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Hi everyone. I am so happy I made it to Christmas and didn’t succumb to my cancer. I just wanted to give an update on my cancer. My cousin and I are currently looking into getting a second opinion regarding my prognosis and the pros and cons of starting back up treatment and/or if they think it would work. The only thing would be the cost of traveling, accommodation and paying the doctor during this treatment as they are in the US.

I was going to start up a YouTube channel and try and get it quickly monetized to cover costs. Would everyone help and share if I did that? ❤️

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Some holiday reminders! ❤️✨

* It's okay to say "no" <3 Set those boundaries! 💪 * Don't let anyone pressure you into things you aren't sure of or don't want * Find time/space to be by yourself if you're overwhelmed or uncomfortable * It's okay if you're not okay; feel your feelings and take care of yourself <3 * Only you get to decide how you live your life * Remember that you are awesome and valid as you are!

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#Merry crisis

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Actually, no.

You don't owe your parents/guardians anything for raising you.

You don't owe them in-laws.

You don't owe them grandkids.

You don't owe them favors.

It's your life!

You decide how you want to live it.

You decide what you want or don't want in your life.

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Words to describe qpps

As promised, I have compiled a list of terms we use/would use to describe our qpps from the responses on my survey. These are all amazing!

Most popular:

Partner

Queerplatonic Partner

Qpp

Zucchini

Marshmallow

Mallowfriend

Other respsonses:

Boyfriend/girlfriend/joyfriend/enbyfriend

Friend

Best friend

Datemate

(My) person

Partner in crime

Companion

Significant Other

Wife/husband/spouse

Ghostfriend

Bumblebee

(My) squish

Bestie

Diamour

Shadow, kindred spirit, philtatos

Bow

Quip

Close/inimate friend

Sig fig

(Platonic) life partner

Lover/loved one

BFF

Sibling

Homie/bro/dude

Beloved

Quipper/keeper

Moirail

Buddy

Querido(a)

Pal

Fellow Creature

Life Comrade

Favourite Person

Sweetheart

Housemate

Special Friend

Squishy (from Finding Nemo)

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Polyaffectionate Flag (alt design)

1: Flag w no design || 2: Flag w infinity heart

3: Flag w pi symbol || 4: Flag meanings

Polyaffectionate is an alternative to polyamory that is made with arospecs in mind but can be used by anyone to describe wanting or having a non-romantic intimate relationship with more than one person. You can find more info here.

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This is a very old flag redesign I made, I wanna say back in 2019? It was the first flag I ever made and I eventually posted it on public platforms (which you can find on Reddit and Instagram)

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aro culture is aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaAAAaaaAaaaAaaaaAAaaAaaaaaAAAAaaAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

us 24/7

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happy Life Day to the mutuals and followers. :)

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What is relationship anarchy?

I occasionally see people on here talking about relationship anarchy, but I don’t often see people talk about what that means, so I wanted to explain it for anyone who might not know.

Although relationship anarchy isn’t specifically an “aromantic thing,” the aromantic organization AUREA gives a pretty good definition of what it is. AUREA defines relationship anarchy as “The belief that no kinds of intimate relationships are superior to others, despite some being more highly valued in society. It is usually non-monogamous and is based on the premise that a relationship doesn’t have to conform to socially-prescribed norms. Community interdependence is another important facet of RA (“community not couples”). Opposed to amatonormativity and not specific to aromantics.”

In relationship anarchy, you essentially do away with society’s rules about what your relationships should look like and make your own rules. This means that you don’t compare or rank people/relationships in your life against one another and that you decide how many partners/relationships you want (with the knowledge and consent of all individuals involved), whether that means having no partner, having one partner, or having many partners. It also means that instead of trying to force your relationship to fit neatly into categories of platonic, romantic, sexual, etc., you let your relationship exist as it is, and from there, explicitly communicate with your partner (or each individual partner, if you have more than one) about what you want from your relationship with that person, how you would like to express/explore intimacy with them, etc.

Relationships are often split into categories like platonic, romantic, etc., and from there, societal norms dictate what you can and cannot do in each type of relationship (for example “romantic relationships must involve sex, kissing, cohabitation, and exclusivity/monogamy,” or “in a friendship, you cannot have sex, kiss, live together, raise children, or get married”). Relationship anarchy involves freeing yourself from that and deciding for yourself what will and will not be included in your relationship.

If you have a relationship built off romantic feelings, but you don’t want to kiss your partner, you should ignore the expectation that romantic relationships are “supposed to” involve kissing, and instead clearly communicate with your partner that you don’t want to kiss, and allow yourself to have a romantic relationship without kissing.

Likewise, if you have a relationship based on platonic feelings (e.g., a friendship), and you want to have sex with your partner in that relationship or you want to raise children with them, tell them so and, instead of worrying about whether or not platonic relationships are “supposed to” include these things, allow yourself to have a platonic relationship that involves having sex, or that involves raising children together (so long as your partner consents to this, of course). If you so choose, you can even do away with labels like platonic, romantic, queerplatonic, etc. altogether, rather than try to categorize your feelings or your relationship(s).

Core Beliefs Defining Relationship Anarchy:

So to break down what this really means, I’m going to talk a bit about some of the core tenants that Andie Nordgren, the coiner of the term “relationship anarchy” used to define it. Any direct quotes from this point on will be from an English translation/adaptation of Nordgren’s Swedish language relationship anarchy pamplet “Relationsanarki i 8 punkter,” which was published by Interacting Arts in 2006.

Some core tenants of relationship anarchy are listed and elaborated on below. (Note: There are more than those listed here, since for the purpose of this post I wanted to limit the list to core defining concepts. At the end of the post, I have provided a link to the Andie Nordgren’s full list and explanations, which you can read for more information. )

“Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique” - Love does not have to be limited to one couple. It is possible to love multiple people, and your love for one person does not diminish your love for another. People and relationships in your life should not be ranked or compared with one another; instead, each relationship and person should be cherished individually.

“Love and respect instead of entitlement” - Each relationship in your life should be based off a respect for your partner’s independence and autonomy. Rather than expecting your partner to conform to what you want or what is socially expected of them, you should respect their boundaries/personal beliefs and “let loved ones choose paths that keep their integrity intact, without letting this mean a crisis for the relationship.”

“Find your core set of relationship values” - Figure out how you want to be treated, what your boundaries are, how you want your relationships to work, what your expectations are in a relationship, and what sort of people you want in your life. “Find your core set of values and use it for all relationships. Don’t make special rules and exceptions as a way to show people you love them ‘for real.’” Although all relationships will look a bit different, you should have certain basic boundaries, expectations, etc. that you apply to all relationships (For example, if you have certain boundaries that you would not allow a close friend to cross, you should expect a romantic partner to respect those same boundaries).

“Build for the lovely unexpected” - Let yourself and your relationships be spontaneous. Rather than worrying about what you “should” do, focus on what you actually want to do. “Organize based on a wish to meet and explore each other - not on duties and demands and disappointment when they are not met.”

“Change through communication” - If you want to do something in your relationship that deviates from social norms, you should communicate about this explicitly and outright. Say what you think and feel and ask your partner(s) about stuff.

“Customize your commitments” - “Relationship anarchy is not about never committing to anything - it’s about designing your own commitments with the people around you, and freeing them from norms dictating that certain types of commitments are a requirement for love to be real, or that some commitments like raising children or moving in together have to be driven by certain kinds of feelings. Start from scratch and be explicit about what kind of commitments you want to make with other people!”

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I am once again messing with Fleetah's design x'D This time pushing the influence of his Stenax DNA by including scales and spines and playing with the idea of the lighter brown parts being exposed skin.🤔 *Fleetah is a bioengineered hybrid combo of Cathar and Stenax with a dash of Rishii (hence the feathers x3) ✧ Commission info 🎨 ✧ I'm also on Bluesky! 💙

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This is SO relatable and similar to how I ended up finding clarity in learning about tertiary attraction and relationship anarchy!

All the things typically deemed "romantic" by society actually don't have to be so, and can instead mean whatever the folks involved want them to mean! 💚

Aro culture is, okay fine i did enter a romantic relationship for research purposes and damn I aint doing that again. I don't know how to explain it, but it (a romantic relationship) somehow is very strange to me and i dont know where my repulsion is coming from. I could do exactly the same things without getting repulsed as long as it isn't explicitly labeled as ronantic. Mission failed i guess because getting into a relationship just gave me more questions.

So uhm yeah i still don't know why I'm so damn repulsed BUT i am not repulsed somehow if it isn't labeled as romance. Lmao wth is up with me🥲

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5 simple exercises to awaken dormant muscles

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Brother with Cerebral Palsy and Mental Health Challenges Living In A Shelter After Being Illegally Evicted and Assaulted By His Landlord

Hi everyone. I am making this post again in a last ditch effort to get the support my brother so desperately needs. On approximately Nov. 27th, 2024, my brother was illegally evicted (without proper notices) for the landlord to move in a family member. When my brother started asking questions, the landlord forcibly removed him from the premises.

As it stands right now, disability is refusing to pay first and lasts on a new apartment because it hasnt been a year since he received it to move into the residence in question. This eviction has taken a toll on my brothers mental health. He has schizophrenia and severe anxiety and functions at a 10th grade level. My mom nor I can take him in because we live in rent geared to income housing and theyre extremely strict about having no more tenants than those stipulated on the lease.'

He's living in a shelter and desperately needs support to get out of there. we need first and lasts on a new place and money to get him started. Heres moms PayPal, click here to donate. Shares are so appreciated, thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

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Kras, Nian, & Koh Tah are now on SWTOR!

If you are playing on Satele Shan, you'll likely see me running around as one of my three cathar ocs on there!

Koh Tah is currently level 50 while Nian and Kras are level 9 atm <3

Some facts about them:

Koh Tah in-game is an Imperial Agent - Scoundrel

Kras in-game is a Sith Warrior - Juggernaut

Nian in-game is a Jedi Knight - Guardian