#compassionate reminder

[transcendragon]

New art! “Life Will Go On Glow Frog”. I love making art so much, I’m so glad to be getting back into it! It really helps my mental health

My original art made in Procreate, image description in alt text

[guardian-of-fun-times]

During the holiday season, it’s important to remember that not everyone finds this time of year joyful. Some are grieving the loss of a loved one, some don’t have family to celebrate with, and others are facing the weight of seasonal depression. These individuals deserve our kindness and care. If you know someone who might be struggling during this season, consider reaching out to them. Ask how they’re doing, offer your support, or even invite them to join you for a meal. A small gesture of love can make a world of difference.

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

something my therapist told me and might help you through difficult times: your brain holds resistance to change. you've been doing something for so long now, to the point that's what you consider normal or routine. you wanting to change that for one reason or the other will be conflicting, and your system will probably make you feel like that's not what you want or need, but remember it's just your brain playing tricks on you. you're on the right path, sweet soul, keep it going. i love you.

[lylahammar]

I've been rewatching the first two seasons of The Bear so I can watch the third season that just came out and man the character writing in this show makes me froth at the mouth it's like some of the best arcs I've ever seen in a TV series

[immediatebreakfast]

Another thing that is surprising for this entry; even more if we take into account the year where this novel is situated, is how Mina after reading every single tragedy that Jonathan saw, and concluded that something very horrible happened to Jonathan to be at the state he is today.

Not madness, nor insanity, nor dellusions. Mina doesn't know if everything written is true, but she is absolutely sure that whatever happened in Transylvania left a deep mental scar on her beloved Jonathan.

She read how this Man practically tortured Jonathan for months. The days of lizard fashion, and the stealing of your visage. The wolves tearing a mother apart because she cried for her baby who was violently eaten by the Weird Sisters. Opening a door to see dozens of wolves ready to kill you. How the light of the moon isn't even safe in the castle. The isolation, the darkness, the mind games, the doubt.

All of the times that Jonathan wrote her name like it was a prayer because god didn't grace the castle. The Weird Sisters almost successful plan of seducing Jonathan to kill him.

This is the victorian era, we know how the mentally ill are treated and seen by society. How they are pushed to dig even further to try and escape the abuse at the hands of an uncaring, and dehumanizing system.

Mina nevers blames Jonathan for nothing, nor expresses disgust or anger, or dissapointment, or anything negative for his actions. Mina's conclusion is Jonathan went through something horrible, and that the Man responsible for the suffering of her husband is in London walking as if nothing had happened.

And something has to be done about that.

[diaryofanenchantedprincess]

Self compassion is the antidote.

Whenever you’re feeling down, when you’re feeling ashamed especially- be compassionate to yourself. When you’re having a hard day, do something with the mindset that being kind and gentle and loving to yourself is what will help you. You deserve that kindness. You deserve to feel good.

Do one thing as an act of service for yourself. If you want to do more and fill the day with self care activities- please do. But if you’re only able to manage one thing, please do it. It’s different for everyone. It can be getting a scoop of ice cream. Walking outside for 10 minutes. Laying down under the blankets with your stuffed toy. A guided breathing exercise. Simply sitting down and observing nature. Anything.

Whatever it is- make sure it’s something mindful and not something that distracts you like watching tv or scrolling on your phone. For me- it’s making a cup of hot chocolate.

Hot chocolate has never failed me.

I simply boil cubes of 70% dark chocolate in some milk, and while I’m humming (I make myself hum a tune no matter what mood I’m in), I keep stirring without letting the milk come to a boil and when it’s reached that creamy, luscious consistency, I take it off the heat, pour into my pink mug and top it off with some mini marshmallows and shaved dark chocolate. Sometimes I’ll omit the marshmallows and put in a spoon of vanilla ice cream and gently stir. I’ll watch the ice cream melt into little snowy swirls on top of my beautiful hot chocolate and that first little sip- I swear- feels like it reaches my entire nervous system and calms it down. Like a wave of relief and relaxation washing over me.

In my darkest moments, when I feel like I’m so deep in a pit that there’s nothing that could possibly get me out, no light could ever reach down to a darkness that dwells so deep, hot chocolate is an instant cure. A comfort. A balm that soothes my soul. A warm blanket around my freezing heart. A gentle hand that guides me slowly but surely out of that dark pit.

I do this every time I fall into my pit. It has gotten me out every single time. Not right away some days, but it leaves a lasting impact and has reduced the frequency of my ‘mental lows’. It’s imprinted in my mind that when I feel low, I am worth being loved then too. When I feel worthless, I am worth love especially then.

If you’re feeling low today, please do one kind, loving act of service for yourself. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to be shown kindness and love. Especially if the person showing that to you is you.

[crisishauntline]

I have got to learn how to stop punishing my body with short-term dopamine fixes every time I experience anxiety. At this point, my nervous and digestive systems can no longer handle the consequences of over-/under-eating, staying up all night, and not exercising or going outside all day. Not only do I feel even worse while the problem triggering my anxiety persists, I also have less capacity to feel joy or relief if/when the stressor actually gets resolved.

I deserve rest, nutritious food, water, movement, and fresh air even when I am sad, overwhelmed, unproductive, or angry with myself. Even when I “waste” a day due to a mistake, maladaptive coping mechanism, or simple human limitation, I still deserve a fighting chance at making the next day a better one.

[astrogirlythings]

[alprazogal]

learning that recovery is different for everyone has been a hard path. i thought i had to ignore all my disordered habits until they disappeared, but obviously they didn't, so i relapsed again and again.

then i started reading about addiction and how a psych team works with those kinds of patients, and i started to use that knowledge into my own recovery.

i will forever be addicted to starving. there will not be a day in my life in which i wake up and not think about my eating disorder, not think about weight loss nor counting calories.

however, i know the damage it made to myself, my body, and the ones i love. so i know i must stop one day at a time.

since i learned that i started being more compassionate to myself. started understanding that i had the habit of making those weight loss plans, the habit of counting calories, and that stuff. and that can't change fast. and it's alright.

i allow myself to count calories if i want to, i just try to keep them into a healthy amount, that's enough for me and my body. If i have a rough day, i can also make those weight loss plans i used to, i just don't force myself to follow them.

i found my eating disorder was rooted in trauma, and my ocd has much to do with it. so when i am triggered about daily life stuff, or i feel anxious, i find myself returning to this habit.

it's not easy to stop acting like you hate yourself when it's all you learned. it's alright. it will pass. just be compassionate and understanding. ed are also addictions, and it's not easy to battle it

[transcendragon]

You Deserve to Live - I’m really happy with how this piece came out. Feels really peaceful. I hope you enjoy it!

My original art made in procreate, image description in alt.

[kikuism]

finished my first romcom....

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

friendly reminder that you owe no one an explanation for the things that bring you joy. you don't have to find a justification for the music you listen to, or the activities you love doing, or the series you watch when you're bored. they don't need to understand it, and you don't need to compensate them.

[aromanticasterisms]

i'm cheating [don't have arlecchino yet and am looking at her lines abt the harbingers through hoyowiki] and thank god the harbinger "i hate my coworkers" trend continues + yaay sandrone and columbina crumbs + her line about signora has me in shambles

[jq37]

I believe ppl have been discussing the name thing b/c a) some ppl use it to call her gendered insults (fair enough) and b) Freshman Year revealed Halflings are the colonized indigenous ppl of Solace and then that NEVER GOT ADDRESSED AGAIN (wild), so the question is "is it bad for us to shit on what may be an Ethnic Halfling name," b/c Penny+the Cubbys have very different names but are they products of assimilation, and do Halflings typically name themselves after items like how the Luckstones are named after a lucky rock, etc. That's also why it's hard to tell if she's supposed to be "white girl hates Affirmative Action" or "model minority punching down."

Hmm, OK. Thanks for the info.

Making fun of someone's name in general isn't very nice but neither is grabbing them by the balls and putting a pistol to their heads. Of course, the first thing is a thing that happens way more often irl so it makes sense that people would be more rubbed wrong by it than this crazy pirate activity that is (hopefully) not happening in anyone's day to day life. But because the racial politics of Spyre isn't really something that's emphasized in play, I can't imagine the players are thinking any deeper than dunking on this very intense Keebler Elf sounding name that Brennan invented irl and then gave to a character designed to oppose them. They don't have the cultural context their characters would have. I don't think they'd be dunking on a whimsical sounding name if the setting was Unsleeping City and it was like, a traditional name from a real life culture.

The only times I can think of racial stuff explicitly coming up in the show is the halfling thing you mentioned and the fact that "evil races" are marginalized enough that there's literally a squad of undercover angels staffed by evil races for when they need an easily believable baddy.

Anyway, I guess my point is this very much feels like a situation where there is def a discussion that can be had on the topic but there's not a ton of material in the text to answer the question and, even if there was, it probably wouldn't be a one to one perfect representation of any real world thing anyway (in the same way that Helioism is obviously very based on Christianity and there are problems in the Helioic church that are analogous to irl problems with Christianity but it literally can't be the exact same thing because this is a world where their god explicitly exists with no faith needed to prove it and there is 1000% a hell you can go to for not following the rules and also your god is influenced by the opinions of the followers and there are other gods too and a WHOLE lot of other things that separate Heliosim from Christianity).

[outragedtortilla]

want to print this out and paste it into each new scrapbook

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is taylor swift's midnight rain

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