#but i just adore them

[graceofgondor]

charlieginny headcanons (pt. 2/?) post-canon/adult edition

back for more bc enough of you liked the last one <3

charlie volunteered for the war after graduating college, ginny obviously hated it but he promised he would come back for her.

they have a black lab named merlin. (charlie got him as a birthday present for ginny before he left).

he served two tours before coming home (injury)

they bought a house in the suburbs shortly after he came back (it's yellow with a white picket fence okay) and they were engaged that year

(there's barely any furniture at first)

dancing in the kitchen™

ginny ties his tie every morning before work

they both participate in local activism, peaceful protests, etc.

ginny is still an actress <3 she does a lot of community theatre but manages some small roles on broadway (charlie is so incredibly proud of her)

charlie eventually works up to investment banking (NOT in association with his father) and actually doesn't mind that it's dull

they end up having three kids (two older sons, and a youngest daughter) and charlie naturally has endless nicknames for them (buddy, champ, princess, etc.)

one of them ends up being blond. which would be odd, if not accounting mrs. dalton, who somehow allowed her genes to sneak in.

charlie is so insanely protective of ginny while she's pregnant

but also even more eager to please her (even when she's mad)

they quite literally refuse to send any of their kids to boarding school, and despite protest (particularly from mr. dalton) they manage to break the cycle.

they're pta parents big time.

charlie is most likely a coach for one of their son's teams. ginny gets reeealllyy passionate at said games (it's a little scary)

charlie just looks at her like 'that's my wife <3' (yes, and she's yelling at eight year olds, and just threatened the coach)

meanwhile when their daughter comes along it's charlie's turn to be insane (only this time it's dance or piano recitals)

god charlie is a girl dad. like SO much. he'll buy her ANYTHING.

merlin is such a family dog. the kids yank on his tail/ears when they're little and he just looks up at charlie and ginny with puppy eyes, taking it like a champ.

pitts and meeks babysit sometimes (they're clueless but they try)

when they aren't available it's left to uncle chet (aka the og funcle). the kids absolutely LOVE this- ginny does not. (there is no point to this, charlie isn't much better).

speaking of which, charlie ends up alone with the kids when ginny goes to rehearsals (the pep talk they were left with was inevitably ignored) and yes they had ice cream for dinner.

charlie ends up getting scolded along with the kids when they get in trouble, and they all sit in a line on the couch (merlin included) while ginny lectures them.

bonus: ginny is a HUGE abba girlie when they come around. like, she plays the record non stop, and both her and charlie know the words to like every single song.

next up: wedding? (i have thoughts) also lowkey plugging the fics that the first bit of these apply to: 1 and 2

[windwenn]

This drawing made me realise that actually I love the comfort zone and I would like to go back into it. Also that I must draw more tigers.

[monstermonger]

Melancholia

[otaku553]

Wow! How come you get 4 different story outfits and only one of them is playable so far

[egophiliac]

everyone out of the way, this is the only thing I'm going to be thinking about from now on.

(okay, there is one more thing)

[framblebee]

INTERVIEW WITH THE VAMPIRE 1x2 After the Phantoms of Your Former Self

—You should just throw me in the incinerator, make another one. —Hm. And what a waste that would be.

[chloesimaginationthings]

Abby could befriend any animatronic from FNAF..

[akiiame-blog]

Mario can act like the annoying little brother sometimes. As a treat :]

[timethehobo]

Just a young, talented Watcher meeting a friendly little wisp.

[hollis-art]

i think about the 30th Anniversary Star Trek Barbie and Ken set so much actually,,, look at them go

[arcanefanpage]

I can’t get over the fact that no matter what happens in Act 2 and 3 Vi will most likely never be this soft and trusting with Caitlyn again

[applestruda]

the goobers

[frogatz]

faaallen aaangels and faaatal attraaactioooon ... the end of an aaage and the end of affeectioooon

[zorangezest]

thanks for listening

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[egophiliac]

I just realized it'll take the eng server almost a year to reach the 3D Cheka T pose model :' ) we're at book 7 part 6, and we get a new main story update every 2 to 3 months..

Anyway, do you wanna share some fun, spoiler-free shenanigans that happened in jp's server.? Just to have some crumbs to lick off the table until we get our own sandwich (my heart is empty and my soul is crying)

spoiler-free is pretty hard, especially considering. the, uhhh, particular turn that things take directly after 6. (like, the fact that the other characters are showing up probably counts on its own?) and I do think that if you can avoid getting spoiled, most of it is definitely better as a surprise! some of the genuinely best Twst moments are waiting for you. :D

if I may, however, present one of my favorite little throwaway bits with absolutely no context: