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This a a reminder to not fall victim to the sunk-cost fallacy. Just because you invested time and energy into something, does not mean you should indefinitely waste more time and energy on it, if you decide it’s not what you want anymore. This goes for anything, from books, to relationships, to jobs, to hobbies, etc.
If it’s not serving you anymore, move on.
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"just as I did, in 1983."
you'd never know my favourite parts of the show are the fucked up insane bits when my first instinct is to draw the cheesiest thing imaginable
#my art#interview with the vampire#iwtv amc#iwtv#armand iwtv#daniel molloy#armand#armandaniel#devils minion#drew this before the finale but idk maybe this is during the unspecified amount of time between armands divorce and daniels press tour#the titian painting doesnt fit at ALL with the timeline btw#i THOUGHT it did bc i assumed 1508 was when armand was turned into a vampire BUT upon reflection thats more likely the year he was born#and even then the painting was made in like 1510 so fuck me i guess. also im foggy on when armand was taken to rome#idk man i havent read the books and i failed art history on two separate occasions i cannot endeavor for accuracy#anyway as much as i love 70s/80s devils minion i have equal love for old man daniel#his cynicism has been tempered by time... refined like a diamond... he dont gaf and bullies his loser vampire and its hilarious#like ''sure yeah fine all these old italian renaissance guys saw ur ethereal otherworldly beauty but literally anybody can see that''#''IM the only mf who gets to experience the incandescent joy of seeing you be a messy idiot''#sidenote trying to make armand look unflattering is impossible u can blame the show for casting the worlds most beautiful man
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I think one underrated tragedy of Ice King's scars is that he probably took away Simon's sense of levity.
Like in his very limited appearances before Simon is consumed by the crown we see he's kind of a silly dude. In his introduction video, he only put on the crown in order to playfully tease his fiancee. Plus watching him make light of the loneliness and general misery for a young girl in a broken world. He was a dedicated man, who was generous and loved with his whole heart and threw himself one hundred percent into everything he did. He was also a fun lil guy.
But after almost a millennia of being a mad man, the brunt of every joke, someone who only existed as a broken caricature of himself and couldn't be counted on to take anything seriously, I imagine he was done with it. Now he wants to focus back on his academic endeavors, on his role as a father figure in Marcy's life, on being a proper adult. Any attempts to be silly could easily remind everyone - including himself- of Ice King, something he's eager to avoid.
So his jokes and jibes and general lightheartedness turned to sarcasm and self deprecating comments.
#watching him in simon & marcy compared to Fionna and cake#like he is handling the two stressful situations totally differently#fionna and cake#simon petrikov#adventure time#like this was a dedicated historian but hes also a fun guy!#and then he spends a thousand years as the worlds biggest punchline#and suddenly he doesnt WANT to be funny anymore#he wants to be serious and taken seriously#and to separate himself from IK as much as possible#he thinks of a silly joke and immediately quashes it#like its not just his obvious depression in F&C#it really feels like new Simon is trying very hard to not be that guy anymore#no wonder he feels lost hes purposefully divorcing himself from a part of who he'd been even before the crown#ive binged a ton of AT eps the last few days I could be wrong but thats the vibe I get
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it's so funny watching the spanners and the tuff guys both going through their own separate divorce arcs because they're somehow doing the same thing in completely opposite directions. every conversation between the spanners starts with them trying to work together before eventually devolving into yelling at each other and falling apart, and then meanwhile every conversation between the tuff guys immediately starts with them arguing and then resolves with them all saying "alright, let's just agree that we all hate each other, okay?" and functioning completely perfectly afterwards.
#and then there's also child of divorce skizz and third wheel tango developing their own separate rivalry#which is somehow the one thing that consistently gets mommy and daddy to stop fighting#amazing#life series#life smp#wild life smp#wild life#traffiblr#mumbo jumbo#grian#mcskizzleman#tangotek#bdoubleo100#ethoslab#etho#koolmathgames.com
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touya is halfway through his workday, grease up to his elbows, little jumpsuit half undone down to his waist, when iguchi comes in to tell him "someone's askin' for you out here".
he's not sure who it could be, but there's no telling, so he just decides to take a smoke break and wander out of the automotive garage, maybe imagining one of siblings out on the pavement.
but the minute he sees you, he stops. nearly drops his cigarette on a rough, "oh shit."
it's been a while since he's seen you, a year or two, and the packet of paper in your hand can only mean one, bullshit thing.
"nah, nah, nah, i ain't signing any papers," is how he greets you, shaking his head the minute you start up the path with a big, determined frown. touya doesn't run, but he sure twists on his heel and starts back up the path, too, as you start calling out his name.
practically all of his coworkers are watching when he comes back into view, not bothering to hide how nosy they're being. their audience makes you falter just a tad and touya clings onto it; anything to stop you.
"never a good sign when your wife comes to find you at work."
there's a long silence, from everyone. when he looks back at you—at your manilla folder and carefully stapled documents, your petition for divorce—your eyes are heavy and wet, almost the same way they were when the two of you stood in a courtroom, lying about your age in order to pledge until death do you part.
almost. now they're just sad.
from somewhere in the garage, toga calls out a bewildered, "you have a wife?" that makes him feel a way he can't understand, both amused and devastated all at once.
your wedding ring isn't on your finger, but if he stares long enough, he can maybe see the difference in color of your skin, a former tan-line that's begun to fade.
he sold his for stuff he shouldn't have been buying, stuff that ruined him and you and your marriage, a long time ago.
but touya only smiles, and calls back, "yeah, i do."
#not DID have a wife#not has a wife FOR NOW#he's like. yes I DO HAVE A WIFE AND WILL UNTIL I DIE. YES.#idk i just have been loving the idea of childhood friends to lovers touya but he fucks it up along the way#and the two of you never get divorced just kind of linger in limbo while you live separate lives#and when you come to be like. okay let's end this OFFICIALLY bc it's been over for a WHILE NOW#he's like. um absolutely NOT.#LOL he's so stubborn he refuses akfndiska#sorry that this is dog water i hope the idea translates regardless LOL#✿ thoughts: dabi/touya
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F1 Au lore drop bc I wanted to draw these two
The cuntiest, and meanest couple of Formula 1
More on them below ⬇️
Romano and Natalya are husband and wife in this au 🙏 they met through Ivan (who’s another F1 driver) who introduced Nat to Romano because she’s a ballerina and Romano mentioned wanting to learn dancing lol.
Upon meeting eachother they realized they have lots in common, like both are/have to be extremely closeted (and repressed in Romano’s case) and have media and family that’s constantly pressing on them for relationship status updates. They are also almost never home due to having to travel a lot for work.
So it made perfect sense to them to fake date, fake elope, and fake marry.
Now the two of them have a wonderful secretly open relationship where Natalya gets to have girlfriends, and also have a part time job of encouraging Romano to explore his sexuality and get some boyfriends. And over the years of playing husband and wife, they actually have grown really close as friends 🥺 They both come through to support each other at work whenever they have the time ( like in the drawing above, and Natalya will most of the time go along with Romano’s silly requests like mentioning the copious amounts of straight sex the two of them have).
ALSO, important note. Antonio, although a big fan of Romano’s, has completely failed to realize that his crush has a fucking wife. It was a big surprise to him when Francis and Gilbert dropped that fun little factoid the night they ran into Antonio leaving Romano’s hotel room.
More on that later :3c
#formula 1 au#hetalia#aph romano#aph south italy#hws romano#hws south italy#aph belarus#hws belarus#they also have an agreement that if either of them meet someone they want to romantically pursue they will get divorced LMAO#amicable separation
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personally i think katara is completely within in her right to be angry at and never forgive the man that killed her mother and in turn zuko is also within his right to be angry at and never forgive his abusers who gaslit manipulated scapegoated maimed banished and tried to kill him multiple times and neither of those things would make katara and/or zuko lesser than or bad people
#just a little hot take for ya there#holly talks bs#zuko#katara#zutara#yes i'm talking about azula too#zuko has no obligation to forgive or take responsibility for azula after everything#and yes this would still be the case even IF azula ever gets that fabled redemption arc#personally i'd like to see an azula redemption tackled that's almost entirely divorced from zuko/iroh/the gaang#because forgiveness from those you've victimised and redemption/atonement aren't actually the same#for instance zuko HAD already redeemed himself by the time of tsr#katara's personal forgiveness of him was a connected but nonetheless separate issue from his redemption they had to deal with between them
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Since we'll hopefully be getting out of the VnC hiatus soon, and this new arc seems to finally be turning the spotlight back to Noé and calling out some of his more troubling traits for the first time, I've been thinking a lot about him recently.
I've talked before on this blog about Noé's inability to recognize or process bad things when they happen to him alone. He bounces back from and idealizes almost any experience as soon as it's over, even when he absolutely shouldn't. It's one of my favorite traits of his, and it's been lampshaded a couple of times in-manga. Louis calls out how weird his attitude toward his kidnapping is during the mémoire 9 flashback, and the "be a little bothered" from Vanitas and co in mémoire 57 has the same effect.
We also recently got a whole extended sequence of Vanitas and Domi complaining about how Noé also never anticipates harm before it might come to him. He waltzes into dangerous situations like it's nothing, almost as if he thinks he's unkillable. Combined with the above, this is just more of his strange brand of optimistic denial. Everything is fine in Noéland! It can't possibly not be fine! He always trusts and thinks the best of people and situations by default, never wanting to expect they may do wrong, and so long as a given event doesn't involve harm to external innocents and/or Noé's loved ones that he can't rationalize away, he compartmentalizes and denies harm once it's done. Thus he carries on in blissful ignorance, his past suffering having no effect on the blithe trust with which he treats the world.
But in addition to all that, Noé is also very notably divorced from the consequences of his own actions. It's not that he's *incapable* of considering his own effect on people, and he certainly tries to be kind and decent, but much of the time, it just doesn't seem to occur to him that people will have reactions to the things he does. He does as he sees fit, and when his deeds impact the people around him, especially if they produce a reaction that could upset him, it bounces off his mind in the same way that potential traumas do.
On the more lighthearted end of the spectrum, this leads to things like Noé never noticing when people are attracted to him. It may also have something to do with his airheaded messiness—the way he's always thoughtlessly making a mess of the hotel room and incurring Vanitas's wrath in bonus materials. On the heavier end of the spectrum, this causes a lot of genuine problems for the people around him. He's largely oblivious to the depth of Dominique's mental health problems until she's pushed to her breaking point at the amusement park, despite the fact that he's inextricably entangled in the cause of them. He also completely loses sight of Vanitas's reactions to him when he gets caught up in his protective rage at the start of the vanoé fight, and it takes an outside reminder from Jeanne and a literal mirror to make him realize that his own actions are part of why Vanitas has devolved to such a state.
This lack of self-perception on Noé's part feeds back into the other problems I laid out at the top of this post, his obliviousness toward his interactions with the rest of the world helping to facilitate his denial. It's part of the happy little insulating bubble that he interacts with the world through. And as the other side of that coin, his automatic, unthinking denial of things that could hurt him is part of what enables him to ignore his own impacts on the people around him. You can't reckon with or worry about harming other people when you live in Noéland where everything must be fine. I think the fact that he wants to be a good person that doesn't harm others actually makes it harder for him to confront the truth of how he impacts the world, because him hurting others is a Bad Thing that would cause him mental harm.
We've seen Noé mess up, understand his mistake, and apologize for it before. He apologizes to Vanitas for making assumptions about him after the bal masqué, he apologizes to Vanitas again at the end of the amusement park fight, and he apologizes to Riche for speaking with ignorance about dhampirs. However, I think the bigger a mistake of his is, the more harm it causes other people (and the more understanding would hurt him as a result), the harder it is for Noé to comprehend his wrongs. He's clearly trying to make things right with Domi, and he's told her that he values her, but I don't know if it's yet occurred to him to conceive of their mess as a situation where he's done her active wrong. He also literally passes out on her mid-conversation, leaving Domi and Vanitas to carry him back to bed when he was supposed to be comforting her.
But I think the most fascinating example, the moment where all this comes together into Noé's most feeble and blatant act of denial yet, is the first time he sees Misha after clawing up his face. The anime actually changes this detail, which is its own can of worms to get into, but in the manga, when Noé sees Misha's injuries in the light of day after attacking him, he immediately fucking turns around.
At the end of his wits at the amusement park, Noé claws a child across the face in a fit of anger and protectiveness. I'm not interested in condemning Noé for this, especially given that the child in question was actively trying to stab Vanitas at the time, but I will say that his actions are quite extreme. Given Vanitas's response and the way Misha's injuries are portrayed, I think it's clear that the manga wants us to see how Noé hurts Mikhail as something troubling and extreme. He gives that kid a pretty horrible injury, and Misha will likely have scars on his face for the rest of his life.
And regardless of how justified he may or may not have been in hurting Misha in defense of Vanitas, it's clear that Noé himself is upset by the true extent of what he does to Mikhail's face. When he looks at him in the light of day, when he sees a numb-looking child with his face wrapped in still-bloody bandages, though we only get to see a small segment of his face in that moment, he looks sick. He knows that he's done something troubling, and I'm sure he feels all kinds of heavy and unpleasant emotions.
This is one genuinely bad thing he's done that Noé cannot deny. He can't rationalize this one away and make it all copacetic. He can't conveniently forget the emotional reality of suffering and harm, because that reality is standing ten yards away from him. And he can't just apologize for things either, because apologies cannot undo physical harm, and frankly, I'm not sure he'd be able to give an honest apology for his one. Sickness at the results of his actions doesn't mean he fully regrets hurting Misha, at least not at this moment when emotions are still raw.
But Noé, confronted with this undeniable source of guilt and pain, is still ultimately unable to look the pain he's caused in the eye. A problem piercing through the happy veil of Noéland and forcing him to acknowledge it doesn't mean he's capable of reckoning with that problem. Instead he just. turns away from it.
Noé, forced to acknowledge a harm he's done and unable to employ all the many layers of automatic insulation that usually protect him, physically turns around because he cannot bear to look at the person, the child, that he's hurt. He employs the very last possible form of avoidance available to him, even though it's useless in the ways that matter. Not looking at Misha doesn't mean he gets to un-know the fact that he maimed him, but he simply cannot bring himself to look.
Noé is extremely good at playing "I do not see it" with things that hurt him. He's good enough that I think he has genuinely no idea he's doing it a vast majority of the time. Whatever mental shield he has that's protecting him is automatic enough that the badness that could hurt him doesn't ever even seem to cross his conscious mind. But no matter how automatic and subconscious, this tendency of his is still, and the end of the day, nothing more than an unhealthy coping mechanism, and this moment helps to put that to our attention.
What's the difference, really, between him cheerfully acting like Jean-Jacques and Chloé's assaults never upset him and him turning around so he doesn't have to look at the wounds he gave Mikhail? Noé can't look at pain, can't acknowledge the things he finds upsetting (at least not things that cause him alone pain, as others' pain often triggers his savior complex and spurs action). This scene with Misha throws that into the light, forcing Noé to desperately cling to his avoidance in an obvious and physical way.
Even when there's no way to deny the harsh reality of having done something he finds horrific, Noé Archiviste cannot make himself look directly at a painful truth, be it others wronging him or his own wrongdoing. It takes an external hand to step in and force him to turn his head and acknowledge/reckon with a problem. And even then, who knows if intervention can always be successful.
The start of the dham arc so far has drawn a lot of attention to this pattern of behavior, with Vanitas having to sit Noé down and explain to him in detail why his words said in well-meaning ignorance make Dante so upset. This is Noé being forced to look at a harm he caused because he couldn't or wouldn't look at and comprehend the problem (his fellow vampires' racism) in the situation he was in. But upsetting Dante is ultimately a low stakes problem for Noé. He put his foot in his mouth and offended a peer; he didn't shred Vanitas's little brother. He's able to accept his wrongs and feel his discomfort without resorting to physically turning around and avoiding the issue.
I want to know what Noé will do if/when this arc forces him to confront a source of pain he can't handle in a context that's more high stakes than a social faux pas. I want to see what he'll do when something really forces him beyond his ability to believe that everything is fine. How badly would he have to be hurt to lose his ability to filter an event/events through rose colored glasses? How badly would he have to hurt someone else? Or is his instinctive shield good enough that he'll never get out of it on his own? And if so, who else might step in to make Noé own up to reality?
Teacher and the Archivistes are becoming plot-relevant now, and our attention is being drawn to Noé's issues. I think there might be something coming soon that even Noé can't turn away from and cheerfully pretend isn't hurting him. Teacher even ends his appearance at the amusement park with a little speech about having to "wake and face reality," which makes me even more certain that a wake-up call for Noé is imminent.
Either that, or Noé's going to mess up and hurt somebody even worse than he hurt Misha later this arc, and in that case, we might get to see a feat of denial even worse than him literally turning around to avoid looking at the wounds he caused.
#this whole issue also ties into the broader ways in which Noé is divorced from self-understanding#like not recognizing his own feelings of attraction#but that's a whole separate essay. or at least not something I felt was necessary to add to this already very long post#I love Noé so much I am so deeply deeply fascinated to see where his arc goes#I'm hoping he gets better and learns to face reality#but I don't know if that's guaranteed to happen#vnc#vanitas no carte#the case study of vanitas#Noé Archiviste#noé archiviste my beloved#english major hours#vnc spoilers#manga
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Thinking about rockstar lestat and fun fact that Rocket Queen by Guns n' Roses features vocals from a woman being actively dicked down by Axl Rose in the recording booth. BUT ALSO allegedly He had attempted this with a couple other women but wasnt satisfied with the results. So what I'm saying is Diabolicule Studio session to see whos moans make the Album
#interview with the vampire#char.txt#idc about plot i care about the drstruction of property and expensive sound equipment#and bending these boys over the mixing board#and i hope loumand sit doen separately smug and sure its themself. only to hear your divorce lawyer groaning in your ear#entirely inspired by tumblr user oldbutchdaniel you connect two lose wires in my brain
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Prompt 195
“Oh. It’s you.”
The entity that had been summoned practically growled, a cloak like swirling galaxies- or was it swirling galaxies molded into a cloak- shimmering around their form. One pair of arms crossed over a chest where a star pulsed with the heartbeat of universes, alive yet dying as lazarus green eyes glowered down at the league and bats alike.
“You know you could, fucking call, right?” they whined, aura of terror suddenly broken, unnatural fear torn away and leaving all of them wrong-footed and confused.
Well, apparently all of them except for Ras, who had an honest to fuck grin on his face, one that looks almost carefree, if a little feral. Nope. No thanks. Not this timeline-
“But phones didn’t exist last we spoke, ya ‘amar.”
#Dcxdp#Dpxdc#Prompts#Danny got sent to the past by Clockwork for a vacation/training the first time he met Ras#They became rivals of sorts and just kept meeting up#Did they maybe fall in love as well? No one knows but them#On the other hand Ras did get his main Lazarus Pit as a wedding gift#and both Ellie & Dan were half raised like weird siblings/cousins to Ras’ kids#do with that as you will#Fellas is it gay to call your eternal rival your moon?#Ras for once wasn’t doing anything evil- though he’s a horrible person#A good dad yeah but a good person? Eh Danny has gotten used to it and finds him hilarious#They have matching death humor to their past teachers’ dismay and horror#They’ve gotten divorced seven separate times and gotten married three#Depends on the century#half of the time it was either done drunk or for tax benefits
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birthday card from his dad doesnt know how old he is but got the son bit right
#drawing#digital art#oc#my art#supernormal#comic#supervillain oc#murph an joanies supernormal#his fathers name is derek stetson and him and his wife christine are NOT divorced they have a weird separated thing going on#separate houses but like still married#doesnt matter they both suck
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when people learn that Batman and Batwoman are different mantles with different meanings attached to their existence, different legacies to leave, different sets of affiliated supporting characters, and different rogues galleries that have very little to do with each other and aren't just gender-specific titles for the same superhero I will finally know peace
#any woman who becomes Batman will not be called 'Batwoman' because that is its own separate mantle at this point#they'll either be called Batman or The Bat#Kate may be Bruce's cousin and she may have originally been inspired by him#but 'Batwoman' is now so thoroughly divorced from that specific conceptualization#that the mantles are no longer connected by anything more than 'their current wearers are cousins who work in the same city'#dc meta#batman#batwoman#kate kane#bruce wayne
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I relate to Arthur Lester because I also get fucking angry at John every 10 minutes, and then swing violently the other way into loving him more than can be described
#listen I love him but. every time he does Something I remove him (temporarily) as my favorite boy#I remember on my first listen through I got to episode 18 (?) and he did That#and I fully wanted them separated#and then not even five minutes into the next episode he was back to being my blorbo#I am a child of divorce and I take Arthur’s side almostevery time I’m sorry#malevolent#malevolent podcast
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Congratulations to Grant Wilson and Marco Li for being the last couple standing 👏👏👏
#dndads spoilers#dungeons and daddies#dndads#Anthony is gonna get them next#but with Terry jr and Rebecca dead#and Nicky and Cassandra are divorced or separated or whatever#it’s just the li-Wilsons left#love wins
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Why do you write mother or father's side why seperated?
#messyr#im always in between chat help#our parents have no fukin beef at all with each other- the rest of the families are the problem ever since#they separated but not divorced bc that shit not declared here idk they have their own lives bruh
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Max and Charles yapping at the Spain GP 2024 Drivers' Parade
#f1#formula 1#f1edit#max verstappen#charles leclerc#lestappen#maxverstappenedit#charlesleclercedit#dailyf1#lestappenedit#1633#asked my brother to send me pics of max and charles from the gp fully expecting him to send me 1-pixel shots of them probably separately#instead he sent me a full video of them TOGETHER#when i tell you i malfunctioned in the middle of a grocery store#max heard about the divorce rumors and said hold my beer#f1*#2024 spain gp#making shit happen
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