sense of self" - "I can't forgive me, another victim in denial" - but the sword of deceit has already been plunged into the heart, perforating deeply - so deeply, it emerges all the way to the back. The sharpness of the pain, the burning sensation felt all over the body, and the mind finds itself in a state of shock. The blood pours out from the mouth and circulates all the way up into the brain. We suddenly become blinded by rage.

The anger. The endless anger. - "I can't live this way, live your way. I can't love like you do." - "Commitment, Illusion, you can't console" - "A selfish force, so cruel, a destructive scheme" - "You take my soul from me and I feel betrayed" - "A broken promise, the hate infests" - "You feel your life erode, it's all for nothing" - "I watched you betray me, I want you to fear me" - "Before they terrorize you, watch them bleed in front of you" -

It is anger sinking you deeper into the abyss, seeking for the ultimate destruction of the lie you lived. It is wanting to skin yourself alive to erode every false touch, hope, and empty promise given to you. Desolation, and despair. Feeling so many violent currents, you no longer can decipher what is real. Worthlessness.

Bargaining with faith, asking the question: Is this really my destiny? Am I still a man or have I become an empty shell? - "(Help me)" - "I remember (When will it end?)" - "Devour me" - "Why do we exist?" -

Only to find the door slammed shut, locked deep inside memories that can no longer be experienced nor lived in no matter how hard we try to pry it open, leading us straight into the meaningless of our existence - The Void. Depression, forcing us to meet face to face with the ultimate darkness, our shadow selves. The endless monologues, paranoia, neurosis - the inability to feel anything but pure emptiness: - "Fade away" - "Looking for seclusion" - "I forever am alone (dying inside)" - "Cornered alone, wounded and vulnerable" - "The years await, to fill the void" - "It's all for nothing, erase my future" - "I lay still, tomorrow I dread" - "The nervous system stalls, you cripple and start to fall" - "I blame myself and I corrode, and I surround myself with what I loathe" - "A sad delusion, I confess" - "I faced God, I was turned inside, It's back to hell, and I'm here to stay" -

The process of isolation. Not having the emotional currency needed to see hope. The endless shades of grey. The endless grief, corrupted by loneliness. Numbness. The "Cyanide" poisoning the heart, obliterating every feeling of hope. Using the last remaining dose of courage to grab the sword by the blade to remove it once and for all, for the suffering has been too great to continue tolerating - the endless bleeding, the ultimate sacrifice of love. Years go by and the wound ceases to bleed, yet it remains open. It then makes us question: Do we choose to remain or do we choose to cease? "The affection I feel, impaired. Relations turn to despair. As I cower to my knees, they empower" - "Never let them take control" - "I will always seek power" - And through the solitude, isolation, we begin to understand the nuances of the betrayal and it's meaning. We begin to understand that this pain and suffering, is a new source of power being gifted to us. Through the path of hell, we meet our creator - ourselves, and by looking at it straight into the eyes of the abyss, we begin to accept our fate. We become acquainted with expansion in our consciousness through our common suffering. We accept our anger and the injustice made onto us: - "And I looked into the eyes of a demon and I saw myself" - "The calm sets in, at peace this time" - "I'm free at last" - "The darkest past, no longer see beneath the surface" - "Sink to peace" - It then culminates with a song called "Wanderer": - "To wander beyond the sunset To sail above the seabed To wander behind the sand glass To reach the past of me

As I'm wandering, I'll be searching through - " The search for a new meaning. A new sense of self. A life beyond deception and hatredness. The search for the new truth.

As mentioned at the beginning, these messages are found scattered throughout the story-line, which brings a lot of confusing thoughts to what exactly is the message that is being conveyed. But that is the beauty of grief - the imbalance of emotions and thoughts, the constant ups and downs, the health within sickness - we can all experience these torments in just a day. The combination of this lyrics, alongside the heaviness and the metallic abstraction of the sounds, brings out feelings rooted within the subconscious that feel foreign, and almost terrifying. It invites the listener to open up their heart and feel the fear. I couldn't bear to listen to this album after the first time I did - for it triggered feelings I didn't wish to re-live again. But I took the plunge and allowed myself to go alongside the journey of pain - a journey that by now, I know very well. I came to understand that I am not completely alone in this world - someone out there experienced the same feelings I have experienced, and meticulously put into words the things I have always wished to express but never could. This band already had an immense sentimental value to me - it reminds me of a life I thought I would live forever. But as I went through it's journey, in the end - all I truly found was hope and acceptance.

Acceptance of what is long gone and no longer will be. Acceptance that I am also the wanderer, searching through - for the truth.

The ultimate truth that can only be found through common suffering.

The light at the end of the tunnel.

[lavelled]

the trickster three.

Prince Hurst:

In the strange logic of your cyber-hopscotch, normalizing rape and underage female ownership, at least you’re unable to play victim now.

I’m sad about Shannen.

She presented herself as steely and composed, but to me she was a fragile young woman taken suddenly and in too much pain. If I glance at any artificial cancer campaign that I feel demeans real patients or preys on the public’s humiliations, I’ll call you out.

A Kate caption: “She’s gone through something awful.” Yes, marrying into the House of Windsor. Anything you insensitive superficial blokes wish to say to Michael Strahan? Why not? You’re both well-versed on apathy, and an easier life, might you shed light on cycles of chemo?

A headline: “Tyler Perry, godfather…” Except. He’s not. You don’t have Hollywood friends. Nobody likes the unvirtuous Rachel Rosa Shirley Henry Marty Luther imposters, living apart. I wrote of A Few Good Men in Washington, DC, that’s why. As if I wasn’t erased, gone, at all.

To complete the unobstructed view: Indigenous Peruvian tribe, Mashco-Piro, risked disease and violence days ago to emerge from the rainforest. The most uncontacted, most reclusive, most withdrawn tribe in the world knows me. Hello! Peruse a tribe called quest. Google: Mashco-Piro asks for food August 20, 2013 BBC. Video of hand on hair pose, elbows-out, asking villagers for bananas. Get them bananas! (just bananas?) Traditional plant-based food! They detest you.

In Xaviour Twitter, we’ve lifted digital camouflaging on Archillect, Murat Pak, Elon Musk, and Piers Morgan. The snitching is Minor 101. Cyber users spy your regalia. I want the amplification of your unremorseful felon admissions with a high chance of pedophile rapist to destroy any label of boyish humanitarian aid worker, so that you don’t get that award—even in irony—no Netflix series, no podcasting series, no prime-time interviews, no meetings with dignitaries, minimizing your godforsaken earthly imprint after four decades of calculated family pedophilia.

Minority Report. Tom’s in a technological nightmare. Clairvoyant humanoids, one female and two males, in a pool, visualize future crimes for a government organization. The rival boss is played by Ireland’s Colin Farrell. There’s this weird disconnect. In every scene, he chews gum. You’d think the movie’s integrity would be more important than Trident—wait. He’s warning a little girl of rapey pedos. No wonder you left California: Steven Spielberg knows what you did.

The avec moi politician I grew up with is also chewing gum in his video. It’s titled: 18 Year-Old Trudeau on Quebec Sovereignty. I’m 17. You’re 5. Which means the no-life, no-choice, rape clause in the crayon-kinship philandering legalese was already in place. Normal dad.

Details are vague, but back in twitter’s profile, I was wrapped in an old, old, red, looped Where’s Waldo scarf. Thrifty. Yes. One of the most iconic fashion designers knew me, read emails, published essays and Twit doodling, waited, and, I think, was disappointed I hadn’t yet realized you were certifiably evil. Seventeen days after your ivory wedding, Kate Spade hung herself with her signature red scarf in her Park Avenue apartment.

Then, Bed Bath & Beyond CFO, Gustavo Arnal jumped in NYC.

Then, Fandango founder, J. Michael Cline jumped in NYC.

Overly educated. Overly successful. With loving families.

But for now, we have you etching puerile algae about orifices and winning. As you do. On Piers Morgan’s son, Spencer Morgan’s Twitter page.

Three years after September 11, you staged a folly paparazzi scuffle in London to confuse people. Judging from the way you’re held back by guards, you’re mad. At that older brute for leashing a young love like a prized pet, so cruelly and prolonged, it ignited global pain and suffering. You did that. Why not embrace it? Google: 9 Cringe-Worthy Prince Harry Scandals We’ve All Conveniently Forgotten About. 2017 article. Number 5. Kennel Club.

I know your dad was equestrian-minded when I was younger than a teenager. I just don’t ink it on billboarded, televised, mural canvas. You and I won’t meet.

K

[dragons-library]

Im gonna rant a little bit and I might just delete this but I’ve been thinking about redemption arcs in media; books, series (animation series mainly) movies…. Specifically those with trauma or victims of a system, of their upbringing, generational trauma, etc….you know, characters that have their behaviour explained by their back story. And there’s a lot of characters that “are redeemed” just because their back story is explained and I don’t like it. I don’t consider that redemption.

One key element of redemption for a character, of growth and of healing is acknowledging the harm done to others. (Honestly this is key in real life too for people that are healing but since this is a book blog…)

Someone can’t move past trauma and bad coping mechanisms, mistakes and (harmful) learned behaviour without acknowledging that they have hurt others, because trauma responses are not excuses for bad behaviour.

They can unpack it and understand where it comes from, but ultimately that’s just a step towards making amends with themselves and others. To forgive themselves for their own mistakes and also being aware that those mistakes have had an effect on other people. It’s absolutely necessary in order to get past the self loathing and self sabotage. To prevent falling into the same patterns again and again. Even prevent perpetuating toxic cycles.

Self compassion is absolutely necessary but that doesn’t mean excusing and justifying bad behaviour and the hurt that has been done to others.

It’s the combination of both, that truly makes a character turn towards true redemption that is meaningful.

Being compassionate enough with themselves to understand that a lot of their behaviour is caused by circumstances and experiences they probably had no control over, or maybe they just didn’t know any better, but aware enough to understand that even when that’s true it does not change or negate that their actions have consequences and have affected others.

Past that, making amends when possible is important too, both for those affected and those making amends as well.

The ones redeeming themselves might have been hurt by others, and understanding that is absolutely essential. Sometimes they are victims of other victims even and it’s also something that should be addressed.

and I do believe that one does not have to forgive those who have hurt us in order to move on, some people can do it and some people can’t, I just don’t find it necessary. Especially because a lot of the times those who have hurt us will not try to remedy the pain or the suffering caused.

That said, no one is entitled to the forgiveness of others either. You can do everything to right your wrong, to make amends and ask for forgiveness, but ultimately those who have been hurt have no obligation to grant said forgiveness. Some might and others may not. That’s for them to decide. No one else.

Each person can only control their own actions, emotions and reactions, no one else’s. But this does not mean thinking only of themselves. But rather understanding that other people’s feelings matter as much as their own feelings. Not more not less.

So if a character is being redeemed, it can’t just be “they went through this and that’s why they did this bad thing” and that be the end of it. That’s just justifying bad behaviour and if accepted ultimately just grants a free pass to cause pain to others because of their own issues. That’s not redemption.

It should be, both having compassion in the story, to understand where this hurt comes from, enough self compassion to forgive themselves, enough self awareness to accept that their actions are in fact bigger than their own feelings and that their hurt does not justify hurting others to prevent it from happening again, enough willingness to do something about it, even if nothing will change or erase what has been done, and ultimately accepting that they are responsible for their own actions. Not the actions of others, taking responsibility when it’s due, not carrying the burden of the mistakes of others and accepting that other people have just as much right to their own feelings and reactions.

That being said it’s 2 am in the morning and I’m just rambling, i don’t even know if any of this makes sense