#aitah

[serstolas]

I'm sure it's been done before. This is just my stab at if Illario Dellamorte wrote an AITA post

AITA for trying to help my cousin leave the family business?

I (M34) and my cousin L (M35) have worked for the family business run by my grandmother C (F70) for our entire adult lives. C took us in as children after our parents were killed and began training us to join the family business very young. C was very strict and used harsh corporal punishment and withholding necessities when we did not meet her expectations.

C always favorited L to take over the family business. L was happy working for the family business but never wanted to be the boss.

I thought I would help L by hiring someone to give him an excuse to go on a permanent hiatus from the family business. The plan was for C to then hand the reins of business to me but instead C was not happy about this and kept trying to get L to come home.

Unfortunately my former associate was more hurtful than helpful and left L with some personal demons. C hired a family friend, R, to convince L to come home for a bit then take a consulting contract with R.

I convinced C she needed to take a break.

L decided to confront my former associate but I intervened so she couldn't hurt him. I tried to convince R that L really needed to stay away from the family business for his own mental health. Instead R and L accused me of trying to sabotage L and C and C decided to retire and make L the head of the company. It was revealed L and R are romantically involved. L now has R helping him with the family business and I've been cut out.

All I wanted to do was help L and give C a break. So AITA?

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Aita for Calling out my "friends" preditorty behavior?

I (m 20) found out my friend (m 20) was dating someone (m 18) too young for them. You might be thinking "18 isn't bad thats an adult" but 18 is still a TEEN and this person is a whole grown 20 year old, just because something is legal it doesn't make it morally correct. So I called him out in front of some friends and explained how gross it is to be with a literal teenager at his grown age. His friends have mixed opinions but a few are treating me like an asshole.

[theepoetspoem]

Am i the asshole?

Me and a coworker have been very flirtatious at work, during breaks and even when seeing each other out of work for a few months now.

Yesterday we were on our lunch and she was sitting between my legs rubbing up and down my leg scrolling on her phone while we talked and casually mentioned oh hey i asked out one of the new guys we hired and been dating them for a week now.

I proceed to not say a word. Stand up pack up my food and go sit in my car. For the rest of that shift and todays they kept following me around asking me why I'm mad and won't talk to them.

Little back story i vented to them month and months ago that i was kinda scared by dating because my ex cheated on me with someone that was a "friend"

So her just casually saying that too me while rubbing my leg and stuff just set me off and upset me. Its not fair to me or to this new guy. And I'm tempted to tell him what she's been doing since she said they been together a week now.

So let me get this straight

You've been flirty and touchy for months

You two are not in a relationship

Last week you told her you're scared of the idea of dating

This week she tells you she is dating someone else

Now you're upset and want to tell the other dude?

Yes. You're the asshole.

If you wanted to be monogamous, you should have voiced that. Otherwise, dating is dating. It's engaging with people to see if you'd make a good match for a couple. There is nothing wrong with her doing that especially if you've been going on for months like this and won't commit to her or ask her to be your gf. She's already given you months worth of her time and you only NOW want all of her attention but she's giving it to someone else.

Maybe that guy is ready to date and be in a relationship. You already told her you're scared to.

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[zackprincebooks]

AITA for not proposing?

I [120 M] have been dating my girlfriend [80 F] for about two years. I know that’s not a very long time for elves, but I’m already tired of her. She’s super clingy and naive; her brother [95 M] raised her and I think he sheltered her waaaay too much. I’ve been brushing her off whenever she asks for dates, but we’re also contracted adventurers in the same traveling party, so it’s really hard to avoid her. But my party members have been backing me up, and she doesn’t seem to get the hint. 

We got to stay in a palace during our last job, and I had the privilege of meeting one of the king’s daughters [25 F]. She’s everything I’ve ever wanted: beautiful, rich, and titled. We got on really well in the week I stayed in the palace, but I’m worried that with all of her suitors, I’ll get elbowed out. So I told my party that we needed some money (not TECHNICALLY a lie,) and we went into the mountains to raid a dragon’s hoard. 

This dragon [2,300] is apparently super important? I guess he killed a lichwyrm three hundred years ago or something and put a huge crater in the ground that became a lake. He lives on the lakeshore in this big fortress so we swam across the lake, broke into his hoard, and took some of his gold. I found the perfect diamond ring for the princess and took it back with me.

But the other night I celebrated a little too hard with the mead and I blabbed about my plan to my friends. While they were super cool with it as long as we could split the loot (and I only really wanted the ring,) my girlfriend was really mad about it for some reason? I guess she’s been after me for a ring for a while, even though we’ve only been dating for two years. 

We had an argument and I thought we made up okay, but this morning the hoard is just GONE. She took everything, and she took it BACK to the dragon! Now she’s sworn to a decade in his service and he even put a collar on her that controls her magic so she can’t run away. And she’s just okay with this? I’m convinced they’re fucking.

My friends are on my side, but the princess got super mad at me when I came back without a ring. Am I the asshole? 

[pellowinksx]

AITA? manifesting my dream body lowkey backfired lol. (tw, vent, mention of ED)

No, actually trigger warning, Idk if any of my oomfs will be upset by the mention of weight, BMI, calories, and eating disorders. I'm super sorry if you will get triggered, so I recommend not scrolling and clicking keep reading.

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This isn't loass advice but more of a personal manifesting experience. But I can't post this on Twitter because that one eating disorder place will jump me, and not on Instagram because I need to be somewhat anonymous, so I need to post this here to know if I'm not going insane.

Okay, Americans are fat. Let's just set that straight, most Americans are fat. Look it up if you disagree with me, but the norm in America is being rather...larger. (Nothing wrong with that, just hear me out)

So Americans will obviously think that a BMI lower than 22-20 is underweight and "disordered," and they don't believe anyone is naturally skinny, and if they say they are, they're just lying for attention, and they either edit their photos or have anorexia.

So what's the reason why I'm saying all this? Well I am naturally thin and on top of that I manifested thinner thighs and a flat stomach basically I was irl skinny (around 95-80 lbs throughout my life) and then I manifested being "online skinny" (I'm 79 lbs now) before you jump me and say "pink you're so malnourished!!???" well for my age Its still fine/healthy for me to be thinner, and I'm short as hell (4'11)

(I put private after screenshotting for security reasons obv)

Ok, so after I gave y'all context, let me actually tell you why l'm saying this. So my friend's friend said that "skinny girls are either anorexic bitches or their moms don't feed them at home." And that really rubbed me the wrong way. First of all, she said that out of pure jealousy because she's considered the "fat friend" all the time, and she's always venting to me and my other friend about how she wishes she were skinnier. I got offended by her comment because even if I didn't manifest, I still would be naturally thin. So kind of like my old self got triggered. So I had a disagreement with her, and I said something along the lines of like "I mean... naturally skinny people exist, you're just influenced by 'body positivity' that just tells you being overweight is the norm." And she got upset at me and called me a skeleton and a photoshop warrior 😓😓 so I stopped talking to her because I hate arguing and insulting ppl (face to face btw, don't jump me Ik how I act on here) I was thinking about it all day and am I the asshole?

a point based simplized explaination of the argument if you didn't understand that very weird diary entry ass paragraph.

my side;

I think the body positivity movement made skinny shaming normalized.

being bmi 16 or 17 is okay as long as you don't starve or eat under 1000-1500 calories

Naturally skinny people actually exist, while being healthy

there is a difference between underweight and skinny. (If your BMI says healthy, then its ok!)

her side;

Skinny people are just anorexics who want to show off

Being overweight or having a BMI of 20-25 is better and healthier than being thin (I personally think BMI 20 is thin, but ok)

I'm a lying ass bitch

I'm fatphobic

[vanarchistx8]

Alright I'm gonna talk about my Minecraft Movie experience. I just want to discuss things respectfully with others, and I am not trying to shit on the movie. I don't believe every movie that comes out has to be this serious cinematic masterpiece and it pisses me off when critics try to rate comedies on the same basis as regular movies. That being said... I still did not enjoy it for the most part. There were some funny parts but in general it just wasn't enough. I also did not enjoy the theater experience as a whole.

I've seen many people say things like "you shouldnt have gone to see the movie expecting it to be good or to have a quiet childless experience". I assure you I absolutely did NOT go in there expecting that. I was however, expecting the movie to be entertaining at least. And it just wasn't for me? And I am NOT a hard to impress. "The movie is made for 10 year olds" has never ever stopped me from loving it. Kids movies are my thing. I hate seeing more mature movies because I don't enjoy the themes. I just wanna go to a movie and have a silly little time and laugh. And I actually enjoy doing this in a theater full of kids. I love hearing the laughter. But this time... Oh God this time... I was not prepared. I got almost none of that silly fun time. I laughed maybe like twice? It was a dumb and bad movie, but not in the way that I love. And I have no idea how or why? I love Jack Black and all his Jack Black -isms and silly songs. But this whole movie just felt forced? It didn't feel like it was made by someone who loved Minecraft (I have been playing for 11-12 years so no one can accuse me of only playing it recently).

I feel like MAYBE I could have liked it more, if these teenagers I'm my theater didn't ruin every second of it. I will preface the rest of what I have to say by stating that I love theater experiences where people clap and cheer and have a good time. I went to see the first Tobey Maguire Spider-Man when it re-released last year at AMC and oh my God that was so much fun. Cheering the actors names, saying the meme lines in unison, and standing ovation at the end was a magical experience. But the difference there was, that theater knew when to Shut The Fuck Up. When I went to see Minecraft I could not even hear half the lines being said. I didn't even get a chance to find anything funny because the kids were too busy yelling and trying to make each other laugh and talking through the whole movie. It felt like a trend, a joke. And it probably was. I don't have TikTok so I have/had no idea how it was going to be treated. Like they didn't even actually want to watch the movie? Cheering at the beginning: excellent. Cheering and screaming at each other so long that I couldn't even hear the first few lines of the movie: ass. Cheering for Jack Black and Jason: yes. Not knowing when to stop so we can all hear the dialogue: wtf? Cheering at memes like "chicken jockey" "flint and steel" and "loaf": totally fine with that, I didn't get it at the time, but found out after the movie that it was a meme, I get it. But, screaming and not knowing when to stop after every line JB said got really really fucking old. I dead ass COULD NOT HEAR most of the movie. I am one of those people that can't focus on a movie if someone is talking. Also there were two dipshit kids that just kept loudly making comments the whole time, competing, trying to get the theater to laugh.

I've seen a comment that said if I wanted to be able to hear the movie, I should have waited until it came out on streaming and watched it at home. But like... Why is that? Why is that supposed to be what I should have known? Besides, I LOVE the theater. I LOVE theaters with people who like to clap and cheer, and that is what I wanted and hoped for on this one. But to just straight up not be able to hear most of it really affected my ability to properly rate this movie. How can I enjoy the memes and the jack black songs if the theater members don't even give me a chance to hear them? How can I have a silly little time if I can't HEAR the movie? My biggest thing is just that MY theater didn't know when to STOP. The young couple on my right left halfway through, and the father and son beside me looked extremely agitated as well. There was a MAN WITH A GLITTER BEARD in my theater, and I didn't even get to enjoy that because I wanted to leave so bad. I'm unfortunately going to have to watch it again at home at some point.

I have never, in my 27 years of living, wanted to leave a movie mid-way. I almost did several times. Because it wasn't entertaining enough for me, and maybe it would have been if the audience wasn't just... Too much. Did anyone else have a similar experience? Or an experience that was a little closer to what I wanted, with cheering but stopping so that we could hear the lines? Again, I don't want to argue with people, I just want to know if y'all get where I'm coming from here?

[randomfandom-3]

aitah for burying a baby alive

[mcyt-aitah]

Am I the asshole for abandoning my younger brother? So I (F) and my brother (M) have both been rulers of our respective kingdoms for many years. (He’s been the leader of the swamp and I’ve been the ruler of the ocean) We’ve had some pretty close trade relationships due to how we’re both on water. He was even the best man at my wedding, and me, him, and my husband are all in this alliance with a few others.

This all came to a head a few days ago, my axolotls were telling me that it was my birthday, so I asked around what a “birthday” was, and questioned others if they could hear my axolotls, and I finally reached my Codish ally. Before I could even speak, he wished me a happy birthday. I had no idea how he knew that it was my birthday, so I asked him. He told me the cod told him.

This was very confusing, as no one else but me could understand the sealife. I left for a while, returning to my empire and finding a few books that heavily hinted that I was his older sibling. I called him over to my empire, and he had a book himself that he forgot in his chests. Reading them all out told us that we were both siblings. I had abandoned him when he was very young to figure out how to defeat our enemies and forgot who I was.

[art3mis-twt]

I still ship them tho

[certifiedstrawberryblonde]

Just found my ex gf on tumblr oh my god should I follow for the plot yes or no

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Am I (28f) the ah for not caring for my husband's child? (Sorry, the context here is really long)

I met my husband (28m) as freshmen in college. We were both 19 and in nursing school, & we were very close. We studied together every day and went to frat parties and flirted occasionally and did all the things stupid college kids do. He helped me through several really awful depressive spells, and I nursed him after a car accident and his subsequent painkiller addiction.

After we graduated, we started dating. Then I switched to an acting career and moved several states away for job opportunities, so we did long distance. Then we had to keep doing long distance because of the pandemic. During this time, he got fired, so he moved in with his two best friends to save on rent. Similarly, a lot of people in my apartment building were getting COVID, so I blew all of my savings on a tiny, shitty little loft to be isolated. In hindsight, it was a terrible decision.

When quarantine ended, he drove out to propose to me. I was shocked, but I said yes. We decided that we would have to keep living separately and have a long engagement for financial reasons and because of my job. He went back home, and like a week later, I stopped hearing from him. (I later found out that he had asked one of his roommates to let me know what was going on.)

I found out from his other roommate that he had adopted his sister's newborn son. She was and still is in a vicious cycle of addiction, going in and out of jail and rehab, and she was just in no place to care for a child. I understand why he adopted his nephew, but it really threw a wrench in my life plans. I had always planned on being child-free. I'm not good with children. Anyway, my fiance got a job as a 911 operator and settled into life as a parent, and I found some semblance of stability in my acting career. I also opened a tattoo parlor out of my loft and got a side gig as a content creator, all while driving out to my fiance's every other weekend to see him and help him out with life and his kid and plan our wedding.

We got married this December in his state over his Christmas break. My semi-estranged, formerly abusive parents came. Apparently, they didn't know he had a kid (who's now 2), even though I'm pretty sure I've told them. Ever since, because I'm still living in my loft, they've been messaging me non-stop about my "neglecting my poor baby" and "being a terrible mother".

I do not feel that this child is mine. I only see him every other weekend, and while I do love him and care about him, I don't play a parental role in his life. I have no biological or adoptive relationship to him-I'm his stepmom at best and his uncle's long-distance wife at worst. Also, this is not a child that is uncared for. He is raised and provided for very well by my husband, his extended family, and the roommates. So, AITA for not abandoning my busy life to act like this kid's stepmom?

[i-had-a-bad-feeling]

AITA

aita for being pissed at my family today?

Last night I had a rough game and was frustrated (yes I cried a little). I came home, showered, and went right to bed (10:30 pm) because I’m currently sick/injured and I PLAYED sick/injured

I wake up this morning (11:00 am), only feeling a little better, to find that my little brother gets to go spend the day with the cousin im most excited to see at the family function tmr so I’m mad

I go through my day (sick) and I do chores and help clean up meals/snacks.

I wake up from a nap and do the dishes, then my mom gets home and starts scolding for smth ab last night, and then gets mad when I have a JOKING attitude.

AITA here??? For being pissed that everything I do is wrong apparently??

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[thessidy]

Anyone have advice for dealing w a rebellious protagonist? I’ve tried to wrangle her, explain to her that she needs to betray her friends, needs to go down that dark path, etc etc to serve the themes of the book. She just doesn’t get it. She insists it’s not in her character, insists she would be more logical or think things through a bit better. But at this point I’m too far in; I can’t just rewrite the entire 3rd act. What do I do?

[indig0-constellations]

AITAH for disliking my friends boyfriend because he said Supernatural fell off when Castiel was introduced in season 4? For context-