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I will continue posting in favour of there being fewer people like that

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it is kinda crazy that we're just like oh huh the Ukranians want their indepence oh ha ha the Irish sure have a grudge against the British and its like uh guys yea THEY STARVED US TO DEATH yea we uh dont wanna ever be under their control again...

(and yall still say two state solution too).

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my conversation with my driver on the way home today was mostly about how the Holocaust compares to today. Its real. Time to smarten up and act up.

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thank you exactly!

lt can be maddening to be a "fallen Catholic" queer because every tradition you turn down like not going to the church weddings is such a fight, but every little concession you might give your family, certain queer friends judge you and like, just trust me, I gotta go to this funeral ok and no Im not gonna give them a deconversion speech and set the church on fire trust me I have my reasons ok

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once I was on a train and I saw this woman crying. I went to talk to her and found out a family member had died. Another woman also consoled and prayed with her, dont recall the exact timeline, but anyway I sat and talked to her and asked if she needed money for the funeral. She thanked me and gave me her daughter's info to pick up some food from me (I worked at a restaurant). She wrote it down in a little notebook, she was elderly and I dont think had a smart phone. I was homeless at the time and it made me very happy to help her. (I ended up being friends with her daughter for a while but we lost touch).

When she got off the train that religious woman, a white woman, started talking shit within earshot of how it was weird to give someone money when they had a loss.

I just ignored her.

Poor people know. That's one of the hardest things when someone dies. Even if you dont have to pay for the funeral, just the travel. My own Dad isnt even poor and he flat out said he wouldnt pay my ticket to his sister's funeral (I hadnt asked, I just asked if he wanted the support).

Death is so, so expensive. We see over and over families of the deceased when they are in the news, like murder victims, having to beg for funeral money. Its very very common in the community. Of all the things people grieving should have to worry about, coming up with thousands out of nothing should not be one.

truly just as we have universal health care we need to have universal death care. dying is not optional and funerals should not be a financial burden for families.

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lt can be maddening to be a "fallen Catholic" queer because every tradition you turn down like not going to the church weddings is such a fight, but every little concession you might give your family, certain queer friends judge you and like, just trust me, I gotta go to this funeral ok and no Im not gonna give them a deconversion speech and set the church on fire trust me I have my reasons ok

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Scorch, my beautiful boy. He is a masculine cis man who loves a nice dress.

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when the AIDS epidemic was at its worst in the US, people tried to ban sex ed preventative measures - teaching youth to use condoms - calling it "teaching sodomy to children" so just remember this when current day republicans say similar things about sex ed today.

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Its ok to turn down a hug from a kid. In fact, Its a REALLY GOOD way to model consent! You are teaching, and can in various ways even say out loud, "its always ok to say no, because its my body and I decide." You can affirm their request for comfort and affection with an alternative expression, like a high five, wave, and/or words.

Kids do need lots of hugs, so it wouldnt be realistic to have two parents who dont hug their kids, not saying all that, but saying "I dont feel like it right now, but I will another time and I love you very much" is a healthy way to model consent & boundaries.

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little babies need to eat like ever 3 hours.

Because their tiny bodies use up a lot of energy.

This is basic common knowledge.

So... The denial of famine in Gaza is driving me fucking insane like I feel goddamn gaslit, are these people for real?!

yes obviously little children are starving faster you stupid fuckin ghouls. That's not a goddamn gotcha. Feed Gaza. Its not too much to ask to just not starve people to death.

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being pro-choice includes not coercing people into abortions.

Its not impossible for a person with a penis to be assaulted and get someone pregnant through that act of assault. So I dont like the argument that every "man" that "got a woman pregnant" had a choice, so I dont count that argument.

but even in circumstances like that, which are necessarily rare, its still the pregnant person's body.

More commonly, the pregnant person themselves may have been the one who didnt consent.

Again, regardless - the pregnant person should really be unpressured in their choice.

I personally am uncomfortable with the pressure of telling a pregnant person it would be "extremely unethical" to not abort.

Kids are brought into this world in extreme poverty, in fascism, in war zones, with disabilities, and all of em are facing climate change. Ive heard that its wrong for poor and disabled people to have kids and I think thats messed up. I think we should just support all those families.

Lots of kids have single moms and/or are adopted and that will always be the case. The solution is to normalize and support those families.

This take has a lot of nuance but I don’t think you should have a baby with someone who doesn’t want to have a baby. I think that is extremely unethical. Not just for the baby’s other parent but for the child themself. And this happens so fucking often like every other week I see a post that’s like “I told my hookup of 2 months that I’m pregnant and he’s not happy but I want this baby! What do I do?” I would say cop the ‘borsh. It is not about you. Genuinely, it is not. Hopefully you are financially and emotionally prepared to be a single parent and even if you are you’re going to have to look your child in the eyes and say “Your father didn’t want you.” which is fucking awful.

And of course there are additional factors that can come into play in this situation like abortion availability and reproductive assault/coercion. But like. Generally speaking it is a terrible fucking idea to have a child with someone who doesn’t want it.

Also if you broke up with a guy because he is straight up evil or his family is unhinged, SPEED TO THAT ABORTION CLINIC. That is NOT a good situation to bring a child into.