#assigned female at birth

[as-ter-oid]

Now seeking trans men & transmascs for a study on chronic pelvic pain

I (they/them, nb) am NOW RECRUITING for a research study! - Transgender Men & Transmasculine Individuals (assigned female at birth, but identify as a gender identity other than "woman") who experience chronic pelvic pain. Must be 18 years or older, fluent in English, and live in the US. Your answers are anonymous.

Chronic pelvic pain is a pain that is present in the lower abdomen or pelvis that has been present for 6 or more weeks. Chronic pelvic pain may be experienced more frequently by transgender men, transmasculine, or non-cisgender women than cisgender women, yet it is understudied. Because it is understudied, clinicians may not know how to best treat chronic pelvic pain when the patient is transmasculine. The cause of this pain is also generally unknown, as are the factors that may make it better or worse for a patient. Therefore, this study hopes to better understand what chronic pelvic pain is like for transgender men and transmasculine people, and how they prefer their care is approached when they seek medical care for chronic pelvic pain.

Participation in this one-time study is expected to take about 30 minutes of your time. There is a link for a raffle.

For more information and/or to start the survey, click here: https://qualtrics.uvm.edu/jfe/form/SV_e2qiU6qSL6YYsd0

[slutwheels]

As much as there is to love about the journey, as much euphoria as I will feel when I reach each step of my transition... I wish it wasn't like this. I really wanna be a cis girl. I wanna love my body the way it is and not feel like everything I was born with that doesn't align with my gender is causing me pain and has no permanent worth. I wanna wear modest clothes and veils, even niquabs, despite being christian; and I also wanna wear revealing, fun clothes too at home or with other girls. I wanna call myself girl's girl, just a silly girl, everything girly, align myself with unnecessary piled up aesthetic terms and never worry if my makeup enhances feminine features instead of looking cool. I would still wear a binder from time to time because I find flat chests gorgeous and fitting for me, but I wish I had a choice. To wear fun, lacey underwear or grandma styled panties. I wanna try every hairstyle without worrying if it makes me look less masculine.

I wanna be a lesbian. To be attracted to women the way women are - I mean, that's what I feel like anyway, but many straight girls are only into cis guys, and I am absolutely bewitched by the way lesbians dress. The boldness, the colour, the diversity, damn. But they're not into me, obviously. So it's usually pan/bi girls I have a chance with. And you know what, for some reason they all turn out to be lesbian through me. I... that kinda hurts. I recognize that before hormones, it's confusing, they know cognitively that I'm a guy, but their subconscious sees the feminine traits in me. I don't blame them for the whole breaking up thing - I feel so sad that for some people, I still can look like "maybe-a-girl" despite them not having power over it.

I absolutely love my looks, still. I have a conventionally attractive face and since I'm blessed with a flat chest that I've bound since early age (I think it stunted the growth) I look fine in sports bras. I'm excited about everything I will do in the future to come to my perfect image of myself, but I wish I could be happy without it.

I still wanna wear dresses, high heels, makeup. Tbh my dysphoria isn't about that, it's really the way it looks on me. So, I guess I have that: looking forward to me being a masculine, buff man that wears miniskirts, stripper heels and eyeliner so long I can take off and fly away from my depression.

[wronggalaxy]

I'm genderqueer and AFAB but wish I was AMAB(especially since medical transition isn't a possibility for me) and I find it hilarious when people say "you should be grateful, if you were AMAB you'd have to sign up for the draft"

Hun, I'm disabled in multiple ways, currently have a long term injury, have seeked mental health help, and even outside of my disabilities couldn't pass a fitness test. I couldn't join the military if I wanted to.

[spiritstar477]

I desperately wish I could feel like a woman, be a woman. But instead I’m whatever the fuck I am and I can’t do anything about it

[wingerb17]

Things "The Little Mermaid" taught me as a small kid who grew up afab:

-Find a guy with a dog, they're clearly the best guys out there

-Learn to sing really well to get the cutest boy

-Don't let my dad find out who I'm in love with lest he be destroyed

-Let the royal servants of my crush dote on me when I'm found washed up on the shore; that dress is the cutest

-Electric eels are the absolute worst

-Horses are very large and I'm now afraid of carriages

-Seagulls make great friends to crash a wedding with

-Learning how to steer a ship will help me defeat evil by stabbing a giant sea monster with the pointy bit up front

[le-panicked-frog]

bro being raised and socialised female sucks so bad on another fucking level. i believe my worth is almost entirely defined by my appearance and attractiveness, including my attractiveness to people i am not actively attracted to and to people i am actively not attracted to/ actively do not want to be attracted to me. i genuinely think i'm unlovable half the time and i'm avoiding mirrors because no matter what anyone else tells me i cannot see myself as being pretty enough or attractive enough, and seeing myself in the mirror currently makes me nauseous because i feel so disgusting and unworthy of love. i hate seeing my bare face, i feel so plain and ugly and horrible and i hate that i feel this way, i hate it i hate it i hate it

so

here's your reminder. you are not defined by your appearance, and neither is your worth. you were not put on this earth to be pretty and attractive, and you do not have to earn love. you are worthy of love, because you were always worthy of love, because it isn't something you have to earn. you don't need to be "pretty enough", you are enough all on your own.

you are worthy of love. no matter what you look like.

[ifwebefriends]

Yeah,

Now might be a good time to go to Google Scholar or any database you can get your hands on and download any articles with the terms above that you can and make sure to save it to a USB or hard drive, somewhere offline where they can’t take it from us.

Btw, this is how conservatives keep getting to claim that trans people are a new thing no one has ever heard, because our history and existences have continually been erased or obscured systematically through out history.

The most famous example was 92 years when the Nazis raided the library of the Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, the medical practice where the term transsexual was first coined and the first gender affirming surgery was performed in in 1931.

What did the Nazis do after raiding the library on May 6th, 1933? You may be familiar with these images

It is happening again.

[maggieslighte]

Becoming More Visible in Troubling Times

Today (Monday, March 31, 2025) is International Transgender Day of Visibility. Although it has been an annual event since 2009 observed by the Trans community and supporters, this is the first time I have written about it. At Pride 2024 I’ve “come out” several times in my gender and sexuality journey, but when you’re constantly learning about oneself and other people, that can happen. I’m also…

[kael-writ]

I went to a gynecologist at a LGBT+ center, like specifically LGBT+ care, they asked my gender identity and pronouns, I identified repeatedly as non-binary, and they then proceeded to refer to OB/GYN care as "women's health". So cis women can spare me the ... well I certainly don't want to be so ironic as to call it hysterical... fear-mongering that someday a gynecologist might not refer to a cis woman as a woman. You're fine. You will be fine.

[the-southern-cereal-king]

The father the son and the holy horse

[wronggalaxy]

I hate when people say that I don't need to tell anyone my agab.

A) It's very fucking obvious(oh I wonder what could possibly be the assigned gender of a person with boobs and no bulge who goes by Hannah or Belle around multiple people, especially their transphobic family(I swear if someone says not to expose my deadname—it's MY deadname, I'll tell whoever I want, fuckoff)/sarcasm)

B) My agab is a big part of my person and general life

and

C) I am my agab. I'm also a boy and both and neither and sometimes switch all at the same time.

In conclusion: gender is complicated and stop trying to police the way I talk about mine.

*agab means: assigned gender at birth

[spiritstar477]

okay, the idea that some women grow up without constantly hating being a girl and wishing they were different but not knowing how or why is such a foreign concept to me

like you’re just happy?? the way you are?? being a girl is just cool with you?? what’s that like??

[theflamingnymph]

Ekho Winchester

I had the joy of being able to commission @couriers-mile for one of my Lost in Limbo MC's Ekho! Go check them out, they're awesome to work with!

[frameacloud]

A Masterpost About Long-Acting Reversible Contraceptives (LARCs)

During the upcoming presidency, it is likely that people in the US will lose many options that keep them from getting pregnant (contraceptives). The right-wing Project 2025 is against birth control pills, abortion, emergency contraception, and the government-provided health insurance ("Obamacare," Medicaid, and Medicare) that helps people afford these.

If you or your partner are concerned about the possibility of losing access to those options soon, you can ask your doctor or Planned Parenthood about getting a Long-Acting Reversible Contraceptive (LARC). The two kinds of LARCs are IUDs and the implant. If you get a LARC right now, it can protect you for years, without you having to do anything to maintain it. A LARC isn't permanent, so you can get rid of it if you later decide that you're ready to have a baby.

Hormonal Intrauterine Device: 3, 5, or 8 years of protection, depending on brand

An IUD is a T-shaped object that a nurse or doctor puts into your uterus. It's tiny, just a little more than an inch. The procedure for getting an IUD isn't surgery, it lasts just a few minutes, and it goes much better if you ask for an anti-anxiety medicine and the right type of painkiller.

Hormonal IUDs work because they slowly release progestin. That's the main hormone in birth control pills. Like pills, they can make your periods get lighter or stop, which is helpful for people who need to get rid of cramps and PMS.

Of the brands of them in the US, the FDA currently approves of using Kyleena for up to five years, Liletta for eight, Mirena for eight, and Skyla for three. Kyleena and Skyla are smallest and therefore easiest to insert.

I have more info in my tags about IUDs.

Copper IUDs: 12 years of protection

The other type of IUD is a copper IUD. Instead of changing your hormones, it works because copper makes the place unfriendly to sperm. Another difference is that this kind can make your periods heavier. Its brand name is Paragard. The FDA approves of using it for ten years, but studies show it's still good at twelve or longer. More info in my tags.

The birth control implant: 5 years of protection

It's a rod the size of a matchstick. A nurse or doctor uses an applicator to put it under your skin in your arm. There, it will slowly release progestin to protect you from getting pregnant. It can make your periods get lighter or stop. The FDA approves of using it for three years, but a study shows it's still 100% effective five years later, and so does another study. Its brand name is Nexplanon, which has improvements over the older Implanon, such as being visible on X-ray. More info in my tags.

Some honorable mentions

There are some other contraceptives that last a long time but aren't considered LARCs. The diaphragm and the cervical cap are two kinds of plastic cap that you put on your cervix each time before sex, and you can keep using the same one for two years. The birth control ring, Annovera, lasts one year. Each injection of the birth control shot, Depo-Provera, lasts three months.

Only barrier methods such as condoms, internal condoms, and dental dams can protect against sexually transmitted infections. The right wing wants to stop people from getting condoms, too. That's another problem, but LARCs can help us get through the next four years without unplanned pregnancies.

[tacosaysroar]

Strongly considering giving money to Harvard this year