#aitah polls

[aita-polls]

AITA for dating my friend's ex even though she doesn't want me to? (It's an EX, things ended between them over an year ago)

[aita-polls]

y’know what…. yeah. hell yeah

[zackprincebooks]

AITA for not proposing?

I [120 M] have been dating my girlfriend [80 F] for about two years. I know that’s not a very long time for elves, but I’m already tired of her. She’s super clingy and naive; her brother [95 M] raised her and I think he sheltered her waaaay too much. I’ve been brushing her off whenever she asks for dates, but we’re also contracted adventurers in the same traveling party, so it’s really hard to avoid her. But my party members have been backing me up, and she doesn’t seem to get the hint. 

We got to stay in a palace during our last job, and I had the privilege of meeting one of the king’s daughters [25 F]. She’s everything I’ve ever wanted: beautiful, rich, and titled. We got on really well in the week I stayed in the palace, but I’m worried that with all of her suitors, I’ll get elbowed out. So I told my party that we needed some money (not TECHNICALLY a lie,) and we went into the mountains to raid a dragon’s hoard. 

This dragon [2,300] is apparently super important? I guess he killed a lichwyrm three hundred years ago or something and put a huge crater in the ground that became a lake. He lives on the lakeshore in this big fortress so we swam across the lake, broke into his hoard, and took some of his gold. I found the perfect diamond ring for the princess and took it back with me.

But the other night I celebrated a little too hard with the mead and I blabbed about my plan to my friends. While they were super cool with it as long as we could split the loot (and I only really wanted the ring,) my girlfriend was really mad about it for some reason? I guess she’s been after me for a ring for a while, even though we’ve only been dating for two years. 

We had an argument and I thought we made up okay, but this morning the hoard is just GONE. She took everything, and she took it BACK to the dragon! Now she’s sworn to a decade in his service and he even put a collar on her that controls her magic so she can’t run away. And she’s just okay with this? I’m convinced they’re fucking.

My friends are on my side, but the princess got super mad at me when I came back without a ring. Am I the asshole? 

[thedragonlies]

*basically, the idea would be that Arthur realizes he’s gay/comes out for Merlin, but Merlin isn’t willing or able to support him through All That (which, valid)…I’ve seen a lot of fics that force Arthur to make some hard choices to be with Merlin (which I read and love, don’t get me wrong), but I’m kind of tempted to explore what it would look like for Arthur to get the support he needs in coming out in his own time and way…

[brasskingfisher]

AITA for vandalising a Swasticar?

Ok, so I'd appreciate some outside perspective on this since in dealing with some complicated feelings.

A few days ago I was chatting to some friends and in the course of discussing how the US is rapidly turning into a corrupt dictatorship I admitted to vandalising a Tesla I happened to pass in a car park (I didn't do anything serious but it was very obviously left with some minor damage). Now my friends reacted negatively (and some seemed quite pissed off) saying that I was an arsehole for doing that as there was a good chance the driver didn't actually own it (it being a company car or similar) and they could get unfairly penalised for the damage. However I would counter that this was a more or less brand new swasticar (it was registered well within the last 2 months) and so whoever owned it knew what they were getting involved with by buying it (and that Musk had gone from far right provocouer to full on nazi).

I don't know if it makes a difference but I am agender and asexual whereas the friends in question are (so far as I know) all cishet, so I'm several notches higher on the fascist shitlist than them.

[beausventaccount]

My sister reads a lot of autobiographies and views her experiences and knowledge as equal/superior to mine, which I gained mostly from talking to my peers and listening to queer elders. It'll be ok if I'm wrong, I just want to know if I'm being a dick

[little-draculove]

AITA: interrupted my cat's movie night, and she's now threatening to chew on my hoodie.

my cat, (4F) was happily lazing on the couch watching her 'tom & jerry' that i had left on for her to watch, as i worked on an essay. about an hour into her movie night, i sneezed.

she sat up, glared and then angrily huffed at me. she then moved to sit on the backrest of my couch, and is now constantly trying to chew on the strings of my hoodie.

if i stop her, she pretends like she was just stretching, and just stares at the TV until i look away. when i do, she tries to chew on my hoodie again.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

I found this blog through a reblog and decided I’d poll Tumblr whether I’m the asshole. And the reason I’m concerned is because my mother (53 f) doesn’t think I’m the asshole, and that’s a bit of a red flag.

My sister (22 f) was home from college for break. She was to be traveling out of state to visit her boyfriend (23 m). Meaning, she was going to be flying in the continental US. As such, she needed a 1 qt, clear, plastic bag for her travel liquids. My family has several durable and clear plastic bags (as opposed to ziplocks) for this very purpose.

But rather than use one of these empty bags, she emptied my care bag.

This bag is fairly small. It usually holds my acne medication, including topical creams, tablets, prescribed moisturizer, etc… in travel sizes for me to take with me to work. I also include my migraine meds and lactose pills in this bag, among other things. And it fits perfectly within my backpack’s side pocket (which is why I bought it).

I noticed immediately that she had taken it as she had just dumped the contents all over my bathroom counter. So, I called her and told her that she needed to return it to me (at the time, she was only an hour away and her flight wasn’t for another week). She tried to play it off at first. “What bag?” Then she tried to reason that it wasn’t a big deal. Then she told me she didn’t want to make her bf drive an hour to return the bag to me as it’d put them an hour back in their drive, so I should just let it go.

And the reasonable part of me thinks… maybe I should? Maybe I should just go out and buy a new bag? Like… it’s annoying that she took it without asking and dumped everything out of it. It’s annoying that the bag doesn’t even meet TSA requirements as she claimed (it’s black and not completely clear). It’s annoying that I had asked her if she needed me to get her anything up for her night before and that rather than ask for help, she took something. And it’s annoying that she didn’t use the clear bags provided to her by our mother.

But the thing is… it’s not just the bag. This happens with all my stuff. It got so bad when I was a teen that my father put locks on all my drawers and doors that only I had keys to (my parents did have a spare set in the event I lost mine that they— ironically— “lost”).

EX: I have a pair of Levi jeans that I bought with a gift card from my grandparents. Levi’s are— well— expensive. Earlier last year, before she went back to school after break, I noticed they were missing. I called her and told her I was angry about this. She insisted I was “insane” and that she would never take them and that I likely misplaced them or lost them (I do have memory problems, combo of ADHD and whatever causes my migraines). My father helped me look for them. He even looked through her stuff. They *were not* in the house. But 5 months later after she came home from college, I found them under my bed (they were not previously under my bed). “See, I told you that you lost them.”

So, I told her that she needed to find a way to return the bag to me and that under no circumstances was she allowed to leave the state with it (if she did, there wasn’t much I would’ve or could’ve done about it, so I was hoping this ultimatum would work). And I said that if she didn’t return it, I would tell our mom about all the unused, unopened pregnancy tests she was stocking and hiding in her room (found when I went looking for spoons as she hides my mother’s spoons after using them). She told me “You’re insane. It’s just a bag,” but she did mail it back to me and I got it in time for work that Monday.

My mother says I was justified in demanding it back (she doesn’t know about the unused tests), but she is often petty and demanding and blows up or snaps at the smallest things. So, I am concerned that I made a big deal of nothing or that I took it too far.

AITAH? ESH?

What are these acronyms?

[thepromiscuousfinger]

[tumblr]: Your feelings are valid! It's okay to speak up when your loved ones ignore your wishes and disappoint you.

The AITAH cake post/poll

Also [tumblr]: Unless you're a man.

[bacchicly]

I have found tumblr aitah #unreality polls... And I can't decide if I love them (guilty) or hate them (pleasure).

Either way... I am voting but not yet up to reblogging.

Oh the shame!

[messypenguin]

For not being aware that a guy liked me then proceeding to ask me out

(Softly & firmly rejected the guy)

That's its my fault that our 3 to 4 short talks about college made him gain a crush on me. Thus, I have to take responsibility and check my behavior?

It wasn't even the guy who asked me out who said this, but a friend.

[aita-polls]

Aita for Calling out my "friends" preditorty behavior?

I (m 20) found out my friend (m 20) was dating someone (m 18) too young for them. You might be thinking "18 isn't bad thats an adult" but 18 is still a TEEN and this person is a whole grown 20 year old, just because something is legal it doesn't make it morally correct. So I called him out in front of some friends and explained how gross it is to be with a literal teenager at his grown age. His friends have mixed opinions but a few are treating me like an asshole.

[aita-polls]

Am I (28f) the ah for not caring for my husband's child? (Sorry, the context here is really long)

I met my husband (28m) as freshmen in college. We were both 19 and in nursing school, & we were very close. We studied together every day and went to frat parties and flirted occasionally and did all the things stupid college kids do. He helped me through several really awful depressive spells, and I nursed him after a car accident and his subsequent painkiller addiction.

After we graduated, we started dating. Then I switched to an acting career and moved several states away for job opportunities, so we did long distance. Then we had to keep doing long distance because of the pandemic. During this time, he got fired, so he moved in with his two best friends to save on rent. Similarly, a lot of people in my apartment building were getting COVID, so I blew all of my savings on a tiny, shitty little loft to be isolated. In hindsight, it was a terrible decision.

When quarantine ended, he drove out to propose to me. I was shocked, but I said yes. We decided that we would have to keep living separately and have a long engagement for financial reasons and because of my job. He went back home, and like a week later, I stopped hearing from him. (I later found out that he had asked one of his roommates to let me know what was going on.)

I found out from his other roommate that he had adopted his sister's newborn son. She was and still is in a vicious cycle of addiction, going in and out of jail and rehab, and she was just in no place to care for a child. I understand why he adopted his nephew, but it really threw a wrench in my life plans. I had always planned on being child-free. I'm not good with children. Anyway, my fiance got a job as a 911 operator and settled into life as a parent, and I found some semblance of stability in my acting career. I also opened a tattoo parlor out of my loft and got a side gig as a content creator, all while driving out to my fiance's every other weekend to see him and help him out with life and his kid and plan our wedding.

We got married this December in his state over his Christmas break. My semi-estranged, formerly abusive parents came. Apparently, they didn't know he had a kid (who's now 2), even though I'm pretty sure I've told them. Ever since, because I'm still living in my loft, they've been messaging me non-stop about my "neglecting my poor baby" and "being a terrible mother".

I do not feel that this child is mine. I only see him every other weekend, and while I do love him and care about him, I don't play a parental role in his life. I have no biological or adoptive relationship to him-I'm his stepmom at best and his uncle's long-distance wife at worst. Also, this is not a child that is uncared for. He is raised and provided for very well by my husband, his extended family, and the roommates. So, AITA for not abandoning my busy life to act like this kid's stepmom?

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wibta?

My friend is writing and posting a fic on ao3. They requested irl friends not read it (I am an irl friend) but I want to show them support with their fic (it isn't super popular and they get really excited about kudos and comments) wibta if I secretly read and commented on it? (New account, never tell them IRL it was me)

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AITA for trying to get my sister to change her username on a fanfic website?

I, (15, he/they) have been on this shitty fanfic site for years. I don't use it much but it's semi-popular. My sister, (22, she/her) was also on it but for less time than I was. I recently checked her profile since she followed me and realized that her username had her FIRST INITIAL, our LAST NAME, and her BIRTHDAY.

I don't think it goes without saying that I was HORRIFIED. This girl graduated a community college with a degree in nursing (I think????) and our dad works in cyber security and she doesn't know basic online safety???

I put a post on her account basically saying "Hey can you PLEASE change your username??? I really don't want us to get doxxed" and then one of her fans (I'm assuming) replied saying "don't be mean" and that "everybody is fine with it"

I could maybe understand where they're coming from if I was being demanding? But I wasn't trying to be rude at all with the message. DMs were removed from the website and my sister never gives a shit if I text her or if I talk to her in private.

My sister even ranted to me about how we "have to be nice online because you can get banned for being RUDE." Despite how I don't think I was rude? Maybe I was. I'm not great with tone.

So. Uh. AITA for that??

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AITA for refusing to stop my pet roaches from sleeping in my roomates socks?

So me and my roomate (let’s call her D) recently got in a bit of a fight over my pet roaches and their nap spots, I recently moved in with D and her little brother (L) and I brought my large multitude of pet roaches with me. At first the roaches were home sick having moved so suddenly however they finally warmed up to the place and had found their favorite beds. The problem being that their favorite beds were D’s socks, she informed me about them sleeping in her socks and asking me to tell them to stop. The thing is, I love my roach babies, I wasn’t gonna deny them the joy of a good nap, besides D always wears fuzzy socks that seem really comfy so I understand my roach babies. 

Anyway, AITA?

TLDR: they are comfy socks your honor