#aromantic feelings

[colorsoflaces]

im an aromantic person who has kinda been playing the denial game for a while,

and honestly it’s this one long term queer platonic ‘crush’ i’ve had that really got me to realize and put the pieces together

i’ve had these feelings for this person almost as long as we’ve been friends. and every couple months i play the game of considering telling him i have queer platonic feelings for him.

it’s not like im hiding anything not telling him, but i also want to be open about this

he isn’t on the ace spectrum though, and he’s in a long term romantic relationship. so my biggest concern towards telling him is that even if i explain until the world burns out he won’t understand how queer platonic feelings are different from romantic feelings. or that even though it’s not romantic because he has a romantic relationship telling him this would almost in a way ruin our relationship.

i want to tell him because as someone who has kinda hid from and in many ways rejected my aroromantic identity, i feel like saying this would maybe also help me start moving in a direction where i embrace my identity and feelings.

maybe i selfishly want to be able to put a label on my feelings, on who i am, not have to keep questioning myself.

having people think or question my queer platonic feelings for romantic ones, and not feeling like i can correct them without it getting back to him that i in a way hid this.

but i also want to be able to go to him and be honest, i want him to know how he holds this special place in my heart, i want him to know because he makes me want to be honest with myself

but im just so afraid of the potential consequences. what if me telling him this ruins our relationship, i dont know how i would emotionally handle losing one of my most valued relationships

[robyn-i-guess]

liking someone platonically is so embarrassing like. yeah i admire you. yeah i think about you all the time. yeah i look forward to every time i see you even if it's only for a minute. yeah it's all platonic and yeah i couldn't explain this because it'd sound romantic. fucking hell

[kitsu-katsu]

A group of queers of all types is a pride

A group of aces is a deck

A group of aros is a quiver

A group of trans women is a code-camp

A group of enbies is a byte

A group of bi people is a tandem

A group of pan people is a panic

Thank you for coming to my wilderness documentary

[cosmicredcadet]

Sometimes...characters being in a romantic relationship is worse.

[paperclipdrawer]

if somebody hcs a character as aroace i instantly accept it. no matter what. like yeah that character IS aroace, thanks for pointing that out.

[flora-tea]

Actually, no.

You don't owe your parents/guardians anything for raising you.

You don't owe them in-laws.

You don't owe them grandkids.

You don't owe them favors.

It's your life!

You decide how you want to live it.

You decide what you want or don't want in your life.

[atlitudes]

ooooOooOoOoooooOOOOOoooo…. actually….. that character….. doesn’t need to be in a romantic relationship…. to be fulfilled or happy or “well rounded”……. ooooooOoOoOo…. and neither do PEOPLE……

[nyenyel]

[Image description: A drawing of myself. I have brown skin and straight black hair. I'm wearing a yellow headband and a yellow plaid dress. My hands are clasped together and I'm cheerfully saying: "I HATE love. Romance should be ILLEGAL. I hope all couples BREAK UP AND I'M GOING TO BLOW UP THIS BUILDING." The speech bubble is colored with the aromantic flag. End ID.]

I think romance sucks and we should all eat sand and cry 💚 /lh

[zephyr-heart]

[pinkxcloudz]

isn't it fucked up that people describing their relationships get their language policed; even though it's their relationship? isn't it fucked up that most of those terms are coined by aspecs? i.e.

"my platonic polycule"

"you mean friendgroup?"

"my queerplatonic partner"

"you mean friend?"

"my sexual partner"

"you mean fuck buddy?"

"my squish-"

"your WHAT?"

it's tiring. trying to live in a world as an aspec person and seeing casual aphobia everywhere. you can't get a break. maybe ask if it affects you. are these terms offensive? are you in that relationship? is it your business? if no, shut your mouth

[sillylilneurodivergent]

Guys, it happened. I’m an

AAAAAA (aromantic, asexual, agender, with autism, adhd, & anxiety)

[dead-inside-demiboy]

Im sorry but being aromantic and/or asexual is such a beautiful, complex identity that opens up almost endless possibilities and interpretations about sex and romance and relationships and struggles within those,

and i will always absolutely LOATHE how both the outside and the aro/ace community itself have boiled these identities down to just "doesnt have sex" and "doesnt date"

[weepingfireflies]

I'm actually not particularly fond of the romance/sex-favorable/neutral/repulsed division as, like, a permanent identity for me because somedays I'm frolicking in romance and smut & other days I want to explode the world if I see ppl even mention a ship at all. I think it's good for a lot of people, but it doesn't really work for me unless I'm feeling repulsed or neutral or favorable

Edit: Everyone who saw this that was wondering if there was a word for this: I've been informed about the term sex/romance-ambivalent. I suggest searching it up. Thank you to the people who mentioned it, but please stop trying to label me. Whether I decide to personally use it as a label is up to me.

[fr3sh-c0rn]

bitches will be like "oh yeah your heart beats really hard and you breathe faster, and you get, like, butterflies in your stomach" when you ask them what a crush is like no fam that is a panic attack

[cosmicredcadet]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

[haxxydraws]

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