#aitah

[fictionkin-am-i-the-asshole]

Hello fictionfolk of Tumblr!

This account is for you to submit your canon dramas and the community will decide if you are or not the asshole for your actions in the specific canon!

Please note that we do not accept AITAH submissions regarding THIS life. If you want that, go to Reddit's r/AITAH.

Although this blog has "fictionkin" in the title, copinglinks, fictionhearted, fictives, and others alike can submit! Just specifically that you are one of those otherwise it'll just be automatically tagged as fictionkin.

Rules:

If you are a submitter, please sign off with who you are and what your source is so it can be tagged appropriately

If you are a determinator, please do not attack the submitter, just judge the actions and continue on.

That's it. Just those two rules.

Poll options:

YTA - you're the asshole

NTA - not the asshole

ESH - everyone sucks here

NAH - no assholes here

NMI - need more information

[theepoetspoem]

Am i the asshole?

Me and a coworker have been very flirtatious at work, during breaks and even when seeing each other out of work for a few months now.

Yesterday we were on our lunch and she was sitting between my legs rubbing up and down my leg scrolling on her phone while we talked and casually mentioned oh hey i asked out one of the new guys we hired and been dating them for a week now.

I proceed to not say a word. Stand up pack up my food and go sit in my car. For the rest of that shift and todays they kept following me around asking me why I'm mad and won't talk to them.

Little back story i vented to them month and months ago that i was kinda scared by dating because my ex cheated on me with someone that was a "friend"

So her just casually saying that too me while rubbing my leg and stuff just set me off and upset me. Its not fair to me or to this new guy. And I'm tempted to tell him what she's been doing since she said they been together a week now.

So let me get this straight

You've been flirty and touchy for months

You two are not in a relationship

Last week you told her you're scared of the idea of dating

This week she tells you she is dating someone else

Now you're upset and want to tell the other dude?

Yes. You're the asshole.

If you wanted to be monogamous, you should have voiced that. Otherwise, dating is dating. It's engaging with people to see if you'd make a good match for a couple. There is nothing wrong with her doing that especially if you've been going on for months like this and won't commit to her or ask her to be your gf. She's already given you months worth of her time and you only NOW want all of her attention but she's giving it to someone else.

Maybe that guy is ready to date and be in a relationship. You already told her you're scared to.

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[aita-polls]

aita for still liking the sandman comics?

I (18f) got into the sandman comics at a very dark time in my life. I was unable to leave my bed due to paralyzing anxiety, I thought everything was an omen of my impending doom and I was convinced this was how I was going to die. I couldn't even go into the kitchen in my own home without almost fainting. My mind was a mess of repetitive and inescapable thoughts of horrific events playing out in my mind at all times. My father suggested I read comic books as a way to get my mind off of everything. They are easily accessible online, and I wouldn't have to go out and buy any physical copies. I am an artist, I am planning a major in art, and I was instantly drawn to the sandman comics for their unique visual style. The whimsical and dreamlike first volume got me hooked, it was a perfect escape from my mental state. I was introduced to sandman's depiction of death and something changed in me. She was friendly and kind, she took all of the souls with care. As someone who thought she was literally about to die, this comforted me and I grew incredibly attached to her. I even read sandman while I was waiting in the ER to be assessed for unrelated horrible back pain.

I was never privy to who Neil gaiman was as a person. I had no idea what he was like, I never sought out interviews to learn more about him, he was just letters on the cover of a book to me. The only other book I had read by him was Coraline. I was essentially oblivious to what he looked like and what his beliefs were until the big break last summer with the frankly nightmare inducing situations he put all those women through.

There is a lot of nuance to me about separating the art from the artist. On one hand, there are cases in which it is nearly impossible due to how prevalently the authors own beliefs or themselves feature in their art, especially if the art is autobiographical. On the other hand, there is art that is so far removed from the artist as a person where it is easier.

I have been told that the character morphius is very similar to how neil wanted himself to be depicted, but as I mentioned earlier I knew almost nothing about him going into sandman and I don't have that association. I never monetarily supported him, my Coraline copy was a gift, and I read all of his comics online for free through PDFs. This is where the cognitive dissonance really starts hitting for me. He's still alive unlike authors like Lovecraft. I know this is an incredibly selfish thing to worry about considering what he did to the women who survived him. I'm really sorry in advance.

[randomfandom-3]

aitah for burying a baby alive

[i-had-a-bad-feeling]

AITA

aita for being pissed at my family today?

Last night I had a rough game and was frustrated (yes I cried a little). I came home, showered, and went right to bed (10:30 pm) because I’m currently sick/injured and I PLAYED sick/injured

I wake up this morning (11:00 am), only feeling a little better, to find that my little brother gets to go spend the day with the cousin im most excited to see at the family function tmr so I’m mad

I go through my day (sick) and I do chores and help clean up meals/snacks.

I wake up from a nap and do the dishes, then my mom gets home and starts scolding for smth ab last night, and then gets mad when I have a JOKING attitude.

AITA here??? For being pissed that everything I do is wrong apparently??

[txxanna]

people are telling me that my friends ex is currently obsessed with me (he is lowkey cute?) WHAT do i do with this information?? hello??

the friend in question says she literally doesn’t care if he’d date me but it is all so weird and i’m confused

also how do i process that someone is obsessing over me, that sounds so pick me but its what people close to him are telling me (and now that i know its so obvious to me as well)

i desperately need someones opinion because what

[thessidy]

Anyone have advice for dealing w a rebellious protagonist? I’ve tried to wrangle her, explain to her that she needs to betray her friends, needs to go down that dark path, etc etc to serve the themes of the book. She just doesn’t get it. She insists it’s not in her character, insists she would be more logical or think things through a bit better. But at this point I’m too far in; I can’t just rewrite the entire 3rd act. What do I do?

[indig0-constellations]

AITAH for disliking my friends boyfriend because he said Supernatural fell off when Castiel was introduced in season 4? For context-

[certifiedstrawberryblonde]

Just found my ex gf on tumblr oh my god should I follow for the plot yes or no

[fictionkin-am-i-the-asshole]

Am I the asshole for playing dumb when I knew a friend/acquaintance had a crush on me?

Context: I'm Hirose Aiki and my friend is Nakamura Okuto. Yes, the one from "Go for it, [name]!" art memes.

He'd been pretty friendly and I liked him, but mostly in a platonic way.

I thought he only liked me for my surface traits—which isn't necessarily true, just me assuming! But that assumption is why I played dumb about his intentions.

For even more context, we were two highschool boys in a setting where queerness is kept repressed.

[oh-to-be-a-murderer]

//ooc//

Guys story time!

AITAH for keeping in contact with my best friend when his ex - girlfriend who was a general friend of mine told me not to?

So i had been friends with this girl for around a year who ill call S, she and I went to the same maths class before I stopped going there and we have kept contact since. My other guy friend, who ill call R, and I know each other for about 9-10 months barely a year and he's a pretty chill guy, never had any scandles or anything. Thing is, S, me and R, go to the same maths class and at one point they both figured they liked each other. He asked for her number from me and I pushed it off thinking he was trying to mess with her. He's a bit of a prankster and prank calls people for no reason. After a few days, she calls me and tells me that they're dating, I had class with him that day and I went to class and he informed me separately as well. As soon as I heard I knew they wouldn't last a month. I told him to his face, that she wasn't worth him. I told him he deserved better because I knew all the scandals S had but he was rigid. Almost 2 weeks later S calls me crying, saying R broke up with her, I told her it was okay and that the relationship wasn't worth being in. Then I called R up and asked why he did so. He gave me a damn long list of why she was a red flag and honestly none of them were wrong but I did warn him beforehand and he just threw everything away. Now after S heard that I talked to him she called me up and told me not to talk to him. I straight up told her that he was also a friend but she insisted that in their breakup I had to be on her side, which I from the beginning wasn't! Now she won't keep contact with me and backbites about me AITAH?

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[aita-polls]

WIBTA?

God this is a shitfest. 🏊‍♂️🦠 emojis to find this easier.

So I (20f) have a terminal disease and a bit less than a year left. Whatever. I’ve come to terms.

But there’s a whole shitfest, basically close member of my family (m50 let’s call him G) did a bunch of shifty stuff (which we found out was as a result of several undiagnosed mental illnesses) and his wife (M) left him, and got a restraining order. And then two more after the first one expired. Her father, (B) basically controls her, and we’re sure he’s behind this.

I’m not going ti get into the shitty stuff, because this post would be a mile long. But, the long and short of it

B and M:

Took over G’s successful business position and shut down the branch of the company, but kept the money (and is currently holding the money hostage through legal red tape) and made more on the side (illegal)

Got several restraining orders (2/3 of which were dismissed for lack of evidence, one is still under investigation), which made G be arrested in public twice and at home once

M took her and G’s two year old (at the time) daughter (A) and got a restraining order for them both on G (A is now 12 and has had incredibly limited contact with her father for her whole life)

Used the police system to confiscate G’s phone and passport because he’s considered a flight risk and apparently sent M messages asking to see A, which were taken as threats

(And because of no phone or passport, G can’t access any of his healthcare info (fuck the healthcare system, honestly) has no diagnoses or ways to get help. We’ve tried.)

After the second RO, B went to ‘talk’ to G (he still won’t say what they talked about but we’re fairly sure B tried to goad him into suicide)

It’s a shitshow. And it’s really not what I fucking need right now.

Here’s where I could be TA.

Since I’m terminal, I’m making up a will.

Would I be TA if I left a letter to M and B, pretty much just calling them out on all their shit (because this has gone on for nearly ten fucking years) and telling them to go fuck themselves and give G back his money and let him see his daughter?

The letter would probably go something like this:

Dear M and B.

What the fuck do you think you’re doing. Who gave you the right to ruin G’s life? And why are you so fucking determined to do it? Because we all know he never hurt M or A. He’d sooner die.

Was stealing his life’s work not enough? Was shattering his whole entire well-being, his whole sense of who he is, not enough? Well I hope this is enough. I hope you both join me in the grave soon enough, because I can’t wait to see what Hell has in store for you.

A is old enough to know the truth about her father. About who started this whole shit show. She deserves to see her father, her family. She deserved to know me. But it’s too late for that now, I guess.

For all the suffering you’ve caused, with your ten year rampage. For every time you’ve ‘talked’ to G, for every restraining order that was built on bullshit. I hope you get your heads out of your asses long enough to see your palace burn before you. And I hope it hurts.

-

Sorry this is so long and rambling, I’m on a lot of painkillers atm.

TLDR: WIBTA for leaving an abusive letter to people who’ve ruined someone close to me s life in my will?

(I know this sounds fake but istg it’s real, and it’s a fucking shit show.)

[ohoddsleepydood]

I know I should’ve put this on Reddit but I cannot currently log in for some reason:

Am I the asshole for slapping my step-dad?

WARNING: Substance use, Abuse and Self Harm etc

A little backstory;

My entire life I’ve had to deal with mental illness, specifically Bipolar disorder. And when you’re not diagnosed as a child everyone treats you like it’s all your fault. I don’t completely blame me, I was a total little shit and had many breakdowns in which I would be physically violent, but you have to remember, I WAS a child. I had reason to act this way, I didn’t understand my brain and no one else did either.

I was in special ed classes when I was in elementary school and I didn’t even have autism. But I was still very neurodivergent. I’ve had to go through a lot of emotional abuse and gaslighting from my mother and alcoholism from both of my dads. And I don’t blame my dads because my stepdad also deals with depression and my bio dad has a LOT of trauma and is in the Navy.

I finally got diagnosed when I was 11 and started the search for a right therapist and the right meds. I cycled through a few until highschool when I just used the schools therapist. Which I was lucky they had. I learned that mood stabilizers make me feel extremely numb and not to take a very high dose of them. But even after getting diagnosed I was still treated like I was the problem.

I progressed a lot through out the years but I was still struggling with suicidal thoughts and tendencies including hurting myself frequently. It got so bad that during middleschool I literally BEGGED my parents to take me to a mental hospital and they consulted my therapist which said I was fine when I obviously wasn’t.

This isn’t mentioning that I was a very busy child with a lot of extracurriculars that I was forced to continue in even when I asked to be taken out since they were taking a toll on me.

Fast-forwarding to present day:

Last year at the end of the school year I had to stop my at the time boyfriend from killing himself which was a MAJOR strain on my mental and physical health. I began spiraling mentally, btw MORE than I was before when I was dealing with a lot of existential dread even when I was in active therapy and on meds.

So I started using a LOT to cope and hurting myself. I was using mostly edibles and couldn’t even count on my friends to stay with me all of the time bc it was finals week, so I was mostly alone in this state. At one point I went to an older friends’ house and they gave me a bong which I’ve never had before and it led me to nosedive into psychosis.

After which I ended up being taken to an in town psych ward of sorts which was an awful experience given I had to educate them even when I was in psychosis bc none of their methods were up to date. Because of friends influence and my state I at the time thought I had DID and talked to myself in a messy notebook. I ended up leaving that place against medical advice and had a friend drive me back to campus.

I did this because I wanted to be with friends which was an awful idea since they were very unreliable and all around didn’t spend much time with me when I needed it most.

I was MIA for a bit bc i didn’t have a phone charger and couldn’t contact my family. Eventually I got a wellness check on me and I got escorted to the actual hospital by the police, I was in and out of consciousness and paranoid as hell. When the cop asked what I was on I cried and told her edibles, she was very calm and said that that wasn’t illegal so I was fine.

I went into the mental ward of the hospital and was a fucking ray of sunshine bc I wasn’t medicated and very out of my head. I was even doing pushups in my room. I didn’t have any cloths with me that I could wear until my parents brought me some. While I was there my parents moved me out of my dorm even though I really didn’t want them to. I don’t blame them, they didn’t know when I was going to be out of the hospital and it was the last week of school.

When I got out I was more depressed because I was coming off of a high and on a LOT of antipsychotics and mood stabilizer so I was sleeping all the time.

Eventually I ended up going to ANOTHER institution after IOP wasn’t working for me. I won’t go into much detail for the others but I ended up going to 5-6 different mental hospitals/institutions after many relapses and attempts. When I finally finished IOP I tried to kms again this time with something more lethal:bleach and a Dremel. That was the final straw and I ended up going to a rehab in Florida which btw I ended up having to spend my life savings on.

Soooo ever since I got back my parents have been threatening to kick me out (party bc I relapsed, yes ik that’s bad but I’ve been clean for over a month now from using and self harm) And they’ve been acting like nothing has changed which is a fucking lie. The only excuse they have is that when I lost my job my sleep schedule was fucked up bc I didn’t have anything else to do.

Last week I was manic asf bc of stress and coming off of rexulti bc my insurance wouldn’t approve it and trintellix bc it ended up being 400$. So I was awake for 2 days straight and wasn’t even doing anything wrong, I was CLEANING and my mom came in and told me to leave.

So during last week I’ve been getting my things from my house and not a single time would they help me take it back to my dorm, I always had to have a friend or family do it. Last night I got most of my things packed up except for some clothes I forgot and they started yelling at me bc apparently I was taking too long.

I was having an argument with my mom and my stepdad stepped in and started yelling at me too and tried grabbing my things including my suitcase which was OPEN. So obviously I tried to get it back from him and my mom was trying to separate us and he just kept throwing insults at me and I threatened to slap him if he didn’t stop and he said “do it”. So I fucking did.

I ended up breaking his glasses which left my hand with a few cuts and my mom had to hold him back from going after me. I was told to gather my things and I tried to as quickly as I could but I’ve been living there my whole life so obviously it took me a while. During which I was calling out my mother and step-father.

One thing I recalled repeating my mother saying was “We don’t owe you shit and you owe us everything” and ofc she denied it. She’s also many times said that she’s done so much for me and I should be thankful when most of it was the bare minimum except for extracurricular activities which I am grateful for and I’ve expressed such many times.

I also called out to my stepdad which idk if he heard or not, “remember when you were drunk and you punched me in my stomach when I was a CHILD?!”

I feel so bad for my 10 year old sister to have to experience this. Next month I plan to transfer the title of my car; which btw was only in my moms name for insurance reasons, and get the rest of my things and then I don’t plan to talk to them ever again if I can help it. Thank GOD my sister has messenger kids on her tablet so I’m not completely cut off from her.

So…. Am I the asshole?

[professor-doc-emeritus]

There's a lot of reddit refugees/AI bot accounts here and on other websites that are spreading AITA posts around, but not sharing the required-reading post that's necessary if you want to engage with that content without becoming a goblin