#being anorexic sucks

[anarkhebringer]

I'm so happy I just weighed and I weigh 160 pounds now... I've worked so hard to get to this point, this is the heaviest I've ever been in my life and I genuinely enjoy looking in the mirror now

[lqnar]

think bulimia is my default state lmao hate this so much

[wawhii]

If it wasn't obvious to me that I'm spiralling before it sure as fuck is now!

[serial-unaliver]

i'm going to say based on some Takes that I do not think bullying is on the diagnostic criteria for anorexia, and when I was younger and severely anorexic insulting some random girl's weight was behavior associated with mean girls in grade school. those girls were probably struggling with self image themselves but no one was like "we should be kinder to the girl who told a 6 year old to suck her stomach in so she's skinny". they might say "that girl is totally right" and also hate on the 6 year old, but not accuse anyone of being ableist.

like it really gets tuah point! and this is why your anti-ableism should be anti-psychiatry: no one is born with anorexia, it is tied to environment, not an inherent part of someone. on some level everyone is aware of this fact but acknowledging it I suppose causes a lot of discomfort when it conflicts with your own beliefs, preferences, and insecurities.

i'm not saying you can't be sympathetic. but if someone with the same disorder as me calls me an insecure bitch for saying "stop telling teen girls to starve themselves" they're really not entitled to a kind response. did we forget the concept of an explanation but not an excuse? can you tell I went on tiktok today?

[wawawawawawawawawawawawawa]

@dalucaprio would u believe me if i told u that tyler is one of my best guys 😭 yes hes a month late fixing my braces BUT he's the one who got me in to get custom-fitted braces, something TWO seperate orthopedists deemed unneccesary?

did i mention i literally cant take my braces off? like. ever? just to shower and thats IT. if i try and do anything braceless, it hurts, and that INCLUDES Just Sitting Down. i live in these fucking things so theyd BETTER be custom

(the braces im getting fixed arent the custom ones theyre a regular kind)

idk if disability services are just as shitty in japan as they are in the states but imagine izaya having to deal w that shit. did you know wheelchairs have to be custom made otherwise they can hurt? imagine izaya having to deal w that system. imagine him having to wait god knows how long for his shit to be made and then given to him. imagine him dealing w doctors not believing he needs the things he needs because he's "too young to be disabled," and how harsh of a blow that'd be for him at ALL. imagine him having to deal w bullshit for any other mobility aids or medicines he might need. imagine how out of control hed feel over his own health and his basic movement. imagine.

[olderthannetfic]

RE: porn addiction discussion:

I've seen a lot of both breakups and divorces over that very thing in the past decade, Imo I don't think its reasonable to expect everyone who has seen a dissolving in their relationship due to the excessive pornography usage of one partner partner to just suck it up and get used to liking porn themselves, accept watching porn together as a replacement for their sex life, otherwise /they/ must be some non-communicative creep who just wants to use their partner like a dildo.

More and more chicks get pressured by guys into doing that. Or like the other asker said, acting out things from porn that they dont wanna do, and regret it/dont enjoy it. I think its less about ~protecting pristine sacred christian piv~ and more of an acknowledgement that its not realistic to expect the majority of sexual relationships to be able to healthily function like that as long as theres 'communication'.

Communication isn't the end all be all when there's only one clear party that this scenario benefits. The person with the broken dick. To promote the idea that they should, can and is be used against people who don't want that for themselves or their relationship, under the guise that if their boundaries are firm they must be some flavor of "sex negative/christian/radfem/prude"

There's nuance to the topic. People with the same level of porn usage can be happy together, engage in their kinks mutually, all that jazz. But there are also an increasing number of relationships where a dude uses porn and sex-positive language to pressure chicks into doing things they dont want to, having the kind of sex life that they dont want to, which becomes a slippery slope. Or a dude gets so into porn that hes leaving it open on his computer for their kids to see in an exhibitionist sort of way, completely disregarding welfare.

And I don't mean that as any sort of hyperbole or rhetoric, that example happened with my own Dad. Lemme tell you, your father leaving open pages and pages of anorexic amputee torture porn on the family computer that you, as an 8 year old girl, have to rush to close before your younger siblings come in the door after you home from school, will have an impact on both that relationship and ones level of comfort with porn longterm.

And even then, I still got into relationship after relationship once I was old enough, where guys were constantly wanting to replace sex with watching porn with them, and when we did have sex they always wanted to 'try something they saw' rather than just have fun doing something mutually enjoyable and intuitive. Partners sneaking off at my 15 year old sisters birthday party to jack off to 'teen porn' in the bathroom, leaving home for work early just to jack off in a gas station parking lot for 2 hours, watching porn in bed next to me when I have to get up for work soon, being unable to maintain an erection without porn-related stimuli (be it watching or scenarios), spiraling into cheating, etc. Years and years of sex positivity, attempts at understanding, experimenting, and accommodating, and communication on my end didn't help, until that communication was "I can't keep trying to salvage this by myself anymore, I'd be happier alone."

Not everyone is going to be down with it, or should push themselves to be, and not all reasons for not wanting that for your own sex life are rooted in some Christian or Radfem rhetoric. Lived experience plays a role in such stances. Strong boundaries can be hard to build when there's pressure in both the bedroom and outside world that the ones you have are 'wrong', but it's worth it to stand up for ones own comfort, security, and happiness rather than endlessly accommodating.

Personally, I'm overjoyed to have now found a longterm relationship now where the furthest extent of that either partner engages with is fanfic and lewd art. I wish everyone the same luck in finding a partner that has compatible desires.

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~broken dick~

Oh please.

This kind of discussion is obsessed with "porn" meaning mainstream live action porn aimed at straight guys and with the kind of dumbass men who think that stuff is a model to emulate. In reality, there are shittons of types of porn. People who pressure their partners suck regardless of why.

These experiences sound shitty, but I'm still rolling my eyes at this spin.

[cambriancrew]

I'd like to briefly talk about a kind of dysphoria rarely talked about outside of eating disorder circles. So content warning, food and diet and weight discussion ahead.

We grew up very unhealthy skinny due to abuse and neglect and food related trauma. Because of that, our internal view of ourselves was as this tiny little girl. We were anorexic - not nervosa, just VERY minimal appetite - and a picky eater with texture and taste sensitivities due to autism and, again, trauma. We have and have long had really bad emetophobia due, yet again, to trauma. We had body image issues related to people we knew who were at a healthy weight being jealous of how skinny we were, which made us feel guilty and even worse about food.

Then as an adult we started working in healthcare as a nurse's aide and med tech, which are very physically demanding jobs and everywhere we worked was horribly understaffed so we rarely had time to sit and most often did not get breaks. We joked a lot about having a nurse's bladder because when you're chronically too busy to pee you get to where you can wait forever to go. There for awhile we were consistently walking 20,000 - 30,000 steps a day - more like 40,000 if we were forced to work a double shift (16 hours). And rarely eating a full lunch/dinner/both because of time constraints and being in too much pain and too tired to eat.

As a result, we remained underweight by a lot. We were doing our best just to maintain our weight at 90-95 pounds - drinking protein shakes and meal replacement shakes and snacking as much as we could.

We viewed ourselves, internally, as being this stick thin, no curves girl, even though despite all that we did have curves.

Then we left the healthcare field for a sedentary job, got put on an antidepressant that actually gave us an appetite for the first time in forever, and worked through a lot of our trauma.

And over two years we doubled in weight. At first as we gained we were really glad to finally hit the triple digits. Then it became a concern, as we can't push ourselves to walk as much as we used to when working healthcare. We just can't do it anymore without severe pain. Heck, we couldn't do it then without severe pain, but we pushed through because we needed money.

We don't recognize ourselves in the mirror anymore. We want to lose weight, but working out is difficult, and having to actually watch what we eat for the first time in our life has been a difficult adjustment.

It's not just the mirror. We can't move the way we used to. Sitting cross-legged when you're fat is harder than when you're thin. Crossing our arms or holding one hand in the other physically reminds us that we have an actual chest now, which is especially hard on Varyn as that creates gender dysphoria for him.

And it just feels weird trying to adjust our mental picture of what we look like now against what we looked like the rest of our life. It feels wrong to look at ourselves and see us so much bigger than we used to. Old clothes don't fit. And we can't wear long sleeves as much as we used to because now we overheat so easily now (partly due to weight and partly due to medications) when we used to be cold all the time.

We don't wanna go back to being unhealthy skinny. But we don't want to be the weight we are now. And while we've been able to lose some, it's slow going and difficult.

I feel like, due to some of our health issues, we probably need to see a physical therapist and a personal trainer in order to figure out how much we can safely exercise, but who can afford that in this economy?

So for now, we're stuck with a body that clashes badly with our internal view of what we should look like and feel like and be able to do. And that's a kind of dysphoria that we feel needs to be talked about and recognized more outside of eating disorder circles. Cuz it sucks. But we know we're not alone in this.

[sanityshorror]

the julius redraw of my beloved patrick led to julius becoming my other beloved. they're both so.....😍*chef's kiss* 💋could you please write a scenario about these two pretty boy psychos meeting each other for the first time? thank you❤️

Awe thank you so much, I'm glad you love Julius! I put so much work into him and I'm working on soooo many projects about him 👀 As for the scenario, I apologize but I really don't have time and I don't write fanfiction involving my own characters (I created Julius, to be clear; he's my character 😭) BUT I can tell you my silly HCs of if somehow their different universes collided and they met!

Given Patrick's personality and knowing Julius' like the back of my hand, unfortunately I do not see any sort of friendship ever forming between the two. Neither of the men are prone to form a genuine bond with anyone. Now, I can confirm that there are a few exceptions for Julius but it's very, very, very few. As for Patrick, it's up to one's interpretation of if he can/does form a true bond, I personally interpret him to be similar to Julius: no, with extremely rare exceptions.

While I do not see a genuine bond being able to form between the two, I absolutely do see them both as having a mutually beneficial fake-friendship. They're both east coast, coked up, sex addicted, rich white men who lead double/multiple lives and are deceptive as all hell. They both are also very obsessive over image, appearance and social status/perception. Now what I absolutely do believe would happen is Patrick forming an obsessive infatuation but intense jealousy towards Julius due to multiple reasons.

I'll explain:

Julius was born in a working class family during the Victorian era who immigrated to America and became a mainly self made multi-billionaire (being married to the Boss of the Boston Irish Mob brings in a lot of money on top of his own very successful business). Patrick on the other hand, despite being born into wealth still doesn't hold a candle to Julius' riches. Patrick may own a Manhattan penthouse but Julius could buy the entire building if he wanted to, and without batting an eye at the price tag given the multi-millions that roll in weekly for him.

That brings me to another reason: sheer status and power. Julius is so elite that brand names mean nothing to him and he sees brand names as something for the poor. Julius owns a very popular, top of the line, extremely expensive dress shop and boutique. Everything is hand made by him (he doesn't even use sewing machines), one of a kind and the man is talented. His shop is so revered you need an appointment just to get in and people will save up for years and fly across the country, even across the ocean to get a dress. (Of course, only the lucky actually leave the shop....) Basically, Julius' wealth and god like status (he can literally have anything he wants, whenever he wants and gets endless attention) is something Patrick would, though be very jealous of, lead Patrick to suck up to Julius. Our boy Patrick would set his homophobia aside in a second if it meant being seen going into Doherty's Dress Shop without needing an appointment.

Julius would look down on Patrick. He would find him annoying and pathetic. However Julius loves attention and loves people sucking up to him (and loves cocaine-murder buddies) so he probably wouldn't kill Patrick as long as Patrick played his cards right and didn't challenge him. I see Julius using Patrick as a verbal punching bag and forcing him to smuggle drugs and traffic humans and other shit, and probably also just make him do degrading things like "I'll let you enter my store wherever you want if you suck my boot until you jizz in your pants hahahaha nasty bitch" just for shits and giggles. And Patrick probably would because oh that sweet sweet sweet status.

Julius also would make fun of Patrick for being 'short and fat'. Patrick is said to be 6'0 and 190lbs whereas Julius, who is anorexic, stands at 6'5 (in the human leather boots he always wears, he's 6'2 without them) and horrific mere 135lbs (please seek help if you struggle with eating, you deserve it/gen). I think they would both feed into each other's body issues and obsession with perfection.

It would be interesting to see them meet, I must admit that lol.

[sanguinifex]

I think we need to talk more about getting on meds for mental illness and stop just relying on stopgap coping mechanisms.

Untreated anxiety or OCD? Can fucking kill you.

Untreated depression? Can fucking kill you.

Untreated bipolar? Can fucking kill you.

Untreated schizophrenia? Can fucking kill you.

There are medications available for all of these things. For the first 3, there are lots of treatment options. Treating schizophrenia is often a bit harder, but even most people who don't respond super well see some improvement, and the FDA just approved a new treatment for people with schizophrenia who don't respond well to conventional antipsychotics.

It is literally a million times easier to exist when you're on the right medication. You just...exist. And do stuff. And before you know it's been months and you haven't wanted to die at all.

A lot of people are scared of medication because they think it will make them gain weight. A lot of meds don't actually do that, or have only very little weight gain. Wellbutrin, an atypical antidepressant, can sometimes make you lose weight. Buspirone, a maintenance medication for anxiety disorders, isn't associated with weight gain. Lithium, a treatment for bipolar mania, isn't associated with weight gain. Second-generation antipsychotics, used for bipolar mania and schizophrenia, are associated with weight gain, but any of the first like 3 you'd be prescribed aren't going to make you gain more than like 20 pounds.

And so what if you do gain weight? You might need new clothes, and it sucks to have to replace all your pants. Healthwise, you're better off 20 pounds heavier on medication than you are with an untreated mental illness. If you're anorexic, the anorexia will be less bad if you're not depressed or OCD anymore.

Some people are worried about being involuntarily committed. Health systems generally avoid doing that anymore. Unless you're actively in crisis, they won't. Even if you go in involuntarily, their goal is to stabilize you and get you out of there as soon as possible because that's what makes sense for their revenue cycle. Insurance/medicaid only pays so long. I went in for a manic episode and was out in 10 days, and the last like 4 were because they needed to get my lithium level stable. Also, the hospital food was actually good.

Seriously. Just ask your doctor or go to urgent care and ask about medication. It will be so much calmer in your head, and you'll be able to do things you never thought you could do. I'm in graduate school now. I'm getting good grades. I still get doubts about myself but they pass. I'm going to do things with my life. And it comes down to four medications to treat four mental illnesses that I thought would send me to an early grave.

Be the person you can be. Take the damn meds.

[cannabisbutch]

As someone who was very under weight as a kid and am now considered overweight, I can say that while there is stigma, fatphoba is worse and even hurts those who are underweight, getting laughed off for worrying about losing weight for no reason cus I'm "lucky". Family making jokes that I'm anorexic, it sucked ass. But the hate I face now that I'm chubby is worse, it's constant from meda. People made fun of me for being skinny yes, but it feels like being fat is a crime. It's unacceptable

yea, being skinny shamed can absolutely be a form of bullying, but its different than oppression!

you will never lose your job for being skinny

you will never be screamed at on the street to go home because you're too fat and ugly to be in public

you will never be disbelieved about your eating habits/exercise amounts for being skinny

you will never be told you are disgusting and lazy because you are skinny

and thats just a few examples of real things that happen to fat ppl (and all but the job one have happened to me)

[voidsquidd]

So like obviously skinny being considered attractive has never went away completely, but can we not bring back being really skinny and underweight pls

I've seen so many ppl talking about how "curvy is out and skinny is in" and I just find that stupid for so many reasons

So for ppl who don't know, for the past few yrs ppl were saying curvy was in, like 'thunder thighs' and bigger chests, curvy women with more fat on them. But now ppl are saying skinny is back, stuff like herione cheque.

Point 1. You can't control preferences

Not everyone is going to be more attracted to the super skinny body type, but the fashion industry, influences, celebrities, etc say it's in so everyone suddenly starts panicking wanting to match it as if now someone's said it everyone is suddenly gonna find things like leggings legs more attractive, even if they previously didn't have that preference. Ppl act like someone saying "this is attractive now" is gonna change what everyone finds attractive and that's not true.

Not everyone is now gonna suddenly find super skinny, underweight, anorexic looking ppl more attractive, ppl will still have their own personal preferences and will find whatever they find attractive attractive. Just like how ppl who preferred ppl with thin legs didn't suddenly find thick thighs attractive, ppl who preferred thick thighs aren't gonna magically find skinny legs more attractive, it's entirely preference and that persons own taste. So stop acting like everyone's preference changes to match what's 'in' at the moment

Point 2. It's dangerous

Eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia are still a thing, and they were a thing even while ppl we're starting to be more body positive, and they're gonna be worse now that being skinny is more attractive (apparently). Like I'm starting to see ppl saying those models who always pass out on the runway and who aren't actually eating enough are the ideal body again, and that's just gonna make eds worse again. Most those models are eating like they have and Ed and a lot probably do, that's the only way to really get that skinny, so now ppl with eds are gonna get pushed more to get worse, becuz skinny is becoming a thing again and they're gonna be seeing less body positivity.

And ppl are all gonna start tryna diet and cut cals in dangerous amounts becuz they want that body type. Ppl who don't currently have eds are probably gonna be more likely to develope them if we move backwards and start normalizing that shit again. Those ppl aren't healthy, they're literally passing out for gods sake, saying looking like them is becoming the ideal again is dangerous and stupid.

Point 3. It's easier to make a trend now

Wtf is leggings legs too. It didn't exist like a few yrs ago it's just a new name for something that was heavily pressured onto women last time being skinny was popular, they're just using a different name to try and make it a trend. By giving it a easy name to call "thin legs with a thigh gap and no calf" they can make it a trend on the internet and make ppl post stuff about it, comparing their legs and talking about how they wish they had 'leggings legs'

Same with headphone waist, which is where u have to try and fit headphones around ur waist. These are just glamorized names for body checking. "See how skinny u are by doing this, if u don't have headphone waist then that sucks for u, u should try get it", its like how ppl with eds usually take pics in several poses to try and see if they're thin enough. It's like the shit ppl in China are doing, and that place has even stricter beauty standards so yk it's bad if we're copying them.

All these new names for things, names that are quick and easy to remember, like headphone waist (really skinny waist) , leggings leg (really skinny legs), double lip line (I genuinely have no clue what ppl are insecure about when they say this), good features bad facial harmony (u have the ideal features that are considered attractive, but u still need to be insecure of ur face and hate it anyway)

All these names for stuff just makes it easier to make a trend and then slyly promote it

[bibaybe]

🧐🧐🧐🧐 what is cordy's relationship like with her parents? Is it negative or positive or hard to pin down?

YES THANK YOU!!! and thank you @daughter-of-melpomene, @xoteajays, and @partiallypearl for also enabling me!!!

TW for alcoholism, neglect, alcohol poisoning, eating disorders, sexualization

OKAY it is very very negative with both for a very long time

her dad, isaac, was an alcoholic when cordy was little

parents separated when she was 3, but she still had weekend visitations w her dad UNTIL her fourth birthday, when he had her for the day

cordy comes into the kitchen from another room and finds him suffocating in his own vomit and had to fucking call the police, which her grandma had taught her to do

after that, she was obviously fucking traumatized and he lost all custody and was forced into rehab

anytime she so much as saw a picture of him, she'd have a meltdown and throw up herself - throwing up was basically her stress response

isaac does eventually become sober and attempts to rejoin cordy's life, but she has such a bad breakdown that he accepts that she doesn't want to see him and steps back out of her life. meanwhile, he starts dating a new woman and gets his life back on track, which also infuriates cordy bc 'you got better for them and not me?'

so for a long time, she's just got her mom, tabitha, who has a Grand Plan for cordy's life: break into the industry through modeling and eventually become an actress

her mom controls her every move - how she dresses, what after school activities she does, who she befriends

even encourages her daughter's bulimia and anorexia as long as it means getting another shoot - has been anorexic herself since she was young, so it's not strange to her

it's not until brett cheats on her that cordy starts disobeying her mom's orders - she will not stay with him, no matter what

but what really starts the end is when her mom books her first national campaign - a swimsuit ad that photoshops her chest and a commercial that shows her sucking on a lollipop, exposing her to the worst sexualization she's ever dealt with and intensifying body issues

literally gets into a fights to make sure her face is too messed up to be in her next campaign, which infuriates her mom

tabitha has always threatened to make her stay w her dad but never actually done it until now

drops her off and doesn't wait for her to go in before she's gone, so cordy just nopes out of there and runs over to the palm and bugs the boys for a phone bc her mom took hers

mama knight invites her to stay there and, cordy not knowing, texts her mom to let her know she's there. her mom sends her dad to pick her up (who thinks cordy actually wanted to see him again!)

things blow the fuck up obviously and long story short isaac finds out that a) she was not still in therapy like he thought b) did not want to fucking see him and c) was quite literally in the worst mental state of her life and goes Oh No. Nope. Fuck you Tabitha, This Ends Now

cordy ends up staying w jo's family after a brief stint at the boys' as isaac and tabitha end up in a very bad court fight, with tabitha only allowing cordy to stay there after mama knight promises to spill everything to the judge if she forces cordy to go home

cordy going through her therapy arc... it's what she always deserved

eventually gets to the point where she can be around her dad again and they slowly start improving their relationship and talking through all the fears she had

isaac eventually gaining custody after cordy gets to the point that she actually wants to be w her dad and the family she's beginning to make w her dad, his girlfriend, and her two kids

cordy becoming a big sister!! and actually being excited by it!!

isaac getting her the fuck out of modelling. tabitha getting supervised visits only when cordy wants it. for once, cordy having control of their relationship and encouraged to have control over her own life by her dad

tldr: tabitha sucks and i hate her, isaac had a very fucking rough beginning w cordy but has a strong redemption arc

[trickycactus]

so that tweet by nick fuentes seems like the first time a lot of people have heard of this guy and hes being really gassed up . hes supposedly some extreme nationalist leader of a far right political movement and while all of that is technically true please know that all he does is yak on a podcast and call himself an incel to preemptively own the haters who have correctly pointed out hes nearly thirty years old and for being a 'preserve the white race and make white babies!!' type he has literally never felt the touch of a woman.

the best summary of this guy is that he was put on the no fly list and claimed it was done by the federal government because they were scared of his radical movement. hes actually on it for threatening to strangle a flight attendant who then kicked his ass off the plane and didnt give a shit about him. he sucks but hes not scary hes just another podcasting balding fail male.

dont be scared of his followers either. he has literally asked them not to gather around him in public to avoid pictures because of how gross and schlubby basement dweller or anorexic skinny fat they are. which is really just blowing the cover on his super cool tough movement to reveal its full of vitamin d deficient, hot dog breath dork asses that need internet daddies to tell them what to think.

[honeysuckle-venom]

Warning: weight loss mention (no in depth discussion about feelings yet)

So. Those of you who keep up to date with my personal posts will know that on Monday I saw a new hepatologist to discuss my many (non-cancerous) liver tumors and what to do about them.

The answers I got were more or less what I expected. Thankfully, I don't need any scary procedures any time soon, and possibly won't ever need surgery, which would be fantastic. As I suspected, I'm not a good candidate for resection anyway. Since I'm largely asymptomatic we don't need to look into something like trans arterial embolization right now, let alone transplant. Yay! Also, they said I can safely eat moderate amounts of soy, which is great, because I like soy based foods. That's the good news.

There were a few pieces of bad news. The first was that while I knew I couldn't be on estrogen based birth control, they said it wouldn't be safe for me to risk progesterone based birth control either. I have to stay off entirely. So that kind of sucks, I hate just getting my period naturally every month, the pmdd symptoms are so much worse that way. But I'll take horrible cramps and mental health struggles over tumor growth.

And speaking of mental health struggles being preferable to tumor growth, the other thing that was made very clear to me was that I absolutely must lose weight. Estrogen production increases with large amounts of fatty tissue, and the doctor said that's the main reason these tumors are worsened by weight gain. She thinks that the amount of tumor growth they found was within the margin of error, so it's possible it didn't grow, but if it did grow it's likely because I gained some weight in the past year. (They're going to look at all my MRIs during rounds next week with a radiologist to see if it really grew or not). It was made very clear to me that the only way to get them to shrink is to lose weight, and that if I don't or if I gain weight I'm at serious risk of them growing.

So. Weight loss. Apparently not super optional. I mean, I know I have bodily autonomy, I could decide not to lost weight technically, but yeah the consequences here are serious and not worth messing around with. Which means for the first time since I was an anorexic teenager I will be trying to lose weight.

I have...a lot of conflicting feelings about that, but this post is already long and I feel like those feelings should go in their own post so I can adequately explain and trigger warn. So. I'll stop here for now.

[masochisticmayhem]

fucking Christ. I have to stop letting people rush me into role playing. I keep getting hurt. this dude jumped down my pants virtually without seeing my body. then when he did I get an entire paragraph on how I'm not his type and he's now turned off by me when I literally gave him a boner 15 mins ago. like. what? if you knew you only like a certain body type why didn't you check first asshat? I'm not skinny. I weigh 170lb (77kg). I have a tummy and no butt. I'm not a gym girlie. I can't exercise due to chronic pain, and I retain weight because of PCOS. I have weighed roughly this weight my whole adult life. when I was anorexic I weighed 150lbs. being told I'm attractive except for my body fucking sucks

[aita-polls]

AITA for not telling my anorexic friend that she is misinformed about the amount of calories in a particular food item?

I don't know who told her that, she is wildly off! But at least she eats that a lot now that she thinks it has 500 percent less calories than the amount it really does. I have decided to not correct her. But I do know that thr ideal path is telling her the truth and convincing her to steal eat it and she might have a visceral reaction when she somehow finds out but it is safer for the while. At least she is not starving. I do keep trying to help her in other ways but I am keeping the cover.