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Class of Cluster B
decided to make a google classroom for sharing cluster B resources because it's educational or smth i dunno heres the class code orftnbu join if you wanna feel free to share resources, look for your own, request others on specific topics, ect ect you dont have to be cluster B to join, its okay to join if you're questioning or just looking to learn more! PS my DNI applies to this classroom so do not join if you are any of these: basic DNI criteria (racist, homophobe, transphobes, bigots as a whole), Harassment supporters, People who demonise cluster b disorders, People under 13 (Personal comfort), endogenic systems rad queer, good faith, anti xeno/neo
#aspd#actually aspd#aspd safe#cluster b#aspd thoughts#bpd#actually borderline#bpd safe#hpd#npd safe#npd#hpd safe#cluster b safe#cluster b resources#cluster b safe space#personality disorder#cluster b pds#mental illness#actually mentally ill#mental health#mental heath awareness
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NPD Resources Masterlist
[BPD]
The official resources masterlist for NPD. Includes all the links I've shared in the past and stuff I haven't.
Any posts I've linked about supporting those with NPD have been put in the misc section because I do not want to take away from what this post is really about, which is helping people with NPD, not the people around them.
Diagnostic criteria
NPD diagnostic criteria, rewritten by someone who has it
Official diagnostic criteria
An explanation of the diagnostic criteria
Recovery resources FOR the narcissist
NPD recovery resources
How to find therapy for NPD, common types of therapy and signs of an abusive/toxic therapist
Narcissist supply
What is narc supply?
Things that can give a narcissist supply
NPD stigma
The perception of NPD symptoms vs. how a narcissist might actually experience them
Why those with NPD have a hard time seeking help (spoiler alert: it's not because they're unaware)
A plea from someone with NPD (and some resources debunking common misconceptions)
Narcissism is not abusive / abuse is abusive
Debunking common myths on NPD
Common disproven myths about NPD
Miscellaneous
How to support someone with NPD
NPD Carrd (What is NPD, dpt skills and self-help)
Unravelling the connection: npd as a trauma response
NPD terminology (do's and dont's)
NPD safe blogs
@empath-abuse-awareness
@enigma-in-reality
@loverofmirage
@the-npd-culture-is
@nicepersondisorder
@theegosystem
@mischiefmanifold
NPD positivity so you don't have to go looking
Reblog to kiss a narcissist on the forehead
Reblog to tell your local narcissist that they're the best ever
Happy NPD appreciation day
Positivity for systems with NPD
Be normal about narcissists unless it's to give them love
NPD should be EPD (Epic Personality Disorder)
Of course I have a praise kink, I have NPD
Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful
Positivity for narcissists who like sex
I love my narcissists
Aromantic narcissists are amazing
Narcissists I love you
Easy ways to spot a narcissist (it's not what you think <;3)
Narcissists deserve to be loved
As usual, if something needs to be deleted because it's wrong/comes from a toxic author/etc. please let me know. I tried to look on Google but all I found was ableist shit, so these are all found by your fellow narcissists on tumblr :)
Edit: If you have any resources, please send them to me through an ask or DM and i'll check it out/add it!
#npd#npd safe#cluster b safe#actually narcissistic#narcissistic personality disorder#narcissism#npd positivity#npd stigma#npd resources#npd things
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Safety and rapid attachment in BPD
People with BPD often form rapid and intense attachments to new people, and this can be especially intense when both people have BPD. These rapid attachments can be dangerous and painful, since you start to get very close to a person before seeing them in many situations and really knowing them. Most of the advice I have received as a person with BPD is to just avoid these kind of attachments. However, in my experience, that will just lead to me self-isolating, because I literally do not know how to make friends with a new person otherwise. I am sort of an all or nothing person, I can let myself talk about everything and be very familiar with someone or I can be entirely closed off and struggle to connect at all. Additionally, attachment to a new person in this intense fashion causes feelings of euphoria, which I think people with BPD should be allowed to enjoy.
Our goal should not be to have relationships that look like everyone else’s, even if that were possible, which I really do not think that it is. Forcing yourself not to have these attachments can be harmful. However, like I said, these kind of attachments can be dangerous, especially for people who are emotionally volatile like people with BPD are. So instead we need to focus on how to have these kind of attachments safely. The following is advice on how to do this, based on my own experience as a person with BPD who as experienced the good, the bad, and the ugly as a result of rapid intense attachment.
Possible results of attachment
There are three possible results of a rapid attachment. Knowing what all three of them are, and most importantly accepting that they may happen, is important in both keeping yourself safe and treating the person you are attached to well. When you are intensely attached and it is going well, it can feel like you can trust that person with your life, and it is going to last forever. It is not. The intense attachment phase will end, and it is important to know that. It is really a sad news, because it honestly is the best feeling in the world. Something being temporary doesn’t mean you shouldn't enjoy it, however. So enjoy your feelings, lean into them as much as the person you are with consents to it, but accept the that it is not a permanent state. Accepting this can help prevent a BPD crash when it does start to fade in intensity, and it can help you keep an eye out for signs that it is going to end badly.
So what are these three ways it can end?
1. The relationship cools down, but remains good.
This is the ideal! Yippee, you have yourself a new friend. You may miss the intense feelings you had in the beginning, but they can and will come back sometimes, especially if your relationship is kinky and you do a scenario lol. But you are unlikely to have that constant obsession feeling long term, it will come and go or it may stop and you will have a more regular relationship. It is okay to feel less intensely about the person! It doesn’t mean you don’t like them anymore, it just means that intensity is difficult to maintain for a long time!
One important thing to remember about this is that the person you are attaching to may reach this phase before you do! You may have been constantly messaging in the beginning, and now they are replying less often and doing other things. This does not mean they do not like you any more! BPD makes us very sensitive to rejection, and someone reaching this phase before you can hurt! But I promise everything is okay, and this is what you want to eventually happen, because it is what allows you to be able to have a sustainable long term relationship. Do some coping mechanism things while your person is busy, play your favorite games, talk to other friends, color or draw, whatever helps you feel better when you are down. Do not try to make the person talk to you more than is comfortable for them! This is crossing their boundaries and will either scare them away or damage them mentally.
2. The relationship fizzles or ends because of an incompatibility.
When forming an intense attachment, you tend to think about the other person 24/7. You form an idea of them in your head that you really like, but since you do not actually know them that well this idea may not actually match the reality of what that person is like. Sometimes after a bit one or both of you will realize you aren’t actually as compatible as you thought! This is okay! This is normal to happen when getting to know a new person, and you are still getting to know a new person even if they feel very familiar quickly! If this happens, it is important to learn to let the relationship go. Realize they aren’t the person you imagined, and don’t try to force them to change to be that person, and don’t try to convince yourself you still like them if you don’t. It is okay to thank them for the good time and part ways! Often this will just kinda be a fizzling in conversation and both people message less until you just kinda stop. You may need to let the other person know that you do not want the relationship to continue though if they are still interested but you are not. Tell them firmly but politely you are no longer interested. This can be scary but it is important to assert your boundaries! If they try to argue and continue when you are no longer interested, block them. No one is entitled to your time or affection!
3. Abuse and mistreatment.
This is the worst case scenario, and unfortunately it is not uncommon. When you attach to someone quickly, you can often make yourself vulnerable to someone when you don’t know them well yet. Personally, I think it is okay to share personal things quickly, since I do not know how to connect to people otherwise and have a bad sense of what is appropriate to talk about when. Instead, it is important to look for signs that the person is using the things you tell them against you. If you tell them something personal and they then use that to trigger you on purpose or control your behavior, run immediately.
In addition to those who are purposefully using your vulnerability to take advantage of you, there are people who will abuse you on accident. In my experience this is actually a lot more common, so it is important to look out for the signs. If someone is not respecting your boundaries, acting entitled to your time and attention when you are not able or not wanting to give it, or trying to change who you are or modify your behavior, run. And by modify your behavior I do not mean boundary setting or them asking you to treat them differently; that is normal relationship negotiation. I mean if someone is trying to get you to change your sleeping or eating habits for them, control who else you talk to, push you to do something you are not comfortable with, or just trying to control what you do when it has nothing to do with them. People can raise concerns if they are worried about you, but they should not be trying to force you to do anything.
Sometimes people think they are doing these things ‘for your own good’. It is for no ones good to have their autonomy taken away, or to live in fear of upsetting or disappointing another person, or to have to live up to impossible standards. Some people will do this because they cannot let go of the idea they made of you in their head, and are trying to make you into the person they wanted you to be. This is why it is so important not to try to force that onto someone; not only is it not going to work and you will be disappointed, You will be abusing them. DO NOT DO THIS!!! Learn to let go if you need to or accept them for who they actually are. This is so so so deeply important.
It can be difficult to admit when someone you like is abusing or mistreating you. After all, you like them a lot and they made you feel so good. You think maybe you can teach them how to treat you well. You can’t. Even if you could, it will hurt you the whole time. It is not your job. If someone starts to disrespect your boundaries, you gotta go. If they mess up a couple times and apologize, that is okay, but if they keep doing it thats no good, even if they apologize, because they are showing you they are not putting in the effort to change the behavior and not hurt you. I know it hurts and its hard and they will probably be mad and that makes it scary. You still gotta do it as soon as possible, the longer you stay the harder it will be. Its okay to block them on everything. Its okay to leave without explanation (though its nice to give one). YOUR SAFETY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THEIR FEELINGS!
Other things to keep in mind
Honestly just keeping those three ending possibilities in mind and accepting the reality is the number one thing you must do to keep yourself safe in a rapid attachment relationship, but there are a few other things to keep in mind.
1. Boundary setting.
As I mentioned above, your boundaries are important! Setting clear boundaries and expectations for what you want out of the relationship, and leaving if the other person cannot respect that, will keep you safe and happy. Often I have been in an intense attachment relationship where I wanted it to be romantically kinky but not romantic, and the other person interprets romance where I did not intend it. Once this happened the other way around where I thought the relationship was romantic and the other person did not intend that. By being very clear about what you want, what you are open to, and what you are not open to, you can prevent pain and misunderstanding for both of you. It may feel a bit weird to talk about if you are open to dating or not early in a relationship where neither of you may really be planning on it, but it can honestly be useful for both people to know. If you ask about this and the person gets weirded out you can link them this essay to explain, lol.
2. Be careful about doing things that are hard to undo.
Speaking of dating, people who attach quickly will often also start dating quickly. THIS IS A BAD IDEA!!! I will not stop you, you can make your own decisions, but it is a lot more difficult and painful to end a relationship with an official dynamic like dating than it is to just stop talking to someone you are getting to know and don’t have an official relationship of any kind with. I know you feel very intensely and you feel like you love them and you will love them forever, but you might not! And if you do turn out to be perfect for each other long term you have plenty of time! It is okay to be fun and flirty, its ok to be horny and lovey, but please both be clear that you are not intending that to be an official relationship (see above point) and WAIT TO DATE.
(And don’t say that it is okay for them to tell their friends that you are their partner if you do not consider yourself so. I once told someone this because they said they just wanted an easier way to explain it to people, but then they took that and decided we were actually dating because of it, I didn’t know how to boundary set and say no, felt trapped and had to break up with a person I never intended to be dating. Do not confuse your terms!!)
I think that’s all. Please add on to this if I missed something you learned in your experience!!
#BPD#mental health#cluster b#relationships#essay#now broadcasting#personality disorders#actually bpd#safety#bpd help#info#bpd resource
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f2u cluster b shiny gif pride flags!
requested by anon. I'm not part of the cluster b community so I asked some friends who are what flags would be preferable! tags in order of flags.
edit: reposted because the bpd flag was for some reason not a gif.
#aspd#npd#bpd#hpd#cluster b#id in alt#request#pixels#rentry resources#carrd resources#web graphics#page decor#requests#moth's original content#moth's shiny flags
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cluster b culture is struggling to find non-ableist resources for aiding in your own journey and research
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#cluster b culture is#cluster b#anonymous#bpd#npd#hpd#aspd#mood#mod orange#gosh I wish there were better resources#ableism
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NPD/ASPD culture is doing whatever you can to get what you want, hurting someone or something in the process, and being confused as to why people are mad at you for it. Like are you dumb?
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#mhm./gen#i dont know much about aspd. i should check some resources/gen#imsociallyanti#ask#asks#q#npd culture is#npd#actually npd#narcissistic#narcissism#narcissist#narcissistic personality disorder#cluster b#actually cluster b#cluster b personality disorder#npd safe#actually narcissistic#aspd culture is#aspd and npd culture is#aspd + npd culture is
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therapy resources / schema therapy / dbt/dialectical behaviour therapy / internal family systems / meditation / c-ptsd etc. resources
this is a link to my personal google drive, it has lots of dbt stuff, some random other resources that either i or my friends have found helpful incl. DID/OSDD/dissociation resources, & some handouts from a personality disorder program i did (was aimed at pplwbpd officially but the staff all refer to it as the "personality disorder clinic", fwiw)
bunch of other stuff under the cut including video content if that's more your thing
DBT stuff
this subreddit is a wonderful community, usually helpful with questions & has some resources linked also:
https://www.reddit.com/r/dbtselfhelp/ https://dbtselfhelp.com/
TIPP skills (from dbt/distress tolerance unit but deserves distinction. biochemical benefit > psychological benefit. at least for me)
https://manhattancbt.com/dbt-tipp-skills/ https://in.nau.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/202/TIP-Skills.pdf
also emotional freedom tapping / eft (not a tipp skill iirc but it should be, one of the few things that kinda works for me)
https://www.health.com/emotional-freedom-technique-8399985
SCHEMA THERAPY
"client's guide to schema therapy"
https://disarmingthenarcissist.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/clientsguideSchemaTherapy.pdf
(the website name is very questionable but i can't find the pdf for free anywhere else orz. this is a good starting point for schema therapy tho. sorry y'all. i will steal it for my google drive when i have time)
https://www.psychologytools.com/professional/therapies/schema-therapy
^THAT LINK stuff is not free!!! BUT you can find a lot of them with this google search:
[title of worksheet/handout] -site:psychologytools.*
ex. i search the following: "unhelpful thinking styles" -site:positivepsychology.* ...and this pops up, tadaaaa:
https://talkheart2heart.org/resources/unhelpful-thinking-styles/
(i'm just linking the paid site because i cant find them gathered like that anywhere else… dont have time to search each one individually rn lol. maybe another day)
free stuff:
https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Schemas-Needs-and-Modes-Reference-Sheet.pdf (overview) https://bmcpsychology.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40359-020-0392-y/tables/1 (more detailed info on each schema) http://www.schematherapy.com/id72.htm (more info on modes) https://positivepsychology.com/schema-therapy-worksheets/ (a few worksheets linked on that page)
if video content is more your thing:
DBT UNITS:
interpersonal effectiveness extras: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwPrhSDQ0V_tBg36U3wWZpLopxJBurSsq
"middle path" skills: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwPrhSDQ0V_uB2e7Y570ihYBEYd7dK9Sv
"radically open" skills: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwPrhSDQ0V_udTjVVHhz5e1wzOSDyVeN2
DBT expanded edition: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwPrhSDQ0V_vjlYkkflUDRmfhw_hM13M-
more DBT, videos by Dr. Thomas R. Lynch: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkKKzTWUSjRhnRr5Pe2GMA7VDg_E8wBcm
DBT skills animations:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4Qw4-tlRJe-T2l5MtFOsLkTIkfZqjobY
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FAMILY SYSTEMS + ATTACHMENT
Patrick Teahan channel:
(great channel run by a mental health practitioner who has experienced childhood trauma, he gets it. check out the playlists tab. he also has some free resources/worksheets on his website which is linked on his channel iirc)
attachment styles playlist by Jennifer May, Ph.D: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwPrhSDQ0V_smHuEjj2CxW4u7J_FozLlS
Crappy Childhood Fairy channel: https://www.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy/playlists
(cptsd content mostly, haven't watched much of her stuff but i liked what i did see. she isn't certified but she is someone who experienced childhood trauma as well).
healing cptsd (small channel, few videos but good info iirc): https://www.youtube.com/@healingfromcomplexptsd2767
MEDITATION
(i cannot recommend her channel enough… i don't watch her longer videos/seminar(?) stuff but her meditation videos are like. actually helpful lol? i find a lot of that stuff not helpful at all but something about her is very calming and open and grounding. love her)
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MISC
Rachel Richards massage channel:
https://www.youtube.com/@rachelrichardsmassage9660/playlists
(she has some great videos for somatic symptoms... some playlists focus on anxiety relief, breathing/relaxation, posture/mobility, sleep, etc.)
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Dr Daniel Fox channel:
https://www.youtube.com/@DrDanielFox/videos
(cw: ableism/ableist language toward cluster b's is present on this channel, he just has a LOT of videos so i include the link... like if youre looking for something specific to do with pd traits, there's a good chance you can find SOMETHING here. *i have mixed cluster b traits incl. the more demonized ones disclaimer*. but yeah steer clear if that bothers you)
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Struthless channel:
(mostly adhd/exec dysfunction/motivational advice stuff but i find his videos like actually kinda inspiring/motivating so i'm including it here since not a lot of stuff... feels motivating to me at all ever. but i never regret clicking on his vids! good motivational speaker lol)
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that's all i can think of rn please lmk if any of the links are broken or like... if you have a question u think i can help w ^-^
#ptsd resources#dbt skills#schema therapy#interpersonal effectiveness#trauma therapy#dialectical behavior therapy#actually cluster b#internal family systems#cptsd therapy#actually traumatized#ok i dont feel like putting more tags ... goodbye#x#btw the did resources don't include anything about integration... they're journal/symptom trackers#and stuff that helps with healthy multiplicity. total respect to both end goals but i do not have resources specific to integration#context this is a response to someone asking what to do when ur issues are too complex for therapists/no one will take you#i spent over 13 years in therapy and this is my 2 cents#because not a lot of stuff helps me lol#i have mixed cluster b traits and some other dxes#complex trauma#and therapy has been harmful for me many times. these things are ACTUALLY helpful to me. hopefully to anyone who sees this also
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the person I'm seeing described me today as "clearly having a deep empathy for others" and it struck me so strangely. because I don't. at all. I barely experience empathy, I just act as if I do. I experience compassion, and I express sympathy, but empathy? Fuck no, it genuinely sounds mythological to me.
and idk. it struck me how deeply we view empathy as being an inherent trait that is necessary for being a good person. because what they meant when they said they view me as empathetic is that they think I'm a good person, and that I care about others. it made me feel almost inhuman. like I've tricked this perfectly normal person into thinking I'm a person like them. like I'm not just a void wearing a skinsuit and begging for attention.
but the fact of the matter is, I don't really experience empathy. and yet, I care about people. I love my friends. I care about strangers on the street. I care in a way that is deeply affected by my disorders, but I care. and that has nothing to do with empathy.
fuck man. I wish I didn't have "You're a Bad Person and Everyone Hates You" disorder. even when people don't know about my traits or my diagnosis, the way they talk about the very concept of being good excludes people like me. and in the same breath they call me good, not knowing they just told me their definition of it is exactly what I'm lacking.
#npd#npd resources#npd rant#npd things#npd thoughts#npd stigma#npd stuff#low empathy#no empathy#actually npd#narcissistic personality disorder#personality disorder#cluster b safe#cluster b
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My Experience being diagnosed with bpd.
for me it was a relief to finaly have an answer, something to explain my thought process and behaviours, as well as confirmation for something i highly suspected.
the unfortunate thing is that i got diagnosed when i had a breakdown that scared me so bad i admitted myself to the psych ward behind my parents backs, having such a bad experience at the ward that being in that same hospital anywhere away from the er or first floor gives me panic attacks.
i went back to the er after my body shut down, my mom having to support me heavily as my body refused to cooperate and let me walk, they lent me a wheelchair and i was stuck in the er overnight till the afternoon the next day. when they finally got us in and did tests on me they couldn't see what was wrong physically but saw i had a bpd diagnosis so the psychiatrist there sat me down with my mom, gave us a booklet on bpd and told us it must have just been such intense stress from my bpd symptoms that my body couldnt take it.
i always thought it would be something like my spine defect to cause me a complete loss of mobility but knowing now that if i dont regularly take medication to manage my bpd and stress levels my body will decide on its own its had enough and stop responding.
losing my mobility slowly was scary enough, bpd symptoms giving me episodes of full immobility was terrifying. while im glad i had an explanation for it, i still wish they'd properly told me about the bpd diagnosis before when i was there self admited.
had i known any time earlier, i would have been able to better set boundaries and look after myself, recognize what didnt help me and what my symptoms and behaviours were and prevent such terrifying episodes from ever happening.
it was a relief when the psychiatrist i saw at the ward mentioned it off hand because i had suspected it already and that confirmation made my concerns feel even slightly validated. that was probably the only positive that came from that visit.
it wasnt what started my research on bpd but it sure as hell influenced me delving way deeper into it, and after one too many bad stressors and reactions to stress, i am still trying to do more research to help myself and others cope better and better understand ourselves.
hopefully my book "understanding borderlines" can do that.
#i'll update the book with this post as an addition after i finish the chapter on the booklet the psych gave me#mod sparrow#bpd#bpd awareness#borderline personality disorder#borderline personality disorder resources#borderline pd#actually borderline#actually bpd#bpd thoughts#bpd safe#important#cluster b#actual bpd#borderline pd resources#bpd resources#bpd recovery#bpd vent#borderline things#borderline blog#bpd diagnosis
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Need help on ID!!
Different PDs thinking of their special people
Based on this post [link]
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#custom emoji#custom emote#discord emoji#emoji blog#emote artist#discord emote#emoji#☕️tcc ;; emojis#☕️tcc ;; resources#emote#needs id#cluster c#cluster b#cluster a
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npd culture is I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I WILL BECOME NORMAL I WILL HEAL AND BECOME NORMAL I'M GONNA BE NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL PLEASE I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL I HAVE TO BECOME NORMAL THIS IS NOT A WANT OR A SHOULD IT'S A NEED OR ELSE EVERYTHING HORRIBLE THAT EVER CAN HAPPEN WILL HAPPEN I CAN'T LIVE LIKE THIS I NEED TO BECOME NORMAL IMMEDIATELY BY MYSELF NO THERAPY APPOINTMENTS NO GLUE NO BORAX I NEED TO BE NORMAL
(speaking of which can any of you PLEASE PLEASE recommend any sources or tips or anything to help cope with symptoms and crashes and anything, i want to heal but i can't afford therapy rn yet i'm already pretty desperate and i want to know what i can do to help myself)
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#i might have smth in my resources tag that could help??#npd culture is#npd#actually narcissistic#actually npd#narcissistic personality disorder#cluster b
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system toolbox ☘︎
dealing with dissociation, coping, and self-care
what is a coping mechanism
how to identify your triggers
99 healthy coping skills [3]
⌒warning! there is a brief mention of religion in this document [3]
there are 7 pillars of self care: mental, emotional, physical, environmental, spiritual, recreational, and social.
don't know where to start?
the new yorker- 2024's best books PSSST! if you're a student, you may be able to access the new yorker free or 50% off!!! [1]
online jigsaw
self compassion prompts
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how to create a better sleep routine
changing sleep habits with insomnia
how to form good sleeping habits with ptsd
how to start exercising
how to start exercising as a disabled person
10 easy exercises
exercises for wheelchair users
how to exercise with chronic pain
free pill and medicine reminder app
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what the freak is a daily gratitude
daily gratitude prompts
youtube channel focusing on meditation and calmness
youtube channel focusing on meditation and mental wellbeing
meditation 101 for neurodivergent folks
meditation for kids/littles
⌒warning! some of the reccomended books deal with sensitive topics, such as identity, pregnancy, racism, etc. [1]
identifying and communicating with parts
a common way to identify switching and different "parts" emerging is journaling! this doesn't have to be consistent, pretty, or detailed. sometimes it can be sticky notes about how you felt kind of angry with the date scribbled in the corner, and sometimes it can be full on documentation about what you believe was a switch. putting these diary entries together can feel like putting together a puzzle. (for example, i met jade because they would frequently scribble down, "this body stinks, im taking a shower now." when no one else would. also, there may be noticeable changes in handwriting or speech patterns to look out for!
parts, alters, personalities, fragments, headmates, whatever
journaling 101
journaling technique (bullet journaling/bojo)
journaling technique (the vomit system) [4]
what to write in your journal
⌒warning! this video talks about vomit. [4]
#system help#system advice#traumagenic system#cluster b#cluster c#mental health support#mental health#dissociation#actually dissociative#mental health resources#I already posted this in a reblog but I'm doing a separate post
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would you happen to know any resources or smth for someone questioning npd?
Hey hey! I went digging for you. Most, if not all of these are recommended by those with NPD here on Tumblr because I do not trust Google whatsoever, but if any of these turn out to be untrue/harmful/come from harmful authors, then please someone let me know and I will get rid of them <3
NPD Criteria, rewritten by someone who has it
Perception of NPD symptoms Vs. how someone may actually experience it
NPD diagnostic criteria
An explanation of the NPD diagnostic criteria
NPD Recovery resources
NPD Carrd (what is npd, DPT skills and self help)
If anyone has anymore resources, please feel free to add on!
also this is very relevent
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So a little while ago at work I was cashing out a woman who was mostly communicating with intonation but no words, which was perfectly understandable, and she seemed to understand what I was saying but I did more gesturing like I usually do with customers who may be deaf/hoh. At some point she made a motion with her hand that looked like sign language to me, and I felt a little embarrassed because I keep meaning to learn ASL and just... haven't. So after she left I started trying to see if I could figure out what she signed at me.
Boy. I was not prepared.
The entire fucking search results were just articles titled things like "sign language for beginners!" showing me words like "UP" and "MILK." I got so desperate I was typing in search terms like "basic american sign language FOR ADULTS"
#i assume this is the deaf/hoh equivalent of when you google bpd and all the results are like#'how to escape a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP with an EVIL CLUSTER B PERSON'#i am not an infant and i do not have an infant i googled asl can you please show me asl resources fhajajncbdhfja#the other great breed of articles i found about asl is the ones that were like 'basic asl' and then just showed letters like bro#what am i supposed to do spell out every word letter by letter can you tell me how to say hi#actually if anybody is an asl speaker i think that a video series on basic asl for customer service would be super cool#like just 'yes' 'no' 'card' 'cash' 'thank you' 'do you need help' 'have a good day' etc etc#i looked that up but i didn't find anything :(#incoherent rambling
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everyone who says cluster b instead of personality disorders to refer to base pd symptoms and clearly doesnt give a shit about pw hpd or aspd die in a fire forever ok
#bpd#aspd#hpd#npd#avpd#ocpd#dpd#stpd#ppd#pdnos#pdts#szpd#im tired of being nice about it#its a complicated issue and like none of us have it good but like at least people with bpd have resources#all pd groups are either only for bpd because thats the only one that exists or its only for ’cluster b’ but they just mean bpd#anytime i tell people about a pd that isnt bpd they have no fucking idea what im talking about#including people with bpd#people woth bpd shouldnt be demonized or called manipulative and need better support#but same with everyone with a pd#advocate for your peers too#learn about other pds#make friends with people who have other pds#stop using cluster labels
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If you struggle to identify your emotions, or if you would like to know and understand yourself better, check out this feelings wheel that helps you narrow down what you’re feeling (which can be extremely helpful/useful for countless reasons!)
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Save it to refer to whenever you need it, or read through it and tag every word that applies to you now if you want some practice!
It’s been really helpful to me so I thought I’d share, hopefully someone else finds it useful as well <3
#emotional intelligence#emotional regulation#alexythymia#autistic things#adhd problems#audhd problems#personal growth#self discovery#journal prompts#feelings#emotional growth#emotional strength#journaling#mental health resources#cptsd#audhd community#autistic community#bpd things#cluster b positivity#cluster b safe#healing
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