#but it's a process i'm still grieving
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i miss having someone who was excited about my fics during the writing process and who cheerleadered me on and i could brainstorm with. the process is so goddamn lonely now.
#i also miss that friendship in general#but that train left the station#i just need to deal#sigh#but it's a process i'm still grieving#me and my wHINING#i've lost multiple friendships i thought were meaningful in the past year#and it sucks#one i feel i got taken advantage of in so i had to cut it#two just started ghosting me#and now i'm sitting here#wondering what the hell is wrong with me#that i'm so easy to abandon#i'll shut up now tho
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rewatching s1 meljay scenes just to feel something and while I want to do an analysis of their relationship to argue against every bonehead that touts "mel manipulated jayce" I got to the end where jayce tells the council to go fuck themselves BUT THEN POINTEDLY TURNS TO MEL AND SOFTLY SAYS "Except you. You were right. You were always right." And I CRY OKAY. Her eyes widen and it sinks in that there's someone who supports the same vision of peace she has, who VALIDATES her views. And one of the LAST scenes is them smiling at one another when the council agrees to Zaun's independence. They made peace without going to war. Without using hextech and corrupting jayce and viktor's dream. Without compromising mel's values.
And then s2 fucked that all up.
#i'm in the trenches rn i'm in like stage 4 of my grieving process lol#meljay#onlymeljay#goldenforge#mel medarda#jayce talis#arcane#text post#i will say that after rewatching all their scenes mel didn't manipulate jayce for SHIT#there were multiple moments where he went against what she wanted#and guess what she still fell in love with him#everyone points to the scene in the theater as the ultimate manipulative scene and you know what she's doing?#fucking helping his ass because he just made every councilmember his enemy (except mel) with his security measures#and it was only when HE said that THEY made a great team did she make a move on him#everyone likes to say mel seduced jayce but he charmed her too!! quite clearly!!#anyway I'm going insane rn they loved each other :''')))
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i honestly have no idea what Kaeya was thinking when he told Diluc that he was a spy. dude your dad just died. idk. maybe console your brother or something. crazy idea right? and i get that the guilt of his secret was weighing on him so harshly that he couldn't keep it anymore but like.... making your brother's worst birthday ever WORSE?? maybe he did deserve to get beat up idk
#i mean i know he was probably regretting not telling Crepus and just felt like he couldn't keep it in any longer#and now that i'm thinking about- it if he did tell Diluc later then Diluc would probably just feel more betrayed#going deep into the grieving process and then being told his brother only grew up with him on bad intentions#but this still irks me and i think about it every day lol#also: what was Kaeya's bio dad thinking lmfao? sending your young child to 'spy' but just dumping him into a loving family#what was he even supposed to do#anyway these two drive me crazy#ragbros#rant#genshin impact
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what i love is writing stories about characters coping with grief. i love telling stories that are inherently about that love persevering beyond death, about missing someone or something so greatly it's impacted everything you do and say and how different characters process it. and i can tell its a reoccurring theme with me because i have a complicated relationship with grief.
#this is just me rambling#because i love writing i love it so much#i'm thinking about the way that regulus grieves james in my fic and how different it is from everybody else's.#but not because he loves james more than anyone its because my regulus has these incredibly high walls he built up#and james somehow vaulted over them and when he let him in he grew so attached that it then felt impossible to let go#BUT HE ALSO COULD'VE MOVED ON IF HE WAS GIVEN MORE TIME he jumped into a relationship like 5 months after james died and the whole time he'#been like comparing. and feeling awful for it. because he just was still grieving.#but also how different this is from sirius' grief where he'd just shut down entirely#it ISNT about loving james more its about having a different way of processing it#but anyways i write for me and i can tell
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i'm actually back on this account after two months! damn! hello!
the nano burnout took longer to recover from than i thought it would, but i am now actively working on hands in the deep, dark earth again. my new year's resolution is to work on it at least once a week, and i'm currently working through editing what i wrote during nanowrimo so that the plot and lore of the story are more settled in my head before i progress. i still might not be as active on here as i was during november, and i'll participate in fewer tag games since i'm not creating as many new scenes, but it's good to be back!
#health issues are now thankfully over#the grieving process from the bereavement at the end of nov is mostly done#the seasonal sad is still at the edges of my brain but i'm doing a little better now#december and january have just been quite a lot to handle but we're handling it!#currently sitting in my favourite cafe doing some editing and drinking hot chocolate#hands in the deep dark earth#writing
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roleplay idea: barton's trying to say this BS that he's 'good at processing grief' when your muse was a witness to the absolute rage-filled and deranged rampage that barton went on after julien was killed by the joker in which he brutally hurt all but one of his henchmen (he killed the last one because he told him he was 'crazy' and that he 'better kill him, or he was going to tell his boss that barton had been there' and he literally just snapped, went 'you know what, i think i will kill you AND also let the joker know i killed you so he knows to never come near my family again' then killed him. like HUHHH?) at the time with your muse being like this
#OF MONSTERS AND MEN: musings.#ooc post.#yeahhh 💀 man i wish i was joking about this you all but he really did put like three men in the hospital and killed one of them so...#he is NOT good at processing grief at all SKSKS and yeah the fact that they chose to ally themselves with the joker probably does say-#something about their own character but i don't condone violence or murder so it's still wrong even if they were... terrible 🫠#no but barton was honestly looking for someone else to blame besides himself for julien's death so he basically went to all of these-#henchmen and grilled them + asked them all whether they knew anything about how the joker was planning to kill his son#anddd when they all answered him with a 'no' was when thing's uhhh. Got violent 😬 like just imagine being one of barton's kids-#and mourning the loss of your brother in a normal albeit sad way on your own but then barton comes back home covered in blood-#+ it's obviously not his... like i don't even know if i'd want to ask him what the hell he just did because while barton is in mourning-#or grieving you do NOT want to be near him if you are the one that caused the death in question because you will get your-#shit rocked let me tell you ☠️ like the only reason why barton didn't kill the joker himself is BC he knew that that would attract-#batman's ire like nothing else and he does NOT want that smoke as much as barton hates him LMAO but DC muses... just to let you know-#or really any type of muse that interacts with him but those who are close to him in particular i would not touch a hair on any of his#family members head unless you want to have someone after you + i swear i'm not saying that to be edgy or anything BC ever since i#first mentioned that barton is always this 🤏 close to going off of the deep end even more than he already is i was not joking at all ASDFGH#tw: mentions of violence#tw: mentions of murder#tw: mentions of child death
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idk how to put words together to say what i want to say. so if this doesn't make sense that's why. i think sometimes the language about fetuses used by pro choice people is intentionally inflammatory and further drives a wedge between pro choice /pro life. and sometimes the lack of respect is so glaring. what is your gross, dehumanizing, awful descriptors of a fetus supposed to accomplish? you aren't winning anyone over. you're pushing others away. and for the folks who have experienced miscarriage, can you imagine the grief that comes only to be met with "it's just a disgusting alien parasite clump of cells"? you're only posturing to other people who already agree with you. you're taking no care. no compassion. why should anyone ever listen to you when you obviously discredit the significance of pregnancy? why should a pregnant person trust you when you belittle a massive decision and call their growing baby insignificant & a cancer? idk man. i'm not blaming anyone, i just. maybe think about it for a few minutes before you call a fetus a smeared shit stain. okay?
! i am staunchly pro-choice ! this is not a condemnation of abortion ! abortion should be easily accessible to all people !
#maybe i'm just more sensitive because of past experiences but#idk man#it's not accomplishing anything to talk about fetuses that way#and it's really polarizing#what are you hoping to accomplish?#what other ways can you accomplish it?#what material impact do you hope to have?#and yes every example up there are things i've actually heard/seen people say about fetuses#and some of these things have been said directly to me to my face about my baby#they assume because i was a child i must have been glad to miscarry and think it okay to be absolutely vile#but i grieve every day every day every day even over a decade later#and every day every day every day for the youngest#both pregnancies if i had carried any longer would likely have led to abortion bc my body cannot and that still would have devastated me#so maybe i'm just sensitive but think about how common these situations are#these are sensitive topics and i wish folk would understand that#i mean the bare minimum is just to not be an asshole yk?#like who are you helping?#it's not me it's not struggling soon to be mothers it's not people grieving for a baby they can't carry to term#hell it's not even folk who desire an abortion or people who don't think twice about it#you're helping no one and hurting and pushing away a hell of a lot of people in the process#i'm tired#the grief is so heavy today
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Phupha 2 telling Kram 1 he'd pick the first person he had even if he fell for a second person just made me gasp. Cause I mean. Well. Phupha 1 had a fiancée, then met Kram 1, then said absolutely nothing about her to Kram 1, but once Kram 1 did find out about her & met her tried to pull out some "baby I was gonna tell you, I promise it's not what you think!" And then he just died? And now Kram 1 is falling for Tai 2 while also being like "no you love Phupha 1" like that entire man isn't dead???
Please someone just hug Tai 2. Like my god. His whole ass man died and then his man's other world double showed up and he tried to keep his distance but caught feelings, but Kram 1 still thought he could just switch Phupha 2 in for his dead Phupha 1 just for Kram 1 to realize he doesn't actually want Phupha 2??? And he does what Tai 2??? Please someone just hug Tai 2. I'm begging.
#two worlds#two worlds the series#Tai is GOING THROUGH IT#and honestly I don't even get the sense he is still grieving Kram 2#that's not to say he didn't love him and doesn't miss him#but his Kram died 3 years ago#he has had time to process it#that's why he tried say hard to keep his distance from Kram 1#whereas Kram had six months to accept Phupha 1 is dead and Phupha 2 isn't his#yet he clearly hadn't started that process and probably wouldn't have if Tai hadn't kissed him#so again#someone hug Tai please#preferably Kram once he accepts he does want this Tai and Tai isn't trying to replace Kram 2 with him#having said all that#how the fuck is this gonna end though???#like I would say maybe Kram will stay in Tai's world especially because his mom is there#but his world has his dad and is he just gonna be like nah fuck him it's fine#I'm still just so invested in this show#MaxNat really are doing it again!#regular clyde
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Did you ever self-insert into SnK? If yes, what was your backstory? What was your rank? What was your casual outfit like? And who was your bae? 👀
#asks#lovers ₊˚ᰔ#i read snk and i get violent memories of the war babe#i honestly don't know if i'm mentally prepared to answer that question now lskdkd#i love you and appreciate so much that you want to know about it but 1) yall know i have no history (?) 😭 in just there#my fav loves me but i don't have so many details to fill in how we met and stuff. about lore... i have practically nothing but eren. gulps.#eren really was a dangerous stage of my life#he's that ex i don't want to talk about. because i wasn't me when i liked and thought about eren#i love him so much and he goes hand in hand along with levi; my husband; i love levi so much from the bottom of my soul#armin is my legitimate son <3 i gave birth to him! and honorable mentions: erwin my beloved#our story is that one day i fucked him in his office. that man makes me shiver. what a man#i want to know everything about you! 🎤#my guess for you is that your favorite may be erwin but i want to hear all about it please#i'm still hurting from the manga ending but. i'm still grieving and processing it#maybe that's why i still can't talk about it. sobs
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Finally going to answer some questions! Thanks, you guys, you are so sweet! I love drawing. I promise I do draw stuff other than Dresden Files all the time, it's just nice to take a break with some incredibly detailed story that I didn't come up with.
#I'm so excited for the next book!#God... What's going to happen! Harry...#He's so sad! I'm still in the middle of grieving something really big too! So hard to process sometimes- it just hits you in waves.#Anyway~ thanks you guys! I'm such a social person so it's nice to respond to messages.
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I'm not gonna be as active as I was for a little bit. I will try to post art when I can I guess
#wait holy shit this sounds like I'm vagueing something#I'm not I promise#I am currently grieving someone who I loved so so much#I just need to process everything that's happened in the last week and take it slow#I don't think that I'll be signing up for anymore events this year#There's the event that my friends/the rats are hosting that I'll try to be in and I believe that#There is one event that I signed up for earlier this year that is supposed to start soon I can't remember when tho#If that's still going on and I get told I can be in it then I'll try to do that one but if I can't then I can't#after those I just want to relax.#So like I said I likely will be mostly posting art for a little while#Maybe just until everything settles down#Sorry this is a bit of a ramble
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I also have to say that now that i'm over halfway done w season 2 i loveeee armand. I liked him in the book too but i just keep thinking abt him he and claudia might be my two favorites idk. "Is that what makes you fascinating" like fuck dude lol
#i'll let others make the thoughtful posts i'm just here to indicate that i'm going on journeys every ep lol#like ppl have already mentioned the dynamics in his and louis' relationship and his adherence to ritual#the way he forms and holds onto relationships the way he processes change and the passage of time/ideas#the way he needs control and yet is almost... desperate? to have others be in control#he can only part with so much. he's lived a very long time and has grieved ways of life no one around him can remember#in all of his actions i see anxiety and loneliness and anger and the overwhelming feeling of betrayal#and yet his appreciation for art. for companionship. for seeking new experiences and people#and i can still never forgive him for how he treats claudia. their relationship is verrry interesting 2 me
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#'just stop yourself from feeling helpless' easier said than done okay I'm still trying to process that the future I'd envisioned for so long#as a kid- aka having my own freedom and getting out of the house- is becoming less and less likely as I get worse and worse#like okay I'm gonna push through these exams. then what. literally then what. I can't even see a future for myself anymore#my entire future is literally at the mercy of my own body as I watch it break down how do you expect me to not feel helpless.#(for context this is something my mom told me earlier)#maybe I'm overthinking it but. idk. something about grieving a life you wanted but can't have anymore something something#it's a wonder I'm not breaking down every day tbh#joint tag
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I'm still not sure of how I feel about this season finale.
Kisaki's death was awful to watch, it had me shaking. And the added flashbacks between him and Takemichi were great (and break me a lot, Kisaki just wanted to be like his hero. Great, now I'm crying for that idiot).
(and we still didn't saw Hanma crying, because that... Argh. There is something so not okay in Hanma crying).
But the way they ended it was weird. I mean, I loved to see Kakucho and Takemichi together. Even if Kakucho is so depressed and so empty without Izana 🥲
It's just that this ending doesn't feel like it's hinting what is coming. And a lot is coming. So I don't know, it just feels weird.
Or maybe I'm just terriblely biased because I wanted Bonten, it could be. We had the pain and the trauma of Tenjiku, our beloved characters had the pain and the trauma of Tenjiku. So let us see how pretty and how pretty traumatized they are 12 years later. I need to cope, okay?
(Where is my little pink psycho? Where? 😭)
So, for now, this is all I will say:
Look at Haruchiyo looking at Mucho for one last time.
(He looks like a freaking angel, btw. Once more liden films out badget on him. Not complaining but where is the pink hair and the maniacal grin. Where.)
Deciding what he would do once he sees him again (yes, he decided it there, I know it), but unable to resist to give him one last glance, to say goodbye to his captain. Before having to kill him. Yey, tragic MuSan is coming next season and I'm not okay.
(I already saw KakuIza game over. I can't keep watching one character of every one of my ships dying. But this is TR and I also ship MaiTake so I guess I will just keep watching it because Bonten and Kanto Manji are coming. Yey. They keep dying more than once. But both of them. Yuhu.)
#i think i'm still grieving and processing this season#and thinking in bonten and kanto manji is not helping at sll#i'm still not even going to the og!timeline bc i can't#but yeah#we are in for a ride#and it's a dark one#tokyo revengers#tokyo revengers spoilers#in my tenjiku depression era#ken wakui pay my theraphy bills#liden films you know what you are doing#where is bonten? where is my blorbo starting to shine?#bonten depression is starting to say hi
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my dad called to tell me that his father died and also that he's been listening to this podcast about an unsolved chlorine bomb at a furry convention in chicago
#its called fur and loathing which slays i guess#he was like “and because it's a sort of outsider subculture the cops and authorities don't care which is fucked up” and i was like yeah gir#txt#sorry going on a little family issues vent#i think its good that my dad had time to process over the last year and like pre-grieve in therapy#he said that he's mostly grieving what he didnt have while his dad was alive (a dad) n what me/j didn't have (a relationship w our grandpa)#and i'm mostly sad for him#but i met my grandpa probably a single digit number of times over the course of my entire life#obviously many people dont know their grandparents but i think there is a difference in experience if#a grandparent dies when you're young vs a grandparent still being alive but just not present at all#idk i just wish my dad had a better dad
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Friends I crave distraction. Please feel free to send me random Star Trek asks - about the shows, the characters, hot takes, theories, your fics, my fics, someone else's fics- anything is fine, I would very much welcome it
#it's been a rough week. people I know stop dying challenge :(#I'm sorry about the incoming tag rant but I literally cannot believe these last three months#I just got off the phone after what. number 7? 8?#and I feel so bad because it's not even MY immediate family so I shouldn't make this about me but like#these are still people who raised me#people who have been around since I was a kid#people I really believed were going to be around for a lot longer#(and pets. plural. what is UP with the number of deaths lately)#I'm just very exhausted with everything I'm not even crying anymore I'm literally just tired and I feel like I'm losing it#and yes I am not at the centre of these losses but it's still a cumulative effect...like spending hours & hours at funerals & on the phone#with grieving friends and family and trying to be there for them and not having any space or time to process these losses for myself#is not an unreasonable thing to feel exhausted from right? especially not after like three straight months of this?#anyway. would really like to think about people who don't really exist for the next few hours and maybe ramble a bit once I make dinner :)
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