#aspec couple

[confusedgoldenflower]

[Text] Ace Visibility Week 2024 event, coming October 20-26!

[Text] Ace Visibility Week 2024 AO3 collection.

Prompts:

Tattoos

Picnic

Night out

A break

It seems so long ago...

What have we done?

On that day-

Feels so good when you hold me

Buggaboo

A favor

Secret

Gardens

Sickness

Monsters in the dark

Gift of heart

Clash

Ears

Unnatural limbs

Link to the collection (with a FAQ): https://archiveofourown.org/collections/AceVisibilityWeek2024. Crashcourse FAQ: indeed includes aro stuff; can include sex as long as a-spec is respected; NO pwp/smut for the sake of it; and consent is a MUST.

My first event, I hope y’all will join in the a-spec loving! 🖤🤍💜 🖤🤍💚

Please use tags #acevisibilityweek2024, #aceweek2024 and #aceweekao3. Feeling a bit spicy, use #teachthealloshowtoact.

It’ll be easiest—I think—to keep track on AO3 because of the way it’s set-up, but I will definitely be trolling Tumblr as well (I don’t have Twitter, it scares me). Of course, art and pod fics, etc are welcome.

I know I don’t have a following or a Twitter, but regardless, I hope other aces and allies will join me in this, and we can have it as an annual event sorta like MerMay and AUgust!

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[curiositysavesthecat]

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[lgbtqtext]

[aroaessidhe]

asexual books: m/m YA

Don’t Let The Forest In - ace mlm MC

Wren Martin Ruins It All - ace mlm MC

A Song of Salvation - 2/3 MCs are mlm and demi

The Spy With The Red Balloon - 1/2 MC is gay & demi

The Witch King - love interest is demi (ace girl SC too)

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

[theacecouple]

Hey you, yes YOU!

I'm sure you're looking to support Asexual-owned businesses this Ace Week RIGHT??

Well, lucky for you, we have a MarketplACE with 165 of 'em!

Find Pride merch, video games, books, artwork in every medium, & SO much more. Whatever you like, there's a shop for you!

If you are an Ace or Aro-owned small business and you'd like to be featured on our website alongside all these fabulous shops (plus a chance to get a shout-out on a future episode of our podcast!), simply fill out this shop entry form ---> https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScPzGW7JbvMpyXoXtOAOfjZYPqj4LyBntuuNhI91wnLmX0zOA/viewform

[anewgayeveryday]

Today's LGBT+ Character is;

Caleb Widogast and Essek Thelyss from Critical Role-Bisexual and Demisexual MLM Respectively

Art by @kayfullcolor

Requested by @cinnamonzor

Status: Alive and Dating

[quitefair]

Anyway. Aro and Ace Resources upon ye.

Since we're almost at 2024, and coming out of all this horrendous aphobic discourse, I thought I'd put together a bunch of aromantic + asexual resources for people who are maybe questioning themselves, or want to know more (heck yes for learning!) Most of these are long form (Youtube videos/articles) because that's how I feel is best for learning, compared to shorter form content like TikTok.

Long post, resources under the cut!

Yasmin Benoit (she/her, aromantic asexual)

The first asexual activist I stumbled across all those years ago. She was infamously the reason for a lot of aphobic comments on twitter, because hey, she's also a lingerie model, and lord forbid somebody who identifies as asexual present... yknow. Sexy.

She's also a researcher, who's putting in the effort to depathologise asexuality and aromanticism, especially within psychiatry and mental health.

Youtube

Instagram

Website

Ace Dad Advice (they/them, asexual/agender/queer)

AceDad is one of my favourite a-spec activists. Their simple, easily digestible posts on Instagram outlining the various aspects of asexuality, aromanticism and agender (the triple As lmao) are a comfort to read. There's also lots of affirming stuff on there that's helped me with my own spiraling thoughts.

They've also written a book about asexuality! Which is one that I've yet to read, but am looking forward to.

Youtube

Instagram

Website

Spacey Aces

A collective of neurodivergent a-spec humans making videos on asexuality, aromanticism, queer platonic relationships, neurodivergence... a whole lotta fun stuff! Their videos are soft and comforting and very affirming.

Youtube

Instagram

Nik Hampshire (he/him, aromantic)

So Nik doesn't make Youtube videos anymore, but he's done a series on what it means to be aromantic but not asexual, which I feel is super important to add to the online conversation! This one's for all the allo/aros out there, he's chill and confident and talks about things in a very enthusiastic way. Love him!

Youtube

Instagram

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Misc videos (I'm sure you've seen these around before)

Jayden Animation's coming out video

Being AroAce Doesn't Ruin Your Life | Alice Oseman's Loveless by shaggyjebus

Rowan Ellis' interview with Alice Oseman (author of Heartstopper, who is herself aroace)

Anthony Padilla

I spent a day with asexual people

I spent a day with aromantic people

(the titles are a little clickbaity, but trust me the conversation is honest and respectful. anthony is honestly such a good interviewer.)

The Sci Guys

Science of Asexuality

Science of Aromantics

bmudangel

My experience being Aromantic Asexual (AROACE)

I’m Happy To Be Aromantic Asexual

How being aromantic asexual affects my daily life

Questions Aromantic Asexuals Get Asked (Part 1)

[drew-the-pic]

‘Right, so my best friend is aro-ace.

I am not asexual or aromantic, but we still get along well and relate to each other about stuff.

I was hanging out with them today and they asked me what kissing is like, and why people would like it “because it’s basically smashing your faces together.”

And after a while of trying to explain I stumbled upon a metaphor that they said made much more sense than other explanations.

So I thought if there’s any other ace people that have the same question, that this might help.

The metaphor is basically comparing it to holding hands.

So kissing isn’t really smashing your faces together, cuz holding hands is different than doing a high five, yea?

Closed-mouth kissing (just the lips) is like if your hand is resting somewhere and someone puts their hand on top of yours, just kindof softly pressing together, their palm to the back of your hand.

Open-mouthed kissing is like when you’re properly holding hands, palm to palm; and with tongue is like when your fingers are intertwined.

And the more passionate the kiss is, it's congruent to like how tight you're squeezing their hand.

Obviously this won’t make sense for everyone, but I hope it does help anyone who is seeking to understand kissing, whatever reason they may have.

Love y’all! You’re all valid and wonderful! <333

[georgiaswarr]

i’m seeing this post going around about how tori saying she and michael aren’t a couple is the ‘loss of their life’ and i’ve never disagreed with anything more.

[mofsblog]

Hey. Because I've seen at last 5 people do this. Here's your friendly reminder that any interpretation of the relationship between Jayce and Viktor is valid because, yes, while there is subtext you can absolutely read into, other people are also allowed to have their own interpretations. It was a very powerful and impactful scene that's going to make people emotional for different reasons and that's okay. Please don't go harassing or "UM! Actually!!"ing anyone. All interpretations are valid whether you interpret them as romantic, sexual, platonic, queer platonic, a mix of things or something else entirely. The one thing that is clear is that they deeply love each other so let's all be respectful and celebrate that. (Also let's not tear down other relationships like Caitlyn and Vi or other women like Mel to do that)

[indigosabyss]

hate when ppl want to ship an explicitly aroace character with someone and decide that it's not REALLY erasure if they make sure to mention that the character is asexual. Like,,, did you forget about the aromantic part???

This really annoys me bc demi-ro, gray-ro, and a lot more arospec identities exist! They are a vital part of our community!! What's the point of having these characters if you won't take them as an opportunity to learn about the way other people view attraction???

[cosmicredcadet]

*bites off the head of everyone who calls aroand ace rep homophobic*

[aroaessidhe]

aro & ace books: autistic aspecs!

The Many Half Lived Lives of Sam Sylvester - YA paranormal, an autistic acespec MC, aroace side character

Compound Fracture - thriller, MC figures out he's autistic & arospec

The Tale That Twines - fantasy, autistic grey-aro love interest (MC is also demi & neurodivergent and says it's been suggested e's also autistic)

Convenience Store Woman - contemporary novella. not explicit, but the MC is pretty clearly aroace and autistic coded, most of the story is about these experiences

Kea's Flight - scifi with a bunch of autistic characters, one major character is an ace lesbian

Poisoned Primrose - cozy mystery, autistic bi-ace MC

Party of Fools - high fantasy, one of the MCs is an autistic ace lesbian (+ other aroace / autistic characters)

Odd Blood - paranormal romcom, autistic demisexual MC

Earthbound Hearts - YA contemporary/fantasy, autistic ace lesbian MC

How To Sell Your Blood and Fall In Love - urban fantasy - 1/2 MCs is demi/greyaro

The Reanimator's Heart - historical paranormal - 1/2 MCs is demi

The Summer Love Strategy - YA contemporary, the love interest is an autistic demi-aroace trans girl

See also: The Mariah Mission - YA contemporary, the love interest is ace, and autistic coded (mentioned in author's note),

#aspec books / aspec database / tumblr masterpost

[theacecouple]

Q&A with award-winning activist

Yasmin Benoit

This week on our podcast, Yasmin Benoit announced the imminent publishing of her latest research project!

To celebrate, we'll be hosing a Q&A with her in a couple of weeks.

If you've ever had any questions about Yasmin or her work, now is the time to ask! Feel free to leave a comment on this post or drop us an ask.

Make sure to be on the lookout for her forthcoming research, and in the meantime, you can read her groundbreaking Ace in the UK Report here -> https://www.stonewall.org.uk/resources/lgbtq-hubs/ace-hub/stonewall-x-yasmin-benoit-ace-project

If you want to get inspiration for great questions, you can listen to this week's interview with her on your favorite podcast platform, Our Website (with full transcript), or YouTube (with CC) where we spill the tea on consulting for Sex Education on Netflix, acephobia from Rolling Stone while our community was mourning the tragic death of one of its members, racism in the Ace community and much more!

[anewgayeveryday]

Today's LGBT+ Character is;

Saturday Tasogare and Allison Allister from Vivid/Stasis-Bisexual Transgender Woman and Asexual Lesbian Respectively

Species; Human

Requested by @azumelia

TW for Unreality, trauma, grief, and poor mental health

Status; Alive (technically), and Dating