#critiquing random shit

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Debunking The Crow’s Amazing Defence Video: How I Learnt Not To Trust A Leo Sun

Please see my previous post for context.

The fact that Crow begins the video with mocking their old video and saying that the accused’s fans are crazy really speaks volumes. Just because they didn’t like Carousel. Already starting off with confidence, which is good. I can’t wait to see it proven without a shadow of a doubt that the accused is innocent.

First off, I am not making this because Brad Taste In Music made a video about the subject. I have always disliked that video by The Crow. I just didn’t want to express it because I know how delirious the accused’s fandom is. However, feeling like more people are wising up has given me confidence to revisit the video and give my own criticisms. Just to prove that, here is a rant I sent to a discord server mere months before I discovered his. It was a vent, so it’s not cohesive.

“Heavily redacted vent. I never mention the allegations by name, but I do mention the Kwite allegations, which may be triggering to some people because of the subject matter.

Okay, so… I need to vent about- or rant about something. I want to state something first of all. I am aware many people here [in that server I posted this to] are fans of this artist. And I was too. From 2014-2017. Though I still listened to their music till 2020, then I stopped because I began feeling gross. Separating artist from art became impossible because of the amount of people who supported them as a person. If you are a fan, or you believe she is innocent, okay. That’s fine. Just don’t be mean to me if you figure out who I’m talking about, and actually listen to what I have to say. This is a vent.

So, what I want to go over is this… in 2017, this artist was accused of something awful. People immediately jumped to conclusions, burning their merch, insulting them, harassing them. And then, a few people began to poke holes in their accusers story, even the tiniest details. Then, people started harassing HER.

In 2018, I think the video most people watched was by a commentary artist. I have seen that video. When I watched it, even then I felt off about it. Why? Because it’s poking holes into every little detail. The fact that she doesn’t remember things perfectly, that she wasn’t the perfect victim, that she forget details. And then ‘body analysis’ experts came along, which is a pseudoscience, and continued to push that narrative. The accuser got harassed daily to the point where she had to delete her social media.

Not only that, but that person? They are not a reliable source. In one video they made, they said that the accuser admitted she lied. However, the ‘evidence’ is a tiktok screenshot. The accuser actually DEBUNKED this herself. However, tiktok user /alexmster has evidence that she *said on video, she did not admit to lying.*

The allegations weren’t ‘debunked.’ Were they proven? Obviously not, because you can’t prove that easy. But the way the internet responded to this is *disgusting.*, and I’m still pissed about it to this day. I’m not saying the accused is guilty. I’m saying that there isn’t enough evidence that the accuser was lying. And the fact people were to eager to continue supporting them that they fabricated evidence- *no*. That’s ridiculous. The fact is that at the end of the day- music artists we like can be bad people. “Stanning” celebrities is dangerous because it makes you do stuff like this. I understand there are some situations where accusers lie. The Kwite situation for example. Orion, I was suspicious of from the start. But I remained neutral. Kwite came out with mountains of evidence against Orion, proving that he was 100% lying. Did the accused in this case? Well, no… and it’s a tricky situation, because it’s not a clear-cut answer of who the burden of proof is on. Is it on the victim? To a degree. But should we really live in a world where a victims validity is based on how accurately they can remember events? How much evidence they have? Why can’t we live in a world that remains impartial? Is it on the accused? Well, no, not that either. Because if someone accuses you of something, and let’s say they’re a complete stranger, and that you don’t know them. How can you even disprove that? You can’t really. So it’s a tricky situation.

Again, I want to re-iterate. I avoid this topic usually, because well… people have been mean to me about it. And well, this is what has piled up. A lot of anger. But, I just can’t hide that anger anymore. It’s gotten to the point where it’s almost triggering me to hear about that artist. I really just think the internet needs to revisit these allegations. I’m not saying listening to the accused in this cases music is bad, I’m just saying that we can’t just assume they are innocent because it’s the popular consensus.

I don’t want to be attacked for this. There’s a reason I didn’t mention directly who I’m talking about. I have been before. The fans of this artist are ruthless bullies sometimes. It’s why I stopped listening to them entirely. How can you take pride in ruining a potential victims life? Does it make these people happy? Why do they feel the need to do this? I don’t get it. I don’t. No one in this situation deserves harassment. Not the accuser, not the accused. No one. The internet wants to act like a courtroom, but the only people who truly know what happened that day is the accused and the accuser. And I don’t know. 2017 was a very different time in internet history, and I’d like to think people handle these situations with more maturity nowadays. But still… and the worst part? I can’t even post this outside of a server, because if I posted this to tumblr for example, I’d get harassed. It’s ridiculous. They are the kind of fans who assume anyone who doesn’t fully support their idol is an idiot. It’s critical thinking that led me to this rant. It’s acknowledging the faults of people. It’s understanding that led me here. Not hate. Not ignorance. Not lies.

Again, I know some people are a fan of this artist here. I’m sorry. This isn’t me saying you’re a bad person. I just needed to get this out.

The people in there were very respectful of my opinion. I don’t know if they knew who I was talking about, but I ended up leaving that server because I got my OCD triggered. Also, other reasons. Like an alleged… really bad and toxic person… being in the server. But I didn’t know how to bring it up ahh… But that’s neither here nor there. Out of all the accused’s fans, they were the least unhinged. They were actually pretty alright people. Maybe because they were adults.

Anyway, back to the video. Are they discussing Edwin’s Generation? I vaguely remember he made a video about the situation.

“I didn’t even watch the vids, but let me critique my strawman arguments.” How could you possibly know what he said if you didn’t watch the video? Yep, I remember him making a Mars Argo video too.

The fact that they say “I already know the way he thinks” is very concerning. I also support Mars Argo, because she was victimised. This isn’t really a debate. Even the woman who defended the initial alleged came out and spoke against him. I haven’t been keeping up with any updates lately, but they seem to have a very condescending nature about believing victims. It doesn’t help that in a recent video they call supporters of the victim of the accused “naive.” Ironic, considering the echo chamber that is the accused’s fanbase.

“It’s likely he’s lying about not being close with the victim” where’s your proof? You can’t just claim things with no proof.

“Liars often try to convince you they’re telling the truth, while people who aren’t just expect you to believe them.” Ah, yes. Very logical argument.

“Edwin is biased.” Ad hominem. It doesn’t matter if he’s biased. That doesn’t debunk his argument. Also, rich coming from you.

“The fact that his interview takes place in the victims home strikes me as odd if they aren’t friends.” Then I suppose Vogue interns must be besties with every celebrity they interview. This isn’t an argument, and even if it was, you are attacking his character, not his argumenting skills.

“Would you invite a man you didn’t know well to your home?” Different strokes for different folks. Some people have their guard down more.

Ah, BPD. Unlike Crow, I actually think I found a source for the victim having BPD, so maybe they didn’t pull that out of their ass. (Disclaimer: this isn’t true, and I later state this.) Unfortunately, that doesn’t mean the rest of what they say here isn’t vile and disgusting. And no, I don’t care if they have BPD themselves. It is an attack of the victims CHARACTER without any solid evidence. It. Is. CONJECTURE.

Forgive me for believing that an interviewer with a following online murking the person they wanted to interview is a ridiculous assumption, even if the victim had trust issues. Which, by the way, is an assumption, and not a fact.

Argument by authority. Proceeding to dismiss something you’re doing (demonising BPD) by claiming that your argument doesn’t hinge on it. So far, it does. We are 8 minutes into the video.

“I am not a liar.” Proceeds to argue that “yes, you are.” because you are borderline. Literally shows a clip of the victim saying they have never struggled with lying, and then says they know that she is lying about never lying because “note symptoms and diagnostic criteria aren't necessarily mutually exclusive, but this still bothers me a lot. Like, what, it's typical for borderlines to lie and she's the only one who's honest Imao.” The fuck you mean it’s typical? You don’t speak for every person with BPD. Lying is not a diagnostic criteria for BPD.

“She says that being malicious and revengeful is a sign of BPD.” No she didn’t. She said “I don’t have to fit every symptom of BPD.” because her therapist said that being malicious and revengeful is a sign of BPD. They are blaming her for what her THERAPIST said.

Oh my god. Just because someone looks over the evidence and believes the victim doesn’t make them stupid. In your words, he might’ve used logic to come to his conclusions. Not everyone thinks exactly like you. False Dichotomy.

Had to take a break from this video because of how repulsive it is. How did anyone take this seriously? Even I didn’t, and I was a kid!

Seriously? Going after his girlfriend? First of all, she doesn’t dress like a teenager and pretend to have her period. She is just dressing in short skirts. What is this weird body shaming? It’s disgusting. You’re going after someone’s relationship just because you don’t agree with him. What the hell is wrong with you people?

“Body language experts” are full of shit. Anyone can google that much to find that out. Not even going to address this ‘point.’ Crow, aren’t you autistic? You should know damn well how harmful this is for people like us. Guys if body language worked, why the hell do police interrogations exist? They can just look at the persons face and figure out their exact motive. That’s a fair and just way of justice. So far, zero substantial arguments. I was expecting a full breakdown, but instead I got this.

“His odds of not knowing about the believe me look are low.” Wow, nice opinion. Back it up with a source. I didn’t know what it was until I re-watched this.

Hey, considering how much we love logical fallacies here, why isn’t The Crow showing his face? Hmmm?

The logical conclusion is that Reagan realised that the video was bullshit, but TCFKAPS doesn’t do logical here.

Are you kidding me? Astrology? What’s next, MBTI? Omg Timothy is such an ISFP, she must be lying. You can’t use pseudoscience in a case like this. And I love typology like MBTI and enneagram, and I don’t hate astrology, but do you see the problem here?

I genuinely don’t get it. HOW did anyone take this seriously? Even if the accused was innocent, this video would still not be even mediocre. It’s terrible.

“Her music flopped so she made the allegations.” Conjecture. Anyway, stream Sleep and Self-Titled. I first listened to the entirety of it in 2019, and I’ve gotten back into listening to it. Pretty decent music. My favourite track is Not Even For You. Sorry, if Crow can go on tangents about random things, so can I. Also I’ve heard the accused fell off. Idk I only listened to her EP, first and second album. Unfortunately, unlike other musicians I like, I cannot even listen to her music, because her fanbase blew the allegations under the rug and the consensus isn’t “separate the art from the artist” it’s “stan the art and artist” which makes it difficult for me to.

You made this when you were 26? Older? The god complex shit is really annoying. Edwin isn’t your arch nemesis. delulu. Sorry, I probably shouldn’t use that word lightly- I know it’s kinda offensive- but I’m pissed. We need like. A word for people like this. Grandiose.

We are a quarter of the way through the first hour of the video and there is NOTHING. Nothing but conjecture, pseudoscience and astrology. Did the people who flood others DM’s with “SHE’S INNOCENT WATCH THIS VIDEO” even watch the video? Yeah, there’s a reason I’m only talking about this subject on my account now. Even though I’ve held this opinion that the video sucks for years. I’m just glad someone with a platform called this out. Ugh.

So, Timothy got 773 streams on Sleep (stream sleep :)) which is a decent amount for a song in 2 days when you’re small, and she seemed grateful, but she’s doing this for clout? She says that she’s scared to post her story in case she’s not believed… which is reasonable, and that’s ‘evidence’? Also, if accused (btw, I keep calling her the accused because her fans are fucking weirdos who name-search her solely to target people who dislike her. I don’t want bratty teenagers harassing me; I want civil discussion from ADULTS only or people with brains in general. Eh, I’ll call her Leilani from now on.) really contacted Timothy after she made her tweet, isn’t that suspicious? Why would you contact her if you were innocent? Oh, I’m just using Crow’s logic.

By the way, if Timothy wanted clout, Leilani allegations wouldn’t be the best way to do that. There was a high risk of turning the internet against her. She could’ve just begged Leilani to be friends again. Literally would’ve been easier, or said “I will release this statement if you don’t.” Something like that. If she really is this villain you make her out to be, there are easier ways to get clout.

I’m genuinely angry. She was scared to post this. And people ended up confirming her worst nightmares. People harassed her for years on end. I admit, when I first heard the allegations and saw someone say “it’s fake,” I was young, so I immediately posted a Snapchat story agreeing with it. My friend at the time contacted me saying “hey what the fuck, she could be telling the truth.” It humbled me. My brain hadn’t really developed, and I didn’t develop critical thinking skills back then. But I remained neutral from then on. I think I realised I made a mistake. You don’t even know how old I was back then, but the fact that being that young and able to own up to the fact I fucked up, meanwhile these people who were older than I was then, TO THIS DAY shame Timothy is SICKENING. How can you read that statement and not feel anything? If you ever harassed Timothy, you are disgusting. If there is a hell… well there isn’t but… still.

I’m reading so many heartbreaking statements about people who believed this video, downplaying their own SA experiences. History repeats itself, I know this will happen again and again. All you can do, and I beg you, if you realised how bullshit the video is, to not fall for such bullshit again. Back in 2018, when the Spoctor allegations came out, I immediately believed it. I think that situation is what caused me to re-evaluate the Leilani situation. Before 2019 I was neutral, but the 2 hour hit piece really selled it to me that the internet was wrong. Because the internet can be wrong. The majority can be wrong. Think for yourselves.

But I want the internet to grow. It happens time and time again. Remember the Hopeless Peaches situation? That was after the Spoctor situation. People never learn. If you aren’t online 24/7, you probably don’t know who either of those people are. And no, I don’t care if Spoctor was found doing weird shit. There was still a lot of fabrications back THEN.

The only time I’ve ever seen the internet treat SA allegations seriously was with Kwite and Orion. Even then, some people acted like it was a fucking battle between their two favourite kpop groups, acting like it’s a competition of who’s right. Place your bets; who’s right wins moral superiority. How self-righteous and ridiculous. Sure, I was skeptical of Orion, but I didn’t immediately say “OR HA GOD KWITE IS INNOCENT” or “OH MA GOD ORION IS INNOCENT.” Like literally be fucking normal.

I’m sorry? The allegation is too long?

What is Timothy meant to put subway surfers footage and family guy funny moments over her FUCKING SA ALLEGATION? You are THIRTY.

“She never said no to what we chose to do together” is still suspicious. First of all, consent is a consistent thing. Not saying no doesn’t mean yes. And she didn’t say no because she got so worn down the night before. And before you say “what we CHOSE to do together.” Sorry, but someone who says “she never said no” might not have the best idea of what a choice is. Also, Leilani was so sympathetic that she wrote a whole song shitting on Timothy.

I know they will bring it up; “Why would you dress up as your abuser?” I’ve struggled with co-dependency many times, and regardless of who was right/wrong in those situations, when you put someone on a pedestal, it’s hard to take them down.

So, remember how Crow said the chance that Leilani saw that psychic is low? Well, considering they make their opinions based on conjecture, let me do the same. The song piggyback mentions how she ‘knows her destiny.’ Hmmm, a spiritual person would say that. Isn’t her new album spiritual? Seems like solid proof by your standards.

Remember Crow saying “the easiest solution is usually the correct one?” Well, apparently “Timothy and Leilani were friends because they got along” isn’t the truth, but rather “Timothy was trying to leach from the accused from the very start” is.

“Only liars have to convince you they’re telling the whole story.” Ah yes, you sound like a cop. This sounds like ‘only guilty people talk like this.’ Don’t be ridiculous. It’s one woman against a band of stans, and I mean that in the most literal sense of the word. Obsessed, unwilling to admit their idol isn’t perfect, defensive.

So if you can’t tell a story backwards, you’re lying? You know some people just have shit memories, like myself? Also, this is a hypothetical. Dismissed.

Why are they promoting their own book? Let me look this book up, I’m a writer myself…. that book cover… sorry, I know this is an ad hominem; Crow loves those, but this book cover is an… interesting choice. It feels kinda off. Looking at it, I couldn’t tell it was a dark comedy. If anything, I’d assume it was something spicy. The book has positive reviews, so you know what? Good for you. Keep writing, Crow. I’m hoping to self-publish by the end of the year. Apparently he regrets it because he rushed it. It’s a common mistake, I wouldn’t beat myself up over something like that, so don’t. And that’s the nicest thing I’ll probably say about him.

But seriously, this isn’t the time. How self-absorbed do you have to be to promote your own book? This is a video about SA. Do you not realise how serious this is- shaking my head!

Making your first chapter 24 pages probably isn’t the best idea, and the first half of a chapter worse. Trust me, I know splitting chapters causes issues, it’s a fucking pain to format when the amount of chapters bleeds into the next page in the table of contents, but still. I don’t even know why KDP mandates a table of contents. It’s so silly.

Hey guys, you want some anti-sa charities to donate to instead of spending your money on someone’s book? Here, here. Also, fuck it, we’re doing good things here, and I’m very passionate about ending animal cruelty, so here, here. I’ve contributed more good in this post than I guarantee he has in his video.

Even if Timothy was using the allegations to promote her music? And? You’re using this situation to promote your book and you aren’t even directly involved. Also, is a victim just not allowed to promote her music after she comes out with allegations? Is she mandated to go into the shadows until like a year?

So anyone who likes Timothy’s music is doing it out of pity? Okkkk. I don’t see how me streaming a song is going to support her in any way. Most musicians don’t make that much, so why would anyone pity stream music? I guess numbers? But like- if you pity supported someone and didn’t actually like their music, you could just say “thox and prayers mate” and pretend you actually did something good, like a lot of people do. Anyway, this is an ad hominem towards people who like Timothy’s music. Do you really think being pity listened to would be a good thing anyway?

“If it’s the truth, why is the whole thing set up to have you believe it?” BECAUSE. VICTIMS. DON’T. GET. BELIEVED. Because of people like you. And yes, I know the person who Mae this video is a victim. Not an excuse.

“Things don’t move that fast in the publishing world.” Yes? Yes they do? Unfortunately, big celebrity allegations = money for these companies. Why do you think Lil Tay got reported as dead when she wasn’t? It didn’t matter that it wasn’t true, jUsT aS lOng aS iTs EnTeRtAInG tO yOu. (Colleen reference moment) (sorry that video just. it’s still funny.) (also unpopular opinion but I think toxic gossip train is catchy- it shouldn’t be but- then again it has the most generic track) lmao.

She asked Newsweek to promote her story? Proof? You can’t just say shit.

“Liars often use passive voice.” Found no study on that, so I’m assuming this is bullshit. This is reading way too far into a statement. This doesn’t even seem logical. Sentence structure is not a good determiner of guilty vs innocent. You, in a court, you would be laughed at for this. Please never become Leilani’s attorney.

Also, Timothy was in the chat of the reaction I’m watching to this video… god, imagine opening a stream and seeing your statement being torn apart because you… used passive voice?? Like that’s not a thing people do. Hey, to anyone reading this, have I used passive voice at all in this post? If so, mannnn, I am such a liar. You caught me.

But hey, seeing a chat full of supportive, respectful individuals for once who think with their brains is refreshing for once. Not enough to restore my faith in humanity.

What the FUCK? Okay, so now it’s Timothy’s fault for venting about her experiences. And not only that, she didn’t put in enough effort to ‘fix’ their friendship? Victim blaming 101.

So now Timothy is lying about being hurt, because she’s borderline? Imagined issues? This is ableism. Like sorry, this is plain ableism. There is no substance, no evidence, this is straight up defamatory. “It’s just my opinion” that she was a clingy friend who overreacted? Based on what?

Ok, so Timothy considered the accused closer than they were. So what? I have had dependency issues and that’s not an uncommon issue. Sometimes, people struggle with telling how close they really are with someone. Sometimes, someone cares about the other more than they care about them. It’s not a sign Timothy is lying.

ALSO TIMOTHY SAID IN BRAD’S CHAT “btw my therapist decided I never had bpd and it was more likely cptsd and autism haha” SO THAT MAKES THIS ARGUMENT EVEN WEAKER IN MODERN CONTEXT. Un

And before you say “she could be lying about bpd” did you know women are commonly misdiagnosed with bpd?

“You can only have one best friend.” Ladies and gentlemen, I have some news for you. This isn’t 2nd grade, you can have more than one best friend.

“Liars are more likely to use the word honestly.” Correlation doesn’t mean anything, plus there is no studies proving this. The closest I’ve seen is an article by simplypsychology, which states “Phrases like “honestly,” “I want to be honest with you,” or “here's the truth” can all be signs that the liar is trying too hard to convince the other person that they are telling the truth.” Key word: CAN BE. This is all conjecture man. In what court of law is this evidence?

“If that were really her plan Melanie wouldn’t have smoked we with her.” Are you kidding me?… do I even need to respond to this? Maybe she smoked it to quell her guilty conscience, maybe she was used to it so felt the effects less, maybe she didn’t care because SHE WASN’T BEING TARGETED BY TIMOTHY. It was the other way around.

I feel like I’m in Danganronpa, where no one except the protagonist and the sidekick detective had good arguments but everyone just blindly believes someone making a silly argument. That person isn’t even the culprit; it’s just someone like Ibuki with the gravel. If you don’t know that reference, good for you. Danganronpa is mid. What? I’m criticising a music artist with a rabid fandom, I might as well go all out.

“SA is violent, not influenced by hormones.” What? Are you seriously saying that someone desiring that intimacy has nothing to do with SA? Yes, it’s a disgusting act, but people do it to get a need felt. Sometimes that’s solely control, but most of the time it isn’t just control, it is related to their intimate needs. I say ‘needs’ loosely because you aren’t entitled to intimacy.

Oh my god. SA doesn’t always leave evidence. First of all, there are many forms of intimacy. Some don’t leave behind any evidence, some don’t involve direct acts. And the thing about SA kits is that not everyone will immediately get assault and think “ok, I need to get an SA kit.” They will be like “what the fuck just happened?” and might not process it. Timothy admitted she didn’t accept what happened, so why do you think she would have access to an SA kit?

“What happened to the toy” Leilani took it? It was washed? What the hell is this question? So weird?

‘Vejuices’ how did you think that was funny or okay to say? You aren’t taking this seriously at all. This is disgusting. Shame on anyone who takes this video seriously. You don’t joke about that. Not in a video about a serious situation. This is evil.

Victim blaming. Just straight up victim blaming. “If you were uncomfortable why did you return” rhetoric. Seriously. I am appalled that anyone took this video seriously. HOW.

You are not every SA victim. Get off your high horse.

“She said no to SA why couldn’t she just leave?” The lack of compassion is crazy.

She was SILENT during the act. What part of DURING do you not understand? “Why didn’t she say no during the act?” Type beat. She said no plenty of times, why can’t you comprehend someone breaking down after being pressured?

“All the hate would make victims doubt themselves” so getting defensive = guilty now? Do you know that in police interrogations, those who are innocent tend to act angrier and more defensive? That’s because criminals often act calm in interrogations to make themselves seem innocent, but it often backfires. I’m sure some do act defensive, but so what? People are allowed to defend themselves.

Unnecessary detailed? Yet you complained earlier that she couldn’t recall the toy used.

SUSPICIOUSLY SHORT SENTENCES?? WHAT?? Guys.

Finally, some actual arguments. OK, so Timothy misremembered the dates. And? You are expecting a victim to remember the EXACT DAY they were traumatised.

And Leilani confirmed the event happened. Why do you keep forgetting that? They were intimate, but whether it was consensual or not is the debate. Not whether it happened. Ah fuck it, Melanie. I don’t care anymore. Any of her fans that take this video as gospel ought to find a better source.

Are you seriously saying that a 19 year old celebrity has less power just because of age? This is- wha-

IT’S WEIRD TO BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR YOUNGER FRIENDS?? WHAT?? SHE WAS 3 YEARS YOUNGER-

So now outer appearance determines submissive vs dominant. Yeah, no. I-

So now Timothy influenced Melanie to smoke, because Timothy was older? It can never be the other way around? Dude, I’ve been shamed by 14 year olds online for not smoking. I think it’s disgusting.

I wish I had the confidence to debunk this video earlier. It wasn’t until a larger YouTuber called this out that I felt validated in my stances. And I should be ashamed of myself. But really, I’m not. I’m just ashamed at the people who made me and others feel like we couldn’t speak up in the first place. That this was a done deal. It’s not. It never has been. I swear- this is how I feel about these melanie stans online.

Wait… I’m a Leo rising… guys… holy shit… 💀 I’m a liar.

So, now her being comfortable with her body is being comfortable discussing intimate acts in her life? First of all, there are limits to what someone is comfortable talking about. Intimacy and suggestive behaviors are not necessarily the same. You people… seriously.

Seriously.

I want to state that the statement isn’t even detailed. It’s wordy, but not detailed. So complaining that she never mentioned the handcuffs isn’t in line with your other criticisms. Which is it?

Saying the timeline doesn’t match up is wrong. She says Melanie suggested they play the game together, then things got intimate. She never specified the time that happened. Point here?

She said it was her idea to BUY the game. She said it was Melanie’s idea to PLAY it. Different WORDS.

The person in handcuffs is not going to be dominant? Says who? Also, you know dominants can be SA’d, right? They’re people with feelings too.

Consent to a game is not consent to intimacy. And not every time, either.

So, Timothy deciding she doesn’t want Melanie to touch her, and quitting the game, is her fault? This is victim blaming 101. Where did Crow get their lessons from, Reit- different situation.

Also, Timothy said in the stream that they weren’t seriously playing the game, it was a joke. “The assumption that we were seriously playing this game has been overwhelmingly cringe since the start. Anyone who’s ever had [word tumblr won’t let me say because they’re overly strict] has not done that since 90’s.” Time stamp: 3:57:30

People still forget Melanie had other victims. People who stand by Timothy.

Also, love how the whole video is mental gymnastics yet says believing Timothy is mental gymnastics. There could be other victims of Melanie’s who were silenced because of videos like this.

Omfg is a weird way to caption your trauma? So which is it? Did the game happen before or during it? You keep contradicting yourself.

Scrutising every detail of someone’s SA is so evil. Like if someone told me “oh, that traumatic incident you say happened couldn’t have happened because X, so it had to have been on Y day, therefore you’re lying, and therefore X didn’t happen” I’d just feel so invalidated. Because I don’t remember. Truthfully? I can’t distinguish the years 2019-2021. I can’t. Even before then, I struggle. I have terrible memory issues, loss even, because I repressed those memories. It’s not uncommon. You aren’t the only one who has suffered trauma. You can remember the exact date of your SA? Great, good for you, amazing. So glad you can, not everyone can. (Edit 2025: i cut the next part out cuz i overshared unrelated shit)

Have you ever considered that the pool party photo was taken a day or two earlier? Even if it wasn’t, Melanie CONFIRMED the encounter happened so WHY DO YOU CARE?

So, not my argument, but Crow employs a lot of DARVO in this video. DARVO stands for Deny (“This didn’t happen”) Attack (“You’re a liar/did this for attention/have no alibi/you took a selfie shit) Reverse Victim and Offender (Melanie is the real victim)

My reaction to half of these arguments. Literally.

WAIT. IS IT A WIG NOW?? You said it wasn’t, and that any wig maker of their salt or whatever wouldn’t bleach a wig. But now Timothy is wearing Melanie’s wig?

WAIT. You do realise that she could’ve deleted the photos because it reminded her of her trauma? You know that’s actually very likely, right? People delete photos that give them bad memories. When my dog was diagnosed with cancer, I deleted all of my photos of her. I regret this, but at the time I was so distraught I couldn’t look at her. Did that mean I secretly gave my dog cancer and deleted the photos? No. Stop being silly.

Did you consider she deleted her CuriousCat? If she wanted to delete the tweet, she would’ve. What a silly argument.

ACT TRAUMATISED? Shit guy, I laugh in VC’s when my friends tell funny jokes. I’m not traumatised. Shit, I pretend I feel ok around the people who hurt me because I’m so scared of being taken advantage of and having my breakdowns used as evidence I am crazy and a liar, so I guess I mustn’t be traumatised. Shit, I enjoy spending time with my dog, I mustn’t be traumatised. Lmao.

Her FRIEND said “it’s not like Melanie fucking stabbed her.” Not Timothy. If your friend says something awkward about your trauma, what do you do? I mean, man, I’d be stumped. Probably laugh it off. Also, they’re kinda right. SA isn’t always in-your-face violent. Sometimes it’s more subtle. SA isn’t forcing someone to do something in a low mean voice with a knife to their throat. It can be manipulative, your best friend, most SA’ers know their victims. But sure, Timothy is lying.

Ah yes, “silence is consent” is an argument you want to make in a video about this topic. Sarcastic.

So Eve was mean to their violater? Oh no, what a tragedy.

You can tell she’s young? Idk, I’ve seen the interview and I didn’t think she was a minor.

All Timothy said about Billie was that she was hanging out with adult men and making comments about herself or smth when she was a minor.

Unfounded racism allegations. YIPEEE. When I think “rapper” I don’t think “black person.” Not to pull the “no u” carrd- I just find it suspicious that Crow immediately assumes rapper is a dog whistle for black person. I highly doubt that.

Wrong. Neurotypical means someone with a non-divergent brain. BPD IS neurodivergence. And by the way, I’m autistic, if you want to play the argument by authority game so badly.

So, I didn’t know this, but people in the stream were saying ADHD does cause withdrawal. I probably would’ve googled that anyway, but still. L argument.

Brb, I gotta do stuff. I actually have a life, crazy, right?

Back. Timothy didn’t claim that her doctor told her to take adderall. The opposite, in fact. And also, adderall is only used to treat ADHD? Bullshit. “It's most commonly used to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). It's also used to treat narcolepsy.”

“I doubt she has ADHD.” Okay, and? Did she claim to have it? Also, you don’t get to fakeclaim people. You used the “I’m probably borderline” excuse so don’t go pretending that you care about the importance of diagnoses. Timothy didn’t even claim to have ADHD???

I won’t disagree with the ED stuff, and I won’t disagree about Amy Schumer. Liking Amy Schumer is an L. Still doesn’t prove she wasn’t assaulted. 3 good arguments so far. 1 of which is bad faith (the ED one; assuming Timothy was intentionally trying to trigger Eugenia’s ED)

Stop PROMOTING YOUR book in a video about SA.

Okay, Stockholm syndrome is a controversial topic and a highly debated diagnoses. Some say it’s used by police to justify brutality. However, these sort of reactions to ab/se DO exist. And shame on you for denying Timothy her right to feel how she feels.

I was pushed down a staircase, yet I’m not triggered by staircases. I was pinned against the wall, yet I’m not triggered by choking. I have triggers, but those aren’t them. And honestly, Timothy can be uncomfortable with talking about intimacy and still do suggestive things. Who cares? This feels like a weird form of gatekeeping. Have you ever considered taking back your power is a form of therapy? Also, seriously? Timothy saying “you can’t support my assaulter and me” is bad? It makes perfect sense, actually.

Wow, a victim took fanart mocking her trauma and made a joke. The horror!

So wanting to be famous means that you are a liar now? I have to pack my bags. Clearly every action I take is a desperate means to claim fame. And clearly this must be true also for Timothy, who made JOKE TWEETS about wanting to be famous. Anyway, let’s get all her songs to 100k streams.

“A true artist will create art no matter what.” Your experiences aren’t universal, and even if that’s true, so what? She makes music to be famous? If that’s true, who cares? I want my writing to be famous, is that a fucking crime? For artists to want to be recognised for their work? Did you release your book hoping it would fail? Actually, that cover makes me think s- bad joke. I’m not trying to be mean.

So, uninspired music wouldn’t get famous, huh? Oh the irony. Most popular music is uninspired.

If Timothy was only after attention, why would she leave Dresses?

Have you considered that Timothy probably DID come out about the situation because Melanie was famous, and someone of that fame would have a much easier time taking advantage of someone?

Excuse me…? Did you just call SA an accomplishment? That’s horrible.

THE SCREENSHOT ACCUSING TIMOTHY OF SA LITERALLY SAYS “UPDATE: IT’S FAKE.”

So Timothy knowing Melanie was dating means they had discussed consensual acts together prior? I know people who are dating, but last I checked I still have my cards in order. My alphabet-letter-22-card-in order that is.

So Timothy is wrong for cheating on her boyfriend, but not Melanie? Also, seriously? You sound so SA defendant, “women just say they were assaulted to avoid admitting they cheated.” is so disgusting. Shame on you. This misogynistic blame shit needs to stop.

Also, how do you know Timothy and Melanie weren’t in open-relationships? You don’t know their life. Plus, it doesn’t matter because I actually believe the victim and being ASSAULTED DOESN’T COUNT AS CHEATING.

AND HOW. COULD. SHE. PROVE THE ASSAULT? If she could prove the assault, do you not think she would’ve already?! It’s so difficult for victims to prove these kind of things! That’s why this is such a tricky subject. You can get stabbed and the police will believe you, take you seriously and you can find possibly who did it. Being SA’d is not that easy. Most victims are too scared to go to the police.

So Melanie not pressing charges is because she can’t afford it, but Timothy can? I think Melanie, the celebrity, makes more money.

I’ve had asthma attacks more fun than watching this video.

I literally had to drink the other day just to make it through the first hour of this video. It was pretty nice, made me feel less in pain.

“We don’t arrest people for being creepy oh but timothy being a leo and borderline is totally evidence.

“Why Timothy Heller fans remain loyal in spite of of basic logic: A lesson on cognitive dissonance and being manipulated.” Irony (ˈʌɪrəni) the expression of one's meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect.

“Takes it personally when you don’t believe her.” Uh yeah? If someone told you your SA was fake that IS personal. Jfc.

Irish I wasn’t watching this video (you’ll only get the joke if you’ve seen the video and remember the art.) (I actually am Irish.)

I don’t feel guilty at all. Because unlike Melanie stans, I don’t go around harassing people.

THE ALLEGATIONS AREN’T ABOUT RACE. Isn’t Crow white?? Sit down. Seriously. It’s fucking repulsive to use the struggles of latina women as a gotcha card. Anyway.

If any of you actually want to donate to a charity for latino/latina people, here you go.

WAIT. HE JUST- THEY JUST SAID BELIEVING TIMOTHY REQUIRES NO MENTAL GYMNASTICS ON ACCIDENT. Rare Crow W 2.

Well that was the worst video I’ve ever seen, and I’ve watched Who Killed Captain Alex. At least that movie has ironic enjoyment and was made with love. This video is a toxic, harmful and disgusting video shaming a victim of SA into silence. Stop using this video as a source.

Also, they spread misinformation in their newer video when he said that Timothy retracted her statement. She did not. As I said earlier, Timothy has stated publicly she stands by it and that screenshot was FAKE. But Crow doesn’t care about evidence, but flawed logic. If you read my earlier rant, I talked about this.

I’m done with this video. I’m just going to link some stuff.

The Original Video (Be Civil)

BTIM’s 6 hour life stream response

A Different Perpsective

Resources For Victims

BTIM Follow Up / Part 2

Edit: This isn’t related, but I recently re-listened to A Million Men, a song I haven’t listened to since I was a kid, and I shed a tear because of how fucking horrible the lyrics are. It’s about a CHILD going through some of the most horrible shit imaginable, being murdered and- what the fuck? I was so disgusted. It’s so exploitative. The lack of tact

Oh, and as a response to someone else calling the song disgusting? One of Melanie Martinez’s amazing fans replies “cope, SA victim” which is fucking disgusting.

Edit: It’s near the end of July. I made this post in December and the situation is resurfacing after all these years later. Huh so now y’all feel bad? Eye roll. This post isn’t the best, mainly because I didn’t time stamp anything. Anyway, y’all acted weird about this back then, and weird about it now :) yes I was insensitive ONE time about it as a pre-tee but I grew up. Uh, Melanie stans didn’t.

Also yes I watched Crow’s new videos saying they’re making a new video. Kinda guilt trippy but it’s also freeform and clearly vent-y so whatever. Lack of accountability.

[beepborpdoodledorp]

Hot take but I feel like one of this fandom's biggest problems with mischaracterization has to do with audience vs character dissociation...like, we as the viewers know Caine is just a well-meaning dumbass who isn't purposefully trying to hurt the players' physical and emotional wellbeing, but most of the rest of the cast doesn't. I still remember when Ep 3 dropped and everyone was speculating on the 'he wants me to suffer' line thinking Pomni was referring to some unknown character and I feel like that has to do with our omniscience as the audience vs Pomni's point of view towards Caine and the Circus.

[s0r3muzzi3wh0r3]

does anyone have any writing techniques to help with writing about media or history??? I'm struggling with writing a couple of documents about different ideas trying to write about something unique in media.

here's a couple I thought about:

cultural appropriation, religious iconography, and the ignorance of blatant orientalism in modern media

the rise and risks of shock advertising/content in modern media 

the demonization of queer artists and religious iconography 

I'm just struggling how to extend on them, and observing on Chat GPT with the writing prompts given don't fit my style, and I'm just starting out. What do I do???

[whatisthisthingamabob]

You scroll through dating apps, bored of the same several iterations of profiles.

And then you see it.

The girl of your dreams.

A misshapen red solo cup.

[laugtherhyena]

GUESS WHO FINALLY WATCHED THE FNAF MOVIE‼️‼️‼️

[sunshineface]

Can I complain a little bc I literally hateeee the attitude that’s like “you need to draw people like this you need to draw diverse body types and ethnicities and subjects! If you dont draw what I like personally then you suck as an artist” Like sure it’s good practice to have those skills but I ain’t have to do shit except be gay and die and if I want to draw the same skinny white guy a hundred times then I’m gonna do that unless you are quite literally paying me otherwise bc it’s my art. It ain’t about you all the time spoiled ass.

[daincrediblegg]

I really can't believe Mike did it to me again. I can't. God damnit. The first watch of Usher is good but the second? OH HOLY COW. And I didn't even feel like I was missing so much the first time. I did a decent job GUESSING some of the plot points long before they occurred. But now it's all like?? OH. OH THEY WERE TALKING ABOUT THIS STILL!!! this was connected to that. It all makes sense. Things that I didn't even realize didn't make sense to me the first time. Seriously. Flanagan Shows. The gift that keeps on giving.

[chewysgummies]

Embarrassed that I didn't put "1985 - Bo Burnham" in the Rik playlist before 🤦

[jyndor]

we are not doing wrecker shit about psl right now omg who needs cointelpro when you have dumbass american leftists on social media

so much bullshit going around about how leftists and communities are showing up to protests, and also some very real concerns the party chapters should absolutely address because they do actually have answers to these concerns but don't always communicate them well which is aggravating ofc. but im sorry the criticisms against psl have always been half-baked in part because the us left is basically individualist left liberalism that barely reaches anarchism on a good day, and when there is legitimately an effort by fascists like jonathan greenblatt to target psl for being critical to so much of the organizing around palestine and anti-imperialism advocacy in the us, yeah im gonna need more than just social media rumors.

psl is not without its flaws, but im sorry no one in these communities is at risk because of psl. they are at risk because of the police, because of racism and xenophobia and capitalism, because of the state. psl chapters need to explain their tactics more though.

but also im sorry so much of the infighting that has been going on on social media GLOWS. it stinks of fed shit. divide and conquer - weaponize very real conflicting interests within movements to sow division and break up the movement from within. just be mindful that what you see on social media may not be baseless but also may be whipped up to cause chaos and dismantle any potential for a real left wing resurgence in this country.

edit: this is not about the dc thing fyi. they absolutely should have moved the protest location or at least communicated WHY they didn't move it. but im sorry we are not calling psl feds that is legit unhinged and stupid.

[jackleopard]

you really do find taylor haters in the weirdest places

[technicallydelightfulpenguin]

Look how they massacred my boy Richard Steven Horvit.

"There's a reason why most shows have, like, six or seven regular voice actors in a show, because usually it means they get paid more for doing more voices, even if it's for one-off/background characters. I always thought Viv getting so many high profile voice actors for supposedly recurring roles was just her shooting herself in the foot to look more relevant in the mainstream, but knowing that she doesn't pay her incredibly talented artists a fair wage makes me wary of that idea."

[blodeuweddschild]

Me: *watched video critiquing south park*

YouTubes very clever algorithm: ah a South Park enjoyer I see how about these 10 billion other videos praising South Park and oh would you like to watch the new episode

[nethereasypeasy]

Some fluffy head canons I have about the Baldurs Babes

mainly at camp :)

Gale stops tav to lace their boots, sarcastically tutting as he does it.

Karlach holds her hands round someones bowl and cups to warm them if they cool down too much. (Mama K microwave™)

Jaheira and Halsin share nightcaps and chat about the tadpole team. Mainly laughing at their comparative lack of experience - always ends on a 'they're good eggs tho' vibe.

Astarion and Shadowheart rate people's hair to eachother as an injoke, tav hears them mumbling numbers behind them whenever they speak to someone.

Lae'zel asks Gale to explain and pronounce things when no one is around because the 'annoying wizard' won't make fun, he's too eager to teach.

Jaheira has the best bedtime stories but they get Karlach hyped up and she asks a lot of questions till Astarion begs her to be quiet. Wyll takes mental notes for his own storytelling.

Karlach will force a game of 'I Spy' any time there is silence on the road.

Wyll is very good at little random gifts, he just remembers anything someone mentions to him. He's also low-key emotional if you return that kindness, 'you remembered?! 😭'

Halsin stops, kneels and whispers as he points and shows tav interesting plants or animals he spots when walking. 'look there's the mother and her babies' type shit. (He is camp dad(dy) ok)

Wyll teaches Lae'zel fencing. She's too keen though and tries to pin him down. She is not as graceful... But she has fun... chk!

Gale keeps a tiny portrait of Tara on him, you can't tell me modern au Gale's phone wouldn't be full of cat pics.

Astarion watches over the camp at night, he acts like he 'might as well/ I'm the only one lurking in the dark around HERE darlings' but sometimes he secretly gets a little teary looking at his first real friends all together.

Shadowheart writes moody poetry. She would tell Gale but she doesn't care for his taste... Or his possible critiques. If he ever did find her journal though he would be VERY enthused.

Astarion and tav will play with people's wardrobes when looting. Tav loves a funny hat and Astarion will do impressions of who he thinks would wear such god's awful attire.

Gale and Wyll play chess together after dinner some nights. They both say progressively cheesy lines when they take pieces, which is its own game itself at this point.

Halsin would quietly sing or hum to owlbear baby and scratch at night. Little lullabies and he'd probably tuck them in too. OR he'd be big daddy bear and snuggle up, especially when owlbear is scared and misses his mum.

The gang have played 'never have I ever' ONE time and ONE time only. It was a messy night.

... Jaheira was 100% last man standing.

[gyaruhwa]

ATEEZ texts : why are they blowing up your phone?

hongjoong has finished writing a new song after working on it all night. he's spamming you with voice memos and random lyrics that he thinks were straight fire.

seonghwa finally got his hands on a heavily sought out star wars lego set and can't wait to build it with you. each text gets increasingly desperate, he starts sending voice notes because he cannot handle his excitement. like a kid during christmas.

yunho is convinced that you've stolen his shirt for good (which is true you "borrowed" it). it's all jokes but he pretends like it's the end of the world

yeosang wants to take you out on a day that you're finally both free, but he can't type for shit. perseveres to fix his spelling mistake and honestly almost gives up but he's a fighter ok...

san only just realised the impact that gym has had on him. he is super shocked at how skinny his arms were compared to now is fishing for compliments. wants u to glaze him because he's proud of his gym progress. go king

mingi just wants your attention. spamming you for the sake of spamming. pure annoyance but full of love

wooyoung has perfected his muffin recipe. he's convinced it's the best thing ever, after you. need you to try them NOW. lowkey starts getting pissy if you dont respond and sends photos of the muffins in 6 different angles HE'S GETTING IMPATIENT OK

jongho's vocal performance was finally released on youtube, so of course he's spamming you with the link AGAIN and AGAIN as soon as it came out. he's sending random time stamps and critiquing his own singing. definition of proud dad to his own voice. is not stopping until he's 100% sure you've watched (and praised) his performance.

TEXTS UNDER THE CUT!

@gyaruhwa 2025

[shoezuki]

Guys holy shit there's something going on w SCP shit I just found out thru the reddit scp sub and I'm losing my mind so much I need to report on this OK like.

So there are joke scps. If u don't know. That are jokes. Usually digs at common tropes on scps like the rock that makes u procrastinate is probably the most famous joke scp. Or the one I can't find rn where the researchers in the article are critiquing the scp item for being too tropey.

But. There's a new joke scp. SCP-021-J. It was posted yesterday and it's fighting for its fucking life. It has been slingshotting between bein rated -5 to +12 this whole time. The discussion on it is wild people fucking hate it or love it. Hard-core scp ppl are goin on paragraphs bout how it's not funny, its not even anything it's jus the worst of 'lol random' internet humour. And then there's the enjoyers who are jus like 'lol mfer can't handle it'

And all it is. Is evil water bottle.

This is it. The entire article. Evil :(

And ppl are LOSING IT. the discussion is full of ppl talkin like this is a sign and example of how the scp site has fallen so far, that scps are all shit now and things like this are taking away from Actually Good Scps. That it's disgusting and horrible. Like genuinely here's one dude calling it actually problematic

And this battle in the forum is genuinely the funniest thing bout this article like this exchange shows it perfectly

[mia-can-yap-too]

synopsis:- you ask the blue lock boys for a girls' night

warnings:- none

featuring:- isagi yoichi, rin itoshi, micheal kaiser, bachira meguru, sae itoshi

Isagi Yoichi

☆ he doesn't fight the vibes. or question why you called it a girls night even if it was just the two of you

☆ if it makes you happy, then he's all in

☆ he's a bit awkward at first, but once you guide him through putting on a face mask and letting him lean his head on your shoulder during Mean Girls, he melts completely

☆ if you ask him to paint your nails he will concentrate so hard. it'll take longer than you expect. by the time he's done, every limb of yours will be numb

☆ during the movie, he'll put a blanket over the two of you and cuddle while holding hands the whole time

☆ by the end of the night he's admitting he had fun and not-so-nonchalantly asks when you're doing this again

Rin Itoshi

☆ when you tell him you're having a girls night, he makes sure you know he's not doing anything weird

☆ but then you pull out a clay mask and beg to apply it on his face, and after a dramatic 5 second stare-off… he lets you

☆ he sits stiffly at first but slowly leans into your touch

☆ its quiet, kind of sacred

☆ you put on a movie and he'll watch it quietly

☆ he'll offer occasional commentary like “She's obviously lying. That guy's an idiot.”

☆ At some point you lean into him and rest your head on his chest

☆ he doesn't say anything

☆ doesn't even breathe for a minute

☆ then he just wraps his arm around you and plays with your fingers

☆ he won't be admitting he enjoyed it

Micheal Kaiser

☆ you ask him for a girls night and he acts like he wasn't waiting for this

☆ “Oh? Finally, someone's throwing a night worthy of me.”

☆ he shows up over-prepared

☆ silk robe, face masks imported from korea, snacks so expensive you're afraid to touch them

☆ he doesn't understand the concept of casual

☆ five minutes in he's lying on your bed, he's got his hair in a headband, a cucumber slice on one eye (he ate the other one) and he's critiquing your romcoms like some film major on tumblr

☆ “He's emotionally unavailable and she's settling. Next.”

☆ “If that were me, I'd have proposed in Act I.”

☆ lets you paint his nails gold but also half heartedly insults your technique

☆ deep down, he loves being pampered

☆ ends the night with a bunch of forehead kisses and love

Bachira Meguru

☆ you say girls night and he immediately perks up

☆ “Does that mean we're doing face masks and dancing in matching pajamas? Count me in!”

☆ he shows up to your room with a bucket hat, snacks and some glitter gel he found at a random shop

☆ he lays his head on your lap and lets you do his whole skincare routine, grinning the whole time

☆ “I'm glowing already! I feel so refreshed!” “I haven't even started, Meguru…”

☆ you put on a rom com and he acts out the characters dramatically, quoting cheesy lines and looking at you like, “Would you love me if I was a rock with violent diarrhea?”

☆ eventually he quiets down, and cuddles against you under the blankets

☆ “I like it when it's just us. Makes me feel warm.”

Sae Itoshi

☆ you don't ask, you just tell him over text

☆ says shit like “I'm not a girl” and “I don't do nights” but gets there in 10 minutes

☆ he walks in and sees your set up — face masks, fluffy blankets, popcorn and a rom-com queued up— he sighs likes preparing for battle

☆ you're straddling his lap 30 seconds later, smoothing serum into his face as he closes his eyes and melts.

☆ he'd never say it, but your hands on him are the calmest he's felt all week

☆ lets you curl into him during the movie

☆ when you jokingly offer to paint his nails pink, he stares at you… then wordlessly offers his hand

☆ looks down at your work and gives a huff of approval

☆ “You better know you're the only one I'd let do this.”

a/n:- rawr

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