#don’t invalidate people

[chubby-cinna-bun]

Since I had to reply to this post right here, I thought I’d explain a bit more about my regression.

TW: Mentions of verbal abuse, physical abuse, domestic abuse, mentions of past S/H, and extreme depression.

Please do not read if you are not in the right headspace, this post is not light hearted in any way form or fashion.

This is simply an informative post about why I regress.

My parents, when I was younger (about 4) got into a physical fight when I was in the next room. Unfortunately this was not the only time they had done this, but it was definitely the last time. It ended up in broken windows, a broken windshield on my fathers motorcycle, hair loss on my mother, and bruises on both of them.

I had to listen to it all.

They ended up divorcing after that, as they had enough of fighting, screaming matches, hair pulling, ect.

My mom had me when she was young, 17, and was kicked out of my grandmothers house, so she never really saw good parenting, she only did what she knew.

Unfortunately, that was yelling, screaming sometimes, hitting, and name calling.

Throughout the years this became an unhealthy norm to me. I thought I deserved it when I was abused, and then justified it, since she was my mother.

Later on, my mom got with my step father, who while is a great person, was in a very toxic relationship, leading to him being drunk most of the time. He had two moods when drunk: sad, or angry.

When he was angry, he did things to my mother like make fun of her, push my elderly grandfather, run off, ect.

I witnessed all of that.

This also became a norm for me.

I was S/Hing at the age of 10.

You can’t sit here and tell me that it was ok, or that I was going to get better. I punished myself for everything going on.

When I was a bit older, about 11-12, I met my ex boyfriend. They where so sweet and introduced me to age regression. They shortly came out as trans, and me being what I thought was a lesbian, broke it off after that, but continued to have contact with them. I don’t anymore, but I wish I did.

Agere has helped me over the years with stress, anxiety, managing triggers, and coping with things that I shouldn’t have to explain.

The only reason I am, is that now that I feel like I’ve been invalidated, I should explain myself. Not that I have to, but because I want to.

Please, please. Do not invalidate someone’s regression just because you don’t understand. You never know what they have gone through, survived, and witnessed to bring them into agere. Agere has helped me, and I shouldn’t feel like i need to validate myself for anyone, and yet I do.

Please be aware.

If you have any questions, please DM me, I don’t want asks about it, due to this not being my typical sort of posting.

[blackbatcass]

listen I know it’s kind of corny and inaccurate to act like every single person in the dc universe knows each other and is besties but it IS endlessly funny to me to follow the web of connections and see how many degrees removed from each other everyone is.

like look at the arrowfam okay. ollie and dinah are together, ollie is homoerotic best friends with hal, dinah is homoerotic best friends with babs. roy is dating dick, has a kid with jade, and is basically an adoptive father to both grant emerson and rose wilson. connor is dating kyle and is constantly followed around by eddie fyers. mia is friends with a lot of the second gen teen titans kids, had an on-again-off-again thing going on with steph for a while, and is currently dating sienna. emiko is besties with courtney and some of the other recent teen titans. sin has a small army of protective aunts from the birds of prey. the real question is how far does it go before ollie puts a cap on the number of people who are invited to family brunch on sundays

[gur0hana]

Can anyone tell me why lesboys/turigirls/gaybians are so hated in the queer community when the entire point of this community is to be yourselves and destroy gender norms?

Aren’t we supposed to be supporting every form of queerness, even weird and confusing forms, and continuing to break down those societal pressures around sexuality?

Everyone preaches inclusivity, freedom, and equality, and tells you to be queer and proud! Until you’re too queer. Until your queerness can’t just be boiled down to “boy who likes girls” or “nonbinary who likes girls”. Sometimes gender and sexuality are twisted up and combined together, sometimes they’re complicated. Sometimes gender isn’t one feeling, but a bunch of tiny feelings. Sometimes gender is several things at once.

So why is all of that so easy to accept… until it comes to lesboys/turigirls/gaybians? Why is it so hard to understand that I’m both a boy and a girl who is gay for men and lesbian for women? Using the terms I use gives me euphoria. And why is it okay to take my euphoria from me when you just don’t want to understand my identity?

The same arguments I see thrown around attacking lesboys have been used against neopronouns and xenogenders. But now xeno/neo users are LITERALLY using those arguments against other identities. How does that make sense??

[anachronistic-falsehood]

i understand why there are so many people complaining about fitpac wedding but also guys. think of the comedy potential for a fitpac wedding. them having to make their minecraft characters kiss. ccfit has his head in his hands and won’t stop fumbling his words. ccpac is shrinking down in his chair and you can only see like three hairs on his head at this point. fit makes ramon his best man. richas is the flower boy. fit and pac both get so flustered when they’re calling each other their husbands for the first time. fit would probably do the jumping jacks emote at the altar. pac would probs do the fall to pieces emote like a thousand times. they would be just as silly and awkward as they always have been. the comedy potential guys think about it

[assbestos]

Anyone who’s ever shat on f1nn5ter for doing his thing take it back right fucking now bc he’s genderfluid and bisexual.

[kentopedia]

thank you all for all the kind comments and messages lately, i appreciate you all endlessly :( i wish i could adequately put into words how grateful i am for each and every one of you 🤍 i’ve been having some better days !!! trying to remind myself that even a tiny step is still progress and things won’t be like this forever :,)

[ageofevermore]

i struggled finding the words to explain the crippling anxiety and worthlessness i felt surrounding personal attachments/relationships and this is everything i’ve never been able to put into words, but it makes me feel a whole lot less crazier

[mikesbasementbeets]

"if they don’t tell me explicitly that mike was never attracted to el then that means he was"

[removes hands while kissing]

[unresponsive to kiss & "i love you," eyes wide open]

[the sunglasses stay on during kiss, also get off me you're crushing the flowers i carefully placed right in between us]

[no fear]

[one fear]

"idk if they don’t make it clear to me that he doesn’t love el romantically then that means he does"

"they haven't given any indication yet that he doesn't like girls..."

"yeah, mike has definitely shown attraction to girls"

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[ghostvibesonly]

can we please not instantly hate on the only other guy showing genuine interest in stolas and act as if he’s gonna end up being a terrible person that blitzø’s gonna “save” stolas from

[choclamilk]

it’s confirmed eddie diaz is a character that can be represented for queer people or not ❤️

[mother-of-houseplants-2]

ppl who come under posts where eldest siblings are venting abt the hardships they experienced due to being the eldest sibling like “actually this is middle sibling coded this happens to youngest siblings because of ppl like you this experience doesn’t belong to you where is the younger sibling rep” STOPPP i get it these are realities that exist for ppl who aren’t eldest siblings yes I KNOW every family situation is different maybe your older sister sucked maybe you had to take take care of your siblings idk idk idk but for fucks sake let people vent without invalidating them??? shit like this is WHY eldest siblings have complexes lmaooooo leave us ALONE and make your own post!!!

[missmastectomy]

Absolutely hate how “queer” has become an acceptable way to refer to LGBT people, as if it’s not a slur. I can’t tell you how many times young straight people have asked if I was “queer,” because most people don’t assume I’m a straight woman.

Like… y’all really have no clue just how offensive that word is. In my conservative southern town, queer = gay = pervert = invert. Less than, disgusting by nature of being SSA or GNC. Not to mention that literally all the older gay people I’ve talked to absolutely think of it as a slur. It never was an identity the way it has become now. It was a degrading term people spat at the time before people were kicked out of their houses, abused, or killed.

Which makes it even more repulsive to me when straight people call themselves this. It’s why I hate the term so much. It is utterly meaningless. You’re queer? Well what the fuck does that mean? And if you push a lot of these people and ask if they’re bi or gay they hardly ever give a straight (lol) answer. Without fail these kinds of people are “queer” because they’re non-binary or demisexual or some made up crap.

Like that Bambi girl from Eurovision. As far as I know she’s not attracted to women or at least never talked about it. Her ENTIRE basis for being LGBT is that she’s non-binary and alternative. But how is that the same as being SSA, or transsexual for that matter?? You live life as a straight woman. Nobody sees you as anything but a woman.

You’re not “queer.” If an LGBT person wants that label then fine. I don’t get it, but call yourself what you like. But not if you’re not SSA. I will always hate these straight activists who had the gall to take our community away from us and make a slur against us mainstream.

[hatchetboycore]

honestly, by being anti endo you are actively saying that you believe they exist. if they didn’t exist, you wouldn’t have to say that. you wouldn’t have to have an opinion on if they exist or not, and because you do, you’re admitting that you think they’re real.

[multifandomangel]

fine. i’ll say it.

the only reason people hate jordan and seaver but love emily is because the characters jordan and seaver “replaced” eventually came back; emily technically replaced elle, but everyone eventually got over it when they realized she wasn’t coming back.

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

thought about only talk about this on private but too big emotion impulse control not working (not that it ever do) n aware this bitter unfair extreme binary dichotomy exaggerate “catastrophizing” or whatever but 👍 right now don’t care. yea autism ugly trauma for be ignored abused in community ugly

seeing two group people on that post about LSN level 1 (etc) autistics that escaped containment

1. those who regulars on our (general our, HrSN / level 2&3 / severe / nonverbal / comorbid ID / whatever language we use describe self) blog who interact reblog listen ally who hyper anxious about them speak over us that they forget they allow exist too allow say struggle too without disclaimer about them “be LSN/level 1/etc n so not nearly as bad/can never understand”. aka who post was about. it okay you can exist as self can relax can take up space

2. those who probably never reblogged stayed followed intentionally listened on purpose try learn more about us beyond occasional reblog on their dash, maybe this first time ever see someone like me. maybe this first time they ever reblog from someone like us n it post validating them. or only time ever talk about people like us is to talk about how they always be compared to us n people who invalidate them use us invalidate them (which sucks but if this the literal only time you remember we exist. come on). never listened to A WORD by us unless we used as this mythical group (that only exist in concept not actual humans around them) that can be used for their argument speak for us by speak over us. n cannot bear thing not about them n selective cherry pick post. you all need be prescribed very different post

it shows

[poormansmeridian]

The man who thinks that children should be put in a pit with wild dogs and solve deadly puzzles at a young age thinks your opinion is invalid.