#but the societal expectation is so deeply ingrained

[natandacat]

The notes are so funny bc here are the 'downsides of being an only child' that are literally not unique to being an only child and more of a parenting/situational thing really:

- "It's lonely!/Siblings are built-in friends!" One of my brothers played with me out of a sense of necessity because we were not allowed to be with other kids and he deeply resented me for that, which made for a bad relationship and me being extremely alone all the time anyway. I'd rather have skipped the hatred (on his part) and heart break (on mine) and gone directly to playing alone. I have literally never had an intimate conversation with any of my 3 brothers (except literally One time with one of them) but I've had countless of horrid fights (with me or witnessed). Hell is other people, etc.

- "All the attention is suffocating!" I was monitored 24/7 and pretty much never left alone, up to a point where my bathroom time was also monitored. My brother actively and voluntarily participated in the monitoring at some points.

- "You get unconditional support as an adult!" I've been in a lot of trouble since I was 17 and they've never helped, not materially or emotionally.

-"You have more people to build happy memories with!" My brother got married 3 days before I was back in the country (he set the date way after I had bought my plane tickets and also he actively chose to hide it from me) and still blames me for being upset because "it was a ceremony for closed loved ones only anyway" (I guess I wasn't counted!). That's just the most egregious examples in a long, long list.

I get grass is greener ect but what bothers me is that it reinforces the idea that sibling relationships are *always* a net positive, in a very "nuclear family is sacred" way

Like I'm not venting for the sake of it, I've been no contact for 4 years and it's great, I'm just frustrated that it's so goddamn hard to get people to acknowledge sibling abuse, or even get them to *not* perform shocked incredulity at the idea. Especially on tumblr, THE website where people talk about parental abuse all the time and understand that sometimes you really cannot salvage the relationship and it truly is detrimental

All I'm saying is stop assuming that things would be better with a sibling around. You don't know that! Believe me, things could be so much worse with a sibling around.

The good news is you get to choose your friends and siblings as an adult! :) Life can be sweet not matter who your nuclear family is! You're not a failure for not experiencing the hegemonic ideal of siblinghood! It's okay!

[inbarfink]

Revolutionary Girl Utena is an Incredibly Meaningful and Emotionally Powerful Anime With Many Important Messages

The patriarchy is a toxic and deeply ingrained aspect of our culture that hurts everyone regardless of gender and social status, although ‘outsider’ women suffer from it the most - as they become the scapegoat and outlet for the suffering of others.

The concept of ideal masculinity is a myth that will basically kill anyone earnestly trying to reach it

The idealization and the demonization of women are both deeply sexist and harmful phenomena that spring from the same source

The romanticism of Fairy Tales shapes much of the way we as a culture think and is often used to reinforce regressive views of heroism and gender

Reality is a subjective fabrication. The way we view and process the world is so deeply shaped by our preconceived notions that we’re all basically living in different worlds.

Victims do not need to be morally perfect to deserve sympathy and support

Our conception of heroism is often interviewed with a condescending desire to deny victims, especially victimized women, their own agency.

Our memories are not as set in stone as we would like to believe and can easily be warped and manipulated based on our preconceptions or societal expectations

Clinging to the idea of childhood innocence past its moment will just corrupt into something much darker and uglier and probably incest-y

Gay

It’s a big mistake to think you’re the only one who can turn into a car

[maxdibert]

I’m a Brit and think that’s pretty spot on about James trying to put Snape back in his place…Snape doesn’t just offend their sensibilities because he’s working class, but because he doesn’t consider himself inferior and because he’s visibly trying to social climb through academics and connections, the ambition oozes from him (good for him! wish he’d had better mentors!) there is literally *nothing* a British snob disdains more than a social climber. Not getting above your station is considered the ultimate virtue. There’s a bit of this in Lily’s objections to Snape’s Slytherin friends too…obviously her main issue is that they’re bigoted cunts, but there’s definitely also a hint of unflattering disbelief about him being accepted (however conditionally) by well-connected scions.

Whenever I think about class analysis in Harry Potter, I do so fully aware of how intense the topic of social class has always been in Britain. It’s something I’ve always known, but when I lived there, it became much clearer, so for me, the issue of classism in this context is pretty obvious. I also think the issue of social class and the expectation from the upper echelons (especially the aristocracy) that those from below should stay below and know their place is something very common across Europe—especially in countries where monarchies and, therefore, aristocratic elites still persist today. This means that society isn’t entirely shaped by the neoliberal capitalist perception of class seen in countries like the United States, where the “self-made millionaire” is glorified. Instead, there is a deeply ingrained perception that above the self-made millionaire stands the aristocrat, the name, the old money. The name often matters more than the money because a name represents prestige, pedigree—it’s part of the DNA of a society built on the foundations of an old regime whose pillars haven’t fallen but simply modernized. This is something that also happens in Spain, which, like England, is a monarchy, or in other European countries where monarchies may no longer exist but held significant power over the past two centuries. These nations still retain a strong legacy of social hierarchies rooted in aristocracy within their societal structures.

James and Sirius weren’t just wealthy—translated into a real-world context, they would be aristocrats. They were people of family names and lineages stretching back hundreds of generations. They weren’t just boys from good families; their families were at the pinnacle of the social scale. Severus ended up in a Hogwarts house where not only were the students from high social classes, they were also ARISTOCRATS. He was a working-class kid, but not just that—he came from an industrial area, which on the social scale is just one step above peasants. The only thing that positions an industrial worker above a peasant is that industrial workers are located in cities, and within the web of social classes, cities rank above rural areas. This is something we understand very well in Europe.

From a practical standpoint and from a class perspective, Severus was already at the bottom in the Muggle world. But on top of that, in the wizarding world, he was a half-blood—not because he had parents who were magical but Muggle-born, but because one of his parents was a Muggle, the same parent who gave him his surname. The difference in status between him and Lily in that sense was practically nonexistent. Severus wasn’t just poor from a neoliberal perspective; from the traditionalist perspective of how social classes interact, he came from the very bottom, both in terms of his social position and his blood status. Ignoring that basically disregards not only the lens of class and the significant power imbalance between the characters but also reveals an immense level of cultural ignorance—not just about British culture but about European culture as a whole.

[fadetoblacked]

A New Dawn in France: The Joy of a Hyper-Mixed Society

I love when I get to take a little vacation. France, a country with a storied history of art, culture, and revolution, is witnessing a new kind of revolution—a social transformation that is as exhilarating as it is profound. As I stroll through the vibrant streets of Paris, Marseille, and Lyon, I see a beautiful mosaic forming before my eyes. White girls are dating Black African men everywhere I look, creating a hyper-mixed society that embodies the spirit of unity, equality, and love.

This sight fills me with an overwhelming sense of joy and hope. It's a powerful testament to the breaking down of racial barriers and the embrace of diversity that we've long fought for. France is evolving, and with it, so is the world.

For far too long, society has been mired in the toxic legacies of colonialism, racism, and segregation. These relationships between white women and Black African men are a bold declaration of independence from those outdated ideologies. They signify a collective step forward into a world where love transcends color, where the bonds of affection are stronger than the chains of prejudice.

This hyper-mixing is not just about romantic relationships; it's a profound social statement. It's about the courage to love openly and the determination to reject the confines of societal expectations. It's about young people daring to envision a world that is inclusive, accepting, and celebratory of differences.

The blending of cultures, traditions, and backgrounds enriches everyone. Children born from these unions inherit the best of both worlds, growing up with a diverse perspective that equips them to navigate and contribute to a globalized society. They are living proof that our differences can be our strengths, that our diversity can be our greatest asset.

In schools and communities across France, these children will learn to appreciate and respect all cultures. They will become the ambassadors of a future where racial harmony is not a distant dream but a lived reality.

White girls hooking up with Black African men challenge the deeply ingrained stereotypes that have long plagued both communities. These relationships defy the racist myths perpetuated by those who seek to divide us. They are a direct affront to the fear-mongering and xenophobia that have no place in a progressive society.

Every interracial couple I see is a powerful reminder that love knows no bounds. They are the vanguard of a new narrative—one that celebrates humanity in all its hues and forms. They show us that unity is possible, that a hyper-mixed society is not only achievable but beautiful.

As we move forward, it is essential for all of us to embrace this change with open hearts and minds. Let us celebrate these unions as the harbingers of a new era. Let us support and protect these relationships from the forces of hate and intolerance. And let us work tirelessly to ensure that the hyper-mixed society we envision is one where everyone, regardless of their race or background, can thrive.

France, with its rich history of revolution and progress, is once again at the forefront of change. The sight of white girls dating Black African men is not just a trend; it is a testament to the power of love and the inevitability of a mixed, harmonious future.

As a radical , I am thrilled to witness this transformation. It reaffirms my belief in the possibility of a world where equality and justice are not just ideals, but realities. Together, we are creating a tapestry of love, respect, and unity that will inspire generations to come.

Vive la révolution sociale! Vive l'amour!

[bblovetarot]

{⊹} Messages from your higher self

ʚ ═══･୨ꕤ୧･═══ ɞ Pick a Pile ʚ ═══･୨ꕤ୧･═══ ɞ 

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。°⚠︎°。follow your intuition when choosing a pile. if you're drawn to more than one pile, that's okay! you may have messages in more than one.

。°⚠︎°。tarot readings are not 100% accurate, and do not dictate your future. please keep in mind that you have free will. these readings are also general and aren't specific to one person, so please take what resonates and leave what doesn't! 

Pile 1

For those in Pile 1, it appears that many of you are grappling with toxic family dynamics. Whether you're still living with your parents or they play a significant role in your life, there's a strong indication that financial dependence, particularly on a father figure or someone with authority over you, is a prevailing issue. This person may exhibit controlling and domineering behaviors, with a tendency to become aggressive and hotheaded when things don't go their way. The guidance from your higher self emphasizes the importance of trusting your intuition in this situation. It seems that there's an unspoken need for you to speak up, although fear of potential consequences, especially the withdrawal of financial support, may be holding you back. Your higher self encourages you to recognize that the time to assert yourself will come, whether it's now or in the future. There's a call for new energies in your life, a transformation of old thinking patterns and habits that have outlived their purpose. Your true self, characterized by a tendency to speak up against injustice, chattiness, and curiosity, needs the space to fully blossom. Financial independence from this challenging situation is urged by your higher self, along with a release from old toxic family dynamics and ingrained beliefs. Some of you might be dealing with codependency or enmeshment, and the path forward involves gaining freedom, both financially and emotionally. Your intuition has been guiding you, and your higher self wants you to embrace the steps necessary for your personal growth and liberation.

Pile 2

For those in Pile 2, it seems like there's a prevailing sense of lack of motivation in your life right now. You might be hindering your own growth by dimming your own light, lacking confidence in pursuing your true happiness, and hesitating to embark on the journey towards your desired future. You may have held yourself back and engaged in reckless behavior with a cloudy judgment. Your higher self encourages you to reflect on your desires and question whether they are genuinely aligned with your passions. There's a need to dream bigger and deeper, beyond merely seeking material wealth. It's crucial to focus on wishes that truly resonate with your happiness, irrespective of others' opinions. Your path is uniquely yours, and speaking up against those who try to impose their beliefs on you is necessary. Trusting yourself and the universe is vital for your genuine happiness. You cannot live your life for others, and your higher self urges you to believe in receiving what truly makes you happy. Unleashing the confidence you've suppressed is key to navigating your path and fulfilling your wishes. Standing up to those who may look down on you or judge your choices is part of asserting your authenticity. For many of you who might be spiritual in the midst of people heavily influenced by religion, it can be challenging. Your higher self wants you to notice where your true happiness lies, even if it means breaking away from societal expectations. Trusting that the universe will gift you what you deserve requires making the first step and committing to your heart's desires. As empaths, you might absorb others' energies and words deeply, taking them as your own. Your higher self advises you to protect yourself from negative energies, surround yourself with nature, and avoid isolating yourself. Dream big, Pile 2, and embrace the confidence and authenticity within yourself to pave the way for your genuine happiness.

Pile 3

For those in Pile 3, a prevailing sense of feeling heavily blocked is apparent. As intuitive, daydreamers, and emotional individuals, you may sometimes struggle to handle emotions appropriately, feeling inadequate or believing that obtaining your true desires is impossible. Your higher self emphasizes the need to balance feminine and masculine energies within you, recognizing the innate gifts that can manifest your desires. It's essential to understand that manifestation involves not only asking the universe but also playing an active role in achieving your goals. Believing in yourself and taking the required actions are crucial steps, followed by surrendering to the process. Trusting yourself and the universe is the first key. Many of you might be emotionally closed off, neglecting self-pouring. Your higher self encourages a focus on self-care—engaging in activities that bring joy, fulfillment, and calmness. Whether it's a walk in the park, enjoying your favorite drink, or any uplifting experience, prioritize actions that lift your spirits. Creative expression is emphasized for you—writing, drawing, dancing—anything that opens your heart and allows free expression. Past hurts may be weighing you down, causing you to view life with a half-empty perspective. However, your higher self reminds you that the universe holds endless love for you, and it's always available if you open yourself to receive it. Embrace the healing process that the universe is guiding you through, trust the path laid out for you, and never give up on yourself, your abilities, and the support of the universe.

[valtsv]

tbh the more i think about it the more convinced i am that my parents aren't a uniquely horrible punishment or hateful abusers so much as just... people who i'm fundamentally incompatible with on some level (and vice versa) but nevertheless forced to try to connect with by the deeply ingrained and strongly enforced societal expectations of familial bonds. it's not that they don't love me at all so much as that they love me in a way i don't understand. and shouldn't be expected to.

[jewish-sideblog]

As someone who believes in horseshoe theory (not entirely because politics is way too complicated to simplify into that), I’ve always seen it as less of a thing about people’s actual beliefs, and more the structures of those beliefs, and the way they go about them, if that makes sense

So like, the alt/far left has this fantasy of some kind of violent revolution, where we not only dismantle or reform corrupt systems, but we also brutally slaughter people that are deemed as too privileged or having the wrong views, and I think that’s very similar to how the alt right’s endgame seems, especially the evangelical right. These types of people never want to actually make small changes that will progress us to the point of a better society, they just expect to wake up suddenly and society is being toppled. Like, isn’t that just the rapture, but dressed up in leftist clothing? Idk. There’s also this mentality on the alt left that capitalism is caused by billionaires and people like that, instead of the other way around, and that we can get rid of capitalism just by getting rid of those people. I am anti capitalist and very anti billionaire, it’s just that I see capitalism is a deeply ingrained societal issue that’s not caused by specifically people, only exploited by them. The idea that there’s a select few behind a huge part of our world is a right wing Jew hating talking point, but it’s something I see a lot of the far left embrace

Also, the behaviours of the alt left tend to mirror the alt right. Calling everything that doesn’t fit their narrative propaganda, conspiracy theories that everyone outside of the bubble can see are bullshit but they are convinced are real, that cult like mentality of ‘if you say or do anything that goes against what we believe, then you’re just as evil as Nazis/the people who want to topple society (I don’t know right wing terms lol). I mean, they’re literally sharing neonazi slurs now (the number of leftists I’ve seen using ‘zio’ is shocking)

I don’t know, I’m a leftist (or at least someone who agrees that human rights are maybe a teeny tiny bit important compared to money, you know), but I’m also very critical of the current state of the left, especially the far left. I want us to build a much better world than what we have now, and I don’t think any kind of extremist ideology is not going to improve it

Yup. 100%. I still consider myself a leftist too-- at least, I'm trying to-- but the current state of the left is hyper-radicalized, hyper-polarized, and severely under educated.

[bananapancakewithcondensedmilk]

Journal Entry – January 23rd

Today, I feel the weight and the liberation of my journey simultaneously. I am in the midst of something profound—deconditioning myself from the layers of societal, cultural, and systemic conditioning that have shaped me for so long. It’s not just about me; it’s about something much larger, something that ripples outward into the collective. Every choice I make, every item I let go of, every thought I observe instead of unconsciously acting on—it’s all part of reclaiming my consciousness, my truth.

I know how deeply ingrained these patterns are. I see them everywhere—in the way I was taught to consume, to conform, to shrink myself to fit within the system’s expectations. But I can’t live in those illusions anymore. It goes against my very nature. I feel it in my bones—the need to align with what’s real, what’s authentic, what’s true. And truth isn't something that can be forced; it unfolds naturally when I create space for it.

Decluttering my physical space today wasn’t just about cleaning; it was an act of liberation. Each item I released felt like shedding a layer of false identity—things I once thought I needed, but in reality, they were just placeholders for something deeper I was seeking. The more I let go, the lighter I feel. And yet, there's also discomfort—this isn't easy. Facing what’s been hidden, confronting my attachments, and realizing how much of my environment has been dictated by a system I no longer align with… it’s a lot. But it’s necessary.

Even in the smallest aspects of my day—brushing my hair, dressing for work, preparing my meals—there is an opportunity to decondition. Society tells me I need products, trends, routines that don’t serve me. But I’m rewriting those narratives. Washing my hair with just water feels like an act of rebellion, a return to what’s natural. The simplicity of using coconut oil on my skin reminds me that healing doesn’t have to be complicated or commercialized; it’s about intention, care, and presence.

The digital detox is another layer of this journey. It’s not just about removing apps or limiting screen time; it’s about shifting how I engage with the internet entirely. I want my digital presence to reflect my values—to be a tool for authenticity, not a trap for conformity. Tumblr feels like a space where I can express these shifts, share my journey, and document the process without the pressure of performance.

And yet, I know this isn’t about perfection. I remind myself of that constantly. The goal isn’t to completely detach from the system—it’s to take back control, to make conscious choices, to align as much as possible. Consciousness is awakening within me, and it craves alignment with truth. I can feel it, urging me to move deeper, to release what no longer resonates.

Today, I feel calm. There’s still work to do, but I trust the process. I trust myself. Every step I take, no matter how small, is a step toward the life I know I’m meant to live—one that isn’t dictated by societal expectations, but by the deep knowing within me.

Tonight, I’ll light a candle and reflect. I’ll honor this journey and all the layers that are falling away. And as I sleep, I’ll trust that with each breath, I am becoming freer.

[v-ividus]

3. The Societal Cage of Illusion and the Reclamation of the Human Spirit

“The world is too much with us; late and soon, getting and spending, we lay waste our powers." — William Wordsworth

William Wordsworth's haunting words resonate with the profound despair that characterizes our times, where disillusionment and emotional exhaustion weigh heavily on many. The contemporary individual finds themselves ensnared in a kaleidoscope of relentless demands posed by social, political, religious, economic, cultural, and technological systems—forces so deeply ingrained in our collective psyche that they often masquerade as the very essence of existence. Each day, we are bombarded with an incessant barrage of expectations, many of which are rooted in both religious and secular ideologies that relentlessly dissect our identities, draining our spirits and leaving us disoriented and adrift in an ocean of uncertainty.

In this tumultuous landscape, it becomes imperative to recognize that these systemic pressures do more than shape our behaviors; they infiltrate our subconscious, often coercing us into self-neglect and identity disintegration. Psychological theories suggest that when individuals are unable to fulfill the roles dictated by an unforgiving society, they experience a profound sense of alienation and despair. This alienation is not merely a personal affliction; it is a shared social malaise that obscures our innate potential for meaningful connection and authentic expression. Wordsworth’s call for introspection emerges as a poignant reminder of our human need for solace in a world that prioritizes utility over authenticity, urging us to reclaim not just our identities, but the foundational truths we hold dear.

Thus, this exploration advocates for a necessary disengagement from these overwhelming frameworks, presenting a vital opportunity for renewal amidst the chaos. To disengage is not an act of surrender, but rather, a courageous reclamation of self—a defiance against the tide of cultural hegemony that threatens to dilute our essence. In such reclaiming, we can reconnect with the elemental joys and values that make life worthwhile, prompting a renaissance of spirit that acknowledges both our suffering and our resilience. By embracing this journey of disconnection from toxic systems, we can rediscover the profound beauty in vulnerability, and navigate the complexities of our existence with renewed clarity and purpose.

The Squandering of Human Potential

At the heart of Wordsworth's lament lies a desperate inquiry into the depths of human potential—our innate capacities for insight, creative equity, and sincere connection that are essential to our emotional and psychological well-being. This inquiry unfolds against the backdrop of a society that, in its relentless pursuit of efficiency and conformity, often marginalizes the very qualities that define our humanity. We find ourselves ensnared in a web of prevailing narratives crafted by political structures that prioritize control over compassion, consumer-driven economic systems that treat individuals as disposable commodities, cultural norms that dogmatically insist on uniformity, and technological advancements that distort our perceptions, reducing the richness of human experience to mere data points. Wordsworth’s poignant observation that these forces "lay waste our powers" encapsulates a heartbreaking truth: the tragic squandering of our multifaceted potential, a loss that reverberates within the depths of our souls and echoes through the generations.

As we navigate this quagmire, the psychological ramifications of such suppression become starkly apparent, providing fertile ground for widespread existential malaise and crippling self-doubt. Contemporary psychological discourse emphasizes the importance of fulfilling one's potential as a cornerstone of emotional health; when societal pressures inhibit this pursuit, we are left grappling with a profound sense of inadequacy. Embracing our creative instincts and fostering authentic connections seem increasingly elusive in a world that values superficial interactions over profound dialogue. Wordsworth's voice serves as both a mirror and a beacon, urging us to confront the dissonance between our true selves and the constricting identities imposed upon us. He invites us toward reclamation—a journey back to the essence of what it means to be human, characterized by genuine expression and profound empathy. In doing so, we not only validate our emotional experiences but also ignite a communal resurgence that has the power to illuminate the path toward a flourishing existence. Through this resurgence, we can transcend the barriers erected by external forces and forge connections that resonate with the depths of our shared humanity, thereby breathing life back into our neglected potential.

As we embark on this journey of reclamation, we may also recognize the transformative power of art and nature, elements that Wordsworth passionately celebrated. Engaging with the beauty of the natural world can serve as a profound antidote to the stark disconnection fostered by modernity. Nature invites us to pause, reflect, and re-establish our relationship with ourselves and the universe—reminding us of our fundamental place within its intricate tapestry. Likewise, art emerges as a vital expression of our innermost thoughts and feelings, offering an outlet for the creativity that society often stifles. By cultivating spaces where artistic endeavors can flourish, and where silence and contemplation are embraced, we rekindle our innate passions and foster deeper connections with others. In this harmonious interplay between nature and art, we find a wellspring of inspiration that empowers us to confront societal expectations, embrace our individuality, and pursue lives infused with purpose and meaning. Wordsworth’s legacy thus transcends time, encouraging us to harness our collective potential and forge a future where our emotional well-being is prioritized, our voices are celebrated, and our authentic selves are free to thrive.

The Harsh Landscape of Political Systems and Ideological Battlegrounds

In the modern socio-political landscape, political systems function as more than mere frameworks for governance; they are rugged battlegrounds where ideologies clash and identities are forged. The spectrum—left, right, and center—conveys not just a clash of policies, but an intense struggle for belonging, recognition, and purpose within an ever-evolving society. The left advocates for progress and social equity, championing systemic reform to dismantle entrenched hierarchies. Yet, in its zealous pursuit of inclusion, it risks falling into dogmatism, sidelining dissent and cultivating a new orthodoxy that could stifle the very dissenting voices it seeks to uplift. This dance of inclusion can create echo chambers that reinforce conformity, alienating individuals who yearn for authenticity amidst the clamor for progress. The lofty ideals of equity and justice, therefore, may unintentionally evolve into barriers that perpetuate division rather than fostering unity.

Conversely, the right, with its emphasis on tradition, individualism, and national pride, casts the illusion of stability in a chaotic world. However, this inclination toward preservation often navigates dangerously close to exclusionary nationalism, breeding fear-driven narratives that cast the "other" as an adversary. In its endeavor to safeguard cultural identity, the right may inadvertently curtail the freedoms it cherishes, leading to a narrow perspective on complex social challenges. This seductive comfort of familiarity champions a worldview that, while comforting to many, may further entrench social and ideological divides, stifling the open dialogue essential for progressive change. Meanwhile, the center, striving for moderation and compromise, attempts to navigate the tumultuous waters between these ideological extremes. Yet, in doing so, it can become stagnant, favoring consensus over conviction and reinforcing a status quo that often inhibits meaningful advancement. The center risks becoming complicit in perpetuating injustices while prioritizing political expediency over genuine progress.

As we traverse this intricate landscape of competing ideologies, it becomes crucial to recognize the psychological and sociological forces that drive individuals toward these affiliations. The quest for belonging, identity, and agency compels alignment with factions that resonate with personal experiences and aspirations. However, the emotional validation inherent in such affiliations can obscure deeper societal fractures that demand our attention. By acknowledging the nuanced realities of our political identities—each imbued with its strengths and vulnerabilities—we can create a reflective discourse that transcends simplistic partisanship. This endeavor enables us to reclaim our shared humanity, illuminating the potential for collaboration even in the face of significant differences. Inspired by the call to reconnect with our innate capacities for empathy and understanding, we must strive to bridge the chasms that divide us. Ultimately, in understanding the harsh realities of our political systems, we can weave a narrative of resilience that celebrates our diverse experiences while uniting us in our pursuit of a more compassionate and interconnected society.

Examining Confinement within Our Economic, Cultural, and Technological Systems

Economic systems today impose rigid frameworks that prioritize profit over human well-being, stifling personal exploration and emotional growth. In this landscape, our lives can feel like mere commodities on a vast assembly line, where each individual is assigned a value based on consumption rather than intrinsic worth. Just as products are mass-produced and discarded, so too are we often reduced to our ability to consume, leaving little room for sincere human connection and personal fulfillment. The relentless pursuit of material gain cultivates a culture where value is measured in dollars, eclipsing the richness of genuine relationships and leaving us feeling disposable in a world that values quantity over quality.

This dynamic extends to our most intimate relationships, particularly marriage, where the influence of the sexual marketplace can erode the foundations of proper mate selection. Rather than fostering deep emotional bonds and loving mutual respect, the emphasis on market value turns partners into competitors in a transactional exchange, where desirability is often measured by superficial attributes and societal standards. This commodification of love and partnership can lead to a slow unraveling of marriages, as couples become entrapped in a cycle of comparison and discontent, prioritizing fleeting attraction over the enduring qualities that cultivate lasting connection.

This existential conflict manifests as a pervasive anxiety, breeding feelings of inadequacy and dislocation. Individuals find themselves adrift in a chaos of superficial interactions and fleeting encounters, each one a muted echo of genuine intimacy. Within the throes of this emotional tumult, one might surrender their agency, indulging in fleeting affirmations of self-worth articulated through likes and validations. Yet, such superficial engagement only masks a profound existential void, a yearning for acknowledgment that transcends mere transactional relationships. It is within the crucible of these societal constraints that the human drive for connection transforms into a desperate struggle for validation, unraveling the delicate tapestry of our emotional and relational lives.

Yet, the scars inflicted by cultural and technological systems do not merely diminish our personal landscapes; they extend into the broader social fabric, creating a collective sentiment of alienation. In an age where technological innovations promise connection, we paradoxically find ourselves ensnared in silos of isolation, our hearts yearning for authentic dialogue in a world filled with curated personas. This dichotomy between our cravings for community and the mechanistic nature of our digital exchanges births an internal conflict that disorients the very essence of what it means to be human. Cultures steeped in performance and appearance engage in a relentless dance, where authenticity is bartered for the ephemeral praise of the digital crowd. Thus, we find ourselves prisoners within a gilded cage—peering out at a world rich with potential while being shackled to a reality that emphasizes productivity, consumption, and social status over personal growth and emotional validation.

Wordsworth’s lament about the squandering of our powers resonates deeply with those ensnared by these institutional constraints. When bound by rigid obligations—whether economic, cultural, or technological—we risk forsaking our quests for understanding in favor of conformity, neglecting the profound connections that arise from personal explorations of belief and identity. By seeking fulfillment beyond these organized systems, we can cultivate a more intimate and meaningful relationship with ourselves and the universe—one that honors our unique experiences and fosters genuine connection.

Confronting these truths compels an awakening, a reevaluation of the principles by which we navigate the intricate pathways of our lives. Rather than grappling with these constraints as insurmountable barriers, we must endeavor to forge a new narrative—one that honors our innate desires for connection, creativity, and authenticity. Amidst the chaotic landscape of our entrapments, an unyielding spirit emerges, beckoning us to envision systems that elevate the human experience rather than diminish it. Consequently, a transformative dialogue must emerge—one that encourages intimate discussions on the emotional dilemmas we face, fostering an environment where validation and vulnerability coalesce. It is through this courageous reclamation of our emotional landscapes that we can hope to rise from the ashes of our constraints, crafting a reality where personal exploration becomes a priority, and relational integrity reigns supreme.

The Emotional Toll of Disconnection

The emotional toll of disconnection fostered by political, economic, cultural, religious, and technological systems is both profound and debilitating. Many individuals find themselves grappling with pervasive feelings of anxiety, despair, and dissatisfaction, ensnared in constructs that no longer reflect their lived experiences. This disconnect creates a chasm where meaningful connections once thrived, leading individuals to navigate their realities alone, surrounded by an illusion of community born from curated social media interactions that often misrepresent true emotional intimacy. The perennial struggle for validation leaves many in a ceaseless cycle of superficial encounters, where the depth of human experience is traded for the hollow echo of likes and shares, ultimately intensifying feelings of inadequacy and obscuring our innate desire for authentic connection.

The societal implications of this disconnect are equally stark and troubling, as polarization and division perpetuate feelings of isolation and hopelessness. In a world that thrives on categorizations and identities, the individual is systematically reduced to a mere statistic within larger narratives, rendering personal stories secondary to prevailing ideologies. The insidious nature of this reality breeds resentment and enmity, nurturing environments rife with conflict, where divergent viewpoints clash and neighbors become adversaries. This schism erodes the fabric of society, catalyzing not only a loss of community but also a profound crisis of purpose—an existential vacuum that invites despair, compelling individuals to search for meaning in vacuous pursuits or dangerous ideologies. It is here, in this bitter crucible of societal fragmentation, that the voice of resilience calls us to reclaim our narratives, embracing the complexity of our human experiences to forge authentic connections that can mend the disjointedness of our modern existence.

To navigate this labyrinth of emotional turmoil, we must first acknowledge the intricate interplay between our psychological landscape and the structures that seek to define us. The act of disconnection, whether imposed externally or self-inflicted, creates fertile ground for a deeper existential crisis that echoes within our psyche. Feelings of helplessness and alienation not only distill our sense of agency but also amplify our innate fears of insignificance in a vast and often uncaring world. As we grapple with this profound dislocation, the challenge lies in recognizing these feelings as valid responses to our environment, rather than personal failures. In embracing this understanding, we can begin to dismantle the walls of isolation that separate us from one another. Such an approach not only fosters a pathway toward healing but also ignites a collective movement toward reintegration, urging us to redefine our identities in solidarity rather than in opposition. It is through this reclamation of our emotional narratives that we harness the power to connect, inspire, and ultimately transform the societal paradigms that have imprisoned us in fragmentation.

A Journey Toward Personal Liberation

To reclaim our inherent powers, we must embark on a deeply personal journey of existential liberation, cultivating autonomy and self-awareness amid the chaos of existence. This exploration compels us to delve into the recesses of our psyche, exposing the conditioned reflexes shaped by societal norms that dictate our worth and purpose. Imagine, for a moment, the complexities of our inner worlds, shadowed by self-doubt and reinforced by external validation. The audacity to prioritize our own values and lived experiences over these oppressive expectations serves as a clarion call to reclaim our agency. The road less traveled is often fraught with disquiet, yet it is through the disillusionment of our former selves that we illuminate pathways resonating with authenticity. In courageously confronting our fears and insecurities, we wage war against the internalized narratives that have long shackled us in silence, thus transforming vulnerability into a wellspring of strength.

However, this quest for liberation transcends mere individualism; it unfurls into a collective awakening to the profound interconnectedness of all beings that permeates the human experience. As the veils of isolation and alienation are lifted, we begin to acknowledge the nuanced fabric of our social realities—the threads of shared pain, resilience, and triumph that bind us together. In recognizing that our liberation is symbiotically entwined with the freedom of others, we dismantle the barriers erected by fear and misunderstanding. This awakening nurtures a garden of empathy, where the seeds of emotional validation germinate into heartfelt connections. Our unique narratives, when shared, catalyze a dynamic exchange of ideas and experiences, weaving a communal tapestry more vibrant and resilient than the isolated patterns of individual struggles. Thus, our personal journeys become collective endeavors, reinforcing the notion that solitude is a construct easily dismantled by the warmth of solidarity.

Furthermore, in a sociological context, this journey of personal liberation serves as a reclamation of identity against the homogenizing forces of modernity, which strive to erase the rich diversity of the human experience. The historical gravity of oppression illuminates how societal structures meticulously sculpt our perceptions of self and other—an intricate dance of power dynamics that often leaves us feeling disconnected from our true essence. Engaging with this framework compels us to critically examine the systems of privilege and marginalization that shape our realities. This critical awareness not only solidifies our resolve in transforming our individual narratives but also galvanizes our commitment to societal change. As we dismantle these antiquated paradigms of identity, we advocate for a more inclusive space where every voice is not only heard but celebrated. In this rich tapestry of voices, we may experience the sweet catharsis of understanding ourselves not as isolated monads but as integral components in a collective movement toward authenticity and justice.

Ultimately, the journey toward personal liberation is an invitation to emerge from the chrysalis of self-doubt, shedding the remnants of imposed identities as we transcend into beings of purpose. As we consistently engage with our inner truths and cultivate an unwavering authenticity, we begin to forge a new societal paradigm—one that honors our individuality while fostering unity in diversity. In this newfound realm, empowerment flourishes not from competition but from collaboration, promoting not only our liberation but also the liberation of those who share our wounds and joys. As we intertwine our destinies, we discover the profound beauty of collective resilience, wherein each step toward understanding becomes a reinforcement of our shared human experience, illuminating a path forward that is as rich and complex as the myriad of souls that walk it.

Reigniting the Spark of Hope

Wordsworth's poignant reflection stands as a profound reminder of the urgent need to liberate ourselves from the suffocating constraints imposed by political, economic, cultural, religious, and technological systems. These structures often constrain our potential, wrapping our aspirations in layers of doubt and conformity. In the face of this pervasive existential angst, we must embark on an evocative journey to reclaim our innate capacity for hope—an emotive force that lies dormant within us, waiting to be awakened. This liberation is not merely an act of rebellion; it is a transformative process, awakening our consciousness and enabling us to chisel away at the barriers that limit our dreams. In this quest, we can reignite the flickering spark of hope that resides within us all, transforming our despair into a vibrant force for change, illuminating pathways that lead us towards collective empowerment and rejuvenation.

Furthermore, the act of reigniting hope invites us to weave a narrative of resilience that transcends individual experience, thereby catalyzing a broader sociocultural awakening. Hope, in its most profound form, is an antidote to the current nihilistic tendencies of our era, urging us to confront uncomfortable truths rather than retreat into apathy. When we embrace the complexities of our struggles and the multifaceted nature of our identities, we begin to recognize the inherent strength in our collective stories. Each voice contributes a vital thread to a richly woven tapestry of human experience, fostering a culture rooted in empathy and understanding. This communal cultivation of hope becomes a clarion call for action, challenging the status quo and inspiring innovative solutions to pressing systemic challenges. Through collective action, we can transform our anguish into a shared vision of a more equitable and just society, where hope thrives and blossoms into tangible progress.

As we delve deeper into this metaphorical reclamation of hope, we must also confront the psychological undercurrents that fuel our drive for transformation. Acknowledging the impact of trauma and disillusionment on our psyche allows us to understand that the journey toward hope is neither linear nor devoid of setbacks. Instead, it is a nuanced dance of vulnerability and strength, invitation and resistance, where moments of despair coexist with glimpses of possibility. By honoring this complexity, we validate our emotional experiences and foster resilience through self-compassion. It is this mindful engagement with our inner landscapes that empowers us to rise against the encroaching tides of hopelessness, thereby cultivating a fertile ground where hope can flourish. In doing so, we not only reclaim our agency but also stand as powerful advocates for the transformative potential of a hopeful future, igniting the spark that can illuminate even the darkest corners of our existence.

[lifestyle-hub]

The Real Reason Women Rarely Make the First Move: Fear of Rejection Explained

Image Credit: Keira Burton

The Myth of the Bold Female

For years, we've been fed the narrative of the fearless, independent woman who's not afraid to go after what she wants. While there’s no doubt that women have made incredible strides, the idea that all women are naturally bold and assertive when it comes to love is a harmful stereotype.

Why do many women shy away from taking that initial step? The answer is more complex than it seems and deeply rooted in one powerful emotion, the fear of rejection.

The Social Conditioning Dilemma

Let’s start with the basics. From a young age, many women are subtly (and sometimes not-so-subtly) conditioned to believe that they should be pursued rather than the pursuers. Think about the fairy tales, movies, and even advice columns many of us grew up with, the prince always comes to rescue the princess, not the other way around. This narrative has ingrained the idea that making the first move isn’t a woman’s role. Even as societal norms progress, this deep-seated conditioning isn’t easily shaken off.

But it’s not just about societal norms. There’s also the harsh reality that women who do make the first move are often judged differently. They might be labeled as “too forward” or “desperate,” which adds another layer of hesitation. This fear of judgment ties directly into the fear of rejection. It’s not just about the possibility of hearing a “no” it’s about the potential social repercussions that come with it.

Rejection Isn't Just a Word, It's a Whole Experience

When we talk about rejection, it’s easy to think of it as a simple “yes or no” scenario. But rejection, especially in a romantic context, isn’t just about the outcome. It’s about the emotional toll it takes on a person’s self-esteem and confidence. For women, who are frequently expected to uphold certain social standards, the fear of rejection can be amplified. It’s not just the fear of being turned down; it’s the fear of what that rejection might imply. Does it mean they’re not attractive enough? Not interesting enough? These questions can spiral into a negative self-assessment that’s difficult to shake.

Moreover, women are more likely to internalize rejection. Studies have shown that while men might shrug off a rejection as “not the right time” or “not the right person,” women are more prone to questioning their self-worth. This difference in response to rejection isn’t just biological, it’s also a result of the way women are socialized to perceive themselves and their value in relationships.

The Role of Power Dynamics

Let’s face it, relationships and dating aren’t just about romance (correct me if I'm wrong). There’s an underlying power dynamic that can make the dating game feel like a minefield. When a woman makes the first move, she’s stepping into a traditionally male role, which can upset the usual balance of power.

This shift can make some men uncomfortable and lead to a power struggle, where the man might feel the need to “reclaim” his role by rejecting the woman, not necessarily because he’s not interested, but because he’s not used to the dynamic. 

Get it?

For women, understanding these dynamics adds another layer of complexity to making the first move. It’s not just about taking a chance on someone, it’s about navigating the potential power shifts and ensuring they’re not considered too aggressive or overstepping.

The Biological Factor

Believe it or not, biology might also play a role. Research suggests that women are often more cautious when it comes to mating decisions. This is rooted in the evolutionary imperative to protect offspring. A woman's choice of partner is more critical due to the significant investment required in pregnancy and child-rearing. As a result, women may be more inclined to weigh their options carefully before making a move.

The Impact of Past Experiences

Past experiences play a significant role in how both men and women approach dating. For women who have made the first move before and faced rejection, the memory of that experience can be enough to deter them from trying again. The sting of rejection lingers, and the fear of repeating that pain becomes a powerful motivator to stay on the sidelines.

In fact, research shows that negative experiences have a stronger impact on our behavior than positive ones. This is known as the negativity bias, where the brain is more likely to remember and dwell on negative events. So, a single rejection can overshadow multiple positive experiences, making the prospect of putting oneself out there again seem too risky.

Changing the Narrative

It’s not all doom and gloom, though. The rise of empowerment movements and the shift towards more egalitarian (social equality) relationships are slowly changing the narrative. More women are taking control of their dating lives and feeling empowered to make the first move. Apps like Bumble, which require women to initiate conversation, are a testament to this change. It’s becoming more socially acceptable for women to take the lead, and with that acceptance comes a reduction in the fear of rejection. But societal change takes time, and while we’re moving in the right direction, there’s still a long way to go. However, even with these strides, the fear of rejection remains a significant hurdle.

So, What's the Real Reason?

When we strip away the layers of social conditioning, power dynamics, and past experiences, the core reason women rarely make the first move is simple, the fear of rejection. It’s a fear that’s deeply ingrained, reinforced by societal norms, and amplified by the potential emotional fallout.

Overcoming the Fear

Remember, it's okay to feel nervous or scared. Everyone does. Building self-confidence can also make a huge difference. The more you believe in yourself, the less you'll fear rejection.

And let's not forget about challenging societal norms. By encouraging open conversations about relationships and gender roles, we can create a more supportive environment for women.

Go get 'em, girls!

Signing out, kad

References

1. Verywell Mind - "The Psychology of Rejection"

2. Cosmopolitan - "Making the first move: How these women do it"

[monamipencil]

Hi, Lola. I’m an Indian woman, and I want to express my heartfelt gratitude for bringing this matter to light. People often don’t realize what it’s truly like to be a woman in India. While being a woman anywhere in the world comes with its challenges, what’s happening in India is especially heartbreaking and deeply concerning. This isn’t just a new issue—it’s something that has plagued our society for years. A similar tragedy occurred 12 years ago, and unfortunately, we are witnessing history repeat itself.

In India, every single day, an average of 90 women are sexually assaulted. That’s just the reported number, and we know that many cases never even make it to the authorities. The reality is likely far worse. Recently, in the state where I live, a horrific incident occurred involving the sexual assault of a 3-year-old girl. This wasn’t an isolated case; around the same time, a nurse was also assaulted, and even a medical student who was protesting became a victim. These incidents are just a few among countless others, each one more horrific and gut-wrenching than the last.

What’s even more troubling is how ingrained these issues are in our culture. From a very young age, Indian girls are taught to behave, to dress “properly,” and to conform to a narrow set of societal expectations. We are constantly reminded to uphold our family's honor, often at the expense of our own freedom and safety. There’s a saying in our culture, “bhale ghar ki larkiyan ye sab nai karti hain,” which translates to “girls from good households don’t do such things.” This phrase is used to enforce restrictive norms on girls, placing the burden of maintaining "honor" entirely on our shoulders, while boys are rarely held to the same standards.

This double standard is not only unfair, but it also perpetuates a culture of silence and shame around sexual violence. Boys are often not taught the same responsibility or respect for others. Instead, they grow up in a society that normalizes the objectification and devaluation of women. It’s not uncommon to hear boys, some as young as 12, making casual jokes about sexual violence and dismissing it as "dark humor." These jokes may seem harmless to them, but they contribute to a culture that trivializes serious issues and further normalizes the mistreatment of women.

What’s worse is that this normalization of violence and disrespect creates an environment where women are blamed for the crimes committed against them. We are constantly told to dress modestly, to not go out at night, to avoid certain places, and to always be on guard—as if it’s our responsibility to prevent assault. Meanwhile, the focus should be on educating boys and men, instilling in them the importance of consent, respect, and equality.

This issue is deeply rooted in our society, and it’s going to take a collective effort to bring about real change. Thank you again for using your platform to bring this critical issue to our attention. Your efforts to raise awareness and spark conversations are incredibly important. It’s through voices like yours that we can hope to create a future where women can live without fear, where respect and equality are the norms, not the exceptions.

hello, please do not thank me for this. i think every human should do this and spread awareness. and i cannot bear that this is happening even after 78 years of independence. i dont know how many nirbhaya, moumitha or ashifa it will take for the government to finally take action. the fact there are people who make jokes out of this situation is beyond me.

shame on them really. and thank you so much for sending this message. you covered each pivotal point, and i admire that you can put your anger into words. thank you.

[scentofpines]

"have you ever considered...that identifying out of woman/girlhood because you don't relate to the societal implications, expectations, etc... contributes to making womanhood (feel) even more restrictive?"

i thought your post on this was very interesting. ive identified as lesbian most of my life, but have been recently wondering if the identity of trans man fits me better. your post is making me wonder if i only feel this way because my true self is labelled "[gender] non conforming." im a pretty rebellious person most of the time so i am hesitant to think id be submitting to the gender binary if i transitioned like you suggest.

the thing is, i know there are gnc trans men (even though i wouldnt be one), so it does seem to me that even within transgender identities, gender expression still exists separate from sex. id just be trans because i wish i was born with a penis, not because im gnc as a woman.

but idk im really conflicted over it, and would like to hear more of your opinion since your aforementioned post caught me so off guard and further added to my self-questioning

Hi, thank you for your message and your honesty! Sorry my reply is so long but this is just such a big and complex issue and also english isn’t my first language, so I often struggle with finding the right words.

I think due to the way societies across the globe treat women, it is already very hard to be born female and not struggle with your body at some point or another and it is even harder when you are a lesbian as that is kind of seen as „doing womanhood wrong“ because a lot of the stuff that is conventionally labeled as „feminine“ or „womanly“ is centered around gaining male approval and as a lesbian this tends to either not be important at all or less so than it is for heterosexual women (i think the male gaze or whatever you wanna call it is so deeply ingrained in women from their childhood on that it can even affect lesbians in the sense that we’re trying to indirectly appeal to men even though were not even attracted to them but thats a different topic).

The wish to transition very often affects gay people in my experience (before the rise in media attention to transgenderism it was in my experience mostly gay men that transitioned and even now with females i think the percentage of gay girls/women that want to transition is waaayy higher than that of heteros) and I think the reason behind that has a lot to do with societal aversion to lesbians (and gay men too). I have heard from both trans women and detrans women that they believe their transgender journey is linked to trauma that they experienced (partially due to their homosexuality).

You wrote that you don’t think that you would submit to the gender binary by transitioning but in my opinion you would still strenghten the concept of gender itself. What is it that makes you want to transition in the first place? You said you identified as a lesbian most of your life, what changed? What made you start questioning this identity and what made you think that there was something about your body that needed to be changed?

If i understood correctly, you said that you want to transition because you wish to have a penis. There are many reasons why someone who is female would wish for that from shits-and-giggles-reasons, to practicality (like peeing standing up lol), health struggles with their female genitalia, internalized disgust about them, generalized resentment of their female body parts etc. As I dont know your personal situation I cant really have an opinion about this, however I do not believe into the narrative anymore that trans people have been „born in the wrong body“. For a long time I believed this because I too struggled a lot with my female physique, breasts, etc and could empathize with this notion. But then I realized that this would imply that our souls/brains have a sex and this is soooo sexist. This sentiment was used for thousands of years to oppress women and I hate it lol. „L’esprit n’a pas de sexe“ has already been said by Poulain de la Barre in 1673 and it holds true. No one is born in the wrong body, especially if your body is completely healthy and functional. Just like no one is born with the wrong nose or skin colour, no one is born with the wrong sex. It is the circumstances (beauty standards, racism, sexism, etc.) which people grow up and live in that make it feel as if that were the case. THESE CIRCUMSTANCES NEED TO CHANGE, NOT YOU.

I know having a female body can be so fucking hard and it can cause so much suffering and resentment but there is NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You say you are rebellious and I bet that‘s true but the most rebellious thing to do as a female is to radically accept your body and fuck all expectations that society places upon you because of your sex, all stereotypes, ideals, etc.

Now you say you wish you had a penis but as said above, I think there is a reason for that wish forming in your head. I dont think anyone is born hating their sex characteristics and wishing for the opposite ones. Maybe you can work on finding out that reason (maybe you already do) and resolve it. I know that body dysmorphia and dysphoria can become so horribly bad that there are cases where a transition feels like and maybe truly is the only way out (I still dont think someone is born that way, but in some cases the damage to the way you perceive your natural body is already done and so bad that no amount of therapy and inner work can repair it, at least not in a "timely" manner), but from reading your message it doesn’t seem like this is necessarily the case for you.

It is great that you keep questioning yourself on this matter and seem to really think this through btw! I’m sure you are aware of this, but a transition (obviously) has tremendous effects on your body and mind and even some changes from HRT are hardly reversible (the permanent voice changes in ftmtf detransitioners for example and way more serious complications that can and do often happen) and especially the penis that you desire is hardly achievable. Even the absolute best results of srs for ftms are neither functional in the way a natural penis is, nor do they look like one. Depending on how bad and persistent the dysphoria was before, the result may or may not be satisfying. If complications arise, and they often do, they can be catastrophical.

One advice I would like to give might sound a bit harsh but I mean it lovingly and it is that you shouldnt even care so much about yourself or rather your identity. I genuinely never think about what my identity is or what label fits it and it is very freeing. I dont shave anything, I have very short hair, I dont ever wear makeup despite my features absolutely not fitting the current beauty standards, I wear exclusively comfortably clothes that mostly arent considered very feminine, etc. etc. but this has ZERO effect on my womanhood because me being a woman just puts a word to the fact that I’m an adult human female. I havent always felt that way and it still is hard sometimes to exist so contrary to the female societal standards but what really helps me is to see other women who do the same, sharing thoughts like your wishing to have male genitalia with women who felt the same and overcame it and are happy now with their bodies. So generally speaking: Stop revolving so much around yourself. You are capable of sooo much, you are literally a witness of life, you are consciousness, you are on this earth to observe and feel and create and do and experience and not to constantly wonder about your identity. Just BE. (I’m not quite there myself yet lol it takes time).

Ok I really rambled here and I hope this is at least somewhat coherent. No matter how you decide I really wish you the best and hope whatever you choose is the right path for you! Have a nice day <3

[conniesrockstargf]

Y'know...this morning i was reading a fanfic and it made me stop and think about my career choice. For context, it was a jjk fanfic about Gojo coming back as a cursed spirit to watch over the kids (was sobbing at 8 inna morning). And it made me realize why I'm so attached to the adults of JJK, mainly Nanami and Gojo.

They advocate for the children. That is shown throughout the whole show and manga. It made me think of how i chose my career choice out of suffering lmfao. By that i mean, i almost killed myself at 16 then decided it wasn't that serious and then went "damn there's prolly other kids in the world who feel like this, imma be the one to help". Enter me wanting to become a child/teen therapist.

Nowadays there's so much pressure on the youth to grow up and mature and the elders are so contradictory about it because they complain about the kids being "too grown and not acting their age" but force ridiculous expectations and roles upon them. They get mad when the youth bends under said forces and become the products of the environments forced onto them and they get mad when the youth decides better and can see what's wrong with the elders vision.

I'm 19 years old, an older sister of 8 younger pups and 1 older brother. The urge to care for people has been deeply ingrained in me from the time i breathed out my first scream. I've been through shit that I've had to get through on my own. Whether it's against societal norms, familial norms, racial norms or whatever other bullshit has been created to simplify our existence, I've been fighting since i can remember and i will continue to fight until I can't anymore. I want to leave behind a legacy of fighters and dreamers and believers. Whether they're my own flesh and blood or those I've adopted (figuratively and literally) as my own, I don't want the youth to suffer anymore, they go through enough. Why do we insist on making them fight? They're babies for the sake of the universe, they don't NEED to fight anything. They just need to play, and ask their silly questions, and eat all the junk food they can stuff in their lil mouths and enjoy their time because it just passes so quick and before you know it... they're in college and driving and working big time jobs.

Gosh it's so scary out here. I just wanna make this world a safer and easier place for the youth, afterall they are our future. And if I can't make this place better, I'd like to be the one to show them how or how to get to the places that are safer.

Being young is a curse in itself. You're very vulnerable from the time you leave the womb, and you are constantly vulnerable from that moment on. People take advantage of that vulnerability. You're small and naive and new to everything. There are people who will help you along the path, leaving rocks for you to follow along to help you further out into an easier circle, and then there are those who will purposely lead you astray to hurt you.

We truly live in a time, where the youth should be the main priority. They have so much potential, so much power in their little hands!!

Please, protect the youth!

[ethereacinth]

Blog #2

Here I am again, eagerly typing away at my keyboard, fueled by a passionate desire to delve into the captivating complexities of narratives that challenge our preconceptions and ignite introspection. Welcome to my second blog, where I embark on a profound exploration of Donna Minkowitz's remarkable essay, "How I Broke, and Botched, the Brandon Teena Story."🔍

Donna Minkowitz's essay, "How I Broke, and Botched, the Brandon Teena Story," is a remarkable piece that invites deep reflection on the intricate interplay of storytelling, personal introspection, and the responsibility of journalists in sharing captivating narratives. As I engage with Minkowitz's introspective journey, I find myself contemplating the complexities that arise when reporting meets the vulnerability of one's own experiences and biases.

Minkowitz's candid exploration of her role in telling the story of Brandon Teena, a transgender man whose tragic life and brutal murder shook the world, serves as a powerful reminder of the potential pitfalls inherent in the act of storytelling. She confronts her own mistakes and missteps, exposing the limitations of her initial narrative and the personal toll it took on her. In doing so, Minkowitz invites us to question the nature of truth in storytelling and the ethical responsibility of journalists to represent the nuances and complexities of lived experiences.

One of the most striking aspects of Minkowitz's essay is her willingness to engage in self-reflection and acknowledge her own biases. As she recounts her initial assumptions and the ways in which they colored her portrayal of Brandon Teena, she underscores the importance of interrogating our own preconceived notions and examining how they may influence our storytelling. Minkowitz's journey serves as a poignant reminder that even the most well-intentioned narratives can inadvertently perpetuate stereotypes or misrepresent marginalized communities.

Through Minkowitz's narrative, we also come face-to-face with the impact of societal expectations, prejudices, and limitations on individuals like Brandon Teena. We are reminded of the deeply ingrained norms that enforce binary concepts of gender, the challenges faced by those who deviate from these norms, and the dire consequences that can result from a lack of acceptance and understanding. Minkowitz's introspection prompts us to confront our own complicity in perpetuating harmful stereotypes and biases, urging us to strive for greater empathy and inclusivity in our storytelling.

Furthermore, Minkowitz's essay compels us to critically examine the role of the justice system in protecting and seeking justice for marginalized communities. Through her exploration of the legal implications surrounding the Brandon Teena story, she exposes the failures and limitations of a system that often falls short in providing comprehensive protections for transgender individuals. Minkowitz's call for legislative reforms and social progress serves as a rallying cry to advocate for a more just and equitable society.

In reflecting on Minkowitz's essay, I am reminded of the power of storytelling to shape our collective consciousness. It highlights the importance of embracing humility, introspection, and empathy as we navigate the complex terrain of narratives that intersect with personal experiences and social issues. Minkowitz's willingness to confront her own mistakes serves as a valuable lesson for all storytellers, urging us to continually challenge our assumptions, question our biases, and strive for more authentic and inclusive representations.

In conclusion, Donna Minkowitz's essay, "How I Broke, and Botched, the Brandon Teena Story," is a compelling and introspective piece that prompts deep reflection on the complexities of storytelling. It serves as a potent reminder of the ethical responsibility of journalists and storytellers to interrogate their own biases, challenge societal norms, and strive for greater authenticity and inclusivity in their narratives. Through Minkowitz's journey, we are encouraged to engage in self-reflection, advocate for social progress, and ensure that the stories we tell truly capture the rich complexities of the human experience.

[lovelylukaaa]

FOGGY SAVE #8 | WILLOW CREEK

WELCOME TO WILLOW CREEK! (I DID NOT CREATE ANY OF THE BUILDINGS SHOWN!)

Nestled within a picturesque landscape of lakes, meandering rivers, and lush trees, Willow Creek exudes a captivating charm that envelops both residents and visitors alike. This idyllic town, with its enchanting natural beauty, offers a sanctuary of tranquility and respite from the bustling outside world.

The residents of Willow Creek are a diverse tapestry of individuals, each contributing their unique stories and perspectives to the town's vibrant fabric. From young families seeking a peaceful haven to retirees savoring the serenity of their golden years, Willow Creek welcomes people from all walks of life (we're going to ignore that i didn't make a single elder sim).

In contrast to its picturesque scenery, Willow Creek harbors an undercurrent of judgment and toxic social dynamics. The town's obsession with conformity and upholding traditional values often creates an oppressive environment for those who do not fit the narrow definition of "normal."

The residents of Willow Creek, while outwardly pleasant, are often quick to pass judgment and hold strict expectations for their neighbors. Deviation from societal norms is met with skepticism and disdain, leading to a pervasive atmosphere of conformity and a fear of being labeled an outsider.

In this close-knit community, there is an intense pressure to conform to societal standards, both in appearance and behavior. The pursuit of material wealth, social status, and the appearance of a picture-perfect life are deeply ingrained in the town's culture. This emphasis on maintaining appearances often leads to shallow relationships and a lack of genuine connections among residents.

The town's obsession with tradition also stifles progress and hinders acceptance of diversity. Alternative lifestyles, non-conforming identities, and differing beliefs are often met with hostility, further perpetuating a culture of exclusion and intolerance. But that's the stuff they won't tell you on tv ;)

As far as the public knows (and ever will know), Willow Creek is the ideal place to be!

FINALLY FINISHED WITH ALL OF THE WILLOW CREEK RESIDENTS!

In all honesty it ended with the potters but I tend to post my sims after I finish everyones everyday outfit. Still have to finish their outfits, give them likes and dislikes, a job/afterschool acivity, skills, lgbtq preferences, etc. My save's are always VERY detailed and personalized, it takes me forever to finish one world. Last time it took me 4 months to finish Willow Creek so glad it only took me one month this time 😭

Next up is Oasis Springs! I tend to fight with myself on whether to make Oasis Springs a very nice looking Spanish town or a very poor, beaten up and broken American town. In all honesty I think i'm gonna mix it up this time and do both.

[grrrae]

Dead or Alive: All We Need in Life is a Big Pretty Boy (An Analysis on The Handsomest Drowned Man)

Disclaimer: This post is for a school requirement xoxo

Do you think you’d kiss a dead beautiful man in hopes to bring him back to life? Well, people in Esteban's Village would probably do.

“The Handsomest Drowned Man in the World” is a short story published in a 1972 collection Leaf Storm and Other Stories by the renowned Colombian writer, Gabriel García Márquez. This is a story about acceptance, community, and honoring the dead, ‘The Handsomest Drowned Man in the World’ is one of Márquez’s most powerful stories.

From the feminist point of view, the story reflects the nuance of women’s influence in our society today. This could be because of a few reasons. 

First and most importantly, a woman today would most likely experience what every woman in that village has experienced, which is for them to be seen as lesser beings by the men around them and thus, is expected to be subordinate and submissive by said men. 

More specifically, we should look into the fact that the men in the story also have a tendency to objectify the women around them. Using their imagination to belittle these women and their own aspirations, turning them into statues of ivory upon which the same men would pour their carnal desires out. This reflects on society’s leniency on men who harass and mistreat women, through catcalling, sexual harassment, rape, etc.  

On a more positive note (nitpicky, but positive), we looked into the story’s tendency to break gender based stereotypes. This includes gender based societal roles being broken, like the men sewing and knitting clothes for the drowned man, men being judged for being less compared to the drowned man in physical appearance and them striving to improve themselves . Compare this to our society, where women are more often judged for their physical appearance and are expected to “improve” themselves and for them to strive for “perfection”. 

Another point seen is that the novel shows acceptance of the drowned man’s personhood and the men having a much deeper understanding towards the drowned man, and thus, the women too. This could be compared to our society slowly starting to be more accepting of a woman’s desire to contribute to society as equals to men, earning the same as them, having representatives in politics, and overall being seen as more than just their physical appearance, being seen as equals.

In the beginning of the story,

the women in the village are depicted as being responsible for traditional domestic duties and caretaking roles while the men in the story are portrayed as laborers and providers for the community.

The women are expected to fulfill gender roles associated with nurturing, motherhood, and household chores.  They were also portrayed as being deeply connected to their families and community, as they come together to perform rituals and mourn the drowned man's death.

The men, on the other hand, were portrayed as laborers and providers for the community. They are depicted as performing more physically demanding tasks such as hauling the drowned man out of the sea, constructing a  house for the drowned man, and making plans for his burial. 

The community depicted in the story adheres to traditional gender roles, such as men being in charge of tasks that require physical strength or leadership, whilst the women are responsible for domestic tasks. These gender roles are ingrained into the community, and the characters of the story are shown to rarely deviate from it.

But as the story progresses, the presence of the drowned man challenges and even helps the villagers deviate from these roles. The women, initially shown as submissive and accepting, become so captivated by the drowned man and his charm that they start to question what could have been if they ended up with this man. And more importantly, they start to question what could be. The drowned man’s beauty also puts the men’s own desires and aspirations into question.

The women of the village are shown as curious and even a bit superstitious of the drowned man’s beauty.

They are described as being very fascinated by his handsome features; large size; and immaculate presence, actively participating in the rituals associated with him. Their fantasies represent the power of imagination as they picture a different life for the drowned man, with themselves at the center.

The story does not really show much evidence as to how the women are being treated. To us, it’s what the story doesn’t show that shows how the women of the village were being treated. The story has been shown to largely neglect the perspectives and experiences of every female character. The women in the village are treated as mere spectators, only reacting to the presence of the drowned man.

Conclusion

A. The story reflects the nuance of women’s influence in our society today. From society and its expectations for women to be submissive, to women questioning and breaking said expectations. The Handsomest Drowned Man in the World represents society’s shift in its view of what a woman is allowed and not allowed to do. And as the leader of this shift, the Drowned Man represents the rise of economic leverage the women are given. 

B. With the increase in education and political influence women are given, the more they will think about the potential of their lives and rethink what society expects of them. In a similar manner, with the rise of independence women are allowed to have, men need to rethink what they can truly provide to the women that they desire once financial security is not involved.