#emotions are often hard/confusing to identify and process

[yourlocalmissingtexture]

“Ah, sorry if I’m prying too much” hon, given the opportunity I’d relay my entire life story to anyone who gave me the time and understanding, I could literally speak for years if I was physically able to, trust me you’re fine

[ihaveverything]

Limitless manifesting for beginners

part I - basic concepts

part II - states, techniques, change

part III - mental diet, sats

ʚ part IV - daily life, time

part V - resistance, faith, the ''real'' world

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Daily life

The “hard” part of manifesting is not knowing where to get information. There are plenty of resources on the internet to help you get a decent understanding on the Law, as well as original work from source teachers like Neville. A fairly common issue is overconsumption of content, leading to having a jumbled mess of info and confusion on how to go about your daily life. It’s understandable to feel lost, so I will break it down as simply as possible.

You are always being someone. Let’s say you’re manifesting an SP. We know that you cannot occupy two states at once, therefore you’re either in lack or you’re in fulfillment. When you think about your desire (SP or anything else), notice where your mind goes. What thoughts do you have? How are you feeling? What do you know to be true as of this moment? An example of a lack state while manifesting would be thoughts like “I do not have my SP”, “I wish they were here”, “I want to reach out”, “I hope they haven’t forgotten about me”, and feeling rejected, apathy, guilt, fear, etc. Basically knowing they aren’t yours right now. The emotional reactions and intensity of negative thoughts you get may vary from person to person, but the common factor in lack is always the knowing that your desire isn’t here.

A more positive mental diet would be automatically making the choice that you feel as though you have something each time you think of it. It’s as simple as:

Step 1: Identify your desire, I want X.

Step 2: I have it. (Making this choice by utilizing the feeling of having it, this can be attained through techniques or merely a simple decision)

Step 3: Rinse and repeat

I often suggest people make examples out of negative things in order to understand how the positive might look. When you see something unfavorable in the 3D, what is your immediate reaction? Was there any strain or resistance to assuming or fearing the worst? Probably not. Your thoughts, feelings, and reactions will always be aligned with your dominant state. Your only job is to change your dominant dwelling state by entertaining the positive instead of lack. Manifesting is consciously guiding your mind towards where it needs to be, repeatedly making a firm decision that you are something right now, knowing that your desire being unseen right now does not mean it’s non-existent, but it is yours no matter what.

Manifesting is actually much simpler than it seems. Aim to become the person within, and you will see without. Change your 4D, and your 3D will follow. Live your life feeling like the person who has your desires until that state is dominant.

Time

Everyone wants their desires fast, which is completely understandable. It’d be a disappointment if desires had to take an absurdly long time to show up. Many people will say that it’s not good to think about time, because it pulls you away from living in the end, and you focus on the process, which is true. However, it’s also beneficial to acknowledge how time in manifestation works, so that people can have more faith. Like always, your biggest improvements will always come from your own experience and application of the Law, but sometimes knowing why things don’t have to take months or years to reflect is helpful to people’s faith in going all in.

“The time it takes your assumption to become fact, your desire to be fulfilled, is directly proportionate to the naturalness of your feeling of already being what you want to be – of already having what you desire. The fact that it does not feel natural to you to be what you imagine yourself to be is the secret of your failure.” – Neville Goddard, The Power of Awareness

The time it takes to manifest something depends on how natural your state of awareness is. The state of the wish fulfilled is basically you identifying with a different probable reality where your desire is already yours, and you are utilizing feeling to make that decision to occupy a different state.

We live in a world that is expressed in 3 dimensions. A 4th dimension would be adding on the concept of time, but this does not mean that time is linear. It doesn’t flow in a straight line from birth to death. There have been many scientific studies on the theory that the past, present and future may exist simultaneously. Life could be compared to a movie, because you are watching (experiencing) one scene (event) at a time, but all scenes (events) exist in the present. Just because you are watching the famous deck scene from the Titanic movie right now, it does not mean the ending credits of that movie don’t exist. Creation is finished as a spirituality concept explains that all infinite probable versions of yourself, others, and realities already exist in the present. Every moment of the day we are experiencing a frame, and we move through these frames smoothly enough to maintain a sense of reality and balance so it doesn’t seem like we’re glitching through life, but every event you want to experience is already an existing thing. That’s what people mean by “it is done”. By identifying with an alternate probable version of yourself and whatever you want to manifest, you are selecting a different reality to experience. No circumstance or anything in the 3d can change an existing reality. If that reality already exists right now, then there’s no such thing as the universe acting like a factory and somehow manufacturing and remaking your circumstances so that they align with your new identity. It’s not a process of creation. It’s not a 2 month process for your person to conform, or a 7 month process for you to become wealthy. The version of you that is in a loving relationship already there, your money is already there, etc.

Make your state natural. When I say you can get your stuff fast with discipline, I do not mean that you need to affirm 10k times a day or visualize 500 times and “saturate” your mind to the point of being burnt out. It doesn’t have to be that hard. The discipline is only entertaining the states that align with having your desire, and not returning to lack. If you can just be 1 version of yourself, and stop jumping back and forth between 2 contradictory identities, then your dominant beliefs and state will change. This should be simple to understand because habits stick easier when you're only moving forward without taking a few steps back every couple of hours or even minutes. When you’ve made your new state completely natural, meaning your beliefs have truly changed (not just you think they’ve changed because you’re in a decent mood today), your desires will reflect fairly quickly. Additionally, for the people who spent months or even years to gain success, they were most likely wavering during that time. The solid chunk of time where they were fully committed to a disciplined mental diet and had conviction / faith was most certainly nowhere near that long. It was probably much shorter.

When people express disbelief in faster manifestations, it’s evident they believe things will take time, perhaps the “bigger” things take more time, or manifestation itself is a completely unpredictable process of blind faith. Knowing things can happen fast is not controlling. It’s not setting a time limit on yourself either, because anyone who has truly manifested something in days will know that when asked about their success, the first thing that comes to mind is definitely not “I wanted my stuff fast, so I tried to control the time”. How fast you get your desires should not be the focus of your attention in any case; people can feel free to be motivated with buying the Pearl of Great Price with the Law since there is a possibility of success being right around the corner. Above all, Neville and Seth have said that most desires do not take over 30-40 days to see significant movement or even reach the full manifestation. Proper mental dieting will give you results within a reasonable amount of time, so there’s no need to wait in impatience and fear for months or years.

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[schizoidvision]

🔤 Schizoid Words: A Guide to Understanding Alexithymia…

Definition: Alexithymia refers to the inability to identify, describe, or express emotions. Individuals with alexithymia often have difficulty recognizing their own feelings or those of others, leading to challenges in emotional processing and communication. It is a common trait in several psychological conditions, including schizoid personality disorder.

The Schizoid Experience…

Schizoid individuals frequently exhibit traits of alexithymia, which contributes to their emotional detachment and difficulty in forming close relationships. Their struggle to access or articulate emotions can deepen their sense of isolation and internal disconnection.

Difficulty Identifying Emotions: Schizoid individuals may have trouble recognizing their own emotional states, making it hard for them to process or respond to feelings.

Limited Emotional Expression: Due to alexithymia, they might struggle to put their emotions into words, further reducing their capacity to communicate feelings to others.

Emotional Detachment: The inability to engage with emotions contributes to schizoid tendencies toward emotional distance and withdrawal from interpersonal relationships.

Avoidance of Emotional Experiences: Alexithymia can lead to a preference for avoiding emotionally charged situations, as these experiences may feel overwhelming or confusing.

Misunderstandings in Relationships: Schizoid individuals may be misunderstood in relationships, as their lack of emotional expression can be perceived as indifference, even when they may care deeply but are unable to articulate it.

Difficulty Understanding Others' Emotions: Alexithymia also affects the ability to empathize or read social cues, which can create barriers in social interactions and deepen the schizoid preference for solitude.

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[eldritch-spouse]

The cleric genuinely interest me, especially about that one post dragging a human down to keep them. Does it have any emotions at first or does it learn while it’s active? If he does drag a human down with him, what happens to the human when the cleric is inactive? Does Krulu do anything if he notices his creation got attached to someone? I also wonder what texture its body has. Most importantly, how does the cleric feel when it shags someone lol. I imagine it learns to like the activity a lot whore

[That's specifically a scenario where reader's an outsider, and though I don't necessarily consider it to be canon, preferring the idea of the Cleric being more likely to flock to its maker and vessel, I can sort of work with it.]

Does it have emotions?

Emotions are always there. From day one.

What happens is that the Cleric doesn't have the maturity and reflection necessary to not only identify emotions and feelings for what they are, but also understand how to express, conceal, or process them in a way that is socially acceptable. Or minimally healthy. It initially appears devoid of feelings, especially to you, but that assumption doesn't last too long, as you specifically inspire overwhelming emotion in the Cleric. Something it can't conceal, can't control.

There are no directives telling Cleric what to do here, so it doesn't have to act a certain way, communicate within guidelines or present itself in a very firm mold. You're privy to their most raw, unfiltered emotions and impulses, which not only reveals just how emotive this being is but also how dangerous of a mental state they're in.

Naturally, the Cleric is able to learn and absorb new information. As someone who they care about, your words and actions mean a lot to them, meaning you can fill in the blanks that Krulu left, so long as they're not immediately contradictory to the higher's rules. Cleric exhibits the same discrimination towards humans as the rest of the people in the establishment do, so it can often take some of your words and reduce them to unimportant human blabbering.

What happens to you when Cleric is inactive?

Chances are Krulu stumbles upon you upon his return. Since the Cleric made a specific room in a floor inhabited only by you, to which there is no elevator access in or out- Only the siadar can see it. He's extremely confused upon noticing you, immediately removing you from the strange mockery of a room and activating the Cleric once more so it can explain why the fuck it's hoarding a human.

Nothing in its innate directives should lead to this type of scenario. While you might be too traumatized by the presence of a god to speak, Keyhead McGee will attempt to explain, in logical terms, why you had to be kept in a room. You're unpredictable and new and it... It had to. Why? It just had to keep you. They can't provide a satisfying answer, and although the Cleric stands before its master dutifully, it knows it could die at any moment.

It's the flip of a coin.

If you don't get over your terror and mutter anything, Krulu will crush your head and dispose of you like a crumpled sheet of paper. If you can say something intriguing enough, you're kept alive so Krulu can study why his creation is drawn to you. You get a room modeled to your liking, courtesy of the Cleric's work.

In a way... He almost sees himself and Admin in you two. The very early stages of his and his vessel's bonding.

What is the Cleric's texture?

Rough and dry, for the most part. The thorns on its hips, thighs and knees are particularly sharp and hard. Extremities such as the hands and feet tend to be softer.

Their head has a glass-like feel to it, light emanates from within it, emotions will cause said luminescence to heighten or diminish. The key is dense and heavy to the touch, metallic, though easily supported by them.

What does it think about sex?

The Cleric is no stranger to sexual activity. It's some of the most common acts performed within their walls. They know what desire is, they've seen carnality and all sorts of genitalia, they know what an orgasm looks like and what is involved in one.

There is curiosity in them regarding the acts, but arousal only emerges when they come in contact with you.

Everything they feel towards you is so intense that, at first, it doesn't even register its own attraction to you. Then the Cleric gets to touch you openly, feeling shivers of delight coursing their entire body -The first hints of pleasure- And it understands. It wants you. It can have you, open you, fuck you.

But first, they have to discover their own body. Because, hilariously, the Cleric doesn't even know what type of genitals it has. They know they have something, because there's a slit on its pelvic area, but what lies within is a total mystery. They know what you have, at least.

You... You can help them with this, right? That's how it works. You're supposed to touch each other.

You'll soon find the Cleric has several long but thin tendrils for genitals, all quite dexterous and able to perform a variety of strange sexual motions.

Naturally, the first time they come is explosive. You may find the room around you spazzing into different shapes and colors as the entity's control over its own form wavers in their ecstasy. Perhaps, a couple floors above, several things got displaced- Chairs are now glued to the ceiling and the bar got thrown into the wall, the lab acquired a bottomless hole Patches almost sunk into, etc...

They want to do it again. And again. And again.

[theambitiouswoman]

Hi, saw this come across my dash and thought I'd ask for advice like others have. You don't have to answer if you don't want to <3

Do you have any advice for getting over an abusive/toxic relationship? I'm going to do therapy but appointments are few and far between

Hi angel,

Getting over a toxic relationship can be extremely difficult. I am sorry you are dealing with this <3 It is important you give yourself time and patience to go through the healing process. It will not be linear, and the timing is different for everyone. It is not uncommon to experience a range of emotions, like as sadness, anger, confusion, and even moments of doubt or longing, as you navigate through the healing process.

Toxic relationships often involve emotional manipulation, control, and sometimes abuse, which can have a profound impact on your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

People often lose themselves to these relationships and at the end, they question themselves, if they were wrong or what they could have done differently.

They may have an emotional attachment to their partner and have a hard time letting go even though they know its harmful. Toxic partners often use manipulation tactics and guilt to keep you engaged. They may make you feel guilty, responsible for their behavior, or doubt your own worth. Over time, this erodes your self-esteem and make it harder to break free or move on.

In some cases, toxic relationships create a trauma bond. This occurs when intense emotional experiences, including both positive and negative ones, create a strong bond with the abusive partner.

You may also have a hard time leaving the relationship for fear of the unknown. You may worry about being alone, starting over, or facing the judgment of others.

Toxic relationships often involve a cycle of hope and disappointment. There may be moments of kindness or improvement, which lead you to believe that things would change. However, these positive moments are often followed by a return to the toxic behavior, creating a pattern that can be difficult to break.

Understanding these patterns can help you make sense of your experiences and validate some of the feelings you are probably having. Take the time to reflect on the dynamics of the relationship and identify any patterns or red flags that you may have missed. This self-reflection can help you learn and grow from the experience, and empower you to make healthier choices in the future. These self-actualizations are important because we do not want to fall into a repeated cycle of this situation with another person in the future.

Healing and moving on often involves a combination of self-care, therapy, support from loved ones, and a commitment to your own well-being. A loss is not a loss, but a chance to learn and become better. It is very important to prioritize yourself, rediscover yourself, forgive yourself for the experience and focus on things that give you a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

I can not stress enough how important it is to focus on yourself and working on becoming your ideal self. Engage in activities that promote self-care and help you regain your sense of self-worth. This can include exercise, hobbies, mindfulness techniques, journaling, or any other activities that bring you joy and peace.

I don't know if you are still in communication with this person but it is time to end contact no matter how painful it feels. Please remember that toxicity is not love and those who hurt us do not deserve us. You did absolutely nothing wrong. Pick yourself back up. Remember who you are. What you are capable of doing/becoming. And give yourself all of the love you were looking for in this person. You have the power and you deserve the world!

[amyintherapy]

Big T Versus Little T Traumas

Thought I'd share what stuck out to me most from my therapy appointment a few days ago.

I continue to process childhood trauma, and at one point in this session I had brought up a time where I was blatantly emotionally abandoned when I was in very clear emotional crisis. I was around 14 at the time of this memory.

And my T asked if I remembered anything I thought or felt about this experience, if it was surprising or shocking, hurtful, if it made me angry, etc. I didn't really remember specifics like that, and told my therapist that. But then also elaborated by saying that I didn't think it could have been particularly shocking, as it was a pattern for my mom by that point. I then listed four or five other instances of very blatant neglect when I was in a crisis. Like, your kid is metaphorically on fire, and the parents say nothing and do nothing and just pretend it didn't happen, sort of situations. And a bit later in this conversation I said it's funny how just a couple months ago (maybe not even that far back..I Don't recall for sure) I was struggling with identifying as being emotionally neglected - because it was quite severe emotional neglect. I think emotional neglect of any "level" is valid, don't get me wrong. But it's weird that I was struggling with using the term when I was quite severely emotionally neglected. And part of that struggle is how society at large seems to not recognize 'small T' traumas as being traumatic, and also how the bubble I grew up in seems to see emotionally neglecting children, especially in more 'mild' ways, as just, normal.

For example, I know SO many people who are not authoritarian parents, and who very clearly mean well as parents, but who still feel like they can't validate their kids emotions and hold a boundary for their behavior at the same time. So many people who routinely minimize, dismiss, invalidate or avoid/distract their kids feelings rather than teaching them how to really sit with and process their feelings. Often because the parents themselves never learned how to manage their own feelings so they can't possibly teach the kid to. Emotional neglect isn't exclusive to bad parenting, it's super common with parenting from people doing their absolute best, but who just were traumatized themselves and never learned coping skills themselves. And when people really truly tried their best, they have a hard time even imagining that their kid could still have trauma from their childhoods. It feels unfair that doing your absolute best could still traumatize your kid. But I think that's the reality of how it often works. Kids are fragile, and most of us have a lot of generational trauma so even when doing our best we can't break ALL the cycles. I don't imagine I'll succeed at breaking all of mine. My absolute best won't be enough either, and I'm trying to come to terms with that now, while also balancing trying my best to heal for my future kid(s) too. But anyway...

The traumatized/mentally ill part of my brain likes to use that 'neglect is just normal' thing to invalidate me having cPTSD, basically. That part of my brain feels like I am just dramatic, and things 'weren't that bad' and so on. That part of my brain still looks at my childhood as having one type of big T trauma (sexual abuse) and that's it.

But after mentioning how it's funny that I so recently was struggling to even accept that I had experienced emotional neglect, my therapist said something about how I also have minimized how much Big T trauma I have. I was confused briefly. They pointed out that all the specific instances I had listed of blatant neglect in the face of crisis, count as big T traumas. That little t traumas are the day to day, mini 'cuts' that we don't really even remember because they were just normal tuesday things to us despite being hurtful. Things like coming home from school excited about something only to have your mom hush you rather than listen to you. Of course, this happening occasionally isn't traumatic but when kids live with dismissive or invalidating or overly critical parents regularly those mini cuts add up to cause accumulative trauma, and that's what cPTSD is about, mini cuts adding up to a wound, rather than traditional PTSD which leaves more acute injuries. They pointed out that Big T traumas are specific events that you do specifically remember, that left a specific wound. So just the fact that I was able to list these specific events means they are big t traumas, not little T.

Clearly, my therapist was right that I was minimizing them a bit because I had never considered that they are big t traumas.

[funkymbtifiction]

Hello!

What does it mean when people say Fi is in tune with emotions? I understand that Fi is not just that, and how it relates to your own personal values and beliefs, your own judgements on things..but when I read how Fi is in tune with their emotions, it confuses me a little. Or more so, when someone is out of tune with them.

Perhaps my emotions are simple, but it’s easy to tell how/why I am feeling a certain way, the root cause and solution is pretty simple.

I’ve read about people who have to take time to be by themselves to sort out what they are feeling, either just contemplating things alone or via art/writing. The community I’m in has identified this as Fe/Ti in work; needing to be alone/“externalize” it.

Personally I rarely stop to consider how I am feeling or partake in the methods above; I don’t often focus inward on my feelings. I usually have a hard time knowing what I personally believe on an issue and sticking with it, but that is a different matter… I just don’t really care about it.

So to be out of tune with your “emotions”, what exactly does that entail?

Thank you! :)

Unless I am missing something fundamental, the community you are with is mistaken about the orientation of emotions. Externalizing means the ability to process something instantly—for a Te user, for example, they can process facts on the spot; there’s no need to think about them much, the facts are obvious and the Te user can spring into immediate action based on those facts. The Se user processes the external world and takes immediate action on it. The Ne user needs no down time to change their mind, to adjust to a new thought, or to see something isn’t working and do the reverse. The same is true for Fe and feelings. Fe users (FJs in particular) process emotions on the spot; they can externalize them (share them, talk about them, name them) without needing to be alone/quiet to do so, because they are a surface reaction to whatever is happening. It’s the internal functions that need solitude  to identify what’s going on within the “haze” of themselves.

If the purpose of the FJ going off to journal or whatever is to analyze their feelings for consistency, then it is indeed Fe/Ti, because they are using a subjective logical lens (Ti) to take apart their emotional response and determine what it means to them. But if they need that alone time to process their feelings, because they aren’t sure of what they are in laymen’s terms (“I am feeling a lot of things, I need to figure out which ones to care about the most, or put a name to them, or decide how to best phrase them without using a ton of metaphors”), that is Fi. It’s something of a trope, but think about all the hero/heroines in movies who have something happen to them, and they run away to process it alone—into the woods, into their room, away from the space ship. They are Fi users, separating themselves from everyone around them so that they can figure out what “this” is and how they feel about it.

Fi is complex because of its subjectivity; it’s both rapidly reacting and slow. By that, I mean an FP/TJ can have an instant response of “I hate this, make it stop,” or “I love this, I want more!”, but the deeper feelings – like their grandmother just died, or they found out the horrible truth about a loved one, or a new discovery of how much they love something and the want to spend more time alone with it – requires being alone. There’s an instant recoil with Fi types over “and how did that make you feel?” because a) the answer isn’t easily expressed / is hazy inside them, b) it’s none of your business!, and c) I don’t know how to phrase it simplistically yet. Writing is one way they can sort through the internal mess and land on the right words.

Being out of tune with your emotions can mean two things – one, you aren’t sure what your emotions are (either because you are trying to think your way through them instead of trusting them, or you are used to suppressing them; this happens more often in EFPs/TJ types an IFPs), or you are acting in a manner that isn’t in accordance with your feelings for some reason, and that is throwing you entirely off balance. Like an FP believing that something is wrong, but doing it anyway, and not fully realizing the negative impact this is going to have on their Fi, for being out of alignment with their values. (There will be a lot of self-anger, guilt, a sense of loss, etc.)

IFPs naturally orient themselves all the time to finding out what they feel and to standing by it, to being true to it, regardless of having a compliant Enneagram type or not. EFPs are not as in tune with their emotions in the sense of slowing down long enough to process their inner sensations; they have those automatic reactions, but especially if they are a Ne who latches onto every idea that comes down the plate at them, they may not be able to easily land on what they think, and what they feel is true. This can cause them to be out of tune with their emotions (but not usually their ethics – those things where they go NOPE, not for me, end of story, forget it). For example, an EFP may wind up doing something they hate for money, becoming more and more miserable—because they didn’t listen to their emotions about doing this job. That’s being out of synch with them. TJs can fall into this trap as well – doing something because it’s logical or makes money but their heart isn’t in it.

FJ/TP types can get out of synch with their emotions by people-pleasing or adapting their morals to the external circumstances to fit in and gain more acceptance; but the more they attempt to make others like them, and the further they get from their own feelings, the less they feel like a complete person, and the more they feel like a reflective surface—mirroring what others show them, without being authentic to their own experience. They can even not know where to start to find themselves, since they don’t know where others end and they begin. The process of self-analysis for them is what allows them to find what they truly believe or feel (analyzing what is me and what is them, where they end and I begin, where our opinions differ and what I want for my life, separate from what others expect of me), but it isn’t necessary to put words to their feelings so much as to gain an appropriate sense of self as separate from others.

[damonblack966]

The Surprising Truth Behind Your Struggle to Achieve Magic Success

In the realm of magic and manifestation, the prevalent notion of a simplistic "wish hard and get what you want" approach often leads to disappointment and frustration. Contrary to popular belief, the process of manifesting desires is not as straightforward as it may seem initially. Many individuals encounter repeated failures in making these concepts work, fostering doubts about the effectiveness of these practices or even questioning their own capabilities.

Let's be unequivocal: there is nothing inherently wrong with you. Manifestation and magic are indeed potent forces, but you might be overlooking a crucial piece of the puzzle. Today, we embark on a journey to explore why magic and the Law of Attraction may fall short and identify the missing elements essential for successful manifestation. We'll also delve into alternative approaches that can enhance our ability to bring our desires into reality.

The Role of the Law of Attraction:

For those familiar with the spiritual space, the Law of Attraction (LOA) is a well-known concept. In essence, it posits that like attracts like, meaning the energy and thoughts one holds draw corresponding experiences. While often perceived as distinct from witchcraft, many magical practices align with the LOA. Spells, for instance, are a way of externally holding a specific vibration using elements like colored candles and herbs, tapping into universal principles for manifestation.

However, the conventional emphasis on visualization and intention setting, while beneficial, constitutes only a fraction of the complete equation. To optimize magical practices, one must uncover the missing elements, with embodiment and ecstatic practices emerging as pivotal components.

Embodiment and Ecstatic Practices:

Embodiment involves connecting with the physical body, ensuring alignment with desired manifestations. Through practices like yoga and guided movements, one can tune into their true desires, anchoring the intended vibration within the body. Embracing embodiment prevents reliance solely on unpredictable thoughts, tapping into the immense power residing in the physical form.

Ecstatic practices, including meditation, dancing, chanting, and singing, have been utilized for centuries to connect with the higher self, inducing transformative shifts internally and externally. These practices unlock one's internal power, facilitating the release of trapped energy or trauma and elevating vibratory states for truly impactful manifestations.

The Pitfalls of Mainstream Interpretations:

As these concepts gain mainstream attention, a drawback emerges — many individuals teach them without a comprehensive understanding. Misinterpretations of the Law of Attraction lead to frustration and confusion, often focusing on techniques for external manifestations. While these techniques hold value, they overlook the more potent elements of the LOA, resulting in spiritual bypassing, self-blame, and difficulty in making magic or manifestation work.

The Missing Pieces: Embodiment and Ecstasy

Two critical elements absent from many manifestation practices are embodiment and ecstatic practices. Embodiment involves heightened awareness of the body, while ecstatic practices tap into the master vibration of ecstasy, opening channels for divine intelligence and facilitating transformative changes.

Embodiment: The Bridge Between Mind and Body

In our modern world, disconnecting the mind from the body has become commonplace. The goal of embodiment practices is to restore this connection, recognizing that emotions are fundamentally physical sensations. Neglecting the physical body hinders the manifestation process, as the Law of Attraction operates through feelings and emotions.

Ecstasy: The Master Vibration Unleashed

Ecstasy, as the master vibration, unlocks the potential to manifest anything one desires. Engaging in ecstatic practices aligns human consciousness with the higher self, removing blocks, accessing true power, and facilitating the manifestation of dreams and desires.

Transitioning from Theory to Practice:

Understanding the theory of magic and manifestation is distinct from creating a practice that yields results. Incorporating embodiment and ecstatic practices into an existing magical routine may seem challenging, but it doesn't require drastic changes overnight. Experimenting with different practices at your own pace can help you discover what works best for you and fits seamlessly into your daily life. Remember, the journey toward mastering manifestation is a gradual and personalized exploration.

[28whitepeonies]

The thing is as a fan myself I can relate to the frustration some fans feel with the process of the promo Louis got. But I have absolutely zero knowledge about good pr strategies, workings being music industry, radio stations etc bc i don’t work in that business. So this letter just confuses me on so many levels especially since I’m not even able to figure out how useful their statement and their demand in the eyes of a pr team actually is. All I can say is I feel embarrassed that fans think they know it better than a company does. And I also figured that some points very obviously contradict eachother in that letter. But that’s literally it. I just hope they won’t see it which is probably naive to think but god damn the secondhand embarrassment hits hard this time.

Hi friend

I had forgotten that this was in my inbox and I hadn’t replied, I don’t wanna open this can of worms back up but I also just wanted to answer real quick now that I’ve got something like a half formed thought.

I think fans being frustrated or any other sort of emotion is fine, but I think, a bit like you identify, you have to spend a minute thinking about why you feel that way and what it is you’re frustrated by because it usually stems from your own expectations or views. The fans who wrote that letter weren’t looking at the promo of Louis’ album from a position even remotely neutral, nor were they actually assessing either the promo or pr that’s been going on. There was also no acknowledgement of the reality of how the music industry works, the backstage stuff and what’s within and outwith the control of teams like BMG.

I think what’s pretty clear from it is that a big part of what they were upset about was actually about what they thought success looks like - about Louis’ album not being ‘viral’, not being all over TikTok and radio, not being adopted by the indie boys etc - all of which is based on their desires. Another thing that was pretty clearly was a fair bit of distress over their expectations of, and perceived lack of, praise for fans for ‘doing their part’. And then there’s a whole section on what they think Louis should be doing as a solo artist to escape One Direction and get new fans.

I’m not really interested in discussing that letter as an analysis of promo and PR because it’s not that at all, but I think it’s interesting from the perspective of how chunks of fandom view the music industry, which I think is not at all in line with reality, about fan expectations (and entitlement) and as I’m often piping on about, there’s a lot in there about control and the anger/distress when fans can’t control the lives of their fave artist.

[uschi-the-listener]

For oddman-the-oldman, who asked:

What is your idea of perfect happiness? 

Not as simple as it seems. Partly, it's detachment, being able to tune out all the background noise nagging for my attention. When that's done, having a project to do, like throwing pots on a wheel or crocheting an interesting pattern, or writing, or baking, or doing something with a tangible, satisfying ending.

What is your most marked characteristic?

Physical or otherwise? Physically, I'm very fat, noticeable from space, fat. Otherwise, people remark a quality I have that helps people feel calm, which is, believe me, ironic.

What do you consider your greatest achievement?

Another tough one. My Master's degree? My ongoing recovery from abuse and neglect? I feel good about both of those, but I think better than either of those is raising a healthy, intelligent, generous, kind, reasonably un-twisted son. He started out pretty amazing and I managed not to fuck him up too much.

What is your greatest fear?

Homelessness. It isn't rational, but it doesn't have to be.

What historical figure do you most identify with?

I can't answer this, though I reserve the right to edit this response if I can figure it out. I know myself too well, and historical figures too little to pick one.

Which living person do you most admire?

It changes periodically, but I think, just now, it's that heroic man who, armed with only a club, was able to lead the insurrectionists away from their intended victims.

Who are your heroes in real life?

Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez; Bernie Sanders; Mikhail Gorbachef; Gloria Steinem; Carl Rogers. A few others. You get my drift.

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? 

My indecisiveness and executive dysfunction which encourage each other.

What is the trait you most deplore in others? 

Cruelty.

What is your favorite journey? 

I'm not sure I understand this question. Physical? Emotional? Mine? Someone else's?

I like train travel from anywhere to anywhere. I like the process of learning or teaching a new skill and seeing or feeling the light bulb finally come on. I am probably getting this wrong.

What do you consider the most overrated virtue? 

Chastity. I suppose it has some value, but I have managed to maintain my integrity without it.

Which word or phrases do you most overuse? 

"All-righty!" Makes me want to pull out my tongue and smack my brain with it.

What is your greatest regret?

Unkindnesses and mistakes from my past that come back to haunt me when I am trying to fall asleep.

What is your current state of mind?

Ruffled feathers. Slight annoyance. I just baked a sweet bread that looked easy in the recipe but was not in real life. I made it and baked it, and it looks okay, but it wasn't worth it, no matter how good it turns out to be.

If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be? 

'Family' is a confusing concept. If that includes my parents and siblings, I would make them be kind. If it includes my son, I would like it if he lived closer. Me and my husband? More active. Take your pick.

What is your most treasured possession? 

I love most of my possessions. It's hard to say which I treasure most, like asking what song or book or work of art is my favorite. Picking one from the many is too mind-boggling for me.

What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? 

Mental illness with no option open to get help.

Where would you like to live? 

I'm fine right here, at least for now.

What is your favorite occupation? 

Therapist. Not easy work, or well paid, but when it works, it's beyond anything.

What is the quality you most like in a man? 

Compassion.

What is the quality you most like in a woman? 

Same same.

What are your favorite names?

Rose has always been a big one with me. Different names have different uses, though, and are often wrapped up in meaning for me. For instance, I love the name Hephzibah, but would not want to be named it. However, I named a beautiful orb-weaver spider Hephzibah, which suited her very well.

What is your motto?

I don't have one, but I often quote Socrates when he was purported to have said, "Be what you would like to seem." I guess that will do for a motto.

I was tagged by my dear friend oddman-the-oldman. I don't know who else to tag.

[comingtoaschoolnearyou]

Response to Gabe Zichermann's How Games Make Kids Smarter

What role have games played in education? Gabe seems to imply that games can increase fluid intelligence in networking, seeking novelty, challenging ourselves, thinking creatively and doing things the hard way. He suggests that games present a continuous learning process of learning to users.

What major issues are they identifying? Gabe mentioned that games are wired to produce pleasure, which leads to 'intrinsic reinforcement' because the brain seeks another surge of dopamine. He also states that 'study after study' shows that children who are predisposed to violence in games do not become violent themselves, but that games are a form of 'training' and that even if it's not violence, it'll be something else that trains children. Frustratingly, I think he is oversimplifying the complexity of happiness and pleasure in the brain. The ways in which dopamine (and other neurotransmitters such as oxytocin) work in the body continues to be an area of interest in research (therefore, we cannot say for certain A causes B). Furthermore, Gabe failed to mention that surges of dopamine have the potential to lead to addiction, as we may need more and more of the pleasure activity to reach the same levels of dopamine. I find this, in combination with his view that all forms of entertainment will be training our children in some way, to be problematic. Sure, we can encourage teachers to 'get into the game with your kids', 'become one with the game', 'enter the game and understand it to understand how kids' minds work' (AITLS's know how students learn) -- but I do not agree that parents should assume the same attitude. Personally, as a mum, I have my own conviction that I have a responsibility to lead and support my child's understanding of the world. As a result, my child does not 'lead' me and I believe there is value in learning self-control and discipline in our participation of activities that produce pleasure.

What are the benefits and limitations of gamification in education? Gabe claims that game-based curriculum has increased students' academic ability in the classroom. He has heard feedback from students that learning is 'fun and multiplayer'. In the bigger picture of globalisation, Gabe also claims that corporations over time will start implementing gamification in their apps. I'm seeing this to be true and have seen health apps offer badges if you can maintain a streak of consistent access. As for limitations, I'd like to offer this quote by Ribble & Bailey (2007):

"Most students today have more knowledge about technology than their teachers, but most have not had instruction on how and when to use technology appropriately. Too often the focus is on learning the technology itself, with little time given to discussing what is or isn't appropriate." 

References

Ribble, M & Bailey, G 2007, Digital Citizenship in Schools, Washington DC, ISTE.

Suggestions for Further Reading

Video Game Addiction and Emotional States: Possible Confusion Between Pleasure and Happiness?

The Addictive Brain: All Roads Lead to Dopamine

[brandingninja]

How to Design a Logo That Creates Impact for Your Brand

A logo is more than just a visual mark; it's the face of your brand and the first impression customers get of your business. A well-designed logo can set the tone for your brand's identity, communicate your values, and leave a lasting impact. So, how do you design a logo that truly resonates with your audience and stands out in a crowded market? Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you create a logo that makes an impact.

1. Understand Your Brand

Before you start sketching ideas, it's crucial to have a clear understanding of your brand. Ask yourself:

What are the core values of your brand?

What message do you want your logo to convey?

Who is your target audience?

Understanding these elements will guide your design choices and ensure that your logo aligns with your brand’s identity.

2. Keep It Simple

The best logos are often the simplest ones. A cluttered design can be confusing and hard to recognize. Think about iconic logos like Apple, Nike, or McDonald’s—each is simple yet instantly recognizable. Focus on creating a design that is clean and straightforward, with minimal elements that communicate the essence of your brand.

3. Choose the Right Colors

Colors play a significant role in how your brand is perceived. Different colors evoke different emotions and associations. For example:

Red can convey passion, excitement, and energy.

Blue often represents trust, stability, and professionalism.

Green is associated with nature, health, and tranquility.

Choose colors that reflect your brand’s personality and resonate with your target audience. Remember that colors should work well together and be effective in both color and black-and-white formats.

4. Typography Matters

The font you choose for your logo can say a lot about your brand. A bold, sans-serif font can convey strength and modernity, while a script font might evoke elegance and sophistication. Ensure that the typography is legible at all sizes and aligns with the tone of your brand.

5. Make It Versatile

Your logo will be used across various mediums—websites, business cards, merchandise, social media, and more. It’s essential that your logo looks good in different sizes and formats. Consider how your logo will appear in color, grayscale, and as a single color. A versatile logo will maintain its impact regardless of where it’s displayed.

6. Aim for Timelessness

Trends come and go, but a great logo should stand the test of time. While it’s tempting to follow current design trends, doing so can make your logo look dated in just a few years. Instead, aim for a design that is timeless and will remain relevant as your brand grows.

7. Seek Feedback and Refine

Once you have a few design options, gather feedback from others. Whether it’s from colleagues, focus groups, or even your target audience, getting an outside perspective can help you identify any potential issues and refine your design. However, be selective in whose opinions you consider—too many cooks can spoil the broth.

8. Tell a Story

A logo should do more than just look good; it should tell a story. Think about the narrative behind your brand and how your logo can reflect that story. Whether it’s through symbolism, color, or shape, a logo with a story can create a deeper connection with your audience.

9. Test It in Real-Life Scenarios

Before finalizing your logo, test it in real-life scenarios. Place it on different backgrounds, mock it up on your website, and see how it looks on a business card or merchandise. This will help you ensure that your logo works well in various contexts and is ready for the real world.

10. Trust the Process

Designing a logo is a creative process that requires patience and persistence. Don’t rush it. Take the time to explore different ideas, experiment with various elements, and iterate on your designs. The result will be a logo that not only looks great but also makes a lasting impact on your brand.

Conclusion

A well-designed logo is a powerful tool for creating a strong brand identity. By understanding your brand, keeping your design simple, choosing the right colors and typography, and ensuring versatility and timelessness, you can create a logo that truly resonates with your audience. Remember, your logo is often the first impression your customers will have of your brand—make it count.

Read more to learn how to design a winning logo for your brand. Or let us help you design a logo for your brand.

[brainanalyse]

Can Stress and Anxiety Cause Brain Fog

Introduction

Do you ever feel like your mind is in a haze, making it hard to focus or remember things? This mental cloudiness is often referred to as brain fog. While many factors can contribute to brain fog, stress and anxiety are two of the most common culprits. In this article, we’ll explore how stress and anxiety can cause brain fog and what you can do to manage it.

What is Brain Fog?

Definition of Brain Fog Brain fog isn’t a medical term but rather a way to describe a feeling of mental sluggishness. It can make you feel disconnected, forgetful, and unable to concentrate.

Symptoms of Brain Fog

Difficulty concentrating Memory problems Confusion or disorientation Trouble thinking clearly Mental fatigue Common Causes of Brain Fog Brain fog can be caused by various factors, including poor sleep, nutritional deficiencies, medications, and, notably, stress and anxiety.

Understanding Stress

Definition of Stress Stress is the body’s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response. It can be physical, emotional, or mental.

Types of Stress

Acute stress: Short-term stress that goes away quickly. Chronic stress: Long-term stress that persists over an extended period. Physical and Emotional Symptoms of Stress Increased heart rate Muscle tension Fatigue Irritability Anxiety Understanding Anxiety Definition of Anxiety Anxiety is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome. It’s a normal reaction to stress but can become chronic.

Types of Anxiety Disorders

Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) Panic disorder Social anxiety disorder Specific phobias Physical and Emotional Symptoms of Anxiety Restlessness Rapid breathing Sweating Trouble sleeping Constant worry How Stress Affects the Brain The Impact of Chronic Stress on the Brain Chronic stress can lead to changes in the brain’s structure and function. It can shrink the prefrontal cortex, responsible for memory and learning, and increase the size of the amygdala, which is involved in fear and stress responses.

Stress Hormones and Their Effects

Stress triggers the release of hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. While these hormones help in a short-term crisis, prolonged exposure can impair cognitive function.

Long-term Consequences of Stress on Cognitive Function Long-term stress can lead to problems with memory, attention, and decision-making. It can also increase the risk of developing mental health disorders.

How Anxiety Affects the Brain The Impact of Chronic Anxiety on the Brain Chronic anxiety can alter brain function, particularly in areas involved in emotion regulation and executive function.

Neurotransmitters Involved in Anxiety Anxiety is associated with imbalances in neurotransmitters like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, which play a role in mood regulation and cognitive function.

Long-term Consequences of Anxiety on Cognitive Function Prolonged anxiety can lead to cognitive impairments, including problems with memory, attention, and decision-making.

The Connection Between Stress, Anxiety, and Brain Fog How Stress and Anxiety Contribute to Brain Fog Stress and anxiety can disrupt the brain’s ability to process information, leading to brain fog. The constant state of alertness and worry drains cognitive resources, making it hard to think clearly.

Research Studies and Findings Studies have shown that individuals with chronic stress or anxiety often report higher levels of brain fog. These findings highlight the importance of managing stress and anxiety for cognitive health.

Real-life Examples Consider someone who is constantly stressed at work and anxious about meeting deadlines. Over time, they might find it increasingly difficult to concentrate, remember tasks, or make decisions, all signs of brain fog.

Signs That Stress and Anxiety Are Causing Brain Fog Identifying the Symptoms If you experience persistent mental fatigue, trouble concentrating, and memory issues, stress and anxiety might be the culprits.

How to Differentiate Brain Fog Caused by Stress and Anxiety from Other Causes It’s important to consider your lifestyle and mental health. If brain fog improves with stress reduction techniques, it’s likely related to stress and anxiety.

Coping with Stress-Induced Brain Fog

Stress Management Techniques Exercise: Physical activity reduces stress hormones and boosts endorphins. Time Management: Prioritize tasks and take breaks to avoid burnout. Mindfulness and Relaxation Exercises Meditation: Helps calm the mind and improve focus. Deep Breathing: Reduces stress and promotes relaxation. Healthy Lifestyle Changes Nutrition: Eat a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. Sleep: Ensure you get enough restful sleep each night. Coping with Anxiety-Induced Brain Fog Anxiety Management Techniques Therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help manage anxiety. Medication: Consult a doctor about medications that might help. Cognitive-behavioral Strategies Challenge Negative Thoughts: Replace them with more realistic ones. Exposure Therapy: Gradually face fears to reduce anxiety. Seeking Professional Help A mental health professional can provide personalized strategies and support for managing anxiety and brain fog.

Preventing Brain Fog

Long-term Strategies for Managing Stress and Anxiety Regular Exercise: Keeps stress and anxiety levels in check. Mindfulness Practices: Incorporate meditation and yoga into your routine. Building Resilience Positive Relationships: Surround yourself with supportive people. Healthy Coping Mechanisms: Develop hobbies and interests that bring joy. The Importance of a Support System Having friends, family, or a support group can provide emotional support and practical advice.

When to Seek Professional Help Recognizing When Brain Fog is a Serious Problem If brain fog persists despite self-care efforts, it may be time to seek professional help.

Types of Professionals Who Can Help Psychologists: Provide therapy and coping strategies. Psychiatrists: Can prescribe medication if necessary. Treatment Options Available Therapy: CBT, mindfulness-based therapy, and more. Medication: Antidepressants, anti-anxiety medications, or other prescriptions.

Conclusion

Brain fog can be a frustrating experience, but understanding its connection to stress and anxiety is the first step towards managing it. By adopting stress and anxiety management techniques, making healthy lifestyle changes, and seeking professional help when needed, you can clear the mental haze and regain your cognitive clarity. Remember, taking care of your mental health is just as important as caring for your physical health.

FAQs

What are the most common symptoms of brain fog? The most common symptoms of brain fog include difficulty concentrating, memory problems, confusion, trouble thinking clearly, and mental fatigue.

Can brain fog be a symptom of other medical conditions? Yes, brain fog can be a symptom of various medical conditions such as chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, thyroid disorders, and autoimmune diseases. It’s essential to consult a healthcare professional if you suspect an underlying medical condition.

How long does it take to recover from brain fog? The recovery time from brain fog varies depending on its cause. If brain fog is related to stress and anxiety, it may improve with effective stress management and anxiety reduction techniques. However, if it’s due to a medical condition, recovery might take longer and require specific treatment.

Can diet and exercise help reduce brain fog? Absolutely! A balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins can improve brain health. Regular exercise boosts blood flow to the brain and helps reduce stress and anxiety, which can significantly alleviate brain fog.

Is brain fog a permanent condition? Brain fog is usually not permanent and can be managed effectively with lifestyle changes, stress and anxiety management, and medical treatment if necessary. However, persistent brain fog should be evaluated by a healthcare professional to rule out any serious underlying conditions.

[petinfosite]

How do I keep my dogs off the couch?

Meta Description

Try putting up something physical if your dog is very inflexible. And won't learn that they aren't permitted on the couch.

The Complete Guide to Keeping Your Canines Off the Couch: "Mastering Equilibrium"

Imagine returning home on your cozy couch to unwind after a hard day. Only to discover that your pet has already made it to the seat of power. Dogs provide countless hours of love and company. Even so, keeping them off couches remains a common challenge for pet owners.

The conflict between your four-legged friend. And yet, a comfortable couch doesn't need to last forever. We'll look at practical methods in this extensive tutorial to address this. The common query is, "How do I keep my dogs off the couch?"

Developing an effective preventive strategy requires an understanding of the reasons why dogs initially draw toward the couch. Canine feelings, comfort-seeking habits, and a need to stay near their human group often impact their behavior.

We who are responsible pet owners must understand the triggers that push our furry friends to the couch. This requires delving into their minds. Understanding these cues allows us to modify our strategy to prevent undesirable behavior while maintaining our dogs' happiness and fulfillment.

Numerous pet owners attest to the reality of the struggle. Telling tales of their treasured animals. Curled up peacefully between the couch cushions. Imagine your aggravation when you keep discovering traces of your dog. Pleasant adventures from missing fur. To the subtle scent of companionship in your home.

Recognizing Your Dog's Behavior: An In-Depth Look into Dog Couch Comfort

Identifying the Need to Curl Up on the Couch:

Dog owners frequently get confused by their furry companions' attraction to the couch. Acknowledging dogs' inherent tendency to curl up on the couch is the first step towards changing this behavior.

Dogs constitute pack animals, and they feel safest and most at ease when they are with their human group members. This understanding is essential to creating a plan. That strikes a balance between their demand for connection. And the requirement to keep furniture limited.

Examine your dog's behavior and facial expressions to determine this desire. If they often find themselves drawn to the couch. Cuddling into its cushions, or putting their hungry. Head on the armrest, take note of this.

By identifying these tiny signs. You can take preventive steps to resolve the issue. And divert their focus to more appropriate options.

Determining Couch Behavior Triggers:

To effectively stop your dog from jumping onto the couch, you must identify the triggers that cause this behavior. Dogs might have different triggers depending on their circumstances, emotions, or surroundings.

Emotional triggers include anxiety, tension, and the need for warmth and comfort; environmental triggers include things like a loved one's fragrance on the couch.

Pay attention to the situations that lead to your dog's couch adventures. Would it be during a storm, when they might look for comfort? Or maybe they want to talk about their after-workout relaxation moments with you after a walk?

Recognizing these triggers, you can modify your strategy to deal. With the underlying issue and improve the success. And compassion for the training process.

By solving the puzzle of your dog's sofa preference, you create the groundwork for a focused and empathetic approach.

Acknowledging their need and figuring out what makes them happy. You can deal with this sort of conduct and create a space where you. And your dog may live together in harmony.

Developing Cozy Substitutes: A Dog Haven Outside the Couch

Supplying a warm dog blanket or bed:

Providing your dog with a cozy and attractive substitute. Is one of the best methods to prevent them. From snatching the couch for themselves.

Invest in a cozy dog bed or silky blanket that is only used by them. A comfortable corner of the area is where you should put it; make sure it is well-padded and away from busy areas.

Because dogs tend to gravitate to warm, soft surfaces. Choosing a bed made of materials that resemble. Your couch's feel can be particularly tempting.

Put something you've recently donned on the bed. To provide them with a familiar smell. And help them get used to their new sleeping area.

This not only gives your pet a comfortable haven. But it also helps them form a good association with their place.

Showcasing Furniture That Is Specially Made for Dogs:

Adding dog-friendly furniture to your home is a proactive way to satisfy your pet's need for coziness and proximity. Think about investing in sofas or chairs made of sturdy, easily cleaned materials that are pet-friendly.

These specialty items frequently have washable and detachable covers, which makes them a sensible option for homes with dogs.

As an alternative, look into chic dog-friendly couch covers. That will shield your current couch. While also giving your pooch a special place to hang out.

These blankets, meet your dog's desire for a cozy. Comfortable seats frequently come in a variety of colors. And designs that go in perfectly with your decor.

By presenting these options, you establish a win-win scenario. That guarantees your dog's happiness without jeopardizing it. The structural strength of your furniture.

By choosing these substitutes, you give your dog a comfortable haven. While at the same actively encouraging them. To avoid the couch.

A designated dog bed or blanket combined with furniture. That is suitable for dogs creates a space. Where your dog can unwind and feel safe. Which eventually promotes a peaceful coexistence between pets.

Education and Positive Reinforcement: Using Dog Commands to Develop Couch Manners

Teaching fundamental instructions such as "Stay" and "Off":

The secret to teaching your dog appropriate behavior is effective communication. Teaching your dog simple instructions like "off" and "stay" gives you the authority to establish boundaries and expectations for their behavior when they're on the couch.

To correlate the commands with particular actions, begin with brief but regular training sessions that use positive reinforcement.

To use the order "off," gently nudge your dog toward the couch. Give them goodies and heartfelt praise when they cooperate. To strengthen the link between the instruction and the intended behavior, it is important to be consistent; and repeat the training regularly.

Your dog will eventually get adept at responding quickly, which will make the space more couch-friendly.

Giving Recognition and Treats for Good Behavior:

Using positive reinforcement to train your dog is a great way to control their behavior. Give your pet snacks and singing praise as soon as they exhibit the desired behavior, such as remaining off the couch or obeying directions.

Positive reinforcement produces a positive reinforcement loop, and dogs thrive on receiving praise. Make sure the goodies you select are really tasty for your dog and save them for training.

A delicious reward and spoken reinforcement work together to establish a strong link between the desired conduct and the desired result.

If you consistently provide reinforcement, your dog will eventually by choice choose to obey your directions, encouraging a couch-free living environment through pleasurable and constructive interactions.

Creating a No-Couch Area with Pet-Friendly Strategies by Using Barriers

Using Sprays for Pets on the Couch:

Pet-friendly sprays might be a useful tool in the fight to get your dog off the couch. Dogs are effectively discouraged from visiting the treated location by the unpleasant fragrances that these carefully prepared sprays create.

Select a spray that won't injure your pet or deteriorate your furniture by choosing ingredients that are safe and harmless.

Apply a liberal amount of the sprayer on the parts of the couch that your dog usually targets when using it. By gradually teaching your dog to identify the sofa with a bad experience, the fragrance will serve as a deterrent.

Reapplying the spray frequently is crucial, particularly after cleanliness or if the aroma fades with time. Your dog will eventually learn to recognize the treated regions as off-limits and establish a firm barrier.

Using Aluminum Foil or Double-Sided Tape as Motivators:

A further useful tactic for establishing a no-couch zone is to use tactile deterrents like aluminum foil or double-sided tape.

Double-sided tape tends to stick to dogs' paws and makes an unpleasant noise when walked on, therefore they usually don't enjoy it.

By carefully positioning these barriers on the couch, you may make your dog's experience uncomfortable without endangering it.

Put some double-sided tape over the couch cushion's edges or any other areas that your dog likes to chew on. As an alternative, place aluminum foil sheets over the cushions. Your dog won't leap onto the couch because of the surprising texture and sensations.

Your dog will eventually seek out other welcoming and comfy options since they will come to connect the couch with these unpleasant encounters.

By including these deterrents in your plan, you provide your dog with a concrete reminder that the couch is prohibited.

You can create a defined barrier during the training process while guaranteeing your dog's health and safety by using pet-friendly spraying, double-sided tape, or foil with aluminum.

Setting Uniform Limits: Developing a Couch Protocol for Dog Peace

Determining Couch Access Regulations:

Establishing obvious and regular guidelines for your dog's utilization of the couch is essential to creating a peaceful living environment.

Dogs learn best when things are clear and predictable, so setting clear rules for conduct helps them grasp what is expected of them.

Make it clear if there are any restrictions, like using a specific blanket or obtaining permission before participating, or if the couch is completely off-limits.

Enforcing these guidelines requires consistency. Giving your dog conflicting messages might confuse you, so try to avoid doing so.

Make sure your dog knows the rules around couch access, whether you use hand signals, vocal orders, or any combination of the two.

You may create the groundwork for a respectful and happy connection with your pet by creating a disciplined atmosphere.

Applying Uniform Punishment for Violations of the Rules:

Ensuring that there are uniform penalties for breaking the rules is just as crucial as establishing them. Dogs are association learners, thus associating an action with a reward system serves to reinforce a desirable habit.

Give your dog a stern but gentle correction if they try to go on the couch without your permission. A few examples of consequences are guiding them to their allotted location, focusing on something else for a short while, or giving a calm, firm order like "off."

It's critical to enforce penalties as soon as the undesirable behavior starts so that your dog can learn to associate the behavior with its outcome. With constant practice, your dog will eventually learn the rules and punishments and help create a respectful, mutually understood, couch-free home.

Your best partners in striking the right balance when it comes to setting boundaries are consistency and clarity. You may establish a regulated atmosphere that encourages good behavior and strengthens the bond between you and your dog by outlining the rules for sofa access and imposing consistent consequences for destroying them.

Frequent Exercise and Mental Reward: Promoting a Well-Balanced Dog Lifestyle

Making Sure Your Dog Gets Sufficient Exercise:

A happy, well-mannered dog is usually one that gets plenty of exercise. Frequent exercise benefits your dog's general health and is essential for controlling their behavior, which includes their love of exploring the couch.

To help your dog burn off extra energy and lessen the chance of him looking for the sofa out of restlessness or pent-up energy, try to take your dog for daily walks, playdates, or runs.

Take your dog on activities appropriate to his breed, age, and personal preferences. Adapting the exercise regimen to your dog's demands, whether it be a game of catch or an exciting excursion, can guarantee that they are physically content and less likely to transform the couch into their favorite spot.

Offering Games and Toys That Stimulate the Mind:

Mental stimulation is just as vital as physical exercise in stopping undesirable behaviors. Invest in a range of games and toys that stimulate the mind to keep your dog's mind engaged and active.

Collaborative games, puzzle toys, and treat-dispensing devices offer mental obstacles that can be just as exhausting as physical ones.

To keep things fresh and keep kids from getting bored, replace these toys frequently. When their minds are engaged, dogs are less willing to look for other entertainment options like the couch.

You can lessen their desire for them to climb on the furniture and improve their general well-being by keeping their brains busy.

Getting Expert Assistance: Leading Your Dog with Skill

 

Seeking Advice from a Certified Dog Instructor:

Sometimes the skills of a qualified dog trainer are necessary to overcome behavioral issues. Consulting a professional dog trainer can offer insightful advice and tailored tactics if you're unable to keep the pet off the couch.

A trainer can evaluate your dog's behavior, spot underlying problems, and collaborate with you to put training methods into practice.

Expert trainers can teach you effective communication techniques with your dog in addition to having a thorough understanding of canine behavior.

An expert trainer can be an invaluable ally in creating a couch-free environment, whether the goal is to treat particular behavioral issues or reinforce basic directions.

Examining Workshops or Classes on Training for Your Dog:

Look into enrolling your dog in workshops or behavioral lessons for a more thorough approach to managing their behavior. In addition to providing your dog with training, these organized sessions give them the chance to socialize and be exposed to a variety of stimuli under supervision.

When it comes to dealing with particular issues like anxiety during separation or territorial behavior, behavioral classes are especially helpful.

Both you and your canine companion can gain useful skills and strategies to deal with typical behavioral problems by attending these workshops.

Positive behavior reinforcement is encouraged in this controlled setting with the help of knowledgeable trainers, which promotes a more harmonic and balanced relationship between you and your pet.

By combining consistent exercise, cerebral stimulation, and expert advice, you start to train your dog's behavior completely. By attending to your dog's physical and emotional requirements, you can prevent accidents on the couch and raise a contented, balanced dog friend.

Setting Up Furniture Barriers to Create Dog-Friendly Areas in Your House

Pet barriers as a means of limiting access

Pet gates are useful tools for dividing up your house into defined regions and keeping your dog out of places like the couch in the living room.

To limit access and make sure your pet is aware of the boundaries, carefully position pet gates at the entrances. Select gates that are strong, simple to erect, and sufficiently high to deter jumping.

Gradually present the idea so that your dog may become used to the new limits. Your dog will eventually learn to respect the boundaries created by the barriers if you provide them with beneficial reinforcement when they obey the gate.

This is an easy approach to prevent your dog from going near the prized couch.

Trying Coverings or Covers for Furniture:

Using covers or slipcovers to protect the furniture not only preserves the upholstery but also acts as a physical barrier for your dog.

Choose coverings that are strong and simple to clean so they can survive the abrasions of your prospective dog companions. Your dog might be deterred from attempting to jump onto the furniture by the tactile difference.

Select covers that go well with your décor and give another line of protection against spills, scratches, and pet hair.

To keep this tactic working and guarantee that the covers stay on and become a permanent feature of the couch countryside, regularity is essential.

Conclusion

The secret to successfully keeping our cherished canines off the couch is a comprehensive strategy based on knowledge, handling the environment, and training.

Through an exploration of the subtleties of dog behavior, we can determine the reasons for our furry friends' sofa conquests and develop more focused interventions.

Every tactic adds to a holistic plan for puppy harmony, from providing comfortable alternatives and using deterrents to setting constant boundaries and including frequent exercise.

With the help of training and reinforcement strategies, we can effectively mold desired behavior in our dogs by teaching them basic commands and rewarding excellent behavior with affection and treats.

By using deterrents, which may be anything from double-sided glue to pet-friendly sprays, you can add a layer of concrete direction and reduce the attractiveness of the couch.

Maintaining consistency is crucial when it comes to giving enough opportunity for mental and physical stimulation, as well as when it comes to imposing rules and punishments.

We create an atmosphere where inviting alternatives to the couch outweigh the couch's attractiveness by being aware of and responsive to our dogs' needs.

FAQs

What makes dogs adore couches so much?

Because of their pack tendencies and want to be near their human relatives, dogs tend to gravitate to couches. The couch offers a cozy and elevated area that responds to their natural feelings for warmth and security.

How can I stop my dog from climbing on the couch at all times?

The key to successfully educating your pet to avoid utilizing the sofa is to use barriers, systems of incentives, behavior analysis, and appealing alternates. A successful technique also requires training, consistency, and the establishment of a no-dog area.

Are sprays meant for pets acceptable for my dog to use?

Sprays intended for pets are indeed made especially to be acceptable for dogs. Dogs are usually put off from visiting the treated area by the natural scents used in these sprays. Make sure the products are non-toxic and pet-safe by always reading the labels.

How frequently should I give my dog training cues to ensure that they stay off the couch?

Reinforcing training instructions requires consistency. To keep a strong connection between the orders and the intended behavior, brief, frequent training sessions centered on commands such as "off" or "stay" have to be held. Reward good behavior with treats and compliments.

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Emotions of Grief

Today's inspiration comes from:

Through a Season of Grief

by Bill Dunn & Kathy Leonard

Editor's note: Grief that comes with loss is overwhelming. Emotions are so heavy, we can stagger beneath the weight. Scripture becomes even more precious during bereavement because we remember that God will never leave us alone. Lean in with this excerpt from Through a Season of Grief.

"'Your Emotions

Your emotions can be intense, draining, and hard to hold back; they run deep and are tangled up inside you.

Everyone goes through some unexpected emotions, and it helps for you to identify and sort out the emotions that apply to you. This is part of the healing process.

Which emotions have you experienced during the grieving process?

denial rejection guilt anger jealousy fear pain loss sorrow apathy rage confusion anxiety sadness inadequacy envy dread anguish betrayal distrust loneliness helplessness disappointment resentment vindictiveness depression bitterness dismay abandonment lack of control

Jesus can identify with your sorrows.

He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we esteemed Him not. — Isaiah 53:3

Lord Jesus, You alone know my suffering and pain. Please sort through these emotions with me. Amen.

Sudden and Unpredictable

Emotions during grief do not occur in an orderly fashion. You cannot follow a checklist and mark off the emotions you are finished with and then move on to the next. They come suddenly and unpredictably.

“People ask me, ‘How are you doing?’ And I say, ‘Wonderful.’ One moment I’m sobbing uncontrollably — I carry Kleenex around in my pocket — and the next moment I’m so exhilarated with joy with all that God is doing in my life,” says Dr. Jim Conway.

Circumstances will change. People will change. Surroundings will change. But the Bible leads you to the one sure thing:

I the Lord do not change. — Malachi 3:6

Almighty, unchanging God, I grasp on to Your hand as my emotions confuse and overwhelm me. You alone cannot be moved, and I am confident that as long as I remain in You, I, too, will not be moved. Amen.

Out Of Control

Not only are your emotions unpredictable, but they may also seem uncontrollable. This changing nature combined with the intensity of the emotions can cause you to feel disoriented, forgetful, and over-powered.

“There was this overwhelming feeling of being out of control... overwhelmed and watching life pass by,” says Cindy following her daughter’s death.

Your response to these uncontrollable emotions can be confusing to you as well as to others; for instance, sometimes you may want people with you, and sometimes you do not. You may also act in ways you later regret.

Job expressed this sentiment:

If only my anguish could be weighed and all my misery be placed on the scales! It would surely outweigh the sand of the seas—no wonder my words have been impetuous. — Job 6:2–3

Precious Lord, You know the desires of my heart. In my confusion give me peace to know that You are in control of all life and You do not make mistakes. Amen.

God puts great salve on deep wounds.

This Can't Be Happening

Although your mind knows the facts, your heart is often reluctant to accept the death of someone you know and love.

“You may have a tendency to deny,” says Dr. H. Norman Wright. “Denial covers over the sharpness of the pain.”

Denial is a process that occurs during grieving to minimize the struggle. This is a natural and transitional part of your healing journey. Randy shares how he experienced denial after his sister died, but over time, he found that denial was impossible: “After the funeral I was basically in denial. I tried to dive into my work and forget about it. It’s taken a long time. Little things will remind me: things that she did, places she went to. Things like that will all of a sudden bring this very empty, hollow feeling inside me, where I can’t breathe. I feel like the air is just sucked out of me. It’s been five years, but trying to deny it or to ignore it is not possible.”

You may be tempted to “dive into” your work and fill your mind with anything but the truth of the situation. But the book of Proverbs tells us to be open to the truth and to pursue it:

Buy the truth and do not sell it; get wisdom, discipline and understanding. — Proverbs 23:23

Jesus, give me the courage to face the truth. With Your help I know I can do it. Amen.

Isolation

Sometimes you just want everyone to leave you alone. So you build a protective wall around yourself, not only to keep other people out, but also to guard against unwanted emotions. You may think you are playing it safe, but instead you are blocking out the healing.

“There are people who love you and want to pray for you and want to talk with you,” says Dr. Tim Clinton. “If you allow that to happen,

God puts great salve on deep wounds.”

Doesn’t that sound wonderful—a great salve on deep wounds? Jeremiah cried out to God for just such a thing and found Him to be faithful and true.

Is there no balm in Gilead? Is there no physician there? Why then is there no healing for the wound of my people? — Jeremiah 8:22

‘But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the Lord, ‘because you are called an outcast, Zion for whom no one cares’. — Jeremiah 30:17

Faithful God, bring me out of my self-imposed isolation that I may be healed by the Balm of Gilead—Jesus Christ. Amen.

Suppression Can Lead to Explosion

Are you quelling your emotions within you and consciously keeping them at bay? Think about the amount of force and energy this involves. Your emotions may be packed in so tightly that the pressure could build up to the point of possible explosion.

“You can delay the grieving process by denying it or just not allowing yourself to cry or to face it,” says Dr. H. Norman Wright. “It’s like you put a lid on your life and on your emotions. It is a form of repression, and whenever you repress any of your feelings, you bury them alive. Someday there will be a resurrection, but you will not be in charge of it. It could come through depression. It could come out through explosiveness.”

In the midst of overwhelming emotional suffering and pressure, Jesus looked to God with determination.

And being in anguish he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground. — Luke 22:44

Holy God, may my resolve to release my emotional pressure and to seek You be as earnest as Jesus’ prayer. Amen.

Anger: Your Strongest Emotion

The Bible instructs you to be angry!

Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger. — Ephesians 4:26 NASB

Anger by itself is not a sin, and it is one of the most common emotions associated with grief.

“I went through that shock and denial period for about three months,” says Dora after the death of her daughter. “Then suddenly, as the shock wore off and the reality set in—anger. Intense anger. Just wanting to wail, to scream from the depths. There’s no way I could express as much anger as I was feeling.”

You need to release your anger in a way that is productive for healing and not harmful to others around you. To release your anger does not mean to lash out, to throw a fit, or to lose control of it; releasing your anger involves the open and honest expression of your emotions in a way that is physically, mentally, and emotionally freeing. You can do this by expressing your anger to God in prayer (don’t hold back!). You can release your anger in the presence of a person who will listen quietly and neither judge nor offer advice. Another healthy way to release anger is to write down every angry thought that comes to mind until you cannot think of another angry sentence to write. Some people find that expressing their anger out loud—and loudly—in a private place is helpful.

The fact that you should “not let the sun go down on your anger” means you should deal with it when it is present. Don’t go to sleep and forget it, only to have it come back in greater strength later.

Holy Spirit, grant me the freedom and opportunity to release my anger in a way that helps, not hurts. Amen."'

Excerpted with permission from Through a Season of Grief by Bill Dunn and Kathy Leonard, copyright The Church Initiative, Inc.

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It's still very good that I haven't had a meltdown in weeks now. But I still feel guilty that the only times I have ever panicked or had any meltdowns was in relation to N. Dreams or nightmares?

It's a lot of things to process.

Big change. It takes a while to shift my mindset. But I still see him as a friend.

I try really hard to be a good person.

A good friend. But right now I'm not sure.

I'm still processing the break up, I'm back into writing as if how much stress it caused me to have meltdowns so often was causing me to get depressed and lose interest in things. I got writers block.

I feel so much better now.

It's sad that I couldn't be this productive and motivated before. Ambitious.

I wish I could have been able to accept that I can do things for myself. Be free.

I feel safer now I guess?

My decision to get a female driving instructor is comforting. Hopeful.

I feel like without the anxiety and stress that I had before I'll get on better than I did before. I need to keep up with the plans.

My goals are to write and practice guitar every day. Eventually I will post things on YouTube and I want to learn the Nick Cave song off by heart at least.

My love and trust for N might be evolving, as it is always unconditional yet has grown platonic, I take with me the lessons he taught me through all my denial and doubt over how I could possibly do things without anyone telling me I was doing it wrong somehow. At least now I trust him more as a friend. I'm glad for that.

As my best friend he will always be remembered most of all. Nakama.

My anxiety seems to be a lot better recently and that makes me happy.

I need to process other things too.

I think I might be gay? I'm an egg.

I'm not sure yet, I told N I think I might be.

I told him I've been questioning everything and honestly I had a lot of dysphoria.

I question so much eventually I'm going to question and overthink the first question.

"Was I meant to be born a boy?"

"I identify with Andy/Angie more than my birth name so maybe I want to be a guy?"

"I do love to be called my gender neutral name and gender neutral pronouns"

"I would have been called Andrew"

And then I think about how I was scared I'd lost my attraction to N before and I felt that wishing for not having anything.

I don't want to be touched down there.

I don't want to have any surgery there.

I feel weird and confusing to sex.

The last thing I want is to make N think he's turned me gay. But also I never felt like I could be my true self with him.

There was always that wall in the way.

Sides of the wall were transparent but it was never as accessible as the way things were back when I used to blog about it on here back in the day. I loved him directly.

Fireworks in all that. Intense emotional outbursts and meltdowns aside. He was a good egg and a humble person. My muse.

He's still my muse. N is like JW a lot.

JW now he'll eventually outgrow Mel too.

Or would that be a misdirection? Who is to say. But generally I want to focus on me.

Writing this helps me a lot. To process.

I'm so tired too. I must try sleep.